She Is Sending Her Ex Bikini Pictures (Is That Cheating?)

She Is Sending Her Ex Bikini Pictures (Is That Cheating?)
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[@FrankS111]

Caller: “my wife won’t go to counseling because she’s a “private” person” Also callers wife: *sends bikini pictures to exes* 🙄🤪

[@Youdontneedtoknowmyname3-iu1vk]

She's private alright sending privates that is

[@Hiker2110]

I literally LOL'd at this comment 😂😂😂

[@fdllicks]

Good one!

[@donnasalerno9870]

My exact thought process. This guy needs to leave her. He is trying to save something and hold on. Sad situation.

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

RIGHT. Unbelievable

[@BitterComments]

Run like Satan is chasing you.

[@aqua6613]

I can't run...I'm too fat. Satan and me will just have to have a tea party or something.

[@swim610]

😂

[@dovelove1920]

​@@aqua6613😂😂

[@JP-ll8iy]

😂

[@jeanlenor1858]

Because he is.

[@melaniea4901]

She’s not a “private” person! She’s a secretive person! Run!!!

[@megandunning1558]

Well said

[@Julybaby12619]

"Run Forrest Run!"

[@dreamstories3524]

That’s actually a very smart distinction.

[@RachelSings21]

Oh yes, THIS! Hope the caller reads the comments and sees this.

[@ChrisAndCats]

Selective privacy.

[@Banana42699]

As a woman yes that’s cheating

[@blahblahblah4544]

Yep, doesn't matter what she calls it. Hasn't the dude ever heard that song "Just a friend."

[@Banana42699]

@@blahblahblah4544 agreed. a ex can’t just be just a friend.

[@inthebooks3947]

Too bad if he divorces he gonna lose half his money

[@blahblahblah4544]

@@Banana42699 I think they can in rare circumstances but not this one. ( Ex. My ex and I should've stayed friends and it was a mistake to date. We weren't for each other. I was too stubborn and he was to pliable lol Then he found someone hot and so did I. So we could've been friends easily since we were so over each other lol) But those are exceptions to the rules.

[@Banana42699]

@@blahblahblah4544 okay yeah still disrespecting your current partner by being friends with your ex. Especially if you had any type of sexual relationship with him or her.

[@pirate254]

A very wise man once said, "she's for the streets"

[@jongarica2475]

Damn almost crashed my car reading this lol

[@mariahconklin4150]

She is and once she gets treated badly and rap** she will miss him. Have fun on the streets lady you're gonna regret this you seem like you have a great man. He's even willing to work it out. So sad.

[@cabalogia]

From the streets did she emerge and to the streets she shall return

[@berlizgonzalez6736]

🤣🤣🤣

[@albertrivera5443]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 wise words

[@24wallachian]

She won't sleep with her husband because she's allegedly insecure about her body but she has no qualms sending bikini pictures to her ex?

[@Matt-cr4vv]

There is no logic to it because she’s nonstop gaslighting him to get him to divorce her so she can spin it on the back end. Her husband just isn’t intelligent as it appears to not call it out.

[@franziskani]

I woman can dress "sexy" w/o feeling sexy. She may have not libido but still enjoy the attention when she shows off her body.

[@kennedynguyen2036]

​@@Matt-cr4vv it's not necessarily about intelligence. Being gaslit by someone who supposedly loves you makes you feel like the crazy one for even having suspicions. We can see it because we're on the outside. He's way deep in it.

[@marcrose3403]

@@kennedynguyen2036 people do what you allowed them to do

[@chanell5457]

​@@marcrose3403 it's true. But also some people are never satisfied and crave attention

[@TisHotMessHistory]

She's already gone. Counseling can't save that. She wants a divorce, but she wants it to be his fault. She wants to be able to tell their friends that he was too controlling or trying to smother her. RUN!

[@jongarica2475]

Facts!!!!!!!!

[@Erica-wz8yv]

Yep. She wants him to file for divorce so she can play victim. My soon to be ex husband did this. Cowards.

[@mariahconklin4150]

I knew a pastor who said he had an addiction to s*x and still looks at woman. What a weirdo lol! Sorry but that's not changing you still have a problem.

[@blahblahblah4544]

I hate it when they do that. They act awful until the other person leaves so they can play victim.

[@bethford6884]

Exactly!

[@JustinCase780]

The gaslighting is endless. She's a pro!

[@healthydatingmastery]

😂

[@BaconMountainMan]

Wife: We can't be intimate because my body doesn't look great. Also Wife: *sends bikini photos to an ex

[@mlokole254]

Makes perfect sense! 🙄

[@amydaniels6442]

💯💯

[@Veracityseeker7]

Sigh🤦🏽‍♀️

[@crystalmasters8582]

Sounds like she is getting positive reinforcement from it.

[@jkneeland89]

Couple things: 1. Paternity test on that 2 year old. 2. If she isn’t physically cheating yet, she will be soon.

[@only1r.g.b]

fr a paternity test is def needed.

[@RafaelTorrez-zc3wl]

I’m betting it’s not his

[@Gardenpath11]

Wow I never thought of that! I hope he’s reading comments

[@KA-bm1gu]

Yep, or have regrets when those kids start doing those 23 and Me tests and find out that way. This is how a friend of mine found out her dad wasn’t her biological father.

[@monicamiller9345]

My husband had 2 affairs. When he was caught, apparently it was all my fault. RUN dude, run. I didn’t leave, and I so wish I had earlier.

[@ultrahighgain412]

This poor guy is going to come home to a completely empty house and wonder why he didn't see it coming.

[@braveheartmoe001]

He’s blinded so much by his insecurity with being alone that he stopped caring about his standards and values and is willing to allow this poor excuse of a woman dictate terms now.

[@shb8212]

My wife is a very private person... except when it comes to sending bikini shots to exes 😂 I'm sorry, that excuse does not fly.

[@mlokole254]

Of the same body she's embarrassed of!!!

[@scottym.9077]

He needs an attorney, not a counselor.

[@parkerskeeper9621]

She is a real piece of work. The audacity to be caught in a betrayal and to try and gaslight him into thinking it was nothing and then refusing to work on your marriage and give an ultimatum. She does not care about you or your marriage. Run!!! And start planning your exit plan strategically so she doesn't wipe you out. Go talk to a divorce attorney before she does.

[@thermalreboot]

She's planning her escape. It's called monkey branching.

[@dbtech4562]

Yes, she is in the exit phase. Plus she gets money from the marriage when it ends.

[@christophercarrigg3775]

I think she was alpha widowed by the guy

[@geometerfpv2804]

This red pill terminology is so cringy guys...just stop...

[@Ka_Gg]

@@geometerfpv2804 But it's true. Sadly, the red pill community had to smack guys in the face because the conservatives weren't willing to be honest about how things are. I'm not saying the red pill community is perfect, but they came about, along with their terminology, because nobody was doing a good job with keeping it real.

[@TylerHolmes148]

@@geometerfpv2804the terminology may be cringey, but is it incorrect?

[@lzal9204]

As a woman, there is no way in hell that I would send bikini pics to an ex! And I guarantee there were more risqué pics sent and she is definitely not on the up and up. She’s enjoying the attention from the ex and getting a rise out of you. There are some women that thrive on this craziness and manipulating. She’s gaslighting you to make it your fault so that she isn’t seen like the bad guy. I’m sorry you have to go through this.

[@schustererik83]

i don't know about you, but im more surprised he got married again, it never fails to amazing me to see divorced people get married AGAIN thinking "yea sure, this time it will work, it was totally not me last time". . . . . if my current ever ended for ANY REASON AT ALL, i would NEVERE get married again. . . .

[@orneryoverwatch7031]

@@schustererik83right? It's like how, if you've never been married, people seem to be *on your ass* like "hey why you wasting time, hurry up and tie the knot!" But if they know you're divorced, they never bother you with that sh!t... almost as if they know what it truly entails, and would never wish that on anyone... 🤔

[@nbkbot7836]

Buddy sounds exhausted.

[@ethxo6734]

Can’t believe this guy called in to ask this question. Leave. She doesn’t respect you.

[@instahamx684]

She’s a very private person who is sending bikini photos to her ex. Poor Brian, he is refusing to accept that she is not interested in her marriage to him at all.

[@Jane5720]

It’s a process to accept

[@mariahconklin4150]

Or she could be a web cam model who knows.

[@user-if4ke6en9r]

@@mariahconklin4150okay, still a whore.

[@BestShootermanUbz]

Dude has no backbone. This is the problem with dating/marriage today. They walk all over him and get away with whatever they want because he’s too nice.

[@KittyCurioso]

Yes, men do this too. They wrote the play book on it. He should run. She’s a crappy person

[@ZappFranka]

@@KittyCuriosoHas nothing to do with gender. It’s a learned behavior

[@viviennedunbar3374]

My husband is always kind and sweet to me but he would shut down this nonsense ASAP, but I love him too much and respect him I would never treat him this way. I am going to guess that he really liked her physically and overlooked some red flags and is too scared to enforce boundaries. How can a marriage have such serious problems (no sex & emotional affair) within 4 years? You need to be masculine so your wife isn’t looking for that validation elsewhere. I am not blaming him, but why has she lost her libido for her husband while enjoying the attention of other men? This is seriously messed up.

[@franziskani]

@@viviennedunbar3374 Loss of libido after giving birth is not unusual (yes even 2 years after). Of course it is possible that she does have desire - just not for him (anymore). Sending the pics could be a vanity move or a kind of revenge (to her ex - see what you are missing out) - but her reaction to counseling and the threat she will be out if he does not let it go says otherwise. And that she has been secretly talking to her ex for 8 months and that he observed a change in her. She has an affair or hopes to have one. At best she entertains herself with having an emotional affair. While not being intimate with her husband. (that in itself is not a betrayal, many otherwise good marriages with faithful spouses suffer from that. That she is stuck in that might be a weakness but is it is not something she actively does to her husband).

[@vaska1999]

Same with women. It's sad.

[@MichaelDelvalle-nt4gp]

its sad that he's been gaslit so much that he has to ask if its cheating or not

[@dlwilliamson5644]

More than a year ago, I found out that my now ex was sending shirtless beach pictures to his ex. His response was, "she is my friend and I can nurture my relationships in any way that I want." In that moment, the relationshiT was over and even though it has been more than a year I still found myself watching this. I want to send it to him and will not. It is not my job to educate him.

[@annaelisavettavonnedozza9607]

@@dlwilliamson5644You don’t need to educate him. He knows that it was wrong & totally in appropriate, that was just the excuse he used

[@jh26pt2]

This saying is spot on: when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. The sooner the caller splits from this woman, the sooner his life can start back up.

[@mariahconklin4150]

Yeah find someone that's actually trying to get help. It's sad that she won't get help she doesn't want to change. I hope he stays single he clearly deserves so much more my ex gas lights me I want it to end but I rely on him too much but no one cares so idk and no one wants to be transparent and honest. It sounds like she is into prawn. Gah I feel bad for this guy though he sounds like my ex.

[@kaitlinobrien243]

Bikini photos and she is a PRIVATE person 😂😂😂

[@drewbaker5364]

Talking for 8 months, I guarantee she has sent nudes not just bikini pictures. Not hard to cross that line once you start Run. You deserve better. If you get a divorce, grieve it and take some time to enjoy being single. Don't jump back into another relationship. Good luck!

[@FrankS111]

Marriage is over bro. She has checked out and doesn’t respect you. Get your financials in order and talk to a divorce attorney immediately.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Absolutely.

[@pmeehan_3]

Cell phones and social media have ruined relationships. I miss time before all this nonsense.

[@yoelsyhutchinson4377]

Cell phone didn't send pictures to her ex,she did,its not technology at fault here

[@user-rr4or1xh2g]

Agree 💯

[@user-kl2jg9ve3v]

@yoelsyhutchinson4377 Your comment shows how low your IQ is.

[@Girlgonewise]

He’s married to the type of woman that wil light you on fire and blame you for having matches in the house.

[@Rynos30]

The ex is getting more than bikini pics

[@yoelsyhutchinson4377]

You think, 😂😂😂

[@vaska1999]

Probably not. She's just enjoying these games.

[@michaelmoran2125]

​@@vaska1999ohhh miss the game has changed behind your comprehension. She's cheating, the kids not his, and she will not file for divorce as she gets more assests. Not one thing I said there seems unrealistic.

[@seadragon1456]

I wouldn’t even send my best girlfriend a photo of me in swimwear because that’s weird. And I’d FLIP if my husband ever sent another woman a beachy photo of himself. Run dude RUUUUUN

[@aqua6613]

What if it'd a beached whale pic?

[@edithandlez]

If you can’t show your friend that’s a girl a pic of you in a swimsuit but they can see u in real life, you’re pretty insecure for that. It’s not weird you’re just insecure

[@blahblahblah4544]

​@@aqua6613Haha yeah the point is sex appeal. Beached whale isn't where it's at unless the lady has a preference for beached whales haha

[@scroogemcduckismyspiritanimal]

​@@edithandlez or some people just aren't conceited and don't need to send bikini pictures to their friends for validation. I think it's super weird to send pictures of yourself unless you're on a trip and at a destination that's fun to share

[@kristaw2686]

If she's not already cheating, she's shopping.

[@Astro95Media]

It's over. When a woman behaves that way, she's cheating. Her gaslighting proves she doesn't want to fix it. I know all this because it's exactly what my ex did to me. She'd been whoring herself out to a subordinate in his parents' house for a good nine months and wanted me to think I was crazy for not trusting her. Run, Forrest, run.

[@StrongCore.Productions]

Me too bro, together for 5 years, going on 9 months now and Jesus I dodged a Nuke, best thing that’s ever happened to me. hope things turned out well for you man.

[@noellehunt5901]

My ex husband constantly said "Forgiveness is Forgetting" following with his next statement "Thus this affair (I think the 3rd one) is really like a first time offense". I kid you not he believed that whole heartedly. My ex MIL insisted if I kept my home cleaner he would not stray.....um, 3 kids 8 and under and I worked full time too. House was not clean enough so its ok to cheat.

[@Dontrolling]

I like seeing kids messes, sometimes it’s genuinely impressive how big of a mess they can make. I was scrubbing the floor with a toothbrush trying to get slime off the floor last week😂

[@scottylaub15]

That is pathetic wow I’m sorry

[@2Ryled]

Gaslighting, triangulation you with the other women are prettier,better etc. When they aren't. Mil wants a divorce too. She can have her baby back. 1000% not your fault

[@BlueDauntless]

@@DontrollingSlime is not allowed in my house.

[@finngamesknudson1457]

Glad he’s your ex. Excuse about housekeeping is utter bullocks. Most men are almost oblivious to housekeeping. I know I have not been appreciative enough of such work my wife has done and understand why she gets frustrated that I don’t address issues I don’t see. We both work full time and try to share family chores... I was better at insuring kids played happily and productively than laundry or vacuuming.

[@zeal4god402]

She says she is a private person yet she's sending private pictures to her ex? Utter contradiction...Next she will be sending pics of private parts. Emotional cheating leads to physical cheating

[@kekejefferson9219]

It's over. Shes done. She's just trying to make you break up first.

[@nataliefigures5332]

She has zero respect for you and she is anything but private sending bikini photos to an ex. Run dude!!

[@cess4089]

Cheating is abuse

[@sherriflemming3218]

Bingo!

[@Mral236d]

My wife is sleeping with 10 other men and staying out til 6 am the next morning. Is she cheating on me?

[@seanconroy7222]

Get councilling, it will fix everything.

[@rajsekharrao9594]

Are you Living Under the fucking rock or something?

[@bigdaddy6207]

sounds like they’re just friends to me

[@austinthomas2732]

I’ll answer the question. yes. Dump her

[@menczelk]

I honestly think if it was his first marriage he would walk / he wouldn’t have called otherwise. But it’s not just about her behaviour it’s also about him feeling like failing again - and that is a stronger glue than anything else when your self worth has been taken away by a gaslighter…

[@redwar1772]

I agree 100%!

[@Int868]

💯

[@handsomeawkward1822]

If you have to ask “is this cheating” the answer doesn’t even matter. The fact that you even need to ask the question is a HUGE problem.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Technology and the internet have made it so easy to cheat.

[@andyg806]

The fact that this man has to even ask...

[@l-train7876]

He’s trying to come up with every possible plan besides leaving the marriage.

[@marlynsantos9677]

Poor Brian, the more he said "oh I know", the less it seemed like he did. Poor guy hasn't hit him yet.

[@brianwood1536]

It has, but he's processing it. From experience, it takes a while to wade through and accept. Terrible situation.

[@warrensloan3467]

The best thing he can be doing right now, instead of trying to make this work, is gathering all the information and receipts he can for the inevitable court appearance. I hate to say that, but the way she seems to think of him I don’t doubt for a second she would try to take him for everything he’s worth once she knows he’s out.

[@herfirstmate]

The bigger deal than the photos is how little remorse she's displaying.

[@larissabrewington9065]

"Forgiveness is forgetting!" She's hilarious. Fantastic person... ugh Why do people seem to gravitate toward narcissist??

[@David-wo9un]

Maybe it’s not important for him to know but I wonder if there is any possibility he would want a paternity test?

[@carolallison9685]

I would make the argument, and many people will disagree with me, that because of the way we form bonds with people we sleep with, talking to an ex unless it is for a legitimate reason, is cheating. Staying friends with an ex who you have bonded with in the past while you are also trying to build or maintain a bond with a new person is, in my opinion, infidelity.

[@blahblahblah4544]

I agree in this situation. But it isn't across the board imo. I have an ex I never truly was into. And I always felt it was a mistake to date and we should've stayed friends. However I stopped contact. I could've easily not been attracted and stayed friends. Because my whole heart was not in it at all. I stopped contact for my spouse to give him feelings of security. And also it was good so my ex could establish his relationship. But if we stayed friends, there wouldn't have been this nonsense at all. On my end, it would've been nothing but friends. I currently have a crush on a friend of mine but it might not work. So I hope if I ever have a future spouse he understands my mentality and won't dictate me to go no contact with my friend. Because if my future spouse is that great ( He has to be if I'm getting swooned) then he should have healthy confidence. I want a man with healthy confidence for a change lol I know how to compliment. How to make a man feel secure. How to have only eyes for my spouse. But for once. Just for once. I want to see a man who don't need my help. Who is confident by himself. Man, that would be dreamy lol However I totally agree in cases like this. Emotional cheating is worse imo. My ex was emotionally cheating with a lady at work. Having eyes for his friend's wife. Ugh, I can still hear him say "But Wendy does this..." 🙄 Meanwhile, I never did anything like that. I always complimented. Secured the relationship. I've been on the other end of emotional cheating. It don't feel good at all. It feels like physical cheating to me.

[@standground8284]

I agree, anytime I broke with an ex, I’d be civil if I ever bumped into them but I always went no contact. I’m not the bitter type anything like that, I just thought why keep me around if it could possibly hinder either of us from moving forward.

[@geometerfpv2804]

​@@blahblahblah4544...but could your ex feel this same platonic non-attachment to someone he has had sex with? Nope. Men do not work that way.

[@ashlieelizabeth8170]

I don't know how old you are Brian but you are still young. For Brian and anyone else who may be going through something similar: You can start over again, have a life you deserve, and have it with someone who truly loves you. Just know it can happen for you! Please walk. No matter how much justifying there is, this IS cheating and is such a disrespect to you and your marriage. You deserve better, Brian!

[@citrustaco]

Not easy like that for men. Because to walk away, then you lose 100% custody of your kid. And you have to deal with her cashing out with the divorce when it comes to child support. He'll get the blame in court and win majority custody. This is why most divorces are initiated by women. Not because women do more stuff than men, but rather it's harder for men to have a favorable outcome, hence the phrase cheaper to keep her.

[@michaelh2282]

He can't be that young if he's going on his second divorce and has teenage kids. And boy if things are this bad now, wait till he's strapped with child support payments (and paternal duties) to two different exes. And from listening to him talk to John, he clearly has no self awareness of what went wrong, either in his choice of mate(s) or his behavior. Unless he develops some real introspection, I expect his next relationship to be another disaster.

[@ashlieelizabeth8170]

@Michael T. Well like I mentioned above I don't know how old he is but since he has mentioned teenagers, 40's and 50's to me is still young in my opinion. I've witnessed people in my own family start over at age 65 and 70, whatever that looks like to them, and things got better for them. It's hard for us to decide since we don't know both sides aside from his. I'm going by off of what we heard. Self awareness or no self awareness, no excuse for cheating 🤷‍♀️

[@ashlieelizabeth8170]

@Brian Odom 100% custody isn't always the case today depending. Back in the 90's, yes that 100%, it was like that for dads. It happens yes, but not too much because most family courts try to keep families together (depending on which state you live in). Mom's and dad's who bleed the other for child support always have been money hungry folks. Today when I hear "100%" and "walk away" that just sounds like giving up your parental rights and not taking responsibility. So many fathers abandon their families today without explaination for absolutely no reason. Not saying it's all the fathers who abandon, but more fathers do it than mothers. Today, it depends and it can go either way for mom or dad, whoever is more suitable 🤷‍♀️. Yes, mostly kids go with the mom because women take the motherload on when it comes to having kids, always has been that way for centuries. But that doesn't mean the outcome of dad never having them is infinitely not saying the father doesn't because ones of emotional intelligence and love want to protect and provide for their kids.

[@ashlieelizabeth8170]

As for you two, I respect what you are both saying and where you're both coming from. However, instead of trying to pick apart my comment, I was trying to spread some positivity and words of encouragement. What's hard about these radio calls is it's hard for us as the audience to judge when we don't know the full situation aside from hearing his side and what's really going on. However, I wasn't only just stating this to Brian but to anyone else who may be going through something similar. Stay positive ❤️

[@babyjessejames376]

This is such a sad situation. Brian sounds like a good man and a good dad. She is absolutely cheating, even if it's only emotional right now. If she doesn't want to apologize and invest 100% in repairing their marriage, then they probably should call it quits. That young child deserves to see a strong, healthy marriage.

[@Matt-cr4vv]

I don’t believe it wasn’t physical that’s just what she told him as she gaslit him. She’s clearly manipulating him to push him to divorce her so she can spin it on the backend. The emotional affair BS she can spin. He’s trusting someone who has given every indication that she can’t be trusted.

[@WhyIneedGoogleHandle]

Let her go. She's not worth fighting for.

[@michaelh2282]

He seems like a decent enough guy, on his way to being twice divorced. I honestly don't know how he screwed up this badly, either from choosing his mate(s) poorly, from his behavior, or both.

[@royh2618]

He is weak. He chose someone who would eventually walk all over him.

[@CM-rm3xj]

Don’t be horrible. She’s the problem

[@adnanorochi3761]

​@royh2618 means he should pick an idiot wife and ugly without confidence ! That woman manipulated him to think she wanted to make a family with him, but she's not.. That's on her only.

[@ChosenPlaysYT]

Oh Brian… if she knows she can get away with walking all over you then she will. He’s too nice and naive.

[@lyndaslocs]

I wouldn't send bikini pictures to my friends, but maybe my enemies.

[@davidhealdjr.513]

I'm normally pretty pro stay together, but I don't think there's a lot of hope here. Sounds like she's already checked out.

[@lot2196]

Yes. Her ex is a bad boy she can't get over.

[@viviennedunbar3374]

He doesn’t have to be a “bad boy” but she sees him as more masculine than her husband as she is withholding sex while flaunting her body to another man. How is she getting to be so disrespectful of her husband and her marriage??

[@adnanorochi3761]

​​@@viviennedunbar3374I think it lacks spontaneity.. maybe he's not expressive and an adventurer! Like your woman will say I like going there or eating that, your job to make that happen a long side being connected with her to make good memories.. then it'll reward you with more than intemacy..

[@JustinCase780]

The dude receiving the photos is choking the chicken over them and she likes it.

[@BassBwoy3]

This is outrageous...married for 4 years, has a 2 year old together, she wants to leave already and is blaming this guy when she's in the wrong? How long did they date before getting married? Were there any red flags? She's either just wanting the divorce money or she was never all in to begin with. Insane.

[@janae09]

If you have to ask the question, go ahead and see yourself out of that relationship. You deserve better.

[@amyridley3926]

She's cheating. She's cheating. She's cheating. She's cheating. SHE'S ALREADY GONE AND DONE.

[@diggernash1]

Lawyer up, because she probably already has one.

[@joshuacastillo9469]

This is heartbreaking.

[@pi8582]

She's not that private!

[@truckingwithtobee]

Talking to an ex and sending pictures IS CHEATING! My husband had an emotional affair for 3 months. Even got a second secret phone. The woman was 2000 miles away. He didn’t have sex with her but it still HURT LIKE NOTHING IVE EVER FELT. IT WAS STILL CHEATING! RUN! You sound like a great man.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

She wants to move forward but she doesn’t want to do the work and be accountable.

[@ROCKSTAR123620]

Leave her

[@doreck07]

Run bro run. Guaranteed it was physical lol. Is marriage still worth it brothers? This poor guy has no aggression in his voice.

[@jh26pt2]

This marriage … no. Marriage in general … absolutely. It’s not easy to find the right person, and it’s not easy to put in the work to grow as one. But if you do, there’s nothing better.

[@aqua6613]

He sounds like Cleveland from the Family Guy 😆

[@katysummer9418]

I always had guy friends but never ever I had sent one of them a bikini photo.

[@shelly936]

Brian, this narcissistic, gas lighting person doesn't have respect for you or your marriage. Run like the wind! She'll just get better at hiding this behavior, trust me. Life is too short to play games like this. The right person for you would never even think this situation is ok. Best of luck to you, God Bless.

[@GwenMotoGirl]

She’s a very private person who sends bikini pics to a guy who isn’t her husband. Husband sounds like an amazing man and she doesn’t deserve him.

[@kmb5678]

8months is a very long time to be in constant communication. She has gaslighted him and blameshifted which she likely does on a regular basis. This is why he doesnt know what to think, feel or do. I am in this situation......it may get worse. My husband was sending sexually explicit messages - i forgave. He got fired for sexual harassment - i helped him. He then repaid me by attempting to activate a dating profile and chatting to other women online and watching live cam girls. Run.

[@og666]

let her go

[@vickimerritt2832]

Players always say some version of it is in the past

[@sarahalderman3126]

Yes, it is infidelity for certain. Same with carrying on any sort of communication with any past or prospective partner. Any kind of communication with a person who could potentially be a partner is cheating, end of story.

[@nicolaa9672]

Yes this is infidelity. I don't think that it is a problem having friends of the opposite sex or remaining friend's with an ex. However there are lines that you do not cross and that's one of them. Especially if you are not telling your husband.

[@geometerfpv2804]

​@@nicolaa9672what reason could anyone possibly have to be friends with an ex? Things were so incompatible between you that you decided to go through the pain of a breakup to get out of it. What, you're just gonna be buddies now? I understand being cordial, but why in the world would you want to be friends? You've literally had sex, you can't be friends.

[@gdhhayes2129]

I needed this call!!! it so applies to my marriage, only I'm not the one in the role of his wife.

[@ropete33]

"She thinks I should just forgive her and let it go" I will bet you everything from a Diddle Eyed Joe to Damned if I Know if the roles were reversed she wouldn't "forgive and let it go"

[@tpolarbeart]

I feel bad for your guy. I hope his life gets better

[@rhondagriffith2159]

Wake up dude. Back in the days of "pagers" my husband had one and used it to meet up with his also "married girlfriend". The Gaslighting and lies never stopped. I'M Grateful I left and took the high road. THE NO REMORSE for her actions are A BIG RED FLAG...AND yes, it is so painful to be in those shoes.

[@H_da_6.5]

That Ex has imprinted her. Regardless if she stops sending those pics he’s always gonna be on her mind. I’ve been there before sadly.

[@Monae6890]

She’s for the streets

[@atomiota5191]

Poor guy. He sounds like a true mensch and deserves so much better.

[@VaCRAYtion]

Is it cheating… no is it a reason to break up, yes

[@hwinny2]

Love it, “weaponizing the apology!”

[@cptfreeman8966]

She wont go to counseling because she's a private person yet she sends photos to her ex... She also doesn't get intimate because she's insecure but she sends photos to her ex.. and then gives the dude an ultimatum for being upset. She's gaslighting him and homie deserves better

[@tentrickspony8925]

You do not need her to go to counseling.

[@markt4281]

“She’s a very private person” also she sends people pictures of her in her bikini 😂

[@overworked123]

Yup, she's done.

[@garybaltiejus7248]

Cheaters playbook, "stop bringing up the past" just turn in your keys bro and call it a day

[@_gnixob]

YEO, you gotta do follow-ups with the people who call! that would be such a good addition to your channel. Like one episode where you re-connect and see how they've done.

[@jeanlaubenthal698]

There is a difference between secrecy and privacy!

[@jameslt4697]

This shouldn't even be a call.

[@eprofessio]

FIRST, put your big boy pants on. Second, run like hell. Third, get the meanest divorce attorney you can find and do what they tell you to do. This person does not love, like or care about you. RUN!!

[@windupperson712]

Begs the question, if bikinis are considered sexually explicit to send to your ex, why in the hell are we normalizing that to be worn in public? Dental floss and all😂

[@2Ryled]

Its called TRIANGULATION. Makes you feel guilty, gaslit, jealous, trying to up yor game to get her attention, feeling inadequate, etc. And then she can say its no big deal. When it is a huge deal.

[@nathanheinl7975]

Man there are some bitter people in these comments. 😂 I'm just trying to figure out what John was saying when the sound cut out at 11:57 💀

[@nickywaggs8672]

I freaking love John man lol.

[@ellandecampbell6279]

She certainly wasn't a "private person" when she was sending those pictures. Like they said, she'd absolutely be p!$$ed if the situation was reversed.

[@hf110510]

You know Brian. She's checked out and not willing to work on it.

[@justinh.1290]

Commenting before I watch. Delony better set him straight. RUN!