Sister Circle Live | Spirit shares her expert advice on finding the right man

[@mshill2406]

theres a difference between im growing you and im wounding you! Wig snatched!

[@juliajulia1835]

Last bit of Ur comment made me laugh. Don't know why.

[@vickieogb1262]

Wig snatched😁✌️

[@Kayyyoxh]

Right lmao

[@Islandgirl_18]

This Spirit is the truth. She’s so articulate and clear no waffle just fact after fact after mic drop.

[@robertharvey9047]

man love women hot

[@annabellerochas3453]

@@robertharvey9047 j

[@annabellerochas3453]

0l9

[@annabellerochas3453]

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[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep end with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@emmarhondawilson7071]

We as black women SHOULD not have to settle for just anyone in our lives. We should do alot of research on the man first. Do not be so quick to welcome him into your life.

[@micolespicer9711]

I heard this years ago. We must check out the spiritual, educational, financial, physical and psychological of a person before entering into a relationship.

[@jackpea7102]

The pickings are very slim and mamy women are desperate.

[@micolespicer9711]

That is a narrative that has been pushed for years. It is not true.

[@sunshine2049]

The hosts were so annoying and talking over their guest. Be quiet ladies and let her be the star of the show

[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@user-kh9ye3ut4t]

Equally Yoked. Drop the mic girl! This is therapy and psychology on another level. Many are called but few are chosen. Spirit you are Chosen. I looooooooooooveeeee you ❤️😍 Two things cannot occupy the same space at the same time 😭 There is pain in dealing with the ugly truth oooooooh girl hooooooooo growing VS wounding

[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep end with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@CoolCraftyCreations]

And THIS IS why I’ve been single for over 5 years! Loving me!

[@alpoyeo7008]

Cool Crafty Creations I heard 👂 that BEFORE. LOVING YOURSELF. WHAT THAT MEAN . YOU PLAY WITH YOURSELF??????? LOLOL

[@latoyaharvey1853]

yes ma'am 👏👏👏.... I LOVE walking into my home and laying in my bed without dead weight holding me down...And having me bout to catch a case...2 please places that ain't meant for me: Jail and Hell...Ijs, being single is a choice ...And TRUST I'm smiling from ear to ear😁... Ladies if a man isn't treating you right...Gurl move in and get out and begin to LOVE and LIVE your life (you only get ONE)

[@jackpea7102]

You just made a bad choice. You chose a garbage dude. That was your fault.

[@muchemwamwambazi3895]

@@alpoyeo7008 play with yourself 😄😄

[@gigilamoore2656]

You can love you and still be in a relationship if it is the right one. No need to be alone, sis.

[@Wealthybaby]

Remember we’re looking for an accountability partner, not someone to complete you. If you really think about that, that’s a good word

[@abcxyz-kc7ch]

Disagree. You don't need a man to hold you accountable or build you or them up. I suggest you check out Shera seven 1 and find videos on 'don't be a Barbara the Builder '. Or why you shouldn't build with man.

[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep end with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@marshalogan8858]

AWESOME!!! Spirit is on point! May GOD continue to use you.

[@cynthiamadete7688]

I have officially been shut up!! .."there is a difference between am growing u and am wounding u"

[@IndefiniChronicles]

I love this women! I’m 24 and this is going to save me a lot of wasted time in the present and future!

[@natashashere]

This Queen Spirit is so divine! I’m so glad she has her own show. She is so therapeutic.

[@foyinsayemidee1657]

What's the name of her show? Is it on KZbin?

[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep end with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@godlovescouture8605]

I like Spirit . She makes too much sense. Love what she said about loving vs wounding you. Lol Quad is quiet 🤫

[@colleenchanner8540]

nothing wrong with being single ....i hate when society even the best therapist make women to be offputting. Oh please sometimes its the former reason ...if u dont see the person who is ready for u where u are then u will remain single if u love urself. ...it doesnt mean you are not lonely at nights or long for a partner ...but you are sacrificing and ensuring that the right one comes along and comes to stay. They acting like men are lined up saying ...im looking for someone single and have their shit together...half them single men aint got shit muchless togetherness. Im from jamaica youngmen nowadays looking for someone to upgrade them and that is where dating in my country stops. u will frequently hear that love is not real anymore but spirit meshes or people get along and thats all. it is a sad time to be judged by people saying u should be coupled.

[@sharonjohns1686]

Very shocked she came up. With that... So rude

[@alhassanfirrdous7292]

Thank you

[@gigilamoore2656]

Nothing at all wrong with being single, but a lot of women want a partner. This is who she is speaking to.

[@gigilamoore2656]

@Paul Hogue Men are supposed to take the lead. Are you and the men out there leading with care and concern for women? If so, I don't see why any intelligent woman wouldn't follow suit. From my own limited experience, some men have wanted the fruits (attention, sex, being taken care of) without putting in any of the labor. If men are the head, then be the head.

[@gigilamoore2656]

@Paul Hogue Nowhere in my comment did I mention paying for anything. You just told on yourself. You are one of these men who think a woman should be having sex with you while you do nothing but exist.

[@EllePlowPlow]

@6:00 first time I heard anyone agreeing from BEHIND the camera. 😂😂😂 Spirit is the truth!

[@Vanessa-fw7gm]

I agree with everything she said except the part about the reason why black women that are educated is single because they think they are too good for a men . I know alot of black women who are single and educated and do not have this type of attitude. Most of them are single because people in this society see them as too much or undatable base on the stereotypes that is out there.

[@jackpea7102]

miss robinson There are more women than men. Yeah she was wrong. It is a numbers game. I do know that some women have that persona, but that is not the reason they are single. You can't put put 500 000 more viable men in the pool. So her comment was garbage

[@islandgirlruby2750]

Also, they are single because they don't date out. Become an equal opportunity eater.

[@sassycat6487]

@@islandgirlruby2750 this is so true people really limit themselves because they have an idea of who their "soulmate" must be. I finally got sick of being disappointed by men from around here and became open to dating guys from other countries since there's a large immigrant community in my city. Right after I started thinking about this I met my boyfriend who is from another country (but a US citizen now btw) and he is the best guy I've ever known and treats me like an equal. So happy I stopped being so close-minded or I wouldn't be so happy right now!

[@xxladybug94]

I was about to say , she had me until that point. There’s more trash out there then good when it comes to men, and if we are educated and independent, why should we settle for trash?

[@selflovefirst7140]

Vanessa I agree with you 100%. That statement was very rude and insensitive. She list all credibility when she did that! I was hesitant to even watch the segment. It’s a very messed up and arrogant statement to make about other black women. Thank you for your comment!

[@gigilamoore2656]

Potential is for young people in their early 20's coming up together. A woman over the age of about 28-30 should not be banking on potential. I just had this talk with my friend who was dating a 55 year old man. Sorry, at 55, all that he is and will be (for the most part) is done.

[@destinynetope7396]

I agree

[@selflovefirst7140]

Gigi La Moore That’s absolutely correct!

[@Wealthybaby]

No ma’am potential isn’t for young people either. It’s actually worse.

[@BluDrop5]

She wants a father-figure in that man.

[@TheJanayWellsShow]

@@Wealthybaby right, I still got family members saying why don't you get back together with so and so. Like I'm not trying to go backwards into a broken relationship. And I don't want to feel I need to fix a man, I want a whole man. I don't need a relationship to validate me, my validation comes from God. And how I have met somebody so amazing and I say thank God I didn't settle or stay in a relationship that no longer serves me!

[@BrittIzLegit]

What she is saying that the credentials ain't helped you healed. Deal with you. Wooooooooow. I love everything she said.

[@taryn.b]

I love Spirits advice, it's so on point. And we should also consider that everybody's situation is different so if what she's saying other resonate with you then that's okay too. As a therapist she can only speak to what she has seen as the majority. So don't take it too personal ladies

[@selflovefirst7140]

Taryn As a therapist you would never make such a judgmental comment to your clients.

[@taryn.b]

@@selflovefirst7140 Of course she wouldn't do so in her capacity as a therapist. But she's on television giving advice to countless people, so maybe she feels like she can get away with being more candid and real.

[@selflovefirst7140]

Taryn She definitely felt like she could get away with expressing her bias. She’s entitled to it. Her candor and realness just came across prejudiced, arrogant and offensive. I felt like in her position, it was a tad irresponsible. She’s human. It’s rare that I even engage in any conversation online like this. Thank you for your comment.

[@Kiwiwanderer]

This woman is spot on!

[@hunniebun1665]

Love this! I’ve watched it a couple different times and it’s absolutely relevant.

[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep end with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@MrAllysonn]

From a loving place. "I'm loving you or I wounding you" 🖤

[@bklyn2014]

This is all true. Everyone work on yourself from within and find yourself. Watch your whole life change. You will attract genuinely good people while dating and see the ugly from a mile away.

[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep end with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@leejay2418]

Spirit tells it straight up and in such an articulate way. Love this!

[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep end with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@jacquelinemorrow4641]

Thank you, stay Bless & safe 🙏

[@Kayyyoxh]

Whew she is the TRUTH! 🥵 preach

[@ekta8704]

Oh my gosh she is so amazing and straight forward.

[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep end with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@linequeenpublishing]

Wow drop the mic Sis!

[@RealLadi228]

@ALPO YAO A good man is like a dinosaur

[@smiley7240]

sheeeeesh! This was great! I could listen to you ladies alllllll day!

[@allthingsbeautiful7967]

She is telling the truth.

[@nikkismith8447]

THAT sat down in my SPIRIT.....

[@saromaliga5937]

Totally agree with daddy issues. I had a very strict daddy and hated me in love. I still find hard to find a boyfriend.

[@islandgirlruby2750]

The fact is that there a very few good men out there, men who have there stuff together. Too many men are hobosexual they get into relationships to avoid being homeless.

[@ms.elaine5393]

There are plenty of good men out there. The issue is black women keep dipping into the same bucket, expecting to pull out something different. There are so many other races of men on this earth and if your insistent on dating black men, foreign black men do exist.

[@aquickstory2196]

this is very very funny good one I will use this hobo

[@kennedy8790]

Good men exist--and lots of them--actually. The mentality that "there are no good men" leads women to a scarcity mindset. We become overly critical, and quickly cut things off without giving a man a chance to show themselves.

[@islandgirlruby2750]

Kennedy Tisdel like I said few

[@thespadestable]

@Island Girl Ruby - And who raised those types of men.....Black mothers minus having the father under the same roof. Pepsi Cola Corp. can't blame Coca Cola Corp. if they put out a "new Pepsi" and it's not well received by the public. The blame falls on the geniuses who work for Pepsi.

[@sterling.hopkins]

Great perspective to digest! Thank you ladies💪🏿

[@SalMcc20]

Sister girl was asking that question for herself lol

[@valarieprimous3010]

I like spirit she knows her stuff!!!

[@iamceceanderson]

Love Spirit!!! Yesss!

[@Enrico_Fusai_Counselor]

Go Sisters!!! 🔥🙏🏼

[@vasht7976]

Spirit was preaching!

[@LoniLoni11]

Yes Ms Spirit tell Quad what she needs to hear about those women who think they have it all together. Yes why make the person feel they have to price why you want them like what the hell.

[@allthingsbeautiful7967]

Lol! That hit Quad and she had to get the lump out of her throat.

[@cmjb6118]

We often pick “trash men” because that’s all we have to pick from! By the time you’re in your 30s and 40s, there are few decent men left. And most people don’t want to be alone for the rest of their lives, so often times, something is better than nothing.

[@muddyshoes4517]

Spirit is legit!!!!!! I need her in my life lol

[@MissD0829]

Not every single woman like us think that we are the “ish” I believe i am “it” with being humble and confident knowing what I bring to the table, being self aware and not taking anything less than what I deserve. It doesn’t make me cocky but i would rather be single than have to deal with recovering from another failed relationship because everyone is in one. What people fail to realize is that it takes a STRONG person to be by themselves and not compromise their peace at the expense of a someone’s. I love Dr. Spirit so far but I do not agree with that statement.

[@organicprinciples]

Soo many jewels today!!

[@NefertitiindaHouse11]

This is great!!!!

[@BrittIzLegit]

That number 1 reason!!! Yes.

[@pilargonzalez8442]

Love this!!!!

[@ddespinosse]

There is a a difference between growing you and wounding you

[@kiralynae6998]

I really enjoy Spirit's energy and respect her practice. I disagree with the assumption that vanity totalizes the dating approach for womyn that are educated and financially independent. I don't deny that an unhealthy regard of self stunts romantic possibilities for some of those womyn but not all. Some womyn who have been disciplined about their career goals and/or educational pursuits operate in a self love that does not accommodate an incomprehensible lover. I would have appreciated a more nuanced answer, especially since she was clear to give three responses, three of her top responses, to the other question.

[@reshmaramesh9771]

What a polished mature response! A big high5 for You! :D

[@abcxyz-kc7ch]

Agree totally disrespectful answer about women. Not every single woman is looking for a partner nor needing one nor having an attitude of thinking they are the 'ish'.

[@lauraashley1]

Why "womyn?"

[@hanandaoudd5420]

love this!!!

[@mizzmoni]

Love her great therapist

[@ScaryToRemarry]

Spirit is the truth. I like the fresh outlook she has on relationships

[@Amandacake08]

Preach!

[@jujubee90275]

I love Spirit❤

[@24kchefkimmy43]

Awesome information 🔥🎯

[@thinktank4768]

This is the conversation that those women went off the deep end with some CRAZY conversation that started @ 5:00. There’s a lot of African-American women who are single, for one reason of another, and happy. IT’S NOT A CRIME TO BE SINGLE. 👎🏾 on their nonsense. If you’re a single lady, for one reason or another, don’t make the mistake and choose Spirit as your therapist, or else she’ll think you’re full of sh*t. SMH 🤦🏽‍♀️🇺🇸

[@jujubee90275]

Spirit keeps it 100

[@naynessthecomebackbody9013]

The information is absolutely amazing! Please stop talking over one another so we can clearly get the information you are trying to share... Love you, bye! 🙏

[@DashaTheDivineDivah]

She betta preach

[@hendhani4522]

She's amazing

[@kesiahjackson5018]

There is some truth to what she said but not to all because for one its hard to meet a good man out there because most want to play games even in their 40's

[@purelyme5488]

My dad teaches me my worth and what to expect from a man... Lord have mercy!!! 🤦‍♀️

[@adeyosola414]

@Diamond in the Flesh To a certain extent, it is very true. Daddy issues are real. Except a single mother ensures she teaches her child especially her female child(ren) to have high self esteem and makes sure her children (both male and female) have good male influences , those children are likely to have Daddy issues

[@purelyme5488]

@@adeyosola414 if the statement is true then thats why I attract homeless, drug addict men thats why I was asking God to have mercy

[@AmateurAthleteAllDay]

She contradicted herself. First she says women choose trash men and this is why they are unhappy. Then when asked why are the good women single, she said bc that think they’re the ish. Which one is it? Could it be they are single because they refuse to settle? Why can’t it be they’re singe because they have not found the right guy and should not settle for trash but can make the best of their singleness by exploring the world and serving others. Being single does not have to be miserable or lead to a compromising lifestyle.

[@xxladybug94]

Was in agreement until that last point. I’m educated and independent (and know some of my girlfriends who are as well) and we are all still single but not for the reason she so grossly generalized us for. She might be right about a population but I really don’t think that’s why. Strong ass women who bust their asses, put themselves through school, embrace independence are not leaving a trail of “ish” just cuz we don’t have a man. We worked too hard to settle for less. We often come off as “intimidating” because many men are insecure about their own selves. We are just living our lives, and a lot of the time we are too busy to meet people. We are not all “stuck up” just because we don’t want to settle. Very poor generalization and she lost my respect for that last part.

[@BluDrop5]

I'm not sure if she was referring to being intimidating as much as being off-putting as a result of your accomplishments. I believe she said "there's a difference between I don't need you, but I want you and I don't need you, I'm not sure if I want you, so convince me why I should have you". The latter statement is vain, demeaning and conceited.

[@xxladybug94]

BluDrop5 I mean honestly any woman who respects herself should be asking those questions to a man. We don’t know if we want you yet so what do you have to offer so that we do want you? And I don’t even mean financially I mean what qualities do you have to better my life?

[@avf8837]

It is okay to be single. Sometimes it is a healthier option

[@ldavis1032]

Great "message".

[@StarsStars714]

Where has Spirit been all these years?

[@maimohamed3590]

appreciated this 😍👌✨

[@ricliu4538]

love spirit

[@DZ-zw6hw]

Amazing

[@vanessamarlenesanchez2213]

Would somebody tell me what the meaning of "ICH" is?

[@hahadarrie]

Trina asked this question about a woman or feeling confident to Jeff Johnson aswell. She might have been going through something and wanted answers for herself

[@paulene7076]

When you are just starting a relationship. Is it better to stop it when the man is slow in meeting your need like have a financial stability?

[@BrittIzLegit]

What is Spirit's instagram?

[@melaniekhoo8040]

Talk2spirit

[@Betehadeso]

'Complete us' !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Excuse me.... I hope you meant complement.... we are all complete as we are. I am in this boat, I am fully aware I do not give space for other men, but that is simply because I am not ready yet and I'm not interested, for me, now is a me-time.... not all women are looking for a relationship ALL THE TIME (oo).... I really hope that is not the case.

[@sweetdivine2701]

Was waiting for someone to say that.. when she said complete I was like no way o am done here.. Lisa Nichols said "" is unfair to ask for someone to complete you"" is not even possible and if it was why will you give the job to someone else.. is your responsibility to keep and make yourself happy.. your partner only adds up to you happiness period.. but I guess this talk is not for everyone and I believe those who really need this will hear it as for me I don't......

[@SpecialKRNB]

@@sweetdivine2701 On the contrary, complementary actually means complete. And yes we are our future husbands complement. Meaning, and simply put if you ever heard of the phrase "opposites attract" they should have finished that fact such as "opposite genders attract" he's the provider, protector, and caregiver of his wife and children in addition men are natural listeners, naturally selfless, naturally giving and us women on the other hand are to be provided for, protected, and cared for in addition we are naturally selfish (notice I said selfish meaning reciever not self-absorbed nor self-centered) and naturally talkative. The EXACT opposite of our future husbands. For good reasoning too. And this is on a biological basis. But, the biggest difference and quite frankly should be the only difference between couples because once that man is ready to find his right good woman for him or aka his companion the only notable difference will be that he's a man and she's a woman. Just thought I share that.

[@firstladyqueen5985]

@3:00 pertaining to your dad's absence or presence he teaches you what your worth is, what your value is and what a relationship should look like with the opposite sex. Big ouch. Most of us don't have that and we have to heal it on our own cause our "dad" too selfish and in denial of how terrible he really be whether present or absent. 😓😓

[@ScaryToRemarry]

Unfortunately, most women focus on a man’s physical & financial status opposed to his character & values. This is why they keep running into the same relationship problems

[@colleenchanner8540]

But men are the same way...hence them saying they are VISUAL. as if they are the only ones with eyes. Both sexes are at fault. But singleness if done purposefully can propell one into a great relationship if u get the right perspective thru healing.

[@ScaryToRemarry]

Colleen Channer you are right!

[@sassycat6487]

And unfortunately, most men just focus about women's physical appearance and that's exactly why many men end up alone and miserable. Stop chasing ten's if you are barely reaching a five!

[@colleenchanner8540]

@@sassycat6487 "But 10's" is a concept learnt from magazines, tv, social media. If we could only focus on the inner we would be nearer to the right love goals. Today plastic surgeries are done so rampantly and not the real surgeries of our being thay cuts away the grime and muck we were raised in. Because I dont know what it will take for people to wake up and see that the kardashians or beyonce still do not have a perfect life. why do we set our mark to live and appear like them. This is a simple way we sell our souls to vanity and a life of charades. we just need to wake the hell up. When we are 80 it wont the the size of our waste line and the sex appeal that matters. It will be the memories, the legacies the strength and courage we have passed to our generations. The love ...or in most cases the lack thereof. we are however glued to our phone screens looking at them girls IG poses and post of how she went and spent a ridiculus sum of money to get another woman's husband's eyes glued to the glue behind and the cycle continues. Because if she knew her true worth ...it would have been clear from the get go that she is so much much valuable than her outward appearance. Men now are weak. They remain like the seed of adam. Whatever eve gives to him he blindly takes it. He forgets he is the father of many nations he forgets he is supposed to keep a connection with creator and love with woman inside out. Its all a messed up world. But we have to find our truths to survive. Love everyone ...here's to love goals.

[@blueseptember2174]

Mine was dirt poor and just okay looking and he still turned out a cheater lol.

[@Karenmariepombagira]

Had had low self esteem and felt I was getting older so I settled. I tried to fix him. I'm not sure about the daddy issues other than him bit being there and my men are not that a as much either. I guess she us right. I thought it was mommy issues because mom was toxic. However, maybe missing daddy is why I get men I miss often and feel depressed. My mom left him not vice versa.

[@sweetcakes1509]

My God!!!!

[@BG-sq7zf]

1st Take: "My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier." Yours sincerely, Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook 2nd Take: “My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.” Decently yours, Cardi B. My Humble Take: What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her soul. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way. *The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar *Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe *Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous Isaiah 3:12 Childish leaders oppress my people, and women rule over them. O my people, your leaders mislead you; they send you down the wrong road.

[@raieful]

Ah Maybe the right man didn’t come along

[@LeniqueKintea]

Another reason why women whom seem to have it all are single is because they limit their dating options. You must become hypergamous, date up, and be open to dating non-black men. If you do not, your options are limited in dating a high caliber man.

[@thespadestable]

@LeniqueB - And what are the women offering the higher caliber of men: High mileage vagina, high debt to income earning ratio, PTSD, out of wedlock child/children, attitude, drama, the need for autonomy, and pseudo feminist talking points? If those men bring more to the table than the slobs single women have been dating, then it's safe to agree those men are demanding a better quality and character of woman!

[@LeniqueKintea]

Well Jack...it takes two to get pregnant. You can’t biologically give yourself an STI! And when you come from a group of men that don’t provide a patriarchy, who will be that woman’s exemplar in proper behavior?

[@thespadestable]

@@LeniqueKintea - It takes two, but it takes one person to be responsible. Women are the gatekeepers of their womb, so the protection of what goes into that vagina and what comes out of the birth canal falls onto the women. If women are so concerned with the health and welfare of their child or children, they must also be keen about what's going on with the other women around them, to include responsible and irresponsible procreation. If other women are struggling, as a responsible person you don't turn around and do exactly what they are doing and expect different results. But as it stands, the government knows women (and this is for all women) can not be responsible for their wombs, so the pressure is put on men, via child support, to pay for the short-term thinking of woman. There is little to no direct punishment or loss for women when they choose to be irresponsible with their procreation choices, because there's government programs, to include family members who step in an try to keep mother's heads above water all in the attempt to keep her and her children off of the streets. The US began shutting down orphanages around the 1950's after 2 centuries of them being fairly common. Concerning "patriarchy", (a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it). Black women have made it very clear they demand to be allowed to practice autonomy, and as an independent entity within a joint venture, meaning they want to co-lead, co-be in charge. Black America pretty much operates in a grey space between a Matriarchy and Gynocracy. An ethnic group can do that when the government incentivizes their behavior with little to no consequences. There is nothing that forces Black women to vote trade with a Black men under the same roof, with single motherhood being a perfect option, because there is no one interrupting that need to practice autonomy. Nice try, but your retort came up a bit short.

[@IAMAQT711]

Am I the only one that disagrees with some of Spirit responses to these questions? Not every single woman are leaving trails of ish, have daddy issues, and low self-esteem, or try to fix men who are living in their potential.

[@foyinsayemidee1657]

She's generalizing. You need it tailored? Talk to her one on one.

[@LeniqueKintea]

No you’re not, bw MAIN problem is that we limit our options in men.

[@IAMAQT711]

@@foyinsayemidee1657 She spoke from a place of what she thought were facts. She did not say in general some women are this or that. I love Spirit, but this abbreviated interview doesn't do her justice.

[@rubyroo2074]

How do we fix daddy issues??

[@frenchvanilla7109]

What's your relationship like with your dad? Is he in your life sometimes, all the time and how? How does he show up in your life? Is he a man if his word, does he disappoint you over and over. How does he make you feel? Safe, beautiful, respected, heard, loved Or sad unworthy, confused, unloved Start there, analyze it, then compare to the men you have dated or attracted. Once you're honest with what you've experienced with your dad you begin to see why you picked those men and how to choose better. 💗

[@renestaten5240]

I disagree with the last point. Spirit was asked how come very successful, independent educated women are mostly single? Spirit then answered saying because basically they are to busy going down they're list of not needing a man and somthing about a shit trail? That's being to vague, and super reaching. YES, some women really are like that. But you cant just make 1 category and put all single, independent and educated women in it?! Some of those single, independent, educated women just simply enjoy being single how about that.... and some are very focused on career and dont even desire to be in an intimate partnership. Hell... some still waiting on someone worth they're time!

[@laven_writes4394]

👏👏👏👏

[@nonyabizness3869]

Well, damn...!

[@Rub3sss]

Woo.

[@koolbreez9865]

Spirit lost most of her female fan base @ 4:58 - 6:06 😂

[@carldoss4195]

Spirit fine!

[@giovannastrazzeri]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@kesiahjackson5018]

And i think by age 40 man or woman should have found themselves if you haven't thats a problem waiting to happen.

[@begood1able]

Why does Black Women have so much trouble finding a man and keeping a man, When there are so many single-parent households with women having children by different men. Yet, the Black Woman says there aren't any good men around. WHAT IS THE PROBLEM?

[@sharonjohns1686]

Dont you just love it when people that are married or in a relationship talk down on single people thinking they are better.. ... Lost my respect for spirit

[@islandgirlruby2750]

Spirit didn't do well in this segment at all.

[@shes_setapart]

@@islandgirlruby2750 Have some grace. Spirit is human. She is still growing and learning like the rest of us. She's not perfect and has dedicated her life to helping people. This cancel culture is sad. Some people have a bad day, not a bad heart. Know the difference.

[@islandgirlruby2750]

Kaylani Williams You should take the advice you are quick give to others.

[@shes_setapart]

@@islandgirlruby2750 I am not attacking you sis. All I'm saying is that she's human and doing her best. Be blessed

[@selflovefirst7140]

Chibueze Johns That’s exactly what she did! Put herself on a pedestal and talked some real trash! I’m with you!

[@omowateverable]

Preach please 😒😒😒

[@angelakayehatchett6448]

Bye/bye/BYE Johnny, Clint, Feaster, Derrick, & Patrick!!!!!!!!!🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒🔒

[@Outta12]

The first thing that came out of her mouth is about his money. Smh

[@braaron77ify]

.. The potential type of male.. yup, I know them very well.. #guilty

[@rebeccajones8628]

Your childhood issues dictate your relationships with men for sure.

[@Outta12]

The one on the right doesnt have a clue

[@adriennandrassy6317]

I love Spirit. She is definitely enlightened. But I don’t like that disrespectful milieu how the other women talk into her speech all three at the same time not recognizing that A, it is disrespectful, B, it is distracting, disturbing for the viewers. How come one can run a talk show in this manner at all?! Like if we were at the local farmers’ market...

[@tawandathechosenvessel6186]

Quad is who Doctor is talking too thinking your the ish

[@Karenmariepombagira]

I need a man I cry damsel in distress. I don't like that strong independent woman b.s. We are all interdependent.