Slow Living | Stop Complaining!

[@Bamboo-in-the-Starlight]

I do think that some complaining offers a positive relief of venting frustration… Moderation is the key.

[@primalengland]

So….. which do you think is best. 1. A long, low level brooding resentment. 2. A brief but violent haranguing. 3. A swift, vicious attack with a bladed instrument. Asking for a friend.

[@MelodyBee-yl7we]

I'm impressed she is still living at home and managing herself!

[@primalengland]

She is, indeed, a force of nature.

[@christinegorton8476]

Oh Nigel, I just roared with laughter at the first 5 minutes as you have described my 94 year old mother perfectly! nothing but complaints about trivial matters, and so judgemental! She lives with me, and has done for the last 15 years. At times it's so mentally exhausting listening to the same old niff naff and trivia. I love your saying, " make time for you". I realise I have to now. I'm like my father too, laid back and don't raise my voice, but I'm just expected to take everything. I too sleep with my window wide open, dog beside me in her bed, and from now on, I'm putting myself as more of a priority for my own mental well being. Thank you, and have a good day.

[@marylynch951]

Brilliantly said and I agree

[@primalengland]

Thank you, Christine. I have another video with an apt title. ‘Be Good Too Yourself At Least Once A Day.’

[@lindagumbleton6569]

Nature is the greatest healer! X

[@primalengland]

It certainly is.

[@Sheepdawg7]

So spot on, mate! ❤

[@primalengland]

Thank you.

[@DiegoB0525]

I stay away from complainers and negative people. This mainly includes family!

[@primalengland]

Ha! I think many would agree with you, there.

[@cynthiapate9138]

I think complaining is sometimes a habit… I want to share with everyone the joy my dog and I experienced this past week. A fawn still with its spots came within 20 yards of us…then it started bleating. I looked in its beautiful eyes and said “Go home to your mother!” It stared at me, turned around, and bounded off. My dog (Priscilla) and I just stood on the trail. It was fantastic!!!! I will remember those precious eyes forever. Nature is so healing. See you on the flip.

[@primalengland]

I love that. The deer round here are getting way too bold. People must think I’m mad shooing them away and waving my arms.

[@michaelbrammer2483]

Come on Molly. Keep up. You are doing well darling. ❤️

[@primalengland]

She’s really slowed down these last few months, bless her.

[@paulathefairy676]

@@primalenglandget Molly a doggy buggy, it was life changing for my elderly dog Daisy, she passed away in April this year but the last few years of her life were so joyful because she could join me and my younger dog on walks in nature 🌿💗

[@spiraldive2]

Wise words spoken, i would go as far as saying - the meaning of life is to live like this.

[@primalengland]

It works for me perfectly. Just one of those things. I hope it can work for others, too.

[@markhammond6420]

Hi Nigel, isn’t the internet a funny thing. After watching your videos I feel like you are a friend even though we have never met. I just wanted you to know I think you are an amazing person with an amazing outlook on life and I appreciate you sharing it with all of us on KZbin.

[@SolaLuna67]

I have learned that SOMETIMES when people complain about many things, it is a reflection of the unhappiness within. What we see in the outer world can be a mirror of what is going on within. Peace to you!

[@primalengland]

I also feel that within society you have to be either very happy or very sad. There doesn’t seem to be any middle ground.

[@simpletruths5322]

I know people exactly as you describe. I’ve learned that complaining is a way of creating a little bit of drama that serves 2 functions. 1. It can reinforce a victimhood mentality 2. Complaining creates an energy albeit a negative energy and some folk need that energy fix to feel alive, almost like a drug. Sadly what they didn’t work out was that, changing moaning for gratitude for all life’s mysteries and gifts will enhance your experience and give you a beautiful life. Instead of seeing negativity everywhere, you begin to see the positivity and beauty all around, no matter your surroundings. There’s always beauty in every environment, it depends on your outlook on life ❤

[@primalengland]

I think you are right. We experience the forcefield of victimhood in so many interviews, usually by the usual subjects. A cohort of interviewees whose refusal to even entertain a different point of view seems to strengthen their resolve to be the main character victim. Unless you get a whole bunch of self-approbation and a feeling of righteousness out of this, I don’t think you can claim to have let a happy and fulfilling life.

[@neilmarlowe1561]

Great comment.

[@jeffsherman2990]

💯 RIGHT, AGAIN, as usual, Nigel!!!👍. I remind myself often! Complaining is a waste of time and energy and it chases away THE POSITIVE!!!✌️💙🌈🐺✝️😇

[@primalengland]

So true, Jeff. It’s almost as if life today encourages complaining.

[@jeffsherman2990]

@@primalengland it sure does, Nigel! "All part of THEIR plan!". 🙄🤬✌️💙

[@ellenolmstead5026]

I grew up on a country road, they are a great place to discuss things with Jesus and or the lord( when your a youngster anyway). I live in town now but going back to those times, memories can help. I think anyway.

[@primalengland]

Of course memories can help, Ellen. As we grow older we build a vast library of fond memories that we can dip into whenever we feel like it.

[@philg7889]

I love this! If you stop and listen to someone for 5/10 minutes, just nodding as they speak, it's amazing how often all they do is COMPLAIN. They have nothing to contribute to the conversation but complaints, and lots of them. I switched-off responding to serial complainers many years ago (I'm 62 now). I refuse to lower my standards to their grimy, miserable world.

[@primalengland]

Also. If you are talking to someone, they quite often glaze over a few seconds in. This is because they have decided they have something to say, and are disregarding the rest of what you are saying, just waiting their opportunity to speak.

[@DollyDaydream-r1f]

You've just described my Mum, it made me chuckle 😀

[@primalengland]

Thought it was just me! 😂

[@DollyDaydream-r1f]

@primalengland so did I, but realise I'm not the only one 😁

[@GoatWillowHomestead]

Hi Nigel just listening to you as I am making crepes 😊 husband Gary is upstairs on computer and can't understand who I'm talking to😅 it's you lol, I'm agreeing with everything you've said I'm chatting away to you 😊 we've been watching your vlogs and enjoyed everyone carry on the good work catch you on the flip P&G France x

[@DeborahPinder-f5t]

@@Dottiedolly52 that’s lovely, so happy for you 🥰

[@robertlewis3116]

So much wisdom on this channel. Quickly become my favorite channel.

[@primalengland]

Thank you so much, Robert.

[@DeborahPinder-f5t]

I agree, this is the only channel that I try to read all of the comments, it’s a great community Nigel has got going here 😊

[@wendyparry437]

Well you say stop complaining , but there are times when we do need to . For instance if a meal is not up to scratch in a restaurant and bad service with the buses etc . To bring service back to a good standard we need to do something about it . The UK does have poor customer service compared to the US . Employees are not happy in work and so there is no motivation to give good service. The scenery looks lovely there , you are so lucky to live in a rural area . Keep sending out the videos outside , it is uplifting to watch . Thanks .

[@primalengland]

The complaining bit was just a tongue in cheek intro to my point about getting out of man made workplaces. It was also an excuse to do a bit of passive aggressive trolling of my mum….. bless her. ❤️

[@skyblazeeterno]

We are a nation of whingers who do not know how to complain properly and usually take our frustrations out on the poor minimum pay "grunts" who are usually not responsible for the poor service or product. We are a product of silly stuff upper lip doff capping mustn't grumble nonsense

[@irenecharrois5199]

Awwwwww, I feel for your Mum, her world is enclosing in on her it seems. She needs to go for walks with you and Molly. But that could be easier said than done. Anyway, I also tell myself ( if I am apt to complain about something), that if this or that minor thing is my biggest complaint, then I am abolutely blessed. In agreement with another member here..... however, if, a paid service is not up to snuff a complaint should be shared with appropriate staff/boss/manager. My 50 something and 40 something adult children accept way more discrepancies in service or products than I would. It must be a generational thing. Things will continue to degrade if we do not keep people accountable for products or service. ..there thats my complaint for the day lol!😂 Everyone have a good day, its lovely here in the Prairies of Canada.

[@primalengland]

I wish I could take my mum for walks, but she can’t really walk anymore. I think she’s just frustrated because she’s still very sharp minded.

[@bobp363]

This was brilliant . Sometimes we dont even need someone else around to be complaining ,my mind was going a 100 mph all morning thinking about the craziness of everything we see and hear daily today in our lives compared to even a decade ago and my brain was all over the place about what is going to happen next .Now im about to head out the door for a walk and take all that is good in and then just go from there for the remainder of the day .Thank You for the wonderful way that you put things all in perspective .

[@primalengland]

I’m with you. I know where you’re coming from. I should try to ignore most of the information, disinformation and misinformation that’s flying around. My blood pressure’s high enough as it is.

[@DeborahPinder-f5t]

I feel exactly the same, sometimes feel like I just wish I could turn my brain off, catastrophizing about future events or wallowing in past hurts. Other days when I’m full of busy I feel fine

[@lindagumbleton6569]

Unfortunately we are programmed with cultural concepts and beliefs that we mistakenly believe are reality. It takes an amazing capacity for self reflection to deconstruct this and realise that we have a choice in how we experience our life and gratitude and appreciation create happiness and joy and complaining and blaming external factors for how we are feeling creates anxiety and dissatisfaction. The choices we make determine the outcome of our lives. Your mother is blessed to have her faculties and a very caring son and a safe home but she is putting her attention on small insignificant matters. Despite this I expect she also appreciates her life but complaining has become habitual. Bless her cotton socks. Where you are walking is absolutely stunning thanks for sharing your thoughts and environment 🙏🫂xx

[@primalengland]

Yes, I think complaining has become a habit. I can live with it, though. She still has a great sense of humour.

[@lindagumbleton6569]

@@primalengland 👍🙏

[@ashleyanderson2859]

For a moment I thought you had met my mother! Nature is the best medicine. It'll cure ya!

[@marylynch951]

😂😂😂😂

[@bobweber4140]

Beautiful advice god bless you

[@primalengland]

Thank you.

[@702desertmom]

Love the comment about office environment being artificial and the tie to negativity Nigel. I spent my entire life in an office or cubicle and I agree. I’m now at 62 a receptionist at a Harley Davidson dealership and I’ll tell you the floor to ceiling windows lets in the sunlight brightens everything up! I really like the environment a lot better than paper shuffling in an office. Thanks for sharing this!

[@primalengland]

Even just seeing nature, sun, trees, grass makes a massive difference.

[@702desertmom]

Exactly! I sometimes have nature sounds playing in the background when I’m cleaning and stuff makes a huge difference.

[@primalengland]

@@702desertmom Me too. There are some great ambient sounds videos on KZbin.

[@TheGentlemanScholar]

My theory: I think people who are predisposed will complain when they're not in control somehow. I deal with planeloads full of air passengers. And most can roll with any experience. But a small percentage squeak most because they're out of their comfort zone. "Will I make my connection?" "Why won't my bag fit? It fit on the last flight!" "Why aren't we sitting together?" I just try not to validate the complaints on any level. Complaining vents a bit of steam but it can quickly become toxic.

[@primalengland]

I agree so much, and can visualise those scenarios. You sound like you have much experience in de-escalation.

[@TheGentlemanScholar]

@@primalengland Only in the sense that I don't take responsibility for problems I did not cause. Once upon a time, I would have asked people to move seats on behalf of the customer. These days, I give *them* the power and initiative. "Oh, *you* can ask people to trade with you if you want."

[@primalengland]

@@TheGentlemanScholar Oh! Placing the emphasis on the complainant. I so much approve of this. 😊

[@Ana-jf1ch]

I like your new glasses! I worked as a nurse and its very common eldery people complaining about the smallest things. I think its because their world got smaller and they dont have much control in life events. Most have chronic diseases and pain. 90 years of life? I think I'll be a little grumpy too 😅.

[@primalengland]

Ha! Thanks. These are a pair of £5 Amazon ones that I sometimes use because I’m clumsy and am forever breaking my varifocals. I’ll wear them more often. I’m an ex nurse and I know exactly what you mean. My mum, at 96, has a razor sharp mind and is quite forthright. I think the combination of a sharp mind and a failing body frustrates her. I don’t really mind her complaining. I know how to make her laugh.

[@ParsimoniusConk]

I like the cut of your jib sir and i agree with the comment on your glasses, you look as cool as a cucumber ​@@primalengland

[@primalengland]

@@ParsimoniusConk As cool as a cucumber, as round as a melon, as old as Methuselah. 😊

[@kristinejensen2961]

You nailed it! I work in a medical office in Massachusetts with beige walls, no windows, fluorescent lights, a TV going in the background, and computer screen in my face all day long. We can't even keep a plant because of the lack of sunlight and electricity rushing through wires everywhere upsetting them. They slowly die until I bring them home to my peaceful place and they burst into life again. A summer spent on a porch and they are vibrant and happy. I have 1 week vacation away a year and I rent a log cabin in the woods to feel like myself again. But I never put together the idea of being surrounded by "the artificial" with why that cabin feels like how my life should be. Why I feel better there - I thought it was just that I liked the woods and was away from the 9-5. Listening to you, I realized what was happening to the plants is what is happening to me. Damn! Thank you Nigel.

[@primalengland]

Thank you so much. I love getting comments like this. Even at my age, I discover new things about myself every day. ❤️

[@miltongibson615]

Thanks for thinking of me and many other friends, as i sit here in my camping spot in Western North Carolina,at 3am, listening to the crickets and sounds of "nothing in head" im 63 and so attached to this stillness, have My own walls that i can go to, but only to change My phone and charger, grab some food and do the 13 mile Ride back to nature, thanks for reminding me why i love these mountains peace & love to you as well.

[@primalengland]

It sounds idyllic, Milton. I hope you continue to enjoy it for many years to come.

[@SirTalkAlot]

I completely agree with you mate! The problem is how do we make money when we just want to be free and in nature. I went for a great walk to the beach and back on Friday and felt great when I came back but then the reality of work on Monday hit in again, I don't think I can work for another 30 odd years when I just want to be relaxed and in nature.

[@DeborahPinder-f5t]

Maybe you could try differentiating between the two, job first to pay the bills and in doing so allows you to look forward to your free time in nature. It’s no fun having all the time in the world in nature if you are so skint that you can’t pay your bills. Hoping that helps

[@lenepedersen5506]

I think it is about enjoying the moment. Go to work and hopefully enjoy it, go for a walk and enjoy that. I can recommend reading how slow living started: it began with slow food and the founder said: you do not live slow every minute. You live slow or fast when you need to.

[@primalengland]

I went about it a different way, which turned out to be a bit of a double edged sword. Just prior to going to college I dropped out and went to work on the forestry commission. At 17 I was living alone in a cottage in the woods with nature all around. I loved it and swore never to do a job that I didn’t look forward to every morning, and that’s actually how it worked out. I’ve led a long and happy life. It’s been turbulent at times, usually because of my poor decisions. Trouble was, I never had any money, because idealistic, vocation led jobs rarely pay well. It didn’t worry me because I always lived a frugal life eschewing materialism. This was sometimes by necessity. I lived on a Narrowboats for nearly 20 years. There wasn’t room to swing a cat. I still managed to own my first house at 20 (Granted, it was so much easier in the 70s) Raised a family. Both my kids are very successful in what they do, and lose absolutely everything 17 years ago when I had a heart attack and lost my little one man business and went bankrupt. I now own nothing and rent a little place that costs me 75% of my pension. Thing is, I’m still very happy. I ask for little except the nature around me and the company of my dog. In most of my videos I say. ‘Live your own life. I’m just telling you how I live mine, but is incumbent on us to be happy. We only get one shot at this. Think long and hard. If you aren’t completely happy, then explore another route. You may not find one, but at least you know you haven’t missed out on an opportunity. I think it helps not to get caught up in the consumerism trap, but that’s just me. Good luck. I hope you find happiness. (I sound like an old hippy.)

[@lenepedersen5506]

@@DeborahPinder-f5t yep that is what I have always done: work and my time. I can do exactly what I want to in my own time. I have been lucky in both work and private life not by luck but by taking decisions in how I want to live 🍃

[@lenepedersen5506]

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[@dandelionwishes9842]

TY for the video 🙂

[@primalengland]

Thank you.

[@bobweber4140]

I love the wind

[@bobweber4140]

@@Dottiedolly52 oxygen yours?

[@blessedmum655]

Thank you again for allowing us into your stress free living. I live alone, it wasnt always easy after I felt the empty nest syndrome. My kids are my peace and joy. Always have and always wiil be. Nature comes second. If my children are thriving as adults then for me all is well with the world. Peace and love, see you on the flip!

[@primalengland]

That’s a beautiful place to be. I bet you’re a fabulous mum.

[@blessedmum655]

@@primalengland You know what....They are happy, successful and thriving as adults so I guess I was a good Mum. Their father opted out after we split up when they were young so I had to be both Mum and Dad. But if I had to do it all over again, I would. My own parents were absent during my upbringing, so I was determined to not repeat the cycle. As long as their is love and respect, you can do it. Everyone in this life has their demons to deal with. We all have our story to tell. Lead with kindness because you never know what someone passing you in the street is dealing with. Peace and love everyone. Have a great day!

[@primalengland]

@@Dottiedolly52 You make it sound exciting. 😊❤️

[@DeborahPinder-f5t]

@@Dottiedolly52 love that analogy 🥰

[@simbajohn1882]

I feel i complain more when something is bugging me.

[@DeborahPinder-f5t]

I totally get it Nigel, have the same experience as soon as I get in my Dads house 😂 blessings to you and the adorable Molly 🥰

[@MaineEmOcean]

Same 😢 Disappointed he's choosing to spend his last days (85) and just qualified for home hospice care complaining instead of connecting. When I get in my car I scream sometimes...this person raised me and I thought my parents knew everything...now realize why I have so many unhealthy fears.

[@DeborahPinder-f5t]

@@MaineEmOcean I am with you on this, the nostalgic view we have of our parents….seems like a different lifetime 😢

[@mariannavacratsa3451]

My mother never complained even at 96 unable to walk much ...many days I wonder about her and think how blessed we were ..she's gone now and I try and be like her ❤❤❤❤ nevertheless sometimes it is just tooooo hot in summer on the island and I do drop a complaint 🌿🌿 guilty I am 🙈

[@primalengland]

My mum’s sister never complained. She was beautiful and warm and lovely. She went too soon, just like my dad, who was just the same.

[@cynthiabonds8626]

No matter the temperature I always have a window partly open at night.

[@primalengland]

Me too! Even in the middle of winter, I need that feeling of circulating air.

[@BarryJPage]

Good morning to you and thanks for a very thoughtful video.. have a great day.

[@primalengland]

Thanks, Barry. Have a great day.

[@darkangelkate3950]

Good morning Nigel. Well it is still morning here in Canada 🇨🇦. I enjoyed that very much. The place where you were walking is lovely, as you said "bloomin majestic ". Nature doesn't have to try, she just is...majestic!! Its blowing here today too and cool. I love this weather. Keep on, keeping on❤😊

[@primalengland]

Have a great day.

[@Melodyflea]

Nigel, you are spot on....When the sun comes up, I too, will be taking a long walk out in nature.....enjoy your day!

[@primalengland]

Thank you. Have a great day.

[@thomasbortscheller8156]

Molly loves these walks, her tail never stops wagging 🐕

[@primalengland]

Ha! It’s funny you should mention that. Lots of people comment on her waggy tail. She really is a happy soul. 😊

[@lenepedersen5506]

Complaining is very easy it is much harder to make an effort to find joy and beauty. My parents were great and seldom complained: to them a coffee under a tree was as good as going to a fancy restaurant. People complain because today it is all about me and, honestly, few of us are interesting or perfect. A good day to you and Molly 🌳

[@primalengland]

I don’t think my mum started complaining until her body started to break down, but her mind remained sharp. I think it’s frustration. Problem is I’m the only one left around here. Sometimes I feel like a bit of a punchbag, but I don’t really mind.

[@lenepedersen5506]

@@primalengland I know. I also have days complaining when health is bad and I can't do what I used to: my world gets small on such days. I'm glad your mother is still very sharp that's also what I hear when you talk about her 🌹

[@cinnamon-spice]

Well done on the flawless delivery of "phenomenon". It's a word I always stumble over. I reckon old people enjoy complaining. It's a right of passage. They no longer give a toss about what others think of their opinions.

[@primalengland]

When I played it back I thought it sounded odd, until I realised I’d pronounced it properly, probably for the first time in my life. My mum says ‘I’m 96. I’ll say what I want.’

[@chaatman5754]

I get out in nature as much as I can. It heals and rejuvenates me. I walk my dog every day in the local woods, and at weekends, we go somewhere new. And for holidays I've dumped flying somewhere abroad and am now visiting places in the UK that I've been meaning to visit for years. This year I've already visited the Lake District and the Peak District. Next year I'll be back in the Lake District. I also hope to visit Somerset, Cheddar Gorge, Glastonbury, and (fingers crossed) some crop circles. I'm excited to explore the UK as I feel a deep connection here. Stone circles, henges, and megalithic sites are the main draw.

[@simpletruths5322]

Acceptance and gratitude ❤

[@torikeen5630]

I lost my mum a couple of month's ago, we used to say if mothers moaning all is well, we worried when she became compliant because something was really up, I'd give anything to have her here complaining about nothing.

[@happymtngal9874]

When I am in Nature such as yours I am mindful to take many deep cleansing breaths as well. Love the big feels and smells throughout…a reminder once again to do what is best for you in this heavily man made world. A thoughtful chat this hatless breezy day😉. ✌️ 🤟 to you both.

[@s.kurzeck3020]

Peace and Love! Hugs to Molly! 🪷

[@primalengland]

Thank you 🪷🪷. Molly is asleep, but I’m sure she would send hugs if she weren’t.

[@robertmaccreight4910]

It's the human condition to never be satisfied.

[@kirk4086]

Appreciate the time...

[@TravelingDan20]

Another great video! Newish here from New Brunswick🇨🇦😊

[@mariaetheridge8343]

What a gorgeous walk! That's one thing I yearn for... Here in Cyprus, at this time of year, everything is covered under a layer of dust, waiting for the rains to start and wash it all clean again. It's still so hot as well... I love the winters here when it's green and wet. No, I'm not from the UK!

[@elainestuttard5105]

Hi Nigel. Great video today 😊. Really made me smile about you and your mum. You two would make a great double act! My mum is in a care home. She's 87. She's more like your dad. It was my dad who was always moaning and complaining. It never ended! You are right about people and their opinions, and hoe they can influence us. It's great to get into nature and away from all the man made rubbish. It's the best therapy by a mile. Take care. Peace and love 😊

[@marylynch951]

Nigel you have made me laugh Talking about your Mum I know exactly what you mean about complaining i know someone just like that 😂😂 God bless you and Molly ❤❤

[@SimonDeBelleme1]

This is where simple living becomes controversial, if you are a man. I find that if you live alone, there is much less expense...and no complaining. Peace and quiet is the true bringer of happiness. No wife equals happy life.

[@Ana-jf1ch]

For women too, I've been alone for 5 years. I don't think I can go back to the stress of a relationship and to my happiness being dependent on someone else. I have my house and my pets, it's peaceful ❤.

[@primalengland]

I think you are both right. I got divorced many years ago. I don’t think I could compromise, in fact I know I couldn’t. I live a frugal, quiet life with little stress. Every decision I make is for and about me alone… and Molly.

[@christinegorton8476]

@@Ana-jf1ch Totalky agree . Bee on my own relationship wise for 15 years, just cannot comprehend another partner as all it does is complicates things uneccesarily.

[@robertlewis3116]

I agree with everyone here. Something about getting older and not being able to tolerate much. I was only married a brief time in my life. Been divorced for 30 years. Peace to everyone here.

[@1961kickboxer]

Aye brother your right

[@debzehr3244]

Fresh air…multiple shades of browns and greens…water=peace and tranquility. Makes it possible for us to fight the good fight of life. 💖 (Complaining is quite a nasty habit, isn’t I?) 😂

[@primalengland]

Complaining does no one any good really. I don’t think it really gives the complainer any pleasure and it drives other people away. We are a funny lot, us humans.

[@briank3564]

And i thought it was just my mother that complained!

[@primalengland]

No, it’s all mothers through the universe.

[@paulathefairy676]

Another great video 👍🏻 being positive and grateful for what we have and being in nature gives us joy 🌼 love seeing Molly just trotting along behind you 🩷

[@primalengland]

@@paulathefairy676 Thank you, Paula. 😊

[@lindyosborne4732]

'A head full of nothing' - I' m with you + Molly for sure . x

[@primalengland]

Ha! Thank you. ❤️

[@valeriewalker954]

I think we complain because we live alone and when people visit we can vent all the problems and feel better. Thanks for listening. ❤😂 i feel better already. It's time for grass and sun by the trees in my backyard 😊

[@primalengland]

Sun and trees sounds like a perfect combination. 😊

[@susankelly472]

I work in an office as you describe. The thing that saves me is getting out in nature witg my dogs afterwork .

[@primalengland]

Getting out in nature should be mandatory. Not getting out in nature should be punishable by prison time. 😊

[@jenniferbate9682]

Oh Molly, you’re so gorgeous…plodding along…pad pad pad….lovely to see you always jogging along behind Nigel. Xxx

[@primalengland]

She is very beautiful. 🐶😊🐕‍🦺

[@Ajax-t1q]

I have been lucky enough to work outside my whole life and it is were i wanted to be . Pretty much guaranteed the men who built the stone wall and path had friendship and comradery among them selves .

[@primalengland]

I think those of us who have worked outside our whole lives have a little ‘thing’, a little shared understanding.

[@TheFatesLieutenant]

The key, to me, is to understand the phrase “Know thyself” and, if you don’t like what you see, work to become what you do like to see - just keep in mind Eric Idle’s “You know, you come from nothing, You're going back to nothing, What have you lost? Nothing!”

[@LoicFoundGrace]

Really nice place❤ nice vlog ❤ new subscriber here ❤😊

[@primalengland]

Thank you so much. We appreciate it.

[@charlesmcleod619]

Moderate exercise for the body, daily meditation for the mind and nature for the soul. "He has the most who is satisfied with the least."

[@primalengland]

Perfect.

[@SuperTreemendus]

High Bullough Rreservoir. It makes an amazing short walk, lovely.

[@primalengland]

We’re up there at least a couple of times a week. It’s a bit quieter than Rivi and the carpark is convenient. We usually strike off on the path to the right that leads up to the reservoir and a couple of benches. They drained it a year or so ago, and when it was only partially re-filled there was a load of wildlife in the new grass that had grown. I’m recording tomorrow and may do it up there. Lots of my videos are done on the path around Anglezarke reservoir.

[@primalengland]

Ha! I’ve just realised that is where this was recorded. I’m useless. 😊

[@SuperTreemendus]

@@primalengland I live in Adlington, brought up in Horwich. It’s amazing I seem to be heading down the same lifestyle path as you. I like my own company, like to chat to people and be social, but I also enjoy the freedom of being alone. I’m going to get a dog when I’m sure I’ve got enough time to care for it. It is enough and is a peaceful way of life. I may se you around. 🙂

[@primalengland]

@@SuperTreemendus I always said I wouldn’t leave Adlington. I loved living there, but when I had to sell my boat and retire from my job on the marina because of cancer, Horwich seemed the obvious choice. I lived in Leigh for the first 50 years of my life….. anywhere is good after that. 😊 Make sure you stop to chat if you stumble across us.

[@SuperTreemendus]

@@primalengland Definitely will do. 🙂

[@keithrobert5117]

You cannot simply go off and do what you want if you have a family. Their interests come first. Sure, don't have a family. But Aristotle observed we are social beings. Even if you live in a cave, that remains true.

[@primalengland]

Please watch my videos and resist the urge to cherry pick.

[@Therese100109]

You had me laughing out loud several times🤣- my mom complains a lot, too, but she has parkinson's dementia, so she doesn't remember that she complained about the exact same thing a minute ago.😂 She'll keep doing it, and then if you stop paying attention, she'll complain "nobody around here listens to me."

[@primalengland]

I get the impression from my mum that she feels it’s an obligation to complain as you get older. It’s almost mandatory, and she might get into trouble if she doesn’t.

[@phillipcarter8045]

Old people are worse for complaining . 👵👵👵

[@primalengland]

My mum does it at Olympic standard. Mind you, I’m old, now. People must think I complain all the time. Oh, well…….

[@Seamus3051]

Some need to embrace their victimhood, "Ever silver lineing must have a cloud". Thanks for the positivity mate. Cheers.

[@primalengland]

Good flip there. I like that……. and I’m going to steal it. 😊

[@MaineEmOcean]

My father, 85. Just qualified for home hospice services. I've been helping care for him for almost 2 years yet find it extremely challenging at this point of life he complains more about things that don't matter (!) than having quality connecting conversation. Some days I walk out of his home after my shift and scream in my car...what a waste of his last days 😢 It comes off as ungrateful and unappreciative.

[@enlightenedhummingbird4764]

Have you told him he's draining your life force? Maybe he needs to hear it ( if he is still capable of comprehending what you're saying, of course.) Sorry for your struggles. These things are never easy. 😔

[@primalengland]

I think that as we grow into extreme old age, we are less able to contribute, to communicate, and we are dismissed by every generation that came after. It’s sad, but I think this might manifest itself in what seems to be resentment, but could be just a feeling of losing your ‘worth.’

[@pilpelet100]

Regarding your mum - the thing is that with people who live on their own, when they actually interact with others, they talk non-stop. All the thoughts that have been collecting since the last time they saw you come pouring out. If it's a person who is naturally somewhat pessimistic, then it will be complaints; if an optimistic person, then you'll hear about how beautiful the flowers in the garden are and the birds that have been seen, etc. The people don't want replies. They just want to share their thoughts with the first person they see. As to the rest of your video - I agree 100 percent!

[@primalengland]

That may be true, Ruth. My mum is a very pessimistic person, always has been, whereas my dad was one of life’s great optimist and I honestly can’t remember him ever sounding negative.

[@Seabreeze-r6z]

Good to catch up with you Nigel. Flipping heck though, where on earth are you walking? It is absolutely stunning 😍 I have access to a local woodland and have always appreciated its beauty. But as time moves on I am beginning to appreciate the privilege of this source of nature and wonder ❤ Thank you so much for your content 🙏

[@primalengland]

Hi. Thanks for the great comment. This is Anglezarke Reservoir near Bolton. I live about a mile and a half away. There are 5 reservoirs all grouped together over a few square miles. They are surrounded by woodland and moorland. This where most of my videos are recorded.

[@Seabreeze-r6z]

@@primalengland ♥️

[@miltongibson615]

13 miles on the bicycle.

[@primalengland]

I agree. I once got up in the morning, dragged out my bike and rode 120 miles to my brother’s in the north of the country. Even though I was a marathon runner I was still hallucinating near the end because I couldn’t take on enough fluid. It was both one of the worst and best experiences of my life.

[@albert2395]

Nigel, the other thing with being inside, is all the chemicals coming out of all those man made things. That is probably the real reason you get the headaches!?!

[@primalengland]

Spot on. Well! I never thought about that.

[@dogsbod2]

Nature’s where it’s at.

[@primalengland]

Very true.

[@dianegowland5866]

❤🦋🍁🍂🥰

[@primalengland]

❤️🐶🐶❤️

[@thegroove2000]

Dont forget to pick blackberries and other goodies provided by nature. Free as well.

[@thegroove2000]

Also taking photographs can be relaxing while out and about.

[@primalengland]

I posted a video a while ago about making memories using photos and video. My one vice is photography. We will be out shortly picking whimberry/bilberry on the side of our local hill. It’s a great way to pass the time, and makes great crumble. (I’ve tried making jam, but it always turns out like either porridge or concrete.)

[@thegroove2000]

@@primalengland That is the way man. Enjoy.

[@albert2395]

It could be dangerous out there, though?😮 You could be attacked by Wombles, their northern cousins, or the Clangers might mug you for your bright coloured cardi', or Hobbits may waylay you! You never know, 😂😅😊 you know.

[@jb6368]

Walk in nature or walk in a shopping centre. Thats options today.

[@primalengland]

Funny you should say that. I live very close to a shopping centre. I see my retired neighbours walking there two or three times a day. I think it must be boredom. If they walked exactly the same distance in the opposite direction, they could sit on a bench, in a parkland, in the sun.

[@simbajohn1882]

Nature is natural, that is there is no humanity in nature. Mother nature can be harsh and cruel to an individual member of the ecosystem, however this action is beneficial to the whole. Go to church every day. That is i take a walk in the bush. Can see the creators perfect design when walking in nature. Have a great day from northern ontario.

[@primalengland]

Those are wise and quite touching sentiments. Thank you.

[@simbajohn1882]

Your very welcome​@@primalengland

[@childlikejoy]

At work I get a bit shunned for not playing politics and complaining and gossiping, they think I'm dead boring, or a Pollyanna, but such is life. A little complaining might be nice to get rid or negative feelings but you got to get it out, and then MOVE ON! Fix it or accept it. A little discomfort builds character! :P

[@torikeen5630]

Nigel can ask do you contribute to the wylder app? If you dont would you consider it. :)

[@primalengland]

I had to look for the app, I’m not familiar. I’ve just downloaded it and created an account. I’ll give it a look over, but it looks great at first glance.

[@strawspulledatrandom.]

I think it's an innate thing to moan a little bit. Probably socially helpful ages ago but now everyone moans including me but I try to catch myself and say "stop complaining" This government and past governments certainly push us to moan 😂 anyway stop moaning about your mum and carry on! Great vid 👍

[@primalengland]

I can’t complain about my mum too much. She might write me out of the will.

[@ajohnson6890]

The staff is asked to enter with 3/4 of the solution when they bring me a complaint. Need I say more?

[@primalengland]

I was a supervisor for a drilling firm years ago, and my boss used to say. Don’t tell me what’s gone wrong. Tell me what’s gone wrong, and tell me how you fixed it.’

[@ajohnson6890]

@@primalengland "hehe" I can just see your eyes. ..how YOU fixed it

[@Stafford-h]

Perhaps a ‘bent’ to complaining is a lack of internal ‘art’ so one may go about complaining about others ‘art’. Just an off the mind thought.

[@primalengland]

Funny you should send me down a side road. Speaking of ‘art’, my mum is a practical person like my brother. They don’t seem to understand art, music, literature, at least not on a spiritual level. My father was a musician, artist, writer and dreamer. Very much what I am, and what my son is. He never complained, I don’t tend to and neither does my son.

[@Stafford-h]

@@primalenglandthat sounds like a ‘Bingo’. Thank you for the analysis, this assists myself greatly :)

[@John75Mulhern]

The school run in town here is prime example of a man made stressful situation. It happens twice a day and I observe it on my way to our nearby community garden and it makes me laugh how everyone is driving almost on top of one another. Too many man made things about these days 🙂

[@primalengland]

Funny you should mention that. I hit the traffic going to our local school this morning. I usually try to avoid. It was a nightmare. I used to walk back and forth to school everyday. Whatever happened to legs.

[@John75Mulhern]

​@@primalengland a lot of kids here live outside town so it's probably a 3 or 4 mile trek....not something many kids want to do. When I say kids I mean teenagers 🙂

[@primalengland]

@@John75Mulhern that was how far I walked once I’d got secondary/ high school. There weren’t many alternatives in those days. Not all families had cars and the bus service was useless. Our habits just adapt to changing trends. Funny isn’t it. I’ll gladly walk for miles round the countryside, but wouldn’t want to walk 2 miles to the doctor’s.

[@daniel22_22]

The complaining is our way to see ourselves as victims. We feel right to be victims as this way we consider ourselves as good. We are, finally, the good guys. In essence we hate ourselves so much that our ego is struggling to prove itself as good. We hate ourselves so much that we want to make others to suffer by making them villains in our mind. We are pathetic species.

[@primalengland]

Trouble is, the victimhood mentality is now lauded as virtuous. The world is upside down.

[@anthonyclegg1511]

Do you by any chance live in Rochdale Lancashire, I was born there, it reminds me of Healey dell were you are walking, thanks for the video. ♥️🐕.

[@primalengland]

No. I live in Horwich near Bolton . I hail from Leigh. I can understand the accent confusion. There are slight nuances between our accents. One common denominator is the rain. 😊

[@primalengland]

Btw. I know Healey Dell and I’m sure I recorded a video from there about 4 years ago, when we were experiencing moorland fires.

[@anthonyclegg1511]

@@primalengland OK, thanks.

[@johnshares444]

My wife is complaining constant that is why i go out

[@SuperTreemendus]

Women are never happy. They can really bring a fella down.

[@sqwidink1]

Stop moaning hahaha

[@primalengland]

That’s what life’s all about. You get up, you moan, you go to bed.

[@lindacleveland1289]

Like chalk and cheese you and your Mum 😁

[@primalengland]

We are!

[@doctork1708]

11 minutes of YOU complaining about someone else complaining…rich.

[@primalengland]

Now you’re complaining about me complaining about other people complaining…..

[@primalengland]

The first 3.25 minutes was me talking about complaining, the rest was about how environments may not be good for you.

[@union310]

Break up the man made environment with plants. Subtle reminders of what we wish to see.

[@primalengland]

True. I touched on this in a video I did about bringing nature into your home if you can’t get out and about. I don’t do this, because despite being a gardener for years, I kill every indoor plant I go near.

[@union310]

@@primalengland Spider plants

[@Vlad-bu3mr]

personal opinion as you get older you opinion seems to matter less to the majority as the world needs to be run by the young to stop stagnation so we moan instead. My moaning is not serious it more creates debate which I love.

[@primalengland]

That sounds exactly like me! I don’t tend to complain, but I continually try to drag my friends and family into debates, which can get heated. I have strong opinions and political ideals, but tend to leave that To the younger generations. They are the ones who should be making decisions about the world they have to grow older in. I’ve been there and done that. Time to just make a nuisance of myself.