SO-OCD Recovery

[@shanf5688]

I struggled with ROCD for a long time and now it’s switched to SOOCD. It feels super real and my mind comes up with all sorts of scenarios. I’ve never questioned my sexuality before- even in the midst of ROCD. It feels like another OCD tactic to try get me to leave my relationship. But I don’t feel super anxious like I used to- I feel almost used to it but it is uncomfortable. Is it quite common to get ‘used to’ anxiety so not feeling it so much?

[@aguywhohikes1271]

Hey Shan! Absolutely, when we have been anxious for so long we tend to think, "eh I can live with this" - but it's usually in a form of coasting and not wanting to continue facing discomfort to get better.

[@mominmasood]

Also I would add to Nick's comments - if you were to do an exposure right now, you'd probably not feel so 'used to' it. I would imagine the trigger response will be felt significantly.

[@iccuc1315]

hey shan, ive recently just been going through the exact same thing. i would love if you got this and dropped your instagram or facebook just so i could ask a few things and get a little reasurrancr amd tips. it would be really helpful. thank you

[@anemxia9393]

I had a little phase when I was younger (pre-teen), accumulated from a lot of things I should have never seen, where I experimented with the same gender as me in the sims or other ways, and that was later on the catalyst for my intense SO-OCD because my head keeps focusing on how I felt, what I felt, if I liked it, why I did and if I’d like it now. It’s become such a big issue that my head latches onto anyone the same gender as me that’s even slightly striking, and it’s ridiculous. I had it for 3 years without even realizing and it just got worse and worse and worse, now I’m scared to even see anything that has to do without someone pretty and the same gender as me because my head is automatically so afraid and sets off all the symptoms that scare me so much

[@riley6232]

I'm Straight, Engaged to my Mrs & Getting married to her & This HOCD is a nightmare! (I cant even say the G word by the way Cause every time I say it it triggers me) Everyday I have intrusive thoughts about my Male best friends trying to hit on me. & every time That happens I have to think about my time with my Mrs, Whether that is kissing her, & knowing what she looks like to make sure that that thought will stay with me. & lt also affects me when I'm putting on Clothes Like when I put a t shirt on If the Male best friends thought Image pops in my brain, I have to take it off & put it on again & Think of my Mrs & if the thought of her Stays in there I can keep my T Shirt on. Shopping's Worst as well, like when I pick out an item (Lets say a Pint of Milk) If the thought of my male friends pop up, then I have to Put the item back & Pick out another one while thinking of my Mrs then I can keep the Item. The Same thing can happen with buying Clothes as well. This has only just started happening for a weeks now, Like before It use to happen when it was like watching tv soaps like: EastEnders, Coronation street, Emmerdale, Hollyoaks you name it When 2 Men scene is happening I Cant watch That scene cause it will trigger me. If it was 2 Girls kissing it wouldn't bother me cause It felt like having to kiss 2 Girls with me there. What made me speak about this is because a Girl was going through this & a Black man who was going through the same thing on Tiktok & I was happy that I wasn't the only one suffering with this. If the Bisexual Word popped in my head then, That Means still Like Girls & I will only date Girls. But Being Bi isn't what I want & Only Heterosexual is all I want to me & will always Be Straight. But I just Want all these Homo (Also know as the G word) & My male best friends trying to hit on me thought images gone from my head, & Go back to Living my Life with My Mrs, Get Married to her & have a Family Together. I feel like when I become a Dad I Feel Like it will make it easier for me cause I want everyone to know that, Oh look at him spending time with his son/Daughter & His Wife Now that's a perfect Family. The amount of Times I've cried & anxiety I've had over these past few weeks Has not been easy for me. Another Thing as well is that I felt like I can only have female friends, I know anyone with HOCD is different About this but, Whenever I hanged out with Females including my Mrs. It made me feel like the guy who can get all the Girls & Is a Ladies man. Also I watched a lot of Lesbian Or Sexy Thick Girls Corn Hub (With a P instead of a C) And see a Downstairs Growing Response and I still did to The Thick Girls on there. Which I Still felt happy about it, But I didn't want Corn (With a P instead of a C) To be the recovery, So when I spend Quality Time with my Mrs, I feel like that helped me Cause I Can just look at her & See How Beautiful she is. I told my Mrs about The HOCD & She said They are just Thoughts & You Will always Be Straight & Your not gonna Become another Sexuality & She Will Spend as Much Time with me to help you get better. I hear a lot of people say the best Recovery is to Ignore the images & thoughts, which I tried that but it just kept coming back, The TV Actors one I learned to Ignore, But The Thoughts & Images about my best mates Is the one that kept triggering me & being stuck in my head. Another way People say is EPR Therapy, But I'm Scared that They will Judge me. I watched KZbin Videos About the People going through This, & I feel Like I can talk to them & They can talk to me, Because they will not Judge & and I will Not Judge them, cause they have been through this intense Battle. If Anyone has any Recovered Properly & Knows any Big Tips & Best ways to put a stop to This suffering Progress, Please Let me know & Reply to This. We will get Through This & You are not alone in all This. You are a Legend if you've read all this! Thank You!

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

Jesus, you wrote a book.

[@toldjojo]

hey man i’m currently going through this and it’s like absolutely the worst… i’ve been trying to do better and be good with my relationship but i just constantly think im G or constantly thinking G thoughts. its like messing me up as a man and messing up how i look at my girlfriend because it makes me feel like i don’t like females AT ALL. ive been with my girl for 2 years so i clearly like her but this legit just happened and im not here for it. i constantly have a anxious feeling of going around feeling G and it sucks. i even had a dream about my girlfriend and me doing the nasty but i blink and it’s me and a man and i legit got grossed out when i woke up thinking that i accepted that i was G and my mind made it seem like i liked it. i have a therapist and we do the erp method but it really doesn’t work for me im just always having a uncomfortable feeling speaking with my girlfriend and being around my close friends cause i just question myself

[@Aroundhere185]

@toldjojo just chill. Thoughts pass. It's all related to negative thoughts. Look into hypnosis and give this as little attention as possible and it just fades. Don't forget to laugh.

[@diananjm6116]

Thank u so muchh for this video🙏🏼 can you make more video about SO Ocd and give more examples on how to apply unconditional acceptence. ❤

[@FriendLi_Visitor]

It feels so extremely real to me at the moment... Trying not to do too much compulsions but freaking out again.

[@adamboss4197]

What’s the worst case scenario if you were?

[@lister11811]

Hi, I am so confused as I am in therapy for hocd/SOCD. And my therapist says anyone who is straight who has hocd is not Gay or bisexual. They said hocd isn’t denial, same sex attraction but can someone have HOcD and actually realise they are Gay

[@Angelo-ts4gt]

@@Dub_97 Yes, you can't become what you've never been overnight, but some people want people to believe it's possible.

[@devanshugarad]

When I first saw this video I was so angry at his perspective but now I get it

[@fynnive7211]

Another great video which I struggle with a lot. is it possible to have SO ocd merge with real event OCD? as I have real event/false memory intrusive thoughts about homosexual acts which lead to me having SO OCD.

[@aguywhohikes1271]

Absolutely Fynn! We work with that combination quite a bit - I am glad you enjoyed the video!

[@fynnive7211]

@@aguywhohikes1271ah okay, so it’s common for Themes to merge then? as I also have Pocd merge with real event false memory, the same way SO ocd merges with real event false memory. do the same rules apply with merging themes in regards to unconditional acceptance and breaking down core fears ?

[@mominmasood]

@@fynnive7211 Doesn't matter how many themes you have at the same time - the underlying fears and irrational beliefs mostly boil down to the same things.

[@arulajoy8060]

I have this ocd .

[@haydensmith-se3ii]

how r u now

[@arulajoy8060]

@@haydensmith-se3ii medication helped me lot bro ... i have fine now

[@giovannigiorgio6825]

@@haydensmith-se3iihow r u now

[@devanshugarad]

Same since 2019

[@gabrieliusgasparavicius]

What if your intrusive thoughts are telling you that you are in denial?

[@aguywhohikes1271]

Hey Gabrielius - Always remember OCD will make us doubt everything and from every angle.

[@anemxia9393]

OCD tends to be called the doubting syndrome, thinking you’re in denial is natural!