Something needs to change (… I can't keep doing this)

[@tiger-turtle6]

Glad you're putting yourself and your family first. You never need to ask the internet for permission to take a break. We'll be here when you get back.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

My audience is the best❤❤❤

[@kelliazzam1594]

I completely agree that you, Miss Abby, are just as deserving as your audience of resting and recharging your battery. We love you!

[@kelliazzam1594]

I completely agree, Miss Abbey, that you are just as deserving as your audience is of resting and recharging your battery. We all love you!

[@soilgrasswaterair]

In Scandinavia women do both because men also do both. How come women is still suppose to do the home and kids in the States and men can still work and not feel that stress?

[@kelliazzam1594]

@@soilgrasswaterair she's in Canada.

[@Ourse82Grizzli]

In 2020, I started intentionally wearing my work uniform while I was working at home, even if it was not mandated by my work. It was an indication to my toddler that I was working, because I was wearing work clothes… Then when I took it off and got in my pj or whatever comfy clothes, it was a message for me: “You’re done working. Don’t look at your emails or phone.” and it allowed me better quality time with my family.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

It makes such a difference

[@esb143]

Martha Stewart started Martha Stewart Living Magazine in 1990, when she was 49 years old. You don’t need to worry about a window of time.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

bless!!! she is such a powerhouse

[@blossompure]

She is fraud

[@wendiconrad6128]

I'm a single mom whose 2 boys are now grown. Maybe because of my situation, our lives were slow. We had family time each night, they went to bed a decent hour, we did fun but inexpensive activities on the weekends. No phones until middle school. They weren't in sports until they were in middle school and I never let sports take over our lives. Too many parents think giving children everything is what love is. That is not love! Peace, contentment, time together and teaching them right from wrong is love.

[@hunterwilliams7212]

I really love your comment. My mom raised my sister and I by herself and did the same thing. We didn’t have all the material things most other kids have but we had so much more in the memories we created and share now. As a mom now with 2 young girls, it really puts into perspective the important things. ❤

[@tammihinkley8428]

I am a parent educator, and in one of our meetings last week with I literally brought up how much I hate the pressure we put on parents that you only have them for 18 years. While this is true in some ways, if you love and nurture your kiddos, you get to have them as a part of your life until you leave this life. I am going on vacation with my 26 year old daughter and her husband next week. She calls me most days, and my son and I also have a close relationship. Yes, cherish your baby's and kids while they live at home. But don't pressure yourself that you have such a limited time to teach then everything and make all the memories in just 18 years.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

So happy for you!! This is reassuring for me too

[@resery1]

I love this so much! Full disclosure, I am not a parent, but I see this pressure in my friends so much. They are always discussing about how the kids are growing up so fast and they feel like they are missing out on these years with their children, but I also observe them loving every stage their kids are at. When they are newborns they love how cuddly they are.....when they are toddlers they take joy in them learning to walk and talk, and then school years and making friends and playing sports and on and on....and I don't see how they are missing out - I just see them enjoying their children at every age. And also I see them finding joy in aspects of their lives that aren't their children, their own achievements at work, at sport, time with friends, reading and talking about books etc. And as you said, if the relationship is true, children will be part of your life into their adulthood. When I think about my relationship with my own parents, I know that we each enjoy the time we spend together, especially now that I'm a fully grown 52 year old "baby"...haha.

[@emilyhutson4566]

​@@resery1Love your comments! ❤

[@KatrinaAmyT]

Yes thank you!

[@amandapatton3194]

Yes! Exactly!

[@thesupremediva]

I feel you so much on this as a working mom. It just never stops. I have immense guilt over the amount of time I spend working and on my phone. And over how insanely exhausted I am at the end of a work day, meaning I have so little left to give to my kid. It’s a never-ending, vicious cycle. All these reminders are so helpful and I’ll join you in stepping back and setting better boundaries. We deserve rest. We are NOT our productivity level. We are inherently worthy and don’t have to justify our existence.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Amen you deserve rest

[@marykayesugerman6843]

When I was in my 30’s I did it all: work, housework, laundry, shopping etc until I literally couldn’t get out of bed. I couldn’t look at a laundry basket without bursting into tears. Your body will go and go and go until it can’t anymore. Years of therapy and different medication and I thought I was fine until my body rebelled again. So here I am, disabled by age 61. Slowly I’m getting back my health cuz who wants to be retired if they can’t breathe and walk at the same time. Stay healthy if you can.

[@laurenschuster2963]

I'm 30, don't plan on having children but so needed to hear this. I definitely feel myself on the road to burnout and the guilt of not spending enough time with my husband, friends, family, cat. This has motivated me to prioritize my mental health. Thank you for sharing and I hope you enjoy your time off!

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Proud of you!!! It's a hard decision to make but worth it

[@valeriaavendano12]

As someone who is child free by choice, the pressure is immense to be even more “productive” - time to reset

[@mobstercrow7515]

Always put your pets first!

[@annrobinson9336]

I am 70, and I follow you for good information, humor, and because you make me feel good and inspire me. You are not expired! This being said, it is so important to take time for yourself and your family when you need to.

[@nancypattison7091]

I am in my mid 40's and I totally feel allof this. My oldest kiddo is turning 14 and my youngest is turning 11. I'm both a regular w2 employee and an entrepreneur and keep WAY too busy! Congrats to you for keeping yourself and your family in focus.

[@nicoler4583]

I am a 47 year old mom of 3 teenagers and throughout the years I have found every time they enter a new phase of life, I have had to reevaluate where I am. Also so glad you are putting yourself and your family first!! As my oldest is a senior and applying to colleges this year I can attest to how it flies by.

[@cjsfunbun]

I'm so happy you're going to make changes for the better of you ! You got this. ❤🎉 we love you but we love you prioritizing yourself.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Your support means everything!

[@mistyhelena]

Have a wonderful break Abbey! I'm currently on a 3 - month break from working due to burnout. It was tricky at first to let myself just do nothing. I've been spending a lot of time just in the yard (like just having a cup of tea outside) and watching youtube. After a while I stopped feeling guilty and really allowed myself to rest. Now I'm feeling much better and have the light back in my eyes. I wish you so much rest and recovery 💚

[@Annique]

I hit a burnout last year, at age 33, damn near that 32. Ground myself down physically and mentally but delayed seeking help because I'm terrible at that, until the inevitable happened and I crashed. The day I hold it against someone that they take a break to spare their sanity, you can go ahead and doubt MY sanity. Do what you have to do and take care of yourself Abbey, youtube will still be here, we'll still be here.

[@TamiHackbarth]

Friend Fridays - some friend contact every Friday. 52 dates a year. Legit changed my life in 2023. My mental health soared.

[@loriallred4727]

How does this work? What if closest friends don’t live nearby? and don’t have many local friends?

[@TamiHackbarth]

@@loriallred4727 I set up phone dates and Zoom dates. We go on walk and talks. We watch the same TV shows and talk about them.

[@alliemay6076]

I find this such an interesting topic. I work in healthcare. Many workers in my field are working multiple jobs. A lot of that is because they’re immigrants and they have family back home that they’re supporting, or they are trying to bring them here to Canada. But I also see people that are young and working their asses off for expensive cars, the latest IPhone, vacations and trips, eating out and getting Starbucks all the time. They’re young and they look tired and burnt out. I don’t even work full time, I have a humble house with a small mortgage and a husband who also pays half the bills, and generally we are happy and have minimal stress. People forget that life can just be what YOU want it be, without the need to impress others or have things you can’t afford. If I have to work overtime to buy something, I don’t think I can afford it. My physical and mental health is worth more.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Love this perspective, you get to choose what's worth it to you

[@21972012145525]

Ok but why does Starbucks cost so much is the question? Because the workers make less than you do in healthcare. Corporate profits and greed needs to stop

[@21972012145525]

I find it weird people blame Starbucks for their second job, but not the CEO of Starbucks wanting to buy their 30th yatch

[@meganredress4238]

This sounds like the wisdom of a woman with some life experience. Give those young girls time, they will stop keeping up with the Jones eventually.

[@JessAThomas09]

@@21972012145525 definitely agree - the CEO’s, boards, investors ect are the problem in most industries. CEO’s with Insane pay and no taxes and not a penny actually “trickling down.”

[@carrotlover7763]

I worked for a Gentleman that made sure that he ate breakfast with his children everyday and didn’t come into the office before 9am in the morning. I love that he was able to spend time with his family and how important it was to him. Work life balance is so important, take care of yourself. Thank you for what you do.

[@jules9185]

Enjoy your break Abbey. We will all be here whenever you feel ready. X

[@therapywithdestanie6598]

Hope that all good things come to you and even though you may not feel like it your doing amazing. As a mom and everything else in between. Wishing you all good things. Sending love and prayers from Texas.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Thank you so much. That means a lot❤❤

[@ChellDimitrev]

You’re doing the right thing. It’s scary how much I relate to what you’re going through. This video is actually making me think about changing a few things about my routine.

[@whentwobecomejohnson]

Thank you for being vulnerable and honest. I think these kind of videos are so needed in the internet right now and it has inspired me just when I needed it most!

[@kelliazzam1594]

Miss Abbey, you help so many people. You've been helping me lean into guilt free eating, which is astoundingly helping me with my disordered eating patterns. You are deserving of filling your own cup as much as you fill the cups of others. We will all still be here, watching your videos as they're both entertaining and informative. Thank you for helping me! Please take good care of yourself. Sending you love!

[@cassiec9965]

I'm a 40 year old mom of 2 and an engineer. I resonated with this. So. HARD. There were several sections I backed up and listened to over and over. I love your plan to lay in bed and rest in the morning. All the best, and please share what is working for you!

[@chloemcrobbie]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@peishancraken]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@snoopdoff]

Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@speedemonxs]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@peishancraken]

Is he on instagram?

[@snoopdoff]

Yes he is dr.porassss.

[@moonoverpisces]

As an entrepreneur myself I have had to really set boundaries with my family and with myself. The biggest thing I did for myself was to set up a morning routine that didn't involved touching my computer. I had to stop running for the coffee machine the minute I got out of bed. Eating breakfast before coffee was the best thing I did for my stress/cortisol levels, meditation, and breathwork, they don't have to have a "woowoo" component if you don't want them to. And set those boundaries with your time. And yes keeping the routine where you shower and get dressed every morning, it makes a HUGE difference in telling your body the difference between work and family time. Also fuck the world. You have to live your life for you. Enjoy your time off!

[@chapteroona]

So refreshing to hear! It’s really nice to hear a creator be honest about needing a change. Getting dressed for work and back in comfy clothes is a really good one. It makes your brain turn off work mode for sure. Hope you get to recharge and enjoy time with your family (without the pesky cell phone notifications)!

[@lightrose01]

I've been following you for a few years now, and you've helped me so much with my eating disorder. Please don’t worry about not posting! We’ve got your back! :) I also want to add that as you get older, so does your audience. Something I feel is missing in the social media world is the presence of "older" people. I'm now 31, and I also find myself looking for people my age or older on social media. Don’t pressure yourself just because you're in your "prime" right now. What you've accomplished is amazing, and I’m very certain that in 10-15 years, you’ll still be creating incredible content.

[@jenmessier2195]

Love you so much Abbey this hits home... 48 with a 9 year old., struggling with and ED, verbal abuse in my marriage and the realization that menopause is prob on my door in the next few years! I am struggling with debating serious changes in my life.... like a complete upheaval

[@CallunaNightWolf]

I understand. I'm almost 50 with 5 kids. After I was laid off because of COVID I did not go back to the same grind. I work less hours at a less stressful job for a little less pay. It has been a sacrifice financially but what I have gained In other ways far outweighs it❤

[@WickedVodka]

Thank you for showing us what it is to strive to have a better work life balance. I’m of the oldest gen z kids and it’s jarring to see all the older adults in my life insist that I should have a good work life balance and then watching them do the opposite right in front of me. Feels like a double standard but now I’m like fuck it, I gotta learn to work smarter and seeing you do the same feels very validating. Sincerely, thank you.

[@margarettsopanarias4816]

Abbey! We love you! Your words often reverberate in my mind as I have learned so much from your channel. I’m 44 with two teens. Take some pressure off about losing your kids. I’m having the best time with my kids right now. I’m 44 and still a Pia to my own mom so you have more time than you think 😂 You’re beautiful inside and out and trust that you will navigate change if that’s what’s in the pipeline for you. Sending you love 💕

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Aw thank you so much

[@2cats1gurl]

As someone who works in a fractional COO for multiple online businesses, YES ABBEY, let your team do the work! This is my number 1 issue with clients: getting them to step back, let go, and focus on the stuff that *only they can do*.

[@lizroberts7806]

You are divinely human. What a blessing to honour yourself through the highs and lows. It is 100 percent up to you to define how you wish to move along your life path, even if you change lanes 10 times in 10 months. Only you know what's best for you and your family! I've worked hard all my life, but being in my late 50s, I didn't have to navigate the online world (I can't begin to imagine how taxing that can be at times), so I applaud all your efforts, Abbey!

[@Lisamakes]

Don’t worry too much about the whole thing about your kids not wanting to hang out with you after age 12. I get it- I’ve had that moment of going “it’s almost over”- but mine are now 16 and almost 18, and it’s only in the last year that I’ve felt them starting to do their own thing more and more. And they still are very connected to us. You have time. Xo

[@ZoeStibiVocalCoach]

Go you! 100% in the same place. Your fans / followers / supporters will always be here and your mental and physical health is so much more important than work. If you break down there is no income at all. Have a great time away!!

[@charliebrown1184]

Incredibly well said and thank you for talking about it so honestly. I burned out at the end of last year and just kept pushing through until the new year when a review gave me an opportunity to make some changes. Without changing my contract work hours, I went to a 4 day work week. While this meant longer days at work it gave me an extra day to focus on the life part of my work/life balance. To spend time with family and friends, to rest and recharge, and to refill the well and focus on my health. I am still far from 100% but things are improving.

[@Queenofcats36]

Its so hard to stop feeling like we should be doing something. I started getting dressed every morning to make sure I differentiated between nothing and other things

[@taylorpatz2165]

So glad that you are making this decision! Sounds like you have a wonderful team that will become even stronger through this!

[@elle_ee_dee714]

I have been burning out quickly for the past few years because of simultaneous working, volunteering, and doctoral studies. I finally put my foot down at the end of last school year (I was working with a high school) and quit. Since then, I’ve done a lot of traveling with my husband, slept way better, and had a successful IVF round (2nd try), which I truly believe was caused in huge part by my taking a step back and reducing my cortisol levels. All I have to focus on now is finishing my last year of my doctorate and taking care of myself and my marriage in anticipation of a new arrival. There was a LOT of guilt that went along with this decision, and I know I am incredibly lucky to be able to be in financial circumstances to make such a decision, but I am so glad I did. Good luck on your new journey! It’s hard, but so worth it! And with a good team, you’re also providing them with a better example of leadership. 😉

[@rebeccafreeman9609]

'Too bored but also too tired to refill my cup' -- yep, totally get it. A great video, thank you. I would much rather see you less often but for more years than have you burn yourself out completely now! Well done for putting your health and your relationship with your people first xx

[@leahwilson4736]

Eat. Pray. Love. This hit me so close as a mom of a 9 month and 3 year old working from home. Coming off two contracts working like 70+ hours a week. Grinding to keep up with daily tasks. Wow. The not getting dressed Groundhog Day. Yes. Thank you for being real! Rest and recover. Be here when you’re back. Going to be taking my own rest now 😌

[@User_87937]

Bless your heart, dear. Do what you need to do for your own well being

[@martigallagher7250]

Phew! I feel that our stress is palpable to those in our lives as well as to ourselves. So pleased to hear you’re taking some steps to be you! Even that can be hard sometimes when we have so much structure every second of the day. But it will be so very worth it to be present in your family and friends’ lives. Wishing you a great break in the UK and striking the best reset for a more sustainable life.

[@MariauceyRD_Dietitian]

Another great video Abbey! As an aspiring KZbin dietitian too I can really relate to so much of this!

[@thethriftinglibrarian2041]

My kids are out of the house but I’m so glad that I didn’t have a smart phone when I was raising them. I think the damage/worry is real!

[@eleriangharad5773]

Commenting again now I’ve watched the whole video, I absolutely love that you’re taking time off. As entrepreneurs we’ve worked hard to have the privilege to choose our own hours, take time off as and when we need and use the money we’ve earned to treat ourselves to nice things and experiences. If we’re not using those time and resources what’s the point in working for ourselves, same with employment USE your time off!!! We only have one life and happiness must be the most important thing.

[@kathiesagert4299]

Love this!!!! More people, especially women should take your advice. Kudos to you!!

[@genenecianciulli3675]

I want to tell you that I love your content! You're brilliant and honest, and I love how you cut through the bs. The medication changed my life when I almost couldn't live one more day in the hell I was living through. Society has always put an expectation date on women, and it's so sad, but only if you allow it to. I think you need to stop with all this chatter and this pressure. Our 30s go so fast. Your children are the most important thing; they won't be young forever. Be kind to yourself today. Feel accomplishd, you are!

[@charis5a]

Thanks for putting out this video. I am a professional and a mom. Its been the best and most challenging time in my life. I feel overwhelmed all the time.

[@PonderNRave]

You are absolutely not even close to any “expiration” date Abbey! The online world of women - we are a mighty presence and we need women of every stage and age represented. I am a 42 year old working mother of 2 - a 5 and 6 year old. I watch 20 something fitness influencers and up on a myriad of topics. Keep doing you!!

[@learnnancy1979]

You do what you say!!!! Same age as my daughter and she broke down from overwork. I told her “don’t be that Mom” where all your focus is on your job!!!! She finally is dropping down to 20 hours for 6 months so she can be with kids, have time for herself, and figure out what would be best for her. She too had a hard time backing off. Lots of tears later she will finally be letting go and being her best self, starting Monday. You totally have my blessing!!! ❤

[@thepricklyonesbyyanawhelan]

Love this video and It's very relatable! I feel blessed and happy for my opportunities. My kids are growing up fast, and I'm always seeking ways to stay positive. I LOVE Being a Mom of 4 boys! I will always treasure those young motherhood years, and it’s nice to be reminded of how far we’ve come and how much fun we had (ahem…are having). Be Blessed Y'all!

[@CSivewrong]

Poppy laying on the couch in the back while Abbey is talking about burnout and overwork in the front lol.

[@RayBekk]

Praying you find rest, recovery and joy in a slower paced life.

[@jlw7189]

Hey, I'm 62 and I get burnt out in my business, as well. Married with 19 year old daughter. It ebbs and flows. You know when you need a break. Take it and enjoy your kids. You'll be fine. You're smart. You can get back on the hamster wheel when you need to!

[@NinaCasali]

I was lucky enough to retire at age 60 and all I got was constant questions about what I was going to do with my life and the guilt that I was able to just do nothing productive everyday and every minute. I feel you.

[@kyleaoconnell2598]

Abbey, thank you for being so honest with us; I feel so similar to what you describe. You serve as a positive model for health and wellbeing (and have changed my feed algorithms for the better!). Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. The cultural push for MORE of everything and your decision to say, "no!" Is inspiring and helps many of us to follow suit when the pressure is always on. Your audience isn't going anywhere while you take care of yourself and your family first! Enjoy your travels!

[@emmal4771]

I love following creators of all ages. You're doing a great job. Thank you for all of the intention you put into your work. Take care of yourself! That's important. Enjoy the time off!!

[@tiffviens2932]

I'm not a mom but I feel so many of the same feelings. Like I always need to be on and available and I feel needed constantly.It's so tough!!

[@sarahdemarrero3520]

I hit burnout in April. I’m an online fitness coach and was tired of trying to keep up with competitors that use photoshop and PEDs. It’s an impossible game that I’m trying to win at. Meanwhile my three kids are growing up. So I took a step back. Best decision I’ve made in a while. Now I feel like I can breathe and really evaluate what I want to do

[@PJillian5]

I’m 36, and I am still very much interested in your content. So us “old people” got your back!! ☺️

[@eliciacheney84]

I'm glad that you're prioritizing your physical and mental health! I definitely know what you mean about parenting being monotonous sometimes. It's often so hard to have the energy to do something outside of my routine. And like you said, I don't want to miss out on time with them. I hope you have a great time with your boys!

[@elanafelberg1733]

Yes yes yes!! Take vacations with your family Abbey! Take a break during the day. We love you and your content

[@aliciaholmes6726]

I’m a single mom of 3, and I wake up before my kids to have the time to myself. I do not work, check my phone/email for at least 2 hours after I wake up. I love my early mornings, it’s my favorite part of my day.

[@hannahgreenhargreaves9447]

Everything you've said is so relatable. I'm a new mom, and I'm trying to find some balance between making a big career change and enjoying my time with my daughter while she's little. Too much of either thing makes me feel burnt out, and that will be a balancing act our whole lives. - Enjoy your holiday, and as soon as your face pops up on my feed, IMA BE WATCHING 😙

[@NadiaGerassimenko]

I've been watching you awhile and absolutely love your approach to nutrition. It has helped me tremendously to be more balanced in how I cook and eat. I wholeheartedly root for you to rest and recharge as much as possible. We'll be happy to see you when you on your own terms.

[@Coffee384]

As different as our lives are in some ways, when you discuss mental health, I feel completely and totally understood. It’s likely because of you that I have tackled some issues, gotten on meds, and a likely ADHD diagnosis at 40. Still a long way it feels from normalcy, but I appreciate when you share these things.

[@lizuchis0912]

Abbey, I find this very relatable. I‘m not in the same situation as you but you‘re not the only person with this mindset and struggling with these kinds of thoughts. I (unfortunately) totally get you. I really do. 💜

[@malaplava4865]

Bravo girl ❤. You are important not only to your family but to us🎉. Hugs from Florida

[@myflowertherapy]

I can definitely relate, I'm a business woman and Mother to two teens. I've learned to figure out one focus for each season. I think it's important to define each season of life for yourself, and realize you can't do it all. Setting strong boundaries in my day is also huge. Even now, once the kids are home from school...the phone and emails go away. Weekends are for rest and fun. I check my emails once on Saturday and Sunday, and provided nothing is on fire. ...I put the work away. Also, I hate "hustle" culture. Without good sleep I get ill. Over time, poor sleep is just plain dangerous. Best of luck to you on your journey:)

[@mama2beanz]

I was in the same boat a few years ago. Cut back and it’s helped a lot! Always a continuing challenge. Sending you hugs!

[@worthyyou923]

Love this and seriously very proud of you for choosing this. I’ve been fortunate enough to be able to be home with all four of my kids. My husband is a wonderful provider and supporter and we watch our kids be so well rounded and secure because we chose for me to lay down what I wanted in terms of career to sow into our babies. It’s seriously such a problem in society that motherhood isn’t enough and worse isn’t a job…such a lie and taking a toll on healthy families. We need more available mothers to create healthy attachments and long term healthier human beings. You got this abbey!

[@Lightning_Scarlet]

Hi Abbey, You've inspired me in many ways to make healthy changes in my life. I appreciate how realistic your advice is. I especially like your videos about finding ways to make comfort food (like boxed mac and cheese) healthier by adding other foods to them (like cottage cheese and broccoli). The way you focus on adding, not removing, makes nutrition much more accessible. Last week I tried your protein tip to replace rice with quinoa and chicken bone broth. I was so impressed that I plan to cook it weekly now. I find that it blends with so many good foods: cooked spinach or kale, roasted broccoli, basil, bacon or ground beef, chicken, pumpkin seeds, cheese, etc. I actually just finished my weekly grocery order and added Greek yogurt, cottage cheese, goat cheese, and feta cheese as other add-ins to try with the quinoa bowls. I enjoy finding similar ways to make my favorite comfort foods more nutritious. Lately I've been experimenting with chocolate ice cream; peanut butter powder and pumpkin seeds go well with it. Another one of my favorite treats is peanuts and chocolate chips, to which I now add hemp seeds for extra protein with a subtle but nice flavor. I hope you take the time you need and find the balance you are looking for. It's a little funny I saw this video when I did; as I was finishing my grocery order just 30 minutes ago, I thought to myself "I should tell Abbey that her quinoa tip is good!" Then I went to KZbin and this was on my homepage. So, I figure now is the time to share with you the positive impact you've had on my life. Take care!

[@AbbeysKitchen]

aw thank you so much. thats so lovely

[@ashleychang7379]

It's hard but it seems like you're making the right decision for yourself and your loved ones, so they'll get to enjoy many, many more happy years together with you. I'm a new mom and I LOVED my work as well, but I had to make a similar decision to pull back a bit and focus on my health and my baby- ofc, only a privilege few can take but we make due by living simply and frugally. I hope you strike the right balance for you after your time away and ENJOY that precious time! :)

[@irinab9470]

Gosh Abbey, you are a gem 💜 these real, honest videos are everything to me and all your fans! Literally in the same state with you again (last time it was sleep meds!) and all I am learning to do now, as a 33 year old full time working mom of two is to be "lazy". I seek out things and activities that my brain somewhere down the road labeled as "lazy", and they're absolutely magical for my brain's ability to recharge! Not going to say "Keep going", rather "Keep looking for your peace" and enjoy TS, from a heartbroken Swiftie as she's not coming to New Zealand!

[@jenayward7909]

Abby, I run a very very small business and I still have decided to step away from social media for a bit and just be in the now… you should be so proud of yourself for coming to that realization. Enjoy the disconnect…. We ALL need it💛

[@jessicajacques6994]

Thank you for this video! It felt like you were talking directly to me, but from the comments you were talking to so many of us. I have been a long time follower and have been so grateful for all your content. It hold a special place in my heart as a GTA girly. I hope you have a wonderful time travelling and will be here for whatever content, at whatever frequency❤. Thank you Abby.

[@TanyaBouzaglo]

I can relate. I've been a mompreneur for a very long time. I dont really take time off. Burnout is real. All of these expectations that are self imposed. Now throw in menopause for me 😳. Working on balance. Hugs to you mama. We can do hard things 😉.

[@Nu5916]

Love this so much ❤ thank you for your vulnerability. You expressed so many things that I haven’t been able to articulate but now am able to see clearly. I hope you have the most wonderful time traveling and taking care of yourself 🙌🏼

[@mac-ju5ot]

I took care of my nephew's from age four weeks to age ten. I remember my sister working a 12 hour day and NY brother in law wanting their kids back it was my honor to do such care but I also felt torn...it was hard in me when they moved .life goes by so fast e not your children

[@judyhaynes209]

Have a safe trip! Enjoy your time with the kiddos. I am traveling to the UK next summer so would love to see a video when you get back of healthy eating suggestions while abroad. Take care❤

[@Lawlllz]

Abbey, you’re a great role model, you’re a great mom, a great worker, a great person, and you look great. Not past your expiration date by any means!♥️

[@livwell-or1zj]

I’m happy to hear that you’re making some changes. Please take the time you need. We appreciate you and support you. We will be here when ever you post . It’s all good ,you got this.😊

[@carriehagstrom9777]

You’re showing us all the importance of taking care of ourselves! Enjoy your time off!

[@aliciaanne]

I'm so excited and happy that you are taking time for yourself and your family. Trust me, we aren't going Anywhere! Enjoy and take all the time you need!~~~

[@silvanatotarella4395]

What I did which helped...got off Facebook. I have a do not disturb as of 8 am and certain individuals will come through. I put me first (food and exercise). I too wake up early (too early 😅) and I take that time to sip my coffee and have a yummy breakfast before my workout...it is terrific because everyone is sleeping and it is me time .

[@beatrizneves304Youtube]

I really resonated with your video. I can see myself in your situation, and it makes me feel both compassion for you and a reminder of the importance of our studies. It's crucial that we keep ourselves accountable and support each other, rather than competing in a negative way. Thank you for sharing your journey and these important insights! Let's keep lifting each other up. I am so happy that you took responsibility and prevented yourself from a harmful situation. You actually acquire credibility for following your own aligned advice. Be happy 💛💖🧡

[@hananasrah]

Its okay we will be waiting for you whenever and if ever you feel ready!

[@jtran2931]

This is so timely for me! I returned to work full time after 6 mo of part-time & staying home with my baby. Now LO is in daycare full time & i broke down crying earlier this week cuz i feel like we don’t have enough time together! I hate that we have to work so damn hard to afford to live. I hate that i only see my baby for a couple of hours each weekday 💔& then weekends are inevitably catching up on laundry, grocery shopping, meal prep. It feels like a vicious hamster wheel.

[@323EML]

I worked full time while my 3 sons were growing up. I balanced promotions with family. I wish I had slowed down so that now, in my early 60s, I am burned out and can’t wait to retire.

[@danastonerock]

I feel this hard , Abby. Thank you so much for sharing! In school for a masters in nutrition, current course is looming and daunting then it'll be consumed with more research in the Fall. Dealing with back/ pinched nerve from a week ago, and because of pain, not sleeping well the past week. Etc etc etc. We all have our struggles, so I just keep telling myself one day at a time, one thing at a time and that all i can do is my best. I'll be 42 in October. While I do miss my 30s, if you just embrace it, 40s are pretty great!❤

[@ruthannbrown7143]

When I went back to work after having both my kids, I was listening to a momma productivity podcast on my commutes. One day she was talking about how the key for productivity is actually setting aside time to do nothing and just sit with your own thoughts. Obviously while driving you can’t do nothing, but I took that as my sign to turn it off during my drives. It was really what I needed. Now I work from home, so finding that time has been harder and I can definitely tell. This is a good reminder to set aside that time daily to just sit and not scroll.

[@Ourse82Grizzli]

I used to have a similar issue to yours (waking up really early and work… More out of anxiety induced insomnia than anything). What I found helpful to get rid of the guilt of this “wasted time in bed since I can’t sleep anyway”, was to take resting as a task. It may sound counter intuitive, but if you are task driven or oriented towards productivity and that ruins your sleep, taking resting as a task to be done can trick your brain and stop the hamster wheel spinning with “I should be working right now” or “I should be doing x, y, or z”. If I wake up at 3 am and can’t sleep because I am thinking of things I have to do, I start thinking: “I am busy right now, doing this very important task of repairing my body.” I try to visualize cells being repaired by sleep and more often than not, it helps me drift back to sleep until my kids wake up.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Thanks for sharing this!!

[@_oaktree_]

I used to really struggle with insomnia, and still sometimes wake up earlier than I want and need to. One thing I've used as a mantra is "resting is almost as good as sleeping". The point being: it's important to rest the body (and mind!) even if you're not literally asleep. So staying in bed is fine, even if you are awake. But it's also important not to just get on your phone while in bed and go on social media or read the news, because that is not mentally restful. Even looking at chill stuff on instagram (like kitten videos) is very activating to the nervous system, from what I've heard, just because of the nature of social media app design. Read a book (on a paper-style e-reader or actual print, ideally) is far better.

[@evad15]

as someone who was a workaholic CEO with a 6 year old child I can relate. My superpower was not being able to rest. I felt guilty to sit down and rest for more than an hour a day. Three things my therapist said really resinated. No one on their death bed ever said they wished their worked more. Family and friends is what brings the most meaning in our lives. You cant have everything at the same time. Keeping all of those things in mind, I took everything off the table. And only added back what would fit without me burning out. I now work 30 hours a week and I make less money (atleast for now) but I finally have a life that feels sustainable. I wish you all the best, take the time you need. And remember your value does not come from how much you can achieve.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

thats super helpful

[@abahagan5938]

A very good plan. I wish you the best and resonate with what you're going through. I'm also trying to figure things out with work and family.

[@elissa3188]

If you wake up at 3am say, and want to fall back asleep but struggle, 1 thing I found that really helps is sitting up in bed, putting my feet together so they touch - like a "butterfly" position, - taking a few deep breaths, the leaning forward, letting my body roll down and stretch out my low back while still keeping my eyes closed and breathing slowly. This causes me to yawn a lot and really deeply relax, (never getting out of bed or really opening my eyes much- I try to just keep them lightly closed) and then after a few minutes, I lie back down and I fall asleep quickly, almost without fail. It's amazing.

[@FlyingDubja]

I hope you know that you are allowed to be grateful for your life AND be struggling. Also, I don’t think anyone is on their deathbed thinking “Man, I wish I spent more time working and less time with my kids.” If you need to take a break, take a break! You are allowed, nay ENCOURAGED, to prioritize yourself. You’ve got this!

[@AliMagCox]

I’m in my 50’s and learnt that you can’t have everything, I tried. What I got was a huge dose of parental guilt and a very average career. If you want/need to excel then you have to choose, what you REALLY want, or you choose to do everything ok, but not great … you know what? I’m ok with having an average career and being an averagely present parent…. It’s ok to be ordinary, it’s also ok to choose an other pathway. The way to stress is comparing yourself to others, it will suck the joy out of the life you choose.

[@andreabalcer989]

Way to lead by example. This also made me think about my life and phase I’m in. It’s definitely time for a change. Thank you, Abbey! Take care of yourself so you can take care of others.

[@VanesaLaura30]

You got this girl! We'll all be here when you come back 🥰❤