Struggling to let go 😔

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Stephanie Lyn Coaching

Stephanie Lyn Coaching

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@dannyturczyn763
@dannyturczyn763 9 ай бұрын
My heart got so caught up in trying to fix everything and make it work I lost sense of myself and what I was really trying to hold together
@Spiritual36
@Spiritual36 8 ай бұрын
Me too. Looking back I carried the relationship and he put in min effort. Now, It's hard to think why I allowed this behaviour. Why was his breadcrumbs ok? Why did I try and fix him when it wasn't my responsibility? I know it springs from childhood neglect and abuse. I was conditioned not to see toxic behaviour as it had been normalised. Giving myself plenty of self love and forgiveness now. Focusing on becoming healthy and standing up for myself. Took going through chemo unfortunately but I realise I am important and my needs matter.
@marianellaarguedas2196
@marianellaarguedas2196 8 ай бұрын
Me too
@Paka96756
@Paka96756 3 ай бұрын
Same, gave up me to try to appease her. Never again 😎😎😎🙏🏾
@ylana4444
@ylana4444 9 ай бұрын
We are mourning “what was supposed to be”. That’s the message. Wow ❤
@MrDangerhere
@MrDangerhere 9 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry he did that to you after just having a baby. Shameful. As a man I apologise.
@roseybeenken9848
@roseybeenken9848 5 ай бұрын
My narcissistic ex had to go on vacation because HE needed a break from my breast cancer. The divorce of 28 years was final on my 2 yr survivor date God taught my how strong I am
@sherryjacobs3907
@sherryjacobs3907 9 ай бұрын
After 39 years of loving someone, it's gonna take a minute......no matter what he did/didn't do.
@danielskyles6184
@danielskyles6184 9 ай бұрын
43 for me 😳
@steadypace1262
@steadypace1262 9 ай бұрын
True.😪
@annetterhynold5177
@annetterhynold5177 9 ай бұрын
It took me 2 years after 34 years of marriage. Take the time to heal and look after yourself❤
@GesineZuchanke
@GesineZuchanke 9 ай бұрын
31 for me
@therocknrollcook
@therocknrollcook 9 ай бұрын
This is brilliant 😢❤
@rebz-wt6bp
@rebz-wt6bp 9 ай бұрын
Wow! We are mourning what was supposed to be, not the person. Incredibly on point. Truly thankful for this video. I’m going to save it to watch over and over.
@steadypace1262
@steadypace1262 9 ай бұрын
When I read the title of this video my immediate thought was that we hang on to an impossible dream. I think the covert narcissist may be the hardest type to leave because they have a natural ability of controlling people's mind's. They have been practising their brainwashing skills for a long time and they enjoy the endless mind-games they play on other's. Narcissists have hardened their heart towards love and only God can change their dysfunctional way of thinking and behaving. That takes commitment and narcissists are afraid of commitment, they don't like it.
@Wallewallewalle91
@Wallewallewalle91 9 ай бұрын
I have been divorced almost 5 years. My ex husband is not involved with our children and he has moved on and has other children. I really just want to let go and move on but sometimes I feel him in my spirit. Sometimes I miss him.. I am trying to give myself grace but its been a long time to be holding on.. 😢
@CS-sk6ii
@CS-sk6ii 9 ай бұрын
"Has moved on and has other children". What. A. Monster.
@abdelrani1888
@abdelrani1888 9 ай бұрын
I am about to divorce and I have 4 children. I should explain to you something: it's my future ex-wife decision and I tried mu best to save my mariage. I did get into mariage to please her, i did have four children to please her, and I am all about when you get into mariage, it's for lifetime. But she has decided to put herself first over the whole family although i explained to her i won't be a better father with a divorce trauma, and I won't stand for someone who had rejected me and children interest. She took her decision. Now she has to eat her own s... I will find someone else who truly understand what marriage is all about. I am focusing my energy on my own future and I won't be easing her life any way. She fought i would be around her and the kids even if she disrepects me. I WON'T. She thoughts that she would get my attention, my energy and my money and i would still be pleasing her after divorce by taking care of children even if i pay child support. NOT ANYMORE. I am all about me and my future special someone now one.
@onyxsafira2813
@onyxsafira2813 9 ай бұрын
Hes not involved w/his offspring from his previous marriage (the most important part of a mans life to be Investing in is his kids) & moves onto another woman & has other children. A painful reminder of my biolological father Abandoning me! :( Being denied a father is a Huge life-ruining wound/Scar. Thats not something I can let go of. I hope you can somehow.
@wexlerESQ
@wexlerESQ 7 ай бұрын
praying for his new partner 🙏🏼 what she must be enduring knowing her husband is capable of doing that to her and theirs HOW SAD
@darthvader78441
@darthvader78441 4 ай бұрын
I was involved with a high functioning, high profile Borderline. He couldn't commit to a partnership as he had 2 failed marriages already. After months of up/down abuse, I left. 1 week later he was on dating sites. 8 months later he was married. His "partner" is 35 years younger than him. My ex is wealthy. It was a massive blow to my confidence. Worst experience of my life.
@dustinnadeau5151
@dustinnadeau5151 9 ай бұрын
Your timing is impeccable... so accurate on all points... I keep believing that she'll have a miraculous change of heart and see how far we've fallen and actually want to be better... but alas that hasn't happened yet... I find myself keeping holding out hope in spite of the downward spiral she keeps herself in... out of spite for the most part... My heart breaks for my wife and how much unnecessary damage that's been caused...
@assplundah
@assplundah 9 ай бұрын
Same here. It’s so heartbreaking when they’re so self-sabotaging!
@Thisjourney17
@Thisjourney17 9 ай бұрын
Wow, Stephanie! How heartbreaking to go through all of that just a month after a c-section! And I just want to ask what kind of woman is ok with being with a man who would walk out on his wife a month after she brings his child into this world? I would think that is the biggest red flag ever! Thank you for sharing some of your story!
@lynnann3078
@lynnann3078 9 ай бұрын
Thank you! I absolutely needed this today. 3 years ago I left an 18 year marriage that was really toxic and yes it’s more like mourning of what you thought you had. I still have a lot of anger 😡 of him dumping a life of almost 20 years for another woman. It’s very heartbreaking 💔 and it can really mess up your mental health. Keep up the good work you do here on KZbin ❤️
@JUSTINBARROW10
@JUSTINBARROW10 9 ай бұрын
Totally agree @lynnann3078 - 23 years married for me and all of a sudden she said she didn't love me anymore - She left and moved out to rent her own place and left me and my adult sons at home - haven't seen her and neither have the sons since and its been 16 months - heartbreaking and yes ripped me to pieces, emotionally, physically and mentally. Hope you and everyone else who has been through this is doing ok and the best they can and if you struggle always reach out to those around you and talk because that helps.
@kimberly8839
@kimberly8839 9 ай бұрын
This message was really on time! I was thinking earlier today, what’s going on, why am I still grieving a relationship with someone who was horrible to, who lied, cheated and disrespect me. This message helped me feel better in knowing that healing isn’t a race, it takes time and it’s okay to mourn a loss, regardless of why it happened. Anyway, blessings to you..
@tonymorph3672
@tonymorph3672 9 ай бұрын
My ex and the mother of my child monkey branched to a long term “friend” six months ago. They have been living together for two months and take my two year old daughter out like they are a family. I keep thinking it will fizzle out but it doesn’t appear to be after six months officially together. It’s still so raw and hard. I long for the day it doesn’t hurt anymore.
@blueseptember2174
@blueseptember2174 Ай бұрын
Thank you for painting the picture. As sad as it was, your story gave me comfort that you truly understand the depth of the grief that were all feeling too. Thank you so much for giving back to us broken ones so we can heal ❤
@Remsterdam
@Remsterdam 9 ай бұрын
Thanks for this Stephanie, a lot of your content is really useful for me. One thing that i found getting over someone was that i was projecting my ideal picture on them. And that it was not them, but what was coming from me, my personality, my heart, was what made it feel so special. The world does not stop spinning with this person, it’s their loss more than yours and the best of you will simply go to someone else in the future who is more deserving and more on the same page. Just let go, the longer you hang on, the longer you keep hurting for no reason and before something better comes along. Warm greetings from The Netherlands and keep up the good work!
@DreamerEasy831
@DreamerEasy831 9 ай бұрын
It's been 3 months since an unexpected breakup. We almost made 4 years together. I can say it gets easier every day. Listening to your advice sure is helping. Thanks.
@DavidRose-t4m
@DavidRose-t4m 9 ай бұрын
Super helpful video, thanks Stephanie! at about 20 minutes in you talk about was this relationship good in this way? no. this way? no... and the point you bring out is that we're stuck in the illusion of what we hoped it would be rather than what it really was... Right On! So a quick saying I got from a friend who's an online relationship coach is... "we don't grieve the relationship; we grieve the illusion" keep up the amazing great work! : )))))))
@debann7609
@debann7609 9 ай бұрын
50 yrs and 70 yrs old...having a very hard time...thinking about 10 years from now. Wish I would have let them really go 20 years ago
@Ron-om8np
@Ron-om8np 8 ай бұрын
48 years and 74 yrs old here. I hear you! Foolishly held out hope for way too long.
@lilsumpn
@lilsumpn 8 ай бұрын
That is huge age gap... you'll be newly retired ready to enjoy your life and you'll be changing adult diapers
@juliejarrett4508
@juliejarrett4508 7 ай бұрын
40 years and 61 years old………me too but we must have had our reasons for staying so long so I push the regrets away and make the best of it now. Very sad moments though.
@Justehthought
@Justehthought Ай бұрын
Every thing you said rang true. Even though we know its toxic or not good for us we hold on. I miss seeing my girls everyday and the betrayal of believing we would stay together no matter what. Thank you for this podcast. It truly touched home.
@elenamaldonado7304
@elenamaldonado7304 9 ай бұрын
I am so sorry that situation happened to you. This happened to someone else I know. How horrible someone could do that when you're pregnant with their child or just had the child. This situation didnt happen to me exactly, he left when we moved across the country and our son is 5 years old. I am mourning what could have been. I have anxiety with that and my job to the point I am sick in the morning everyday now. I definitely feel unattractive after all of this. I try to remind myself its not just me and its not all my fault. I appreciate these videos. I will get through this even though it feels like I won't. Thank you.
@CallsItLikeISeizeIts
@CallsItLikeISeizeIts 9 ай бұрын
Stay strong 💪
@valeriezaitzieff1462
@valeriezaitzieff1462 9 ай бұрын
❤🙏
@bumblebee_ms
@bumblebee_ms 9 ай бұрын
I had a horrible breakup years ago and my family and friends kept telling me everything he did. That hurt me more.
@davidduval5566
@davidduval5566 9 ай бұрын
Wow I'm sorry that happened to you My ex just said I dont love you anymore after 15 years 3 children and moved right on to the next
@danielskyles6184
@danielskyles6184 9 ай бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that David. Focus on you and your children. Mine left after 40 years. I think its demonic. The enemy seeks to destroy families. You deserve better 😊
@rachelbrady387
@rachelbrady387 9 ай бұрын
Wow my story is the exact same, except my husband. He literally woke up on a random Sunday morning and left. No fight, nothing. 15 years, 3 children. This was in 2022. Now, I have found out the details and I'm glad he's gone. I'm praying for a healthy relationship in the future. You are not alone and will find true happiness one day.
@lilyonyoutube2991
@lilyonyoutube2991 7 ай бұрын
I gave up on humans temporary conditional and transactional LOVE 😢
@Truth-matters-v2z
@Truth-matters-v2z 9 ай бұрын
So helpful and so very accurate. Thank you. And so sorry for how his discard went down. Truly unbelievable.
@GarryBurgess
@GarryBurgess 9 ай бұрын
I don't understand why and how you can stop loving someone. That must be very painful.
@MichaelKurzhal-fg3jm
@MichaelKurzhal-fg3jm 9 ай бұрын
Hey Stephanie, my name is Michael. I’m from Oregon. Hey for one, not only is that guy the biggest piece of trash that divorced you a month after you were having your child you know you’re a beautiful lady you have a successful mindset. It looks like a great personality, and then he’s got a child. That is the most wonderful gift in human existence. So he’s got you and then he’s got a son. I’m sure you guys had a place together. Nice house nice rig what have you? I just cannot believe that he would leave you in your most vulnerable time when actually, that would be a time that I would shine. I loved to do things for my wife I’d love to be a part of the baby and a part of her and the cuddling I don’t know I guess guys are different, but that was one of the greatest times in the face this earth I can’t believe that he did you like that. I’m so sorry and I mean that!
@roxy7255
@roxy7255 9 ай бұрын
Gosh Steph no wonder your videos are so good I cannot believe you went through that a month after giving birth.
@yallcrazy302
@yallcrazy302 9 ай бұрын
Been feeling really bummed out and crying. It’s been almost 2 years.
@Paka96756
@Paka96756 3 ай бұрын
Sooo true, this is the time to work on myself 💪🏾 Moved from lonely to alone and enjoying life more than ever 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thanks Steph 🤙🏽🤙🏽
@darkmoonastro3792
@darkmoonastro3792 6 ай бұрын
This was so helpful, I’ve been stuck in the blame stage, blaming myself and all the psychoanalysis. Thank you for reminding me that figuring out what exactly happened in the past is not actually what’s going to help me heal. It’s all about building that self trust and beautiful life again. And, I realized I don’t mourn him, I mourn the fantasy of him.
@AnAussieinNorway
@AnAussieinNorway 9 ай бұрын
Thanks for this. 1.5 years out of her abuse and violence. She’s not a good person. I’m still struggling how it could happen. Got lovely exes I wasn’t bothered about after splitting. This one was hard.
@Ryan_Mac
@Ryan_Mac 9 ай бұрын
Wow,, Steph I have been listening to you for literally years now and you have helped me through so much. Almost to the point where I am not sure I would be here right now if you had not been there for me. Of all of the videos over the years I believe this one is one of the 5 most powerful videos you have done. This is exactly what happened to me nearly word for word. Thank you so much for what you do for all of us.
@cathyperry3746
@cathyperry3746 9 ай бұрын
I've been married for 43 years, I should have left about 12 years ago! When a lot of stuff came out, went to therapy and all that but he didn't do the work! He's been a sex addict from the beginning of our marriage, I didn't know it at the time until I was about fifty, he started gaslighting me to try to make me crazy! I divorced him about 4 months ago! I'm 62.
@brendaharding8010
@brendaharding8010 9 ай бұрын
Good for you ❤
@danielskyles6184
@danielskyles6184 9 ай бұрын
Great video Stephanie! I focused on all of our good times together. I always tried to look at the positive in people. Especially my spouse. After 40 years she just walked out on me. I am glad my children were adults then. Cannot imaging having young kids and going through this. I don't know who she is anymore. Thank you Stephanie for all that you do to get us through ❤
@traelmate37
@traelmate37 7 ай бұрын
This particular topic I have on repeat - for the simple message "Letting go of the dream" and "We're mourning for what was supposed to be". This goes to everyone who believed in the better tomorrow.......that never came - may our souls find rest from the torment we are experiencing from our heartbreak.
@TrippiePineapplz
@TrippiePineapplz 6 ай бұрын
The only times I think about my ex is because I have constant dreams of them. It makes it difficult that they are always good dreams of them. Literally its not in my control. This is whats frustrating. I have zero desire to be with them in real life. Im not trying to think about them and Im truly happy each day he doesnt come to mind. But these dreams are killing me.
@blueseptember2174
@blueseptember2174 Ай бұрын
Relatable
@Travelgal710
@Travelgal710 9 ай бұрын
Awesome points. I did the breaking up and immediately started missing the chemistry, the fun we had & what it 'should have been' vs the issues I had problems with. Re- visiting the reasons I ended it was a big help. 👍
@Julesawakened
@Julesawakened 9 ай бұрын
What a horrible piece of dirt, to have a child with your wife then leave her just after giving birth when she is most vulnerable. He will get him karma for sure. Bless you ❤
@secheclare
@secheclare 9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! Was very proud when you asked if we checked their social media, I said no. I deleted his profile and it seems to be working. This video is a gem!
@ElBlingo
@ElBlingo 8 ай бұрын
5 years. I just can’t move on. I’m still so deeply in love with her. I have to see her everyday at work and act like I don’t care. It’s destroying me.
@zrated3505
@zrated3505 8 ай бұрын
I work with my ex too and it’s incredibly hard to see her all the time. She’s already moved on and in another relationship and the mental gymnastics I have to do when I’m around her is crazy.
@BWyatt05
@BWyatt05 8 ай бұрын
His loss! For sure.. my situation is really similar to your story. Can’t believe a man could do that to his child and his wife. How do you explain that to the child later on in life?
@blastprosful
@blastprosful 9 ай бұрын
I think age groups makes a difference in coping, how to handle and expectations. 20s , 30s, 40s, 50s,
@SergMilli
@SergMilli 9 ай бұрын
Damn! Getting dumped a month after giving birth for another woman is wild. Good for you on getting passed that. Makes my situation seem really small by comparison.
@natalielorena6597
@natalielorena6597 9 ай бұрын
I've just found your channel and I am so so sad for what you went thru, you're so beautiful, I'm sure his loss was bigger. I'm in a painful place trying to coparent and wish I could fast forward this part to the healed, better version of me.
@propsaganda
@propsaganda 5 ай бұрын
Preach sister preach! Someone recently asked whether I’d get therapy for my future divorce. I honestly told them “no” as this channel was in my mind. Although I’m a guy and an African American at that, I resonate with so much of what’s being said. Please keep these videos coming! I’m in the healing process and this helps a lot.
@rceliamendez
@rceliamendez 9 ай бұрын
I had watched so many videos I thought there’s nothing more to learn. I was wrong the way you explained was very valuable to a new learning thank you so much for this video.
@StephanieLynCoaching
@StephanieLynCoaching 9 ай бұрын
You're very welcome!
@jonstallo9738
@jonstallo9738 9 ай бұрын
I was able to recover faster after the end of my 25 year marriage than I am the loss of my best friend/life partner after 3 years. Its been 3 months and I'm devastated. I can't lose this one forever. I'm holding out hope we can reconcile.
@phild5034
@phild5034 9 ай бұрын
I had to replay the video at the point where you said, " He asked for a divorce after one month after your baby was born. WTF? Wow. 😢
@sabinna8350
@sabinna8350 9 ай бұрын
:(
@spirituallyprotectedtarot9071
@spirituallyprotectedtarot9071 9 ай бұрын
I’m struggling now. I know it’s time to release the pain. I literally had a moment last night 😮 I go through moments of blocking and unblocking.
@StephanieLynCoaching
@StephanieLynCoaching 9 ай бұрын
It’s like that part of you is over it but then still mad. It’s a mind flip constantly
@HY-td8ru
@HY-td8ru 9 ай бұрын
I miss the dream and story I created in my head. I don’t really miss him, I guess. 😔
@margaritavalencia6762
@margaritavalencia6762 9 ай бұрын
This video really helped. I’m still going through this situation and although it’s been a year 18 months that my husband left for another woman I can’t help but catch myself wishing he wanted me back and made the needed changes. This is a fantasy and he is no good for me. He didn’t c my worth. He sees the grass isn’t greener on the other side but yet he still can’t undo the damage and pain. I know what I deserve and my daughter too. He lost his family via his choices of continuous infidelity. But why do I still want him to look for me and beg? Why can’t I just focus on me. He’s what I think about always but I’m so angry. Therapy is helping but co parenting is hard. I’m just a mess 😞
@StephanieLynCoaching
@StephanieLynCoaching 9 ай бұрын
That’s your wounded self that wants to feel good enough for someone to change and do better. It’s about healing her not the adult in you that knows better. Change is hard and painful regardless if it’s the adult in you or child but the wounded child is the part of you that feel bad inside.
@Qhht.Illinois
@Qhht.Illinois 9 ай бұрын
I wish I had your strength to speak out. Much love💕🙏💜
@KainKustomGarage
@KainKustomGarage 9 ай бұрын
Thanks Stephanie, been a year and it's still a struggle....
@StephanieLynCoaching
@StephanieLynCoaching 9 ай бұрын
It takes a long time! No judgement on the amount of time it takes 🩵
@JohnSmith-ij4xe
@JohnSmith-ij4xe 9 ай бұрын
I have found that the one that wanted me didn’t want a heart to heart talk and address the problems or whatever it was underneath the surface so I just started backing away since I saw it going no where. It was and is super hard since she won’t open up since she is scared and then throws the “I don’t trust you card” in my face when I was trying but she seemed to want it all her way. I know she has problems(she has to fix them herself but if she will put the work in I would be there for her as support) but it still hurts when you love someone and they throw the I don’t trust you card in your face. That just pushes me away faster not address what’s really going on. I don’t ever get fully attached even when am in love with someone as am use to do everything on my own. I am all in though and completely committed but it’s like why bother if they are so hurtful. Struggling is real
@SigmaFeminine
@SigmaFeminine 8 ай бұрын
oh god that was me for 10 years. Get away get free ❤
@susiegray7094
@susiegray7094 6 ай бұрын
Me too Stephanie he left the day I had my c section after hitting me. The strength it took to survive that with no family around was huge. It has changed me forever and u have spent the last 6 years working on myself. Thank you, you have helped me more than you will ever know. ❤
@Sanreann
@Sanreann 9 ай бұрын
How long does the beginning stages last? It's been 6 months since it's been over. I'm still crying and I'm still blaming myself.
@CharlieB1109
@CharlieB1109 9 ай бұрын
Always painting a picture of false reality. That’s how we get so stuck and depressed. Not seeing the bad side of it.
@Robin-vl5gm
@Robin-vl5gm 9 ай бұрын
This was the Best video you are so right this hit the nail on the head thank you thank you I’ve Learned so much from this ❤
@StephanieLynCoaching
@StephanieLynCoaching 9 ай бұрын
So glad!
@leonasmith1000
@leonasmith1000 9 ай бұрын
This is exactly what I needed today, thank you! My situation is very similar to you, although my baby was 9 months old when my partner left me for his physiotherapist. It’s only been just over a month since he dropped this bomb on me and its been an emotional rollercoaster but am taking one day at a time. If I could cut him out of my life 100% it would be easier, but since we have a baby girl together, I can’t do that. So it is difficult for my mental health to see him regularly. I am mourning the life we had and the future one we were going to have. He is showing he has moved on and totally over me and our relationship, which really hurts. After listing to this it is clear that I am truly mourning the life that was supposed to be. It’s still difficult to deal with but listing to your videos have been very helpful. I listen to the one about not being bitter every time I’m feeling angry towards him. Thank you 🤍
@kathy5847
@kathy5847 9 ай бұрын
Its been 2 1/2 yrs since my ex left me. My ex is not on social media so I don't have to struggle with not looking ar his social media. I am far from over my ex. One thing I never hear about no matter which videos or podcasts I listen to /watch, I never hear anything about remaining in love with your ex. Isn't it just possible that a person can or will always love their ex?? No one ever mentions this ( that I have seen) situation. Why can't it just be that I have loved this person for a long time and will always love this person? I have great respect for this person.
@mikewalker8008
@mikewalker8008 6 ай бұрын
Thank you sister! I hear my story in yours and I am finding healing on this journey.
@aprilvaughn9781
@aprilvaughn9781 9 ай бұрын
I thought something was wrong and I was crazy because at times I felt like could I go back to him. In all reality yes I will be a fool. You have no idea I needed this Stephanie ❤
@streetkombativesystem4704
@streetkombativesystem4704 6 ай бұрын
I swear, your the best! Cheers!
@dannyturczyn763
@dannyturczyn763 9 ай бұрын
This is dead on correct it's exactly what I've been trying to figure out I'm mad because it was supposed to be beautiful and it was horrible
@davidduval5566
@davidduval5566 9 ай бұрын
Thanks Stephanie I listen to you all the time
@justsayit476
@justsayit476 9 ай бұрын
Unfortunately, I am not able to say that I was not complicit in the break up, which makes it so hard for me to feel justified at feeling hurt, he did hurt me physically and mentally. We were toxic to each other. He does not feel bad at all
@ChiefCedricJohnson
@ChiefCedricJohnson 9 ай бұрын
Psalms 140:4 Keep me, O LORD, from the hands of the wicked; preserve me from the violent man; who have purposed to overthrow my goings.
@AnitaPoeAcuna
@AnitaPoeAcuna 9 ай бұрын
I'm so happy I got KZbin on my computer, I can watch your videos .
@nayafacts965
@nayafacts965 9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing
@George-wx5nv
@George-wx5nv 9 ай бұрын
Thank you Stephanie as someone else just said your timing is perfect your videos are so helpful ty ❤
@Brightstar765
@Brightstar765 9 ай бұрын
Thank you, very helpful,thank u for sharing ur journey too, so many of us can relate to u, ❤
@sarahelders7288
@sarahelders7288 7 ай бұрын
Thank you 😊
@SergMilli
@SergMilli 9 ай бұрын
Ugh I needed this video today. Thank you.
@StephanieLynCoaching
@StephanieLynCoaching 9 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@pavschodyko6531
@pavschodyko6531 3 ай бұрын
Jeez, Stepahnie you help us all here❤, but let’s show empathy for you and what you went through - one month after the birth😮😮
@nobodysweeter
@nobodysweeter 9 ай бұрын
Thank you for helping me so much after almost 3 years. I am almost there but can slip back from time to time and that’s when I go to you once again ❤
@StephanieLynCoaching
@StephanieLynCoaching 9 ай бұрын
It’s a process with no judgement because this isn’t easiest to work through.
@inspiredx3866
@inspiredx3866 9 ай бұрын
Takes a lot to be vulnerable. I think people also, although heartbroken, try to give defense to what the other person did. How you go from one-day you're the best thing they ever had to brush you off like you're nothing. Takes time and growth, they did wrong , you didnt.
@davidsisson2026
@davidsisson2026 17 күн бұрын
I think social media magnifys our hurt. I havehad to learn to stay off.
@StephanieLynCoaching
@StephanieLynCoaching 17 күн бұрын
It can also help you heal the hurt which we all feel
@MichaelKurzhal-fg3jm
@MichaelKurzhal-fg3jm 9 ай бұрын
I was in a 12 year marriage up till seven months ago when I was discarded after she walked down the road to cool off after an argument. Bottom line I did not see it coming. I mean there was a few rough patches in our marriage. She like to argue and fight more than any girl I’ve ever been with turns out she’s a covert narcissist I didn’t find that out till two months after she discarded me I didn’t even know there was narcissist existed. It’s been seven months since she discarded me. I should hate her guts which part of me does, but I still love her even after all the stuff that she did to me and the stuff that I’m just finding out that absolutely blows my mind that she would do and be able to play it off normally like she did she’s got to be absolutely mentally sick in the head I mean, she told me I was her soulmate, her life partner, her twin flame best friend told everybody all the time with what I do for her and how much I do for her that I was her rock, and this was all the night before she discarded me, but she told me that the entire marriage she made love to me all night long, and then discarded me the next day
@ladyvirgo013
@ladyvirgo013 9 ай бұрын
My husband of 12 years did something very similar, there was no argument, he gave me the silent treatment, slept with me 2 days prior to leaving and immediately moved in with a bimbo from his work, changed his number. I only see him at divorce court
@biba350
@biba350 9 ай бұрын
After 9 years together The way he ended us he ghosted me what about closure
@jeffallen2460
@jeffallen2460 9 ай бұрын
5 mo. Out still struggling
@pierremercier4724
@pierremercier4724 9 ай бұрын
Leaving you after the childbirth of your son just because Mister didn't find you as attractive as before was so rude and cruel! You have all my sympathy, Stephanie. At least, this unsensitive behavior showed the real personality of your ex-husband: a selfish and despicable bastard. Thank you for sharing with us this sad and unbelievable story.
@WarmandHardy
@WarmandHardy 9 ай бұрын
It’s been a year and I still text my ex how hurt and angry I am. She ignores me and just moved on like a marriage and two kids was nothing.
@prettyuniquell2011
@prettyuniquell2011 9 ай бұрын
Nah I’m DEFINITELY over him!! I’m just having a hard time forgiving myself for staying too long 😏
@kingdomtalk3264
@kingdomtalk3264 9 ай бұрын
This video was much needed I appreciate you for this!
@aprilvaughn9781
@aprilvaughn9781 9 ай бұрын
Oh I needed this Thank you 💯
@UKSteveRhodes
@UKSteveRhodes 9 ай бұрын
Thank you, timely.
@lovitajohnson4760
@lovitajohnson4760 8 ай бұрын
Beautiful, great info.
@rosaliaoliver-qv3gr
@rosaliaoliver-qv3gr 9 ай бұрын
❤❤Stephanie,Thank you the best ❤❤
@wilsonsouza3972
@wilsonsouza3972 9 ай бұрын
Nice landscape ❤❤
@jmdennis1967
@jmdennis1967 9 ай бұрын
One thing I saw on youtube was a guy talking about how the narcissist will get you pregnant so even if you two are no longer together they can keep a hold of you have to deal with the kids. Interesting concept but one my ex is going to have to deal with no matter what happens to the two of them.
@HashBandicoot356
@HashBandicoot356 9 ай бұрын
I am a big middle schooler...so I am dealing with this towards someone whom i was never even with but just rejected me. I feel a weird, toxic pull between us in person. I think it's very likely she just likes my attention but not me. I am struggling to deal with no contact since our friend group is like 80 percent overlapping.
@pja9142
@pja9142 9 ай бұрын
Thank -you 🙏
@MichaelKurzhal-fg3jm
@MichaelKurzhal-fg3jm 9 ай бұрын
Hey Michael, again from Oregon, he should’ve put you first you just got done having his child you carried that child for nine months, which is a chore in itself. It’s a job in itself. He should be making sure you’re first and that child is first my God that’s what a man does for his family. I don’t know. Sounds like an absolutely selfish, coward, self-centered coward. He needs to treat his queen appropriately. She just had his child My God I just cannot get over that. Sorry to repeat myself.
@rrowFernando777
@rrowFernando777 9 ай бұрын
Happy Sunday Stephanie👍, God Bless You🙏
@annettet7941
@annettet7941 9 ай бұрын
Always great content. Thank you ❤
@StephanieLynCoaching
@StephanieLynCoaching 9 ай бұрын
You are so welcome!
@paulohlsson27
@paulohlsson27 9 ай бұрын
Hi Annette, how's your day going with you?
@davidduval5566
@davidduval5566 9 ай бұрын
Another crazy thing is I met her when she had a 4 month child I became dad to and built a family of 5 but everything happened for a reason
@Laura-AnneMusika
@Laura-AnneMusika 6 ай бұрын
Your Great!!!❤️❤️
@michaelvandenheuvel317
@michaelvandenheuvel317 9 ай бұрын
Never
@sarahgraham2447
@sarahgraham2447 9 ай бұрын
i needed this went through the same thing ❤
@johnny-fn1ji
@johnny-fn1ji 11 күн бұрын
myself I was mourning a fictional character, someone that wasn't a real person.
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