It's trauma, what you've been through! The FEAR of Letting Yourself be Happy.

[@wil3d82]

Stephanie you are truly a Beacon of Light for us in this dark valley we are walking through. Thank you for your experience, education and vulnerability...its truly aiding us to make it out the valley to the other side of the Healing Journey. ❤ I'm praying for you all the time... your empowering a army of survivors. Which in time will help others through their valleys. Knowledge is Power... do the difficult work, slow down... feel, heal and move forward... process, overcome with action. Happiness comes from Within.

[@phoenixangelascensiontarot5840]

Wow, Thank You beautiful beloved young lady Stephanie Lynn Love FOR posting this video, because I had NOT ever thought of it in THIS WAY of being afraid, and scared of letting Myself be happy in My OWN personal real life it's seriously strange to realize that I've JUST BEEN afraid, and scared of letting Myself be happy in My real life so I guess it's TIME FOR Me to actually get Myself back into Therapy so I can finally let Myself be happy FOR a change in My real life Thank You again Steph beautiful young lady Love Sincerely Love Your dear friend Shane "The Pain" from Maine, Aka. Zer0, keep being wonderfully amazing beautiful young lady Steph Love !!!🥰💜💯

[@fitlife1205]

I can listen & look at this woman all day & night 😍🥰

[@dreamchaser7603]

In therapy people are often encouraged to keep their victim mentality, whereas the real change happens when you are being confronted on your bs and challenged to overcome your fears and let go of your ego… People don’t realize that a lot of times it’s not their souls and hearts are being hurt, but their big ego gets wounded…

[@ckl5801]

Great video!!! I’m tired of hearing all about the Narc relationships I have been in and I really want to hear about how to move forward and be healthy so I don’t make the same mistake. Thank you!

[@Lainers1013]

Thank you for this video! I have been getting to know a guy for the first time since my divorce and all of these things you discussed are coming up for me due to my childhood and divorce/abandonment/betrayal trauma. I have done so much work on myself and healing and felt somewhat ready, but didn’t expect these things to be triggered so much. I see it as another phase of my healing process that I wouldn’t have the opportunity to experience if I didn’t choose to be vulnerable and cultivate the life I want now! Again, thank you! I appreciate and have learned from your wisdom! ❤

[@tamarajacksonpeanut5256]

I've been learning how to deal w all my messed up life..I been working for at least 35yrs..It's difficult 💯

[@donnalee7379]

I’ve been following your channel for a while now, and I appreciate you, your work & your content so much. There’s another side to the coin here Everybody has the right to heal, learn & grow. Self preserve and strategically place themselves in a position to discern what is healthy for them and what is not To be vulnerable to/with someone, that someone has to be earned. It’s not automatically given, given freely, nor assumed They have to prove to be worthy & of being a safe space to be vulnerable with/to & demonstrate the qualities such as leadership , honorability, integrity,, and trustworthiness. Be dependable, reliable etc. and do it consistently because it’s their persona. It is the content of their character. I can only be vulnerable to someone that is worthy of being vulnerable with . Most do not want that position, and men do not know how to be men anymore which is why there’s so much conflict of interest & confusion And some malicious enough to represent themselves one way and demonstrate another. I hope you get more in depth about this soon

[@Halcyon-12]

Acceptance is easy to understand the resistance to embrace it more of a challenge the emotional drag of trauma snaps you back like a bungee cord get better feeling what you’re feeling and staying with it, because what we resit will persist when feel how it feels in the body we are truly accepting it not pushing it down and running away from it. When we accept the feeling we also accepting what is an undeniable truth nothing lasts forever, and this pain will go too, accepting that allows happiness in and healing process to begin a whole lot sooner

[@sashad.7722]

So glad that you share your experience. Thank you❤

[@jewlzn7130]

Thia video made me cry. Like a baby. I went through so much trauma as a child. When i was myself, i was made to feel bad. Almost as if they wanted me to reject myself. So, i have learned to depend on myself. I have walls up and have no vulnerability at all.

[@tamarajacksonpeanut5256]

I will get a puppy before I get in another relationship..I don't want to start over w anyone...

[@victoriughh]

This!!

[@tamarajacksonpeanut5256]

@@victoriughh ???

[@superneang1201]

That how is feel

[@yvonnewalker8322]

Puppies rule!

[@brendaharding8010]

I got a pug 😅

[@George-wx5nv]

Thank you 🙏 great talk you got me bk on track

[@erod6469]

I have so many walls up. I try to let people in but it is very hard. I am very kind and trusting person but I have a very hard time depending on people. This has made it hard for me to trust anyone.

[@chocolate70]

Thank you Stephanie. ❤ The timing for the message you share in this video is 💎. I need to start to put my walls down, NOW.

[@mayolasbones6831]

You are so cute. Thank you for your wonderful energy. As we get older sometimes our needs change. Being with and spending time with God alone can be very freeing. It's seems to have the peace that doesn't change. Learning to accept ourselves with the good points and also accepting ourselves with our faults. Being at peace with the Lord.

[@mayolasbones6831]

God does not expect perfection. Only God is perfect anyway. God wants us to trust what can be done with our lives as we walk together.

[@victoriughh]

As a recent divorcee from a narcissist gaslighter and cheater, THANK YOU 😢😢😢😢

[@superneang1201]

Me too

[@Synchrothron]

I'm sorry you have to go through all of this. I wish you all the strength 🫂

[@biozio186]

You are a life saver steph!!!! Thank you for everything

[@TD-nf1qo]

Amazing video. I love that you are willing to share a bit of your own story/journey in healing, to share that you felt you had dealt with your trauma and a friend pointed out more work that needed to be done. It's the story of my life. These insecurities pop up everywhere and when you uncover one, it leads to another and another - it's like peeling an onion that continues to grow itself as you peel back each layer....never ending and lots of tears. I love this channel. Thank you.

[@ronnie-lynn]

3 years, still not ready to consider a relationship. Maybe one day ❤

[@romerlydramos]

Oh ... 6 for me! You'll be fine xo 😊

[@av2155]

I am very fortunate that I found you Stephanie. 💚💚💚

[@hajarsweet870]

I absolutely love the videos that you make and the energy you have. Each time, you videos remind me of how far I'v come and the steps to take to better myself and be there for me. Much love from Morocco! ❤❤

[@serendipity2345-k8r]

uk version is et cetera , pronounced /et'set(a)ra / Im sure there are many variations throughout the world both in spelling and pronunciation. I don't care how Stephanie pronounces her words its what she says that is important and useful to me.

[@cherylmcelman6648]

Giant walls! Let the same covert Narc into my life twice with a two year period in between. Now I finally get it and recently mustered the courage to end the relationship for the last and final time. Damage done; however, I am finally on a journey to healing, boundaries and self love. Also knowing that I deserve more. Thank you Stephanie, I have learned so much from some of your videos that totally make so much sense. ❤

[@lustertone8587]

So many points that I can relate to and am currently working on understanding and healing from to be able to become the best version of myself that I can be. Thanks for your continued encouragement and insights into how to accept the small wins and move forward with a brighter outlook for ourselves and our lives.

[@romerlydramos]

Hello (Venting here, just sharing)... once I dropped the constant hopefullness and fully accepted that life would be very crappy for a whiiiiile thats when i felt better. The 'happy disposition' placed a deadline (sortof) in my mind & when nothing happened, sadness followed. And yes the slowing down does help. Thank u Stephanie xoxo 😊😊😊😊

[@Catsandtren]

Love from Cologne, Germany 🫶🏼

[@ckl5801]

I receive it ❤❤❤ and back at you!

[@calmcrinkles]

Real life examples for situations would be so helpful

[@jamesbishop9156]

Beautifully said, Stephanie! ❤👍✌️😎

[@ellistine8139]

Tyvm, i appreciate your help! God Bless You!

[@1CrispyCracker]

Thank you, excellent message.

[@TIG2MAN0]

My dad was a huge abuser and I had to limit that relationship. I'm 36 and haven't seen him in 8 years. I went to a funeral a while ago for my aunt (his sister) and he shows up after using chemicals, and its just hard to see going downward so fast. he publicly disowned me.

[@TracyJane67]

Morning Stephanie, this video came at exactly the right time, I'm still having trouble with this nearly 6 months into no contact, it doesn't help that my abuser has moved in with his new girlfriend who looks like my twin just around the corner from me x

[@KeloChiganoooo]

do you have a podcast? i love your teachings

[@sanjeevbains690]

Let ❤️ in …

[@RezaBarzegar-e4m]

if you want to Let ❤ in, first wear an emotional armor and prepare for the worst, even then you will get hurt but it hurts less

[@shelleyalgar-ff3wr]

Thank you, you really help me. From Shelley

[@_cr8ive_]

Add to all of that, Church and religion . . . and it makes it 100 times worse.

[@johnmaurer2035]

Can you increase the volume please?

[@RezaBarzegar-e4m]

getting remarried after a divorce,whether it's your ex or someone new, is like you once put your hand in a hole and something bites it, then after you're healed, you decide doing it again hoping to get a different result! sure maybe the rodent who bit your hand is gone now, but the chances are you're gonna get hurt again

[@RezaBarzegar-e4m]

i was with someone for 10 years, we met when I was 14! and she betrayed me! then after a few years of meaningless dating and sex, i finally met someone who i could connect with and who seemed like a decent person! so the relationship became serious, two years later she said she didn't feel anything for me anymore and dumped me like trash! plz tell me, how can I EVER trust someone else now? is any amount of therapy and self reflection enough to move past these two experiences??

[@rar19753]

Assuming we dont know who is the narcissist in a marriage, do victims think of hoovering in trauma bonding phase?? If so how is it different from hoovering by narc?? Please enlighten

[@dazevedo1]

Where did you get your teeth done? I want mine done...

[@msatutude17]

Whole lot of words.. with nothing said..

[@amberleaf7]

Stephanie, please learn how to pronounce the word et cetera. You say in incorrectly - a common misunderstanding. eT cetera, not ek cetera, so eTTTTTTTTTSSSetera, not "exetera". The sound after E is TS.