Improving Your Relationship With Yourself | How to Practice Self-Compassion

[@zoemeece6345]

Love how I’m having a mind breaking conversation with my bestfriend about being more kind to myself and not taking people crap and then I hear a notification on my phone next to me 😂 Devine intervention I guess 😂😂😂

[@StephAnya]

Haha I love that!

[@TeeCup22]

Yesss definitely said the same! The universe be knowing! 💚

[@yatesfamily7932]

Hay

[@sinazositshange96]

"Embrace all versions of yourself " 😢❤

[@justarandomgirllol7428]

15:23

[@alizwamnyatheli8746]

Yeah, that one stood out for me as well

[@MBPip]

The part about laziness really got me. 😭 I’ve been trying so hard to be motivated to return to work after a year and a half of unemployment. I got really burned out at my last job and I think my brain is trying to protect me from feeling that way again so I find it so difficult to want to go back. I feel so lazy, but it’s on my mind every single day. I get worn out thinking about it to the point where I can barely manage to do any household chores. It makes me feel so guilty that my husband is at work all day, and I only manage to cook us dinner some days. 😢 but I’m working on getting into therapy to work through this and other thing from my past that I believe are also holding me back. Sending lots of love and encouragement to everyone who feels the same way, here in the comments. You are not alone❤

[@tay2564]

I'm currently in the similar same situation as you!! I just feel stuck and unmotivated and also guilty about feeling this way

[@MBPip]

@@tay2564 It sucks!! I’m sorry! But at least there is solace I knowing we aren’t alone 🫶🏻 I’ve got my first therapy appt in a few days. Hoping I can get myself back on track. (I just don’t know how long that will take, but I’ve gotta start somewhere!) I hope you have or find someone you can talk to about how you’re feeling. I think the worst part about feeling this way is keeping it all in but then expecting ourselves to just keep going. I think keeping a lot of things bottled up is what ultimately got me to this point, perhaps you as well? The problem is that I wasn’t always ready to talk about things the way I feel I am ready now. So if that’s the case for you, just know I understand. Anyway, I wish you the best and hope you find healing and more self love. Sending virtual hugs ❤️

[@chardonnay5715]

I feel it! You got this no matter what it looks like ❤

[@MBPip]

@@chardonnay5715 Thank you 🩷🩷 I made that comment 4mo. ago and I just now have a part time job lined up. I’m still apprehensive but hoping the hours and whatnot will be doable for me. I appreciate your comment 🩷

[@Khobinda144]

I just love this woman. I can’t afford therapy because my salary doesn’t allow me to pay one. I’ve got my bills and my family to help financially so it’s quite hard to put some aside for it. But every single video with Steph is a free therapy literally… May God bless for your work. You are AMAZING ❤❤❤… Can’t wait for your next video ❤️🥹

[@LuisaFagima]

"How you're feeling makes sense" really hit me!!! I always give others the benefit of the doubt whenever they don't come through with something, but then its hard for me to understand why I cant shake the feeling of fatigue and low energy I have, even though I'm going through a breakup of a 3y relationship and I'm under pressure to submit my graduation thesis and project and then defend and then prepare to move back to my home country ... uffffff😮‍💨

[@StephAnya]

That’s a lot! Yes, please give yourself some grace. And be proud of everything that you’ve already done.

[@LuisaFagima]

​@@StephAnya Thank you so much for your videos and all the effort you put in to bring this information to us💕 May God bless you richly

[@debs_7163]

I was literally crying while watching, because what you said just hit the spot. It was a good cry though ❤

[@StephAnya]

🫶🏽

[@MBPip]

Same here. 😭 Sending love to you in your journey of self compassion. May we all learn to be kinder to ourselves ❤

[@debs_7163]

@@MBPip love to you, too 🤗

[@MBPip]

@@debs_7163 ❤️

[@TeeCup22]

This video came right on time. Was literally JUST talking to my boyfriend about giving myself grace and not letting negative talk get to me.

[@quilabill]

I’m working on improving my daily routines and watching my habits that I need to reboot - it’s so easy to care for others like a natural urge - now I’m working on balancing my cup while pouring into others

[@StephAnya]

Such an important balance! I’m glad that you’re being intentional about working on it

[@isabellezionchipochaishe7103]

I don't know why but for some strange reason, I have been struggling with feelings of jealousy over other people's successes and I find myself triggered by some which causes feelings of inadequacy to rise up within me (long story because there is more to this story really than I feel comfortable disclosing here) but would you please talk about jealousy and how to deal with such feelings when they come up and also dealing with feelings of regret from actions of the past, thank you!

[@sytmor]

Hi! I’m not a licensed professional but I wanted to share as someone who has experienced the same and has been able to minimize the emotions that arise when others talk about their success. For me, it has been jealousy over wanting to accomplish things my peers have and being frustrated that I can’t or that it’s much harder for me. Recognizing that I have lived a very different life then them, with a lack of resources, without active or supportive parents, etc. has been a huge step in my recognition. It isn’t fair that what happened to me happened, and it isn’t the fault of those around me now. I want my friends to be happy and have the things they do, it’s more so now recognizing that I just want it too. It’s still hard to conclude that everything will just be harder for me, but it helps knowing that it isn’t my fault, it’s just my experiences and circumstances that have made it hard for me, and to direct my feelings toward self compassion when I make comparisons and talking with a therapist more about the frustrations of not being able to do or have the same things. I’m not sure if this helped, and I hope that Steph can respond. I just wanted to share that you’re not alone and try to give yourself grace ❤️

[@Momo-po5tn]

Agreed

[@Brendanmuema]

Welcome back I hope you are doing well.

[@StephAnya]

It’s been a busy time with family, but I am. Thanks for checking in 🥰

[@spankylewis2010]

I teared up watching this. As a new mom this video spoke to my soul. Thank you so much for the time and care you put into your messages/videos. ❤

[@user-cq1uv9fx4w]

I needed to hear that the reaction that I'm having makes sense for what's going on in life. That helped me feel less alone in normal feelings and put less pressure on myself to get over everything and that there was something wrong with my reactions

[@MochaLatteMilkChocolate]

This absolutely came at a time when I really needed to hear it most. Crazy. Thank you thank you thank YOU

[@BlackQueenA1825]

I didn't know that I needed this video today. Thank you so much for this video. You always make great content but this may be one of my favorite videos ever from you. If you made this a series, I'd watch the whole thing

[@AishaandLife]

What a powerful and empowering episode. I really needed this. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that it was helpful ♥️

[@shamsamohamed5541]

Definitely going through a funk so this really helps tremendously. Thank you

[@StephAnya]

It won’t last forever ♥️

[@paulanicole4786]

omggg so excited for this new series! i always learn so much from u

[@confusedpuppy1]

I really needed this right now, thanks so much for the great video 😊💕

[@green_sun_s]

Stephanie, if you do make a series on this topic you might change lives. I already learnt so much from this video, thank you for doing this

[@ipurpleyou4923]

Thank you for the video! It’s sooo in time for the moment of my life where I feel how my energy drops and I can’t get everything done and be so social as a month ago

[@parchitawales]

Thanks so much for the actionable advice 💕 the talking in the mirror and acknowledging the neutral parts of life that are ok to slip through the cracks is great, and just talking in the mirror as a form of journaling. Also, thanks for affirming that we can be confident and still have insecurities and vice versa.

[@StephAnya]

I hope it helps 💕

[@anyaf4011]

Your channel was suggested, I'm guessing because my name is Anya and my best friend is Stephanie. So here I am! Love your videos so far

[@StephAnya]

Aw hiiii!

[@mitsubachi6865]

It really hits home. Thank you. Journaling or recording our thinking process can be a nice form of therapy. It worked wonders for me.

[@justarandomgirllol7428]

8:57 thanks for saying that 🤍🥹 15:23

[@KE12352]

I think this is my most favourite video I've ever watched that you've shared with us!

[@StephAnya]

Aw that makes me happy ♥️

[@tooprada606]

Steph, I love your channel. This was such an important video for me. I’m my own harshest critic and getting through grad school to become a licensed CMHC has been nothing short of extremely challenging. Looking forward to the series!

[@Officiallyatpeace]

Great topic discussed here. I am currently in training to become a LMFT so I greatly appreciate everything you do.

[@andreyamatthew2035]

This video is sooo essential thank you! And I'm going to check out the book you recommended in this and save this video to my playlist as well. I definitely needed to hear this. Thank you🙏🏾🙏🏾💗💗

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that you found it helpful ♥️

[@andreyamatthew2035]

@@StephAnya 🥰🥰🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@tynesha3710]

You chose great comments for feedback. Thank you SO MUCH for this video.

[@mellyakinduro1484]

I love the work with your body advice. It helped me come up with a better plan to get into reading. While I dread sitting and reading, I really love reading and learning. I have decided to merge walking (which I love) and listening to audiobooks. I think that will be a more realistic way to get into reading for me.

[@StephAnya]

I love that plan!

[@girlmeetsjoy]

Thank you for this video! Just joined the book club! How do I get notifications about the lives related to it?

[@Carolmime]

This video was the best thing I saw ALL DAY! Thank you! ❤

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad! Thank you for watching 🫶🏽

[@_justyessyy_]

I was checking for this video regularly, and I’m so happy it’s up! 😊 I’ve gotten a lot better at speaking kindly to myself but I still struggle with finding the right plan to achieve my goals. It seems so overwhelming when there’s so many things about your life and self you would like yo change or improve. I end up not doing anything because it seems impossible.

[@dominiquejolly7781]

Please do a series on this

[@kimedison6677]

Thanks for another great video! So helpful and supportive.

[@StephAnya]

🫶🏽

[@aleenaha3426]

Steph! Please do a video breaking down Inside Out from a therapist’s perspective

[@aaliyahahmed9112]

I had a tough few weeks listening to this made me so calm you do so much Steph

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that it brought you some calm ♥️

[@snowbutterfly1013]

Could you do a video on the host book&movie please?

[@holaolgaaa]

I Need to share this with all my friends. Thank you❤

[@BTheTrue]

Hi Steph... i was wondering if you planned on breaking down The Ultimatum South Africa? Thank you.

[@Passport2Pleasure]

Expanding your capacity to hold discomfort is the single most important skill you can invest in!

[@osagieafe2938]

Hi, enjoyed your psychoanalysis of twilight. Can you please do one on the movie the Holiday? That is the one staring Jude law, Kate Winslet. Really interesting to hear your take on Kate Winslet character and her love interest

[@elizabethbrown5289]

Just what I was thinking about today

[@nolansbi3046]

yes plleaseee! series for it.

[@mirariri98]

Can you please review the Ultimatum SA? It’s good.

[@Pippi-rippi]

Please make a series about this :)

[@carolinacicarelli8709]

REVIEW “The Ultimatum” PLEASE!!!!!!

[@rmy_Youtube]

Loved this video! Keep up the good work! ❤

[@StephAnya]

Love you!!

[@rmy_Youtube]

@@StephAnya Love you more! 🫶🏽

[@TheJulicous]

thank you so much !!

[@StephAnya]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@QueenZsWorld]

this is right on time ❤

[@aleenaha3426]

Please react to Inside Out 2 (and 1), and Perfect Match! Would Love your perspective

[@leesepoll6954]

Can you review Love island

[@jackiew4363]

Thank you💕

[@sinazositshange96]

Hello Steph Anya. May you please do reaction video for Ultimatum South Africa 🇿🇦

[@janeenbeard1522]

PLEASE REVIEW BRIDGERTON

[@nyquitacharles9146]

I know this is not about the video. But please do a review of the couples on Never Ever Meets. Its on OWN. Its a mess 😭

[@bluematterr6450]

Hi Steph, as a lack of self compassion seems so prevalent (but also so damaging) I was wondering whether you had any insights into if this is maybe just part of our culture or just a part of being human!

[@anyakothari3435]

Wrong Anya here but I’ve found that the US’ productivity culture can really amplify the “lazy” belief that Steph spoke about. As a recovering corporate girly, I’ve been thinking about this a lot

[@brittanycowan116]

Can you do a video on Mother’s Instinct with Anne Hathaway??

[@evelynlim40]

Love watching your analysis! There’s also a new show on Netflix “the boyfriend” - would love to hear your comments and analysis!

[@amakarkari9564]

You should react to the ultimatum South Africa would be a really interesting case study

[@MsMissme90]

CAN YOU DO VIDEOS ON LOVE ISLAND US LIKE YOU DID LOVE IS BLIND??? 😊

[@juiciarose6358]

Can you do IFS ?

[@smilingsince87]

I’m 36 years old, I’ve never once felt self love for myself. 💔

[@LoveWillFindU]

Im definetly not insecurity free but I would say I don’t really have any physical insecurities in regards to my looks. I think that comes from a detachment from my body. This is really just an avatar and don’t get me wrong, I like dressing nice and I look at myself and think I’m gorgeous but when I’m not looking so hot , I don’t care very much because this is just a body. And I’m grateful that it helps me move and experience life yk? But I do have a bevy of emotional insecurities lol

[@StephAnya]

Yes, I love the concept of body neutrality instead of body positivity!

[@cynaraecolbert4192]

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