Stoic Strategies For A Life Without Anger | Ryan Holiday | Daily Stoic

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“How much more harmful are the consequences of anger…than the circumstances that aroused them in us.” -Marcus Aurelius
According to a recent poll, 42% of Americans say they are angrier now than they were last year; 22% report feeling angry “a lot” during the day, which is a 30% increase from the previous year and a level of visceral discontent we have not seen since 2011.
It is the Roman emperor and Stoic philosopher, Marcus Aurelius, who will show us how. Like all of us, Marcus had a temper. Unlike most of us, Marcus had no reason to tame it. He was a man of almost unlimited power. He could say and do whatever he wanted with no concern for the prospect of consequences.
And yet, as a man dedicated to self-mastery, he saw the importance of prevailing over the instinct to anger. In a world where people were often driven by passion over reason, where restraint was a principle followed by few, Marcus Aurelius struggled to be better. Because, as he saw it, “the nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.”
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[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

"The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury." --Marcus Aurelius

[@WillOrng]

Live well!

[@matthewmadonna6943]

The most challenging part is pausing and remembering these principles

[@h0a4l]

its helpful to meditate on them regularly. Marcus Aurelius would start his day off with this.

[@nowpresent2167]

Yes, the repitilian part of brain is our reflexive reactive/subconscious mind part. The neo cortex/ logical reasoning part gets into awareness only if one is mostly in calm down state. Make more time to calm state- exercise, meditation, mindfulness,breath excercise of yoga,nature walks,pets,etc help to gradually increase calm states of mind and tame the anxious amygdala.

[@samanders2676]

I agree. It’s easier said than done. For that reason, stoics put into practice certain things to gradually develop the mind to withstand sudden external stimuli. It’s just like we would lift weights to create hypertrophy just so our body would be prepared in things which require physical strength. Few examples are: fasting, early rising, enduring heat and cold, simple clothing, exercise, reading, listening well in a conversation (which is on decline), cleaning, turning boredom as a chance to self reflect and a good hobby. It all helps in literally exercising and strengthening our patience.

[@OniSMBZ]

The challenge is what makes the practice worthwhile.

[@danieldeiparine5716]

It kinda is. But if you meditate them regularly ^ the principles comes at the right moment at the right time

[@MisterPol]

*"The best answer to anger is silence" - Marcus Aurelius* Watching your videos have really inspired me to start my own self-improvement channel. Thank you!!!

[@paulratiu856]

congrats Paul I'll subscribe

[@MisterPol]

@@paulratiu856 thank you Rudi!!!

[@jeffery8928]

How does silence differ from holding it all in?

[@raymondtendau2749]

An angry man opens his mouth and closes his eyes. -Buddha.

[@Elephantstonica]

Don’t know, it was seeing the wife’s hair blocking up the shower drain *again* that just made me open my mouth and snap at her. Still, he did leave his wife. Maybe it was the hair, and not for enlightenment?

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

Thanks.

[@fableflows33]

@@Elephantstonica lol

[@amorfati4559]

I have always had a problem with anger that has caused me so much trouble. I am working on it now of course, and this stuff helps.

[@philosophyandhappiness2001]

Ryan, Your "12 Stoic principles" literally saved my life. I just wanted to say thank you for so eloquently stating the principles these brilliant people lived by. The world would be a vastly better place if more people sought philosophy

[@camobeans9807]

Amor Fati! This video was helpful. Perfect timing to help me get through a personal disappointment.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

"When angry, count four. When very angry, swear." --Mark Twain

[@SteveV1960]

I spend as much time out in nature as I can . It always brings me back to a realistic outlook on life and a state of peace.

[@garycantu5078]

I live in Austin and you are so correct about how frustrating Austin's traffic is. Sometimes I want to pull the pin, but it is at those times I put in my songs and I feel better

[@herculesrockefeller8969]

I find the Mr. Rogers comment true; I was just telling my wife that when my parents were sick, first in the hospital, then in the nursing home, there were many kind, generous, and helpful people that came out of the woodwork to help. A lot of people in those settings don't give a damn, and they are quickly forgotten soon after - the helpers you remember for a long time!

[@bowlbrigade]

Raised by a man that would and did several times bite cats and dogs back. This was normal behavior to me and I was very confused when that man was always allowed to behave that way but when I acted out my learned behavior was punished. His excuse was always 'I did the best I could'....he got away with much worse. Had to leave my entire family behind to get away from the madness.

[@georgiafrancis9059]

I wish you happiness and true love from a kind person. Sounds like you need lost of genuine love. God bless you, you've come a long way.

[@garethmolyneux7338]

Apparently rainy days are bad, but i see it as a time that nature gets what it needs to survive.

[@nelsoncassoma1480]

Greetings from Brazil! Ryan holiday is in my opinion the best young writer in America. He is so moderate and wise, despite being young. It's impressive.

[@johnroman4608]

Just true...must say. Stoicism really helped me post accident. Perspective in everything with Equanimity, life & relationships etc. Let people be people 🙏

[@blessedgirl444]

I just bought 3 of your books Ego is the Enemy,The Obstacle is the way & Stillness is the Key can't wait to finish them

[@safetysapien2755]

Again and again I find myself thanking you for everything you have gone through and how you process it. Thanks for sharing, working and taking the time.

[@kimlarge4077]

You are a good teacher. This is good.

[@stefanol9272]

Stoicism really changed my life. Before while driving I was so annoyed or angry now. I just put some good music on. And thats it ! just one example in a everyday life

[@CzarinaKehoe]

I like that forcing your mind to rest. I thought when I am in front of the computer whether it's editing, designing, and all that are hobbies. There are hobbies I don't do anymore because I see them as not beneficial for my personal development. Not everything that can potentially produce money is not beneficial. I love that you mentioned that what we do in our leisure reveals who we are as people. Lots of wonderful nuggets here, thanks Ryan!

[@hotdog4698]

You probably hear this all the time. But I hope it has not lost its value to you. Your writing and videos have changed my life for the better. Truly.

[@barnabaskocsi1291]

Thank you, i needed this. I was at a horrible place of mind, but after thinking through my troubles i see them in a different light and finally my mind has a little bit of rest

[@KC-50]

I thought I was okay with my anger..the head is quicker to accept stoic principles than the heart. Ryan has a course on anger that should help me get back to self control or get pass my judgment about it.

[@ExpertViewsonADRvidpodcastshow]

Yet another powerful words from my mentor, @RyanHoliday. Thank you.

[@mrw9513]

Ryan another outstanding video, filled with great content with so much relevance to the modern human. "The best revenge is not to be like your enemy" I have the utmost respect for you as a fellow stoic, and complete appreciation for you as a human being. Best wishes and stay safe and well to you and your family

[@irishseaswimmer]

I pour over and rewatch your videos all the time. It's efreshing to hear even you battle/struggle with the "reaction to the stimulus" thanks for this one.

[@aaronwimberleymbamsf5776]

love the objectivity of not good and not bad- just how you colour it.

[@Nabil-gj2qq]

Hey brother! After listening to your videos I’m so much calmer than before - I used to think I was stoic... the more you learn the more stoic you wanna be!

[@vishalchugh3461]

You are so blessed!! Thank you so much!! God bless you!! Thanks for helping mankind!! Much needed!! You are also a stoic!! ❤️

[@dunegoon3014]

Please keep releasing 2 videos a week. Quality is much better than quantity; and you have great quality in your channel. Thank you.

[@stevenmederos]

So far what's helped me and what can help other a great deal is bullet journaling. The guy who created a great method, his name is Ryder Carroll. It really emphasizes self analysis in all aspects of your daily life. It's hard work but worth the shot! Seneca - the unexamined life is not worth living

[@mamapoppins7422]

🙋Amazing. Thank you so much Ryan 👍☺

[@duykhuong7720]

I live in Vietnam and traffic jam is a terrible problem and it's worse as the weather does not cooperate. If it rains during the long time, the roads is flooded because of the draining system's capacity. Sometime, people yell at you because there is a small collision. Applying Stocism, I reduced the large amount of wasted energy as well as stress while driving(motorbike)

[@brandonwilliams957]

This should be required viewing for student drivers.

[@stoicornothing4650]

“Philosophy is good advice; and no one can give advice at the top of his lungs… When the aim is to make a man learn and not merely to make him wish to learn, we must have recourse to the low-toned words of conversation." -Seneca

[@cedricyoung7308]

Ryan! Your book, 'The Obstacle is the Way' just got delivered to my doorstep and I'm tremendously excited to read it. Thanks for all the work you put into this channel. I'm learning a lot from you.

[@ianpatrick23]

Love this message! Mr. Rogers was a Stoic!

[@oooookkkkkk]

Road rage is my favourite part of the day 😅

[@aircooled356]

"For the churning of milk produces butter, And pressing the nose brings forth blood; So the churning of anger produces strife." -Proverbs 30:33. My suggestions of reading are Seneca, Marcus Aurelius, the book of Proverbs and Ecclesiastes. These to me are the wisest literature and authors in the history of mankind.

[@Dr-ys5pi]

Hello sir. I found that listing to you explain the words made everything seem so simple to me. I only started one day ago listening to you and I can feel my mind and my life becoming calm and less chaotic. Things are all devloped in the mind. So I say think of how you really want your life to be and it Will happen!

[@ErnestRamaj]

Beautiful, all of this.

[@valoriebroderick]

Thanks! Needed to hear this.

[@Gleyi07]

Thank You Ryan!! I discovered Stoicism by accident and doing research about it took me to you channel. I’m happy to say I feel like a new person. I had a few challenges where I had failed while putting the stoic mentality but im trying. Im about to start a new job and I am so nervous because I’m going to have to work with people that can be very difficult and I cant deny I am nervous but I want to handle every situation like a stoic. I admire that mentality so much, I want to become one.

[@WillOrng]

Best wishes on your journey!

[@Gleyi07]

@@WillOrng Thank you♥️ Its been great so far!!!😄

[@OffTheGrid1982]

Love the process of life. Not the destination.

[@tedalexander5263]

Man I needed this today. As always thanks

[@FrancoPhysique]

This was awesome. Thank you.

[@ninjagirlnomeansno9403]

Absolutely stupendous, Thank you Ryan. I'm introducing a friend to your books and videos to help him with his anger, Peace, love, joy and happiness to you Ryan and everyone, Thank you universe 🥰💞😁😍😃🦄🐉✨️♾️🧝‍♀️🌈🧿💫🌓👁🛸🌌👽😁😁😁💞

[@ramprasadrocky787]

Anger must be healthy Must not close our eyes Must not open our mouth Must not be uncertain actions

[@indigoyo]

Excellent episode!

[@marcoferreira4576]

Great videos. They have been very helpfull for me. The wisdom you have been sharing, has helped me allot. Thank you.

[@GlasgowDogTrainer]

Excellent as ever. Thank you

[@hamzehhass3526]

Love your videos

[@boskoloncar3040]

Needed this! Downloaded and added to daily watch list.

[@garyhyde6639]

Great content, as usual - well done and thanks!!

[@RWAquariumPages]

great video! really put things in perspective and something to think about, can't wait for the next video!

[@noonereally9946]

Daily vlogs around your farm would be awesome. Love your content. Thanks for everything.

[@stevenblyth4937]

Thanks for creating this channel!

[@sj205]

Great vid man, thanks!

[@jdt8983]

I've been anything from overly aggressive to too passive and everything in between trying to figure it out. Today I practiced staying just calm and maintaining posture with a work confrontation and the person apologized without me having to do much of anything. I think it's less about saying exactly the right thing but more about how you carry yourself

[@recklynruaza3687]

Whoooo... been reading obstacle is the way and ego is the enemy and I never thought that you are just 33 y.o. whooott? Thank you for sharing your talent and saving a lot of life by just understanding life with the help of your books.

[@rickrox7497]

Great job on these videos

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

"I will hurt you for this. I don't know how yet, but give me time. A day will come when you think yourself safe and happy, and suddenly your joy will turn to ashes in your mouth, and you'll know the debt is paid." --George R.R. Martin

[@viridianaperez615]

I really learned a lot from this videos ty

[@ramonalewis6050]

At work, people who do little to no work don't realize that if you do the work, time will go fast. I like to journal early in the morning to clear my mind. I wake up at 0300 almost daily 🤷‍♀️ I go to the gym to workout as early as possible. Hopefully at 0530. People evidently have pent up frustrating and yelling at wreckless drivers is a way to vent🤷‍♀️

[@zaikdesdecali]

Lovely job man ! 🎉🎉🎉

[@samanders2676]

“Whenever you are offended at someone’s lack of shame, you should immediately ask yourself: ‘So is it possible for there to be no shameless people in the world?’ It is not possible. Do not then ask for the impossible.” _ Marcus Aurelius.

[@raeroms9589]

At 4:38 . Did you notice the automatic rifle… Ryan is so gangster 😊😎😎

[@ashmantv5629]

Thank you...

[@azhaanebrahim4887]

Thank you ryan amazing videos hobbies are important I like hiking and Reading what you do with your off time it's very important I like your perspective on it thank you keep up the amazing work.😁🙌🏼💯👍🏽

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

A little or major league stress in the office, nothing better than a 20 min. walk which I swear by.

[@TheLoverOfYourMother1]

I'm trying to practice stoicism, I know it won't come to me overnight, but my patience is being tested CONSTANTLY. Neighbors dogs constantly barking and I can't even hear myself think, can't sit and read a book, can't do anything that requires much focus. Il go for a run for a while but when I return I know the dogs will still be barking. Anybody else in a similar boat? Any advice would be much appreciated, as I'm making positive change in my mind but the 24/7 barking is a bit much.

[@D.E.Middleton]

Great content. Perfect timing. Every one should be forced to watch this.

[@durauntejackson1971]

I lost my temper right B4 this ......kinda feel bad

[@jeffery8928]

I get that the actions of anger are irrational and look crazy to calm people. But just repressing the hurt feels problematic in so many ways.

[@jgambler1188]

Just picked up a Churchill biography, looking forward to delving into that one. Thanks for the videos Ryan, cheers.

[@jinxluvver3909]

Churchill was an egregious racist

[@babalaord]

Enzo Cee take the good only then

[@jgambler1188]

@@jinxluvver3909 I'll be sure to look into that. Remember that humankind has evolved, that's what makes us different, to judge a person retroactively predicated by today's standard is short sighted and will stifle any open conversation about history and what we gain to learn from our errors. You have the luxury of voicing your opinion, he was a factor in ensuring we have that right, in lieu of, oh I dunno, German. Should we also discount Marcus Aurelius due to being emperor in a time that slavery was prevalent?

[@jgambler1188]

@Batu Bulan 👊

[@jinxluvver3909]

J Gambler I suppose you’re right my friend

[@jackiechun99]

2:45 Powerful stoics and their hobbies

[@rangsilandrew3542]

I have an anger issue. I subbed it when i saw all your video titles were about anger. I get angry very often and when it goes uncontrolled it often gets explosive and then later id regret it feeling more anxiety

[@annak4812]

Meditation - repeating mantra over and over and over for 15-20 mins does miracles! Slows down brain respinse to stimuli at different times. It stopped me from screaming at my kids!!!!! Automatically!

[@WillOrng]

@@annak4812 exercise pause mode

[@Sashas-mom]

I don’t have anything important to say 😜 but I feel like your content Ryan is a balm for my nerves. I want to be supportive so I’m leaving a comment. 😁

[@thelantern9075]

Loved the video. Correction though, there are no locals in Austin.

[@donthornton7528]

Nice shirt....

[@BoffinGrusky]

My take-away is that it's better to be mildly pessimistic, than overly optimistic.

[@Elephantstonica]

The Working Dead Not true. Most people are decent toward others.

[@ginmardoamatpawiro9570]

When are you being stoic vs when are you being an enabler or a pushover? What's the threshold? How do you know you are being in control vs how do you know you are just bottling up anger?

[@PassionPno]

You can still confront someone but not with rage.

[@WillOrng]

People I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous and bitter. They are like this because they do not understand the difference between good and evil. But I have seen the beauty of good and the ugliness of evil and so recognise that the wrongdoer have a nature like and related to my own, made of the same dna, stardust, with the same potential for self-awareness, self-consciousness and enlightenment. So prepared, none of them can hurt me nor implicate me in their ugliness. Neither can I hate my family, for we are all made for cooperation and the common good.

[@georgegasmatron1]

"Anger is an energy" PIL

[@brianmurphy5313]

was the missing 'e' in 'something' intentional? I ask because I know it enraged some people

[@CH-yp5by]

You took a cab ride form Heathrow... I hope it was an Uber! Or Bolt or Kapten because a black cab would have cost a mint!

[@karlmay5306]

I wind my windows down so other motorists can hear me.

[@timmyschannel5]

The background sounds take away from these wonderful messages

[@Believer-jb7qq]

I am having issues both inside my home and directly outside of it. I suppose the only thing to do is walk away from everything and hope I dont run into issues on my walk. And if I do, keep walking?

[@sj205]

Maybe if you take that walk not running away from something, but toward something?

[@johnnarogers2088]

You were God sent to me this morning 💋

[@Xarfax321]

Can't recite the excact quote because I've forgotten parts of it, but it went something like this: "An angry man is like an angry bull. He charges blindly straight ahead and won't stop for anything except a brick wall." -Fyodor Dostoyevski, Notes from Underground.

[@uberdonkey9721]

Socially anger is to repremand others for the benefit of the group. Absolutely it can be determental to us as an individual, but bibbing someone in a car is an attempt (usually pointless) to tell someone they're behaviour is socially unacceptable. Of course we don't do this with animals, because we know they wouldn't understand: they're (mostly) not part.of our social environment.

[@clovers-zi5fe]

The 29 folks who disliked the post don't dislike the stoic principles--they're just mad, because they ARE the angry drivers lol

[@ND-hg6ui]

California drivers are crazy 🤪, they're always in a hurry.

[@c._.alanna9014]

stop wait are you in Austin? Can we be friends please??

[@williamgrand9724]

I watch publicfreakout videos on reddit to practice being stoic.

[@yolandayoung6519]

It is so hard to not hate, BLM, ANTIFA, all who are behind this Shutdown, I feel horrible when I see their doings.., then, I remember this Philosophy, and I let go of the Negative Emotion and I maintain Neutral... what is happening to our Freedom! If it wasn’t for this teachings, I WULD be JUDGING all day, but I don’t. Any words of wisdom for me?? Anyone plz?? ❤️👏🙏

[@stevemcmiller339]

Maga

[@WillOrng]

Live well, study science/physics, act justly and kindly. Exercise these and your pause and reflect muscles. Best wishes from legendary Nottingham :-)

[@MsZoedog66]

'They hate anyone who they think is from California' 🤣🤣🤣

[@joshuablot4585]

Advanced Driver Improvement Course by American Safety Council. Emotional driving 🚗

[@MrTrda]

Ryan, next time you get your haircut, ask for a fade. Remember that, it’s called “a Fade”

[@Mayllie]

Troy Seivad I was thinking this too

[@richtexas4431]

It will be a game changer for him

[@lourenelegge6858]

A deer stand Ryan...seriously! That comment made me so angry I heard nothing you said after that😡