Strange Problems And Strange Filipinas! They Want You To Do What!?

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Strange problems and strange Filipinas seem to go hand in hand, especially on Mailbag Friday, when we get to hear from foreigners about their Filipinas! Today we have a man in an impossible situation, a woman who accused her husband of cheating with his doctor, and a Filipinas "open invitation" once she falls asleep. Strange problems can lead to an interesting relationships!
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[@djquack13]

To the totally awesome supporters of The Filipina Pea Channel I don't know what to say... I was absolutely floored by the comments. I didn't expect so much love and support. But I guess I should have. It's the TFP channel after all. It seems that most of us are in agreement. There's no way I can let her down. I would never be able to look at myself the mirror again. Even though I remain undecided as to the best thing to do. I will continue to support her the best way I can, as long as I can. I can't really share much more information, I'm sure you all understand why. Thank you so much! And God Bless you all! Dan

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well Dan, you’re certainly being talked about! The responses to your email were overwhelming. Best of luck my friend, and keep in touch 👍❤️👍

[@djquack13]

I will! Thank you so Pea!❤

[@unsettledonpurpose]

Dan, just set a budget that won't hurt you. If its enough, its enough. If not, others in her life need to pick up the slack.

[@TomScott__]

Good luck Dan.

[@peterpeter8086]

Dan, my situation is different. My brother in law is very sick. He lives on $5 a day selling tofu. My wife went to Metro Manilla to visit him. Long story short, we purchased a studio apartment for him to live in. It's near a hospital. My wife and I will pay for his care,housing, and mediation. He will need to get a job at Robinson's mall. I didn't realize how bad the poverty is. A little will go a long way. Keep us informed. Thank you Pea for this forum.

[@haroldwright9073]

Dear Dan. This happened to me. 23 years ago my wife and I met, fell in love, married. less than a year later she was in a weelchair, diagnosed with m.s. she is now dying with lung and brain cancer. I did not have the problem of distance that you have, but staying in the relationship was a no-brainer. so if you love her, you will find a way to make it work. will it be worth it? you will have to live it to find out. it won't be easy and ultimatly it will break your heart. but heartbreak happens no matter what. I think that living in love, however short or difficult it may be, is better than trying to live with your conscience. sorry dude, LOTS of tough choices ahead.

[@66autocolor15]

Wisdom!

[@liamstone3437]

I am an RN. More detail about her condition would make it easier to comment ie what is the name of her disease and what is her prognosis if she receives this treatment and at what level of cost? It will seem heartless to some of you but I deal with patients in a quantity that would make you gasp. I also work so much overtime it is accurate to say I see twice as many patients as other RNs. Over time I have developed a health care philosophy. Many of the people I take care of are under constant life preserving treatment but the quality of life this gives them is horrendous and in my opinion - not truly living. If this level of "living" comes at great cost and sacrifice then I feel it is selfish to continue the treatment (not that anyone asks my input - at least not often - at least not until hospice is such an obvious choice that everyone is willing to listen to reason). Next is the exploration of cost versus benefit. If Dan's quality of life will be significantly worse then it is sadly unreasonable for anyone to expect him to place his life on the alter for a 4 month relationship. Let's get real about relationships: they often fail and most experts recommend a year to really know someone. Sure you can love in less time than that but so did every man who has later experienced divorce. Now let me speak as a man with a foreign wife who has survived serious cancer, a year of chemo, and disfiguring surgery. Even my wife has decided that she will not choose to live through a relapse should it occur. Her quality of life is very reduced. Mine is gone. Improvement is not possible so hope is tough to kindle. Things will only get worse for her and me. I am 60 but look and feel 45. My family lives a long time so when I outlive my wife no one will want me. I will be alone. For God's sake Dan do not be me. You have a hard choice but it is a choice. Sometimes being a man means doing what others are afraid to do and sometimes it means doing what others want to do but are afraid of judgement. I love my wife. We smile and laugh everyday but can have no intimacy. I cry when she is not looking because I am working my life away for a future that I probably don't want. Don't be me Dan.

[@wisconsinchristian]

@@liamstone3437 Thank you for your service to others, the world would be such a better place if more people had your compassion. My thoughts for Dan are to please research alternative care through websites such as KZbin's Dr. Eric Berg. So many cures and preventions from diseases are available with proper nutrition. God bless!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Oh my lord, I’m sooooooo sorry, Harold 😢

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

Married and dating are not the same. Many females all over the world will walk out on a man only for not being able to earn enough to her desire. It's a harsh world. Yes a husband should stay with a wife through sickness and in health or his kids. Best to live in reality.

[@praetorkambu]

As for the jealous one that acts out because she dreamed you were cheating, get rid of her. She will only get worse. There are plenty of better options.

[@omegoa]

Yep. If it happens once, it'll probably happen again. This is something she needs to work on by herself before she enters a relationship. Fly awayyyy! Be freeeeee!

[@mrnine324]

I respectfully disagree to a point. Just because she is super jealous now, doesn't mean it lasts forever or gets worse. My girlfriend was like that at the beginning, but with me re-assuring her over and over that I could never and will never cheat on her it has brought her "cheat dream anger" down a whole lot. It really just comes down to reassuring her that it was just a dream and that it would never happen in real life.

[@DeaconBlues25]

True, but just because a woman murdered her first husband you can't say she will murder her second husband. Plenty of sane fish in the sea.@@mrnine324

[@vectorm4]

Praetork is 100% right.

[@capncrunch9053]

This has nothing to do with his girlfriend being a Flipina. My ex-wife did this to me. We woke one morning and she was livid. She redily admitted it was because she had a dream I had cheated on her. I had not, would not, and was completely faithful to my wife. After a few days, i thought we had worked through it. As the months went on, she got worse. We couldn't walk through a grocery store without arguing about every female who walked past us. Old, young, good looking or ugly, skinny or fat. She had a problem with all of them. It got to the point that I literally had to look at the ceiling as we shopped, or whatever we were doing. She would giggle at me when she caught me staring at the ceiling, I never found it one bit funny. One day, a little kid was peeking around an endcap at me, I smiled at him. My wife immediately saw my smile, and shot a glance in the kids direction. Just then, a particularly unattractive mother of the child walked around the endcap and my wife said out loud, and at the top of her voice, "my God, I even have to worry about the ugly ones with you". That was the final straw for me. I left her about a month later and never looked back. My advice? RUN! It won't get better.

[@drsingingeagle]

Dear Dan, my heart is with you. Although my wife wasn’t a Filipina, a lot of people _thought_ she was; she was from Chengdu, China. We met through my small compassionate relief organization. My group, Chieftain’s Angels, went to Sichuan to help deliver aid to the victims of the 2008 earthquake and my translator was a cute, respectful, petite girl named Yi. Long story short: Yi and I quickly fell in love and got engaged. It took me a very long time to get her to the West (first, I tried as a Canadian citizen but when that was unsuccessful, I sold all my Citigroup stock, hired a lawyer, moved back to the USA, and brought her here. We married on 10-10-10 at 10:10am and we had five years of sheer marital bliss until breast cancer took her away. My heart breaks every day as I still grieve, and my only solace are the sweet memories we made together. My advice: stick with her as much as you can. Cherish every moment.

[@rafaelcastillo2636]

You are a True gentleman Sir!!

[@RogersMgmtGroup]

They were married and she was with him. Sad story but at that poimt they were committed. He did the only right thing.

[@wxsuperman38]

Im so sorry for your loss

[@kengrimsley4172]

You are a good man, and have my respect...though I do not know you.

[@dunementat2191]

Sorry for what you are going through Dan. My Filipino wife died a year after our wedding during open heart surgery. Sometimes terrible things happen to us… it’s just life. Listen to your heart and hopefully you will find an answer to this tragedy.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

😢😢😢😢

[@jhnyjoejoe69]

Sorry to hear that bro. What heart condition did she have that required surgery?

[@dunementat2191]

@@jhnyjoejoe69 She suffered from Atrial Septal Defect.

[@MrSGL21]

that dress is killing it.

[@javieritomac]

I might have to agree that's 2 votes for the dress 👍🏻

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Awww thanks, SG! 😊👍

[@tmoney6217]

I agree you look smoking hot

[@paulstarnes417]

Anything the "P" wears she owns it...😊😊😊

[@guyandre4946]

@@javieritomac Three! 😜👍

[@TheFilipinaPea]

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[@davidhoughton6087]

Thank you got it

[@travisbonzpiercy2660]

Pea love your stuff but gotta know how about you are you married and if so to a pilipino or westerner? Either keep up the great content. Yes I will have to do like others before me and come there to find a poss mate to live out the rest of my time on this planet. Okay by for now thanks.

[@josephreynolds7505]

I can tell you what your dreams mean. I have had the same and have done the research. Let me start with your flying dream. I had these when I was younger. It means you want to escape the life situation you are currently in. Which is not a bad thing. It's like you want to explore the world. See what's in it. The other dream you are having, I am currently having this one where l am looking for a way out of a house. But can't find it. This is like your mind is in a state of confusion. Not knowing really where to go. I don't like this dream. It scares me. What I did when I kept having it regularly is, I told myself before I went to sleep if I want to get out of this dream. Keep saying `wake up, wake up'. This worked for me. I woke up. And I don't have that dream as much. The dream where someone is chasing you, I don't know. I never had that. I think l would try and do the same by saying 'wake up '. Your friend, Joe

[@americanandpinay]

I think my wife knows the Filipina who said to have sex with her asleep. We just had this conversation...

[@TheFilipinaPea]

@@travisbonzpiercy2660 Hi Travis! I have a long distance relationship with a foreign man 👍😊

[@dillardroyster1319]

Ms. Pea despite your change in appearance in the last video, you are still a masterpiece. Let Dan know that it is okay to support some of his girlfriends health care without totally abandoning her. Do what he is comfortable to covering.

[@lindseygaryiii485]

Keep up the good work you’re positive you’re entertaining and you’re funny I believe one day you’re gonna make it mainstream even if you’re not trying to but when you make it don’t change Keep It 100 the way you’ve been doing it

[@theonetruevoiceoftheonetrueGod]

My Province Girl tried that thing where she would make something up in her mind a try to punish me for it - I told her to hit the road until she could control herself.... That was 33 years ago and we're still together ❤️

[@billable1861]

How’s that truck driving couple gig going now? Gonna retire soon? 😂

[@MrSlm1982]

My heart breaks for Dan C. I don't have advice, just thoughts and prayers. 🙏✝️

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Me to, Mr Slm 😢

[@user-ol6rd7pl5t]

Your prayers are about as much use as your lack of advice........ Zero.

[@boldtaa]

⁠@@user-ol6rd7pl5t Tell us then oh wise one, what should Dan do?

[@Philibusting]

@@user-ol6rd7pl5t That's kinda of d!ck response man. Uncalled for - be better!

[@johnlacey3857]

@@user-ol6rd7pl5tWho died and made you the expert who decides the presence or absence of God? I suppose you are omnipotent and omniscient as well. The focus here is this poor guy Dan C and his unfortunate Filipina. But you have to take people’s well intentioned good wishes and ridicule them, just to make yourself feel superior. Shame on you.

[@DiegoItzep2012]

Flying dreams are so amazing! Enjoy them, the child in you is the happiest! I have them often and not often enough.

[@bearrogers1121]

Hello Pea, (about your nightmares) I was in the military during my 20s and 30s. After I was discharged, I had many nightmares . I just couldn't sleep without having them. So I seek out help and this is what was said to me; right after I wake up from having a nightmare, I was to write it down in a journal, every detail that I could remember. After a week of this, the nightmares went away. Essentially I wrote them out of my head. I don't have them horrible nightmares anymore. I hope this helps. I do enjoy your channel.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Really? Well then I’ll give that a try 👍👍

[@BushidoBasher]

This won't work for everyone but mine ended in a dream. I played a game of whirlpool with the nemesis of nightmares and I won. Deal was if I won, the nightmares are banished forever. They are indeed banished forever. I haven't had a nightmare after the game I won in the dream.

[@robertlalor8090]

Another brilliant vlog, Pea. It's a sign of confidence and integrity to say "I don't know". I'm not sure anyone, including Dan T, knows. Bless you Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m just hoping somebody knows! 😊👍

[@paulk8444]

Dan Knows he just has to have his Head and Heart agree with NO Regrets or Doubt as Nothing and nobody are permanent on this planet so Only he will live with the responsibility and accountability for his choices, decisions and actions @@TheFilipinaPea

[@colincarson2983]

I'd like to offer another take on Dan's problem with his chronically ill girlfriend. Falling in love is not the same as loving. Almost without exception, parents love their children but you never hear them talking about "falling in love" with their children and what would we think of a parent who abandons a child with a chronic medical condition? Love is more than just a strong attraction or an irresistible infatuation. Love is instinct to put the other person first in all things before thinking of yourself, to always make sacrifices for the other. Real love is reciprocated love - when two people put each other first. This is why life-long love shared between a couple never wanes or gets boring. It's a simple formula - the husband who is focused on his wife's satisfaction above all else and the wife puts her husband's pleasure before her own. There is a good and valid reason why traditional marriage vows include "Love and honour (him/her) until death do us part." How many times have we heard of engaged couples going through with their wedding despite one or the other suffering a paralysing injury that will require life-long care? If Dan truly loved his girlfriend, her medical condition would change nothing in their relationship. However, they are not married and neither has made any life-long commitments to the other. Wedding vows mean something ... legally, morally and ethically.

[@bennyboy5374]

Not helping her would put anyone with moral sense into a life time of regret, it would go out over his mental state if he don't help.

[@troy3456789]

Furthermore, we do not get to control if we "fall in love", we certainly don't get to control who we fall in love with, or when it happens, or how hard we fall in love. The best we can do is to recognize when it has happened. Lastly, intentionally turning off your love is impossible, and I mean absolutely impossible. If you realize one day you are no longer in love with someone, that will happen without your consent. Always remember: free will is a myth.

[@vape42]

@@bennyboy5374 it seemed like it’d be a burden to him. He shouldnt let his feelings get the better of him. Any kind of relationship he wanted is off the table, he’s only know her 5 months. He needs to say his goodbyes and forget about her.

[@nairbyad7188]

nice advice. you're very pleasant to listen to. love your dress!

[@gecko2000405]

I think a "I can't give you a correct answer" shows your humility. I'm glad you have REM deep sleep. Some people can't sleep well at all.

[@peterpeter8086]

Dan, try to contact the pharmaceutical company. They sometimes have programs to get the medicine at low or no cost. My family and I will pray 🙏 for you and the women. Good luck Dan.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

THANKS Peter 👍👍👍👍❤️

[@halburke9115]

Peter, great idea. Many pharmaceutical manufacturers have what is known “indigent patient programs”, I know they do when it comes cancer. Go to the manufactures web page and look for a link. I hope this helps. As a former pharmaceutical sales manager, I have some insight. Good luck.

[@peterpeter8086]

@halburke9115 Thank you.

[@halburke9115]

👍@@peterpeter8086

[@jamesbhotmail]

Dan ,I'm so sorry to hear of your situation . Life can be way beyond unfair. You both are In my thoughts and prayers. God's blessings and guidance for you both

[@tylerhorn3712]

Dan is gonna loose her, nomatter which way it goes. You love her, so extend her life some. Regardless of when, you will need to move on. It's a bit less than a parent or child diagnosed with an incurable disease. If your as tight with her as you believe, there is a time where she's gonna want you to let go and go live your life. Your providing life support and she knows this. If she really loves you, she will let you move on with your life when she comes to terms with the inevitable. Could turn into a beautiful "I love you too" moment when she decides to let you go, so she's not a burden. Or a selfish moment if she hasn't fully processed it / just wants to keep you permanently to extend her life. Then your gonna end up pulling the plug and feel selfish (though she was too for waiting so long). Give her some extend life support and hopefully she decided to go to the next world in peace. If she doesn't and is just hanging on to you due to money... it might be you who ends it and you'll feel like crap. But she valued herself over you.

[@kkwaw2193]

Looking amazing as always Pea ! Happy New Year to you and your family pray all is well many blessings ! 🌹

[@sharhune2735]

Wishing the best for the first guy. Hell of a situation to be in. Take care and see you Tuesday.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

See you there!

[@PizzaLord]

Hey Dan, just remember that love only really means the deep emotional need for the well being of other. If you deeply care for her well being then do what you can to give her the love and support she needs. Make it clear that if this is a financial burden for you then her community of friends and family must do the same and step up and that, if it's all on you, then you cannot keep it up. This needs to be a community effort from all the people who love her. Talk to them directly if you can.

[@stanleysavage6286]

I am married to a Vietnamese woman and just about everything you say is also true about her. I really enjoy your videos. Very informational.

[@StalkedByLosers]

Vietnamese at one time were a Malay people, like Philipinos. Later after the Kamer empire, there was a Chinese influx and their language changed to Sino root. But there is still an underlying mother culture shared by all South East Asian cultures. This is why.

[@larryharvey-on5pq]

Hi Filipina Pea I love your Channel ❤ your messages are very informative, and it got me rethinking my priorities in dating.🤔 And I definitely love your captain Pea outfit it's totally awesome.

[@kenkneram4819]

That first one was a doozy. You are so kind and compassionate Pea.

[@shughl1]

Pea has done it AGAIN! Fantastic work! Dreams are a strange world and I always enjoy listening to other people's stories.

[@erichorrobin431]

As usual your humour and personality shine through. And brightens my day. 😊 " That she blows" love it

[@richardhowe5583]

Dan,, "remember the words that you would have said, for better or worse you will take care of each other" take care of her and love her until she dies or you die.. try and walk a mile in her shoes and feel the way she feels.. the only thing worse than being sick is being lonely and sick..

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I don’t think he can live with himself otherwise 😳

[@jamesoconnor2753]

I had a friend who married a Filipina and applied for the spousal visa for her. Literally weeks after her arrival in the US, she was diagnosed with cancer and eventually she died within a year. He took care of her through the whole ordeal and to this day stays in contact with her adult children in the Philippines. He brought her ashes back to the Philippines so she could be buried there. This is an example of what a real man would do. Thankfully, a few years have passed and he’s pursuing another relationship with a Filipina. So, his story has not yet ended. I pray for Dan and his gf that things work out the best they can.

[@woodspirit98]

He isn't married to her.

[@richardhowe5583]

@@woodspirit98 if you really love somebody, it is the same thing as if you are married and you should act accordingly

[@charlesc.9572]

Pea, you know when to say "I don't know." I admire you all the more for admitting to it.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

That one really stumped me 😢😳

[@rustonhutchens783]

Agree -P's rocking the blue dress... and yes ~ I've had the flying dream... always try to get back into it. It rarely works

[@redangrybird7564]

Hi Pea, thanks for the enlightening stories. 😎👍

[@larryp3641]

Dan. Money comes and goes. You will always have it , more or less.. pay her medical bills. You are saving a life.

[@raynewbold5574]

Feel very sorry for Dan C ... I was a POA for a philipina girl here in the USA...She had five different cancers. She was doing much better after three months of Chemo... As she was recovering~ while driving in to our town, she fell asleep and went across the median and was T-boned and died on the scene. My point is "Never give up hope because only God knows how we will enter heaven."

[@user-wr4gx4gt2g]

Hi Pea, I have flown in my dreams all my adult life. Sometimes I fly like you described where I am just kind of floating and sometimes like superman in full control of direction and speed. I asked a psychologist what it means at a seminar that I went to. He was into dream interpretation and offered it to the class. He said flying in your dreams means you are very self confident and have a strong personality. I would just enjoy it, I do!

[@KennyG-qh8jc]

My favorite thumbnail so far!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Really? Well thanks!

[@andrewquint7962]

Dan, you might consider trying this. Pay her medical bills if you can afford to. Meanwhile, over time, try to transition into a job which you can do remotely. If that’s possible, move to the Philippines, so you can be with your love.

[@luthermcgee3767]

That's the best suggestion yet. To see if Dan can somehow transition to the Phillipines.

[@marcelleorton95]

Sounds like he doesn't really want to live in the Philippines or he would have done that already. Just by the tone of the way he wrote that email, it really sounded like an excuse not to move to the Philippines. But not knocking him for that. The Philippines isn't for everyone on a day to day basis. If he doesn't want to live there, he'd just be miserable and they would most likely have issues because of it. He can fix it by marrying her if he truly want her as his wife, and move her to the States and get her better medical care in the process, all while continuing to work and live where he wants to live. It would give her a better life in the long run.

[@jame1seire]

A wise compromise.

[@luthermcgee3767]

@@marcelleorton95 , well, if I had a love from over there, and I had a chance to be with her, I'd go. Love is priceless when two soulmates find each other. Even if it lasts for only one day, week, month, or year.

[@paulk8444]

No; You do Not want to live somewhere you Don't want to live especially for someone else as you will Regret it dislike it even more and be unhappy then begin to blame the other person for that choice and then resentment will come to be and the longer you stay the harder and deeper it will become. Don't do something you Know you will regret no matter how good the intention as then you'll only have misery to look back on instead of Happy memories and which will comfort you in your later years as the others you made that sacrifice for won't care as they will carry on and live their own lives. So live you Best one so you can lay your head on the pillow at night in peace.

[@jigenprime6613]

Hello Pea!.. Exceptional episode as always.. For the first question maybe he can start a GoFundMe account for her.. It’s truly heartbreaking to finally meet someone you want to spend your life with only to find out that person is extremely ill..😢

[@orangeuhrwerk]

Lucid positive dreams! I envy you. I had those flying dreams when I was a kid!

[@JMoroccoMisterBoy]

Ms. Pea : Tks. much.

[@lindseygaryiii485]

Love her and take care of her. Enjoy her while you can be happy. That might be the last time you’re happy again with the woman.

[@RyanFrechettePokerVlog]

Pea, I am a skydiver and there is some bliss in flying. Like you said almost orgasmic. If you get over your fear of heights, it’s very empowering. As far as your dreams go, it sounds like an empowering change might be coming. You are clearly trying to go somewhere in your dreams and it always has an imminent timeframe. Maybe you have been thinking outside your normal box. Keep up the good work!

[@randalsaladbar]

Good advice Pea! Your dreams represent your Internet experiences. Your time spent on keeps the brain running on it. From the oye, to oh yeah. In your dreams try to conquer your fears.

[@goooch888]

Dan, follow your heart because you can't deny what the heart feels. If you do decide to move on with your life, it will be the most gut wrenching emotion that you will experience. I wish you well my friend. 😊

[@ingagoodwin394]

Hi Pea, I have suffered from lots of nightmares since I was child. A psychologist told me over 20 years ago that when you have dreams that don't end well, it's that your mind is trying to figure something out and failed. That advice has helped me not take too seriously all the scary scenarios I found myself in while dreaming. I have figured out that the brain is trying to either make sense of something (any decision you have to make) or trying to cope with a situation that seems too much to bear in real life (real fears/phobias, disasters) or trying to physically cope with former real life situations (trauma, movies you watched). A few years ago I started allowing myself to go through the bad dreams - yes, finish them! And what I found was that the whole scenario would then morph and change into something bearable. Even better, some dreams stopped completely. Other nightmares I am able to face them with less fear within the dream, so that they turn into challenges instead of scary situations. My brain may not have been able to figure out whatever it was trying to figure out, but it at least got further along with it. Anyways, I know it sounds strange, but I encourage you to allow the nightmare to finish, so your brain can finish processing whatever it is trying to figure out (which may not have anything or very little to do with the storyline of the dream). It may not resolve happy, but I found it will resolve with less fear.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Inga 👍❤️

[@bouchecaldwell330]

Listen to Ashayana Deane on the topic of Shadow and Dreams.

[@PaMuShin]

Bad dreams can come from emotional deficits, like lack of security etc. but some can come from poisoning too. Like from bad food or bad bacteria in the digestion. So if the body regenerates the nightmares stop too. But another reason could come from imminent danger, like peoples desire, rough sex fantasies toward you, intend to burgle at your home or something. Best thing is to make a dream diary, writing after waking up everything down. Another thing is the contemplation of love, like jesus quote of 'Love your neighbour as yourself.” is very much like the buddhist contemplation of cultivating loving kindness, understanding that other people are suffering like we do and often do not differentiate from us. Others want to be joined with desireable things and stay apart from undesireable things, they suffer like us and they seek gain like us ... once we are clear about that through contemplating our mind gonna change. These kind of contemplation and raising of love for beeings that are part of us, cause they are one with us can banish nightmares too.

[@isaiahwelch8066]

​@@TheFilipinaPea: Never forget this acronym: F - False E - Evidence A - Appearing R - Real That's what "fear" is: False Evidence Appearing Real. That's also why fear is illogical and irrational.

[@xEvingodx]

Um... what? This started to track but went downhill super fast 🤔@@PaMuShin

[@ScottyFNQ]

The Woman, the Myth, the legend, the Pea! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣👍

[@TexasCPA50]

She is perfect. Too perfect. I suspect she is a android created by Filipinas to lure us unsuspecting men to the Philippines 🤣

[@redpillsatori3020]

@@TexasCPA50 ..I suspect she's hiring locals to respond to these messages, but you're close

[@exit61]

The thumbnail! 😍

[@rayrdelle]

love your videos more and more❤

[@MrSantacruz48]

Beautiful dress! Very interesting episode, I'm married to a Filipina and some of the stories from my in laws are wild. I love your channel please keep it up!

[@Nicholas-cn5vk]

Good one, Pea! You never fail to entertain and educate. 👍 Dream 1. The evil entity is your deadline. Dream 2. You are free from the stress of meeting your deadline.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hey, maybe that’s what it is! I’ll have to notice if the nightmare is on Fridays and Tuesdays, and the flying dreams aren’t 🤣👍❤️❤️

[@190719821]

@@TheFilipinaPea Hi Pea , the first dream try to watch something funny 1 hour or 30 minutes before sleep to relax your mind and sleepy happy its work to some people i know , when i have this nightmare I always go through the walls of the house and remember that I can cross hehe, the second when you always fly in a dream try to stay aware and then you can take control of your the dream the spiritual community say its a astral projection when you already flying in your dream, i hope this advice can help you Thanks for your videos.

[@josephcunniff]

Good day pea looking amazing as always ❤ great video 😊

[@wallacebonner7939]

Nice coordination of outfit and accessories for the video.

[@KevinP32270]

OMG..i've had the flying dream many times and i do the same thing when i wake up and try to get back into the dream. THAT'S AWESOME!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Aren’t they great?!! 👍

[@tomster7574]

Flying dreams are usually associated with lack of sex 😂😂 I’m not joking, based on practical theory

[@KevinP32270]

@@TheFilipinaPea yes they truly are.

[@KevinP32270]

@@tomster7574 how in the world can you scientifically prove that lolol. theory is just a best guess.

[@tomster7574]

@@KevinP32270 based on all the data provided, so ya, guessing is not theoretical.

[@nathan859]

I’ve also had my Filipina wife get mad at me over dreams, but she usually gets over it pretty quickly. Glad to know I’m not the only one.😂

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You’re actually the third tonight! 🥺🤣

[@strokerace6729]

It happened to me to

[@heyitsnemo]

My ex did this to me too. She would wake up and get mad at me for cheating on her in HER dream. I can look back at lol at it now.

[@TheAchilles26]

Women all around the world are infamous for being mad over something she only dreamed.

[@IgorDeCamps]

I think its a common theme with many woman! Not just Filipina's. Ask me how I know, LOL

[@jacobac07]

Wow Pea, it's weird that I have those same dreams that you described regarding the house and flying! Those have been recurring for me since I was a kid. But one thing I can do every now and then is lucid dreaming, where I'm aware that I'm asleep and dreaming and I am able to control what happens in my dreams. There's lots of video content on KZbin on how you can purposefully put yourself into the lucid dream state, but I've never bothered to learn it because I want to see where my unconscious mind wanders. Sleep tight and don't let the bed bugs bite!

[@robertmurray2843]

Great advice pea

[@mrnine324]

I can attest to two of those topics, Dreams and Sleep-Love. My Filipina girlfriend of two+ years now is amazing, we are so in love with each other, and I'm the happiest I've ever imagined I could be when I'm with her. With this, though, it took some getting used to or learning about some cultural differences and Pea's channel has really helped me better understand. Plus, she always tells me about how she grew up, her family, where she lived, went to school, and so on. Anyways, we laugh about it now in past-tense, but there have been plenty of dreams she has had where I'm guilty of something and she is mad at me the next day. She'll playfully hit me and such in her "anger" and I'll continue to defend my virtual self by reassuring her that I would never cheat on her. She is usually over it by the end of the day, so I'm lucky there I think. Now, as for the sleep-love thing, this is true too. She jokingly says things like "r*** me babe", or saying "r***" in some other ways, even telling her closest friends that we are in a group chat together with "I'm mad at him cuz he didn't r*** me last night". Again, it's all playing around, but based on what Pea said, it all makes sense. My g/f has said how she grew up with her 10 siblings (only two brothers) living in one small house even past the age of 18, so some including her would have boyfriends or husbands staying over and that's just how they do "it". She even said that when her and I go over to visit her family and stay in her house, we will have to do "it" under the covers when others are in the house or even sharing the same room. Oh, and another thing she does is pretend to be asleep for just a few seconds while we are making love and it excites her more. I love it!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Sounds like you found a keeper! ❤️❤️👍

[@JLALALALA]

This. You wrote pretty much what I was going to.

[@reggie42167]

Hi Pea, I have been watching your videos for a while and enjoyed every one of them, including your vacation trip to the U.S. My advice for the first gentleman issue is that love has no boundaries. If he truly loves her and she feels the same, then stay together. Life can be unfair at times, but that does not mean we have to lie down and give up. As far as your bad dream, there could be something in your life that you are avoiding. It's time to face the challenge and overcome it before it worsens. Keep up the great work!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Reggie! 👍❤️

[@DM-MCMLVI]

Love the flying dream! I had those as a child, and found it to be my passion when I became an adult.

[@billbrown4539]

Hi Filipina pea I watch your videos often but I must say you looked absolutely amazing wow keep up the good work 👏 ❤ much love from Michigan 😘😘😘

[@shareman99]

That first story was hard one. Thanks for another great video.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I just have no idea what to say with that one 🥺

[@davidjames5727]

@@TheFilipinaPea Unless you lived it, as I ...no one can answer that question...and even I do not know if I choose the correct road, stayed took care of her until her passing after 1 year. Lost 1.4 million hospital costs, house, job and all friends, family...you learn real quick your basically all alone in this world, most people cut and run when there is nothing in it for them.....

[@vampirosanchez5685]

Hello filipnapea do you talk to people on Facebook messenger

[@futurecolemaniii5191]

Filipina Pea; you are looking more and more beautiful each video and thats' all there is to it...What a Class act...Keep up the good work...

[@icemaster54isaac86]

Don't forget to love one another, be forgiving, and slow to anger and quick to forgive.

[@remaguire]

Love the accent at the end, Pea! Many years ago, a guy I worked with in the Navy was at Subic Bay on temporary duty. This was not the first time he had been there. He was a real PI warrior. Anyway, like a lot of Sailors, he couldn't resist hanging out at the local bars. When he got a few drinks in him, his imagination would run wild and he came up with some pretty outrageous things for the bar ladies to do. Most are X-rated, but this one isn't and I think it was inspired. It was around March 17th, a day which every Irishman knows. Anyway, my bud decided it was the perfect time to have an Irish brogue contest for the bar girls. It was HILARIOUS. Now, the ladies could have been very insulted at our guffaws, but they were really good sports about it and gave it the old college try. Their versions of an Irish brogue were VERY interesting to say the least.

[@gdaubenspeck]

Just writing to compliment the dress and accessories - very nice look!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks for that! 👍👍😊

[@tuleralph6031]

The chasing dreams are usually unfinished tasks, avoiding unpleasant chores that must be accomplished or feeling overwhelmed. The flying dreams are astral projection😮 Very cool 🎉

[@johnlobley]

Hello Pea ...and always let the ads play

[@TheFilipinaPea]

John! Your alarm almost didn’t go off! 🥺😳🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️👍

[@johngrey6485]

Pea Sometimes the best Advice is no Advice. This is a true Conondrum. U did very well in my opinion.

[@mowgli2071]

Good morning Pea! For some reason I saw the word "booty" before I saw anything else. I was quite glad to find that I had clicked on your video when it started

[@Lawrencerice]

Dear Dan, One of the defining characteristics of love is that it is unconditional. You need to deeply examine if you truly love this girl. If the answer is yes, put a ring on her and never let go. Anything else you will regret for a lifetime. Best wishes.

[@paulstan9828]

Pea always looks so pretty. 🇵🇭👋😁

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It’s my job to look presentable (usually) 😊

[@lespearson3801]

The sleep snuggles thing... I've had it go both ways. I had an American GF that expressed a similar request for sleeping booty. It was well accepted for a few weeks, and then I guess she was over the intrigue and changed her mind. My Vietnamese wife loves it and has never acted otherwise. She says it makes her feel secure that her man finds her irresistible. So sometimes I'm not necessarily in the mood, but if I don't for too long, she'll think something is wrong. Vietnamese women are on par with Philippinas in the jealousy department.

[@Bruce_Wayne35]

Wait just a minute. So if you don't have sex often enough, your wife complains that you aren't having enough sex? 😮😱

[@garytaylor5937]

I love it my gf looks so beautiful in the soft light at night when she is asleep I will often wake up because I suffer insomnia and initiate love making it's sexy thing to do. I also love being woken up this way. Maybe you can call it a fetish. As long as both parties are into it no harm.

[@JimMillsCSLC]

Miss Pea, I loved your dream about flying amongst the trees and looking down. To me, a metaphysician and spiritual life coach, it tells a lot about the source of your wisdom and presence. You are a very wise soul, and have an innate acceptance of all people, allowing them the opportunity to live and express the highest version of themselves. I sense your recurring dream is to remind you your wisdom and expression come from a higher dimension-a higher source. Although very grounded here on Mother Earth, your true sense of being resonates with the virtues you celebrate and desire higher dimensions

[@stevenrobberts3238]

Great video Pea. My heart goes out to Dan. Sounds like he is truly in love with her. He didn't say what his occupation is, but perhaps he can find a job working remotely, so that he can work and still be with her. There is a guy in the Philippines, channel "More to Life" that has mentioned in his videos that he will help guys find remote work. Best of Luck. I want to know what happens.

[@jamestopeka2236]

DAN YOUR HEART ❤ HAS YOUR ANSWER SO TRUST THAT

[@janroberts8238]

I think, Dan, you should consider another trip to PI this will you a chance to evaluate things on site.

[@zmanthemercenary5378]

Love the set for this video, very 80s.

[@joshuacook3069]

Love your dress in this video! Anyway, for your bad dream, try intentional dreaming, set a vision in your mind of what you want to dream about. Focus on a concept or idea and visualize that manifesting in your dream. It takes a couple of tries to master it, but once you do, you can fly anytime you want and control your bad dream to stop the 'bad guy' and make it a good dream as well. so Sweet Dreams and please keep up the entertaining and informative videos. Hugs & Kisses. Cookie

[@mikestroud9969]

Im 61 and very experienced. But i have no suggestions or advice for the first guy. Life can Test us at times. It all comes down to your feelings and its your decision only. Gents this Filipina is really smart and caring. I know Filipinas really well. Take care ❤️🙏💯

[@nate61]

Thanks!

[@andymanaus1077]

Hi Pea, hope you're going well. I used to have bad dreams when I was a bit younger. I found that it was very helpful thinking about the dream before I went to sleep, walking through the normal dream process but then imagining an alternative and more positive ending. Imagine the house of your dreams while you are conscious. Imagine chasing after the monster instead of waiting for it to come to you. You are the hunter, not the prey. When you capture it, or if you are being cornered, imagine that you chastise the monster and your words turn it into a puppy or a kitten. Imagine how cute the little guy looks. Create positive feelings for him. You can then play with him and tell him how silly you were to ever be afraid of such a cute little floof. If he seems to turn back into a monster, you can get cranky again, "We'll have none of that here, mister." He's not a monster. He's just a very naughty boy. You can even imagine giving him a name. The more detailed your imagination and more positive feelings you can have towards your little monster, the better it should work for you. When you fall asleep, your unconscious mind will access some of your conscious memories. Your unconscious mind doesn't know the difference between real memories and imagined ones. With a little luck your dreams will incorporate the more positive story you've imagined. Once the negative energy of the dream goes away, it will usually go away on its own over time. Both dreams are completely normal and flying dreams are extremely common. It can be frustrating when they wake you up. The exercise I have suggested might help you take control of your recurring dream and turn it into something pleasant. Even if ir still wakes you up, it won't be an unpleasant waking and you should be able to drift back off to sleep more easily.

[@MikeBarbarossa]

Not being able to hide from the monster SUCKS

[@clydekimsey7503]

I have had those flying dreams too. They occur periodically, but less and less the older I get. In them, I suddenly remember that I can fly, so I do😅

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Aren’t they the Best??! 👍👍👍😊

[@clydekimsey7503]

@@TheFilipinaPea yes, they are. I miss them

[@maathejayandyjohns1343]

He's curing many DYOR

[@Staywoke2023]

Love this channel excellent 😅😅😅

[@johnstreckfuss3068]

As to advice for Dan, each of us can only offer what we might do, and that will be influenced by our individual situations. My first question would be this: How does this woman make you feel about yourself? Are you a better man with her in your life? Does she bring out the best in you? You’re about to find out. Good luck, Dan.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Well said, John 👍👍

[@cwvowel]

A range of emotions in this video, Pea. My heart goes out to Dan and his Filipina. The situation is difficult but length of the relationship shouldn't matter. 5 months or 5 years. Love is love if it's true. Dan should help within reason but don't ruin his future by creating debt he can't pay. The sleeping booty story is quite funny to me. I would never turn down the offer for fun in the sheets because I'm such a horn dog. Plus i guarantee she won't be asleep for long 😂. You just need to lay off the horror movies pea and you'll stop with those nightmares. I've never had a flying dream but I've had plenty of falling dreams. As a child i often fell out bed while dreaming. 😅

[@beretta1990]

Thank u pea for helping us your the best ❤

[@troy3456789]

Pea, you are so easy on the eyes.

[@drslav754]

First story is a tough one. Dan… do what your heart tells you. Make sure you make a choice that you can live with. Whatever you do do not regret what you decide. I’d say for now pay the bills let the dust settle and take as long as possible to make your decision. As for the guy with the sleeping beauty offer: I’ve had that happen. She basically means that that if you need more of her than you have time for she’s open for business after hours. Just say thank you. 😊 As for the rest of the video… Dear Pea… i have similar recurring dreams… in one I do something with my mind and fly straight up and look around then I get scared of height and come down slow… in other I run and lift my legs up and I float in that direction… strange no? Lastly a question: have you heard of Sexomnia? I’ve always been curious how many men have that happen…

[@rotaryperfection]

For Dan! If you truly love her and was planning to marry her, SUPPORT HER. The fact that yall haven't gotten married yet or her condition changes nothing IMO.

[@DR-ww7rx]

Agreed

[@vapcmods855]

Good advice. You made up your mind as you said you didn't agree with your friends and family. It's your money, your heart, and do what feels right to you. As long as you have feelings for her, you will not be available, emotionally, to meet someone else. If you find this changes, and you have feelings for someone else, be honest with yourself. You can still continue to help her as a friend and develop a relationship with someone else. Keep in mind the next woman may not understand why you help her. Please make sure you are emotionally available before dating again.

[@didierdenice7456]

Personally I'm on Pea side. Too many people think they are qualified and smart enough to tell others what they should be doing... I prefer to stay silent. Firstly I don't even know what I would do... Secondly we are never in someone else shoes...

[@rotaryperfection]

@@didierdenice7456 I think you're confused. You're ignoring the fact that Dan asked Pea for advise and to give a public response on what he should do. Pea herself then defered to the comment section for other points of view. If Dan didn't want other people in his business, then he shouldn't have never asked Pea for her public opinion. I'm sure Dan is reading all the different points of view comments to help him make up his mind. That's what he wants.

[@rotaryperfection]

@@vapcmods855 When did I say I didn't agree with friends or family? You responding to the wrong comment or something?

[@themindoftonylifes440]

Great video

[@normalisoverrated]

Hi Filipina Pea. Thanks for all of your honest & helpful advice & videos. I don't really take dreams too seriously either. However, since you asked, I'll share my thoughts. The doors that continue to open I suspect could be a result of your creativity & your repetitive thinking through the day of new ideas for videos & topics. The scary part of the dream is just that, a scary part of your dream. We all have a similar scary dream like that I think, I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe next time, if you can try to catch your self in the dream with the doors, you can turn the tables & start to fearlessly chase whatever it is? It is sometimes possible for some people, myself included to very occasionally, realise that we are dreaming & just enjoy the show! Also, I often have dreams of flying a day or two after I have been swimming. So, I'm not sure, but you might like to try this out. Especially if there are waves you can jump through as though you are jumping off in your dreams. Anyway, All the best!

[@houseaccount3293]

My advice for Dan is to get married to her. Get the residence for the Philippines, start a small business that you can manage, and work while taking care of her. You don't need to live a life of luxury. But only a small taco shop, or burger joint, could provide you the resources to live comfortable and happy, if her treatments will allow her to live her life for years to come, and you can provide a future for her and yourself. Then those medical needs are nothing more then a challenge to overcome and a to show your love for each other by over coming it. You do not need to be dating for 5 years to know if she's the one, if you feel it, believe it. Then the reward for over coming this challenge is well worth it. I have 10 years as a Chef, and 20 years running businesses, from restaurants to resorts. If Dan want's any advice on how to set things up, how to find what options work well for him based on experience and background. I am happy to help do not ask for anything in return.

[@williamknopic7915]

Dan, I've been in relationships that had no closure. Always leaving me in what seemed to be endless tears. And in the end of each one I found myself alone wondering what happened? Finally, after a number of those I found something that was never thought of before. The greatest strength I've ever known is inside me. It took all of those pains to go through, searching in others and going different places to uncover what I've had all along. After having discovered that long ago I'm very comfortable, content and happy. Myself. And wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I need noone because I'm complete. You too may find what you've always yearned for. Yourself. Yes Dan, it's inside of you. It's not in another person or location or thing, but you. This may be a hard pill for you to swallow now. And you may even think you and I have nothing in common. Don't be fooled. However if you go the correct direction you'll uncover all the wisdom and maturity you could hope for. Just look inside. It's there.

[@chrismaddieourfil-amjourne3720]

So your advice is??? Love yourself? No offense, but that was a deep, well thought out “word salad” that had absolutely nothing to do with Dan’s issue. He’s wrestling with heart, moral and quality of life concerns that quite frankly; requires more than what appears to have been a campaign speech or some quote from Tony Robbins.

[@geostruth9115]

The truth is often not heard. I resonate with your comment. 👊

[@markmason3146]

Thanks Pea for all your advise i have found my perfect Philapina and her family is so welcoming I now look foreword to retiring in the Philippines

[@0Zebadee0]

Dan, if you're reading this, here's what I would do. Ask her to email you a copy of her health records pertaining to this medical condition, perhaps by suggesting that treatments in your country 'will be more effective,' even if they probably aren't. Make sure to ask for a scanned original form, not a translation, and not a mobile phone screenshot. Then, gauge her reaction to this.
 If she tells you she cannot obtain these, that's a lie. 
If she delays replying or procrastinates, be suspicious. If you tell her you have send less money from now on and she expresses frustration or anger, be suspicious. Your story reminded me of the experiences of two friends of mine who sent money to girls in Thailand and the Philippines for alleged 'medical treatment' for family members. Both turned out to be scams. I'm not suggesting the girl you're sending money to also trying to scam you, but be aware that scams these days have become more elaborate and sophisticated, even involving health workers in one of my friend's cases. Hope this helps.

[@johngrillo5498]

this is the right answer.

[@zuchnicky]

It seems to me you did not listen. Dan wrote it is not a scam. He was present to medical exams.

[@0Zebadee0]

@@zuchnicky Present at medical exams, yes, but maybe not the initial diagnosis. Anybody can undergo an exam at hospital for anything. Dan needs to narrow this down to specifics and in so doing, get closer to finding out one way or another what's really happening.

[@jamesredman1263]

​@@0Zebadee0- proposing to treat it here is probably not doable. If he can barely afford treatment in Philippines and this is real, treatment in the US would be many times more.

[@jamesredman1263]

​@@0Zebadee0 He actually discussed the case with her doctors.

[@donaldmoore9895]

Dan, the hospice are just like angels, they are there to provide love and care for someone who is on their way to everlasting life. Dan , you fell in love with this Filipino. She fell in love with you. You said you want to marry her. The marriage vowels says in sickness and in health. When she was good for you, when she was in good health, but now she is sick and she needs you to be her angel. We all have only one life let your love be what she remembers, and her lifetime, I recently lost my wife. I know how hard it is but she really truly needs your love, it will truly make her transition a lot easier for her and you will always be proud of your action. Dan, she needs you to be her angel.

[@howardmoore8076]

hi Pea i always enjoy your video

[@craigfurby7706]

Cheers cappy! x

[@CodeFatherX]

Sorry to hear about your situation Dan. Sadly… I don’t think anybody can really give solid advice in that situation. It’s seems like you’re aware of all the options in front of you. Like Pea said, choose whichever option is best for you and that you can live with, immediate and long term

[@larrybibey757]

This is so strange I had the same scenario as the first two emails. I once was dating my realtor after she sold me a house and after a month she had a dream and broke it off. I married a filipina and after a couple years found she had a fatal disease but luckily insurance is paying for all meds. I am now waiting for the third scenario to happen to me.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Okay, I was really getting so sad at the first 7/8’s of your comment, but you ruined that by making my laugh at the final 1/8 🤣

[@Bruce_Wayne35]

@@TheFilipinaPea Do Filapinas die of cancer at a higher rate than other ethnicities? I keep hearing this same story, over and over again.

[@bobkelley8291]

As a teenager I use to dream flying like that avoiding the telephone lines. Thanks for reminding me.