What Do Filipinas Want In The Bedroom? This And Other Mysteries Explained!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

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[@fermisparadox01]

That dress looks so good on you.👍

[@timothyneiswander3151]

I have watched other Filipina channels but yours is the only one that got me to click to subscribe. Always good content. Your personality is amazing and your sense of humour is the best. I would absolutely let you abopt me. ;D

[@spykemxd]

Hey Pea. What's with this new "safe space" law I'm hearing about? As femimism finally broken through to your shores?

[@guyandre4946]

You are definitely right Pea! Filipinas can be very adventurous. Last week my Filipina friend came back from work, grabbed my hand and took me forcibly into the bedroom! I was shocked, it hadn’t been like this for a long time! She threw me onto the bed, and pulled the sheets over us! Then she said: “ Look … ! My new watch glows in the dark! “ …

[@TheFilipinaPea]

@@spykemxd That law has been signed and implemented since 2019! It’s nothing new, and yet I haven’t heard of a single case of it affecting any expats or local men. If it’s such a big deal, I wonder why that is? (because it’s nothing to worry about). What you may not understand is that Filipinos don’t like confrontation, and we don’t run to the police or the lawyer every time someone offends us, unlike in the west. In fact, did you know there’s been a law on the books for years that makes it illegal for people to publicly criticize someone? Calling them names or calling them a liar on social media is illegal (like the KZbinr who made that video does all the time), and yet how many people have sued him? Does he seemed even slightly concerned about the laws here? I wonder why not? I don’t see why so many foreign men are afraid of this law just because some KZbinr (who by the way is NOT a lawyer) is interpreting this law to stir up hysteria and get views. My simple advice is don’t commit the crime - it’s that simple. Even IF you’re accused of committing this violation/crime the accuser has to prove it beyond doubt in court. I think we are far busier just trying to survive than to deal with that nonsense. Filing a case against someone here can take years, so why bother if your goal is to just to hassle someone? Even if the accuser is only after a money settlement, he/she still needs money to start the process of filing a case. Unlike in the west, most lawyers here don’t take cases without money UPFRONT. Your average citizen doesn’t have any. In short, just be a law abiding citizen - why worry?! But I’ll be happy to hear about all the cases created by this ‘new’ law that isn’t new - if you can even find a single case that involves an expat! I bet you can’t ☺️ If I told you there was a species of snake in the Philippines that could give you a nasty bite , and cost you a few thousand dollars in medical treatments if you were bitten, but that no one had seen this snake in three years and it actually had never bitten a single foreigner, would you really avoid coming to the country out of fear? Seriously? 😂

[@1edmondmartell]

im a hispanic male she is a filipina beauty, i got married when i was 18 and she was 23. everyone said it would not work, but we been married 42 years and have 3 beautiful children and now 3 gorgeous grandchildren. it has not been easy and we had cultural differences, but we love eachother very much. she is devoted to her family a hard working nurse and loyal. could not ask for a better wife........

[@jorgebklyn1]

Just like I said before, women are women no matter where they were born.

[@jonw3738]

A Hispanic and a Filipina? I bet your children are gorgeous. Good work, amigo!

[@journeyto100channel2]

Bless you Brotha! I’m a Hispanic as well. I’m sure we Hispanics and The Filipino culture have a bit more in common. We are More Serious men, and Serious Lovers. I’m sure your Wife is a Happy Woman.

[@karamlevi]

Wow bro. Cool 🎉

[@dave-d-grunt]

I have a similar story. She’s several years older. We were told it’d never last. Been almost 49 years.

[@dancrunk1063]

A Pinay came to my house for a hangout 8 years ago and shes still here to this day

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahaha Did you marry her, or just lock her in the bathroom? 😂

[@aaronosborn7395]

Haha same here only it’s been 4 years I think …

[@dawienatral7083]

😂@@TheFilipinaPea

[@hp7639]

He married her in the bathroom 😅​@@TheFilipinaPea

[@hp7639]

He kept locking her up different places and then when she was finally free she didn't want to leave anymore 😅😂

[@kaiphi5350]

22 years with my Filipina. God broke the mold after he made them. Their Loyalty and devotion is unmatched.

[@AsianMassageParlorAddict]

As long as you are making money.

[@davidhulsizer7576]

I’ve been with my Filipina wife since 1990. We got married 29 years ago and we are still going strong.

[@bobbythespaceghost51]

All I need is stability like that!

[@magdalenohuerta1761]

Hi love your nice voice n sexy look your age my friend

[@LWRC]

Going strong doing what?? House work? Arguing? Yard work??!!!

[@flyingjoed]

@@LWRC That's called being adults.

[@evocati6523]

@@LWRC you sound jealous

[@jasonmiller5628]

When I visited the Philippines I was very surprised by the way the locals treated me in the province. I wasn't treated well in Manila, but the small towns are full of great kind people.

[@markholland6657]

cities in general are more hostile and less hospitable than smaller country towns anyway... I think thats a universal thing..

[@ayalafernandez3345]

Because people each provinces come to Manila have different attitude they adapt whats style in City maybe some people they some are friendly and hospitable some are not and also shy unless you approach them

[@dzmj3407]

@@markholland6657 Very true, Japanese are known to be super kind people too but although Tokyo is a great city (I speak fluent Japanese by the way), people are very busy and were less friendlier than people living in smaller towns/prefectures.

[@CEOkiller]

I saw the same thing in France and Russia…

[@Nga_Babaye]

Manila is rough around the airport, but it gets better the further away from it you get in Manila. Makati is pretty cool. There is a city thing at the moment where some of the kuyas in their 30-40s crowd are passive aggresive if you don't speak Tagalog or don't have a permanent Filipina partner. There are always the scam traps also, so security can sometimes be rough because that is their way of protecting you through the language barrier.

[@mikemaruno5984]

I met my Filipina 8 years ago and we just got married 2 weeks ago. She really makes my life complete

[@TheFilipinaPea]

❤️❤️❤️❤️👍

[@ChadChadoChad]

Mike payed 😢

[@bruceconstuble4603]

I dated an ilonga for several years. There were some cultural issues that I adjusted to without much trouble. The 2 issues that I could not adjust were: 1 walking slightly behind me. No far just a step behind. #2: never giving a direct answer as in where to go and what to do. She always answered wherever you like. Finally I sat her down in private and explained that walking behind me makes me feel she that feels less worthy than I am and it makes me feel bad. As for the answer thing, I explained that I don't have any idea where a good restaurant was and that is why I asked. Once she understood what was bothering me, she changed and we only had 1 issue left. Balout. Sorry but just the smell makes me vomit. We agreed that she could eat it as she liked it. But she goes without me and gets what she wants. Then comes back and brushes her teeth and all was good. Other than the misunderstanding on the first 2 things , that were easily solved, by far she was the best GF I could ever have. My friends think I'm crazy but you will never a more caring ,patient and giving woman than a fillipina.

[@williamonderlinde5068]

Oh man, those balouts--evil stuff.

[@sdickinson5234]

I also noticed filipinas walking in the street with a foreigner will naturally walk on the traffic side to protect their foreigner from the oncoming vehicles.

[@manuelfaelnar4794]

She WAS the best GF you could ever have? You broke up?

[@bruceconstuble4603]

@@manuelfaelnar4794 yes. I will never marry again so staying with me , she will never have children or be married. Not fair to her.

[@sicmaggot82004]

I agree with you on the balout!!! But my issue is when my Filipina cooks that dried fish in the house, I tell her to open the windows and doors, cause I can't stand the smell of it. Makes me feel sick. But my Filipina is also illongo and I never had a problem with her walking behind me. She always walked along side of me holding my hand. The only other issue I do have with her is how she doesn't let me know that she stopped to look at something and I'm still walking until I notice she's not along side of me and I have to turn around and look for her. I have discussed it with her but she is stubborn. So is your Filipina stubborn too?

[@dr.davidmiller6682]

“Holding the lumber while you slumber! “I’m laughing out loud seriously! You’re one hilarious woman! Actually, my wife who is Indonesian, does the same thing! I find it kind of endearing! I don’t think I’ll be asking my friends name about their wives and girlfriends though!

[@hitmusicworldwide]

ignore the rod ... then left Tod!

[@russellday5003]

Sir, you are a King!

[@DarthPoyner]

My American wife does the same thing. She says it helps her mind settle down which helps her get to sleep much faster.

[@767dag]

i actually experienced that when i was young man in south korea !!

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

Wow, I want to experience that, sounds like fun 😂

I met my Filipina wife while waiting to be introduced to her friend through a mutual friend. Her inner strengths and occasionally wacky sense of humor appealed to me as did her strong faith. I soon forgot that I was supposed to meet someone else. Her first reaction was one of immediate rejection, but we gradually became friends, then closer friends and 7 months later we were married. We will be married 28 years soon. We are both stubborn and it is a good thing in our case. We both know which hard lines not to cross. Family relations and economic plans have been the occasional sticking points, the Filipina is accustomed to more soft power in such matters than is normal in an American couple, but we find ourselves more often on the same side. I will be with this one until the end.

[@garyK.45ACP]

My wife is Ukrainian and likes to hold "the lumber while she slumbers" (great metaphor, BTW). Fine with me. If I sleep "behind her" (spoon position) she holds it between her thighs or even puts it inside! 🤷‍♂ It was pretty easy to adjust to. She will also do it if we are lounging on the sofa watching a movie. I think, for her, it's just an intimacy thing. Like holding hands...but better.

[@crapschamp4206]

Nice

[@MAX3D2]

*That's a keeper!*

[@hp7639]

Yeah she holds the third leg. She is a photographer and tripod is in your cards

[@hp7639]

Funny thing is mine does the same but she isn't Ukranian she is filipina. I think it's like a battery charger for them. When they wake up they are fully charged 😅

[@beakytzw]

Does she have a sister?

[@Dragon_rls]

Hey Pea. I think a lot of foreign guys forget a Filipina is still a woman, and they need more than a phone to hold. I don't think a man in pursuit should jump on a plane after a month of corresponding, but to leave a woman waiting for 2-1/2 years, and to expect her to be a faithful partner in my opinion is a very unreasonable expectation. My advice to guys; Be sure you are financially, and emotionally ready for what will be a LTR for a long while, make a point of visiting, and then revisiting, and don't play games. If you wind up with a scammer, you will know it. If you find a woman who is love worthy, love her with everything you got, and be attentive. Even if it means burning through all your vacation time , and several grand per year for 1-2 years. Be good.

[@FishHeavens]

not agree with that if your to fast you don't see there real intention and don't forget meabe your in a place close to philippines ,but iam on the other side from the world Belgium ,cost me only to take a plain 1500 a 2000 euros ,so 1 trip to there can easy cost me 5 a 10k euros and to tell you i got scammed enough so ye i wanne be sure its real and not a scame again before i waste money ,if she real good with you its not a waste but if its a scammer like i meet alot scammers then ye i watch out

[@MrBikedrummer]

If you are a US citizen male, you won't only be marrying the Filipina, you'll marry the family. You will be sending lots of money to help her entire family. It will never end.

[@borgata_boss4088]

Marry one from a small family who work too

[@jimmydavis4735]

Thanks Bruh. That's What I've Been Hearing They Need To Use The Money To Open a Family Business If They're Not Elderly We Can't Give Them Money To Be Lazy.

[@Grayman58]

And you know this how

[@officialstylechild]

Sounds like you’ve been through it

[@gpilsitz1783]

@@MrBikedrummer Yep! My nest egg wound up buying a house for her brother in a province. Then there's the monthly "rice" money.

[@bagelbunz2244]

Re: holding the lumber… it’s an insecurity thing. My ex-GF (mexican-American) did the same and also demanded we sleep naked and always touching. It was actually kinda nice to know I was wanted/needed that much.

[@hp7639]

May be for her but not for all women that do it. Mine just likes the way it feels.

[@donmyers584]

I’ve been married to a lovely Filipina for nearly 40 years and couldn’t have found a better wife, mother to our kids and all around great person. I love you Linda!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

👍❤️👍

[@jameswitt5468]

I instantly fell in love with your video. You put it out there, straight forward, no holds barred..... I'm thinkig of retiring there, and you give me an honest explanation of what to expect. Thank You for your honesty and straight forwardness.

[@skeptical_sorcerer]

Filipinas not being adventurous with food - many years ago while in the Philippines I was spending a couple of weeks with a young lady. I asked if she had ever tried Indian food (my favourite). She said no but I was surprised she had no interest in even trying it. Finally, I managed to talk her into going to an Indian restaurant one night....she absolutely loved it....couldn't get enough and every night thereafter she wanted to go back to the same restaurant. Cost me a small fortune. So, be careful what you wish for. If they just want chicken adobo and rice, maybe just smile and say "sure".

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahaha Very true! You can save a lot of $ with a Filipinas taste in food 😂

[@puppyupper4565]

@@TheFilipinaPea problem is that the Filipino diet of rice is causing many to die early. It pushes insulin resistance which causes high blood pressure. I hope to marry a Filipina and I do understand they are cautious when trying new things. Yet, your insight that they are willing to do so if they date a foreigner is encouraging. I live outside the box, even for a native born Californian. You rock Pea. You are on outside the box girl. Good on you.

[@patrickmullane30]

My wife was the same with steak 🥩 Damn! 😜😆🤑❤️❤️

[@momshiegingadventure]

2sticks of Pork Barbecue and 1 hanging rice enough for me,so my Boyfriend Steve will be so lucky nyahahaha

[@thebigmann81]

@@puppyupper4565 yep to much carbs and sugar can be a killer. Some folks is more sensitive to that than others though. I personally try cut the sugar close to zero as possible and stay under 50 carbs a day. My whole life I have been over weight even when trained in MMA and watched my portion control. Turns out only thing that ever worked was carb control

[@johnalvarez1976]

A good Filipina is simple, do t try to impress her, she is impressed to have you. We as foreigners always try to impress with gifts, food etc. Not Filipinas, they are simple and full of caring love. You want her to be happy, take her to the market and eat food or jollybee. Take her to random walks or random trips, spend time with her. Also write her letters, she’ll love the letter more than what ever you’ll give her, simple and remember your special days, she’ll be more than happy.

[@eleuterioelizondo583]

You make my day. You are so much fun to listen to. And, your beauty is genuine.

[@steffybael1245]

IF your adopted Filipina asks if her cousin can visit, the simple reply is "only if SHE is pretty as you are, and you wont get mad if we all sleep in the same bed TOGETHER"!!!

[@lavellelee5734]

Ayeeeeee 😂

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

Pretty much

[@jamesg2609]

I bet that statement went over like a fartin church.. 😅 . So tell us did this ever happen?

[@thebigmann81]

Hope it isn't her ladyboy cousin. 😂😂

[@thebigmann81]

As for the rice she might have seen the prices so she only ordered rice to save money.

[@wesgraham2262]

“Filipinas know when it comes to the bedroom that we foreigners like to ”think outside the box” but we’re afraid that box might contain jello and power tools!” Priceless!!! You sure have a way with words, Pea. Haha!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣🤣👍

[@warren1861]

This is interesting. I'm planning a 2 week solo trip to Manila in November as I've never been to any Asian country and decided to make Philippines my first. I actually thought of using Philippines dating sites to find someone to eventually meet up with on my trip but your videos really built up my awareness for this upcoming trip. I'm still excited for this trip though

[@TheFilipinaPea]

We’ll be so happy to see you, Warren - thanks for choosing us first ❤️ And don’t worry, you’ll be glad you didn’t get tied down online first 👍

[@warren1861]

@@TheFilipinaPea One question on racism and not sure if you cover this in one of your videos. I'm a Black South African going to the Manila for 2 weeks on vacation. I will be meeting up with a friend of mine but I hope not to encounter any of the stereotypical racism over there. I'm a senior engineer who travels around the world implementing projects and I encountered stereotyping in Brazil. I booked a taxi for the week to take me and the white junior engineer from the hotel to the office where we will be working. The taxi driver was a white guy and when it came to paying him, he asked who would be paying and I said that I will. He smirked and said that it will be expensive and if I can afford it, I told him obviously I can. End of the week on the invoice he put the white junior engineers name on the invoice to pay for the weekly trip. In Dubai I've had people overlook me at times and serve the other white guests. These aren't common occurrences as I've been to plenty of countries that treats everyone fair and equal, I'm just curious if this is a issue in the Philippines, particularly Manila as I'll be there for 1 week then the 2nd week I'll be visiting one of the islands (decided on Siquijor after watching your video on it) :)

[@petertraveller6421]

Of course your plane lands to Manila, but it could be good idea to look other place to meet people. I went by land/boat from angeles all the way to davao and island of samal. They really like different looking people in those small places.

[@seckoya]

@@warren1861 🤔

[@outli3r692]

@@warren1861 How was your trip?

[@sharhune2735]

You have done an excellent job since you started your channel, Pea. I joined very shortly after you started. I spent two years as a child in the Philippines and went to Subic twice while in the Navy. In general (there are exceptions) the people of the Philippines are welcoming and friendly to foreigners. I would advise most western men to tread carefully while navigating the dating landscape over there. Different culture, different rules. Take care, Pea and we will talk again.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Great advice, and thanks for sticking with me so long, Shar!! 👍❤️

[@laynefischer2021]

I recommend that any foreigner going to Philippines 🇵🇭 vacation or to find a girl 👧 or anything to do with the Philippines 🇵🇭 should be mandatory they WATCH EVERY VIDEO of the Pea ,, she covers everything that a foreigner needs to know ..

[@firstnamelastname6717]

Great advice girl, we all need a pea in our love life’s

[@shempg7216]

I think it is definitely a security thing when my spouse resorts to playing “I Wanna Hold Your Man” night after night. During a rocky point in our relationship this was how we fell asleep and how we woke up. It was kinda annoying, but also lead to a nice wake-up!

[@zaraspook1367]

I knew someone that named their boat after this exact scenario. Morning Wood. 🤣

[@pijoseb]

"Hold the lumber while you slumber" OMG that is hilarious! I definitely have never encountered this in the West, but I am certainly open to it from a Filipina.

[@neiltappenden1008]

I new a western girl that done this , I never questioned it . Tbh I am now

[@FarmerKen355]

I was taking a drink, when I heard you called it "slumber with the lumber" I blew it out of my nose. I love it what an image.

[@ronniesouthern7829]

I couldn’t help but smile and laugh at “holding the lumber 🪵 while you slumber”. Looking forward very much to the video update on your parents house 🏡. Until then I will follow the advice of Nurse Pea and also make sure I’m squeaky clean 🧽 as well.

[@jonneyjonn9449]

I can confirm the lumber thing, my wife does the same.

[@DallasCarr-1]

Inflation is crazy here now. Lumber is up to $12.95 a foot!

[@andrewmvenegas]

Pea, you’re such a great communicator. Your so appreciated.

[@ObjectiveEthics]

That was an entertaining video... "lumber while you slumber" was hilarious. Thumbs up 👍 4 sure.

[@glengamble526]

You are quite the package: looks, brains and humour. You’ve honestly bumped up my interest in visiting the Philippines-somewhere I’ve WANTED to go but perhaps didn’t crave to go to. Well…that’s changed ❤

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Now it’s an ‘I need to go’ 🤣🤣👍

[@Dennismelnychuk]

@@TheFilipinaPea are you not married? Is do why not?

[@Ken-im2ej]

​@@TheFilipinaPea how can I contact Ruth from your video on mature women. please help I am extremely interested in meeting and talking to her. Thank you. Ken

[@tikka8218]

Just don't go to Manila, it's a shit hole.

[@gabrielwalker1318]

I agree 👍

[@dedeborya9015]

I was in the Navy, I was stationed there for a bit ... and yes, I did date a local girl. I regret ever leaving the deployment, I wish I could have extended, I wish I could have got stationed there - but the world conflict is what it was. The care, the food, the attention, the sex, the long dates - a great girl, but she wanted to move faster than I did.

[@stephengoldberg334]

VN service is no longer relevant.

[@mattpage2228]

Of course it is. It’s his testimony.

[@richardcoffey3125]

Is fun watching all these videos after the act of being married to a Filipina for 13 years. I remember doing research prior to my first trip to the Philippines m. But after all those trips and 13 years of marriage, so much more makes sense to me. In fact I think these videos have in my mind made my relationship better. We have a super supper 13 year old musician son and he recognizes his mom’s cultural differences. Too funny!

[@larryprice7775]

re - "holding the lumber while they slumber". I have experienced a number of girls from various races/cultures do this. The common denominator seems to be that when we were very , ummm, physically compatible, and she had a back arching, toe curling big-O - she would often snuggle up and fall asleep holding her new favorite thing.

[@rl8571]

Agree with this. Its a sign they enjoy you but also want to possess you and 100 percent, its not just a filipina thing.

[@Mitch-rk5mz]

When you lay pipe so well, they call you the plumber!!!!!

[@erwinhouser7704]

I sure miss that while cuddling.

[@thelegacyofgaming2928]

It's their way of claiming you

[@jaredangell8472]

You're, ambitious, intelligent and have a great command of the English language. I'm increasingly impressed the more I watch your videos, which are well made too.

[@edwardthompson1037]

I have had 2 wives at the same time, i was loyal to both. And they loved each other as well, Both as family and Lovers. I find that being loved by 2 wives at the same time.

[@arnoldseay9118]

I just thought it was my Filipina that liked to hold the lumber while I slumber. Now I don’t feel so special. Haha. Rice and tuyo is all you need to know when picking a restaurant for your Filipina date. Fun video Miss Pea.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yours too, Arnold? I had no idea it was so common here! 😂😂😂

[@arnoldseay9118]

@@TheFilipinaPea haha

[@xpusostomos]

wakey wakey, hands off snakey.

[@VistaLatin]

About the Filipina not wanting to try a different food, consider yourself lucky, the price allows anyone to eat out every day...In the US, you're lucky to keep the meal under $50.00 bucks and a hug isn't even guaranteed lol...

[@VistaLatin]

Hello Pea, Thank you for sharing the letters, I call it lessons learned...I believe your advice is spot on, having a conversation about a girl, or family coming over before hand leaves nothing for someone to Interpret different...many foreigners get themselves in a pickle for lack of understanding of your culture. Been in Dumaguete 3 weeks now and have experienced the family visits already..in each case we knew exactly how long the family was staying over....we planned everything before hand...Absolutely love her family..since I need to return to the US for medical reasons I could not travel much here so her family came to visit and thank me in person for helping her family recover from the typhoon devastation...in short, we asked how long could their family members stay, and we offered to accommodate their stay in one of the better hotels in Dumaguete and they chose not to stay...to that end all is simple with communication

[@joeraymond2589]

LOL... I was laughing throughout this video! And, laughter is the best medicine! Keep up the good work Filipina Pea, you're a uniquely precious Pearl of the Pacific! 🌹

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Joe! 😊😊❤️👍

[@johncarlson6472]

"Hold the lumber while you slumber" without a doubt, is perplexing to many of us Western guys, who, after getting married to a Western Woman, feel like you have to walk through the three rings of hell to just get her to touch it.

[@Cdrop63]

Man I ain’t even married but the sex has slowed drastically since we’ve moved in together! Idk if I can do this for a lifetime honestly 😂

[@Shin-Blade]

This dude telling the truth about Western women! 🤣

[@topher420s]

Don't do it!

[@raethdarkflame1292]

I had a similar adoption attempt during my trip there last month. Met a woman that works as a teller for Chinabank in Makati at a cafe during breakfast. Went on a date with her on Friday evening and she stuck around all weekend. By Sunday afternoon she was already picking places to live, and mentioned that she wanted a daughter as her first born child. I was trying to explain that I was leaving a few days from then, and I didn’t (and still don’t) know when exactly that I would be returning. Worst case scenario is that it might be a year before I can retire, especially with all of the polarization in US politics.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yup, it can happen at the drop of a hat! 😂

[@invisiblerevolution]

Ya.... all that's too quick. You know she's only into for your pockets. She's probably on to the NEXT already, and probably weren't even her first. Ps. Good story for us to learn from!

[@patmorgan9499]

The scary part of this, is wow, who could be so lucky as to win your heart? The man would have to be an enormously outgoing personality to even hold your attention for as long as the date could even last, much less a lifetime! He does not necessarily have to be rich coz everybodee Knows you are not "HIGH" MAINTENANCE, financially, You are very well grounded. However you are in an intellectual sense., I do believe It will take somebodee that Could keep you interested like 50 first dates with Adam Sandler This is my best guess, coz you are such an awesome girl like she was. I love that movie coz if I Was in your life, that would be the perfect scenario. I would win you heart each and every day. You definitely deserve that. You give me chills at the very thought of having an opportunity Of being that blessed. The competition for that spot in your life is mind bending.you are without a doubt, a "PRIZE".!! ONE IN A MILLION. You are a self made, highly educated in life, world affairs, A virtual wealth of knowledge In your own culture, a purest Heart of gold, stable in all your ways, very well respected but most of all you respect others You love the poor, made me cry Many times at seeing you change the very lives you came in contact with, I have watched you for years now. You are drop dead pretty, long hair, dress conservatively, talented beyond belief, never know what you are capable of next, always surprise us all. To have you to fall in love with? OMG, to have you as a mother of our child? I could only imagine the happiness of watching you coddling a baby & nurturing it into a fantastic adult. Yes I can honestly attest to this Pea, you once did a skit as you always do, this one is the best, "I DREAM OF JEANNIE"!!!@" So, you are a "DREAM", & some Guy will be the luckiest man alive That will come along and find you, rub you the correct way, & Not be your "MASTER" just your equal, love you forever, coz how could he not? One last thing I can say, is I hope that he honestly will feel like I do. Is the best of anything, to be able to cuddle up with you on rainy days, or nights, with a good book And like our life together, read each chapter one by one, as we write our own. God Bless you Pea, you instill In us all "dream of Pea"

[@archernewlun7331]

@@invisiblerevolution I can assure you that was most likely not the case. I've been to the Philippines a few times and outside of the "bar girls", most women there really just want to secure their man and let him know that she is not going anywhere. Like Filipina Pea said, don't just start giving them money for no reason, or you can end up in a situation like that. However, If you're treating her right and she's happy, then of course she wants to stick around. Let her prove it first that money is what she's after. You will usually see through that pretty quickly if you don't have the belvidere glasses on lol.

[@subn0rma1]

@@patmorgan9499 yikes

[@donaldmagnus317]

Im a 60+ yr old American and I must say the "holding the jewels" thing must be a Filipina thing because I never heard of it and I have experience with many women from several different nations/cultures.Seriously love your videos.....Don

[@stephengoldberg334]

You should not be dating if you are 60. Time is up.

[@kevin2960]

Never too old

[@TauvicRitter]

Adult People can date at any age. If you enjoy it do it.

[@dmcglone007]

Hey Pea I just wanted to say thank you for all your video posts. I’m here in the Philippines with my fiancé in Boso Boso Highlands. We are only spending two days here. I’ve spend the last week at her house with her family. It had been an experience. I’ve learned to put lots and lots of ice with my Red Horse while everyone else has enough to drink to ask the questions 🤣🤣🤣🤣. But we are spending time her and I together. My fiancé would be the third Filipina in my family and I understand why now. Thank you for all you do. Also, I had so much worry and anxiety about entering the country, but it surprisingly went quick. No issues. For any of your viewers who are traveling I highly recommend Japanese Airlines. I booked directly through them. Best flight experience ever. Greetings from Antipolo Philippines!

[@randyguidry4958]

Pea, I'm still laughing s after this one. "Holding the Lumber while you slumber" ha ha ha . It's always a pleasure to see your videos, it always lifts my spirits and puts a smile on my face or a chuckle in my very soul.

[@lifeofamo04]

First-time viewer, but you have a great personality and ingesting content. Keep up the great and informative content

[@thiawroane]

I knew a Korean lady who held the lumber during slumber. She never explained why, but it definitely kept the relationship interesting!

[@IRONMAN245]

I courted my Wife in Singapore while she was working there, we fought, made love and got married 😂 8 years later we are going strong. Enjoyed this video.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Still fighting and making love, or is it just the fighting now? 😆😆😆🤣

[@IRONMAN245]

@@TheFilipinaPea No Pea, no more fighting, I only stated it to show the progression during the courting, we’ve matured way into this now. Once we realized it’s all about us we got it together 😂👍🏾

[@IRONMAN245]

P.S. Pea, if you ever visit New York, We want to be interviewed by you ❤️

[@orionmec]

Your killing me Pea.... I love how bubbly, open and funny you are.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

🤣🤣👍

[@breezeb8720]

This is one of the qualities I have come to notice in Filipinas even outside the Philippines. Love the cultural differences lol. There is even a funny name for this type of behaviour 😁

[@WatchthisandChill]

which is?

[@uTheJoKeR]

I really wish you had WAY more subs. Your videos deserve WAY more attention

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I wholeheartedly agree - I need many more subs! 😆😆😆 Thanks ❤️

[@HE360]

I experienced some of these things in Thailand too. I thought we were just friends at first. But, she said "you're single. I'm single ok?" I only nodded thinking nothing of it. But then, the next day, she started coming to my apartment cooking and cleaning. She often stayed overnight. And everywhere I went, she had to be there too. I guess I was dating her without knowing I was dating her. I finally accepted her as an official girlfriend because she was still nice, but that was very interesting. I don't know how similar this is to the Philippines, but this happened to me in Thailand where the girl wouldn't leave upon me meeting her.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It’s the same here too 🤣👍

[@tomster7574]

My Filipino wife doesn’t do any of these things. I should get her to watch more of your videos. Give her some homegrown cultural ideas :-)

[@kennethmottley5039]

As far as what occurred to me, my girlfriends, if raised south of the U.S. the great majority liked to hold lumber at night while I slept. This was true in the Caribbean as well as the mainland. The action of holding you in this way never happened in the U.S. or Canada. I believe it to be cultural items that influence this habit. When the woman is a woman (feminen), she seems to find security I this action. It’s almost like a way for her to say this is my man.

[@Atrayus1984]

So she know when you leave in the middle of the night lol

[@EpicICP]

You've got the funniest analogies! I'm impressed by how well you know your western audience.

[@davidplatter7671]

Having traveled literally to every continent, I can attest to that Filipinas are a unique species that are not duplicated anywhere else. Now if you could just explain why they are always so thirsty in the bedroom. They are always asking for "tubig" 😉

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahahahahahahahaha 😂 Brilliant as usual

[@jackandblaze5956]

I had only one GF who would "hold the package" while we slept. She was not Asian, but probably part Native American. It seemed like she did it to remind me that that part of me belonged to her, and only her, not any other woman. I thought it was a sweet gesture & it made it seem like she really liked me on a deeper level. It also assured her that I trusted her. No other women has ever done that. It was nice.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Have you had Filipina or other Asian girlfriends? They’re neglecting their duty! 😂

[@jackandblaze5956]

@@TheFilipinaPea No I haven't because my son is married to a Korean and she wouldn't like it. To her it would be like me dating family. She gets disgusted if I even mention if I think any random Asian girl is attractive. Plus I'm not assertive with women. I can't even make "the first move" (to kiss). When I was younger, I didn't have to. Super horny white or Latina women would come on to me instead, one girl even roofied me. But now that I'm older (52) and half the American women are gay, they don't want me. Sometimes gay women act like they like me a little, but the straight one's don't. They're looking for confident, cocky, assertive types. I don't think a Filipina would know what to do with me. I won't come on to a girl, I just can't. And the prettier she is the more intimidated I am.

[@Sai7311]

Holding the lumber while you slumber is acatully a thing I have experienced. I do not understand it , but like it very much. Not going anywhere, but I know it is in good hands. It is a comfort.

[@mahad813]

I once knew a filipina when I was 20 years old and she was so wild. She insisted on a lot of positions to try which intrigued me. She even wanted to try butt stuff. I think she was nymphomaniac but she was a lot of fun. She must be an exception and one of a kind because personally I haven't encountered a very wild filipina as her🤣

[@aaronosborn7395]

There are quite a few wild ones out there… you will find them on the streets haha

[@daanmeulendijks1646]

I have met a Filipina and the same thing...but we broke up after a few years... My second wife (also Filipina) beautiful...but she was not so wild but has other quality's Wich at the end are better..

[@donsettie3799]

Just trying to make the deal.

[@Raymond-xw8ds]

Yeah 🤣🤣🤣 I have one of em spicy filipina too in Beijing

[@steadye7461]

She was trying to "seal the deal" so you wouldn't have any desire to look elsewhere. I've been there many times and understand their ways and behaviors while in active duty US Navy. They've still very special women to me however, I've moved on to life back in the U.S.A.

[@tonywilliams7918]

Great segment Pea. Appreciate the blunt advice! Folks who further read comments..I encourage you to watch this video in full and head the guidance of Ms. Pea! She offers an array of videos on many tough and humorous topics. I am certain that you will com across one, which allows understanding or lead to a matter you may have regarding relating to the Philippines, it's people and culture.

[@David-g1p-v8k]

One option to deal with 'a visitor' might be no to have them stay in your apartment but to take an Airbnb for the weekend :)

[@ast-og-losta]

Charlie Sheen said it best. “I don't pay them for sex. I pay them to leave.”

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Hahahahaha I’m not sure he’s a source of great wisdom, but he sure got that one right 👍

[@blackstacktube]

Never believe everything you read on the internet.” -Abraham Lincoln

[@Rugmunchersauce3]

​@@blackstacktube. Haha, that's not true, man! Abe Lincoln LOVED the Internet!!

[@seanoneillsongs]

I am trying to catch up on all the old ones too and appreciate just how much work to put into making content that is both entertaining and informative. Keep on keeping on and telling it like it is 🙂

[@TheFilipinaPea]

THANKS for catching the oldies, Sean!! 👍❤️

[@NickolaiFury]

This video cracked me up, you're hilarious and so blunt and honest. Great stuff. I've never been to the Philippines but I was just curious and loved the video. :)

[@nukerazorr8743]

Always love to watch all the way to the end , “ if you think about it” makes my day

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m so glad! I put them there to keep you watching, because you never know what you’ll see at the end 👍

[@edwardcockman7393]

4 years and going with my little lady. ❤️ all thanks to the peas advice 🙏

[@jonkemper6521]

To miss F. Pea, I love the loquaciousness of your presentations. Excellent. Top 5% of any and all American or Philippine blogs on relationships. Very smart and witty too. I could go on and on. Am impressed with your balance and fairness. You have a beautiful quality of communication. Way to Go!

[@noutheticcounseling5447]

Preparing to visit the Philippines in October after waiting for 2 years and 8 months because of the lockdowns and restrictions to meet my fiancé. I hope no curve balls are thrown. Its been exhausting to wait so long. But I believe she is worth it. If I had it my way, I don't think I would come back to the US. I sure hope the new president does things for the betterment of the Philippine people.

[@boracay12]

Engaged for Over 2 years to a person you have never met . What could go wrong ? Who has she been sleeping with in those 2 years ? Oh well the kid will be introduced later.

[@DjVendetta]

I got to mine almost a month ago. I was in the same position but it all worked out in the end and I am very happy with her.

[@christopherrogers303]

I have a similar story, I waited two years to be with my Filipina because of the pandemic, though I waited until I could propose in person. In November 2021 they announced that the borders would be opening so bought a ticket for February, but a week later the opening was canceled due to omicron. I held onto my ticket, hoping and praying that something would change in the next few months. A week before my flight the border opened and I was able to spend some time with her and get engaged! Now we are trudging through the piles of visa paperwork but I plan to visit her again in October too. My girl is in Negros, where is yours?

[@EpsiIonEagle]

Why not just meet them once you get there? Dating apps 🤢

[@edwardaguirre3503]

Geez, miss Pea, you are very candid concerning sexual things. This video was very informative, and I see that your observations are mostly right on.I know about South Pacific Island women, but filipinas are different. I told my 4 years l.d.r girlfriend that our relationship is going to be very difficult, ( but she want it ,anyway), so I need all the help I can get.Thanks.

[@mariomejia1701]

Once again Pea you surpass my expectations with your content..amazingly on point .. love your humor.. “ holding lumber while you slumber…”. lol 😆. You should patent that!! Btw you look amazing in that little black dress 👗. Thanks Pea .. you are so talented ❤️

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks SO much for that, Mario! 👍❤️

[@clydekimsey7503]

If any of your videos deserve a part 2, this one does!😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

If it’s a hit - I’ll do it 👍😂

[@puppyupper4565]

@@TheFilipinaPea Its a hit. But then again you make awesome videos. You are very smart and creative. I'm glad you like to hold the lumber. You will make an awesome wife to one lucky guy

[@JamesWendt]

These videos are so perfect! Coming up to second anniversary in a couple of weeks with my Filipina wife.

[@kmorris180]

Yet another great video. I think there's a name for what you described. It escapes me at the moment. It's related to being comfortable in the relationship and possession (like staking claim). It tends to give the woman a sense of ownership through bonding. I've now learned thing about the Pea of Beauty that I never thought about knowing. I'm glad to know that Filipinas expect the foreigner to be into thinking outside of the box. I was concerned about that as some of us are not into the same ole song and dance (vanilla). Thank you for all of your hard work in making these videos.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

We know that foreigners don’t do vanilla 😂👍

[@jasonroman578]

“Holding the Lumber 🪵 while I slumber” this gives me another reason to meet my Filipina in September 🤣

[@secretagent86]

totally ONE OF THE MOST HILARIOUS LINES EVER

[@secretagent86]

I asked my brother's gf in Columbia if she had ever heard of this... nope

[@mk-xh6jt]

Ditto! Sounds comforting lol

[@jasonroman578]

@@mk-xh6jt not something I’ve tried before, but a habit I could get into 🤣

[@richspurlock24]

Pea...you can hold my lumber!! Js

[@choukichigaijin]

You just helped me understand a very painful moment in my life. Thank you very much.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Anything I can do to help 👍❤️

[@davidsmith1225]

While I was stationed in Asia I often spent time in the Philippines. I would often fall asleep with her holding my stick shift. I often woke up in the morning with my fair lady taking me out for another test drive if you know what I mean :)

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yours too? So many men have confirmed that their Filipinas do the same thing! I think we’re into something here …😂

[@waltgreen8759]

these are great and informative videos! as far as the lumber holding, I think it's more normal OUTSIDE of the west. My Colombian girlfriend did that a lot. I thought it was fantastic.

[@2wheelin-IT]

I truly enjoyed your video and your straightforward answers to the questions. Your discrete honesty and careful word choices were quite evident. Thank you for posting. Respect from Texas

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks! Sometimes I feel light I’m walking a tightrope above a minefield, but I find ways to say things that are publicly acceptable 🤣🤣

[@garyblevins3532]

I have a young lady friend there in the Philippines that lives in a small village. If nothing else, I would love to go there for a little while if only to visit and meet her and her family. She's a sweet young christian lady that I really enjoy the little chat time that we get from time to time. I've been attracted to the ladies with a little more color in their skin than I have for a long time now but I really don't think that any of the ladies that I have met online are really wanting anything to do with me other than a friendship. It's all good though. They haven't asked me to send money or anything like that and I honestly appreciate that. I've seen some very beautiful women from different places in the world and maybe someday I'll have a warm loving and respectful lady to be in my life for the rest of mine.

[@ronmarsh4577]

Another wonderful and funny video Pea. Regarding the "holding onto it" behaviour, my Thai ex-wife did the same thing, nearly every night. Until watching your video I thought she was the anomalie. Good to know it wasn't so unusual after all ;)

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yours too, Ron? I had no clue this was such a widespread thing in Asia! I think we’ve discovered something here - studies must be conducted 😂😂😂

[@Hammocktraveller]

@@TheFilipinaPea get some University research on the subject. Lol

[@tonyste12]

@@TheFilipinaPea I am willing to be a 'test' subject, bring them ALL in :)

[@exnihilo415]

My wife is Thai and she always wants to do this too. Honestly, I can’t fall asleep. I’m afraid she’s going to dream a snake is attacking her or something with disastrous results!

[@harperseven3171]

Hi Ron!

[@RuddsReels]

You explain things really well! Great jokes too! You are a natural English speaker.

[@hamiljohn]

Well, that was a very informative video, and as always entertaining, thank you so much Pea! And with two years in, I can say I've seen every single video, you won't regret a single one. :)

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You’ve seen every one????? I love you 😂❤️

[@clydekimsey7503]

@@TheFilipinaPea I've seen them all too!😊😇

[@hamiljohn]

@@TheFilipinaPea yes, I have. And I loved them all 😍

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

2.5 year LDR??? Dude, my first marriage didn't even last that long. I would assume "your" Filipina no longer has the time to give you because she's online with another guy. She's looking for a guy to show up...not chat with forever.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

That would be my guess too …

[@smrthodanje]

Yes. The country is open. You should have a ticket already. Don't waste a woman's life

[@Kain_R_Heinlein]

Facts like... she can lik you but she also likes someone else too and doesn't mind which of her options shows up to finally meet her. So you have just as much of a chance as the next guy to be with her. One girl I knew, attractive, great body just wanted to leave her crappy city life situation living with her step father. I told her I was gonna come meet her but she was desperate, met someone else instead

[@rolandmueller7218]

A 2.5 year LDR, or longer, is possible. But, if he hasn’t gone to meet her in person yet, he really needs to.

[@kasperkjrsgaard1447]

Yes, the country is open NOW! But the world has been closed by Covid for the last two years.

[@ConstantinosSmith-rz9kj]

Great video, and really nice advice from our Filipina Pea. Ah the slumber lumber. Its the greatest honor you can receive after intimacy with a woman. All women do it, and its a sign she enjoys your company immensely.

[@JDWard-Jeepster]

I had a long time filipina girlfriend back in the early 1980's when I came to the Philippines on military orders. She was very eager to please in the bedroom, anything I wanted was mine. I am of the impression she was a freelancer but was looking for a long term BF which ended up being me. Fast forward to 2014 I met another beautiful filipina 20 years my junior and we chatted on line for a few months before I came to the Philippines to meet her in person. On meeting she also was eager to please in the bedroom which was fine with me as she is even more pretty in person then in her pictures. I knew what a mistake I made on letting the first one go but I was not in a position to bring her to the states etc. This time around I married the second one, 6 years and 2 kids later I still think I made the right choice though honestly the first one who was also very pretty was a lot more laid back personality wise. No where near as jealous or easily upset over next to nothing. There are some more details I would like to share with you someday but not on a public forum like this.

[@flaziblaz]

I love these kind of stories.

[@danielhackney7806]

If you are not ready to be instantly adopted and cherish your privacy don't bring her home. There are plenty of hotels in the PI and you save the grief of asking her to leave your home. Another option is go on some dates and keep it platonic until you determine if she's someone you really like. I've heard expats say give it 2 to 6 months before you move her into your place. Once she has her first sleep over she will assume she's a permanent resident. She might even invite other family members to come live with you guys. LOL

[@gregkiser554]

Thanks for your content, I would agree with most of your in sight. And loved the butterfly knife comment!!

[@travishoward9950]

I’ll be finally visiting my Filipina in September ( a birthday she’ll always remember) . I want to thank you for this channel, it has helped greatly. I’ll be there for a month and we will be traveling a lot of the country. She herself admitted to not know a great deal of the area outside Butuan . Is there a video of interesting places to go to in the Philippines ?

[@leerice2361]

I love your humorous answers.

[@roneydarling2530]

You are such a blast Pea. Your querkie wording and smart talks are very entertaining & informative. I think by June 30th this year you will somehow get 50K👍 Good luck Filipina Pea

[@Nordic_Sky]

I'm continually surprised by how witty these videos are. Obviously, a lot of work goes into them.

[@jmd1327]

Yeah! Another great video and wise insights. Love the simple, classic little black dress 😘. Thank you!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Simple and classic - I like that 👍😂

[@renegade1283]

Absolute GOLD!!! Great presentation and excellent dry humour - 'holding the lumber while you slumber' and 'butterfly knife in the other hand!!! Had me laughing for ages 🤣 Oh the imagery lol. Well done. Will watch your other videos. 🤣🤣🤣

[@amossnowdaharleyman9179]

Wife and I have been together about 7 years now here in Texas. When she first got here she was like the "typical" Filipina. Not anymore...She knows I don't step out and I know she won't either. She will meet with her friends for chica chica and I head to the farm to relax. Sometimes I get home first sometimes she does. No "doubts" in either of our minds. RElationships build and either get stronger or fall apart.All depends on the foundation.

[@geoffbeckett6678]

Hahaha! Nice title of the video. I predict 100k views. We all know what happens to men several times during sleep. I think the holding is so the Filipina knows when her man is "ready" and can take advantage of the opportunity! Lol!

[@m.g.6394]

@Not Expat Joe cause in Philippines you could probably get any woman, while in Canada you can't, and she knows.

[@kkwun4969]

She knows that the girls in your area are uglier than her by far 💀

[@michaelb5330]

Haven’t laughed so much in a “longtime” One of you best videos Thanks 😊

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Fantastic, Michael! I love it when I can make you laugh 👍❤️😂

[@michaelb5330]

@@TheFilipinaPea Life is always funnier that fiction

[@timjones1815]

You’re hilarious Ms Pea and I love your honesty !

[@Beu8791]

I watched your dialogue with "Western women", and I think your and your Philipino sister's responses were spot on. I wish you all the happiness in the world. Lots of love from Australia 🪃🦘🤗 Any guy would be lucky to have a wonderful woman who appreciates her partner and vis versa. R x

[@thomasmacdonald8248]

I was with a Cuban woman 10yrs,I dont even look at north American women anymore

[@AlexEgenessBreaksFree]

This adoption concept has created some of my best appointment setters. It’s very useful for business owners

[@ryans413]

I think privacy is important in all cultures even when married we all need some along time too get away it’s not mean it’s just you time so you don’t feel trapped. When I dated this girl I encourage her to go out with friends or asked her if she needed some time to relax. She wanted to read one day so I left my house for a few hours and hung out with my friends and she actually enjoyed her alone time.

[@prepperjonpnw6482]

Hey There - my wife who was born and raised in California always held the lumber while I slumbered lol I’ve experienced that with other women in multiple countries so it must be something other than a cultural thing. Besides it’s not like it’s something they learn from other women in whatever place they live lol. It’s something inside them not something learned externally. Since I never asked why she did it, and I really didn’t care why lol I simply enjoyed it lol. If your woman likes to hold the lumber it obviously means she’s not mad at you or losing interest in you so just enjoy it lol. Most men spend their entire lives trying to get a woman to hold their lumber lol.

[@ronskancke1489]

It might mean they know you aren't going to be going anywhere without your lumber.