I love how on-point you are, hitting the nail on the head of the issue, explaining it all gently yet firmly. All in under 10 minutes. WOW. Immediately subscribed!
@SusanWinter6 ай бұрын
thank you thank you!!
@sreach939 ай бұрын
Sometimes they're only invested in what you can do for them. You know they were never emotionally invested in the relationship when they don't fight for you and are able to walk away and hook up with someone else who'll now assume the role that you were once in.
@Hikingbandit199 ай бұрын
@sreach93 that’s exactly where I’m at. I just ended something with someone tonight and I guarantee you their bed is not even cold because they had a string of dates…. Incredibly selfish people unfortunately are out there and they will use you until they’re done. I’m glad I only wasted a few months. And not years like this guy.
@aludrenknight16879 ай бұрын
@@Hikingbandit19 unfortunately, sometimes it can take that long to realize, or accept, that what you've been seeing is really what you're seeing - that they're only interested in what you can do for them . Or also finally recognizing it's our own hope that is blinding us. 🥺 Ending hope is sad.
@AndrewJovicHayagan9 ай бұрын
This is what I just needed Susan. You're God-sent.
@SusanWinter9 ай бұрын
Love reading this. Thank you so much for letting me know. I’m happy that the universe is in sync and you’ve seen and heard what you needed.❤
@sharaiwhite23719 ай бұрын
This was so timely, I have spent the past year allowing other's to define my worth and I vow to never do it again. Thank you SO much Susan, you are changing lives❤
@SusanWinter6 ай бұрын
thank you for the kind words!!!!
@Sparksflymich9 ай бұрын
Thank you Susan you are saving my life in this depressing phase.
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
I’m sending you tons of positive vibes and virtual hugs!
@Cheryl-e2b9 ай бұрын
To Brian I also was an option for over a year. Just went no contact a month ago. I hoped he would see my value. He played a cruel game of truth telling me I wasn’t the one as often as he could. But then would say your such a good wife, or how could I live without you comments he even said he loved me. Which blurred and confused me. He started dating other women, And still played his game. It’s a mean game but there are people out there who love doing this. Don’t let him steal your value and confidence. Don’t be his prop any longer. Ask your self if this was reversed would you treat him the same way he treated you? Then you’ll see just how hurtful he is. He can’t love like you love. Let him go. You deserve better!
@kirkstewart-vf6hg3 ай бұрын
People think they are indispensable when they treat you as a option! No one person is indispensable its a buyers market never forget this !!!!
@karolinap83139 ай бұрын
I am really happy this question was posted. I can understand also why someone would hope or be on a maybe for years. For me it was abondonment issues and also like I feel they are more worth than me, because of their achievements or my admiration to them. So, only if I could make them admire me, if I could get a new skill or body type or whatever which takes time (or I learned more relationship/communication skills), maybe then I am good enough. So, I am waiting on them and on me, until I am good and admirable enough. So, I am even scared to ask - about status of relationship, because I am not good enough for them yet. (maybe only in my eyes)
@teripersson13089 ай бұрын
Been there, got the t-shirt, (although not the Susan t-shirt, unfortunately). 'It's you, not me'. Spent months, years trying to prove my worth, hoping he would see me and my worth. Now, when I look back, I only feel sorry for him. x
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
I’m glad you were able to move in. I’m sorry you went through that but happy you’ve learned your worth!
@Baheieujlsksnen2 ай бұрын
Love that all your videos don't take like the first 2mins just to talk about who you are& asking to subscribe😂 like so many other channels. Of course subscribed!!!
@Chris-hp2gg3 ай бұрын
Confidence is like money. It's hard to keep and easy to lose.😂
@kori45809 ай бұрын
I'm not going to lie guys, the gay dating world, mostly on grindr, is exceptionally brutal. Luckily I'm just focusing on healing myself after a 13 year relationship that ended badly for me (got cheated on, gas lighted, lied, mentally and physically abusing me, narrowly escaped getting gonorhoea)
@JCL-eb9ir9 ай бұрын
Yes! Gay dating is a whole different hellhole. Very saddening.
@A.Manishaa-nk9md8 ай бұрын
Omg!😢
@AlexPenn.DatingCoach8 ай бұрын
It's crucial to recognize early signs and set clear expectations in dating. Your points about not waiting on a 'maybe' and taking control of one's worth are spot on. As a dating coach myself, I emphasize the importance of self-confidence and establishing healthy boundaries. Keep empowering your audience with valuable advice!
@SusanWinter6 ай бұрын
Huge thanks Alex
@sjs79179 ай бұрын
This made me tear up! 6:28 , love from a fellow 'Susan' ❤.
@SusanWinter9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much that is so sweet. Sending you a huge electronic hug.
@sebastianreyes85267 ай бұрын
Susan I’ve followed you ever since I started dating back in High school in 2017😂 Thank you so much for your insights and advice. Still subscribed and always refer to your forums and videos for self reflection 💛 Thank you for being you!
@SusanWinter6 ай бұрын
Awe....thank you!!!
@nikolmladkova59779 ай бұрын
"They don't see it? They don't see it, next!" ❤ True in more contexts than romantic relationships 😊
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
🤗
@dylannicks11469 ай бұрын
I am a gay man and had major surgery so I can someday be worth loving. A sad world we live in
@sadie93867 ай бұрын
Susan, you are a guardian angel on Earth.
@SusanWinter6 ай бұрын
Sadie, and you too are an angel!
@SuperTaleba9 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this today..😢
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
I hope it was helpful
@janetswain23549 ай бұрын
Have been an option in the past. NEVER again
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
You deserve better than that!
@sarahillingworth92579 ай бұрын
Control, protect and honour yourself. No one will do it for you!
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
🙏
@blancaperez18504 ай бұрын
What i am going thru. Being kept on hold, while she sleeps around. I need to let go. Your response is what I needed to hear. I'm so glad I found this and you, love your style of coaching.
@kate96538 ай бұрын
I love how you explain things. Logical. Straight to the point.
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
Thank you, Kate! Thanks for watching! ❤
@mikejaeger239 ай бұрын
Much appreciated Susan.
@SusanWinter9 ай бұрын
Mike, you are welcome
@erikpeltomaa98737 ай бұрын
I know how this guy feels there also was a guy I met pretty often we liked each others company but when I said Im interessted in him he said i like men but not men like you what did he mean whit that he could had said in a more nicer way for Ex: "you are cute and kind person but my feelings are not towards you". Because when he said he prefers other guys but not guys like me I started to feel that no one likes me or ever fall for me and that im not attractive enough people never think properly when they answer back😬😐🤔.
@thesilentdiva6 ай бұрын
That was terrible what he told her. My mouth dropped. Ppl have no shame
@vinlpaul38 ай бұрын
Wow!! I literally am just going thru a break up now. Thanks!
@AimlessThunder9 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@SusanWinter9 ай бұрын
Thank you
@tanalyle53989 ай бұрын
I needed this exact message. this video is a blessing. Thanks Miss Winters
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
You’re very welcome! Thanks for watching! ❤
@marienmocka83979 ай бұрын
Hello dear! Thank you!❤❤❤
@SusanWinter9 ай бұрын
Hi Marie
@jammyjay9179 ай бұрын
Thanks for this... alot of us needed to hear this ❤❤ Thank you
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤ happy to help!!
@scorpiobrown99929 ай бұрын
Where do we send you a message? I have a topic that i would like you to discuss. I've seached your page and i dont think you covered this topic.
@karolinap83139 ай бұрын
Search in google for her website and under contact you have Q&A VIDEO REQUEST button
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
Please send any video requests to info@susanwinter.net
@malungayesemusic9 ай бұрын
Wow I needed this, thank you ❤🙏🏾
@SusanWinter8 ай бұрын
You’re welcome!
@Retrosenescent9 ай бұрын
I relate to the other guy. I’ve had clingers on who lived in hope and never communicated what they wanted from me until push came to shove and they realized I wasn’t interested.
@SusanWinter9 ай бұрын
I understand your position. And I am sure that you were clear about your intentions or should I say lack of. But just out of curiosity… did you continue seeing them? My understanding is that this man’s lover continued to see him for four years, so a 1000 “No’s” looked like a yes.
@Retrosenescent9 ай бұрын
@@SusanWinter I continued to see them because we were “just friends” and I didn’t realize that they wanted to be more than friends until it eventually came out later. Even though I had communicated that I just wanted to be friends, they hoped I would change my mind one day, but they didn’t tell me that part until much later. It was unfair for both of us. I wanted a friend, and they wanted a lover, and we both failed to have a direct and clear enough conversation about our intentions to save each other the time and hurt emotions long term. I’m so happy I found your videos because I’ve always struggled to be direct and clear in my intentions, but I’ve gotten so much better at it after watching hundreds of your videos and putting the advice into practice :) so thank you so much for sharing your wisdom
@Saffronelle6 ай бұрын
Oh please. You knew. You benefited from the blurred lines.