"A Seat at the Table" Isn't the Solution for Gender Equity | Lilly Singh | TED

Women and girls are conditioned to believe success is "a seat at the table." Creator, actress and author ‪@LillySingh‬ thinks we need to build a better table. In this hilarious, incisive talk, Singh traces the arc of her career from up-and-coming KZbinr to history-making late-night talk show host, offering four ways to build a more inclusive society where girls are encouraged and empowered to do great things.
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[@danialali5482]

"All my achievements are mine alone but all my failures are others' faults" Makes sense.

[@Pau_Pau9]

K-unt logic

[@justinsidious9772]

That’s genius, is it yours?

[@gamesthatiplay9083]

They should have just given her the network so she could put herself in prime time.

[@kipsmithers8816]

So well worded especially for this particular person

[@jennigirl8275]

@@GrandpaLink money, careers, celebrity status, change of people mindset for the better. Are serious?

[@BoyGeorgiaX]

This is the most insane tour de force of narcissism that I have ever seen.

[@Mausju]

Hahahahahah

[@wilsonrodrigues377]

It reminds me of Narduar aswell

[@himwhoisnottobenamed5427]

@@wilsonrodrigues377Except Nardwuar is a character.

[@paulfiore7083]

My God, has any human being ever been more in love with herself?

[@georgecrumb8442]

She's not in love with herself -- she's deeply insecure, but tries hard to convince you and everyone else otherwise.

[@checkermaker480]

SHES THE DICTIONARY DEFINITION OF NARCISSISM

[@justincider8892]

That's why she says she's bi. She likes men and women, but she's the only woman she actually loves.

[@eddiek8179]

@@georgecrumb8442 She can be both.

[@HonkHonkler]

Honestly, my god.

[@Grandmas_Favorite]

This is what taking accountability doesn’t look like…

[@crystalk17co]

Yes! 😂

[@hephaestusbae6737]

Taking accountability for what? Name one objectively wrong thing she did to deserve getting all this hate...

[@himwhoisnottobenamed5427]

@@hephaestusbae6737Blames everyone else for her failures. Claims anyone who calls out her sexist, racist bullshit gets called a sexist and/or racist. Acts like being a “bisexual woman of colour” is a personality trait. How’s that?

[@ricardoallende2597]

You went a lot further than your talent should have taken you. Be grateful.

[@Vijay0Yadav]

This summarised it beautifully

[@crktritual]

Wow that cut into the bone. Still were is the lie?

[@HonkHonkler]

Yep 😂

[@dprime01]

😂😂😂

[@kumulfly8512]

😂😂😂

[@smithcourtney66]

Love how she blames everyone for her mistakes, her late night tv show was terrible and she wasn’t funny and the pay gap in KZbin is a stupid theory considering we the people choose what to watch! She likes to brag about how successful she is, yet complained about every opportunity.

[@Nikkers8]

And she was heavily promoted by KZbin. She still chooses not to 'get' the reactions about the Forbes list. The list was based on VIEWS. No one dreamed up the list. She was off the list bc she didn't adapt her content to her maturing audience and focused more heavily on her victim narrative.

[@Nikkers8]

Plus her views had plummeted years prior to late night. She failed to adapt to her maturing audience. She started whining instead of looking at how to change.@Backupbackupplan

[@user-dk9or8sk1x]

Women are over half the planet/country. Women have the right to view anything the want in the developed world. So you can't blame sexism for any YoutTube gap. It's based on views, period. And she was a top KZbin earner for years.

[@A-human-like-you]

Who paid YOU to say that 😜, all these comments against her are paid for ppl wake up. Because they don’t want people who tell the truth like she does. She ruins their plans. Keep going Lilyyyyyy 😁😁😁😁

[@chrispham6599]

​@A-human-like-you ah, yes! Because vehemence towards Lily means that they are being paid. Let's flip the script: Is Lily paying you be sycophantic of her?

[@surreshguhan6033]

This is what happens when you don't have good friends around. You inflate your ego and get a false self image. Don't be a victim like Lilly Singh. Be a normal human being. Embrace your strengths and weaknesses and deal with the world like a matured adult.

[@AjenjoAnejo]

Quite possibly she had those people in her life, but drove them out because she wanted only yaaaasqueeners.

[@arianalisettte]

Be a normal human being? Why do you hate someone reaching for more. Are people not allowed to dream and strive to make change? Normal is so subjective. And most normal people are miserable because normal does not exist and we tire and depress ourselves trying to be what we think everyone wants us to be

[@foximoxi8533]

👏🏼

[@henninggangs5463]

​ Her mediocrity has taken her way further than she had any business going. She should be more grateful imo@@arianalisettte

[@erico4868]

​@arilisette5555 I think he meant "normal" like be a comedian not a pseudo-oppressed gay woman of color. People don't care about her self-proclaimed victim status. Is she funny? NO.. OK...next!!!

[@PassportGaming]

Eric Andre made his show successful with a $0 budget, hours of recording a day, no writing staff, and on a network with barely any viewers. Now he's a classic on so many memes

[@kBarBeats]

yeah, but he's talented and self-aware and she's opressed by her chickpea brain (pun intended)

[@PassportGaming]

@@kBarBeats we live in a victim Olympics

[@kBarBeats]

@@PassportGaming more like in a victime

[@apocalypsepow]

Yeah but his show is actually funny so there's that...

[@bi_himself]

Who?

[@John-doe955]

Someone who has sat down with a former US President and A list Hollywood celebrities is telling us how oppressed she is.

[@Lochness101]

When most of what you want is validation, as opposed to... a strong character, family, amazing friends, creating innovative art or technology, etc; The simplistic response is to get even more validation for the validation you've already received. I'm not a professional but I see a lot of people wanting validation as a sort of epidemic.

[@sunflower8075]

She did not say that she was oppressed. She spoke about equitable access and opportunity for all women.

[@John-doe955]

@@sunflower8075 Finish this sentence - “When someone has unequal opportunity and access they are being _________.” - I’ll give you a hint, it rhymes with impressed.

[@souijaboi3198]

@@sunflower8075 do all men get the same opportunity first ?

[@aperson2943]

@@sunflower8075 Equity and equality aren't the same thing no matter how much the cultists try to conflate it. Equity means equality of outcome. If I work a 60hr week, I'm an expert at the job, you don't get to walk in one day, work for 20 hrs a week, and get what I get monetarily.

[@boboloko]

0:15 “look how perfect I was” 2:34 “I started a channel under the name Superwoman “ 3:54 “He decorated me with a flower garland. A gesture fit for people of importance.” 4:30 “in my video I’ve amassed 15 million subscribers and 3 billion views.” 6:38 “in 2019 I made history with my late night television show” That’s all the evidence of NPD I need.

[@eddiek8179]

The whole family story in India and the story about her birth reeks of bullshit.

[@HonkHonkler]

Yep

[@listentothenightfilms]

Lots of entertainers and artists are NPD. The issue is, she has no control over her illness because nobody has called her out and instructed her to be more mindful.

[@migueljackson9230]

Lmao

[@MamaMOB]

​@@listentothenightfilmsvery good point. No one taught her how to be humble in public. You don't actually have to be humble you just have to appear to be humble. And this woman doesn't appear to be humble in any imaginable way.

[@GegiZ]

So let me get this straight. She experienced sexism in her country(India) and then moved to western country where she was treated equally and you could argue even disproportionally well to the point where she is worth millions (not exaggeration), had a late night show, got doors open to places where only very very few can reach but cries about being oppressed and is mainly mad at western, white dominated countries? Some one make it make sense...

[@siridhadesugur3697]

uh first of all she was born in canada, she didn't move from anywhere, second of all she also said that india (introduction in the beginning) and white dominated countries both are just as bad if you listened to her speech the MAIN point she makes is that she got a seat at the table, why is she complaining she got a seat at the table while others are waiting out in the cold, when that seat is wobbly and she did not get enough recognition. this is a metaphor to literally what you just said "doors open to places where only very very few can reach" why she didnt get that recognition is debatable (because her show wasnt that successful as some people think or the media actually didnt include her because of her different perspective and she's a woman and all that) and she is not mainly mad at western white dominated countries LOL listen to her intro and entire speech once again before making comments she said sexism is prevalent everywhere

[@siridhadesugur3697]

I hope I helped it make sense...next time try actually watching the vid instead of skipping through and assuming what she says... you definitely did not get it straight LOL

[@madamluis2537]

Yh cuz she’s being paid to trash white people. The ones who own the media are pushing this narrative. It’s all scripted.

[@Getahelmet1]

​@@siridhadesugur3697there is no oppression towards women jackass get out the echo chamber

[@ethanwright752]

@@siridhadesugur3697 the way delusional selfish people like you and lily view the world is disgusting

[@elena537743]

As an indian i can say she is more prevelaged than anybody and her parents are more supportive and encouraging than most of our parents. She needs to stop bringing her sexual orientation and skin colour into everything.

[@anmoldeepsingh1092]

Best comment ever

[@1988foxtrot]

Her sexual orientation and skin color IS her everything.

[@pyrokatarina]

The funny thing is, her sexual orientation and skin color is most probably what got her into her position in the first place, so I kinda don't blame her?? But she's still fked up, not saying she's right at all

[@Jokerxeno1]

⁠@@pyrokatarinashe’s where she is because she pioneered early KZbin content making random smerk-y stereotype videos that some people could relate to, and has been living off that ever since. I’m a bisexual Indian guy and trust me my skin color and sexual orientation does not in fact open up any kinda doors I don’t open for myself😅

[@pyrokatarina]

@@Jokerxeno1 i know lily singh in KZbin. I always watched her before. What I'm saying is her TV presence. You cant tell me that her show is not rooted in her identity when it was always talked about in her monologues and its branded as the "first bisexual woman of color to have late night TV". It was always about her and frankly enough, it is one of the reason why her show didn't last for long. People are sick of her narrative and unfunny jokes about hrr identity

[@dannypqliar8763]

Lily Singh is one of the most INSUFFERABLE people on the planet. Her comedy is torture. Her fake victimhood is so contrived, I blush while watching it. How can somebody be that deluded? 😔

[@24mojoe]

Best thing is spreading the truth. The right thing is not only to boycott but encourage others not to follow or support this fakery. Does not need to be spread this sham of using people and creating fake victims. Cause at the end it's poisoning minds of masses. So, in return, spreading the truth to fight the lies. That's the least we can do. Thank you Danny!

[@RoRZoro]

Celibrities lives in an Eco chamber tyhat blames the ordinary people for their mistakes.

[@dannypqliar8763]

@@RoRZoro She's no ordinary celebrity: there are good people everywhere. She just happens to be really lousy as a human being.

[@RoRZoro]

@@dannypqliar8763 Good people are silenced in the celebrity world.

[@dannypqliar8763]

@@RoRZoro This is a completely different topic to the issue of conspiaracies. We are not discussing the same subject at all. I'm saying, there are decent people and bad people, and she is bad not because she tows some line, but because she's just a rotten human being - nothing to do with special interests, just personal character

[@sole__doubt]

I love how this is really a clinic on narcissism and the speaker is such a narc. they dont even realize it. She thinks the topic is her failed show, lol. This is some real meta content here. :)

[@awill3454]

I watched an interview by her and she talked about how she is a very self-aware person and I actually laughed out loud

[@sole__doubt]

@@kaya856 I love that it bothers you so much.

[@user-sv7vy7vh1c]

Thank you comments section! This restores my faith that we may remain sane throughout this nonsense time. This is amazing how everybody realizes how out of touch she is and this talk truly is . I love good people

[@foximoxi8533]

We certainly live in a really weird time where the media continues to push out absolute crap narratives and ideologies while the comment section completely disagrees and disowns those same narratives and ideologies. I’ve never seen so many people come together to all agree that the mainstream media sucks and we all have no clue where they’re getting this stuff.

[@mrmagoozle]

Exact sentiments here. We are in a age now where people are finally turning on these “celebrities”. We’ve been asleep so long now we are awake. The thunder is coming

[@Pau_Pau9]

Amen Brother!

[@gamesthatiplay9083]

I'm rather surprised the comments are so anti Lilly. Normally channels with more than 2 million people are full of questionably positive comments.

[@robr.5044]

Bottom line, you have to work hard to be successful, whichever gender you are. There are no shortcuts.

[@slo-poke1044]

What a luxury it must be to always have someone else to blame for your failure.

[@SwuaveWEB]

That's exactly what they do. They climb the ladder on someone else's back, that someone else built, just whining and complaining the entire way. Then they get into undeserved positions of power, and start the process of destruction on everything they touch.

[@apax2901]

On god. Absolutely disgusting 😂

[@EezeeGroover]

Exactly!

[@luna-tl9jq]

She isn't a failure , she has 16 million subs and her own life . Clearly u have failed in learjng the meaning of feminism

[@slo-poke1044]

@@luna-tl9jq She's definitely thriving online . Good for her .

[@donaldkelly298]

Yea she the last person who needs a Ted talk

[@Cyber_Nomad01]

So all of her failures are others fault, and not hers. Got it.

[@ubermalice9589]

When I imagine what the lack of self awareness looks like, I picture Lilly Singh. This video is no exception. She's come to represent the delusion and entitlement of certain people today. For the sake of posterity, I'm glad this video exist. As I'm sure these receipts will come in handy.

[@awill3454]

I watched her interviewed (it's somewhere on YT) and she talked about how she is a very self-aware person and that it's her greatest strength and I actually laughed out loud

[@ubermalice9589]

@@awill3454 Same. I know exactly what interview you're talking about too. I literally snort laughed when she said that. That one syllable combination of a snort and a "hah!" It's very unpleasant. Like Lilly Singh.

[@uberxchuck944]

It’s her, Trump and Steven Seagal wrestling for the top spot of egomaniac living in a vacuum of self-awareness

[@andrey2604]

I think it is exactly opposite. It's the example of self awereness much exceeding persons talent and knowledge.

[@Dooger414]

TED talk really fell from grace. Their standards have been a joke for years... a joke far too funny to have been written by Lilly.

[@foximoxi8533]

Yea, they platform wacky people. It’s like taking the paranoid schizophrenic crackhead from down the street to do a speech on societal and political issues.

[@AspiePilo82]

Yeah. It all started with that gay kid that had supposedly found a cure for cancer. Well thats how Ted Talk perceived it to be. Jack Adranama, i think thats his name. Ted Talk made it seem like he was the future of science. That little gay kid grew up to do nothing.

[@dixztube]

Ya it’s so sad I use to love this channel

[@Senorbenignhillarity]

She would just dance in the background as the Ted talk building burned

[@whitetiana3022]

yeah, TEDx has always been a joke but now it's leaked into TED. they use to have standards but now it's just a far left shiteshow.

[@Bat-Twenty-Two]

Conan O'Brien in the 90s was proof that legitimate humor could elevate a show despite following the more promoted Jay Leno. Lilly had a better chance than most to strut her stuff, only her stuff wasn't up to snuff.

[@morganghetti]

She said "bisexual woman of color" about 300 times in her first few episodes.

[@Shineinpoverty]

What if she knows? I mean, what if she knows she is a talentless hack and that her only chance is sjw ism and preferential treatment? Maybe she is not that stupid after all.

[@dickbiscuit123]

i was about to comment this 💀

[@himwhoisnottobenamed5427]

Just in case, you know, we didn’t get the memo.

[@bora3.14]

She got an opportunity for late night show as first female host of late show and alsp first indian woman to host late night show. And she blew it off that opportunity. We lernt that representation should be on merit basis not based on how you look or your color.

[@sanghamitrasengupta9959]

she literally talked for 5 minutes on why the show wasn't able to do as good. A lot of technical issues and lack of support. A show doesn't depend on ONE single person you know? But ofc you wouldn't bother to consider all that talk cuz you've already decided for yourself.

[@VishalPatel-kr7bu]

@@sanghamitrasengupta9959 No accountability and victimhood. Protect her at all cost!!!

[@nknkannadiga9742]

@@sanghamitrasengupta9959 as always women running away from accountability

[@ethanwright752]

@@sanghamitrasengupta9959 maybe it was because she is a bitter angry sniveling creature of misfortune without a single humorous quality to her at all and her show was a diversity project that ended in abject failure from an obviious lack of talent

[@Pharmerlynda]

She wouldn’t be the first…. Joan Rivers was the first…

[@2GunRock]

There's literally a clip on KZbin where she's on Jimmy Fallon announcing her new talk show at NBC late night, and one of the things she emphasized (I kid you not) was the enormous size of her staff. How everywhere she walked there was another person introducing themselves as a member of her staff, like "Hi, I'm your staff limo driver" etc., yet HERE she says the polar opposite, that her staff was about 6 people.

[@MamaMOB]

My assumption is it started off large and as the studio saw how much she sucked it got smaller. She's only remembering the six people at the end. I mean they're not important enough to remember anyway right?

[@tharukagovinda3188]

Yeh in her guest appearance on Jimmy Fallon she says she has some 100 staff.

[@nicolasandresmartinez-cond126]

The fact that this is supposed to be a TED talk is funnier than any of Lilly's jokes ever.

[@Pau_Pau9]

I thought this was the production of Onion Network.

[@Opeyemi.sanusi]

i thought it was a TED x talk. This must be like a part one or something then a psychologist comes out in part 2 and is like "how to identify a narcissist"

[@trevorpb16]

Must’ve been Open Mic Night lol

[@DZ302-Z28]

Listen to what she says, she says she wants a seat at the table. She doesn't want to earn it she just wants it given to her

[@eddiek8179]

While not caring that almost none of the previous hosts of the show had the limelight and the seat she wants. They all had to work hard for it. It's the late late show. It's not Prime late night.

[@myahjoi8742]

she’s a millionaire saying that she doesn’t have a seat at the table how crazy

[@pseudonym9215]

She should have given this talk at a carpentry workshop.

[@personreanimation]

Or A masonry kiln

[@orenshamir]

That would make it a Shed talk

[@ryanmillikin2211]

Sounds like a lot of excuses for why her late night show was cancelled…. It was cancelled because it simply wasn’t funny….not because of her race, ethnicity, gender, sexual preference, or any other self identifying category. I think she has potential, but playing the victim isn’t a good move

[@foximoxi8533]

The first monologue she gave on her show stated “white people are afraid to see people of color host a talk show”. If that isn’t the most racist, ignorant crap I’ve ever heard…. Implying that we’re all here shaking in our boots, because we’re so racist we can’t fathom the idea of a person from another culture being the leader of anything. Insane.

[@aleksisuuronen5969]

Ofcourse they will give her a huge challenge because for one she is essentially a competitor and everyone knows traditional media wants to show that yt'bers cannot do what they do. Also just for it being a HUGE risk for them. I'm not even saying they wanted her to fail because they chose exactly what she complained about the headlines and then after praised that a little melanin, women blabla let's go 🤦‍♂️ She just wasn't in no way cut out for the job. Late night hosting is one of the hardest and they propably tought she can make some bland average bs before committing with serious money but she Completely Embarrasingly dropped the ball. If you watch Conan's up and coming to be a host for someone who was a no-name (that was a Huge deal especially in 90's) it's some brutal stuff, but the up-side is that he has always been very funny and smart. So they made it work even tho being under a constant pressure of cancellation for A Long Time. She just simply isn't funny. I was at the time of her yt peak aaaround the demographic and hated the Shane Dawson/Lily Singh type of comedy when it kinda was The Thing in youtube. It was more so that ok here is Some people who are doing something more formatted without it really working yet for the people who got on it. So as always there is mainstream people, who chooses the flashy formatted mediocrety over content that is Something. That's what got her ego all messed up, thinking she actually is funny and has these amazing opinions. Nah, you just got on the curb of a wave and populus will go with it. Just like later happened with Logan Paul, straight up nonsense content but it was something new. Then there have been people like Caisy Neistat who Actually knew what he was doing and did it with not ONLY being on the new wave but smart and inventive about it. Another is simple Felix, Pewdiepie, no matter that there is bad content he have always been high up because well one he have managed to change the format with times, but mostly because he is geniuine and people like that (he is even Legit funny now but that took time, people just liked him because as we northern europeans do not largely try to be flashy and are quite humble)(for example I remember yeeeaaars ago when he said: "I try to be a comedian, I know I'm not there but I'm learning guys.. so just bear with me" and not assume that he is the funniest youtuber ever for joking and people liking him. Like Lily did).

[@marvinpowell5966]

Craig Ferguson was genuinely funny, talented, put in the effort and hustle which you could see in every episode, was charming, intelligent, and a positive dude, and no one even remembers him in the late night talk show sphere. But Lily, an unfunny, gay, female Narcissist of color with a KZbin channel most people never even heard of, "wasn't given enough opportunities." This is a TED Talk on what NPD looks like.

[@kristineximeno6739]

If girls want a seat, please be kind and supportive to other girls. My career is mostly haunted by crazy women co-workers.

[@madhavi2424]

So agree!

[@mikamee5459]

110% agree. My male bosses have been nicer a more supportive and kind than any female boss I've had.

[@millertas]

I found similar discrimination as a bloke trying to be an early childhood teacher.

[@pixelin]

Thank you, finally someone said it.

[@danielamonroy802]

First, stop all this "crazy women" thing. Second, a seat should not be conditional, "if girls want"... We're women and should BE in those seats. Yes, other women do create competition and trash talk others (much like you are doing), but it's mostly because we are encouraged to do so. Instead of being judgmental and hate on other women let's check our beliefs and actions to see how we can encourage and better us, so together we can build a better future

[@Nephel]

Big thanks to NBC for canceling this complete narcissist's garbage show. ❤

[@ClintMcCaleb]

Remember they are the ones who gifted her a show, so it's a disaster they created

[@WayneJohn-fq6cn]

All those solutions can go for both genders not just women, people constantly have to negotiate for a good deal at the workplace, don't settle for less then you're worth, and actually know your worth, as in know when you have to bring more to the table because you're actually not worth it, increase your worth to be worthy

[@SickleM]

fax

[@amazingbecka1]

I love how she says “thank you” before people even applaud😂😂😂

[@vinyllpreviews9462]

She knew the seals would clap.

[@zack7438]

In most places around the world, it's commonplace to say thank you upon concluding your speech.

[@amazingbecka1]

@@zack7438 her speech wasn’t concluded, though. Tragically enough, she went on.

[@Matt-bs9ym]

This is unintentional comedy at its best

[@mikkopenttila7604]

I thought A Little Late with Lilly Singh wasn't very funny, but hearing the conditions of the show I understand, that getting even a single laugh under those conditions is a major accomplishment. I hope Lilly gets a chance to talk about her struggles and breakthroughs, in a sincere manner like this, to a wider, receptive audience..

[@ltilluck]

They paid people to be audience members...the laughs werent genuine...the show sucked

[@CounterCultureWISE]

If you're good/funny, you don't need a big budget. She's just yet another diversity hire who failed.

[@shellypuri2]

@@ltilluck I was in the audience multiple times, they did not pay audience members.

[@chlorine5795]

@@shellypuri2 liar.

[@shivangidharne]

Exactly! We had no idea all the obstacles she went through while filming it.

[@darklawyergirl7]

I love the message. We should also note that her grandfather seemed to celebrate her because he had achieved fame and recognition. What would have happened if Lily pursued a less “visible”, “loud” but also rewarding career? Are we only worthy when we’re popular? Not everyone will have their story published in the news, etc. Women do so much carrying the world and should be given the same chance that men get just for existing as the men.

[@sowndharyamaheswaran7094]

Very very very well said. You thoughts and dreams are valid if you choose not to have a seat at the table :)

[@Flimstudios5]

Yes it’s sad, but so true.

[@justyouraveragecupofjoe9812]

I think she covered this indirectly by talking about pursuing seats vs pursuing tables.

[@debanganabala1224]

@@sowndharyamaheswaran7094 yah completely agree to that

[@EsoteriaHealing]

True! I said the same thing when I heard that. He would have actually changed if Lilly didn't do anything worthwhile and he still valued her.

[@sillysod33]

I wish I was as oppressed as this heroic warrior against oppression who gets multimillion dollar TV shows and book deals and gets paid to travel the world talking bollocks about herself and other vacuous pap. Truly, she has inspired me to want to be a millionaire celebrity by being oppressed. Hopefully, if I can pay my rent and bills next month, someone can oppress me and keep me down by paying me millions. Stunning and brave.

[@foximoxi8533]

You probably could and if you’re a (gasp) white man, you can always identify as a woman and claim oppression points that way.

[@umbriel7740]

Why is the dislike button disabled. If you can't face the truth, then don't even have this narcissistic TED talk in the first place.

[@fakeaccount704]

7:10 bishhhh that’s what you called yourself!! Lily kept repeating over and over again on her show, and people noticed that. She knows it was dumb, so now she’s deflecting those statements she made onto others. Don’t put the blame on the media 🤦🏾‍♀️ and she clearly still didn’t understand why she got backlash for that her tweet about the Forbes list. And about her late night show? When will she realize that she just wasn’t very funny in it, and that the show was cringe overall. She gets so defensive and doesn’t introspect about the criticism she is receiving. There is no doubt she is trailblazer in more ways than one, but it’s okay to acknowledge that not everything she did was worthy of praise. No need to get defensive and say it’s Lily against the world. I’m surprised almost no one in the comments is calling her out.

[@vinfinity8940]

Ig she talked about how media talked about her before the show and she might have adopted it. No wonder the show was cringe it had such a tight schedule, with that the likelihood of decreased efficiency or creativity is expected.

[@ericz6]

I'm actually depressed that there are people in the comments taking this lunatic seriously.

[@Nikkers8]

One of the select few who rise to fame on KZbin actually offered TV show- instead of being grateful for the 1 in a million opportunity, it fails and she blames everyone but herself. She totally twisted the criticism about the Forbes list as it was based strictly on views - no gender bias. She fell off bc her views dropped- because of HER content. She seems incapable of self reflection.

[@Jhon_wick03]

Hey man recently she got called out

[@fakeaccount704]

@@Jhon_wick03 when and where?

[@EvelynRobinson22]

Shame that she didn’t talk about all the female late night hosts that came before her and the amazing ones that are killing it as day time hosts (Drew Barrymore, Kelly Clarkson) sure, the day time talkshow format and landscape is very different to late night, but I think it’s worth acknowledging

[@peace-or2cp]

Why are you moving the needle? She is the first late night host on a major network. When Joan Rivers hosted her show on Fox in the 1986, the show among the just launched Fox's first line up. No shade on the other late night talk show hosts, who were/are ground breakers, smart and hilarious.

[@darrenrooftop8328]

What about Wanda Sykes ? An actually funny black woman who got a late night show in 2009 ! And on Fox too ! What , fox isn’t a major network ?? Are you only saying this because Lily herself stated that ? Echochambers man …

[@darrenrooftop8328]

Also , Wanda Sykes came out as gay in 2008 , before she was the first person of color on a late at a major network . So there’s literally nothing special about her besides the fact she started from nothing doing KZbin which is basically the only respectable thing I can say , I will give her props on that .

[@darrenrooftop8328]

Nothing special about Lily *

[@EvelynRobinson22]

@@darrenrooftop8328 of course! I only the listed the ones I knew of. My apologies. I’m in Australia and didn’t realize that Wanda Sykes got her own late night show. Drew’s show is on demand here & Kelly is mentioned regularly on our morning programs

[@NASkeywest]

Instead of using her platform and Ted talk to inspire and educate…she used it to talk about how amazing she is and pick petty fights with an industry she failed at. Wow

[@bassettholland3131]

you're so blinded by your dislike of her that you ignored how she actually connected her story to the message💀

[@exponentmantissa5598]

She seems to think that everyone else had their way paved and didnt have to work hard to succeed, only she had to do that.

[@Noqtis]

all white cis men get instantly rich and famous. when I leave the house people give me complements and money just for simply existing. and in the evening all white cis men gather in pubs and laugh about all the Indian girls, we stole opportunities from. lel

[@VaShthestampede2]

My favorite part is that all of her complaints.....are literally valid for the previous host of the same show, in the same time slow, that ran for 2000+ episodes and wasn't cancelled immediately. So it wasn't a budget issue, or a support issue from the studio, because Craig made it work. It must have been....something else. Something totally unrelated to whether Lily is actually funny or entertaining. That must have been what was the issue!

[@roudraksh8079]

She's been an inspiration since I was in high school and I'm about to graduate uni now and I feel so proud to see where she is now

[@jasminesamuel321]

Me too, only she was there for me in elementary and I’m about to graduate high school! Love her sm

[@twenttythree]

iisuperwomanii 😻

[@zandilejamelasithole9086]

Same😭😭❤️❤️

[@mackcoyne3848]

I'm proud of where you are right now! That's an amazing achievement.

[@lgtbz]

@Squiggy Zee how is she a racist and a sexist? asking genuinely.

[@itsamnanotamina]

I never thought if there's a really difference between being grateful for having a seat at a table and knowing what I deserve! I myself have been told to be grateful for having a seat at the table atleast but after this TED talk, I have came to this realization how being at the table isnt enough when it comes to gender equality. Thankyou Lilly for always inspiring!

[@GeronFletcher]

Yes. A seat at the table should be the baseline

[@boecat8054]

this is ridiculous. what about Ukraine where women are being allowed to leave the country and get a "get out of war pass". but the men 18-60 are forced to stay... Equality pfft more like abuse of power.

[@Jacco0]

@@boecat8054 How is this relevant in this particular instance? It's bad that that's happening there, but that doesn't mean that this isn't bad. It's like people in the past saying slavery is bad and you're saying that in some parts of Africa there is cannibalism (so black people should be grateful). It's ridiculous.

[@GeronFletcher]

@@boecat8054 you mean women that bear children? You asking why they’re being taken away from wars? That women never start I might add. When’s the last time a woman started a war? Don’t worry, I’ll wait….

[@boecat8054]

@@GeronFletcher You can wait as long as you need for this fantasy scenario. But women are being treated like they are special. Being able to leave a war VS forced to stay and fight is a HUGE disparity. And if you cannot see the issue with such a disparity you are truly lost.

[@ShinbrigTV]

Now I'm no therapist...but I've dated narcissitic women in the past and let's just say this energy feels familiar.

[@obscuraapit]

I guarantee her grandfather did none of that, what happened was she first bowed and touched his feet followed by a hug. Traditions are extremely important to Indians and so what she said is her imagination or in reality LIES!.

[@thewhitematstudio]

Agreed. The story sounds made up.

[@Pau_Pau9]

Pompousness and narcissism probably runs through her entire family line.

[@MamaMOB]

I'm choosing to take your word for it over hers. You're more trustworthy complete stranger on the internet.

[@pinklungy1659]

9:20 Yes, it was a huge accomplishment on Lilly’s part to do the late night show. But the honest truth is it was BAD. She was the one who kept repeating Brown Bisexual woman every 5 seconds. And the notes they were sending you were feedback from the audience. Looks like she still hasn’t understood it.

[@krishnvm1027]

See this the problem, u think her being herself is annoying but other ppl do it everyday but it goes unnoticed, but anything different is annoying.

[@jenniferjones2289]

@@krishnvm1027 being brown, bisexual, or a woman are not personality traits. If your skin color, sexual orientation, or gender define you, you are pathetic and lack PERSONALITY.

[@karthik197]

@@krishnvm1027 no! Being annoying is annoying. If she was actually talented, the show wouldn't have failed. The reason she failed is because she lacks what it takes to attract the crowd. Its not the world's fault she isn't "successful". The world doesn't owe anyone anything.

[@souijaboi3198]

women like her and the biches supporting her in these comment section bring bad name to feminism and women in general

[@MrYelly]

@@krishnvm1027 Annoying people are annoying, and luckily, most annoying people don't get their own show. Why Lilly is the exception is beyond me.

[@themboys304]

Thank you so much for putting this tutorial on "How not to TED Talk". This is a very nice summary by Lilly Singh. Very helpful.

[@lottolearn6658]

Think Before You Sleep led me to this video. The fact that this video has less views than TBYS reaction to this says a lot...

[@dama301]

Same

[@rafaellincoln6382]

Same

[@davisjaxx6673]

Same

[@shayraecok578]

same

[@micamensah6489]

I mean shoot if you would actually listen before taking someone else's opinion

[@Kaziglu1]

Here's a note- "Hey Lily, be funny."

[@BecauseIWannaComment]

Some of the way these things are framed is kind of misleading... Lilly perpetuated the "bisexual woc" angle when her show came out and I'm pretty sure its a point she emphasized in some of her announcement videos. And Twitter wasn't mad at what Lilly said about the Forbes list, it was how she delivered it. Plus, her show is half the time of most other ones (which may be problematic in itself) and explains why she had to film more per day. I think it's sad but clear that some of Lilly's attitude/reaction to feedback from the 1st season tainted people's interest in the second which I think unfortunately made a lot of the good takes she had fall through the cracks. I used to be a huge supporter of Lilly but in recent years, she's really lost me. I sill respect her hustle and want to root for her which is why I even watched this but never seems to do much public reflection/holding accountablility which I just can't get down with. I'm glad she got to do this talk though and she's definitely right that women need to be more focused on making space for more of us, not just securing ourselves and calling it justice

[@nihilisticnirvana]

YES

[@ksj4922]

Agreed, I really do think people should think about what problem they might have themselves and tryna improve it instead trying to find a way out of their circumstances by complaining about the society structure. Obvioulsy, Im not saying we should not criticize wrong things at all, but at least people shouldnt complain every inch of the structure if things dont go to where they want to.

[@monkiram]

As a longtime fan of Lilly, I agree with everything that you said. I was so excited for her when she announced her show but I found it disappointing. I'm kind of relieved to hear that a lot of it was due to the conditions that she had to work under because I still really hope she succeeds. But also, I feel like in recent years, she's changed and become more entitled and less receptive to constructive criticism, which she always seems to attribute to discrimination. I respect her mission in trying to get equality for women and minorities, as a woman of colour myself. But I often don't agree with some of the messages. For example, a lot of the time I hear "well people respect white men who are overconfident, condescending and bossy so women and people of colour should be able to do that as well". However, it's always been my opinion that instead of changing society so that everybody is respected when they're overconfident, condescending and bossy, why don't we instead change society to expect everybody to be more modest, respectful and patient?

[@tomsnowden6201]

@@monkiram lol it wasn't the conditions she had to work under, she's saying that because it's hard to say "I'm not a good talk show host, I should stick to making childish content for kids because I'm better at being loud and making faces"

[@1three7]

Shes basically the DSM-V definition of narcissistic personality disorder manifested into human form. I'm glad the top comments are finally calling her out now. There's way too many actually commending her for huffing her own farts on stage.

[@charlesw852]

It is clear that this person is some sort social experiment to present a case in which EQ and self awareness levels can reach Absolute Zero. As this is clearly the case then tip of the cap to those researchers. They have done an exemplary and thorough job, I for one, would not have thought this could be achieved to quite this degree. 👏👏👏 In the extremely unlikely scenario that this is a real person, and we as a society have given them a modicum of prominence, then I worry for us all.

[@MamaMOB]

This is incredibly well said. Bravo!

[@rrl2r]

Little do naive people know instead of blaming others one should look within. Some just cant let go of their Ego. The problem lies not in the outside but the inside, within oneself.

[@tiffanyxchoo]

"I don't always follow up my venting sessions with solutions, but when I do it's a TED talk." 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼 💯💯💯

[@aerah76]

Schrödinger's Feminism: A woman is simultaneously a victim and empowered, until something happens. Then she chooses which state benefits her the most.

[@shefchenko111]

So many dislikes they had to disable them :D

[@wolfgangamadeuskeen]

Lilly Singh has been subject to discrimination, it's true: the entertainment industry tends to discriminate against people who are not entertaining.

[@maryelizabeth3055]

"We have to get rid of the scarcity mindset and champion each other, you know because I've learned what's the better win? Me sitting at a table or us sitting at a table? Don't be convinced to fight for one spot. Instead, fight for multiple spots." -Lilly Singh

[@dougdimmadoodahdaay7887]

make the water fountains equitable again

[@souijaboi3198]

lets start that in wars scenarios and dangerous workplaces first ..

[@MrYelly]

"White man bad and I love vapid tribalism and nepotism." - Lilly Singh

[@PassportGaming]

@@souijaboi3198 Eric Andre is 975 times funnier than she is and he made his talk show successful with a $0 budget, no writing staff, and on a network no one watches. He's a classic on so many memes now. She started with way more and she failed but tries to dodge accountablity

[@dumkaisachakal6341]

you would think that with her 20 million net worth and her social media following she would have made multiple tables and chairs for all the " us " she was talking about ... but then again feminists are all talk and no action. Waiting like vultures to snack on what the lions worked to get

[@JSNY1125]

This is a really great Tard talk…. I learned so much.

[@troy6606]

When she went into “I have over blah blah amount of subscribers on utube” I almost switched off. While trying to show how tough it is with her grandpa or dad she still has to let everyone know how great she is, urgh

[@mcruz4571]

So, LiLy's biggest traumas, this chip so heavy in her shoulders comes from....having a traditional family....not an abusive family, not a father or mother who abandoned her, or parents who were drug addicts or criminals, nope.....the big big trauma of her...is...ohh..... my family is traditional.....some people really are privileged....😅

[@slo-poke1044]

5:30 I thought everyone knew the earning gap was Bs

[@frankiecal3186]

I'm so oppressed I'm a multi - millionaire.

[@sole__doubt]

The comments supportive of this person is one of the most black pilling things ever.

[@alphaw1748]

Punjabi people love their baby girls and daughters. First time I heard something like this. Beside Lily was born abroud and still she says she went through this? bit strange for me though .

[@dougdimmadoodahdaay7887]

make the water fountains equitable again

[@totallynotthefeds36]

😂😂😂 This TEDtalk didn't go the way she expected

[@SidB8]

Boy I really wish I could see the Like/Dislike ratio bar.

[@frankiecal3186]

Oppressed Queen Mentality 👸

[@harrydbastard]

Dear lilly I just have to say how inspirational this ted talk is, you are proof that even with all the advantages, wealth, favours from famous friends and an unlimited amount of choices I too can fail. In a way that is true equality, at least you finally made me laugh.

[@twistedtrailerparktales2126]

A millionaire given millions for not making her own fans laugh and still given more millions is not enough and she needs more millions for nothing. That's why feminists changed from equality to equity. They've had equality for one hundred years but that meant equal work. Equity means free $hit for not being being a straight white male. Which by the way wasn't her critics but her own advertisement and material reminding us she's a non white bi woman every ad and episode her critics didn't care. Her entire shtick is saying "IM A BI NON WHITE WOMAN ISN'T THAT FUNNY?"

[@VV-bk1wv]

Craig Ferguson had the same time slot, the same writing staff and made something that is still regarded as a truly funny and unique.

[@Raez_XL]

TED Talk just threw their reputation out the window.

[@suanh9070]

Man, this lady is why we don't have nice things

[@utterlyrelaxed9109]

What do you mean?

[@guitarhero661]

@@utterlyrelaxed9109 she's a privileged ego-maniac who's trying to compare eastern cultures to the west, people DO NOT discriminate against women like they do in places in like India. She's sitting on millions of dollars yet still plays the victim. She makes me feel embarrassed to be a second generation Indian in the west. Plus her show fucking sucks lol

[@suanh9070]

@@utterlyrelaxed9109 Well, If all we do I comparing ourselves with other people and blaming them for all the downfalls in our lives then we would go far ay. That is what I meant

[@punxie89]

My parents felt the same way about me because I was born a girl. They praised my brother. Held him in such high regard. Gave him everything he ever wanted. Just for being born their dream child (a son). And they rarely punished him, even when he did bad things. And the punishments were basically a tap on the wrist compared to what I faced for never meeting their insane expectations. They even told me that I was lucky that I was born in Canada, because at the time in China they were dumping baby girls in dumpsters and gutters (I'm half Chinese, for context). What a messed up thing to tell your child, and to have them learn about at a young age. I'll never forget it. They made it clear that I wouldn't be the one to pass on our family name, because I'd marry a man and it would change. That I wouldn't take care of the family, because my brother would be more successful and have a better job and make more money than me. Made it clear that I wasn't planned, and that I ruined my mom's chances of going to school to become a nurse by being born (I never asked to be born, and she could have had an abortion - her choices). It was just endless, and I'll never understand it. They made it clear my whole childhood that I wasn't worth anything or wanted. Future parents, ***PLEASE*** do better for your daughters. And if anyone's wondering, I don't have any contact with them anymore.

[@Sirissssss]

They seem nasty people. Good you came out stronger and kinder than them.

[@punxie89]

@@Sirissssss Thank you for your kind words

[@stickynorth]

Nobody should EVER be made to feel lesser than. I'm truly sorry that you had to experience that! There's still a long way to go in this nation. SMH! Peace and love from Alberta!

[@catherinerozario1651]

I hope you're doing good now. I'm glad you left that toxic environment. You deserve better things in life. Please don't let that horrible past hold you back.

[@punxie89]

@@stickynorth I agree, and I really pray that other kids aren't going through the same thing. It was all around horrible. Parents should be trying to build their kids up, not tear them down.

[@william53519]

I'm glad to see the majority of the people in the comment section, like me, are tired of her not taking accountability

[@jgf4224]

She's the example image when you try to find the definition for the word narcissist in dictionary

[@aerah76]

I love how millionaires complain about how oppressed they are

[@DZ302-Z28]

Not all, just the ones on the left that are mostly female and identify as something other than normal

[@TheAyeAye1]

Her problem is that she made a very bad show. She took all of things she was good at on youtube and threw them out after getting a network show. She became a nothing but a smug, tedious avatar for all of the victim groups she belongs to. Craig Ferguson had the same time slot and problems, and he leaned into the poverty and low audience numbers making them part of the joke.

[@DodoEmperor]

Lmao is this what the self-reflection on her show brought her

[@BeardedBushMan81]

It’s so nice to see TED talks allowing a platform for this mentally handicapped woman to tell her story of how she is the biggest victim on the planet earth.

[@gamesthatiplay9083]

She's only worth $10 million. That's very disadvantaged compared to Oprah.

[@RegularBiscuit]

watching this during the day is motivational and inspiring, watching it high at night you wonder why someone's trying to reinvent the ikea catologue

[@boshmow3600]

Omfg, this poor eternal victim. Someone should call the pity police. Ps. That illfitting pink bag is hilarious.

[@MrYelly]

You think you deserve a seat? Start working for it. Giving handouts to beggars substitutes extremely poorly for a semblance of equality.

[@--Singularity--]

I watched 1 minute and agreed all. Now i´m gonna close this.

[@pcortez001]

Wow a person went live to blame men and racism for her failure instead of just saying “she not funny , she not a comedian “ sad af

[@ivydoll7195]

She’ll stare directly at the sun, but never in the mirror.

[@julesfel39]

I looked up the in the dictionary for the word solipsism, this TED talk came up.

[@eddiek8179]

She talks about the seat at the table like it means automatically she should be given extra privileges. Did Carson Daly, the person she replaced have anything even remotely similar like her? Did he complain? The show operates on the merit of the timeslot but she thinks she should be given a bigger budget and opportunities because she thinks her her show is 'historical' - in other words, she wants special privileges because of who and what she is. All the other host work according to their timeslot but she wants special privileges.

[@JodyBruchon]

LIlly Singh needs to learn to Think Before You Sleep.

[@RadiantandDire]

When she said a man has never said I am sorry I was wrong to her in her life before she become famous I knew she was on the coolaid.

[@pseudonym9215]

This should be titled, woman thought she could demand people watch her.

[@kindofanmol]

As an Indian, I'm saying this on behalf of my entire race that we hereby disown her. The Canadians can have her.

[@AColonDashSix]

Despite being given every advantage possible, she failed and blamed others. Wow We really NEED to stop platforming ungrateful narcissists like her.

[@MandyLionRock]

Well... hindsight is 20/20... it seems the parent's disappointment with having her was thoroughly justified.

[@astronautsamuel_xxv2295]

I live in a very sexist country and it makes me sad that the suffering that I go through is reduced to this insane show of narcissism

[@MamaMOB]

I'm sorry your country is sexist.

[@eshna2012]

I feel very privileged to live in a time where someone like Lilly can express these impactful thoughts 💜

[@dougdimmadoodahdaay7887]

make the water fountains equitable again

[@SwuaveWEB]

What are you talking about? That has literally always been the case.

[@apax2901]

Yes. It's a privilege to witness a millionaire complain about how unfair her world is

[@MrYelly]

I feel deeply sorry for these meek and weak creatures that think they are not allowed to express themselves. You have always been able to do that, Eshna, and you don't need a commercial pig like Lilly to do it.

[@sheepthehack]

When was the last time u couldnt???

[@sahil-06-11]

Lilly Singh promoting victim mentality