A hostage negotiator teaches leadership through bonding | George Kohlrieser | TEDxFultonStreet

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. When someone has a gun to the head of another person, and wishes to do them harm, how can a negotiator talk them down? Learn directly, from the man who has done it professionally. The answer is to become a Leader by bonding with the other individual, no matter how difficult they might be. The same techniques can be applied to negotiations in the boardroom, or with any other person who presents a difficult challenge.
George Kohlrieser has 40 years of experience as a psychologist and hostage negotiator. He is an organizational and clinical psychologist, and Professor of Leadership and Organizational Behavior at one of the world’s leading business schools, the International Institute for Management Development (IMD) in Switzerland. At IMD he created and directs the school’s flagship High Performance Leadership (HPL) program. He is also the author of the award-winning bestseller Hostage at The Table: How Leaders Can Overcome Conflict, Influence Others and Raise Performance, published in 2006, and co-author of Care to Dare: Unleashing Astonishing Potential Through Secure Base Leadership, published in 2012.
Building his lessons learned from decades in the field, he works with companies and organizations based all over the world and serves on the advisory board of the Neuroleadership Institute. He focuses on the neuroscience behind high performance leadership and teamwork, conflict management, change management, dialogue and negotiations, stress management, fulfilling potential and playing to win.
Kohlrieser is also a popular motivational speaker and a respected media commentator. He has been a guest on the BBC, CNN, ABC and CBS. His work has also been featured in the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, the Economist and other leading newspapers and magazines. Matters of the Mind, his highly acclaimed radio call-in talk show in the United States, ran for over ten years.
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[@mortenlokkegaard]

The best professor I ever had - during my MBA at IMD Switzerland... I highly recommend the book 'Hostage at the table'... Life altering no less!

[@MsGnor]

Morten, I'm not surprised you feel that way. What an awesome dude! I loved his talk, really touched me deep. You are one lucky guy :) to have had George as your prof. Thanks for details of his book.

[@RichLuciano1]

What are some things you picked up from him during your MBA or in HOSTAGE AT THE TABLE that were omitted from this TED Talk?

[@DelToro88]

What a remarkable human being with remarkable lessons to not simply change lives but indeed, change the world. Hats off to you sir!

[@paulbarone4329]

Powerful and compelling of trials and tribulations in the field of Crisis!👣. Thanks for your valuable lessons!

[@burmanhands]

Wonderful man and great talk, thank you so much. My relationships were ego to ego, liking or disliking others. After a life of emotional pain I was finally forced to surrender my ego and thank God, open my heart. I now relate as one being to another - it has allowed my life to change completely, I am seldom threatened by anyone - how can love be threatened. By the way the 'Peace Pilgrim' was a great inspiration to me.

[@janassink3073]

A truly amazing and moving sharing of experience hand wisdom.

[@burnsysings]

beautiful talk, full of passion and life experience......

[@skytube72]

Bravo 👏🏻 Bravo 👏🏻 what an eye opener 👏🏻

[@WisdomAndEase]

Thank you SO MUCH. I really want to change my situation and apply what had Mr. Kohlrieser said

[@wishudbest5765]

Wow. Such a wonderful insights. Thank you. I want to keep listening this man.

[@belleheywood5063]

This is really amazing.

[@stivenjulian4527]

this is so inspiring thank you

[@she-vc2788]

Such a profound teaching.

[@dahalbalkot]

relly inspiring to live life to its fullest.

[@lateshiftsailor]

Thank you good sir. You are a good soul and you motivate me to become better. Godspeed, sir ❤

[@tedkantrowitz6391]

It's strange that his speaking rhythm, his pitch and his breathing breaks all the rules, yet he's pretty effective. Great topic; I came here because Daniel Goleman linked to it.

[@nirmalpatel2768]

outstanding.

[@Emily-ke9xb]

Thank you. Very inspiring!

[@vip02play49]

Great! Amazing!

[@prakashthapa9912]

Wow amazing

[@christineverite5497]

Such a memory in Ande

[@vincentng1482]

Very interesting talk George. If you ever plan a trip to HK, please let me know. It would be a pleasure to host a TEDx Salon with you while here in town. Vinny, Curator TEDxWanChai

[@BeckBeckGo]

I mean, regardless of what this person may kill, this is your best strategy.

[@BroMcKnight]

Wow, what a wonderful way to honour your son

[@remmylaydown8541]

"Sir, put down that scissors"

[@kirstinetermansen3426]

Hi there Why were you even in the room Without swat team

[@lukaslionkingmultilanguage4890]

leadership hostage

[@Waffles64]

I wanna be a hostage negotiator.

[@robertgabuna355]

If a blade is wrapped around my neck, I will kneel down. But, I will not limit in talking. I will think out ways how to tackle the attacker.

[@laplue]

What about narcissistic psychopaths? Would they understand negotiations? or rather listen to it?

[@nikkishana201]

9:00

[@lolguy20005]

I a hostage in my own body

[@good__enough]

What do you mean?

[@mrb2643]

How you got taken 4 times

[@srjshapthnktl4978]

would be nice to have the ads for George Kohlrieser's books Language: EnglishBinding: HardcoverPublisher: Citadel PrISBN: 9780787983840, 0787983845Edition: illustrated edition, 2009

[@warfire101]

This guy's all over the place. Can't focus on one thing with out going to the next...

[@millylv160]

Good speech! But I am wondering if this man deserves a better body shape or not. How can you lead your life without treating yourself good in terms of controlling weight ???

[@ahorizon2000]

Must we suffer through such breathless, patronizing melodrama to hear a few surface points? I certainly would not want this man negotiating with a hostage-taker for my benefit. Telling your audience to "let bygones be bygones" teaches nothing. Don't you think people would follow this if were as simple as hearing an adage? The salient points of the subject drown in his pandering approach. He also fails to mention that some hostage-takers are not posers who just want a hug- they are serious about their intentions and will not be trifled with, especially not by this heaving emoter as a potential negotiator. Another important point for dealing with hostage-takers is to break the pattern he/she has established. This man gets paid to do this?

[@alexanderwilisow3633]

The best professor I ever had - during my MBA at IMD Switzerland... I highly recommend the book 'Hostage at the table'... Life altering no less!

[@bloodsuckeraleera]

Copy paste much?

[@vip02play49]

Great! Amazing!