The 411 on Dating Ethiopian & Eritrean Men | Pros & Cons | የፍቅር ጓደኝነት የኢትዮጵያ እና የኤርትራ ወንዶች

I was born and raised in America, but my parents are Ethiopian & Eritrean so this video gives you my perceptive dating Ethiopian & Eritrean men that were born and raised back home (with limited exposure to America and Americans). For American women, or Americanized Habesha women interested in dating Habesha men here is a little heads-up on what to expect (pros and cons). I think the ones that will benefit the most are Habesha men who are interested in dating Habesha women born and raised in America. This advice is given from a loving place. Please share your experiences and thoughts below. You don't have to agree with me. I just ask everyone is respectful to one another in the comments section. Thank you!
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[@tabithaneema2270]

I’m here because the guy I like is Ethiopian

[@saraw9740]

Love these little nuggets of knowledge! They're all so true :0

[@LilaTalks]

Thanks for chiming in Sara! It is good to hear my experiences resonate with other Americanized habesha women. :)

[@itsabraham1824]

Hi Lila. New sub here. This was a fun video. You made a lot of great points that I agree with. Thanks for sharing!

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you for watching and dropping a comment.

[@tommuli8574]

Hello Lila im tosh from Africa kenya , I think your your doing a really good job .keep in touch .thanks🎉

[@Ac319]

Please I want to date an ethiopia man. What are the dating sites

[@kalMHe]

I don't really care if I see habesha women date a different race. But I want to end up with only habesha woman. I only feel comfortable with some one that understands my culture.

[@mzladytroublez]

Yes my sons father is ethiopian n he's always around his friends. Lol. Something I don't understand.

[@HangOutWithJaclyn]

This is an awesome video! 😊

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it :)

[@kaba_tka]

Every Habesha girl comes on social media and roasts habesha guys. They cant act like African Americans, whites, or others(which they're actually not) just to fit into your/girls' interest! those characters are what make habesha guys unique. if you don't accept them as who they're and want them to change their character, then you should search for guys from other races who would meet your requirements. This idea works for every girl out there!!

[@LilaTalks]

Whether you date within or outside your culture, there is someone out there for everyone. You just have to ask yourself if are you looking in the right place. Most of the time, we aren't honest with ourselves on what we want and need. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@kaba_tka]

@@LilaTalks let me tell you something, I'm not jealous when I see Habesha girl dating outside her culture. But what pisses me off is when they spread false narratives about Habesha guys. from your videos, I could understand that you're from Habesha Parents but you don't have any Habesha Freinds, you grew up in different cultures throughout your school years. Plus most of the narratives like ''habesha Men are Trash" come from Westernized Habesha girls. so, that means they don't have any idea about why Habesha men behave the way they do. Because they have their own customs and values as I said before. FYI: your replays look like a message from a Virtual assistant bot on a customer service platform!! please improve it.

[@LilaTalks]

@@kaba_tka I hope my video doesn't come off as trashing habesha men. My cousins are habesha and they are great guys. Everyone has their own dating preferences and I respect that, as I hope others respect mine.

[@menenasfaw3579]

TKA: Sorry, but you can’t take constrictive criticism. Guys like you are shaming Ethiopian/Eritrean girls for not speaking the language and what not. How does this make you unique? You are blaming the girls for not accepting the men the way they are and yet you are doing the same thing. The video is very transparent, she made it clear in the beginning of the video, that not all Ethiopian/Eritrean men are as what she described. You are taking this so personal….

[@kaba_tka]

@@menenasfaw3579 Girl, i cant change you guys self-hating personallity and the way yall became mean to Ethiopian men. But, i have the right to tell someone like her not to spread false narrative and belittling statements. yall have the right to be with your ideal type of guy from any race but dont come at my homies like this. even if you hate us so much, just keep it inside, Don't spread toxicity!!

[@Abel-dw4ry]

You’re right. We should not date each other, we should date out as much possible. Preserving our culture ain’t important !

[@howtotieatie5845]

You can go and vanish but don't tell us to do that.

[@Abel-dw4ry]

@@howtotieatie5845 that’s what she wants us to do!

[@howtotieatie5845]

@@Abel-dw4ry She will understand, when she gets wiser.

[@DoorDashDrama]

Salute..,

[@musaali1871]

I am watching this because I’m dating an Eritrean and he really is so complicated but I love him and he said he loves me too but we’re also toxic.

[@Wedi_Shabiya]

Another Eritrean here Just curious to know Where you from? Eritrean 🇪🇷 men are the last men to be toxic! He might be one of those Ethiopian who was born and raised in Eritrea 🇪🇷

[@ricekrispessss]

@@Wedi_Shabiyaritrean Men born in Eritrea are toxic ?

[@yesufabdulhakim9326]

I Was Born Raised in addis i think ethio american girls are cool but i dont date them cos my english is not that good and most of them dont know amarigna lol

[@LilaTalks]

I understand that Yesuf. Language can be a barrier in any multi-cultural relationship, even within our community. Thanks for watching!

[@natiseyoum8337]

Wow😘😘😘😘😘

[@TrishLee]

1:18 hahahahha..... overly complimentary!!! 😂😂😂Damn funny gurl!

[@LilaTalks]

haha! Thanks Trish. I aim to entertain! haha :)

[@TrishLee]

@@LilaTalks Welcome love! Keep sharing! Have a lovely day! 💕

[@LilaTalks]

@@TrishLee Thanks for watching! Have a great week!

[@childofgodjehovah3619]

That's fake news, she's just bashing Ethiopian men and lying on them to make her self feel good because she's lost and ashamed of herself.

[@negusofminjar8290]

​​​​​​@@childofgodjehovah3619she is really thinks she is all that. but she is a average woman for Ethiopian man's in terms of beauty there are countless Ethiopian woman's outhere are way more beautiful than her, Blah blah about her been an Americaized we don't give a f**k

[@sami-axum3389]

My parents are strict culturally. And I have 6 sis never had to cook or clean for most of my life. my dad thought me cleaning and cooking is for the girls lol. When I started dating I thought if the girl liked me she should be okay just for being with me, but girls expect you to show them off and be there for them emotionally...and I wasn’t ready for that. Now I know that r/ships are responsibilities that’s why I’m serious. I hate to see any girl hurt because I failed as her as BF.

[@livcbef1336]

her face is outstanding

[@uchennanwosu4625]

It's interesting that although Ethiopia is listed in the Bible as one of the descendants of Ham that constitute today's African continent, it is mentioned in the Book of Esther, as one of the 127 provinces of ancient Persia. These provinces spread from Ethiopia to India. This might be the root of the racial and even cultural mix of Ethiopia. Lila mentioned the romantic expression of Ethiopian men. I can't speak authoritatively but I see that lavish expression in Indian movies. Persian women are beautiful and a blend between them and black African is bound to produce something spectacular.

[@lionessslionesss3819]

very true i agree lili keep it up .

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you very much for watching! I appreciate the support.

[@Samuel115s]

Your so pretty like omg

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you!

[@samsonzeleke5096]

I am surprised you say Ethiopian men compliment too much. I am Ethiopia guy , born and raised in Ethiopia. In my case, most women I dated actually compained that I don't express my feelings about them as much as they want. I have to really really love that women to say I love you. Even that I take my time and know about her feelings towards me before I say I love you. I have also noticed the same with my guy Ethiopian friends. I am not saying there are no Ethiopia men who don't do that. It might also be your experience with the guys you dated. But you are wrong to make generalized statements as if all Habesha men behave that way.

[@endeshawumulat388]

thanks

[@physcomp]

Sorry to hear this but all this bla bla shows habesha men you run into seems not interested. Guess what? I am one of them and the fact that you saying "habesha men over compliment in words , i love you, love you ...." and that is even on first few days? haha this is a complete joke! The one thing we aren't good at is being fake! We are the most real you can find! Flowers? not our thing! Expressing "i love you" not our thing! opening doors, we do that but only when we remember, we don't value it, we do that for eldely thoughtfully though. Showing fake smile? we don't do that shit! But on things that matter and truly caring for our loved one, family and friends? NO ONE TRUELY CARE as much as we do. We are the real deal! The gap you are trying to explain is because most girls (not all) like fake and sort of commercial like stuff - stuff they see on tv or social media posts. Real life however is different! Our weakness? O we have, we don't excercise much, again that is not all men either. But when it comes being real, there is no one like us! Get over it! :) Hey, still you are a sister and no matter the differenct, you know we still care!

[@Sophia-angel]

She don't know anything about habesha only dated one and she want make video something she ignorant about

[@howtotieatie5845]

@@collinnicholaus8152 Simply go to your own women.

[@howtotieatie5845]

@@Sophia-angel She is one of the vanished generation. She doesn't know us at all.

[@lamrof]

ለእኔ ከፍርቅረኛየ ጋር መዋል ግራ ነገር ነው። ከርሷ ጋር ማታ ማታ እንዲሁም ሌሊት፤ ከጓደኞቼ ጋር በቀን። ከሴት ጋር ነጋ ጠባ አንድ ላይ መሆን እና የሄዱበት ይዞ መሄድ አይጥመኝም፤ በዚህ ላይ መናናቅ ያመጣል።

[@LilaTalks]

ጥሩ ነው ፡፡ በመሠረቱ ነጠላ መሆን ይፈልጋሉ ፣ እና ያ ደህና ነው። ስላያችሁ አመሰግናለው.

[@lamrof]

@@LilaTalks ጥሩ ነው ፡፡ በመሠረቱ ነጠላ መሆን ይፈልጋሉ ፣ እና ያ ደህና ነው። ስለአዩ አመሰግናለሁ።

[@Lemlem7682]

😂😂😂

[@jerrysalem1115]

OMG u r so sweet..i subscribed too

[@LilaTalks]

Awww, thank you so much! I appreciate the support :) Happy Holidays! You can follow me on IG too at lilatalkslifestyle. Thanks!

[@nie_ma]

i'm will never date habesha girl at all anymore but you all stay safe.

[@mikhapte198]

The myth is wrong! Maybe you are describing DC habesha men! Guys you see in the circle, in the hookah spots and clubs. And those are the minorities. They don't represent habesha men.

[@LilaTalks]

Thanks Miki. Are you saying Habesha guys that were born and raised back home who recently comes to this country don't gather with their friends often? I'm just curious which part you disagree with? I'm not saying all habesha men go out all the time, but whether it is the new or old generation of men (even married habesha men), they tend to hang out with their boys a lot more often compared to America guys.

[@Sophia-angel]

@@LilaTalks You don't think African American men hang out with their friends? Really? I know a lot who play basketball ball football together, bowling, clubbing, they like to spend lot of time with their friends. I know men from Ghana and Jamaica who do as well.Somalian men like to go cafes and talk politics with their friends.White guys like to go hunting etc, we can name all kind of examples, I think all kinds of men like to spend lot of time with their friends, Arabs too. It comes off more like the grass is greener and you have some skewed perception on American societal customs

[@LilaTalks]

​@@Sophia-angel I'm just curious, have you dated African American men? I am not saying that other men don't hang out with their friends and go out. BUT, there is definitely a big difference between how much and how frequently habesha men hang out with others compared to Americans. It is rooted by our culture to be communal. When American men enter relationship there is at least an acknowledgement of spending less time with the boys. I'm not saying Habesha men don't do the same, but generally speaking (which is generalizing) they do not scale back on their boy times like Americas. There is nothing skewed about it. This applies to various generations in the habesha community. Habesha men might say the same thing about habesha women (since it's a culture thing). I do not know, but there is my personal experience and observations. However, many people agree with me on this point. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate different opinions.

[@oromtitiwbo5078]

@@Sophia-angel i dont know sister i think it is the general culture back home. men and women back home were extremely social. like every day spending time with friends all day. people here will work, need time alone to rest, then maybe spend time with friends once a week here. but back home people socialize every day and from what i saw they think people who spend time alone are crazy 😹😹😹 dont be offended we are just sharing our experiences. much love to all

[@Sophia-angel]

@@LilaTalks I have never dated a african American men actually I think Latin men are gorgeous 😍, if I didn't date habesha I would love Mexican.

[@StudentLearning737]

the only revant part was the ending, 6:31

[@samsongetechew6992]

👍👍

[@Saint.Holy.Sinner]

Yo, what's up, ladies? I had to jump in and say that as a man, I feel you on some of those points about habesha men. But let me tell you, not all of us are like that. Some of us know how to treat a woman like the queen she is, and we don't judge her for her cultural background or her sexuality. To the host of this video, I just want to say that you are killing it with your content, and I appreciate you bringing up this topic. It's important to shed light on these issues and have these conversations. And to all the women out there, know that there are good men who will appreciate and respect you for who you are. Don't settle for anything less. Keep doing your thing, ladies, and stay confident in who you are. Peace out!

[@LilaTalks]

Many thanks. I appreciate you taking the time to post your comment. Ethiopian men are not bad. This video is a generalization of what some women can experience dating Habesha men in the USA. Like all people, there are good and bad guys, but culturally there are certain things that is not common in the Habesha culture like being very verbally expressive and regularly gathering with friends. Thanks

[@JOHNI6369]

I am habesha boy born and raise in Eritrea 🇪🇷now I am in the uk 🇬🇧 I accept your opinion about us but habesha girls who are born and raise in diaspora I find most of them they are kind of feel shame of their culture.

[@God-db9vp]

ኣተዓባብያ ኢዮም ተበዲሎም።

[@indigobeauty1]

This was so true 😅

[@LilaTalks]

Thanks for your comment! I'm glad to hear this resonates with other Ethiopian and Eritrean women.

[@Sophia-angel]

I really thought the part about spending too much time with his male friends is funny most women America are complaining their men have female friends and bla bla or that the guy has no hobbies no friends. I mean isn't that nice the habesha guys you know have a great support system? Lot of men are committing suicide because they are lonely and have nobody talk to. I guess this is men say there is no pleasing women 😕 although I hate that phras

[@LilaTalks]

I think every culture has their pros and cons of male stereotypes. Hands down habesha men spend more time with their friends than American men. Now, I also agree American men typically have more female friends than habesha men. What type of men are you referring to that are committing suicide? Unfortunately, suicide is on the rise across all culture because I believe people are feeling more societal pressures to "succeed" creating anxiety and depression.

[@Sophia-angel]

@@LilaTalks A lot of men do not have extensive interpersonal relationships like women tend to do and have difficulties expressing themselves. This feeling of isolation can cause some to suicide.

[@LilaTalks]

@@Sophia-angel Typically men are not taught to share their feelings or emotions causing them to deal with their problems internally instead of seeking help from others.

[@Tribabe23]

I really think it’s really wired men hanging to much with time with their men friends too.

[@Sophia-angel]

@@Tribabe23 it's all relative, there are women especially American who complain their man has no friends and relies on her soley for socialization... But I feel this is so disrespectful to say Habesha men hang with their friends more than other ethnicities groups...... but this could simply be the youtuber opinion and experiences..

[@nehemiahbyndom3716]

Most beautiful, where do that come frrom , God did it

[@Ivy-ez7qv]

2:10 2:10 iam a poratacian in Kenya I would like to marry Ethiopian lady aim 32 i agraduted university of Nairobi I used my sister phone

[@tantuzemeras8694]

You are soooo beautiful and lovely! Thank you for the tips, I believe you described us Habesha men well.

[@LilaTalks]

Thank you so much for your feedback! I just try to give my honest opinion. :)

[@ranwinle-roy9414]

Haters do look down on people who don't date people from the same background/ethnicity. I always experienced it.

[@LilaTalks]

Thanks for sharing your experience. It seems there's a good number of haters in the various dating video comments, lol. Thanks, Ranwin!

[@howtotieatie5845]

We don't care if you date anybody just don't blame us about your own problem. Don't tarnish our image.

[@tinateshale7447]

@@howtotieatie5845 it seems like you care so much 😂

[@negusofminjar8290]

​​​@@howtotieatie5845I know this overweight woman around my way, her biological clock is ticking, She thinks she is all that,. Thanks God we have more attractive Ethiopian woman than this average 40 something years old woman. We don't care about she's americanized or not. She is anchor baby 😂

[@stephanieschneider9633]

The guy i like is eritrean

[@Wedi_Shabiya]

where are you from ? What’s your Nationality? Don’t be Shy Eritrean 🇪🇷 men are very Romantic etc

[@yousifyoukhana2418]

🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹😍

[@natyfbg]

4:48 I personally do not think it's an archaic old way thinking. I think it is important for us to marry within our culture, I hope you can see that one day. Plus, there are all types of men within your culture and you can surely find one that fits you well. 5:02 Educated = indoctrinated.

[@LilaTalks]

I appreciate your thoughts and perspective. Thanks for sharing. I just embrace open-mindedness, which does not exclude dating and marrying within your community, but more so, encourages people to seek those that align with their interests and values regardless of their ethnic background.

[@howtotieatie5845]

Yes, These people who marry out of their community are just self haters, If you marry out side of community in next generation you will vanish with out a trace and your grand children will say my grandmother was Ethiopian and I don't who my grandfather was, missidentificaton for your next generation. If you choose it, you are entitled to it.

[@Abel-dw4ry]

Choosing to marry out doesn’t make you open minded. It means the benefits of marrying within your own ain’t important.

[@bman4267]

@@LilaTalks does a big dick align with your interests and values? Open mindedness is a term used when they want to touch taboo subjects.

[@kassahunretta8826]

Peace unto you all. I am looking faithful lady to God and to me. I love family life God's prestige plan. Would you like to introduce me please. Love last forever. ❤❤❤ kiss from CA USA.

[@coopzpak485]

Do you like white guys

[@LilaTalks]

I like all people. But as far as dating, I prefer people of color.

[@coopzpak485]

@@LilaTalks appreciate the honest, hopefully not all habesha women feel this way😭

[@childofgodjehovah3619]

She likes Getto boys who'll leave her crack addicted with 2, 3 bastard kids with HIV and many sexually transmitted diseases.

[@manny7662]

@@coopzpak485 my friend is dating a white dude. There's hope for you haha.

[@Jafar.Jamal-175]

This video is pointless habasha men who are American Habsha or not always look to marry habasha women in Ethiopia and not the diaspora habsha woman. The Habasha women in America are seen as promiscuous and not suitable for a life partner.