THE 5 WEIRDEST HABITS OF INFJs (that we usually keep secret)

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@Rubedo88 10 ай бұрын

Definitely suggest the bootcamp, life changing for me and the people around me as well. They got a side of me that could do so much more for them.

@MegaCyberleader 10 ай бұрын

if only my mental health program would pay her for it. Its a bit hard to get that sorta cash, and its cheap compared to the regular dcotors I have to talk to about a certain problem a problam I cant talk about. Its f'd up. With wenzes I can be open and honest and she helps me, doesnt judge me. And that is why Im still here.

@AnyaAnnika67 9 ай бұрын

The irony is it's not actually catering for cognitive INFJs as Wenzes from a Jungian perspective is a divergent NiFi ESFP & im saying this as an expert typologist & mental health prof. I'm not espousing that Wenzes isn't trying to help people but the fact there's no gatekeeping to ascertain whether someone is an INFJ (which people aren't on this site in fact they're NiTi blind) is astounding & concerning. I also find it curious that the only comment advocating the bootcamp is the comment Wenzes likes as she rarely comments or likes any comments - very suspect indeed. In terms of Jungian typology the goal is to individuate & integrate aspects of the psyche/neural pathways of other types no live an ESFP epic life. Im not meaning to be derogatory only objective; I can't abide pseudoscience. Wenzes appeals to ubiquitous behavioural stereotypes when it comes to the supposed INFJ which isn't predicated upon cognition at all. People really need to do their homework before espousing that they're an INFJ simply because they relate to the content, feel misunderstood or took numerous invalid dubious tests that said they're an INFJ. I'd check out Cognitive Personality Theory & Michael Pierce for type clarification. It makes you no less special being an ESFP. It's simply cognition there's no inherent value judgement. Sure go ahead if you get something out of it I just can't condone the lack of scientific robustness (in fact there's none at all) in ascertaining who is & who isn't an INFJ. INFJs are primarily abstract cerebral conceptualises owing to convergent NiTi. As a professionally typed convergent TiNi user it's pretty clear to me that Wenzes is TiNi blind in fact in terms of outside the box thinking, she's about as in the box as you can get - ESFPs are NiTi blind. The goal is to integrate those parts of our unconscious selves & better understand others. I'm glad it's helped those around you but Wenzes repeatedly tries to distinguish the ESFP & place them on a pedestal compared to other types; this is the antithesis of what Jung had in mind.

@Rubedo88 9 ай бұрын

@@AnyaAnnika67 curious have you ever done the bootcamp?

@AnyaAnnika67 9 ай бұрын

@@Rubedo88no why would I? As I said the scientific robustness is obsolete nevermind lacking. Plus if it's advertised as an INFJ epic life bootcamp then people are sorely misinformed. Wenzes is not a cognitive INFJ again as an expert typologist with credentials in the area she is a divergent NiFi ESFP - cognition isn't personal it's evidently apparent what cognitive processes were utilising when we communicate. I'm not saying she doesn't inadvertently help people and she probably does help people with similar personality traits but does she help cognitive INFJs?...that's a definitive no. Again I'd refer people to the likes of CPT, Michael Pierce etc who are INFJs for a conceptual overview of Jungian typology & where it can help with the process of individuation & better understanding between people. Wenzes may not do this in her bootcamp but in her videos she makes disparaging comments about other people besides her own niche not being able to read people, not thinking outside the box etc which is antithetical to the goals of Jungian individuation and the notion of the collective unconscious. Im simply espousing that people need to utilise their critical thinking skills before investing their money. As a confirmed TiNi conscious users it's evident that I'd do this as well as being a mental health prof. Fundamentally I find it to rest on ethically dubious grounds given the lack of gatekeeping & predicated on pseudoscience. Wenzes plays, probably unknowingly to ubiquitous behavioural stereotypes when it comes to qualifying one as an INFJ or not, this again is pseudoscience. I mean no offence to Wenzes again she probably is helping people but again this has naff all to do with being a cognitive INFJ and as a typologist I find the misinformation offensive & it does little to take typology out of the pseudoscience it's become thanks to such endeavours. Conversely, I have invested in a much more transport CPT service that has done much to expand my own neural pathways & understand others better. Wenzes in her videos has a certain grandiose contempt for other types besides the cognitive divergent ESFP which, yes, I do f offence this is not in the spirit of Jung. If she doesn't do this in the boot camp then she's contradicting herself. Fundamentally I dislike Wenzes ideology it has nothing to do with her being an ESFP (indeed my fiancé is one) or her as a person. CPT conversely encourages critical debate to expand the theory & we meet at no charge once a month to discuss this. Harry is the epitome of a cognitive INFJ who's trying to implement his Fe authority via his NiTi abstract cerebral conceptualisation. At the end of the day if someone is selling me something TiNi wants to know the science & logic behind it. If the bootcamp is anything akin to what Wenzes espouses in her videos - pseudoscience - then why would I pay for it? I'm assuming the Wenzes doesn't get into the NiTi nitty gritty re the theory behind her claims however if there is a philosophical theory I'd genuinely love to here it. I'm not being negativistic for the sake of it, again I have a very critical & detached TiNi & intend to use it. INFJs would have, like me of a similar cognition, a very critical mind of what they're likely to enter before throwing money at it. ...where's the longitudinal peer reviewed studies etc? Yes CPT has conducted research at a prestigious British university & has books conceptualising the theory...this is what INFJs do best. They are first & foremost abstract cerebral conceptualisers. That why I ask Wenzes, where's your theory instead of relying on Reddit & quora posts to back up your perceptions of INFJs of her own subjective experience? If it ain't scientifically verifiable similar to my INTJ cousins I ain't paying for it. The reason Wenzes has so many followers & why it resonates with so many people is because she's referring to personality traits that shouldn't be conflated with cognition (psychology 101). In contrast actual cognitive INFJs are a rare breed. Sure help people but don't advertise it as an INFJ epic life bootcamp (even the name smacks of SeTe) it's false advertisement.

@HeliNoir 10 ай бұрын

1:15 Habit # 1 We love to live through other people - Living vicariously 6:17 Habit # 2 We love to analyze other people's motives. 9:29 Habit # 3 We love to minimize effort 13:45 Habit #4 We love to dissociate from reality 16:49 Habit # 5 We appreciate aesthetics

@chrisrestifo7010 10 ай бұрын

In regard to #3. An " old timer" once told me, " always hire a lazy man. He will always find an easier way to get the job done "

@dgoossen3 10 ай бұрын

I enjoy organizing my bookshelf, my office, my garage, my backyard, etc. I find it relaxing.

@zibbielanham 10 ай бұрын

Awhile ago I realized there was nothing wrong with 'embracing' some ocd tendencies 😅-- as happens, I now enjoy similar anxiety relief! I could enhance and rearrange my environment forever.😊

@MegaCyberleader 10 ай бұрын

I enjoy trolling people who enjoy these things.

@misa3654 9 ай бұрын

I always feel bad that I have never had a lot of friends. I have 2 I keep in contact with. As a kid I ate alone in a school cafeteria full of kids. Being ok with it and feeling left out at the same time.

@Iowaborn14 10 ай бұрын

Am I the only INFJ that feels misunderstood and has a hard time being close to others or making friends?

@ashleylarsen5294 10 ай бұрын

Nope

@marydoogan2486 10 ай бұрын

Absolutely not. Our rarity makes us feel like we're the only ones.

@girl6girl6 10 ай бұрын

Nope, its kinda our MO.

@Ali08 10 ай бұрын

You are not alone.

@MegaCyberleader 10 ай бұрын

nope, I got no friends, wanna be my friend. Im an out right wierdo. But ill have your back

@nonosays 10 ай бұрын

This really resonated with me. I was born third of seven siblings, and analyzed them endlessly. I was very lonely even within that large family, and have continued to be lonely among others ever since. I grew to be able to channel my INFJ passion and insight into acting, studying the motivations of others and illustrating them for everybody. I'm 68 now and have become a sort of grand dame of the small stage. Obsessing over siblings, kids, husband, friends, people in the news is a dead end and very draining. Fortunately, God gives us some way to express our unique and valuable vision. Find it! ❤

@jessmason2112 10 ай бұрын

✌️😎

@BestBFam 10 ай бұрын

This makes so much sense. Thank you.

@marydoogan2486 10 ай бұрын

Yesss!!! 🎉

@MegaCyberleader 10 ай бұрын

yeah, try being first born. Thats a lot of pressure.

@SachaPerry-r5l 10 ай бұрын

@@MegaCyberleader Yes. Or only born.

@kristyboxx 9 ай бұрын

The one about minimizing efforts is precise. I have that in all aspects of my life but the most it always showes up at work environment. Sooner or later I always tend to find effective solutions to make my life at work easier so I do not have to work hard but rather smart. I love that about myself and currently am looking to find a way how to monetize this skill. Thanks Wenzes for another stunning vid.

@Candyliz2003 10 ай бұрын

My "dream state" is often my source of inspiration -- both as an artist and as a way to problem-solve.

@bumblebee_ms 10 ай бұрын

Me too.

@John-johnsINkWORKS 10 ай бұрын

She truly knows her stuff 😊... wonderful videos

@MegaCyberleader 10 ай бұрын

all she has to do is die and come back to life, or use a power to heal, or bring somebody back to lige and shed be a saint.

@MegaCyberleader 10 ай бұрын

I have a habit of watching your INFJ videos

@Arigato.318 9 ай бұрын

I'm a frrench woman, and i'am. So happy to discover this vidéo ! I'm not alone😢, thank you all, y're amazing , nnever forget! Des bises de Paris mes amis !

@SusanReadGuthrie 10 ай бұрын

Could never do what seemed inefficient or obviously not smart at any job.

@marydoogan2486 10 ай бұрын

Same here. I've been called both lazy and genius for way I do things. 🤷🏻‍♀️ They were just jealous. 😂

@sagebay2803 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for your videos. I always look forward to watching them. You have helped me so much in understanding myself and not feeling like such an outsider anymore. :)

@BestBFam 10 ай бұрын

This is going to sound mean but as an INFJ I was targeted in an online group by someone who thought she was INFJ but wasn't. She ended up doing the usual. Messaging me all the time. Using me as her counselor. So when I hear community of INFJs I worry how to not get targeted again. I think a real INFJ would understand the need for space in a connection.

@Abulina09 10 ай бұрын

Sorry you had that experience :( I worry about the same as well when trying to attract an INFJ community, thinking I will also attract the vultures in disguise :(

@chloeRavens 10 ай бұрын

Yes, absolutely. As INFJ, we cannot hurt others without hurting ourselves (or the case you bring here, abuse). I guess for everything you do online, there is a huge risk of a backlash (reason why I barely comment on anything online up until now but this resonated with me). The point is to get to a place where you no longer give a fuck and are able to put strong healthy boundaries. Difficult as fuck but I really like this channel because she explains it so well. PS : expressing your concern like you did is not mean, it’s just healthy expression ❤

@KingDomsKingdom85 10 ай бұрын

This is terrifyingly accurate. Its quite literally 100% accurate.

@BestBFam 10 ай бұрын

Another video that helps me to understand myself better. Thank you.

@grasshoppertown 10 ай бұрын

Freaking Yoda! Man, do I love hearing about myself in such perfect detail. Ha ha. You are unbelievable! I'm on the couch right now, drinking my bulletproof tea and living my life through you! Ha ha. So fun.

@Daviddaze 10 ай бұрын

You have a lot of info about infj

@eminak4351 10 ай бұрын

Most of it isn’t true. She tends to use her interpretations as facts. Careful.

@jessmason2112 10 ай бұрын

@@eminak4351 maybe you're not an INFJ........

@eminak4351 10 ай бұрын

@@jessmason2112 Maybe, maybe not. You’ll never know. 😅

@MegaCyberleader 10 ай бұрын

@@eminak4351 booo, I belive he truely does her homework and she has even helped soo many people one and one, people who wouldnt be here today if she hadnt.

@MegaCyberleader 10 ай бұрын

I thought that way at first, but then she took the time to help me.

@natureglimses 10 ай бұрын

Lounge Chair , Nature, arquitecture 🎉✨✨✨

@luisacordero4001 10 ай бұрын

I am so proud of you. I’ve been following you for close to ten years and your light is shining brighter by the year! Thank you 🙏

@bumblebee_ms 10 ай бұрын

Wow, I didn't even know she made videos that long. I love her content, wish I found her much sooner.

@yoland9509 10 ай бұрын

So so helpful

@leeparkin5503 10 ай бұрын

I observe and analyse the behaviour of other people but I do not live vicariously and am in no danger of getting stuck in their worlds. This should not be confused with people pleasing to try to fit in imo

@eminak4351 10 ай бұрын

She uses a lot of gaslighting. I analyze her for fun and it’s often very funny how absurd she sounds. 😅

@BestBFam 10 ай бұрын

The point is that you are focusing on then instead of your own desires.

@eminak4351 10 ай бұрын

@@BestBFam You deleted your last comment but I am going to answer to that, because maybe you’ll get the point. Again, you’re exaggerating 😅 Calm down. I commented on this Video, only letting people know that she’s not a serious source and I certainly did not „comment angry stuff all over her videos“. Maybe you’re a little bit too fixated on her and take criticism/correction way too personal. But as it proofs my point, thank you for your opinion. (Even though you chose to take it back)

@BestBFam 10 ай бұрын

@@eminak4351No it is because as an INFJ I don't like injustice and I feel like you are trolling her for reasons that you are not stating. I deleted my last comment because I didn't want to be mean to you but your comments are just vague attacks and her videos are well thought out and researched.

@eminak4351 10 ай бұрын

@@BestBFam Well, we have different points of view and that’s okay.

@jessmason2112 10 ай бұрын

On a secondary note My heart has to be in it. That passion part has to be present. 13:39

@commoncitizen03 10 ай бұрын

Well said Wenzes 🎉

@Ancientlife12 9 ай бұрын

Thanks

@jazzychazzy007 10 ай бұрын

Yes, all 5 - very true!

@bumblebee_ms 10 ай бұрын

I agree with all of them. Thanks Wenzes, you rock!

@alexinfinite7142 10 ай бұрын

I disassociate a little too much sometimes 😅 my mother found out i am an INFJ and has been really supportive on the action taking part that i slipped up on. Love your channel wenz!

@Wenzes 10 ай бұрын

What are some of your habits as an INFJ that might seem odd to others?

@jessmason2112 10 ай бұрын

Reading and comprehension of topics in days rather than years.

@BestBFam 10 ай бұрын

Being honest and brave about the things I love instead of trying to look cool.

@MegaCyberleader 10 ай бұрын

Music and Art, Any things that allows me to create, I like to do art in such a way to represent what a 5 diminsion would look like in 3d or how a human mind would function while you are inside it in 3d. These things have upset others because they said it hurt thier brain. I also like to judge the outter beauty of others and then compare it to thier inner beauty. People hate that.

@jessmason2112 10 ай бұрын

@@MegaCyberleader I love creative Writing's. I write sometimes. You would like Alex Grey art.

@bumblebee_ms 10 ай бұрын

Everything I do.

@ninilustig 10 ай бұрын

I…be silent for A..Long time..about the world,…….❤

@DeborahMalki 9 ай бұрын

Amazing how much this resonates. Thank you for this channel.

@FanTasteRPG 10 ай бұрын

Very useful video thank you.

@rahmatreviyandi4465 10 ай бұрын

Where will be the bootcamp taking place?

@Wenzes 10 ай бұрын

You can find all the infos in the description. It‘s a six week course with weekly livestreams

@edwardstrain4470 10 ай бұрын

How often share your videos on my Facebook for some odd reason when I share this video Facebook is telling me that it cannot be posted because it goes against their Community standards?

@Wenzes 10 ай бұрын

I need to fix that edward, I think it's because of my links. I am using some bit.ly/ links to shorten my real links but it always leads to problems. I'll fix it with the next long form video !

@juliusmuhumuza3018 10 ай бұрын

MOODSWINGS

@Sveltdre 10 ай бұрын

Perhaps I'm not INFJ, for I do NOT like to, definitely not "love" to live through other people. Not at all.

@Iowaborn14 10 ай бұрын

I do this with my kids

@eminak4351 10 ай бұрын

Don’t get confused by her. She states her own interpretation and experience as facts. I think she tries hard to analyze INFJs but isn’t one, too many red flags and mistakes. There are way better channels which describe that topic in a professional manner. She’s more like keeping up with the Ks..

@BestBFam 10 ай бұрын

@eminak4351 I completely disagree with everything you have said. There are so many nonsense INFJ (magical unicorn type) videos on KZbin. This channel is intelligent and has helped me to grow so much.

@BestBFam 10 ай бұрын

You may be doing it and not realize it.

@eminak4351 10 ай бұрын

@@BestBFam I don’t know which channels you mean, but she’s the most off topic I know. And „you may doing it and not realize it“ sounds like gaslighting. Typical Wenzes vibe. It’s obvious that she’s only talking about interpretations and making a lot of it up. But I respect your opinion.