The beauty of raising an autistic child | Sally Deitch | TEDxElPaso

A talk that touches on the surprises parents uncover when discovering their child is autistic.
Sally A. Hurt-Deitch, RN, FACHE, is the Market Chief Executive Officer of Sierra Providence Health Network (SPHN) in El Paso, Texas. In this capacity, Sally serves as the CEO of Providence Memorial Hospital and Providence Children’s Hospital. Sally was recently promoted to this position in March 2015, after serving as SPHN Market COO and CEO of Sierra Providence East Medical Center. In her role as Market CEO, Sally oversees the strategic, operational and clinical activities for the health network as well as the integration activities of three hospitals and the current construction of a fourth.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@noleenpillay6341]

To be honest as a parent of an autistic child this video is more about how liam can memorize lists and planets etc - it doesn't really talk about the BEAUTY of autism. In that your child will teach you what is most important in life, they will show you what is pure innocent love - real love with no conditions or expectations, your child will teach you how to value the simple things such as a walk in nature, they beauty of flowers etc. Your child will challenge and push you to go further in your career or maturity than you ever would have without them, your child will teach you to have a thicker skin and not care what other people think, your child will get you to re-think and challenge the society that we live in and redefine the rules, your autistic child is a GIFT

[@DetroitLionsStuff]

Thank you.

[@IggyonFiyah]

This comment was so beautiful it brought me to tears. Thank you ❤

[@adrialee8149]

Kinda agree..id talk about how incredible my angel boy is so cuddly sweet and bright how much joy he hrings to our lives

[@mommyandme7454]

Thank you

[@Chosen82001]

Beautifully said...

[@illiengalene2285]

I am a female and have ADHD and Autism spectrum disorder. I don't look autistic or act hyperactiv. I studied art and design, now I am a freelance illustrator and artist. I have a partner and live in my own apartment.

[@yessitsbritt1440]

My daughter turned 8 n may ..shes non verbal..one day i hope she speaks and can live a happy. Fulfilling life like yours ...god bless u

[@hersheek.2841]

@@yessitsbritt1440 try teaching by her hyperfixations! Some people come out their psychosis bc they finally get to live out their dreams. Or also AAC

[@Kariberri208]

My daughter is 4 and autistic, these type of stories really make me happy. Sounds like you are living a great life.

[@rawbabymama]

@@hersheek.2841 Autism =|= psychosis!

[@cautionhumanbeing749]

@@yessitsbritt1440 it's possible for none verbal people to start talking or at least become selectively verbal. Just be supportive and honour her interests. Speak directly and mean what you say. No hints or ambiguities. It makes a difference.

[@amandajay666]

Ha my name is Liam and I was diagnosed with autism at 18 months old, I love your story, it is amazing the differences in kids across the spectrum. I love music and I am amazing at singing, and drumming, but I am bad at making eye contact with people I am talking to. This year I stood in front of my 7th grade class and told them my experience with autism.

[@butternutsquash1]

I love this comment! I love music except instead of playing drums I play guitar and I can't directly look and socialise with people, but that's why I'm so thankful I have books and my guitar ❤️

[@rakeshmd86]

Hello Lje. Nice to hear that you doing great in the things of your interests. could u share a little about the experience of picking up speech and language as you grew up?

[@rakeshmd86]

I am very desperate to know about the possibilities of kids who are not Aspergers or ADHD. My daughter is diagnosed as in mild ASD. She is 2.5 years old now.

[@hannahscott6604]

Those kids now will always pity you and look down to you and you won’t ever be treated as on their level

[@IcexQueen19]

Diagnosed at 18 months old? Now THAT is sad. Too much over-diagnoses these days

[@alatreon7451]

I thank everybody in the comment section for the compliments

[@teachermichelle9632]

I remember when I realised my son was on the spectrum. I had suspected and been in denial from when he was just a few months old. I am a teacher and new enough to be afraid. Hearing his diagnosis was both a relief and also heart breaking. It felt like a death in the family. As I have educated myself, I have realised what a brilliant mind he really is. What a generous spirit he has. I see so much more potential in children on the spectrum now than I do in neurotypical children.

[@kalyasaify]

this comment was a rollercoaster for an autistic being 🤕 the beginning was kinda rough and way too long for being so negative. it took much away from the compliment afterwards tbh. but still thank you ♡

[@ithacacomments4811]

I didn't realize that my daughter was autistic until her 44th birthday......and then everything about her life before that birthday made sense. I didn't realize that I am autistic until my 68th birthday....(same year).....then everything about my life before that birthday made sense.

[@clairerobertson4442]

That was lovely what the brother said "that's why God gave him 4 brothers" well done that young man x

[@fuckemweball007]

Your story touched my soul and gave me so much hope! Thank you for sharing this with the world

[@christysims9118]

This is so my child. I'm going through this nightmare with my six year old right now. He's in kindergarten. He has had 2 lunch detentions and 1 in school suspension within the first 60 days of school. I have been to the principal's office at least 7 times, exchanged multiple emails, calls, texts etc. We are undergoing testing currently and he has been diagnosed with adhd at this point. The whole process is so slow. It is so nice to hear this. I've been talking to his pediatrician since he was 2 and no one would listen until we went to school and it became clear to other people exactly what I had been screaming for the last four years. Thanks for sharing.

[@angonsframes]

maybe i can help u

[@courtneycross8593]

My 6 year old just got suspended the guidance counsel or told me to look up Aspergers and boom there it is

[@missnazstylee]

mother’s instinct always knows best...you know your child best❤️👍

[@GilAguilar]

That is really interesting about not wishing to be born. When I was young I used to think this to myself but didn’t know why. I’m now 46 have two boys that are autistic and I myself was diagnosed at 45. It’s really great to find answers and always know we are not alone. Thanks for sharing ☕️

[@poiboi64]

Your son is one of the lucky ones. He had people in his life who paid attention. I'm turning 40 next month and have quietly suffered from anxiety and depression though out my whole life and had to figure out that I have ADHD and fall under the spectrum of autism. I'm struggling to find reasons not to give up but it's only getting harder with every day that passes. I just want to finally have peace

[@daveebenhoh4446]

T Wallace, You are not alone in this world. It may feel lonely and dark at times, amidst the anxiety and depression, but know that we are truly connected. We carry each other’s struggles together.

[@WanderingCanuck94]

Never give up brother

[@WanderingCanuck94]

@twallace never give up brother

[@deepikavadaga]

I'm too struggling the same way Wallace and feel rejected and been used all the time. Having lots of depression and at the same time still struggling to communicate and tell that Im not doing anything intentional 😭

[@jackiekelly845]

Know that you are loved by many people around you. Please love yourself. It is okay to be you!

[@Boogernaught]

Haha I love the bit about auditory processing. My son is the same He is a teen now. I always forget to tell him to TURN ON the clothes dryer after he puts wet clothes in it. He always argues that he can't be expected to know we wanted it turned on when we didn't say so.

[@eraswan6941]

@z man you are horrible!

[@blancaestrada2771]

GREETINGS FROM CALIFORNIA, Miss Nomer, I am a MOM from San Francisco I wanted to tell you that your analogy of asking your son to put the clothes in the dryer made a light turn on how my teen will do something like that to....it makes so much sence.....thank you for sharing that experience.......Blanca

[@alatreon7451]

You know us aspies. We take things too literally always.

[@nancybaker2935]

No not my Autistic child low

[@leeleee793]

Thank you thank you thank you to allthe persons in the comments sections you have given me the strength on this day to not cry about my 2 year old son being autistic i am still educating my self so i can help me but sometimes the doubts sneak in my mind and its so overwhelming

[@wenabantilan5746]

We're the right now🥺 im always cry thinking about his future of i love my child very much

[@agelualofa]

It is such a blessing to watch this video. My goodness... You are so lucky that there is help support and love for the special children. I for one find this very very hard because I am a solo father of 4 children and 2 of them are autistic. Unfortunately, the mother of my children left our family for another man who can supply her with plenty of money. She left our family I think she is ashamed of the fact that 2 of our beautiful angels are autistic. I can only wish there was support or a special system for special children like my poor autistic boys. Is there a group of parents that I can reach out to for teachings and support in raising my autistic boys? watching this video brings tears to my eyes as a solo father caring for my children. I never thought I would ever speak in such a way of heartbreak.

[@MultiOlelukoe]

He is blessed having full family, and sibling. My son has nobody except me 😞

[@onlineeducationnepal7842]

😐 where are you from?

[@Amina-nn5mi]

You are enough. He just need you. You have each other 💕

[@CalmintheChaosHomeschool]

You are describing my son :) I am loving all the Ted talks addressing autism. Really learning more about how to help my child be more “himself” in this world.

[@pchyknrt]

I wanted to say thank you for sharing your story. I also want to say there are no "Bad mom moments" when raising an autistic child. I learned this raising mine. They are learning moments. Not only for mom but for the family and those directly surrounding the child. It is a hard thing to do to raise a child with autism but I think a lot of us are doing a really good job. And with more people like you sharing a lot more families can raise great autistic children to be great autistic adults.

[@sixtyfiveroses2968]

You seem like an amazing Mom, much love for you & your family.

[@denise2304]

Loving all of your children for who they are. Wonderful attitude in a challenging world. Thank you!

[@truthhurts3524]

Touchstone…I teared up at that. I’m known as my sons “person” as we called it. I’m going to start using Touchstone. ♥️

[@dakotahstr]

My grandson is 5 years old and still doesn't communicate . He's still not potty trained. The therapist says he knows how to talk he just chooses not to. How can I help him. ? He's smart has the sweetest disposition,and can let us know what he wants by grabbing our hands and points.

[@shirleyvz11]

My son is currently fascinated with days, calendar, seasons and the weather right now. Lots of questions.

[@sallyhurtdeitch6165]

Thank you for watching and letting me honor my son.

[@lilmisspeace]

My 5yo ASD son asks about science stuff all the time; "how do shadows work?" was my favourite :) we used flashlights, pavement, chalk, streetlights, the sun, and looked at different aspects of light and shadows! We moved on to solar power and built a mini solar powered house and a solar dog shaped robot (its tail spun in circles and he found it hilarious). I just bought him a science kit to make his own battery powered bubble-blower. A child who wants to learn is a wonderful thing ❤

[@AwesomeConsoles]

haha! hopefully that means he'll never miss an appointment

[@l.morningstarr1870]

I feel such a sense of relief. This is my son 100%. This changes everything.

[@annaf3915]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I just wanted to add that until 15:30, everything you relate could also apply to a child with ADHD and most importantly an above average IQ. The big difference is the social aspect. I have two foster sons who came to live with me at 24 and 17 months of age respectively. One of them is a sensory seeker and the other one a sensory avoider. They also have very specialized interests, for the older one it's been high speed trains since he was 2 and a half and the little one is currently obsessed with clocks. They memorize tons of stuff about these subjects even though the older one has an average IQ and the little one most likely a below average IQ. They both have regular developmental assessments and have been tested for autism many times. But, even though the little one used to stim until recently and still loves to watch spinning wheels, even though the older one still hasn't watched a full movie because he gets overwhelmed and scared with the noise and lights, they still haven't got an autism diagnosis because they interact really well with other children as well as adults. They are both excellent at reading emotions (maybe because they had to learn it when they were just babies) and have the social skills I wish I had when I was a child. I wouldn't mind at all if they get an autism diagnosis later along the way, I just wanted to point out that sensory issues can exist separately and for lots of differents reasons.

[@TheShaylashay]

Beautiful.... I'm still on the mourning stage.. and I do have 3 older children... so when she said that her oldest son told her, he was blessed with older brothers for a reason... that made me cry.... i never thought of it that way... But I can't get my son out of video games... that's what holds his attention..

[@Jennifer-qm6px]

I get what u mean about mourning im still stuck crying mostly terrified for what he might struggle with or what he won't do

[@tornadokingliam1032]

Thank you for this video. My son Liam is 7 and has been diagnosed with ASD. I needed this today. Thank you.

[@angonsframes]

maybe i can help u ..

[@ethangroom4527]

My 4 years old Diagnosis with ASD and he had big obsession with number since 1.5 then ABCs then shapes. He is extremely intelligent

[@carlagnecchiruscone9501]

A special person is just special! Bravo Liam enjoy your life!

[@angonsframes]

yes u are right

[@doloreshernandez2322]

Your words touched my heard very deep! I been swimming for 6 months so far with my son and its not easy.. your are a great mother.

[@litachl1272]

God bless you thank you

[@wendyw.5284]

💖💖💖💖💖💖 thank you for this. It's a world we live in too.

[@laurenpaterson3475]

Stimming is way of coping sensory process disorder that can be helped with advice from occupational therapy

[@AwesomeConsoles]

I give my son a deep tissue massage every night, do yoga, skateboard everyday and it seems like he stims less. I don’t every to tell him to stop, I use it as a signal his circuits are over loading either with tension or excitement

[@gillowens24]

He's very smart

[@jewelslove2200]

Thank you for sharing your beautiful family stories. I hope you are all well and wish Liam and all your other kids love and succes

[@katiesteele6181]

My 9 year old daughter was just diagnosed with Aspergers. Thank you for sharing!

[@onlineeducationnepal7842]

What is the diagnosis?

[@heryzo-prdk]

Raising an autistic side is indeed beautiful... and they bring you to see/consider things differently. Would love to know more about resources helping parents raising autistic kids/teenager

[@mariapitts6552]

Thank you for sharing, this sounds like my Benjamin, he’s 8 years old and is under the spectrum has been diagnosed with severe ADHD , we have tried everything and your experience has helped me understand my son and also answered so many of my questions.

[@n00bszpro]

how is Benjamin now?

[@lilmisspeace]

Thank you SO much for your open honesty! My 5yo was just diagnosed ASD last week and during the process I became painfully aware of many things he does that are because of autism that I just thought were "quirky" and a bit odd - but, really, so what? I thought I had spotted it all, but looking back on old videos I'm seeing little easy-to-miss things still! And then listening to your talk, you mentioned things that were like little lightbulbs for me; there are more things still!! Your family is truly inspirational to me. My dd blames her brothers behaviour for anything she does wrong, she verbally attacks him and is sometimes even quite cruel in things she says. It is the most heartbreaking thing to deal with. I love both of them but I find myself getting protective of him against her and that creates a deeper rift in the relationship between my dd and myself and the one she and her brother barely have. He is so loving towards her; tonight he wanted his sister to sleep with him because we'd made his bed into a "tent" and had star-lights on the ceiling; he offers things of his to her; he wants to hug her goodbye when she goes to school and always tells her "have a good day at school, I love you". But she rejects it all; she refuses to hug him, telling him to "get off me - I don't want you to touch me"; she won't allow him in her room but walks into his, touches his toys but screams at him if he touches hers; pushes him if he comes near her. I don't know how to fix this incredible brokeness in my family unit.... She is very negative toward both of us, but also focuses on the negatives in life in general, and blames everyone else for everything she doesn't like - however, my son and I seem to cop the brunt of it all. If anyone is still reading and has any ideas, please help!!

[@lilmisspeace]

My son also used to hit himself and say negative things and tell me I should kill him; it was the worst part of this whole journey with him outside of how his sister treats him now.

[@blancaestrada2771]

Dear Lilmisspeace,,,,I wanted to say my son has ASD and is a only child so he never had to share with a sibling....but I always taught him to take turns , and to respect other persons property and other kids toys........I had my son at 47 years old quite old by standard....I always told him from the very beginning of his life that I was the commander of the USS Enterprise and he was on my ship and my deck.....and that he was a officer of my ship....and that have rules and traditions that we go by...and that everyone has different roles to play...and that we must protect one another.... and we are a team.....each having special qualitys like the Avengers or the family from Disney that have super powers....I forgot their names the family that wears the red suits oh yeah the incridibles... Well you have to harness her self center narcissism before it gets way out of control.....Delegate simple chores and tasks to reward when done....I feel that when children don't like to hug by their own mom or a sibblings is not good.... You can enlist group hugs with all three of you....but she must feel that you are going to let her become a narcissist or anti social person that persons will be afraid of......she has to play and abide by your style as a family unit and to show how lucky she is to have a sibling....and if something were to happen to you....she would be charge helping her sibling.....sometimes you have to get over dramatic......well I hope these tips may help you and the kids.....a single mom from San Francisco....... .

[@ASMRtists]

Dear Miss Peace, I'm so sorry this happened to your family. I don't think I can help, though I'll share something in a bit that I hope will. And I hope you've found a solution by now. In any case, your story made me cry. It means a lot to me, thank you for sharing. Maybe you want to tell your daughter someone told you this: I used to write at the top of my wishlist for birthdays and holidays that I so wanted a big brother. It would have been the best. I felt lonely very often and wished I had someone to play with. Maybe even someone who would protect me. It helps me to think of things I feel grateful for. Maybe your brother can become one of them as he loves you very much. I wish you the best and I'm happy for you that you have a brother.

[@jackiekelly845]

Set the boundaries very clearly. If she does not want him in her room or to touch her things, she should not be allowed the same. Respecting others, their space and things is a life long rule that applies in every aspect of life- home, work, & everywhere in public!

[@CajunA79]

Sounds like she has a mood disorder. Bring her to a mental health doctor. She could be getting teased at school and taking out her negative emotions on brother. Talk to her.

[@fahmlsaechao]

Thank you for sharing your story. I have a child diagnosed with autism at the age of 3 years old. They are very special child.

[@user-df3op4jz1f]

This teared me up

[@priscillawagner8520]

Thank you for opening my eyes! 🌼♥️

[@courtneycross8593]

My child is not diagnosed yet, I just wanted to say we took my 5 year old to the observatory to see the stars he did shut up the whole time talking to the people running it about all the stars planets asteroid belts, he blew my mind and theirs I was like “is he right??” And they said yes spot on

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

I remember so much so much Information ℹ️

[@melaniecycles4653]

I so miss my touchstone, but because of her strength and belief I am still surviving... though maybe not as well as I would have... 8 years after her loss. SO never doubt the difference you make to his future, and thank you for being liams mum, akd thank you to all the strong mums that allow and enable their autistic children to ne themselves and the very best they can be.

[@AarohiAja]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@angeltorres7783]

Thank you for sharing this video! It was amazing to listen to your story.

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

Social bonding is hard but when u Try it every day it becomes a normal thing to your pattern

[@cindyd003]

What a wonderful example of unconditional love!

[@dustyscribe8397]

Before about two weeks ago it had never occurred to me that people don't know some of the things I know. I always assumed that everyone knows what I know; that my knowledge was the minimum of knowledge people have. I haven't been diagnosed with Asperger's but I think I am on the spectrum

[@GoddezsIesha]

My 3yr old was diagnosed last year. This helps a lot. Thanks

[@GoddezsIesha]

But my 3yr old hasn't started talking yet

[@shadow4you]

My son was recently diagnosed. Has a brilliant mind to build WITHOUT a manual and loves books; love it so much that he would want 3 bedtime stories every night. His only disadvantages are he can't speak full sentences and he needs a pencil grip to guide his writing. He say simple phrases here and there or point at something. He had a lot to say but he just has trouble putting certain words together

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

I only isolate myself when i Under so much stress trying to cool down everything

[@Bukhel78]

This is a big help for me, i have a 5yr old with autism level 3.

[@jrodayeoh]

I was touched by your story. I went through the same things when my son was diagnosed with ASD 15 months ago. And I felt like you were describing my son in some of the things you said about Liam. What got to me was when you mentioned how children with ASD process words. I understood that from the way my son follow instructions so I'd speak to him slowly and give him 1 request at a time. He's 5 now and he has speech delay. He's improved a lot thanks to his speech pathologist and we're working on his behavioral issues with his psychometrician. Thanks for reminding me to slow down my speech, I'll keep that in mind.

[@hypennik3960]

Thanks for the video, It's truly the greatest challenge to raise Tachanka mains.

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

Some part I love like remembering So much and just be happy with my disorder

[@dmartz02]

❤❤❤❤😭 " thats why God gave him 4 brothers"

[@danielleberardino792]

My son was diagnosed with level 3 yesterday and I needed this...it gives me hope 💕

[@victoriareich5713]

She just spoke about her son particularly. With all my respect and empathy, I heard nothing about the beauty of autism in general. All was about how brilliant Liam is, which is ok, if you are speaking with your relatives, besties or mom's club.

[@AarohiAja]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@ashleighmacmullin9257]

Beautiful ❤

[@gillowens24]

I know I Learning difficult way still I understand some things something goes over my head

[@shadowfire1678]

Thanks

[@burnyizland]

OMG thank you for another piece of my puzzle! I've always said I have no problem with my hearing, I hear perfectly well, but there seems to be a disconnect between my ears and my brain that interferes with my ability to translate that sound into something meaningful. This disconnect is at it's worst when I'm on the phone with someone because I can't see their mouth moving. I NEVER suspected it was a reduction in processing speed. I have a high I.Q. so I thought it was impossible that I could have a learning disability. I also sing without knowing the content of the words - there are songs I've performed for years and never taken the time to examine the words for their meaning. I bet that's due to this processing difference too.

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@MultiOlelukoe]

So much about my child too

[@mayan9718]

👏👏👏 beautiful!

[@suesmith4360]

For all the positivity that people manage to raise about autism, if there was a choice we would give anything for our autistic child and ourselves just to be normal

[@sitinabilahothman3522]

Exactly. It seems like parents who are alright or even grateful , thinking that it’s gift, are parents whose children are highly functioning. Parents of low-functioning ASD children see this neuro developmental condition as nothing but a curse. A life-long curse.

[@bryanenderle2333]

Wow, your video was unbelievable and spot on... Thank you.

[@anthonylocke2889]

I always thought my daughter would snap out of it...she is 13 now and I only realized two days ago that she will never snap out of it. She will only work menial jobs and probably will never be with a man. I wish the world wasn't so harsh on her.

[@1974priyan]

Why menial jobs? Why not scientist, engineer, doctor or some other type of specialist?

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

After the mind cool down I still don’t get fear or be scare of nothing That is the same like me flesh and blood

[@myself9084]

Let Gods angels soar! 🕊🦋🦇🦅🦢😇

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

Every autism person is different And people should know that Every special disorder is different None is above someone Or beneath it

[@jonaskoelker]

At 4:00 there's a picture with a family in the center foreground. I see the kid with the glasses look towards the people he has a sense of attachment to. All the other people of course go together and look somewhere between content and happy, and one understands that they're a family, but the kid with glasses is the one person whose soul is really visible on that picture. Why do we take pictures without making ourselves visible?

[@stefansauvageonwhat-a-twis1369]

I think I began with animal biology the same as him with space lol then got to lego, physics, quantum physics, minecraft...

[@rabiamalik4441]

Wow just listened to this. What a smart and intelligent boy. Ur talk was spot on. Iv just started my journey with my daughter. Theres been lots of tears because i fear for how the world may treat her when im not around 😔

[@noleenpillay6341]

This is the fear of every single parent of autistic children - what will happen to my child when I die. It is especially difficult for parents of non-verbal autistic children

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@hevoskuiskaaja2008]

In our case my son who is 7 years old is fixated on washing machines, planes and the english language. My other son is 12 and is the most compassionate person I know.

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@rockevan]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@stuart959]

This presentation seemed disjointed and more about soothing the mind / soul of parents that feel defeated due to having a ND child. Which is a real need. However, what was shared is so far outside of what most ND people grow up with that it is in fantasy land. Multiple ND or ND peripheral siblings. A parent that has the fiscal ability and clout to get support and diagnostic services. Truely, I felt distressed at how much she focused of her grief of what her child doesn't do, didn't want to do, or will likely never do. Those feelings are real, but she has no idea what it is like to live in a world not made for you. Where everything to 1/2 again to twenty times as hard as it is for everyone else. All the while knowing you are limited and will never achieve certain things. She doesn't focus on the grief he feels. To anyone reading this I can assure you life as an autistic person can be incredibly sorrowful. I also was angered by her saying she was having an autistic moment. No, you were having a hard moment and were overwhelmed. That is not the same as a mind structured in a way not nominally compatible with society. You know better than to say that and it is exceptionally insulting.

[@clairerobertson4442]

I was a late mum, 41, she didn't sleep all night around same time as getting her 2 MMR jab, she didn't sleep all through the night until about 3 and half - 4 yrs, she had to be ushered to sleep rocking like a baby, singing nursery rhymes , she also watched Chipmunks only repeatedly and daily for 4weeks, she has no patience, she loves animals, likes to play as a cat and crawl, dress up as a cat, keep buying animal families, can only play with one other girl, won't be told, didn't seem to understand or learn what told, the nurture group teacher phoned to say I think she may be on the spectrum for Aspergers, I was like yes that's fine I know , she was being assessed and they referred her, layla liked hitting or nipping or pulling hair. Had to be sedated at a visit in hospital, doesn't want touched, doesn't like sound of the tap running, hates hair brush time screams , hates photos gets angry, there's loads.

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@m.paskanik900]

There's one song by Celtic Women that I watch over and over again too, this video felt like a call out post

[@clairerobertson4442]

My daughter l8nes everything up, and loves colouring in and drawing the same things Cats, and usually multicoloured

[@mimusicaliz]

Thank you! My son was just diagnosed and I cured just listening to your video and it was on point with everything him and I had gone through. Wow!!! But glad at least I know I’m. It crazy and that my son is not a bad , lazy kid as his teachers may make him out to be 😢

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@Kathrynlove]

I had my son at 38 and he has Autism because I think I was older and I had toxic heavy metals in my body but idk.

[@MariMartinez-nv6dk]

❤️❤️

[@allasoiko6999]

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[@allisonsnow9718]

This was a good talk, and she clearly cares for her children. I wish she would tell more "real" stories about raising a person who has autism (PWA), and not just try to entertain us. She mentioned towards the end about his meltdowns. There isn't a parent alive whose child hasn't had a meltdown. Pair that with a special needs child who has a communication disorder (i.e. autism), and you have a collosal meltdown of epic proportions. It would've been helpful to know what this intelligent woman did to help her CWA stop having meltdowns. I have two boys who are also PWA and I adore them, but don't let this rose colored presentation make you believe autism is funny, brilliant, interesting, engagingly, etc. Every PWA has their own difficult stuff and the own easy stuff. One thing it is not is "easy".

[@CM-uw3kr]

Allison Snow we don’t all have explosive meltdowns.

[@allisonsnow9718]

@@CM-uw3kr that's great! Unfortunately, many people who have autism **do** and it would be helpful to share strategies for deescalation a meltdown.

[@noleenpillay6341]

There is a difference between a meltdown and a tantrum - neuro-typical kids have tantrums - autistic kids have meltdowns. A meltdown happens when the child is overstimulated, sensory overload - anxiety or stress is too high the body almost goes into a "shut down" mode - Please understand when the autistic child goes into a meltdown they are no longer in control of theor bodies - it is scary for them and they cannot just snap out - it needs to go thorugh the full process - a neurotypical child having a tantrum will stop once they get what they want. When your autistic child is having a meltdown - here are some tips that work for my child, Dim the lights - remove or stop things that may add to the over stimulation - switch off TV or Music, keep the environment calm and silent - don't have multiple people talking - just one person that the child can focus on - remove furniture that can hurt them - try and lie on the floor - weighted blankets and pressure helps relieve the stress and calms - Be gentle with your voice and be soothing - DONT ever yell and shout - it's not the childs fault - remember when the meltdown has ended the child is disappointed scared and embarrassed - tell them how much you love them and show them support.

[@clairerobertson4442]

My daughter only wants her mum and dad and , she has social awkwardness, my daughter says alot nobody likes me, when it's so untrue. It's hard to as a parent, listen to how difficult they experience life.

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@gillowens24]

I found it hard to tie my shoes as a children I know 22 years I can tie my shoes I have Dyspraxia

[@gadgymcdaddy4784]

I can’t tie my socks

[@christinajones2639]

I have a 14 year old with autism.i have lost communication with him😰😰im so afraid for him..im. Not able to get him to do anything. I suffer from ADHD myself& so does his father..i need help

[@inspirationalsongsbyfranci8871]

My 12 yo hfa son who is just kicked out of school because of aggression to a classmate who keeps on bullying him, is exactly that same as Liam.

[@inspirationalsongsbyfranci8871]

He has an IQ of 141, stops talking at 18 mos and finally starts talking again at 4 yo. He master's the math state test but writing is his waterloo.

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@dmana3172]

I have autism and mild intellectual disability and I have to tell you I'm proud and so happy I was born that way. Because I don't want to be like other people in a real world. I want to live a fantasy life, have the Government take care of me so I don't have to work because it's boring, and I would be able to enjoy life more. Is it that wonderful??🙂

[@kalyasaify]

being autistic I have to tell you, umm... the ending was weird af. social skills..?🥹

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@paranoiahax]

I’ve heard terrible things about ABA, hoping Liam does not have any trauma from the therapists attempting to discourage his autistic tendencies.

[@courtneycross8593]

Half way through vid now and my son year old has completely changed with this whole covid thing his routine went out the window and he knows too much for his own good

[@keepgoodcompany1279]

This is our story with our daughter almost to a T. Do you know how weird it is to check out books and videos on bacteria for a five year old? And yes, people say to us ALL THE TIME that she looks normal.

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@AarohiAja]

Your herbs has work wonders in my family. Thanks for the help Dr Oyalo for saving my son from autism spectrum with your herbs. Your herbs is the best.

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

I working on work I see the fake people I mean people who playing like there customers because I study people behavior so much that I just see them easy now

[@bernadette2722]

I tried to listen to this Ted talk on my tv but I found it hard to understand the speaker, as she sounded like she was mumbling sorry ☹️

[@michaelwarner5277]

If anyone reading this deals in software development, the brain is similar to how a cpu works. For non-autistic individuals, the language being utilized is going to be one that is interpreted. For people such as the speaker's son, the language being utilized is one that is compiled.

[@lindajakub624]

You are so luckey for three diagnosis at hour's young age

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

U can laugh about it but it’s ok I use too do that

[@vuurkoning]

This is Very interesting to see if they are right cus i can know when they lie cus i am 13 years old , i have autism but nobody will know unless if the look closely to my behaviour or if i tell them

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

Before I use to drink a lot of pain killers now I do with out it

[@canndydrivegaming9831]

My brain is always stressed So I need to contain it after work try not to walk in extremely crowded places I don’t hit my head because I learn my self not to do it now at 30s I getting so much information that I focus on different stuff and work place do not work for me and even people who see Me like a crazy person I not crazy I Just trying to contain my stress

[@Delhihousingagency]

There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo KZbin channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills