Autism - How My Unstoppable Mother Proved the Experts Wrong: Chris Varney at TEDxMelbourne

[@tangerinefizz11]

I'm 44 years old, and I was diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum just a few months ago. When I was a kid, my mom was told by an "expert" that I wouldn't be able to attend college or live independently. Thankfully, Mom didn't listen, and thanks to her encouragement, I was the first person in my family to graduate from college, and I've been living on my own for many years now.

[@corniatherarefurcorn3575]

Wow! Very inspiring :) Great work defying the experts who never knew what you were capable of.

[@anitaagyanim7205]

This is truely inspiring . i was sad and lost trying to be strong until i saw this video

[@casitabilingual53]

♥️

[@LadyAngharadLlewelyn-Giovinco]

Wow I an 44 and was diagnosed this year. This was after years of different diagnosis: anxiety, depression, O. C. D and ADHD.

[@ayusmatibhattacharya4787]

Nice...hugely encouraged

[@RozyRoPink150]

Thank you for this. My worst fear is to leave my autistic child alone in this world. He’s 3 and I pray everyday that he can live on his own, work and just cope with life. You give us hope

[@meanahbrown3333]

This same worry plagues me 24/7 my daughter 6 autistic and when I'm gone she alone I fear she will be abused in a state home until her death.

[@misstaveras8028]

Get in his world. Teach him how to learn from the world around us. If go to a differecountry and try to go from point A to point B how would you do it? How would you learn to do so? Simple task need explanation, extensive , over and over and is ok. We also need some in some areas as well. Figure out how he learns and from that point explore the world and life from a new set of eyes and a new perspective. It would give him confidence in himself to do and excell in things he likes and interest him. Also, make sure his nutrion is taken care of. Many doctors already have clinical trials proven the importance of gut health. Make sure his vitamins are to it optimal levels. There is a documentary on Netflix that talks about the correlation of iron and B vitamins deficiency of the mother during pregnancy and the babys developmental stages, and how it transgress to babys health once out the womb. Constant stimuli cognitive without assiting phisicaly but mostly by oral directioning. And a collective input of all this by family and care givers. Therapy should be continued everyday all day by you and care givers in order to see improvement. And see how long it takes him to process learning. Some kids can be 2 weeks, 3 months etc, so you’ll know what to move on next and when.

[@kaliprasanna96]

Ma'am any improvement in 2 years???

[@TheAutisticTrucker]

I was diagnosed with autism at the age of three. I was told I would never be in a public school or walk or talk properly. That day, my mom set me up with three therapists a day. After all this, I graduated from a mainstream school, I walk, talk, and I can do near anything. I am quite an inspiration to others on my autism. You'd never guess I was on the spectrum.

[@lovemayc.]

My son is 3 and was diagnosed thanks for giving me hope.

[@roymathew7304]

+Kristian Stoddard Kristian, You and your mother are such great models of inspiration for me. My son is 3 1/2 and diagnosed recently on ASD. I have started the procedure for ABA therapy. The stories like yours give me hope.

[@lovemayc.]

+Roy Mathew how is ABA going for you guys? My son started a month ago and it's going slow

[@roymathew7304]

+Caden's Journey We haven't started it yet. Just got the diagnosis and started paperwork with an ABA provider. It may take at least 2 months before we start. 1 month is very less. Its a slow process and you have to give it few months to show the improvement.

[@stefannylarr3649]

Tav Tav what's DSM4

[@Letthemtalkhes]

My son has autism and successfully beat many obstacles. Mothers do have to work tirelessly in the background. If people only knew how the mothers are treated. It takes resilience and focus.

[@ayeshapathan9006]

Behind every successful story there is one thing common- a dedicated mother..gives me immense hope my son has mild autism he is 3 and half year old..

[@serinataiwan]

@AbdulRahman-lv5pjthank you so much for saying it. I am a mom and I have to be the one who takes care of my autistic son. I will be strong for him.❤

[@danlyle531]

Personally, what my autism diagnosis means to me, isn't "there are things I can't do", it's more like "there are things I need to do differently, in my own way" or "there are things I'm going to need help with"

[@marycanary]

Exactly, I also have asbergers and my parents always made sure that I got the services i needed (However proving that I really was disabled and that I really did more help with daily living skills then it seemed like I did usually tended to be a real “pain in the biscuits” as they say) but at the same time,they encouraged me to do as much as I could do for myself.

[@LovinMe60]

That's a great way to put it!

[@LovinMe60]

@Pateck Aaron what's the name of the herb?

[@wacoiwacoi8512]

Yes ,differently,no point of trying to fit in.

[@marymona76]

This is so true. Even some of the things you'll need help with, in time, you'll find ways to get that done too💕 Never give up.

[@TeaLaRee]

As an autistic parent and individual my advice to others is this: don't settle, don't be complacent, don't doubt your ability to parent AND be the best advocate for your child. I've had teachers, doctors and all kinds of professionals try to gaslight me about my own child and what works best for him...don't let them push you around. It's the hardest grind in the world to be a parent of an autistic child but it's the most special one too. Hang in there.

[@KaraVillinger]

Thank you for this

[@AfsarAMP.]

His mother and grandparents are Godsend.....he is truly blessed for what he has achieved

[@gl564]

I was told that there’s something mentally wrong with my son and that he won’t be able to go to a regular class room. He is in 7th grade a straight A student. Please don’t listen to people that don’t know and understand you always push for more. Good bless.

[@waseemraja2890]

Thanks for sharing dear 🥰

[@DebbieMcleod448]

I need some words of courage. I am trying get my son tested and I need to wait over a year and he is 4. I need help my son. He is probably in the boardline autism. I feel so guilty. What I don't did pregnant to make my son have autism? I need some help.

[@rigormortisrm]

@@DebbieMcleod448 I am not sure where you are from but I would suggest you to reach out to a developmental paediatrician. They are fully qualified to do an assessment especially if you are waiting for assessment from public hospitals. In any case it’s not as bad as it sounds or being projected. Wish you good luck.

[@fouzifouzi3393]

Well said. I believe moms are the best expert just need little extra support from honest, kind, caring professionals.

[@Emanu2018]

@@DebbieMcleod448 am feeling same like you I have a boy as well...be sttong

[@jensineonuwa3515]

wow he touched me his story is touching. I cried all through the video. I will not let the doctor label my son. he's gifted and smart, my son was born 12/12/12. thank you Chris for giving my son confidence

[@mayralopez7143]

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[@dancing523]

Wow! I wasn't going to comment until I saw 12/12/12. My daughter was also born on 12/12/12 and she is Autistic. God bless to you and your son.

[@summerberkemeier2196]

Hello! My 5 year old son was just diagnosed with autism. And I must say, I'm glad he is diagnosed. Because now I know how to help him, and how to let others know how they can help him and be understanding of his differences. This label doesn't have to change anything, other than give us direction on how to be there for our children. It sounds like your an awesome mother! keep up the good work, and you're not alone :)

[@amnajahanzeb7446]

jensine onuwa my son was born on 10/11/12 he is also on high functioning autism.... he is very smart and showing great development and improvement

[@anugarg133]

@@dancing523 kq

[@jrodayeoh]

This was so touching and beautiful I was moved to tears. My son's been diagnosed with level 3 autism last year. He also has speech delay. I was devastated but I immediately worked on getting him to therapy, did lots of research and follow and encourage his interests. I talked to him a lot in simple words until he one day said some. 15 months later, he's now talking in sentences, they're mostly ready made sentences he heard but he applies them in the right context. He sings a lot too. In both English and Italian, and when he can't say the words, he'd look at me expecting me to say them. And when I do, he'd hang to every syllable and he'd say them after me. Those moments just melts my heart. I have hope he'll become fluent one day. He's bright and sweet and I believe he'll be the best in what he'll be.

[@evelinquinteros1326]

My son is 2 years 5months and for now he is non verbal how old was your child when started talking?

[@jrodayeoh]

@@evelinquinteros1326 Hi, he was 3 and a half. I read boys tend to develop later than girls. Just talk to him a lot. I still tell him every word that comes in front of him my older daughter says I sound like an instruction manual or an advertisement.😂😂😂. Simple words. Don't worry, he'll get there!

[@estherbuluma3306]

@@jrodayeoh My son is 3 and 10 months, he can sing nursery rhymes, says all Alphabets and phonics, numbers upto 20, says colours and shapes by heart but just can not communicate. I'm so confused.

[@xenacakes]

You're a great mom. Never give up hope! You are doing everything right and although it sometimes seems impossible and feels so hard now, you are planting and nurturing the seeds so that you will see the fruits of your labor grow and bloom over time. Your son will bloom. And you will see all your hard work and love pay off in dividends as he gets older and overcomes one obstacle after another. A mother's love can move heaven and earth for her children. ❤️

[@lilyisaacs5474]

@@estherbuluma3306 My exact case at 4 years 3 months. He began singing maybe at 2... Very good with musical tunes! He shocked me months ago when I noticed he types "cocomelon", "happy birthday" whenever he wants to search using my phone, he writes "Jesus" almost every time he has pen and paper. He writes B.I.N.G.O. and ensures it's 3 times as in the song, then goes to the next line omitting the first letter, as is in the song (replacing the missing letter(s) with a bold dot!!! One day he read in my chats, "Wow". Then he also wrote Question Mark (?) pointed at it, then said "Mom, what?" Meaning he knows how the mark is used: behind questions like "what?" By this time he was only half year into Playgroup/ nursery, where the most they learn is numbers and alphabets. Not even three-letter words yet, always introduced a year or two later. When he gets into a public bus, or while in Church, he'll be tapping every neighbor and greeting them with the widest of smiles, "Hi, how are you?" But he'll do this repeatedly. He mostly does preconstructed sentences. If he wants to eat and there's what he's mastered a cartoon character to say when they want to eat, he'll use that, whether it's a song or words. Like when you give him banana, or when he sees you with one, he'd begin to sing "I want to eat, eat, eat, apples and bananas..." At times he'll also say with broken words, mixing English and Swahili, to ask for the same. He hugs, kisses and smiles alot, keeps eye contact, can be very playful and interactive, but also loves to play alone, mostly indoors. He's however not very conscious of his environment; not completely non-responsive to danger but I'd compare his level of the same to a 2 year-old's. At school he demands food from other kids' tins, a gesture translated to mean he doesn't care about other's feelings or desires. I couldn't potty train him. I tried and gave up. But between 3-4 he started using the toilet, and he's good with it right now, except on cases when he's in a new environment and hasn't been shown the washrooms; then he'd mess on his clothes. He may be sweating but won't allow you to take off his sweater. Moments later, he'll be struggling to remove it by himself, crying for help. I took this to mean he wants it done only when he wants it done. Also, whether you wrong him or he wrongs you, he'll be the first to say sorry, and will keep repeating it until you too say sorry. He feeds on his own, but gets poorer at it around Mummy. I always believed that he's just okay but with delayed milestones, until his new school introduced the autism thing after interacting with him for two days. I'm just confused and overwhelmed by the thought of it.

[@fukkenell]

I am a father with a son with autism and you have given me so much hope, thanks Chris Varney...... I salute you Sir.

[@beginningandlast7147]

Louis Salguero how is your son doing now Louis?

[@jamiekos2259]

nice to meet you dear

[@kaliprasanna96]

Please reply

[@fukkenell]

@@beginningandlast7147 - He is fully functional but his maturity levels are of a 14 yo even though he is 18 but, if that is the worst, then he is OK

[@andi..9265]

I come here every time I feel worried about my kid.

[@Emanu2018]

me too i blame my self a lot

[@shantanurout]

This clearly shows how society's behavior could affect our condition in both the ways. Hats off to your mother, grandparents, friends and teacher for always being by your side.

[@BSM-vw6cf]

I was born 15 ounces, yes ounces, the doctors said I would never live and if I did I would never be able to do anything. But look at me now, commenting on KZbin lol.

[@anamac820]

❤🙏

[@nedimzulbeari7480]

Good bless you 👍

[@denisebigsbee5488]

God is Good! He has the final say!!!

[@andreutormos7210]

I'm glad, thanks for sharing. Reminded me of Sir Isaac Newton.

[@gl564]

Good bless you

[@quatsiesuttonsaturn850]

You remind me of my 5 year old son and I feel like I can feel everything your mother went through.. luckily his father and I see past the diagnosis and we also see the incredible gifts he has, socially he struggles, but he can learn a world map / countries / foreign alphabets and pick up very complex math like nobody’s business.. thank you so much for your story

[@NanaWilson-px9ij]

Are you a bot?

[@quatsiesuttonsaturn850]

@@NanaWilson-px9ij no?

[@sharonflynn3330]

Absolutely bloody spot on !!!!! Exactly how I was feeling and you just verbalised every single thing i have been thinking . My 3 year old son will def be an " I can " child . A mother knows !!! A mother knows !!:)

[@marymona76]

So ... your child is about 8yo as I'm reading this. I pray you are still encouraged and all is well and y'all are excelling celebrating every victory both great and small💕

[@josephparker646]

one of the first people I heard say a wonderful quote as a child was actually a Pastor who stated "your disability in not an excuse for not doing things but a reason to find a different way to achieve these." I thank Bishop Ed Little who also teamed up with my parents to fight for me in the education system. We had something as an expanded plan that picked up on components from the school IEP in a so called Individual Social Development Plan that he presented to my Sunday school class teacher who also happened to be a special education teacher.

[@SamanthaSweetAnne]

That is inspirational. What age did you get potty trained?

[@Skywalker2535]

I’m crying. Thank you so much for this video. I’m borderline ASD & my daughter has mild autism. I am just like your Mom. There’s nothing that my daughter cannot do & I refuse to let others tell her otherwise.

[@estherbuluma3306]

Thank you been looking for mothers who refuse negativity because of what seems like a disability in their children

[@DebbieMcleod448]

I need some words of courage. I am trying get my son tested and I need to wait over a year and he is 4. I need help my son. He is probably in the boardline autism. I feel so guilty. What I don't did pregnant to make my son have autism? I need some help.

[@Zeeeeren]

Theres nothing wrong with Your son, he has a gift. The help will come ..don’t give up. but in the mean time cherish your son be a strong, encouraging mother to your son. Surrender the stigma that comes with being autistic. What I learn is that our children came here to teach us something special about ourselves. In order to see that we have to shift our beliefs.

[@rubijenn]

My son was diagnosed at 3-4 years of age. I also had him in many and various therapies for some years. It did work... however the key I believe was sending him to a Montessori School. Their “I can” method is remarkable. Remembering of course that Montessori developed her whole philosophy on children’s education with kids who were seen as disabled in one form or another, in the early 1900’s My son has recently graduated with a university degree and as importantly is seen as a leader amongst his peers. It’s true the therapies helped enormously. However it was encouraging his faith in his own wholeness, however different that was to everyone else that was significant.

[@venkatavineel]

what therapies did you do? Did your son speak at 3-4 years of age when you diagnosed him? Thanks for input on montessori. Also what was his diagnosis if you don't mind?

[@Hiprich]

This certainly one of the most beautiful stories I’ve ever listened to. So touching

[@graceanything5205]

My son was just diagnosed with autism days ago. And I chooseto do the same, to prove his doctor that his dusability ain't like that .. Thanks for being an inspiration.

[@iud5463]

"It’s a cruel world. And yet…so beautiful…", this is the quote that comes to my mind watching this, thankyou for this, thankyou a lot.

[@strongindependentblackwoma1887]

That's the same quote found in ATTACK ON TITAN LOL.

[@iud5463]

@@strongindependentblackwoma1887 YES it is xD

[@amisi8136]

I almost cried when he said “that was my mother” cant imagine all the hardworks she went through

[@lupitahernandez6720]

This is beautiful! My three year old was diagnosed with ASD back in Aug 2022 and I was terrified at first. I felt like a failure and as if it's my fault. I feel as if they teach us to be afraid of the ASD instead of teaching us acceptance. Now, I'm working on how to be a better person and help my child grow.

[@alena5484]

It hurt me so much when my son was diagnosed with ASD and labeled as ‘disabled’ or ‘disordered’. I always saw him as someone pretty unique in the way he perceives and interacts with the outside world, he’s one of the most empathic people I’ve ever met, he’s so kind and full of emotion, and does take him quite a. It if effort to try new and scary things but once he knows he can do it he does everything without a hitch, he’s such a good hands-on learner! I refuse to believe there’s anything wrong with him at all, he’s just different from most other people, and I love who he is. The doctor who diagnosed him told us he can’t guarantee he’ll be able to live an independent life and we need to force him i to social settings, like team sports, etc. I was stunned at this - my son was 4 years old and spoke understand 3 languages, yet went through the assessment in his non-primary language and was diagnosed with speech delay! When it comes to team sports, I know he struggles with it so much, yet with individualistic sports he absolutely thrives, so why would I need to force him into something he simply doesn’t like to do??! Just to make him look ‘normal’?!

[@gessie]

It's nice to know that there are good mothers out there. Most just jump at the opportunity to delegate responsibility and treat their child like a freak, which is why your average psych office quickly turns into a parent guilt laundromat when parents are viewed as the client instead of the actual child.

[@joanna0988]

​​@@gessieMost mothers ? I have an autistic son and know many other mothers with children on the spectrum, I don't know any who treat their child like a freak and delegate responsibility. All the moms I know work really hard to advocate for their children, encourage their strengths and interests and have access to therapies that are safe and beneficial.

[@gessie]

@@joanna0988 Then it seems you're in a fortunate social environment. The guilt laundromat I mention is especially common among the poor, even in modern countries - in their case "most" is absolutely accurate. Then again, abuse in general is extremely common among the poor - not because they're poor but because of a regressive subculture.

[@joanna0988]

@@gessie That's fair, I live in Canada and we have good services and support.

[@mariakazzi8166]

You have no idea how much this talk means to me. It moved me from fear to motivation, to hope, to movement to help and celebrate my beautiful boy. Thank you!

[@waseemraja2890]

Your strong mother in world

[@SincerelyReal]

I cried towards the end. This was such a moving story. Thank you Chris. I wish more teachers and parents would help educate and encourage their kids to become loyal friends and understand these individuals because as Chris said they can do anything they just orbit a little differently.

[@tomaszwyszkowski2253]

My son has asperger syndrom. Im so blessed to have him. He is AMAZING.

[@zzhettyzz1549]

I have high functioning autism and his story touches my heart. 💜 My mother is also a wonderful patient mother who encourages me to do everything that I set my mind to because 'I Can'.

[@staceyklump6495]

All humans need an 'I CAN' network.

[@sarac4478]

7 years ago when my son was 2 1/2, he was diagnosed with ASD, I was devastated and felt there would be no hope for his future. A month later I found your video which gave me hope again for my son. Now 7 years later, my boy is speaking almost like others and attending the Gen-Ed classroom. He continues to learn and improve his skills everyday and I am very proud of him. To all the parents who just have your kids diagnosed with ASD. Never give up on therapy. Early intervention is the key to their success. The journey is lonely and painful sometimes, but it’s all worth it when you look back. To Chris and all others have grown up and able to share your world with us, I really appreciate you come out and bring such encouragement and hope to the parents.

[@Emanu2018]

Wow my son aswell he progress a lot God is always good but still we didn't find school

[@suemick8709]

Amen Brother. Self-diagnosed and I finally get myself and the world around me at 58.

[@mohammedsaifullah633]

Who all are their in ur family?

[@kirstycollins4237]

Great to see some positive things said about Autism! When you have a young child with Autism It is impossible to imagine that they will ever function without help. You all suffer so much. There is no practical help out there just sympathy. I just want to say that it does eventually get better. It does get easier. My son is 12 years old and absolutely amazing. He is much nicer and smarter than most neurotypical kids. Schools need to do more about bullying.

[@Sonic12Lexi]

Not just autistic (autism + me) people who needs help, non-autistics also can need help.

[@sharonjensen3016]

Neurotypical kids aren't born mean. It's the bigoted, small-minded grown-ups in their lives (parents, teachers and authority figures) who teach them how to be ("You've got to be taught to hate and to fear").

[@PLuMUK54]

I am glad that my diagnosis did not come until I was 58. I was labelled, but the label wasn't "autistic", it was "odd ball", "weirdo", or my personal favourite "eccentric". Even the less positive labels did not bring expectations of "can do" and "can't do". Consequently, because nobody said "oh, you won't be able to do that, you're autistic", I just got on with life, supported by amazing parents who thought nothing of my quirks. I had a successful career as a teacher. I was academically successful, achieving an excellent degree. I've been told by former pupils how inspirational I have been to them. It angers me when I hear that people are told they cannot do these things because they are autistic. Success in life is, in part, due to making the most of your strengths. My parents encouraged me to do just that, and I have to say how grateful I am to them for that. As an autistic person, I have some amazing abilities, as have most autistic people. We are all different, we all need to follow different paths. Some, unfortunately, will struggle on that path, many will not make it to the end, but the majority can, with a bit of support, successfully navigate their way to some degree of success in their lives.

[@audreymo63]

How wonderful 😊

[@32446]

I fought the experts after being told it was my fault my son was the way he is. Eventually he got the diagnosis he deserved and was diagnosed with 6 separate conditions. Never stop fighting for your kids.

[@BlackHairandSkinCare]

💗💗💗

[@bellav487]

At time of this video it was 1 in 88 and NOW it is 1 in 34! Why is there NOT an out cry for answers!?

[@worthy1959]

That was a heart warming message for all parents. You hold so much of authority in the life of your child. Building them into beautiful human beings like Chris.

[@meghasharma4975]

Tears in my eyes, there's nothing a mom can't do!

[@tommytamtomo9377]

A touching story. i wish all responsible people in autism care could understand this in my country. The sentence "Your Child Is Special", is SPECIAL.

[@laurareyes9470]

Although this is 10 years old, it is still relevant. Thank you for sharing the love of a mother!

[@PeterShieldsukcatstripey]

What a lovely chap. Loved seeing you with your brother and sister.

[@suzanburge9868]

Thank you for this, I'm the Mum who has been the one going "why is my child struggling". Ive had to fight for her to get help, so easy to blame her challenges on my parenting and her bad behaviour. Thank you for posting this, my girl is utterly amazing and I'll be there to help her become the wonderful person I know she will be in her future, I love her for who she is and I'm happy that she is special and I'm happy to be that unstoppable Mum for my unstoppable daughter who feels the world like others don't.

[@chris777-o8g]

Yes , I encouraged my daughter to bring her to talk and meet others when she was young , she is the most kind and beautiful girl in the world and I love her very much. I am proud of her and always believe in her even I was exhausted and caused lots of tears in the dark being there alone for her ..... I thank God for having her in my life 🧡

[@vashisl33t]

When he said Lisa was his mother and he was the child i burst into tears. I just recently was told my son is Autistic and is non verbal this gives me hope that he could learn to speak one day.

[@beautyvibe]

Contact the lady on Marcia Hines previous mess for assistance.

[@jackiekelly845]

Always talk to your child and give them more time to respond! Even using sign language, Assisted technology that will speak for them or with pictures… they can & will learn will practice!

[@Drifting_Leaf]

Do not give up. They need more practice and different ways of teaching. Focus on what he is interested in.

[@MissJBradford]

I just got a diagnosis of level 2 autism for my son, and was feeling so lost in fear for my son's future. If he could make friends normally, have meaningful relationships, and be happy... Thank you for this video. It tells me there is still hope and my son can grow into an independent happy man.

[@huzaifamuhammad8346]

There is a Dr that you can get in touch with, His (Dr Oselumen Ose) on KZbin. Am excited his meds for epilepsy/seizures works perfectly for me. He also got cure for Autism etc.

[@deepamandaliya6346]

My son is Autistic child...you inspired me alot....i watch your video again and again... Thank you 🙏

[@austinpowers9835]

Fantastic, you described my childhood very closely. I was marked as being a problem child with genius which inevitably landed me in a few sticky spots to say the least. I am now 40 with a child who has been identified as having autism, I will make it my lifes work to ensure that he has a much better start in life than I had. Inspiring mother to say the least and you are a credit to her. Encyclopedias rock!!

[@DecemberHendrickson]

I am high functioning, I have never been tested but there is no doubt in my mind that I am. My son also is. We had a really bad night last night and I was feeling really down today. This video is wonderful. I love it when other people have the courage to tell their story. I needed it.

[@cyntyguerra]

Hello 👋🏼 I just “diagnosed” myself a week ago after listening to an audiobook about an autistic woman and relating to her life experience too closely. Now I’m researching extensively because I have a husband and 4 kids that are very clearly neurodiverse. I have struggled immensely my whole life, and especially in my marriage and my parenting and am hoping to finally find some help. I’m 41 years old and terrified, but hopeful. Not sure how this would work, but if there’s a way, I’d love it if we could support each other. Anyhow, if nothing else, you’re not alone 🤗🤗🤗

[@clararaimundi551]

Being born on the spectrum is no different than being born without a hand or with speech issues. You work hard to overcome and find your place in this world. We all have challenges. Some more noticeable than others.

[@Helicopterpilot16]

I have aspergers, I really appreciated what he said. I just do things in a different way than others. I wish I had the family or the support he had from peers. Most of what I got out of high school was more anxiety. I really want to move past this road block and succeed in the ways I use to dream of.

[@sSunbeamM]

+Tyler H (Helicopterpilot16) no you don't think in a different way than others. just your family thinks in another way than god thinks.. and therfor you managed to avoid checking out other peoples pre-knowledge, because you are used to get twisted around your own knowledge... and people can see you are used to that.. so they always control your mind and your values and morals because they "can" .. you allow it... you don'T stand up for gods truth.. you are afraid of listening to other peoples opinion and react like god would react: correct their errors and give them a better way of thinking that makes them more free and more loving and less emotional addictive... because the truth will set you free! just trust in god and the pover of universal absout truth that helps everybody no matter how hard it feels to accept the truth!

[@sSunbeamM]

+Tyler H (Helicopterpilot16) sorry i totaly read you wrong... you wrote "i just do things in a different way" but i read "i just think in a different way than others" .... but maybe it's helpfull anyhow.. maybe you can benefit from my "mistake" ... becaue you only do things different, because you think different.. because you feel different... because you think other people feel more real than you.. but in many cases you feel much more real than usual people, am i right? ... but you don't confront them, because you are labeled as "odd"

[@DeirdreEmm]

+Tyler H (Helicopterpilot16) You will succeed Tyler, my son is 19, in college, has a few friends, and is finally somewhat happy He hated both primary school and high school b/c of his aspergers, and now he's with more mature peers who find him interesting rather than weird. Hang in there.

[@MiyahSundermeyer]

I have AS too and I had the "Loving Push" when I was in my 20's. Because of it I have an associate's in psychology along with learning that I am good as math. This was after encountering 10 years of misconceptions and being pigeonholed.

[@DeirdreEmm]

Hello World: with Miyah Good luck to you my dear, you are an absolutely beautiful young lady, and if you have AS that just goes without saying that you are FAR MORE INTELLIGENT and interesting than your female peers.... you will meet someone that will cherish your uniqueness and live happily ever after, and you deserve it. You will make the world a better place! God bless you.

[@Pocahontas78_19]

Your unstoppable mother was blessed: had much help from family! I have nothing...

[@jody8466]

I had nobody and 2 other kids And my son also has Duchenne muscular dystrophy...he is 23 a college graduate and on a ventilator now...he begins the bachelor's program soon after cataract surgery ...hes had heart surgery back surgeries and has been w/c bound since age 9...i fought every school he attended to mainstream him ...its never been easy but we do it ...you just need resources Google go where help is ...just don't take no for an answer.. I was alone...but my son had me so I made it about not letting him feel like I did...alone

[@happytips3914]

This is vinothini Mother of autistic child of 18 yrs old. Your speech is superb 👌 and boost up parents like us. My son has mood disorder or swings. Trying to overcome it. Speech is not proper. Working on it. Still long journey to go. Thanks for your encouraging words

[@EduardoRodrigues-ce4dh]

Man, it brought tears to my eyes! What a groundbreaking speech!

[@soulz2003]

I can't believe I'm seeing this 6 years later. I'm 31, with Asperger's. This inspires me to give back!!!

[@cherylneiverth2838]

Chris, thank you for your beautiful and inspiring story. You left me in tears - of joy - and I can't thank you enough. I have done nothing but fight for my little guy, now 4.5 years old, since I became sure of his Autism diagnosis - and you gave me just what I needed to keep fighting. We still have such a long way to go in this country, the US, with respect to ensuring the life-altering services these children need. Thank you so much for being such an eloquent and gifted ambassador. You are reaching many - and so many need to hear your message!

[@catherinellames6871]

I am a mother of a 2 year old who's been showing signs of autism but is not yet clinically diagnosed and I am preparing myself for the worst by watching and reading and educating myself of this disorder. But then I stumbled on this video and gosh! I want to be just like your mom. She's an inspiration to mom's like me. Thank you for this super encouraging talk.

[@Fiend_303]

Any update on your kid?

[@jerrys5424]

How is ur son?

[@Saucyakld]

Thank you for giving me the confidence to deal with my grandson. You won't know how much this has helped me, many many thanks xxx

[@carlakrochak4133]

The moment he said that child was me. A wow moment for me!!!

[@Anoldanimefan]

Mr Varney ... Your way with words is wonderful and I love your 'I can' message! It is one I have and will continue to pass onto my children regardless if they be autistic or neuro typical :) I will even use it for myself when I believe I am a bad mum when faced in those situations you and your mother have gone through ... Thank you for being you and a beacon of light! I hope to hear from you and will be a happy listener to your stories and talks. The very best to you always and many thanks x

[@madisonf8292]

I cried happy tears watching this. I found your work through the Village Lantern Podcast and aspire to be an advocate for my child like your mum was for you. Thanks for all that you do in celebrating the different orbits of the ND community.

[@nickacelvn]

Sir you make me proud ... proud to stand up and say NO to the so called experts ....

[@sSunbeamM]

+nickacelvn terrible joke: "Sir you make me proud ... proud to stand up and say NO to the self-love ...." ... but somehow interresting irony (or sarcasm about autists in the frustrating orbit)

[@melaniecycles4653]

The little train that could, that was the book... and so much more, thank God for the Lisa's and Janet's of the world who say no to the authorities and make sure we are allowed to thrive and survive. I miss my touchstone every day but thanks to her, at 53 and 8 years after she's gone, I'm still surviving and thriving and succeeding in ways others said wasn't possible. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@ritamariekelley4077]

I so well remember teachers sitting in the teacher's lounge (gossip magnet) describing how this child couldn't do this, that child couldn't do that, comparing their differences and their limitations. I never really went to the teacher's lounge much after that. When I went back to teaching 40 years later, nothing had changed. Teachers did the same thing with Einstein, pick, pick, pick. Peeps always asked me how I could teach THOSE children. I loved teaching THOSE children. I was able to celebrate their teeny, tiny baby steps as huge leaps on the human spectrum. Look for those teachers for your children. Demand they celebrate their successes and if they can't--if they don't have that capacity, as many don't--you can build a group of friends, family that does. My son and daughter-in-law celebrate their children's diversity and I am profoundly proud of them.

[@sharonjensen3016]

The only way they will learn is if and/or when autism or any other form of disability affects their own lives. Harsh? Maybe, but it was the likes of THEM who made me feel that way.

[@barroncollection844]

Yes, that's right

[@tweetypie7823]

What an incredible man and his family, thank you for sharing your story

[@motheringmania4698]

Thank you so much for this lecture. You have made me realise that what Im doing for my two young children with ASD and the advocate Im being is the right path for them.

[@pammacpherson5198]

My 2 1/2 yr old grandson was recently diagnosed . I loved hearing Chris's speech because when I see and interact with my little man I don't see what he can't do ....I am in awe of all he is able to do at such a young age. He is truly gifted in many areas. Fortunately in the areas where he has problems he has an excellent support team, an awesome mom and people who love him. Yes there are comments from people who tend to 'label' but in my mind they are the ones with the disability.. Thanks Chris!

[@inspirenaireinnertameit616]

Pam MacPherson kzbin.info/www/bejne/hKrWoHWPmN6NeMk

[@gracelilyyoshua328]

*"Perfect LOVE ❤️❤️♥️ casts out FEAR!!!"* 👏👏👏💕🎶🕊️😘 ... This is a great testimony of AGAPE PERFECT LOVE 💓 OF A MOTHER THAT HEALS HER SON, BRAVO!!! 👏👏👏😘💕🎶🕊️

[@ivanlimzg]

I'm envious of the support network you had since young. I'm undiagnosed and constantly looking for what I call my "comfortable space" but the lack of "proper" support makes it tougher than it is.

[@kiaraeijo]

When I was almost two years old, I was diagnosed with severe autism, severe mental retardation, and speech delay. The neurologist told my mom that I would never graduate high school, never go to college, and never live a normal life. I started talking at 3 years old and had speech therapy until I was 14. I always knew that I was different but I didn't really know about it until I was 13. On the bright side, I had a psychological evaluation when I was 19 and I was diagnosed with PDD-NOS. I'd like to think that music helped me embrace it and feel comfortable talking about it. :)

[@kiaraeijo]

+NawiExtra Thank you and it has gotten better because in the last two years I have become more comfortable talking about it :)

[@kiaraeijo]

+NawiExtra Of course but then again, I have also had people who I've told about it say " But you don't look like the type" and treat me the same as they did before they found out.

[@_innerpeacekeeper]

Kiara you are an inspiration to me. my two year old is being assessed for autism tomorrow. i am in a whirlwind of emotions.

[@powermouse9459]

I have mild autism but I said my first word when I was a late 1 year old to an early 2 year old and have no problems with my speech apart from stuttering when I say something in the wrong order ]and starting what I was going to say all over again. (but that happens quite a lot and I had to make 7 edits to this paragraph of writing)

[@apotato6278]

my sister was diagnosed with severe autism and mental retardation too. She's 2 years younger than me and has led to my life being better in a way. When i was around 8 my parents gave her all the attention due to her condition so i learned most things with my grandfather, a former engineer and extremly smart though ruthless man. He taught me physics and biology (his hobby) He taught me Swedish, English and semi-fluent german. I became his greatest achievment as i aced tests and got in to the Naturvetenskapsprogrammet (math and biology) when i graduated i got accepted to the Uppsala university doctor program over 900KM away from him and my grandmother...so he learned to use skype. My sister was sent to the introduktionsprogrammet, a program for the people with lacking grades to even go join a regular secondary school. Really makes me glad she exsists...in a way...even though a whole heartetly hate her, hate the very idea i share 50% of my genetic code with her. But i have another sister who's pretty good at soccer so i guess that makes up for it

[@DasherX33]

Thank you for sharing this amazingly liberating message to all who needs it.

[@kathleenwarner4888]

Amazing! You were so blessed to have an awesome mom & network around you. You are so gifted. I loved listening to you

[@ambermace86]

I am the mum of an autistic 2 year old I love this video so much I've watched it so many times thank you for posting it :)

[@moeezS]

Inspiring but who's cutting onions over here?!

[@Letthemtalkhes]

Thank you for telling your story ❤❤❤❤

[@doomtrooper.6666]

I’ am so proud of this hombre , because I think he give all of us hope, letting us embrace who we are by convincing that we should determine what’s best for us and not by people’s opinions, we should listen to them sometimes, yeah, but no always when you realize that what they are trying to do is wrong. One of the first lessons I’ ve learned in life is the ability to choose how you wanna spent your life on the rock we call “Earth”, but the choices we make will always have different outcomes, either it’s bad or good, doesn’t really matter. Lesson Number 2 is that we all make mistakes like everyone who is not on the spectrum and we choose how to view these mistakes and think about our course of action. Leason Number 3 is to remember that we all have different personalities, different tone, different habits and different self-rules, never expect anybody anything, because it’ll effect your feelings badly by their disappointment. Last lesson is self love, meaning you should treat yourself like a caretaker, but who only takes care of himself, it’s also believing yourself by thinking you can, for example: Go to Mars or to the Moon and put the American flag on the surface, it’s all up to you, you want something meaningful, name it and find a way to get it no matter how long it takes, the choice will always be yours to make.

[@salvadorhpo2030]

Thank you, my 2 year old was just diagnosed yesterday... you are hope, when I needed it most

[@alatukefu87]

Dead at the finger painting!! 💩 My daughter is 3 and was recently diagnosed with ASD Level 3 and the amount of times I've had to scrub the walls in our house...😷 But when I sit back and watch her play (by herself) she absolutely surprises me and teaches me so much about her 🥰 Your mum is goals and I plan to be as fearless when it comes to getting my kid the help she needs.

[@venkatavineel]

hows your kid doing now. What therapiess or procedures helped?

[@priyankopathak8971]

Thanks a lot. I needed this boost. I will probably get back to ur talk everytime i feel low. This is the father of a 3 year old child speaking

[@agathaeton9537]

This is awesome I definitely need to use the I Can with my beautiful son, He is smart obsessed with dinosaurs and says he plans on studying science and becoming an archaeologist and finding the next dinosaur or prehistoric animal, He does not like sports or such but does enjoy swimming :) and I love him so much :)

[@inkmothstudios]

swimming is a stim. its the best thing!

[@susank1979]

What a wonderful talk. Thank you for sharing. Thanks to your mom for being on the "reimagining train". She can & she did too. Deeply felt. ❤

[@alexkantor8238]

I can definitely relate to you, Mr. Varney. I am on the autism spectrum myself, and I never really liked socializing, actually, I still don't. But my mom always pushes me, always helps me out. She hasn't thrown my school bag through a wall, though I imagine that would end any argument rather quickly.

[@shaykitty6139]

My four year old grandson is autistic, non verbal, he’s brilliant and loving and teaches me every day.

[@lassusprophetam8209]

I think recovery really lies in a mother who dances to the beat of a Different Drum because the ones that March to the drum beat of the doctors ruin their children.

[@Catlily5]

It is good to have balance. Some parents believe too much in doctors and some not enough.

[@readingwithgrams9484]

My dad is on the spectrum high functioning but never diagnosed, but because of that he accomplished so much so when my son was diagnosed I did what Chris Varney's mother did and said Yes you can do what ever you want. I know there can be limitation at times, but with hard work and practice anything can be overcome. I refused to allow the word to be spoke in front of him when he was really young because I didn't want him to use it as an excuse to not doing things that were hard, then when things did get hard I would point out how well his grandpa has done life and that anything can be overcome.

[@ameliatearnan9426]

Redefining the label!!!!! I love this guy and how he is helping students and parents all around the world! He tells it like it really is. Great thin to show new parents who have just gotten a diagnosis. He shows that anything is possible!

[@awesomeideas8950]

Thank you. My child has autism traits and currently undergoing diagnosis. A few specialists told me that he would fit in the spectrum. Your speech is giving us hope.

[@chastonsdad]

Too often my own teenagers ( ASD ) say " I'm stupid" "I'm a failure" after they had done something considered "wrong" I tell them you are clever try again. Recently my teenage son stood up to a bully and told that student to stop and then physically he was pulled to the floor in the classroom.(that student since suspended from school). Later that day he reported to me he had felt discriminated for : talking differently, thinking differently, not being sporty, having different culture background and being autistic. I told him he is still a special person to me and their a lot of things he can do.

[@inspirenaireinnertameit616]

James Smith kzbin.info/www/bejne/hKrWoHWPmN6NeMk

[@DeirdreEmm]

+James Smith God bless you both

[@muddoggsoccer]

Got a brave son.

[@corniatherarefurcorn3575]

You are an awesome parent! I hope you and your son are doing well!

[@nicolegomez2917]

I'm a mother with a son with autism he brings so much joy to my life ur story gives me sooo much hope thank very much

[@supersyden4381]

This is such a touching and inspirational story. Thank you for sharing. I'm sure your mom is so proud of you. My son has Autism and ADHD and i'm super proud of who he is. ❤

[@naydelyn1019]

I cried through the whole video my little brother was born on 8/8/13 he is the greatest thing that ever happened to me thank you so much for making this video this video gave me hope that one day he will talk and finally say “hi sissy” or “ I love you sissy” he is my world so thank you for making this video it finally gave me faith

[@roheb2221]

Amazing and inspiring! And - sorry, this is completely irrelevant - he has the most beautiful hands I have ever seen.

[@esk8jaimes]

2:30 YES! Loved that unveiling moment, I genuinely started cheering!

[@swapnilmanjrekar3116]

The ending of the video from 17:18...boy i cudnt hold my tears anymore.......😭

[@Merrychristmaschris]

Wow... so moving and touching. This video brings tears to my eyes. It's so inspiring. It shows how much effort the speaker and his mother put in. As a mother of son with autism, I can tell how difficult times they may have been through.

[@larajones1424]

The doctors told me that my daughter was seriously mentally ill and would be for the rest of her life. I did not buy it. I kept looking for what was really going on. I read everything I could until I found a Tony Atwood video, Could it be Aspergers. It was like he was describing my child. The doctors made her feel like she was broken and needed to be fixed. I could finally tell her she absolutely was not broken, she was autistic and that is perfectly okay.

[@andreutormos7210]

Your story is touching, thanks for sharing.

[@michellemartinez2432]

Wow, I’m in tears.

[@sharonjensen3016]

That is exactly the reason for my deep distrust of the medical profession. Doctor knows best? Don't count on it.

[@LovinMe60]

Exactly... although being autistic is different, it IS ok.

[@LovinMe60]

@Pateck Aaron what kind of herbs?

[@schnitzelschnizel9448]

My mom and dad and professionals hold me back around here including family members.

[@sanjanaom]

This is really very inspiring! I hope many myths are broken soon 🙏🏻 Autism is not what people think it is. I wish more awareness spreads among people.

[@CanadianDad73]

I wish I could give this video more than 1 thumbs up! As a parent with a recently diagnosed 3 year old, I'm inspired. Thank you Chris.

[@janetgraham716]

Thank you for sharing your story - had me in tears and just what i needed to hear in light of an upcoming diagnosis for my 4 year old. Inspires me to be like your mum for my little one. Cheers to your mum and you for your advocacy for those on the spectrum.