The Science of Feeling Lonely & How to Overcome It

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Loneliness vs. social isolation: what's the difference?
Loneliness has increased due to the coronavirus quarantine. This is an important part of curbing the coronavirus outbreak / coronavirus symptoms, but that doesn't mean self isolation is easy.
So, in this interview, Dr. Sue Varma breaks down information that is critical now that a quarantine is in effect as a result of the corona virus pandemic.
So in this video, Dr. Varma breaks down the science of loneliness vs social isolation, when loneliness becomes a mental health crisis, and why it is so widespread today.
Plus - Dr. Varma shares what "compassionate listening" is and how it can help with loneliness.
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[@MedCircle]

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[@IvanDmitriev1]

Does it count towards medical, premed or public health education?

[@jeanvandorst4287]

"Compassionate listening is giving permission to the other person to empty their heart...to listen without judgment, without filters, without wanting to impose my own point of view onto someone else. I want to be with you. I want to be in your presence. i want to be able to receive what you say...." How sad that the Buddhist monk who said this never realized that he, and every other person, can get all of this from God. Or, if you want to go by the name He took in his human in carnation, Jesus Christ.

[@atishreshth]

i knew it

[@charlieganter4175]

Jean Vandorst b no j

[@charlieganter4175]

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[@bellaciao8863]

I am a compassionate listener; I'm always there for my friends. I feel so lonely because no one does the same for me.

[@dorotadeli3181]

the same here... I realise that I have problems with saying directly that I need to be seen and heard. Let's challenge that :)

[@futurehofer1564]

yes, I am always asking people how they are doing and all that and once I ask, they ask back, but no one ever comes up to me to see how I am doing just because they care

[@futurehofer1564]

@@stijnl nothing good comes easy, establishing meaningful relationships isnt easy but if you really want it you have to try. I know it is hard but the change starts within ourselves! You can control your actions to change that! But again it wont be easy or fast, just keep trying and eventually you will get it 🙏 Praying for you to find someone!

[@kevinburrell3359]

@Super Genius You should never ever have to ask someone to show you support back

[@kevinburrell3359]

I'm really sorry. I truly hope you can some better people in your life. Those are negative people. I don't know narcissistic, borderline, some sort of personality disorder but those are the types that will want to spill out all their BS on others but won't support back. Please take my advice as an almost 37 year old who has been used half of my life at a younger age and shitted on by the same people similar to yours. It will hurt you in the end

[@elliething1217]

I felt really lonely now.... and i literrally type in "what to do when ur lonely"cause i dont know what to do aside from crying

[@gemsikalys6843]

I’m sorry

[@abhisekhsingh6500]

Same here

[@abhisekhsingh6500]

Ellie can we chat?

[@elliething1217]

@@abhisekhsingh6500 why what is your problem?

[@connie.t5613]

same too :(

[@MrJoon360]

Loneliness definitely gets worse when you're on social media comparing your life to everyone else's. I constantly have to remind myself that I'm seeing what they want me to see.

[@rahulgandhi4270]

Never compare your bloopers to their highlights video.

[@mechanicaltypewriteroperat9885]

Yeah but wealth, luxury and etc does cure mental health faster to better.

[@the_darkside33]

I feel lonely even when I'm with my familly and it's sad just thinking about it

[@saheer28ind]

Yeah it kills...

[@MzLilThickness1]

Me too if you don't want somebody to talk to you you can talk to me cuz I'm looking for a pen pal as well

[@willstaxx0730]

@@MzLilThickness1 what’s good Brittany

[@megsk7412]

@@MzLilThickness1 I'd like a pen pal.. same situation here as well

[@jameka80]

@@MzLilThickness1 I would love to be your pen pal

[@kodaloid]

True loneliness is being alone and socially isolated when not wanting to be.

[@RonLarhz]

Same..... involuntary hikikomori

[@SeaTurtle515]

Yes, socially isolated and not feeling a connection to anyone.

[@JayDeeDonuts]

@Super Genius me too man... i just wanna leave this earth already

[@bhawnadhiman5974]

same. I dont have any hobbies and interest in anything. Idk what to do now to overcome this.

[@JayDeeDonuts]

@@bhawnadhiman5974 same bro

[@NikkiP4444]

I would rather be lonely, living alone than to be lonely living with someone.

[@Jacob-ot3qw]

NikkiP4444 Im living with someone who constantly cheats. However im too afraid to be alone. I think alone would be worse.

[@Khalifa1592]

Sad to hear this

[@JamesTyreeII]

There is the option of living with someone and not feeling lonely

[@thedarkfrost2351]

I’m lonely living with my best friend.

[@justinlittle4534]

This is me, right here.

[@diannegoode9906]

I feel more lonely in a crowd than on my own.For me the major problem is 1 Finding someone with time to listen. 2 Finding someone who will listen and not impose their solutions. A lot of people are too fond of doing that.

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@ramanirajpurohit5040]

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb hiii

[@plantbasedunicorn7995]

Totally relatable. I don’t need you to fix me. ❤️

[@Miyuu801]

As someone with bpd, loneliness is something that I struggle daily. It has nothing to do with people being physically with you, just like she pointed out, it's about feeling misunderstood, feeling emotionally isolated, like no one is there for you and with you even if you have a thousand "friends". It's feeling like no one feels like you do and that no one can understand what you go through.

[@JessicaDowell1987]

I get that

[@jeanp.5929]

The emotional loneliness you get from mental illnesses and situational loneliness shouldn't be thought of the same. In retrospect, they can be dealt with in the same way (i.e. find a therapist to talk to, a friend, family member, coworker, etc) but loneliness from mental illness is most likely a change in thinking from the illness itself. It's harder to deal with because you'll most likely need medication and therapy sessions will probably be far longer.

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

@@jeanp.5929 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@injusticeanywherethreatens4810]

With*

[@peyotefinder69]

I have only one friend. And even though I completely understand what you mean, I believe that I would feel much less lonely if I had more friends. I can’t even be misunderstood if no one is in my close circle.

[@ashu2212]

This loneliness is killing me, The friends I thought were close to me ditched me. It gives strange churning in my stomach and the heart aches so much. It is way too overwhelming. Where can I find this compassionate listener?

[@Andreas-me8ml]

You can talk to me

[@annies.3877]

Same here... I am suicidal now🥺

[@javierjaime9386]

@@annies.3877 Stay strong

[@fathimashahjahan8906]

Hi Ashish you can talk to me

[@jacksawda6813]

You can talk to me as well

[@SJEvans]

I listen to people, engage with them, let them talk, truly listen to the person. Give them their time but when it comes to me they don't want do the same for me. I don't understand at all. What am I doing wrong ?

[@hasanaskari7]

you did nothing wrong. you're just surrounded by as*holes

[@Monster_Mover_Stocks]

Check your breath.

[@SJEvans]

@@hasanaskari7 thanks

[@Mel-so4ou]

I don't know, S.J.. Even so, two considerations come to mind: (1) Are you an empath? If so, you may be aware that empaths often attract narcissists, which may explain the one-sidedness of your interactions with the people in your life.... or... (2) Are you open to sharing the depths of your own heart with wisely-selected others? In other words, are you comfortable with being vulnerable with safe people? ... or?? As I said, I don't know, but, if desired, you may consider reflecting on these questions. Regardless, I wish you all the best - including healthy reciprocity in your most important relationships. Cheers

[@SundaraFawn]

An easy question we can ask ourselves is "Is this person's energy heavy or light?" Then remove yourself and don't waste any more time with the heavy people (takers) and you'll have more time to attract and spend with light people (givers). From my experience the heavy people don't want to change as they love misery, drama and are stuck in victim consciousness. It's time that we honor and listen to our intuitive voice and take care of ourselves. Best wishes!

[@neon6160]

I've been vulnerable with many people. It didn't help me. I'm trying my best to listen to others aswell but its very hard. I really don't see a way to improve. It's heart breaking. Hope you have a nice day. Take care.

[@elizabethrobinson8615]

What needs to be said is that it takes time to build true friendship. Your not going to be able to bare your soul so quickly. There are different levels of friendships that meet specific needs .

[@arpitahi9327]

For all those who are reading it, I wish you my hearty love. Don't worry, I am here. You are absolutely safe....🌷🌷🍁

[@lolipopPrincess]

Loneliness and depression is the most horrible thing.

[@fembot521]

I feel as though I am surrounded by narcissists. I have 2 good friends but when we get together one of these friends talk incessantly about themselves. I have very few people that care about what I have to say and I feel as though I rarely get to talk about things bothering me or that I want to share. No one really knows me. Even my own parents talk incessantly about themselves when we get together and when I talk they look away and seem bored. I personally feel that the epidemic of narcissism, especially for people who are compassionate listeners is why so many feel lonely. I am surprised this was not mentioned.

[@smohammed2821]

Spot on i feel the same ... we listen to everyone but no ones willing to hear us and then we become closed off and thats why we feel sooo empty inside ... conversation with people around us are unfortunate just one sided ... family we don't choose by friends we do and that's why I cut those friends out

[@thebabslife]

Yeppp same same same. I feel very unsupported because I feel rare that somebody is really wanting to listen, they just want to talk.

[@payaldhal1673]

I agree life sucks I wish there was something that would let me talk to them I feel lonely even though I'm surrounded by people I just wish to make new friends and talk to them but I'm a girl and people often take advantage of it and mistake my friendship for something else. I wish there was a solution. This feeling is not good I want to feel good less insecure why do I've to feel this I'm tired

[@Nadiahope7]

I really like this therapist! Something about her way of explaining & her energy!

[@SinuheAncelmo]

She is gorgeous

[@matthewmanion1074]

I agree. She's smart

[@LR-yu3mx]

What an excellent answer. I live alone, and feel good most of the time. But when you hit a low, and you try to connect....( I have 3 daughters) none of them answer theit phones. My sweet grandchild at university answered, and was so empathetic, Unbelievable! That helped me right through that episode that I could go and sleep. How do you thank such a dear person ever enough

[@tima1443]

Yes, I hope you are doing better and your connection with your family has been lovely.

[@nigerundayosmokey2760]

Good for you man, hope you stay cheerful and happy

[@garyr1934]

Wonderful Hopefully your relationships will grow from here

[@Nokss87]

Your children are not there to keep you company, get friends your own age.

[@serahbay8864]

@@Nokss87 she didn't say that she wanted to be kept company lol?? did you even read the comment? she said she's fine most of the time, but during the low moments she wishes she could speak to one of her children. the fact that not one of them has a spare moment for their mother on a rare day when she needs them is really sad and wrong.

[@MrRedstardude]

Loneliness has been stigmatised for so long, so it's refreshing to have someone talk about it in public. In the past people were probably just as lonely as today, but because no-one was open about it we had no extent of the problem. The next step for the behavioural health professions is to have scientifically researched, self-help CBT manuals to treat chronic loneliness out in public for free. Unfortunately, I don't think they will be out anytime soon.

[@HappyMomma412]

MrRedstardude That would be great.

[@peyotefinder69]

My loneliness is crushing me. On my free time, idk what to do. I want to go out except I don’t know where to go, really i have no one else to share an experience with. It keeps me in the house. I feel like I’m an inanimate object collecting dust, and I want to change that. I just don’t know who to reach out to, or who wants to reach out back…

[@idk9594]

wanna be friends? :)

[@nocando89]

I'm with you on that. I think we need to radiate like the sun and attract people to us just by having a good time, owning ourselves, and not ultimately needing them but wanting them in our lives as a choice that can be changed if circumstances changed. You are not an object. I know, its easier said than done. Seek the love from within.

[@SamueITan]

I live with my family, have friends, colleagues and even had a girlfriend but still I feel extremely lonely and miserable, even in Group settings. I can socialize well and be a sport at parties but deep down I find difficulty in connecting with people on a mental and spiritual level. I also have major trust issues with people and that there's always a wall around me to keep people at bay and at some point I always tell myself not to be too close with people.

[@MrJoon360]

I've absolutely felt the same way. That lack of a really deep and understanding connection is what caused me a lot of pain. It took a while but I was eventually able to create some really wonderful bonds that broke me out of loneliness. Therapy also helped a ton.

[@MzLilThickness1]

I am too....feeling lonely it makes me feel like no one cares

[@justinlittle4534]

You just described my current situation, down to the letter. Except the girlfriend part lol. I dont feel like I can talk to anyone about anything and I hate it.

[@phoneicad1887]

I don't have friends I think I m terrible at this I don't have bf 😥😥😥 I m extremely lonely I think I m weird and inferior because of this.

[@bibliasfanta6376]

Right, so loneliness does not necessarily relate to how many people you have in your life? So There's something within us that's wrong and no matter the situation we're in its always going to feel that way. What are we missing????

[@1Skorpia]

i never felt alone being single. You can be alone and NOT feel lonely. People drain me. I love solitude.

[@Natasha_-_]

💯

[@Ken-ki]

I feel you there, for me loneliness is not a burden but a blessing depending how you use it, if you isolate and abuse drugs or alcohol it's definitely worth reevaluating; still I've been single for so many years now and I feel I'm lacking this healing and nurturing energy that women have, not that I need someone else to be happy, to put it simple I feel full but not complete, if you know what I mean.

[@Mode307]

Let me guess why you are not lonely of being single, it's because of a TRAGIC relationship on the past that you'd rather be single right? 🤭🤭

[@sreelakshmis9254]

@Neil Cognito ❤

[@nobodycron2548]

I love to be lonely

[@mohammadayub2760]

Loneliness is getting worse day by day just wait for the future technology it will get worse 💜💜💜

[@calgary2800]

Loneliness can manifest when one does not find any purpose in their work. It is equally as bad as not having solid relationships.

[@KaimaVixen]

I came here because, I have experienced profound loneliness in my life. I was child of emotional neglect and abuse. I also experienced chronic singleness and feel not only so disconnected, I feel my life has really reflected an isolated and loveless life. I have been recently been grieving the fact that I didn't have a mother or father. These deep feelings have destroyed my heart and esteem. My heart goes out to those who feel deeply alone and don't have the support or love they need.

[@creativepermission4256]

Thank you for making a video on this topic! It's SO important. I was recently reading "The Book of Joy" and it talked about how you can feel happy when you're alone and feel lonely around a ton of people. It's really about your relationship with yourself, which includes having healthy attachment. We often forget that healthy attachment to others is a biological necessity. Hope to see more content on this!

[@jbasti227]

I love this. Compassionate listening is something I always enjoyed doing, I didn't even know there was a name for it until now. Never been much of a talker, fairly introverted guy, and much rather prefer to hear and learn about people by letting them share their stories and( if necessary) vent any negative emotions.

[@Nokss87]

The problem is people today don't have time to listen, when you're good at listening you'll spend your whole life listening to everyone's garbage. But when it's your turn to speak, nobody cares or they insult you or belittle your opinions.

[@cse090priyanshmishra6]

i can agree but we can add something which is most impostant thing...we have very few fuck to give in this life and we need to choose our priorities....listning is a great quality to have but a listner need to understand what is important ....like you said "when it's your turn to speak, nobody cares or they insult you or belittle your opinions." i believe there are people who listens and respect your opinions...and our opinions are wast on someone who doesn't care about them ...its like when your telling you friend about this really amazing new web series but he dont wana watch it...but there are people who will love it and will agree with you ..just need a right person and it makes a lot of different..tell me how you feel about this✌

[@summernight7587]

I'm lonely because I desire to be loved by an significant other. A man who actively listens and validates me and my experiences, someone who understands me, who expresses admiration and sees my value as a Woman

[@mheartshape6817]

I am not even 40 and I loneliness has taking over my life compeletely and I am in the road of no return...total isolation.. I am sociable but I reject company and I am scared of people coz all the relations end

[@Iam_shawna_]

In my experience it’s the compassionate ppl who end up with the short end of the stick. It’s the rude, & arrogant who tend to win...just saying

[@MakaveliFan71]

Truuueeee

[@cindytran5628]

Give your gift of compassion to people who truly deserve it, you don’t have to be that way with everyone. I know it sounds harsh but it’s better than getting the short end of the stick.

[@Tracy-xe9zu]

People act like being single and lonely is the worst thing ever. I will take lonely singledom every single time over the loneliness I felt when I was married.

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@ASMinor]

I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my KZbin channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤

[@demigaines5644]

Thank You For Sharing After My Relationship With A Narcissists I Was Horribly Abused Belittled Nothing I Ever Did Was Right.i Was So Happy Before Meeting This Person I Notice After Being Horribly Discarded.Having Health Problems I BeGan Going Through Depression.Having Low Self Worth Low Self Esteem When Some1 Is Abusing You .U BeGan To Believe Them I Believe In My Heart Narcissists Abuse Is The Worst Abuse Ever!,It Has Damaging Effects....

[@ontoyoualways9183]

I am alone and socially isolated. The two people I do have ignore me and use me. My feelings must be suppressed or they too will leave. My family has mostly passed away or with so many issues(drugs, etc) that it is worse to have them around. There are no compassionate listeners. There are no people with empathy around me!! People are so self involved.

[@Destry31162]

I am so sorry you are suffering. This information may help you: www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/peace-happiness/deal-with-isolation/ If you would like to learn more or if you have a question I volunteer to help individuals learn about the Bible please feel free to email me [e-mail]

[@ontoyoualways9183]

@@Destry31162 Sure!! The Bible and his word are there. But man is not meant to live alone. I am positive that I will end my own life. Very soon! I just want to be certain that I am 100% successful.

[@Destry31162]

@@ontoyoualways9183 I was thinking about you today and thought you may enjoy this scripture 2 Corinthians 7: 6 “But God, who comforts those who are downhearted, comforted us...” Yes, God is concerned with the downhearted. Please email me so we can talk by email or zoom, [e-mail] Greg

[@ontoyoualways9183]

@@Destry31162 No!! He doesn't care! No one does. I have my plan!! You don't even know me. Why would you care? Stop taunting me!

[@Destry31162]

@@ontoyoualways9183 Yes, God does care and so do I....the fact that I reached out to you should show you both are true. I’m not taunting you, I’m offering to be a listening ear and to help show you from the Bible that God cares for you and you can have real friends. It’s in your hands, please email me [e-mail] and I would be happy to help by email or zoom. Please don’t miss out on a life that could be filled with purpose and happiness. Please consider this short video for a man’s real life experience: www.jw.org/finder?srcid=share&prefer=content&applanguage=E&locale=en&item=pub-jwbcov_201705_19_VIDEO&docid=1011214 Here is an article about three reasons to keep on living, please read it: www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/g201404/. Click on the subject: Why Go On And please reach out to me, Greg

[@pinkgummybearparty2366]

MedCircle warms my heart thank you for sharing so much reputable knowledge! my dad is the only compassionate listener in my life but this video made me feel less lonely

[@parisryan2012]

I feel so lonely always sad and alone

[@saheer28ind]

Don't worry...

[@Zii626]

Me too, it will get better though I hope...

[@mariewilliams194]

I think because people are more self important and are not thinking about being nice and polite. That's why people might feel lonely and not happy .

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@CravensBen]

This woman just oozes genius, and this guy just nails the balance between meaningful input and thoughtful questioning that any interviewer should strive for. I’m blown away by this channel and its positive impact, and so thankful I found this.

[@bilalkhanx25]

I try to avoid the feeling of loneliness as much as I can. But when it haunts me, i feel completely miserable. I've never been to any relationship and have very few friends. I think this is the reason of my loneliness. But I can't do anything about it because of my introvert personality and situation.

[@liftcarryfetish1296]

You still have some. I have 0. Also, in my experience, the introverts get to have more friends

[@urnan6305]

@@liftcarryfetish1296 wow you are really self obsessed 😂

[@eGochango]

I’ve been suffering from loneliness for years. I don’t feel i can tell any friends for the fear no one will truly care. My depression isn’t as severe as it used to be but the loneliness is making it worse

[@idk9594]

ahh man me too. im starting to feel depressed. at first, being lonely didn't bother me as much as it does now. no one ever talks to me and instead i feel they just forget about me. how are you doing now? we should have a chat or something

[@danna4555]

I feel lonely today and has to search up. I quit my job I hated the hardest part was to let go . 8 years working for a company and I was done. Now I feel lonely and depressed because I don’t know where I’m headed or going it’s so scary. The positive side is that I’m not stressed like I used to be.

[@MichaelSmith-fu3bm]

Hi Flor were you able to to find a new job ...I am a little lonely here also If you need support or an ear ...reach out...Michael

[@dalesmith4985]

I'm turning 40 soon in a couple of months and have become socially isolated as I have been living by myself for 15 years, also been single all that time too, I don't have any children and the only family I have left is my mother who is still alive. I come from a background of being bullied all through school which effected my self esteem and it has never recovered, in 2012 I was attacked with a baseball bat on the street and since then I isolate even more, but at the same time the loneliness is killing me inside and I feel stuck. I always have found it difficult to meet new people and build new connections with people partly because of being fairly quiet and shy, some old friends that I had growing up have moved away to other places and have busy lives with family and Married with kids and I have lost touch with them. I feel like time has gotten away from me and my empty life makes the depression I suffer with even worse.

[@nickdavenhill3344]

Hope you are doing alright :) I have a similar feeling where I am severely self isolated and I also feel like time has left me by and I’ve got nothing left. Or that something is missing in me that everyone else has. What kinds of things do you like to do in your free time?

[@jgdiaz3755]

I only have 4 family members in the country. We don’t talk. I feel lonely. I cry on holidays because others are celebrating together and I’m alone

[@jgdiaz3755]

My parents always put me down and my 2 brother siblings are small and my sister stopped talking to me because she think she is better than me. People tell me to not feel lonely but they only say that because they have supporting family or at least 1 family member they speak to. It’s very sad thing

[@user-oq1pt5ej4x]

@@jgdiaz3755 I'm so sorry you feel this way!

[@Ianmybeloved_]

this is so important , thank you

[@pure-pisces9470]

Glad I found this channel!

[@leviott4105]

I am so glad these videos exist. Loneliness is a real issue, yet people seem to not want to do anything about it. Loneliness isn’t mainstream topic in society (also people who are ugly arent represented enough in society). People don’t like it when “loneliness” is brought up. It pushes them away, furthering the problem. Something needs to be done about this issue, and people need to stop being afraid of being approached by/committing to those type of people who are lonely.

[@nuperaa6617]

I live in a city and i feel like I'm stranded on a desert island. I'm tall, i keep myself in shape and i feel like I'm the ugliest man alive. All my friends moved in different parts of the country or other countries in Europe, they seem to have love and jobs that they like... I have nothing, I have my daily routine that's eating my soul for almost 3 years... at least I stopped drinking. I'm almost 25 and I really want to do something with my life, something meaningful, to have someone to love. I'm so sad and frustrated because i used to be really happy, the party spirit, everyone best friend and now I'm sad, depressed and lonely.

[@aloveenfleming7217]

It's like u call someone your bestfriend & it turns out like they say u r not even my friend...💔🕳

[@EVEspinosa79]

Oh I am glad I am subscribed in MedCircle or would be very upset with that cliffhanger XD

[@priyankalakra1969]

Loneliness comes place of yur mind where you have emotionally suffered in the past and now a stage has arrived where you don't trust anyone and when you were going through all those things no one was with you and those who were with you were actually fraud and fake

[@343-penitentnarrator8]

This might be the truest answer in this whole thread. So you always push people away, because you don't trust them anymore, or you know they'll inevitably dislike you,like there's a timer on every relationship. And it's just better to be alone. Then the cycle continues, as you envy what others have. But always deep down, you know you're different from others and they can never really understand.

[@RSx94]

My GF left me a week ago. Before she came into my life, everything was grey and boring.. Then she came and everything was perfect and I didnt feel lonely at all. Then she left and now I sit alone and I'm getting anxious way too much.

[@cse090priyanshmishra6]

everything will be alright bro..i am with you and also everyone who read your comment... i know how you feel...and its ok to cry ...don't know what your reason of breakup was but it feel lonley when someone precious leaves us ...try not to think too much about your happy past ..try to get indulge in new activities...do exercises or music or art anything which makes you feel good...it takes time to let go but when you finally do let go it feels like a totally new wind is flowing ...do not make any sort of contact with your ex because it will make things difficult for you ....you feel you wana let go but also don't wana because those are happy memories...believe me it will be fine one you let go...you'll find someone soon but befor that you need find your self, your interests...

[@RSx94]

@@cse090priyanshmishra6 Im over it now. Just needed a few weeks to heal. Its all fine now.

[@farhiya1789]

thx you very much medcircle

[@SundaraFawn]

I absolutely love being alone and I tend to spend hours each day in the woods. Throughout my years, I considered myself somewhat of a hermit. However, there was a point in my life where I moved way up on the mountain and somewhat isolated myself. For months I loved it, but later on, lo and behold there were days I felt lonely. I was blessed to have experienced this horrific feeling to understand and glimpse into how so many people feel these days. Thank God for my inner connection to Spirit and my Guru that's always got my back, cause this world really is one hell of a crazy game!

[@zan7466]

I envy you... Sounds amazing

[@upstatenewyork]

His self disclosure as the host makes this all about him!

[@SavannahMares]

I adore this woman 🙏🏼🫂🥰

[@vegasraiderspetef9883]

I'm lonely and depressed,I'm literally alone in the world

[@saheer28ind]

Don't say that

[@megsk7412]

What about parents ?

[@frv6610]

We are probably many who feel this way but we don't have a website with chat for people who feel very lonely and wants to talk to eachother freely, otherwise we could connect and soothe eachother.

[@vegasraiderspetef9883]

@@megsk7412 mine are dead

[@karthiklagisetti78]

Compassionate listening is giving permission to the other person to empty their heart...... excellent

[@ramirenriquez6795]

We should re-evaluate the meaning of "connectedness" if we mean through online or virtual world. Maybe don't actually consider it as a real way of communicating but an alternative one. Thinking this way will make us somehow don't rely on it all the time because it's only a substitute to real human conversation. It's supposed to make our life easier but we still have our primary ways of connecting and that's through our physical world

[@jane_7193]

Thich Nhat Hanh, for me, is the greatest teacher. I really got that connection to him through a book Living Christ, living buddha February 1998. He is such a wise Teacher and Father to anyone who welcomes him into their heart. I stopped feeling disconnected the very moment his name was mentioned.

[@wildewildestrawberries]

Great book

[@rahulkathuria8250]

I am struggling being single as well as no friends, not well, feeling lonely and anxiety at 3 am

[@jaylaw.7660]

She’s so smart💋

[@macalister8881]

No friends , no job , no mate , i feel i am destined to be alone my whole life , so hard to go on but i know i must

[@EmberHarrington]

Being the reciever of an unload or dump can be very painful. Just today someone did that to me.....she went on and on and it literally hurts to hear it.

[@ProdavackaDivu]

People who dump on others without consent are really disrespecting boundaries and being selfish

[@yixnorb5971]

"Quality of relationships is key". Nuff said

[@smyrnasstory]

Instead of seeing your being alone as a disadvantage, use quiet time to reflect appreciatively on your blessings. That can make you an even more desirable friend to others “The one walking with the wise will become wise”

[@dominiqueryles2922]

People with this skill set is so rare now days.

[@Spoil7455]

I am the same , ive felt isolated and lonely because of those who have bullied me because of a mistake i made in the past when young …to the point of ridding all social media… they still find ways to put you back in that pit…. They’ve killed my life and social well-being …. And mentality,.& still they continue after i try put things behind,.. yeh ive made mistakes ….…but i try to change and be a different person …BUT WHY do people only see the bad in you….even when you try to be or have always been NICE to others…..

[@annies.3877]

I can't bear it anymore... Hopeless... Isolated... Suicidal.... Pain...

[@cse090priyanshmishra6]

it will all be fine...i am with you and everyone who read your comment...we are same ....if you feel like then you can share your feelings and all the emotions which hurt you...i am listning

[@jcbanbury]

Let's talk?

[@annies.3877]

@@jcbanbury thank you but just these conversation won't help me now as the condition is much worse for me sadly 😞

[@arthurb8924]

Lovely!

[@krisscanlon4051]

I was in a morass of self pity and loneliness and stopped myself because i see how much i gained in my life via recovery...nothing is for certain...acceptance right?

[@dolphinrose21]

it's better to be alone then with people who don't see your worth !

[@patricedixon5486]

So good

[@jasongunningham9545]

I’m very lonely I work the graveyard security shift 12 hours I get about 2 to 3 hours of interaction with people a day. it’s getting to be really hard. I can see why people cheat like I’m just a paycheck for my wife

[@earthlycolorbrown6246]

Ask for day shift and talk to Your wife. Tell her how You feel.

[@paramitakarmakar9642]

I have friends who are kinda close, i have a boyfriend, but still i feel lonely all the time. No matter what i am doing, that loneliness just grabs me into its arms and its so painful. And its more painful when you cannot explain it to the people you love

[@pavitra.35]

Compassionate listener...sadly, there aren't too many out there. I try to be one because I know what it's like to be so very lonely.

[@MaybeLily1234]

I see my collegemates at parties/clubs and I envy the friendships and just fun they have. I can never seem to assimilate. I always feel lonely even when I'm with people. My bf and family live in another continent- I'm starting to feel bothered by this a lot. Its weighing on me and they dont understand.

[@Andreas-me8ml]

I don't know what to say to help you but I understand what you are going through. I always feel left out of everything, like I'm in the background viewing other people's happiness. I guess thats what I have to go through as an introvert. I listen so closely though and I'm a really nice guy, its just no-one notices that when other people take the spotlight.

[@Theappflow007]

U earned a subscriber.

[@caleuxx9108]

... the key: the quality of the interaction.....!!! - quote: "Compassionate listening is giving the other person permisson to empty what is in their heart" -

[@cassidyfranklin9287]

Needed this video more than ever I hate quarantine

[@MrJoon360]

Quarantine is incredibly isolating.

[@Zii626]

Quarantine is making life really difficult to socialize with people

[@sketchios5158]

Feels like everyone around me is anything but a compassionate listener..

[@charu6585]

I want to be alone but I don’t want to be lonely

[@justaguitarplayer2059]

I’m so lonely that I consider ending it sometimes , but I know it would hurt my family. I am 6 foot , athletic , with a good job , but all women want the top 5% of guys … so that leaves the rest of us to be alone forever

[@nocando89]

Hey there! There are so many people on this earth; I can assure you that not 'all' women on earth want 5% of guys, because there is no way of asking every single woman on earth what she would want. :) its important to find and know your values, and meet someone who shares those values and wants to be with you based on those as a shared foundation. Otherwise, there is always anxiety about being '5%'... whatever that means. We are all created uniquely. Own that and good luck to you.

[@simarsingh2620]

Beautiful

[@dorotadeli3181]

Listening is an action

[@Hhopiuygv]

No one talks anymore it’s all about social media or tv and back in the day we use to sit at the dinner table and talk not on the phone

[@zan7466]

I feel guilty for not wanting people around me. I get exhausted by it all

[@user-oq1pt5ej4x]

Being an introvert is also okay:)

[@purnimasahani9773]

Helpful

[@user-di4dh8li4k]

thanks you

[@fishqueen91]

I feel lonely because im around people who are selfish or not know my worth. Makes me cry and question my worth

[@malsawmtluangakh7444]

Sometimes the kindest thing u could do is to listen without forming an Opinion 😪

[@zan7466]

I need to practice this.. I'm too busy either trying to help or thinking of how to reply....

[@akibabe09]

I live alone but no one hardly ever comes to see me 😖. I have a cat though. I can't work due to arthritis and anxiety. I have tried to be social, but many people reject me ....😯

[@saheer28ind]

How are you dude?

[@akibabe09]

@@saheer28ind I'm not a dude😅but I'm ok

[@saheer28ind]

Good to hear it....dude😁

[@aqsamustafa7248]

I feel you. I don't even have a cat. I have a lot of things to do. But i can't get anything done because of anxiety and loneliness.

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

@@akibabe09 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@BakingJane]

I adopted a dog, but he proved to be too much for me. I took him back where I got him, and I miss him because I'm in a lonely house.

[@tayloradel2725]

I need friends, tired of feeling lonely everyday 😭😢

[@earthlycolorbrown6246]

Can You volunteer in Your community for opportunities to engage with others?

[@diegolazaro9870]

I personally started feeling really lonely and depressed. I feel somewhat confused, I lost my mom at a very young age around 9 at the time my father had left us before that happened. I’m 22 rn i truly don’t have friends nor parents nor grandparents I don’t talk to no one except my girlfriend but the thing I struggle it’s that I want to see this person every day but she has things to do too when I’m not around her I can feel really lonely and depressed so I would love for some advice on how could I control this emotion lately I’ve been so emotional this past weeks

[@nocando89]

Hi Diego, I'm sorry you have to go through a bad time and i can't imagine how brave you must be. Remember, you are not just going through it, you are growing through it. A lot of us were never taught how to take care of ourselves, and put ourselves first. It might feel unnatural in the beginning but trying that might help. Are you able to take an art class, or join a sports team, or go to a gym and ask people to join you? Just trying to help. If you yourself can take care of yourself, you will be doing a lot of good. :) please msg back if I can help you.

[@musiclist5566]

Honestly, I feel lonely for sure it would be nice to have someone I could talk to who wouldn't judge me or worry about me afterwards.

[@cse090priyanshmishra6]

Heyy..it will all be fine...i am with you and everyone who read your comment...we are same ....if you feel like then you can share your feelings and all the emotions...i am listning.. what are you hobbies? lets start a conversation ✌✌

[@bbilgers8686]

Deeper connection isn't just for the vulnerability of difficult times. It is also for celebration. People can feel very alone if they are not connected to other people who can be compassionate with joy as well. It's about sharing on a deep and authentic level. Unfortunately in our world it has become a binary choice for many people. If you feel alone in a relationship, then you'd rather be alone all together. That's not any more or less healthy.

[@tulip5210]

I feel like I share myself but it doesn’t help.... I don’t feel satisfied

[@maigy99xx67]

I have been isolated even before covid_19. Now my anxiety is getting worse.. I have no family no friends. Who's with me?? It is hard to make friends when you are getting older. It is hard to make online friends for me.

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@hardikkarelia3783]

Hey Buddy! How are you doing now?

[@hardikkarelia3783]

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb Hey Chris! How are you doing?

[@frv6610]

We need a chat website with forum specifically for people who feel lonely who can talk freely there.

[@jcbanbury]

@@frv6610 shall we make a whatsapp group??

[@sonofthefakegod]

The horrible thing about loneliness is when you think you finally found someone to share it and bring yout of it, only to find out that you were and it makes the loneliness even worse when you realize you are actually trully alone.

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number [phone] or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

[@user-pe5xd3qh7m]

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb uuuh... Nobody mentioned anyone dying stop copy pasting

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

@@user-pe5xd3qh7m get lost fool