20 Things Most People Learn Too Late In Life

What nobody ever tells you when you are a wide-eyed child, are all the little things that come along with “growing up.”
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[@TheArtofImprovement]

Which lesson do you think is the most important? Don't forget if you want all the artwork from every video, go here: gumroad.com/l/Full-Archive ...and as always, thanks for supporting the channel! 🙏

[@waelfaraj6705]

The last tip number 20 resembles some quotes in a book called the law of one ... All is one and one is all... Love and light from Lebanon to the world...💚💙❤🤗😍🕉🏳️‍🌈🇱🇧♾♾♾♾♾♾♾♾ and infinite blessings ...

[@cquelhas]

I’m a teacher and I’m considering buying your artwork. I’d like to know which app do you use to make the animations? Please, don’t stop inspiring us!

[@TheArtofImprovement]

@@cquelhas Link in the FAQs on the About page

[@Vigneshwaar]

@@TheArtofImprovement After going through a relatively rough patch this year, I really needed this video to re-boot my mindset. Thanks a ton for all that you do :)

[@cquelhas]

@@TheArtofImprovement Thanks!!!

[@luther7541]

2. Nobody really cares about your dreams. That is why you do it for yourself.

[@soundsandmusic.3689]

This👆⬆️

[@JavierMartinez-bs6ft]

Until they see you succeed!

[@omaralkammash9225]

I think it depends on what kind of "dreams" you have. For example, if you dream about eradicating world poverty, the poor will actually care, but if its some personal dream, very few would.

[@luther7541]

@@omaralkammash9225 I doubt it. Most poor people would not be able to participate in that long-term process. They are mostly overwhelmed by short-term problems and thus would rather get some money now to spend now. Anyway, you are the one who wants it and you are doing to it to feel good for yourself.

[@omaralkammash9225]

@@luther7541 Maybe, but what I mean is that you might have some dreams that would matter to others, if the same dream is shared. Martin luther King would make a perfect example, I don't think that the black community would neglect his dream, and I belive many Afro American activists would consider him as a role model.

[@PurpleRobe8]

Those illustrations are just beautiful -- I love the shading!

[@leeceyah]

Im 30 and have a hardtime enjoying moments and time because im rushing to get things that dont matter at the end of the day , done! Time is precious

[@carealoo744]

'Life is a movement forward.' *The pandemic has entered the chat*

[@ltraina3353]

I would add 2 things: 1. Not everybody is going to like you, and that’s fine. Even the most likable, honest person will have at least one person who dislikes them. Nobody has 100% approval rating, so don’t get upset by that. 2. You will meet some people that you don’t like, for whatever reason. And that’s fine. Disliking them doesn’t mean you can’t get along with them, or at least act cordially. If their behavior is truly out of line, let them know, privately if possible, don’t be afraid to set boundaries. 3. It’s harder to make close friends as an adult. When young, you have plenty of time and opportunity to hang out, so it generally happens naturally. As adults, you have less free time and so many things competing for your attention: family, work, exercise, hobbies, etc. You have to make an effort to maintain friendships or cultivate new ones, or else you’ll drift apart. And 4: while you are ultimately responsible for your self and your happiness, it always helps to have people in your corner.

[@thisorthat7626]

#2. Learn to set boundaries, even with family.

[@q.ananlaulleeray2024]

You have my %100 apoval

[@turolretar]

Edit: actually I apologize that was really rude from me.

[@joseambriz5897]

I dont think you know what 2 is

[@ヤムララジャ]

I agree with the friends part a lot.. Yea they all go away as fast as they came... But still i don't mind not having them because people will go, people will come,that's the only thing you need to know.

[@tshiamomonagengonline]

Don't ever stop making these videos. We appreciate them

[@Synth2000]

Indeed. We all should say this more often to the OPs.

[@pryze3]

100 percent

[@darellteague3845]

Thats a lot of pressure.

[@kirayayumu163]

True

[@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862]

When your inner child dies, your life becomes extremely dull

[@True38]

Yup. Thus, always be curious about people, things, and seek out new knowledge and wisdom. Never let life become a boring routine. Seek out new adventures, challenges, and thrills. Keep your mind flowing as fast as you can and do as much as you can.

[@williandelucca]

Thats why people smoke weed.

[@KingofNewYorkkk]

or even psychedelics

[@Mockduck2020]

And sad.

[@Iquey]

I don't think it ever truly dies. If you attempt to kill it, rather than respect and nurture it, ressurects as your inner tyrant.

[@HumanExperience-EN]

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” 🙃 ― Viktor E. Frankl

[@lifegoesonandonandonandona7192]

And when changing yourself doesn't work, then you have two options: an escape(suicide) or a cry for help(God). One embraces life, the other seeks death. One clings to pride, the other lets it go.

[@realisticron4025]

That's the beauty: changing ourselves from the inside out.

[@skirmishcustoms2595]

Was the emoji part of his quote too?

[@Waykian]

@@lifegoesonandonandonandona7192 You can ALWAYS change yourself. The one who isn't brave enough fails on changing himself.

[@priyakushwaaha]

This is waht I needed! 🤛

[@shanicefernandes]

1. Most people are scared of using their imagination 2. Your dream doesn't really matter to anyone else 3. Friends are relative to where you are in your life 4. Your potential increases with age 5. Spontaneity is the sister of creativity 6. You forget the value of "touch" later on 7. Most people don't do what they love 8. Many stop reading after college 9. People talk more than they listen 10. Creativity takes practice 11. Success is a relative term 12. You can't change your parents 13. The only person you have to face every morning is you 14. Nothing feels as good as something you do from the heart 15. Your potential is directly correlated to how well you know yourself 16. Everyone who doubts you will always come back around 17. You are the reflection of the 5 people you spend the most time with 18. Beliefs are relative to what you pursue 19. Anything can be a vice 20. Your purpose is to be YOU

[@billionairesarmy]

Thanks

[@nutellax9541]

Thx bro!

[@Thowzand_]

Thankyou

[@Ajay-pz9ms]

Thanking you

[@junkjunk2493]

... thx for your help work

[@yuvaraj2358]

If you lose your wealth, you have lost nothing; if you lose your health, you have lost something; but if you lose your character, you have lost everything.

[@peppermint5117]

oh yeah i have :,) sobs

[@Blake-pn6xm]

Sounds like a Marcus Aurelius quote, love it.

[@rooster555555]

Don't lose ur soul

[@maverickXXVI]

@@Blake-pn6xm Billy Graham!

[@congli2567]

To make it simpler. The most valuable 'things' in your life aren't things, but it is your essence. What kind of a tree you are, and what fruits are you producing, that is of the biggest value that we all as a human beings carry.❤

[@47RokuW]

“Many people stop reading after college” Me: “Many people stop reading after high school”

[@Kiggelson]

Me: "Most people never actually start reading"

[@47RokuW]

@@Kiggelson On everything! Myself started reading after school. Wasn’t a reader while in School

[@MicheleBohmke]

Grade school now probably.

[@cerimite7674]

What fools, noone knows everything. A life of constant entertainment is a noxious thought.

[@SBphd]

People watch these videos because they stopped reading.

[@crystalcole888]

Okay let's put a pin in this one right now. Everyone who doubts you will NOT always come back around. That bully might stay a bully for his (their) entire life, regardless of what you do with yourself. That girl (or boy?)who didn't want to date you will NOT always come back around, and they shouldn't. People choose you for their own reasons. You do not earn them like tokens for your progress in life. Your accomplishments don't entitle you to be chosen by someone. That choice belongs to the person for their own reasons. I'm commenting on this because I see this opinion as the seed to having a really bad attitude when you do accomplish things in life and people DO NOT CHANGE like you hope they would. You can spend a lifetime trying to make things work with certain people. It's not supposed to be that hard. Find new people.

[@crystalcole888]

@M M no, thank you👍

[@brodriguez11000]

Agreed. Some folk wisdom should be taken with a grain of salt.

[@Sunset553]

I just never see the same people again. I think it would be more realistic and helpful to say: When you’ve had a bad experience, keep improving yourself because, in the future, it will feel like a big accomplishment to interact with the same type of person, but this time be the one they respect.

[@hankjones7054]

Some of this channels advice sounds nice but is pretty vacuous. Its exactly the same stuff you see posted on Instagram by every self obsessed influencer.

[@monsieurVi]

I think there is some nuance (reading between lines if you will) going on. The truth might be for someone in the middle of what was stated in video and your opinion. The person doesn’t have to come back (to appreciate you) to you but it’s a nice ‘bonus’.

[@betterthanbefore6314]

“No man has the right to be an amateur in the matter of physical training. It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which his body is capable.” - Socrates

[@dragonmartijn]

"It is a shame for a man to grow old without seeing the beauty and strength of which a female body is capable." - I.

[@baydenhooper7195]

I love this quote

[@ZhuGeLiang6969]

@@dragonmartijn beauty definitely.. strength from woman🙄🙄 😂😂😂😂?

[@ShowtimeDr]

They do if they are disabled.

[@evelinaxxo9593]

@@ZhuGeLiang6969A woman has the power to endure much more pain than a man, a woman is the strongest biologically and genetically (which are also the most important). The man has physical strength and that's about it, it's wrong to think that the power is only physical, and the truth is that the woman possesses many more types of power.

[@kickass1179]

The hardest one to bite is 17:you are a reflection of the 5 people you spend the most time with...it kinda makes you doubt your marriage, family, friends...

[@sickofseeingjustsomeguywit8168]

The 5 people you spend most of your time with doesnt mean the 5 you are forced to live with. You may not love the company of your family. Ask yourself whom would you rather be with?? It's the 5 people that you would rather be with.

[@michaelsmith4904]

Uh... what if you only spent time with three people? I'm sure this has been more common during the last year though...

[@rooster555555]

It is only true if you let it be. Growing up in a toxic house i had to learn to not let other people affect me and focus on myself no matter what

[@peppermint5117]

it hurts the worst because the perosn i hear the most is my mom voice chatting with her online firned orphan 24/7 and emotionally manipulate her while she's saying awful things about other people makes my heart ache (esepically when i realise i sometimes look similar to her in the way i talk, and also walk similarly)

[@surrealsunrise4436]

That’s not true though. Because nobody in my surrounding has the same interests or hobby as me

[@richerDiLefto]

Good advice, but I have to disagree with 16. People who don’t like you *do not* come back just because your life changes for the better, and they shouldn’t have to because they have their own lives to live. The world and other people’s lives don’t revolve around you whether you stay the same or change. There are literally billions of people on this planet, just forget the ones that aren’t for you and move on.

[@coffeefordinner]

17 - you are a reflection of the 5 people you spend the most time with: That person can also be the collective "person" on a social media platform. If you spend all your time on reddit or facebook for example, that will shape your world view, personality, sense of humour... Be mindful of it and don't forget to step back and think critically.

[@CosmicAtmosphere]

"Never mistakes, always lessons". I take this. 👍

[@im3phirebird81]

Yeah, but sometimes one fails in something they wanted to achieve. Not to close your eyes from that very fact is important whilst moving, just look at what you learned during that time, and you will benefit the most from it, even though i seemed to be a failure. Another good thing is when something happens that dissatisfies you to look at it as a blessing in disguise. Then you eyes change. Always lessons.

[@yashaswikulshreshtha1588]

Wrong you need mistakes too

[@sfkeepay]

This video is full of awful advice. Not all of it, to be sure. But here are some of the worst bits: #2 “Your dream doesn't really matter to anyone else.” This may or may not be true. Parents, spouses, and close friends may, in fact, care DEEPLY about “your dream” because they care deeply about you. They may go to great lengths to help you reach your goals. So this is clearly not always true at all. #7 “Most people don’t do what they love...because they didn’t fight hard enough...they didn't make it happen for themselves.” What a load of TOTAL BULL! Whoever wrote this script doesn't have a clue about real life. The overwhelming majority of our circumstances are not under our control. From who are parents are, to our schools, our skin color, how attractive we are, our height, the times we live in, our access to resources, whether or not we happen to know the right people, whether what we “love” to do happens to have financial rewards, and on and on. This idea that we can all just pull ourselves up by our own bootstraps is pure propaganda. They want us to blame only ourselves and each other for our hardships, when our greatest obstacle is, in fact, a rigged system shot through with deep corruption, cronyism, and casteism. #18. Maybe there is no right or wrong, but there ARE consequences, and everything is NOT relative. Subjecting women to harsh control is wrong. Killing or torturing people is wrong. Enslaving people is wrong. These values are not relative, and not making that clear is an abdication of responsibility. #20 What is the meaning of life? Maybe it is to be yourself. Or maybe it's to help other people. Or both. Or lots and lots of other things. This advice is so self-centered and myopic as to be absurd.

[@astromilk4426]

thank you for saying this. number 7 especially annoyed me

[@sfkeepay]

astromilk, It took decades for me to see number seven for what it is - not “merely” false, but probably the most destructive idea of modern times. It ultimately pits us against ourselves and each other, which is exactly what they want.

[@astromilk4426]

@@sfkeepay well put. its basically just conservative propaganda. theres so many studies that were done proving bootstrap theory is be a bunch of bullshit. it sucks because SOOOOO many people believe it to be true, even my parents who arent politically right leaning

[@sfkeepay]

astromilk, I think maybe it's because at some level, we all want to feel like we have at least some control over our own lives. I know I feel that way, even though I’ve come to see the world very differently. So it’s an easier sell. But that one great lie has tentacles everywhere. It's such a bedrock of our contemporary culture. It's a given - internalized, unexamined and powerfully defended almost as a reflex. Sorry....stream of consciousness. And, of course, it fits diabolically well with, and in support of, racism (and its “fathers”, casteism and status-consciousness, two ideas powerfully influencing our culture but even less acknowledged, and more taboo to discuss.) And your right to point to studies regarding notions including bootstrapping - it’s proof right there for anyone to read.

[@levelfourteen]

@@sfkeepay Number 7 is still accurate to me. Most people's passions are not only possible but have been done by others in even worse circumstances. It's still on you to make it happen despite all the stuff you said which is true. You accept the unfairness of the game. You choose to play or not. There's so many stories of people coming from nothing to becoming extraordinary. Someone does this everyday somewhere in the world. Despite their deficiencies we all them. If they can do it in a worse circumstances so can you. These people are living proof of it.And I'm not trying to be positive minded it's more about knowing you went for it and not living with the regret. Because you might not succeed at what you love.

[@t.brothers]

1. most people are scared of using their imagination 2. your dreams doesn’t really matter to anyone else 3. friends are relative to where you are in life 4. your potential increases with age 5. spontaneity is the sister of creativity 6. you forget the value of “touch” later on 7. most people don’t do what they love 8. many stop reading after college 9. people talk more than they listen 10. creativity takes practice 11. “success” is a relative term 12. you can’t change your parents 13. the only person you have to face in the morning is yourself 14. nothing feels as good as something you do from the heart 15. your potential is directly correlated to how well you know yourself 16. everyone who doubts you will always come back around 17. you are a reflection of the 5 people you spend the most time with 18. beliefs are relative to what you pursue 19. anything can be a vice 20. your propose is to be YOU

[@sharminjahan5289]

You have my gratitude ❤️

[@Changes.Nat.Constants]

thanks a lot!

[@mimibaker2022]

“Being great at something is a daily habit. You aren’t just born that way.” Brilliant!

[@dominikpavlov791]

#7 "The masses are not the ones who live the lives they dreamed of living. And the reason is because they didn't fight hard enough" lol that is incredibly stupid. I myself live a good life, I have meaningful relationships, I have a job I enjoy that pays well, I'm reasonably healthy. But I don't have all that because I fought hard, it's mostly because I got extremely lucky. I was fortunate enough to inherit some traits from my parents that allowed me to "make it" in the profession I wanted, I was fortunate enough to have my parents around to nurture my natural talents and shape me in a positive way, I was fortunate enough to be born in a country with public healthcare and good public schools, so even though I'm from a poor family (grew up in a rented studio in a shitty neighborhood), I could still have the stability and opportunities that aren't as broadly available in most parts of the world. To judge the effort solely based on the outcome, not accounting for other essential factors, is just very ignorant and logically flawed.

[@neceynecey4679]

You tell em Chad😷😂😷

[@gmchessplay9043]

Everyone is able to conjure up the life they desire. He said a life “they love” not a life society says is good for them.

[@cache780]

congrats, you're a rare exception. Next.

[@ingridplata2411]

Yeah, I found it quite a classist statement

[@andrewthompson530]

“You are your own evolving masterpiece, you are the sculpture and the sculptor”

[@tiborreszegi6185]

No.

[@healwithmarianna]

Yes

[@tiborreszegi6185]

@@healwithmarianna No. Its your turn.

[@BATMAN-pw5bz]

It's Batnan's turn. yes

[@SY-sp8uo]

The real wealth is the health and being surrounded by people who love you is more important than luxuries.

[@lreeher]

...and more important than virtue signalling "Classy."

[@Mockduck2020]

And I would think more motivating.

[@HouseFromSmartCity]

You’ll be surrounded by “people who love you” as long as you aren’t doing better than them. Most people can’t read when their “friends” secretly despise them or worse, only look at you as someone who keeps them company..mainly because they can’t stand to be alone with their own thoughts. Don’t believe me? Start a business. Still don’t believe me? Grow that business. Many get pleasure out of seeing you do bad..that’s why TMZ is who they are. Take the gray pill 💪🏼: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jpjGgmCQnJWMl5o

[@hectornonayurbusiness2631]

100%

[@DTM45]

People closest to you are the ones who hurt you the most

[@michellesun-forbes30under38]

*your potential increases with age* - what a life changing perspective!!

[@CYMRU619]

I think you start to realise this more often when you start your professional career. My older colleagues are much more skilled and knowledgeable, experience is so valuable in all walks of life.

[@gmchessplay9043]

I thought this one was obvious? How can you be good at anything without experience?

[@im3phirebird81]

Indeed!

[@im3phirebird81]

@@gmchessplay9043 Yes but it is part of how we influence our own subconscious and what then ultimately comes to pass. Like someone expecting to get a belly after turning 30 and someone telling him or herself over and over that after 35 you start deteriorating and that will exactly be what you experience. Our beliefs and convictions are stronger than we think.

[@gmchessplay9043]

@@im3phirebird81 Yeah, that’s unfortunate. I guess I’m one of the few who actually relishes the idea of getting older, I imagine my body will react to the way I maintain it and I’ll have much more experience to draw from in everyday life.

[@q.ananlaulleeray2024]

Every year we pass the anniversary of our birth, unknown to many, we also passed the anniversary of our death, the anniversary of the last time someone speaks of you, and the moment that we are forgotten.

[@Y1Q2]

That’s deep.

[@zeroceiling]

You cannot have an anniversary of an event that has yet to happen. It’s like celebrating the day mankind landed on Mars....today.

[@q.ananlaulleeray2024]

@@zeroceiling You do always, every date is an anniversary of some event. We don't need to give it importance till it becomes so on a personal level. July 4th is a holiday fir americans or is it the worst day of a woman's life that bares an unknown future of a few who were effected by it and a most undesirable life for one person due to that person is the constant reminder of that night. There were 137, 685 babies born on sept 11, 2001, but due to relegion and politics we took away their birthday and gave it some other meaning other than just being another birthday, its now more not of any act of the ones born but when they were. 264, 400 + people died in the time it took me to write this. It will be forgotten and dismissed.

[@bestexperience7534]

Not really considering it hasn't happened and we aren't guaranteed to die either

[@q.ananlaulleeray2024]

@@bestexperience7534 Ever wonder if all the people that we witnessed being born and dieing, within our lives, do we appear to be immortal to them ? We are not really destined to die but we are destined to live . The simplest thing that we never wanted, but when we aquire it, it is almost immpossible to imagine not having it, or what was it like before we aquired it . We ourself nay never die but everyone around us, though be ye an average Joe, or an outrageous hoe, quiet and quaint, sinner or saint, there is a date that states you were here, but now ya ain't ! Dying really can screw up my plans by showing up before my dream date or that test I was not ready for, a bit late.

[@catkeys6911]

16. That kid who used to bully you will probably come asking for a job. But resist shooting yourself when he more likely ends up being your boss.

[@nugzila4170]

A lot of bullies become management. SMH

[@memesthatarelit4987]

@@nugzila4170 true, despite the horrible nature of the bully some of them have the charisma.

[@tsurutuneado5981]

Yep, bullies are self confident, kinda narcissists and a tad sociopaths, the profile of a succesful employer like Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos

[@beaunicorn2270]

Who says "after this point" is "too late"? I believe it's never too late to learn anything in life. Life is a journey not a race.

[@beaunicorn2270]

@Şahanşah Bnoarg I'm really sorry.😘

[@beaunicorn2270]

@Şahanşah Bnoarg 👏

[@BeYounique...Maryanne]

This is beautiful! I am 60 and agree with all of it. I'm living my dream life because I've gone against the masses and fought hard for what I wanted to do. It was hurtful, but also okay to see friends slip away as I grew. New friends come into my life. And you still hear from old ones from time to time. I hope to live to at least 90 to continue on this beautiful path of love, creativity, and success. 💖

[@chynnaurl]

I love seeing this! You can’t wait around for everyone to live your life.

[@acornsucks2111]

Not a happy life, but a meaningful, or purposeful life.

[@omaralkammash9225]

Contentment is the core of happiness. Unhappiness has rejection at its core, rejecting the past forms depression, rejecting the present causes boredom, while rejecting the future instills fear It's all about rejection. It's that simple, forget the past, don't ponder on what could have happened or why things happened the way it did, be spontaneous, let go off daily routines, try new things, and fear not, for everything will happen the way they are.

[@poolsnookered3446]

This is typical science driven psychology babble that gets people looking inward and at themselves missing much of the joy of life comes from our joy of others and caring and giving.

[@k27ism]

Truuuuuueee

[@amye1642]

Tapping into a local artists community brought deep friendships, playfulness and creativity into my life. 15/10, highly, highly recommend.

[@Matt_Mf]

What do you think would be the best way to find other local content creators

[@darkholyPL]

'That girl, who didn't want to date you, will come around once she sees where you're headed' Yea, you don't want that kind of a person in your life. She only started caring when she saw you might be successful and make money - that there is what we call a gold digger. Stay away.

[@nixodian]

Some facts some obvious errors like those who doubt you always come back to you

[@gavasiarobinssson5108]

What a bunch of stupid cliches!

[@steviesevieria1868]

True, just a KZbinr rounding up some tired tropes to build his channel. I’m out.

[@devilofether6185]

“Many people stop reading after college" About this, I think reading itself isn't the virtue implied by this statement; I think the deep introspection and critical thinking required to develop an understanding of a written medium's dialogue without being shown it explicitly, is the value that is implied with it. I say this, because I don't read a lot, but I feel this way in mediums that are more "accessible" to me like movies, video games, and youtube videos (some more than others). What do you think, is this a wise statement, or do I need to pick up a book?

[@Well_away]

You're right nowadays it doesn't have to be a book I mean, you can learn now from the movies you watch,video games, videos and some informative sites. The habit of reading and learning is what makes sense to it. But others read or watch something just for entertainment not really learning anything

[@hspurr5922]

It sounds to me like you've ticked all the ones about knowing yourself! I think it should more be inferred as keep learning, or pick up something new or mentally challenging. After all, re-reading the Harry Potters for the millionth time isn't going to improve you as a person, no matter how much you enjoy them. Perhaps a middle ground would be wondering around a bookshop or doing a reading quiz online and see what sorts of topics catch your eye or are completely alien to you and then watch videos on them?

[@Randomthingsilove]

Reading is different than watching and listening lol so yes read a little here and there your brain loves it

[@andrewscott7728]

Masterpieces are finished things. If you want to keep evolving, I'd say don't be a masterpiece.

[@lebronjames7041]

I somewhat disagree with # 17 , I have no friends and I’m surrounded by lazy /no ambitious people in my house . Yet I’m the TOTAL OPPOSITE, but I do agree with needing to surround myself with the people that want to grow too.

[@RyanPedersen]

Seems like it's better to focus on skills other people find useful rather than a pure pursuit of your interests. You get the satisfaction of helping others and most often the financial rewards that come along. It's ok to have hobbies too but a big mistake people make is trying to turn a hobby into a job that no one wants to pay them for.

[@angelus_solus]

"If all you do is follow the same routine every day, you will never leave yourself open to moments of sudden discovery." That's a laugh for those who really have no other choice.

[@Luis-fl3kz]

This video is mostly very cool and all but it's very misleading in terms of meritocracy The masses don't live their dreams because life didn't allow them to, and not because people are lazy. Also, the bully won't always kneel for forgiveness and your high school crush won't come back crawling for you, life isn't that simple. And if you do succeed in life (which I think is very possible mind you), you should understand that you didn't get there without any help and that there weren't any villains plotting evil plans for your failure (except for the system), there were only people living their lives.

[@steviesevieria1868]

Bullies only kneel when they are staggering up from a powerful kick in the face... literally or figuratively. The only value of the unrequited crush is as a steppingstone on the path to finding a meaningful relationship.

[@robertmaxa6631]

Regarding #16. That girl who didn't want to date you, still won't date you, if you're still in a relatively poor position.

[@k27ism]

It's funny because now that i have grown from my relatively prior under-developed state, i know what value i have and dating the girl who didnt want to date me earlier isn't that big of a deal, nor is it a priority.

[@johannesvanderhorst9778]

If a girls willingness to date you depends on your position, she isn't worth dating anyway.

[@AlexBlank]

Sometimes we need to learn by living before we can live through learning.

[@waelfaraj6705]

When you are present , you are open to the infinite spaciousness within you and without you . You are open to wider scope of perception to learn , remember and relearn ... This is why it is said that having pure awareness and an open mind detached from preconceived and biased ideas allows us to see more clearly and impartially things and reality as they really are ...

[@acornsucks2111]

You can also learn by observing.

[@healwithmarianna]

Yep

[@kennethkovach6203]

I'm getting really tired of that "drawing hand" animation. Too many people are using it, it's distracting, and there are better ways of presenting graphics

[@tadghsmith1457]

Yeah. It was cute about 5 years ago when the only way to do it was to actually draw by hand. Now it’s just a video plugin.

[@Sunset553]

@@tadghsmith1457 I’ve always wondered how it worked. I liked it, but I can’t draw.

[@davidbutler4582]

One of the best things I’ve ever listened to. I know there are many books videos etc Simplest video but absolutely helpful. Instantly made me realise where I’ve been going wrong. I knew all this stuff all along just forgot. I will listen to this once a day until I forget the opposite and remember how amazing I am and how amazing life is

[@Malt454]

No one HAS to care about your dream as much as you do; it's no reflection on the value of the dream. Everyone who doubts you will always come back around? Sorry, complete nonsense, and you shouldn't want, wait for, or need their validation.

[@nenakills]

I'm not sure he's saying to wait for them. I think when you reach your definition of success because you are in your own power, people see that and feel it. They naturally are attracted to you. That doesn't mean you have to accept them back. If it conflicts with letting go of people and things that dont serve you than make that decision appropriately. Choices. Perspective.

[@Malt454]

@@nenakills - I think the idea presupposes that the doubters are going to hang around to somehow someday validate you - the kid who used to bully you and the girl who wouldn't date you have their own lives to live and decisions to make too; whether for good or bad, people do move on. Karma is a religious/philosophical idea, not a physical fact. There are people who continually doubted you who will never know, or care, whether you ever became a success and who you will never see again; such is life. The idea that they'll come back in some situation where you're suddenly in the driver's seat, much less that "it ALWAYS happens that way" and "ALL the doubters will eventually come asking for help" is just a huge leap for me, particularly when you should "just stay focused on you" anyway. Some people would say that success is the best revenge, but truly successful people don't worry about things as petty as revenge. It just seems like an odd inclusion in the list, when other people's doubts should be the least of your concerns in any case.

[@steviesevieria1868]

@@Malt454 the whole list is just a compilation of things said elsewhere....some have validity, some are stupid. I’m blocking this channel from my recommendations, ymmv Edit to fix “autocorrect “

[@Malt454]

@@steviesevieria1868 - I give the channel credit that it at least tries to provide good food for thought - as opposed to just lifting other people's video content for entertainment. It is sometimes hit and miss and gives too-ready endorsement to ideas that should at least be taken with a grain of salt.

[@SavageFoxProductions]

I think you should rethink some of these lessons because one if a kid enjoys hurting or even killing animals or being violent what if that crap makes them happy what if causing pain to others brings them Joy sorry to be the one to burst your happy thought bubble but you could be inspiring a bunch of sadistic people and not even know it

[@gpetheri]

Your dice is wrong, the 2 is opposite the 5..... The opposing sides of a dice add up 7. There, you learned something else.

[@sharon2764]

People talk more than they listen.

[@thomast8539]

21. Find faith in Christ. Everything that each of us do here on Earth only matters to ourselves and the Lord. In the end - and yes, there will be an end for every single one of us - we will have to account for our faith or lack thereof.

[@k27ism]

Ooooooh you just had to say it! But it is true. Faith in Christ is part of my purpose in life because I have seen how empty life really is without him in it with me.

[@thomast8539]

@@k27ism stay strong and live your best life - blessings to you and yours - strange how so many try to fill the void in their lives with all kinds of things when the answer is so simple, huh?

[@williandelucca]

well this should be a mandatory video to watch after you are 15.

[@fjb4932]

15 ? I started to learn at 35 ! ...

[@olybolyolyboly154]

@@fjb4932 wow us young people are lucky to have technology have a nice day

[@ntactime_w3488]

22 here

[@cerimite7674]

Add the quantum sciences for myself. At 72 year old, I feel that there is where solutions for a new source of energy will evolve.

[@ukgaragegold]

The more I seek wisdom and understanding in life. The more depressed I get. Ignorance is bliss but not always profitable

[@hederahelix4600]

People don't do the things they love because they simply didn't fight hard enough? This one really upset me. you are laying the blame for not achieving dreams or goals completely on that person without considering that external circumstances usually have a large part as well as luck. this is irresponsible and can cause someone who is already down to slide further into depression.

[@rds7696]

Yeah, same

[@midnight_observe4054]

You’re applying this too personally where this is a general guideline. This can apply to someone with depression as the “fighting” aspect is taking accountability over your actions (or in-actions) and get help to get out of depression. The point is that people want things handed to them and for them to be easy; people are unwilling to make changes that will directly help them achieve their goals bc they take the easy way out. A great quote: Until the pains of stagnation overweight the pain of change, you will always remain the same

[@tsurutuneado5981]

21. Don't accept every "things people realize too late in life" video as a universal truth. This video has good points but it's outdated for today's society. But so is every other video like this one. No matter how much you believe in yourself, that girl who refused to date you won't come around chasing after you, that's not how it works. Oh, the kid who used to bully you in school? You won't believe me but the truth is that you will probably end up working for them. He bullied you because you were an easy target for your insecurities, while he was confident and kinda narcissist. But self confidence and a slightly out of spec moral compass are the prerequisites to be an employer. Take every video like this with a grain of salt because at the end of the day there is another imperfect human like us behind it.

[@Jakepf]

This pisses me off. I've never been able to have a good relationship in any sense. It always feels wrong. 😵😭

[@KristijanBenic]

And who's to say that you need it to be happy. Change the blueprint of what you think happiness is and yourself. Be happy by your own terms

[@Jakepf]

@@KristijanBenic I agree, I just meant friendships. Most are vague friendships

[@coleliocontent695]

Bro just answered the meaning of life

[@pats3714]

It's all about taking chances and not making life changing mistakes, a difficult balance to achieve, like diving into that empty swimming pool when you're pissed out of your head at 3am in the morning, is probably a bad idea, but the odd sexual or financial mishap might be OK (small mistakes are OK when you're young, you have plenty of time to recover, an expert, after all, is a guy who's made lots of mistakes). It's all about luck, at the end of the day, but one thing's for sure, unless you put yourself in a volatile situation, where luck can affect you it won't happen. Never mind, you can always become an accountant or something. Ha! Zzzzz!

[@TechnoW1zard]

That last one is far too worldly and totally abandons the idea of God as creator of all

[@peterfallon4018]

#6 is WHOLLY untrue. Many coal workers, construction laborers, & other jobs that require BACK-BREAKING work often never had the opportunity to get education/job- specific training to transfer so ‘hard work’ has absolutely NOTHING to do w/ it. I like this channel & each are entitled to mistakes but the error of this POV affects far more than that one stmnt. Good bye.

[@cassieoz1702]

16 is utter BS

[@thomast8539]

yep

[@rickw6660]

There is no right or wrong? Really? You shouldn't say things like that because it is not true.

[@welder9163]

Learn to not be so self centered and selfish!! Learn from your mistakes. Find what your good at/a skilled trade before your 21. Educate yourself. Be an Asset to your family rather than a Liability! Learn the word Respect. Don't be a Follower. Be a positive mentor to anyone. Do what makes you happy. Find hobbies. Life will always be a challenge that makes you stronger.

[@rockabillyrevolution]

It took me 50 years to understand this video! many thanks!

[@speedomars]

Lotta gaagaa. Here is a list like this one just as meaningless: 1. you buy pants to fit YOU not someone else 2. you are what you eat 3. a stranger is someone you havn't met yet 4. if you look for trouble you will find it 5. if you live in a trailerpark then you will become trailerpark trash 6. if you belive in things you do not understand then you will suffer 7. age is how you act 8. if you abuse yourself you will abuse others 9. nothing worthwhile is easily obtained 10. like a shark that stops swimming, you die if you stop learning

[@idkdamn978]

A bunch of fortune cookie nonsense. The people who doubt you will always come back? What are you even talking about? You also day that you are a reflection of the 5 people closest to you but you also say friends drift apart as you change. Well which is it or which comes first? Yes it's important to keep learning and experiencing things in life. Most people are too burnt out or too lazy to pursue their best choices in life. You're song nice things but they're often contradictory and unsubstantiated

[@grendo45]

"The only person you have to face in the morning is you" thats a good one

[@grendo45]

"anything can be a vice" i like that one too

[@Candlewick14]

Mt brother wanted to be a writer. He followed his heart and his creativity. He is broke and sad often and living in a third world country because it's cheaper. My point is many are called, few are chosen. There's no shame in pursuing an ordinary secure life.

[@juanjoseph]

18. is wrong tho. Example: Murdering and raping a person is ALWAYS wrong.

[@galinavandam2701]

I’m sorry but number 7 is bullshit. Some people can’t do what they love because of bad luck.

[@BaphomentIsAwsome666]

"Life is experienced forward but understood backwards"- Soren Kierkegaard

[@k27ism]

So create a journal and collect your daily wisdom in a principle and narrative, while comparing it to what you learn from others, and from the highest source of truth i know of and that is the Holy Bible.

[@lizziebkennedy7505]

Your specific dream, no. But dreaming is a human condition and all decent people should care and want to support that shared reality.

[@Cashhhhhhhhhhhhhh]

Im more than happy i cant change my parents i love them ❤

[@annmureithi9394]

Great lessons. Thanks for making the video. Number 16 is not true though. Some people may come back, others won't.

[@reb_d1143]

Does anyone really like watching the speeded up hand draw the pictures? I find it so annoying.

[@sitcomchristian6886]

Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?

[@jaredrogersword]

Thank you for these videos - they're a great reminder that it's never too late, or too difficult to make those small changes that will make a big difference for your life

[@waelfaraj6705]

When you are present , you are open to the infinite spaciousness within you and without you . You are open to wider scope of perception to learn , remember and relearn ... This is why it is said that having pure awareness and an open mind detached from preconceived and biased ideas allows us to see more clearly and impartially things and reality as they really are ...

[@sfbnnncmv]

the #1 life lesson of them all on GODS planet is do NOT!!! become a liberal... 👍🏼

[@judegrindvoll8467]

Seriously? You’re putting a girl who didn’t want to date you in the same category as a bully...? There is no malicious intent in a person not being attracted to another person. This just smacks of misogyny.

[@BlaCkLungz93]

Yeah the only point i didnt agree with. Some may hurt more than others, and some do it on purpose to feel powerful but calling it bulliyng is too far.

[@KujoTV]

Number 16 uuuuhhhhh ...NO! Good stuff otherwise.

[@dawrightleo13]

I absolutely love and appreciate this channel. This video just lifted my spirits, thank you!

[@charleswoods2996]

"What is the meaning of Life?" Me: "Inner Peace."

[@MikeyPaper]

Nothing really concrete here. A few good points but nothing much.

[@drbonesshow1]

They learn too late that each day is one day closer to death. They also don't learn much physics, but then I'm a physics professor; so what do I know?

[@steviesevieria1868]

Someone I know wants to get one of those portable room coolers. No external exhaust. I try to explain the physics of it, but they don’t get it!

[@drbonesshow1]

@@steviesevieria1868 In this thermodynamics experiment: tell them to stand door open in front of a small refrigerator to feel the cool while their hand reaches around the back of the unit to feel the warmth. You are right: they still won't get it.

[@skwozies3083]

Where do you teach at? Also, can I ask you some stupid metaphysical and philosophical questions that may be related to your field of expertise? I am trying to work out some thoughts of mine and Physics is certainly at the first principles I must address. Thank you for considering my request.

[@drbonesshow1]

@@skwozies3083 Questions aren't stupid only the person asking them so go ahead. BTW: As a physics professor, I know that I'm stupid, but not ignorant of my stupidity: unlike the herds of simple minds out there (who don't have a clue about how stupid they really are).

[@skwozies3083]

@@drbonesshow1 OK, so here are my thoughts. I want to know if this violates physics or can be disproven in any way. While I do not think it is a scientific approach and more of a philosophical approach I am wondering about the beginning of our universe and what may lie beyond our universe. So let us assume we get rid of all "things" Every particle, every motion of particles, etc... Everything we can call a thing. what still exists? I am thinking Space as pure distance. I.E. The hypothetical distance between 2 or more hypothetical particles. In other words, there is no wall out there or border saying this is how far you can go. Also, Time as in Pure duration. Or the hypothetical movement of our particle at one point in space at T=0 versus our hypothetical particles new position at T=1. As there is no border in space there is no clock saying this is when the first thing can begin moving and this is when the last thing will move. Hence space and time which are both mathematical relationships exist in infinity and eternity. While this space and time would appear vastly different than our own spacetime in the Einstein sense I cannot seem to do away with them conceptually. I also think such a system would require infinite potential energy but I cannot place my finger on why so I will put a pin in that for now. Either way, if energy cannot be created or destroyed it would fit in with such an eternal view of the greater cosmos. What else might we have? Some type of laws of physics (again vastly different than our own), and hence mathematics. Such laws of physics would be required if we postulate the movement of our hypothetical particles. I view math as infinite as well. It certainly has infinities. For example, no matter how high the number you can always add another 1, also 0 appears as an infinity to me. With Mathematical relationships we get fields. This gives us the field interactions that may have created our universe such as inflation and quark fields, etc... Basically I am thinking the entire universe is built on mathematics and it is the very essence or nature of reality. Like a fractal is simple repeating math over space and time. This also appears to me as infinity. Does this fit with your view of physics. Can this be debunked or is it a decent model of what we may be dealing with. Also, can we make a prediction using this model? For example, if the Cosmos and our universe are a fractal then we should see fractal patterns on the largest and smallest scale right? Thank you for your time and thoughts on this.

[@steverlfs]

What about serving God?

[@klarahaplova9098]

That is your own personal belief/goal, just how success or happiness is a goal of others, thus it wasnt stated that specifically.

[@nickphaux]

So you think believing in a god is an improvement, right? Well many of us simply don't, and think people ignoring facts and common sense to suit their narrative is bad whether it's religion or not... Personally I think religion is a complete waste of time (for me) so I don't hold it to the same standard as the rest of these, however I see no issue with people that do get value from it. If 'god' makes you feel special and gives you fulfillment, go for it! I just think it's RIDICULOUS to compare it to the rest of these, especially since so many non believers are doing just fine or even better. Also consider the amount of ex-Christians who've talked about being FAR happier and accepted once LEAVING the religion, not while they were in it..

[@nickphaux]

Also what about the other 1000 gods and religions? Those ones are all fake? But yours just happens to be the real one?? Come on dude, tell me you don't see the issue here..... 😂. I don't wanna come off as invalidating anyone but I'm just giving my opinion on how these things in the video and 'god' aren't comparable at all. ❤

[@andrewactingwayne]

#1

[@Aku_Dafi]

Sometimes I ask myself, "What is my purpose to life ?"

[@manafro2714]

21. Most people have no clue about life (or anything), so it's pointless to depend on them for answers, just like kids who don't study for an exam and look at each others' tests to cheat but they all repeat the same mistakes in their own exam papers.

[@steviesevieria1868]

Especially true of these conspiracy movements. People are sheep.

[@mytypeofjordan]

It's kind of discouraging how important reading seems to be when I'm dyslexic so it takes so much time and effort compared to typical readers. Audio books just don't feel the same though, so I may have to just bite the bullet and struggle for a bit because I really used to enjoy reading.

[@tonycarpaccio9550]

I'm a lawyer and I despise reading. I haven't read a book or even tried in five years or so. I don't think it's "important" whatsoever, although reading is crucial for my job. I find that my friends who read a lot speak always in reference to concepts that come from what they've read, this appears limiting to me and lacking in creativity.

[@jerry-cw9yw]

turn your book upside down

[@truthlove2913]

You forgot Lord Jesus and the Bible. Big mistake.

[@thomast8539]

I concur.

[@k27ism]

Accepting Jesus into my life as Lord and Saviour is the best decision i could ever make in any reality i exist in.

[@StudySessionYT]

Love these videos man! Very motivational!

[@Mr._Slave]

Very easy things to say. Go to poor places and live like how they live there. I don't think you still have time to do what makes you happy coz you're too busy finding ways to be alive or your family alive. And worse, other people will do something bad to you and to others because they also need to survive the hardships of life. That's the reality living as poor in poor places/countries.

[@JeromeProductions]

that one about the parents hits hard... knowing how much my mom gets on me and criticizes me about every little thing

[@mynthis]

16 definitely should redone as it’s only half true, like status has an impact on your desirability, but circumstances on both persons could easily lead you out of that direction, “ie- conflicts, convenience, association and a change social personality”

[@Skjeggspir]

17. But I spend time with far less than 5 people…

[@zita-lein]

Well, there you have it: a how-to manual to the narcissism of the age.

[@hairohukosu433]

Ok boomer

[@SimpleLifeSG]

Fully agree no one care about your dream. You believe it just go for it. Like👍

[@RYE-ge3lg]

Love ur content bro! Keep up the good work✨

[@tk9839]

All easier said than done especially if one is a simpleton...most ppl are complex individuals with unique psychological profiles and experiences and unfortunately for a lot of us these days financial stress is overwhelming making it difficult to "better" our selves.

[@palinanavitskaya6133]

That's true, but at the same time, the process (I find) is often so simple. Hence, I find forgetting about all the hard parts and focusing on what's in front of me makes it easier. Best of luck to you!

[@grayisgood]

It's about looking inward, learning about who you are, choosing who you want to be.

[@waelfaraj6705]

The last tip number 20 resembles some quotes in a book called the law of one ... All is one and one is all... Love and light from Lebanon to the world...💚💙❤🤗😍🕉🏳️‍🌈🇱🇧♾♾♾♾♾♾♾♾ and infinite blessings ...