The BIGGEST Barrier to Shadow Integration | Shadow Work Secrets

[@TheDiamondNet]

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[@chance5745]

Shadow work is important. I am training as a counsellor (3rd year) and have slowly been integrating aspects of my shadow. I can now better recognise when I am being inauthentic, manipulative, pretentious, critical of others,... I think it is vital that we acknowledge that even our 'role models', who we hold in high regard, have a shadow. As Sean says in the film 'Good Will Hunting'. "You're not perfect, Sport, and let me save you the suspense. This girl you met - she isn't perfect either." P.S. The trailer to your husband's movie looks great :-)

[@daniel4647]

Cool, I'll watch that movie, no incentive needed. Can't promise it'll be on the release date, but I'm definitely watching it.

[@TheDiamondNet]

Thank you!

[@krystle8534]

I was just thinking about this today, how trying to be "good" and righteous all the time actually makes me less tolerant and more judgmental to other people when they don't live up to the standards I'm holding myself to. Thank you☯

[@TheDiamondNet]

Very synchronistic! Thank you for watching the video. 🙂

[@PrachiRanjan-zz8dr]

Awesome content as always Though I was thinking... In one of your videos on Ego Transcendence vs Ego Repression, you talk about how it is important to have a strong ego, and so I assume that also need for us to form an identity. But in this video, you told how it is important to be more fluid and depolarized with your identity. So I want to understand how does one go about defining themselves and having a strong ego while also embracing their fluid nature.

[@joannk5259]

This is the best explanation of shadow work that I’ve encountered. You are very clear and relatable, thank you!

[@pellegrinopwns]

Thank you for posting these!

[@franciscoramirezespanagarc7974]

I can totally relate to your 12 year old self. My mother made me feel stupid (sometimes even called me an animal) every time I used my strength and stood up for myself. It has been very difficult to enforce my boundaries.

[@franciscoramirezespanagarc7974]

There’s a Netflix show called “Cobra Kai” that illustrates the complementary opposites and show that in some situations is best to take a passive approach, but in other situations is best to “strike first, strike hard, no mercy”.

[@TheDiamondNet]

It's important to have access to both sides of a that particular polarity. In the Tree of Life, there is one dichotomy that translates roughly to "severity vs mercy". And if you have all severity... the forces of severity take over. But if you have all mercy... the forces of severity also take over because there is no severity to keep back the forces of severity. It's related to the paradox of tolerance where, if a society tolerates intolerance, the society just becomes tyrannical and intolerant.

[@bowskopfvisuals-tl4ky]

really good, helpful video Emerald thank you! Both theoretical and practical

[@Justineyedia]

"When one tries desperately to be good and wonderful and perfect, then all the more the shadow develops a definite will to be black and evil and destructive. People cannot see that; they are always striving to be marvellous, and then they discover that terrible destructive things happen which they cannot understand, and they either deny that such facts have anything to do with them, or if they admit them, they take them for natural afflictions, or they try to minimize them and to shift the responsibility elsewhere. The fact is that if one tries beyond one’s capacity to be perfect, the shadow descends into hell and becomes the devil." Carl Jung

[@TheDiamondNet]

Great quote!

[@Crazee7]

This is my favorite video of yours I’ve watched so far. Very informative, deep and enlightening. You covered these topics in such a way that it just resonated with ease. We are the living Tao 💛 thank you for all of your work and love put into your art and service to the whole. Bless you.

[@Lu-ot8hs]

Another awesome content , thank you so much for all your efforts making this video , every word is calculated and worth it , so much informations that worth Gold , thank you again , I feel like it was always my mission on earth to ascend my unconscious mind , this was beyond helpful 💚🍃🙏

[@TheDiamondNet]

Thank you! I’m glad you liked the video. 🙂

[@alineanneoliveira]

Thank you so much for that

[@TheDiamondNet]

You're welcome!

[@gulruerdem97]

Ahh dads and daughters... I realized I had grown an animus vessel for both myself and my dad. The vessel exploded and I made peace with my anima✨

[@Jaxie.99]

Very helpful, thanks…. There’s something wrong with me vs. it may be aspects of myself originally meant to serve me that have gotten pushed away or distorted that CAN serve me now if I understand what they are.

[@heartwisdomlove]

the male identification that you were talking about is the Pisces archetype

[@TheDiamondNet]

That's interesting. I could see some resonant Piscean themes in my life and in my medicine journeys.

[@atulgokuyamaha7]

I have two persons living inside of me...One the dominant one can control me with amnesia..Last year i found he wouldn't let me know what my real identity is..This personality can snatch my thoughts in simple words it can make forgot my thoughts if he dont like it..Its controls me with amnesia.

[@TheDiamondNet]

When it comes to Shadow Aspects and the things that they do, no matter how destructive the behavior is, there is always some self-serving motive behind the behaviors. So, you might benefit from asking yourself the question "In what ways is this amnesia meant to protect or serve me (even if it backfires and causes more harm)"

[@atulgokuyamaha7]

@@TheDiamondNet Yes there was a reason is that i fall under in LGBT recently i figured out that i am bisexual plus demisexual before this i was living a straight life.Until i met a girl she is like a copy of me dressing colour code thinking somehow behavior everything was matched when i first saw her the first thing came in my mind i somehow knew her.she is like me for 4 month i couldnt recall what i want to tell her it feels that my mind just blocked or wandered away when i was verge to tell about myself.Gradually when i know about her i found out we are the same copy of each other in terms of traits.even our name also somehow similarities ATUL me ABHA her.We also have have multiple personalies as well.she has more personalities than me.I will never found out about myself if i didnt met her.

[@mmccrownus2406]

Those are foreign spirits. Basically you have been invaded. @@atulgokuyamaha7

[@Acquisition1913]

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[@childofgod5153]

I have a criticism, but I do not mean it as scorn or ridicule, I simply wish to better understand. You say to only express the positive, and to only be aware of the negative, to have our fruits be positive but our roots be within the positive and the negative. But if all things are perfect as they are, could I not express my qualities in negative and detrimental ways and still call it as part of the perfect whole (since you said that everything is already perfect, this would include the "really good" and the "horribly wicked")? If, according to the Dao, there is positive and negative in all things, and in that we should embrace, then why should I express my negativity into that which is positive? Why not be self destructive, if indeed I should embrace it all? By looking to the positive light of a negative quality and expressing it positively, are you not rejecting the negative expression, in so doing the very thing you have preached against? I guess my overall question is, what does it matter if we express it in positive or negative ways if you say everything is perfect as is? Also, I have another question pertaining to your previous video that I watched. It has to do with meeting unmet needs. If the need is met at the unconscious level, you solved the core of the issue, yes? So, why must you also meet that same need externally if the internal need is already met? And what happens if you don't meet that external need even though you already did in your internal world?

[@TheDiamondNet]

On the absolute level, both positive and negative are part of the wholeness of that which is. And that includes all things including actions. So, even if you decided to be the most horrible person on the planet, it would never invalidate you on the level of your being. And that is important to hold that perspective with Shadow Work because holding that perspective is part of realizing unconditional love. And the more unconditionally loving you are the more integration and oneness there will be within yourself and with reality at large. That’s true in the Dao on the level of the circle (which represents the absolute)… but within that circle, there is also duality contained with it. This represents the relative. And the world of relative duality functions differently than the absolute wholeness. And there are consequences for negative behaviors in the relative that lead to more pain and suffering for yourself and others. In the world of dichotomies… there are actions that are objectively healthier and less healthy. And there are actions that objectively produce more suffering and less suffering. And there are actions that produce more harmony and less harmony. And if wise actions are actions that lead to greater levels of health and harmony in yourself and in the wider world, it is wisest to express in constructive ways. But it’s not a requirement in the eyes of the absolute. It’s just the wisest choice if you don’t wish to maximize your suffering and the suffering of others. And of course it is my personal preference to reduce suffering and advocate as such… otherwise I’d just hoard all these insights to myself and say “carry on” as I would be indifferent to ideas of whether I help or don’t. So, this is the paradox… everything is already whole and perfect as it is AND nothing is perfect and a lot could be made to be healthier and more harmonious. And it’s important to develop the wisdom to know which of these paradoxical paradigms to function from and when. It’s important not to zig when you’re meant to zag… and not to zag when you’re meant to zig.

[@TheDiamondNet]

And for your other question, some need must be met externally… like the need for human connection. Some needs are purely internal… but others are external (often with an internal component). This is why I recommend working from the inside out.

[@childofgod5153]

@TheDiamondNet Ah, I see! Thanks for explaining it that way. Now I understand more fully how the external can complement the internal.

[@childofgod5153]

@TheDiamondNet Ah, I think I see it now. So basically, in the realm of God, all is as One, and all is perfect. It's all apart of this life on this earth, death, and everything in between. All is as it should be in that grand and cosmic scale of earth and time. It's all One. This so reminds me of Robert A. Johnson in his book, Inner Work, when he said, "One of my patients what is driving on the freeway early in the morning on his way to work, with the morning sun rising in the eastern sky. Suddenly he was seized by one of these experiences (a visionary experience). The sun turned into a sun wheel, with spokes radiating out and giving birth to all the myriad forms of life and human concerns and activities. His attention was so riveted by the sun wheel in front of his eyes that he had to pull the car over and stop until the Active Imagination finished and he could get back into the physical world again. He knew, as he looked at the sun wheel, that all the separate elements of his life, and all the jumble of life around him, flowed out of, and back to, one source. In that moment he could see that there was only unity and that there could only be unity in all things." So, this person would have had a vision of The Absolute. A birds eye-view of the whole picture. Yet still, on the human level, the things we do matter. There is harmony and there is disunity, and we have to choose which side we'll be on. But in the ultimate sense, it doesn't really matter, is that correct? But it does matter in our relative human space. I hope this is at least somewhat correct. I also want to thank you for taking time out of your day to type put all that for me. You didn't have to respond, but you did anyway, so I appreciate that. Thank you.

[@TheDiamondNet]

Yes! Exactly! In the realm of the sun, all is one! In the realm of the moon (and Earth)... there are two sides... a dark side and a light side.

[@tulipssssssss]

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[@kNOwYouAndMe]

So if I find a murderer or rapist in my inner self should I embrace and act on that? Btw Im not being sarcastic Im genuinely curious and Im only 2 minutes into the video btw. Thanks in advance.

[@cobylyons4439]

Ya, hopefully you’ve watched all the way through, because she addresses that concern. Embracing does NOT equal acting on it. She explains that when you notice those negative emotions and instincts, you look at the root causes of them (scarcity as in greed, her specific example, need for connection and love, or need for control - usually based on fear - and explore those.

[@kNOwYouAndMe]

@@cobylyons4439 This video helped alot. Thank you for encouraging me to watch the rest of the video. It makes sense and Im gonna be ok.

[@TheDiamondNet]

Hi Ethan. I think you've seen the part that Coby was talking about in the comment thread already. But yes... you'd want to look for underlying root causes of the negative behaviors. In fact, a good rule of thumb is that 'if your understanding of the behavior coming from the Shadow still seems negative, you haven't gotten to the root yet and you need to explore deeper until you find the benevolent motive.' One thing that I've experienced in my medicine journeys is that, no matter how horrible an action is on the surface, there is always something innocent and perfect at its deepest roots. But through the mangling of the will (via trauma and as a means of adaptation), we can end up WAY out of alignment with that deeper perfection. And this can lead to negative behaviors (including monstrous behaviors). But you can always find the roots in what is perfect and whole. It's like the Dao. The true nature of the Dao is wholeness and perfection. Both within it, you can have expressions of the best and worst. So, if you're looking for integration and wholeness... you would have to discover how the negative expressions are a symptom of fragmentation, ignorance, and getting out of alignment with the deepest and truest will, which is always unconditionally loving, whole, and perfect. Like a perfect mirror that reflects perfect innocent unconditional love... but that has gotten shattered by dualistic circumstances and now the reflection of perfection looks like a distorted monster in the shattered mirror. But that is only the reflection... the perfection is still there.

[@kNOwYouAndMe]

@@TheDiamondNet Yes thank you so much this helps alot 😭

[@limitlessfelh1109]

You unconditionally love it. Don't try rejecting it as a part of you. Because once you love it you can control it. Just like an untamed dog can be ferocious at first but once it's loved and trained it becomes a cute puppy still with the ability to become a monster but now it's controllable, something like that.

[@sumandaderwal4197]

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[@sean640]

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