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[@ruthers251]

We had planned our wedding and had already sent out invitations when we saw a house we wanted to buy. So we had a quickie wedding in the chapel, bought the house, moved in, and had our wedding and reception on the planned date. So the same pastor married us twice within two months. Worked great. 38 years later, we celebrate two anniversaries every year.

[@rnt45t1]

gee golly so happy life worked out for you Boy Scout.

[@WuzUpCB]

GREAT Job 👏👏👏👏

[@WuzUpCB]

@@rnt45t1sad how you seemingly troll Dave Ramsey comments and come across as being sadly so negative … why is that?

[@RawVeganGinger]

"Her special day". People place more emphasis on ONE DAY than they do their ENTIRE FUTURE.

[@meastrau4772]

Truth👍

[@BaconMountainMan]

Buying a fixer upper is a great way to end a marriage. 😅😅

[@aolvaar8792]

A $50K fixer upper or a move in ready $500K?????

[@KevinGonzalez33470]

Anyone remember the Movie “Money Pit” with Tom Hanks and Shelley Long? I do. Funny as heck but so real with this episode. Sir…DON’T DO IT!!

[@tiffanyhwang1738]

​@@aolvaar8792if a move in ready house is priced around $500k in your area, then you wont find a fixer upper for $50k...

[@veramae4098]

Even a new "perfect" house needs work.

[@DianaPrince247]

“Get your butt married before you buy a house.” Wise words and you will thank him later.❤

[@timothyswauger3984]

Then he’ll want to kill him after the wife files for divorce.

[@fornos123]

@@timothyswauger3984that is so true. Alimony and child support will kill him lol

[@mxerb5912]

The wedding keeps getting pushed back …. No red flags there

[@Steven-kc7id]

I bought a house with my fiance and we split up. It took a year of living together after breaking up and was thankfully able to get the house in my name a year later. This was the hardest and worst time of my life and will never recommend it.

[@vanesslifeygo]

:(

[@elcheekoful]

Was it not in your name to begin with?

[@fishroy1997]

People buying houses and having babies together but are waiting on getting married because it's too much of a commitment. 😂

[@einstein1102]

That sums it up. lol

[@LouThaEnergy]

I’d rather do all of that than get married. It’s a scam for men.

[@joelfenner9179]

And that's why many people can't have nice things.

[@setha360]

Yes I am liable for child support but joint bank account nah

[@Sevkingblade]

Oh and moving cross country

[@ariston5433]

I trust them enough to have my child without marriage, I trust them enough to buy a house together, I trust them enough to pay bills together. But I do not trust them enough to get married????? But you trust them enough to be able to walk away with you holding the bag? Without a legal leg to stand on? Really? How stupid is that!!!! VERY STUPID!!!!

[@kbanghart]

No, they're just inexperienced and ignorant because they haven't been through the process before. It doesn't mean stupid. Don't call people names when it's not warranted

[@RawVeganGinger]

@@kbanghart They're calling the behavior stupid, not the person.

[@kbanghart]

@@RawVeganGinger maybe

[@John3.36]

@@kbanghart Don't defend stupid

[@proverbs31woman31]

They know the right thing to do just don’t wanna do it your right, Very stupid!!!

[@EvangelismforGod]

My neighbor let her fiancé drag out an engagement for 12 years. She eventually broke it off with him. I can’t understand how somebody let themselves be dragged along for so long.

[@GrapplingIgnorance]

It sounds like it was smart for them not to get married. It saved them the trouble of getting divorced. Marriage has its pragmatic merits, but is overall is overrated and definitely not essential.

[@mikezerker6925]

@@GrapplingIgnoranceyeah but after 12 years of living together engaged, I’m sure there was a lot of joint ownership, finances they had to get untangled… and without a marriage certificate the laws don’t protect either party, and it gets very messy!

[@catherinethompson6531]

@@GrapplingIgnoranceso they should have broke it off sooner

[@roseother8306]

They lasted longer than most marriages. SHE is the one with nothing to show for it.

[@curiouscat3384]

"Her special day" has become a euphemism for wasting the price of a new car or a significant house down payment on a bunch of stuff you'll never use again so that she can have her 3 hours of pretending to be Cinderella seeking admiration from people who already love her.

[@butterfly2218]

I love when they tell people that people don’t realize the importance of being married. If you are dating someone for 8 years you need to be married to that person.

[@GrapplingIgnorance]

Bullshit. I've literately been with my girlfriend for 8 years. We've lived together for about 6 of those 8 years. We're very happy with each other; there's no need to bring a government contract into it. I own my house. She still owns her own house and rents it out. We each know our household work and financial responsibilities. We don't share a bank account. We don't share debt. We don't have both of our names on anything, which means if one or both of us does ever decide to break it off, it's simple clean, and no courts would need to get involved. It also doesn't mean we have any less love or compassion for each other. Now kindly stop telling other people what they NEED to do with their lives.

[@nepfain8932]

@@GrapplingIgnorance You do when they are a foreigner. Then living with them becomes much easier, due to support they can get for the visa stuff. Mainly processing the visa while they are in the country. But that is like only time I know for sure you want it.

[@swingitjack]

@@GrapplingIgnorance I am sure your plan will work out. Sounds like paradise.

[@aolvaar8792]

@@GrapplingIgnorance My Former Employer provides a Spouse with FREE lifetime Family Healthcare. It allows retirement in your late 40's (Pension and healthcare) We each have $50K/yr Survivorable Pensions (To a Spouse). No double step up in basis for BF/GF I had a SIL, who lived with her BF for 25 Years. He was dying and refused to marry. He died, instead of $2000/mo at 60 (widow benefit) $1000 at 62. Prior to entering into a covenant marriage, a couple must attend premarital counseling sessions "emphasizing the nature, purposes, and responsibilities of marriage" and must sign a statement declaring "that a covenant marriage is for LIFE. ???? decide to break it off????

[@rnt45t1]

People dating for 8 years and I haven't even been able to so much as get a woman to acknowledge my existence in 7 years.

[@tkordik]

This equation is simple: Get legally married Buy house Have special day If she pushes back on this RUN as far and as fast as you can from her.

[@MamaD_and_Family]

1000% agree with Dave and Rachel on this one...Ive always loved HGTV and had romanticized the idea of fixing up a house in my head. Well we bought a fixer upper and it has been nothing but a nightmare, we're 6 yrs into this property and there are still constant projects needing attention. Something always seems to go wrong and nothing is easy. I always tell everyone if you see the words "fixer upper" or "diamond in the rough" on a house listing RUN!

[@richardgomez5008]

Not every man is a handy man ( Dave is not, he is an advice giver after life experiences.) Run if you are not a self-taught handy man! Fixing a house will save thousands of dollars. Buy within your limited budget and common senses are helpful.❤❤

[@mikezerker6925]

Yeah, I love HGTV too, but there’s a lot that goes on behind the scenes, plus they have a large crew doing the actual work while the hosts just show up for filming and hammering a few nails for the camera! 😂

[@evoman44]

​​@@richardgomez5008I agree. The same thing applies with buying used cars that are mechanic specials thst need work. If you are not already a good DIY mechanic the car is not for you.

[@DanielGarcia-zz9eg]

If you buy a house unmarried Apply only for yourself, not together. Just in case things go south

[@MrClassicmetal]

Agreed, that's the smart thing to do. Get your sh!t together, buy your _own_ house that's in your name only, and then get married.

[@DanielGarcia-zz9eg]

@MrClassicmetal With today's fail marriage rate so high, I think it best only one person has thier name on property and vehicle's. Too much hassle to make the other person sign off when they are mad at you. Playing those games " revenge" on each other A will needs to be setup in case of death

[@MrClassicmetal]

@@DanielGarcia-zz9eg Indeed, I agree 100%.

[@aznsumthing]

I think you’ve got the ideal. Go to city hall and sign some papers now, and you can have the wedding ceremony and reception at a later date.

[@curiouscat3384]

Yea, it makes sense anyway, to defer the big party until you're sure the marriage is going to last more than a year, lol

[@kendrapratt2098]

“Let’s pretend you’re married “. They already been doing that, Dave🤣🤣🤣

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

I’m glad Dave is addressing this the old school way.

[@EverElia]

“Ain’t no Chip and JoAnna. Nobody’s hair is done” 🤣

[@curiouscat3384]

I love Chip and JoAnna for entertainment! And Dave is right, it is "produced" and basically scripted

[@CarlaQuattlebaum]

Loved that comment by Dave! Very true, though.

[@Lonestar-1984]

I swear for the life of me I can’t understand why people say they are engaged and stay that way for over a year plus. If you asked her to married u then u should be married within 6 months tops.

[@JustinCase780]

Engaged for two years and waiting until end of next year? 😂

[@fishroy1997]

Someone better might come around!

[@linuxsurfer2002]

Kicking the can down the road!

[@tic8259]

There's a reason he's been engaged for TWO YEARS.....but he thinks buying a house with her is a good idea before marriage?? 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@damondiehl5637]

And they moved across the country "on a whim"?

[@Omar_Zazzle]

[@John3.36]

they liberals

[@adat7832]

How come ppl want to commit to a house rather than getting married....ppl r strange now a days

[@candyluna2929]

Is not *her* special day. Ppl need to stop with this stupid wedding fantasies

[@aaront936]

You know what will really get you in trouble? Using an 8% withdrawal strategy.

[@lepoj]

"YoU liVe iN yOuR mOThErS bAsEmEnT"

[@fishroy1997]

FOO!

[@Mavryck_Tha_Myghty]

If you’re bad at investing, sure.

[@markmurrell1894]

You would have thought Dave got up in front of a bunch of kindergartners and told them the truth about Santa. 😂😂😂

[@fishroy1997]

@@Mavryck_Tha_Myghty Yeah just got to find the funds where a 12%average annual return actually means each year it's up 12% with no down years! Dave should disclose what actively managed don't match his narrative.

[@darex0827]

I love how much people make a big deal about marriage, but they really mean the ceremony. There is the ceremony, and there is the piece of paper. Guess which one the bride cares about? Now guess which one the government cares about. Sign the damn paper today, have the big fancy ceremony later.

[@donaldmorrison9940]

The government and, more importantly, God.

[@frankmubiru7535]

Called in and got a speech!!! Yup, a good old school tell it as it is speech. Necessary. Thank you.

[@elizabethashton9590]

HGTV has kept a LOT of people in debt. And you're so very right. There's nothing about reality in these shows, NOTHING.

[@tonytoni1150]

Good point.

[@iseepandas1]

Here we go with someone in the comment section saying “I bought a fixer upper with my boyfriend and now I’m a billionaire”

[@CarlaQuattlebaum]

When the caller said, "We're hoping to get married at the end of next year, but our goal is to buy a home first", I could imagine hearing a sound like siren going off at a nuclear power plant.

[@dcg590]

Girl who stayed for 8 years- her own fault. She didn’t require marriage.

[@binfordtoolman5674]

Dave is 1,000% right on this one. I've never seen this type of situation end well.

[@gdolly166]

I have lived this fixer upper and after 14 years it is still a work in progress. Pros low mortgage. Cons high cost of repairs and has stolen time away from my kids. It is a second job.

[@Esmeraldalunamaria]

The reason I decided to work closely with a brokerage adviser ever since the market got really tense and the pressure became so much(should be retiring in 17months) so I've had a brokerage adviser guide me through the chaos, its been 9months and counting and I've made approx. 650K net from all of my holdings.

[@Isabellajuana]

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[@Kelvinmeans79]

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[@jasonleatherwood2172]

I almost bought a home with my ex girlfriend i would have never thought we would not have made it but we didnt glad i didnt buy that house

[@RoxiieSays]

They can get married at the courthouse and then have the big ceremony when they’re ready. There’s really no excuse if they really wanted to be married.

[@roolyfe]

Get a prenuptial agreement

[@aolvaar8792]

common law marriages are validated in the eyes of Texas law using several factors, including statements from friends, relatives and other relevant parties that support this relationship status. To have a common law marriage in Texas, both partners must be at least 18 years old, not married to anyone else, agree to be married. Easy way: file a 1040 as Married, try to get out of that one.

[@JustinCase780]

"moved to Ft. Worth kind on on a whim" "now we want to move back to our home state, buy a house and fix it up to build equity" "engaged for two years but keep putting it off" What could go wrong? 😮😂

[@GMan56M]

Yeah, lots of red flags here. There are always outliers that beat the system, but hope this guy starts making some better decisions.

[@kevokev978]

Ya they should just buy a house boat instead

[@britneyog9537]

Do people not watch Dave before they call? 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@EvangelismforGod]

Lol, I said the same thing.

[@bipolarmomandnowwhat]

I feel like people who ask these types of questions already know the answer they just the reassurance.

[@phillips9945]

Chances are they have already done it. That guy has probably already bought a fixer upper house in both his and his fiancé’s name.

[@PrisonerD]

@@phillips9945 I did this back in the early 2000s - our first house was a fixer upper in a 50 / 50 formal business partnership because we weren't married (or even engaged at that point & had separate finances). Worked out fine, we got married 3 years later and now have been together 25 years. Best decision we ever made given that many of our friends bought their first homes in their mid-30s - rather than their early 20s like us - and they can't believe how far ahead of them we are financially due to living with small / no debt that whole time, and just saving up for things and doing them as we could afford them. Sometimes we lived in a dusty dump and it took us 13 years to finish renovating our first house, but the journey was worth it.

[@beaniemac]

If he's not married, he can buy the house in just his name. Then she has no recourse if they break up.

[@joechang8696]

true, but she will "feel" that it is hers, and she "contributed to making it a home".

[@superman9772]

well, then in that scenario, i'd expect major damage when she moves out

[@DoctorSmartyPants]

But then that's not good for her either.

[@roolyfe]

We want prenuptial agreement!

[@TonyCox1351]

@@joechang8696 she would be contributing to the home, assuming she cooks cleans etc. Thats the best way for a woman to contribute to a relationship. Not saying it should give her legal ownership, but if she's smart she shouldnt play homemaker to a guy she isnt married to anyway

[@johnbrubaker2033]

Getting married and having a wedding are two different things. Get married and have her “special day” after you move.

[@saraschraeder3447]

We started building our beautiful home prior to getting married. We got married on the construction site of the almost completely finished home. Magical wedding on New Year's Eve! We both signed the papers to close on the house. The kicker....we got divorced...the home was built on land he owned before we got married. Guess who had to walk away with nothing! Nothing! I put a lot of blood, sweat, tears and money into 'my beautiful home' and the woman he cheated with and eventually married, is living the dream/nightmare I thought I would have on MY MONEY! You can't garnish wages on a house....and not a big deal if he doesn't pay....unless you want to spend thousands and thousands for attorneys to make a fortune on stubbornness.

[@wickedbird1538]

😮😮If we bought a house to renovate while living in it, my husband and I would end up getting a divorce.

[@user-mv9tt4st9k]

😂😂

[@kbanghart]

Many do

[@BaconMountainMan]

Facts. 😅😅

[@aolvaar8792]

$50K fixer upper or a Move in ready for $500K

[@olivewoo522]

"paint or get off the ladder " that's a great way to put it, Mr Ramsey

[@maryk446]

Yes. And it's a lot less vulgar than the other expression about getting off the pot!

[@CarlaQuattlebaum]

@@maryk446 I like how Dave used a nicer version, but I do remember that other (original?) version.

[@hi267]

C’mon Dave! Living in a fixer upper can be good for people. It’s something called grit!

[@lesg5270]

Min 2. "You know it's her, you've been together 2 yrs." WHAT PLANET IS SHE ON??

[@KevinGonzalez33470]

I don’t agree most of the time with Dave but I’m with him one thousand percent on this one with everything both He and Rachel said. This “schmuck” is asking for trouble. Sir, DON’T DO IT. DO NOT buy anything with her without that marriage document but more importantly, look at yourself in the mirror and figure out if You want to be with her for life. She sounds like she’s special but in modern day society, the overwhelming majority of relationships will fail and of the small number of those that actually stay together, the majority of those are merely for convenience. Please, tread carefully and think with your head and not with your heart. Spoken by a 50 year old who has been where you may be heading and I have since been very lucky in life to be where I am today. Love yourself before You love others. Dave, Great segment!!

[@user-mv9tt4st9k]

I may be old fashioned, but that "special day" includes a special night. If they have been shacking up for two years they may have already had part of that special day. Of course, I agree. My marriage is twenty years strong, 'bought our house at ten, and loving life.

[@KevinGonzalez33470]

@@user-mv9tt4st9k that “special day” is not about them as a couple. It is solely about HER. There is an underlying layer to this story which he isn’t mentioning but if one reads through the “tea leaves” it can be easily deciphered.

[@Thenagymom]

He's going to do what he wants because he's going through life "on a whim".

[@curiouscat3384]

And for god's sake DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN when you are not married!

[@johnbowen4222]

Buying my house before i got married was a blessing its what kept me from loosing it my ex left me then tryed to make me sell it so she could half half the money the judge ruled in my favor because it was my sole property

[@willelliott5052]

The blessing was that you were the sole owner. What Dave warns about is joint ownership by unmarried people.

[@mbank3832]

That's good but that is not what Dave is saying here. He says don't buy a house together as unmarried couple. Do it only when you are married. But from your example, it shows even if she is your wife, she shouldnt deserve a cut from your own house either. Like I always say, wife / girlfriend are like clothes, you can always change so love yourself at the end haha

[@aolvaar8792]

@@willelliott5052 Tenants in Common is the scenario Dave uses Joint Tenancy is the other scenario, not talked about.

[@RJ-cv2uw]

Playing married without being married

[@Ja50nkAt]

But she looooooves meeeee.

[@marymccann6110]

If this guy actually had any get up and go he wouldn't spend years being engaged. I have a feeling everything they said went in one ear and right out the other. You can't manufacture a backbone for people like this guy. He is more worried about a "special day" than principles like planning and wisdom. Who is she, Barbie?

[@TheDeanosaurus]

You absolutely NAILED it.

[@marymccann6110]

@@TheDeanosaurus Why thank you :-)

[@bigcahuna42366]

In Dave's example at 3:46, imagine if the mom rented out space in this guy's house to total strangers he can't tolerate

[@mikesmith-wk7vy]

Lol when Dave asked how long before they get married I said let me guess they are going to do a 2 year engagement and they are doing that . From his question I knew it was that kind of person

[@darex0827]

You should see Canada. Marriage is a dying concept, but our Common-Law laws make it so you pretty much are married.

[@poemsthatdontsuck5410]

Listening to Jacob is like looking into a future train wreck

[@DoctorSmartyPants]

Caller: "so just go get a simple license then?". Lol, dude, there is only one kind.

[@aolvaar8792]

3 States have covenant marriages. Prior to entering into a covenant marriage, a couple must attend premarital counseling sessions "emphasizing the nature, purposes, and responsibilities of marriage" and must sign a statement declaring "that a covenant marriage is for life. Do you have a simple marriage or a covenant marriage?

[@DoctorSmartyPants]

@@aolvaar8792 I am referring to the license, not the marriage.

[@grisle_smack_607]

I'm married or not. If you both put your name on a piece of property and one side decides not to sell it. You can't sell it.

[@aolvaar8792]

Tenants in Common title, You can sell your "share".

[@georgewagner7787]

Peeling wallpaper. And arguing.

[@lot2196]

We sat on boards across 5 gallon buckets for in our kitchen for 5 months 😂

[@mariaesparza2690]

Dave brought him to reality. I hope he gets married soon.

[@rbraxton00]

If people think children and mortgages aren’t commitment, what planet are they living on? Smh common sense is not so common anymore! 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Barneyjo]

This guy's hasn't listened to Dave to long to ask him that question.

[@sarahjaynescott545]

Engaged for two years 🙄

[@kingsgold]

For those in the back: It's not that you cant, it's that you SHOULDNT. Im sure you and your fiance are madly in love and cant imagine life without them. Great, happy for you both. But it's extremely messy if things go south for any number of reasons. It's fine. Just keep living in the apartment or whatever situation you are in. You dont need to rush into getting a home together. If you are spending the rest of your life together, you can wait until you are married and financially ready for a home and the costs that come with it.

[@kathleencooney1518]

That happened to my friend. Her fiancé got killed in a freak accident. No will. They were waiting until after the wedding. She got stuck with owning a house with his parents. The parents were wonderful people & loved their soon to be DIL dearly. It could have been a total disaster.

[@matthewmarston5149]

When Yuka Chan got married and hit the 👍×2 : here's the Birdie: did she marry me! 😮

[@privacyplease1556]

They haven’t been together for 2 years. They’ve been ENGAGED for two years and worse, he admitted they keep pushing it back. They’ve probably been together for 5+ years and still aren’t married. 🚩🚩🚩

[@georgewagner7787]

He must not listen to Dave very often.

[@theinfamoustroll7265]

Dave, you need to apologize to George Kamel. Don't let the sun set on your rage again.

[@christopherpaige406]

Don't get married!!!!

[@belindaresor.78]

Just go to court house, get a marriage license. Go to restaurant, have a reception there, everyone pays their own food bill. Take money saved, buy a house together. Better to live in a house, than spend on a wedding. Go on a honeymoon together, save up your money. Save for your future, don't waste money on a ceremony that last 15 minutes to say "I do". So true! HGTV has distorted the reality of homes, don't fix what isn't broken. Live in a safe, warm, healthy environment. Not breathing off- gassing for years from NEW paint, flooring, cabinets, carpet, etc. Fix things as you go through your life together, not all at once, don't fix what is perfectly fine. Love each other, that is what is important. Not a grey on white interior design

[@kathleencooney1518]

HGTV has a show called “ Help ! I’ve ruined my house” it shows the reality of home improvement. People get themselves into HUGE messes trying to do construction!!

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Those shows are faked, several people have come forward and exposed the shoddy workmanship they left behind. The people have to sign a NDA, wonder why.......

[@curiouscat3384]

My favorite on DIY Netwrok was "Renovation Realities". Lots of relationship examples on that one!

[@marcuswashington461]

Lol HGTV does make home renovation look fun...what they don't show is the 200 guys working when the cameras go off!!! Nothing fun about ripping out youright kitchen or bathroom in a DIY PROJECT!!!

[@BrianW211]

Haha, you can hear it in his voice that he's NOT actually going to get married first and any time a person says "her special day", what it really means is that they're planning to spend way more than they know they should.

[@MindsetMastery148]

2yrs with someone does not mean that she’s “the one”

[@airfiero4772]

I lived in a house I was fixing up. It took over 7 years of living with plastic and dust. Never again.

[@hopeful8783]

I don’t get people putting off marriage but making heavy financial commitments and children… this world is so backwards! I’m glad Ramsey speaks truth!

[@Chet_24]

Good advice for any man is to not get married. Unless you're going to move to south America or Asia, just don't get married.

[@aolvaar8792]

Double step-up in basis Stepped up basis is a tax benefit that allows the value of an asset to be adjusted to its fair market value at the time of the owner's death. However, when an asset is owned as a joint tenancy, only the deceased owner's share of the asset gets the stepped up basis. This means that the surviving owner's share of the asset retains its original basis and may be subject to more capital gains tax when sold.

[@jongonegone1262]

i want to buy RAMSEYS folding lawn chair !!! first bid

[@5points7019]

Hes warning him about the film : the Money Pit

[@LOUBAT1]

100% the right advice. Have a simple wedding and buy a modern house where everything works and there are no holes in the roof.

[@christianlady]

Why call Dave about this ? You already know his stand on this issue. He is a Christian first before he’s a businessman. His duty is to God first . Hello…..

[@strangeroamer3219]

Most people these days are secular and are really only calling him for financial advice, not spiritual.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

There ya go

[@xrpsmith8021]

My husband and I bought a house (major fixer upper) during our engagement period in 1999. It was 9 months of work but we were a team and rejoiced at each projects completion! I learned that my husband was not only a good businessman but a first rate carpenter, too. The finished house was beautiful, we got married in the local church and had a lovely reception in our newly renovated home. It turned out perfectly.

[@voidfroze]

Good for y’all! Not everyone will have your experience, but not everyone will have the experiences Dave is talking about, either. I get why he makes these broad sweeping statements but at the end of the day, plenty of people succeed doing the opposite of what he says.

[@RJRussoVids]

Last I heard they marry people in Kansas City and Fort Worth. 😂

[@aolvaar8792]

Fort Worth is Texas, a common law marriage State.

[@jasonrodgers9063]

If a married couple can survive a "fixer-upper" or going canoeing, they can survive anything!

[@jongonegone1262]

ramsey, you know better, theres not gonna be a preacher, that gen, calls you the PREACHER.

[@ChristoherWGray]

Its like delaying driving until you get the license plates Cmon dood Dont get married It then allows the government to dictate your life DON'T DO IT!

[@tonytoni1150]

He’ll have to find out on his own.

[@TonyCox1351]

If you want to have a family, you absolutely should get married. Having children out of wedlock is a bad idea.

[@nobodyspecial9262]

There IS NO Special Day!!!, She Gave up the Milk, you were not required to buy the COW. She Gave you the Milk. Listen to D.R. If you Love her, Wed her, NOW.

[@3ddiEdotcom]

Dude needs to quit watching HGTV. I've seen these shows, particularly "Property Brothers." Please. No way is that house getting redone while those two guys always looking like spit-shine Ken dolls. When I see them in dirty ripped clothes, drowning in their own sweat and blood, hair all matted and stuck out in 50 directions, THEN I’ll believe it. Until then, I call BS on the whole fixer-upper bit. Unless your DIY is sponsored by IKEA, get married and buy a nice, pre-done house.

[@sminthian]

My first house was a foreclosed fixer-upper. It was 3 years of living in a construction zone, and in the end I sold it and made like $10,000...

[@nygreek743]

He’s got cold feet

[@alinatamashevich3354]

And a clear mind.

[@Joe-db5hz]

A rational response to a redefined and constantly failing system.

[@klausheidlberg3006]

He ain't gonna do it. Madness.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Smart man

[@zingzing6550]

"You know it's her. You've been together for TWO years.". It's so stupid I don't know where to begin. Do you REALLY know a person after two years? No. If you did, then you could buy the house risk free even though you aren't married.

[@SLangel18]

The house I live in now is a rehab. I also had ideas of making this house my own or whatever. I had to replace a roof, install central ac, replace all the windows and doors. Windows didn’t close and doors where not hurricane proof and blah blah blah. I remember scraping the old tiles from the floor. The cement dust went everywhere. I had my nose 👃 clogged with dry buggers. Never got to the popcorn 🍿 curling because we lost steam and time and just wanted to LIVE in our house not work on it. Still hate the popcorn ceilings 6 years later.

[@robertbell525]

Marriage is an awesome deal for women and a terrible deal for men. Even after they are married, there is literally nothing stopping HER from one day announcing that she's leaving. She will take half of everything and if they have kids he will be living in someone's basement. 50% of marriages end in divorce and of those, 80% of divorces are initiated by the wife. Therefore as a man, you have a 40% chance of your life being ruined. Would you invest in something with a 40% chance of losing everything?

[@catherinewilke5583]

My divorce cost me a fortune so how did marriage help me? It didn’t. If you are married, the law tells you how to divide your stuff. This is the main point on which I differ with DR. Marriage is a horrible situation for the more responsible party. Maybe with a rock solid prenup that says each person keeps what they earn. Otherwise, never. Don’t act like divorce is a walk in the park. It’s horrible.

[@kathryncashner3294]

You do NOT want to start with a home that needs serious "fix up" to be comfortable. Sure, the idea of painting, recarpeting, etc. is fine; real work is a mess and if you were doing it, you would come home from work each day and work another 4 hours on the house. Trust me, my first home was basically in decent shape but needed a few things...and that was work. I recently had professional repairs after storm damage, and that alone was a pain...and I didn't have to do it; I just had to let people in, deal with their issues, etc. As to her "special day," you can get married now and have a nice reception in 6 months...or whenever. Best thing I heard from my daughter was that she had spoken with her intended and let him know that she'd do whatever he wanted, but SHE didn't want a fancy big deal--she was happy with a courthouse wedding with about 10 of their closest family + 2 friends....she wanted a "nice" dress that she could wear for other things later...and if possible, the money that might have been spent for a fancy wedding to be used for either a nice honeymoon and or more of a start on their home. And they have each been saving for a downpayment on a home since before they met each other...and both living debt free, separately at this point,

[@markburnham7512]

I don't agree with Dave on everything, but he is 1000% correct here. This is a no brainer. I wish my son had followed this simple advice.

[@Nick-gk6hj]

"But I'm concerned about her special day", oh yeah and continuing to treat her like a rented whore is soooo much more respectful.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

Men understand the risk/rewards.

[@thegodblogger3812]

Ummmm, she's allowing it, so she's not a victim. Wow, talk about being oblivious: You.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

@@thegodblogger3812 Women control the access to the bedroom, men control the access to the relationship.

[@Nick-gk6hj]

@thegodblogger3812 nothing to do with her, a man should take full accountability for his interactions in this life. He's a punk for accepting this arrangement.

[@alinatamashevich3354]

@@Nick-gk6hj Men understand risk/reward. All marriage does is make lawyers rich, and 2 people poor.

[@letstalkaboutgermany8288]

It’s a little weird that Rachel calls him Dave…. Instead of Dad… I wonder what discussions were happening for this to be decided….

[@bluejedi723]

Marriage: You can get married or a have a party. You can have a party any time. I've seen marriages last 30+ years who got married with just them and a judge, and marriages fall apart after 3-5 years and spent $$$$$$. You can always get married in front of a judge and have a simple party in someone's back yard.

[@kathleencooney1518]

Exactly what I did. We got married at the courthouse because I found a house I wanted. We bought the house for a good deal. After thinking about the costs of a wedding we decided to have a nice BBQ in our back yard. Wanting to buy that house saved us a ton of money ! We’re still married 31 years later.