My New Husband Won't Help Support My Family

[@tedphillips3119]

Husband is the one that should be calling Dave Ramsey.

[@yvonnecopithorne192]

Husband knows only half the story !

[@av8tor261]

Dave would tell him to bail.

[@commandershepard9601]

@@christopherbeddoe406 Dave is a huge simp. He'd tell the guy to man up while he handles women with kids gloves most of the time. Its gross.

[@katiejon17]

...or a divorce attorney.

[@gooserich3970]

Exactly

[@mwafrika4]

7 siblings and they can't take care of their parents?! Hubby needs to flee.

[@thechloromancer3310]

mwafrika4 seven losers.

[@AEpsalm]

I’m married and my husband and I often help MY mom and HIS mom when we can . But getting my siblings and his siblings on board is difficult

[@ecclairmayo4153]

@@AEpsalm - they are selfish. Bet they would help out of you guys stopped doing everything

[@priscilapuente8327]

Parents need to go back to their country

[@user-cv3gd2wr5q]

It’s less than $300 per sibling a month. She has way too many excuses.

[@QueenBeeBeautyXO]

This isn't fair to the husband!

[@tiebear1]

that is why she got married

[@gwenscott535]

He is an adult and said I DO. They need to work it out.

[@billm4262]

@@gwenscott535 So is she and her adult family members. Her family needs to get off their collective butts and be adults about it and come up with their own solution just Like Dave said. Sell the 60k property or move back. They have the means to not be in this situation, just too suborn to do anything about it. Instead they are relying on her to worry about their problems for them. Ridiculous!!!

[@MrHeavyMetalRocker1]

Gwen Scott it’s very possible he was not made aware of what the real situation is. Also marrying someone does NOT mean you have to take care of their family.

[@Gonewithjon]

Thank you for saying that.

[@laurajm3694]

I get the impression her siblings choose to see her as “the one with all that American money” and use that view to justify their unwillingness to help support their parents.

[@rm5282]

Yep and all the folks in the comment.section talking about her family cultural norms fail tomsee that the whole family doesn't appear to follow.those implied norms.

[@purselmer5931]

Yes, b/c everyone in every other country KNOWS that money just falls off of trees here in the US. No one ever seems to concede anymore that maybe Americans work HARD for their money. Getting worse every day too.

[@gwildordipkin6504]

When indeed she got 110k in student debt and seems to have no career/income to justify it. She's the one "in debt all that American money" living off her husband.

[@raulascencio8405]

yeah, most likely…

[@stephengamber7000]

Bet the siblings spend whatever they want.

[@audigex]

So she's subsidizing her parents, while the sibling lives in the parents house and pays nothing? Yeah, that's kinda BS

[@NG-di5lc]

Well, she has got to get her loans pay off somehow while paying off a home that the husband doesn't have a stake in. It's crazy for her not to combined the finances because when they divorced later, he'll be settled with the whole debt from the settlement, and she'll also get the home they live in. It's a win win for her, her parents, and the 7 siblings.

[@DC-ml6cv]

Lol that exact reason guy above me stated is why marriage rates are falling through the roof lol

[@heinzkitzvelvet]

@@NG-di5lc You NEVER EVER combine finances.

[@SarahR2D2]

@@heinzkitzvelvet We did and our house is almost paid off. We are like minded when it comes to finances

[@blessed7927]

Omgosh i didnt even think about that too!!! The sibling living with them in the parents house. Its a mindset and they need to go back . She can’t do that to her husband

[@chocolatecuban]

They should have cleaned this up before getting married.

[@tiebear1]

she got married so he can clean this mess up

[@VanFelo]

She though he is the solution for her problems. It was simply a matter of locking him down without a premup if he has no debt and has a good stable income. He's her betabux.

[@VanFelo]

@ablackprep Her siblings are smart, that's why. Parents could live almost on nothing outside of the US in their very own home. For certain they would not need 2000$ a month...

[@RealLifeMoney]

Yeah this is a mess to talk about

[@chocolatecuban]

@ablackprep Yeah... that is what my statement is referring to.

[@love2000amglam]

This is so common in other cultures. The parents are expecting to be fully taken care of by their children, but it often winds up being only one of the children who does anything.

[@ahirasanchez5941]

It really is common and does end up that way. I really dislike how most people commenting here are projecting their cultural norms as if what the caller is doing is so stupid; providing for her parents isn't the problem, it's the debt. Ramsey is only giving her advise that makes sense for someone who has a similar culture as he does. Like, not everyone wants to send their 80 year old mother to a nursing home and let her pension cover it.

[@chefchefchef]

Okay but that doesnt mean that's right that it falls on one sibling. The rest of the family should be stepping up and helping. Regardless of the culture that's not a cultural norm to put it on one

[@cruciferousvegetable]

That's why they need to have 10 children. It's like playing slots.

[@thechloromancer3310]

Lots of people fail to adult properly, and can’t afford to help support the parents. There is a reason that government funded pensions were invented.

[@hengineer]

I'm with Dave Ramsey, I agree that a charitable act of helping to take care of parents in their old age can be a good thing, but its horrendous that the PARENTS allow one of their children to be the pack mule.

[@sharynduran5993]

Yes the husband made a huge mistake

[@TruthHurts922]

Marrying her was his mistake

[@munhl]

If I was the husband I'd be asking what's in the will. Why pay the mortgage on the house if it's going to be divided between all the siblings, when the parents die.

[@Fiebi95]

That's smart!

[@jaysmith6013]

Wow excellent point! I’ve seen these types of families before.. siblings who want nothing to do helping their parents while they are alive, but the second the old parents die, they are first in line with their hand out for demanding their inheritance

[@domjohnson2579]

Easy just put the husbands name on the deed or draw up an equity contract taking a percentage of the sold home.

[@Pulapaws]

Dom Johnson easy just do not do it and leave her. She have all the signs of a gold digger not even married a year and talking about her debt as his. If he is smart he run for the hills. I would not be surprise if this wiman even love him it this point. She not talking about being a helpmate in helping him out like a proverb women. You can tell by the way she talks she live way above and over her means and hoping he will care and buy for everything. I seen woman like this before and my dad fall for this game and my coworker with his gold digger wife. They both left than years later in the marriage after they debts was paid by hey made new and bigger ones, when they found other sugar daddy that had more money that was willing to take them, leaving the man with a huge bag. There was red flags before they got marry all gold digger leave big red flag without them tell him about they debts.

[@nathania7637]

Brilliant

[@robwilliams239]

Personally, I think the husband made a mistake.

[@scoobydoobers23]

Maybe she is really considerate in the bedroom and he thinks it's worth it.

[@realamazingworld6756]

I smell a divorce

[@hairyrope1912]

Every husband made a mistake

[@realamazingworld6756]

@Ty Somers Some more than others

[@clublulu399]

He done fudged up

[@TeKnoVKNG23]

Has almost 90% of the debt...wants to combine finances...writing is on the wall with this one.

[@aligncars10000]

This lady sounds super expensive. I would never put a ring on her finger.

[@MrClassicmetal]

He should not pay for her student loan debt, and most definitely _not_ for her parents. This happens all too often. Some guy marries a woman with massive debt, and as soon as it has been paid off she's gone. He shouldn't have married her in the first place. That was a dumb move.

[@aligncars10000]

@Google Acct He needs to hit the road before he knocks her up and is tied to her for life

[@christinamartinez8132]

The husband isn't too bright.

[@futuresrock]

This lady's parents aren't gonna sell yhe property back home because it "belongs" to siblings there. Property in US belongs to her & her brother because he still lives there, so she can't sell that either all the while paying $2000 per month. She is gonna get preggers next year leaving husband all the stress & financial burden. And as soon as he remembers that he has a life too in a year or two. His wife will want to divorce him with him paying $2000 alimony a month!!! There!!! I said it first.... this is how her & his next 3yrs are going to pan out!!

[@robwastman4993]

My brother was pressured to assuming his new wife and mother in laws credit card debt which was substantial, when he got married. He didn’t know about this prior to getting married. I talked him out of doing it.

[@LisaLisaCJ]

His wife I can see. Her mother hell no.

[@guisspino]

I love how Dave switched teams so quickly as this lady told more of the story

[@brentonpetitt6766]

He always sides with the woman.

[@matthewk6731]

Not this time.

[@IamaNewCreature]

He’s usually a simp.

[@asarishepard8171]

it was awesome

[@tugboat2030]

Thankfully the woman was honest

[@dallascowboy1943]

Her "Let's combine money and I'll give it to my parents" Him "Huh? Um, no"

[@spicerc1244]

She said “he’s nervous about my family and how I handle my finances with them.” You mean the way they rob you blind!

[@kstayblessed]

Well technically their Financials are already combined because they are married.

[@BagznBirdz]

She is already giving a third of their joint net income to her parents. The husband is being robbed.

[@kaylean39]

I get the feeling her husband didn’t know any of this before getting married to her

[@bertnl530]

A surprise.

[@abcdefu359]

Same. She lied to him, bigtime.

[@bertnl530]

@@abcdefu359 She forgot to tell that he wasn't marry her, but also her parents and her 7 brothers and sisters.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Nah, I get the feeling he knew, but guys tend to get blinded by foreign women

[@colorfulcodes]

Doubt it. He needs discernment.

[@CNT536]

She's not being ridden. The husband is. She is an enabler and complicit.

[@TerryOnDemand]

She didnt tell her husband all of this. I dont BLAME him for not wanting to combine finances. THEN she has more than 80% of the debt😒

[@cayetano6547]

combining finances would be the end of him..

[@justshady]

@zadose she didn't tell him, we all know this. No way a man signs up to take care for 9 people

[@Majestic_Dark_Horse]

Female Psychology: Money: "What's mine is mine, what's yours is mine!" Student loans: What's mine is yours, what's yours is...Hun, that's yours! ~Bachelor...I Stand Alone...I got my " Table", Ms. I hope you "own" one as well.

[@blubbness]

she has a 100,000 in debt, she pays mortgage for their parents house even if they have paid property abroad and and none of her 7 siblings is helping besides her? and she doenst get why he doesnt want to put his income in this family?

[@buddhabuddha-ze7qw]

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[@edgehodl4832]

She pays mortgage? U mean her husband pays their mortgage?

[@blubbness]

the caller pays the mortgage for the house her parents live in. caller+husband dont live there and the parents have a paid-for house they just dont want to move there or sell it because some other relative is staying there rent free.

[@y2ksierra]

blubbness yup. And for Dave to side with the husband, you know it's serious.

Sounds like a family of broke losers!! Paycheck to paycheck cleaning toilets!

[@Honda-wing5811]

He’s your husband not a monthly welfare check or section 8. If I were him I’d be so gone.

[@itsmesteve1081]

Facts

[@becool5706]

To be honest here I was in a situation similar to this with my ex wife. Not necessarily as bad as this one, but I will have to say that when your married and committed like he is it's very hard to just "be so gone". I'm not saying your wrong because I feel what your saying 100 percent, Ive been there. But it's far easier for people outside the aquarium to see problems then it is when your actually living in the aquarium. Feel me?

[@dallascowboy1943]

That poor fella is trapped 🤮

[@jusrobington]

Dude should be gone like smoke in the wind on this. I'll make a prediction that as soon as her loans are paid for she will be gone.

[@aligncars10000]

Same here. I would have hit the road a long time ago

[@Will-oj3un]

Central American parents need to stop with the whole “My kids are my retirement account” bull.

[@GrumpyCat-mw5xl]

So they come to america hoping tax payers will be their retirement account

[@Will-oj3un]

@@GrumpyCat-mw5xl that ignorant comment Is farthest from the truth. Stop being racist and educate yourself.

[@GrumpyCat-mw5xl]

@@Will-oj3un it’s exactly the truth. Racists tend to see racism everywhere. Stop being a racist and educate yourself.

[@josephevans1265]

@@GrumpyCat-mw5xl If you don't pay into Social Security, you're not getting Social Security.

[@InOrlando]

For real! It’s Hispanics and Latinos in general. So much shame in the culture! Nobody has financial literacy and the financial responsibility gets passed on to whomever is the biggest sucker.

[@jimh712]

80 year old people shouldn't have home loan Especially when they can't afford to make the payments... The parents should sell the property and down size

[@LilBleachThaGod]

jim h yeah they should have a small condo or apartment lol 😂

[@jimh712]

@@LilBleachThaGod The parents should have a good life But not at the expence of their children being over extended... Yes they ahould be living in something they an afford.. Or where they can afford

[@Vinicius.Passos.]

Also 80 year old people should have a security number. The whole time they stayed in the US, they didn't try to fix their status there.

[@DarkStarAZ]

If she and her husband are paying the mortgage then they should be building equity in the house when it's eventually sold.

[@halfbloodprincess989]

Truuuee. My parents had their home paid of, when my older sister got into college. That was really good, because they could financially support her and later me through college. Now we are done with college, my parents are retired and noone in the family has any dept =)

[@osvaldosanchez2248]

This guy needs to run. This lady has no control of her life.

[@bigd1223]

Too late now, he married her. She can file for divorce and get a big chunk of his assets.

[@ChrisMFlorida]

true.. but where it stands now.. they need a family meeting. If no one else comes to the plate.. I'd question running :)

[@triad6425]

@@bigd1223 under 1 year you can get an annulment. Even if he had to pay alimony right now it would be only for half the time they are married. Literally any option other than staying is guaranteed to be cheaper.

[@murderouskitten2577]

@@bigd1223 why do you think she got married ?

[@NOAHfreakingTHOMAS]

Stupid comments under this video.

[@shellyd1811]

Have the parents move back to their house in another country, and have the brother who lives in that house take care of the parents....problem solved. Come on, this isn't rocket science.

[@NatashaVincent]

Agreed. There's way more family supports there, it seems. If health care access is an issue, however, travel costs back to the US may have to be factored in.

[@Janessa107]

Agreed. If they move back to Central America they can probably support them 100% and it’d be way less than here in the U.S. if no one else is willing to chip in.

[@shellyd1811]

Plus, if they keep the house in the family, then all the siblings and their children will always have a place to live, no one worrying about ever being homeless, if times get rough. Or rent it out if no one is living in it, and have an extra income for someone in the family. I honestly think it's the worst advice to sell the house.

[@ChrisMFlorida]

I think you knew Dave Ramsey in a former life.. good answer!

[@kingkong-ni4ho]

Its just simple steps. 1. Sell your parents home in America 2. Move your parents back to central America with the brother 3. Let parents live off the profit from the home sale and the parents social security 4. Have siblings chip in a minimum $50 to help parents live comfortable. 5. Come back and forth to America for healthcare.

[@Ruthbaby175]

The family thought her getting an American husband was their winning lottery ticket.

[@katiejon17]

Her too. Dave asked her if her husband knew, before they married, that she’d keep paying for her parents... that girl stuttered before answering. He didn’t know. She saw her husband as a cash-cow, just like her parents see her as a cash-cow. What’s worse is that US tax payers are absolutely paying for her parents too. 1) caller said none of her sibling help, 2) parents are in their 80’s and don’t work, 3) they have assets in Central America that their other kids are living in, but they have “nothing” here, 4) she pays for half their mortgage... where are they getting all the rest of their money? Welfare, that’s where.

[@Maelu-op9gf]

Ouch.. I think u are right

[@Rosie1939]

Really??? You guys think too highly of yourselves

[@Rosie1939]

This racist comment is why she was hesitant to say where she was from. Also her husband is effin millionaire. He just happens to be a lower middle class white man.

[@Rosie1939]

@@katiejon17that’s a whole lot of presumption Karen.

[@lookItsJayden]

When I stopped helping my ex wife’s family and told her to get a real job I soon after got a divorce. People like this only hold you back.

[@LolaizaJazzmine]

I helped my ex. With thiusands. When it was my turn he complained. Now i am divorced and still paying down our - my debt. Sont ever over do. The help. This. Is sound advise .

[@lookItsJayden]

@ you single and live in Arizona? 🤣👀

[@narcoleptices8269]

"Do you give your family money without talking to your husband?" "Well...." (Stop, that's all we need to hear) Don't combine your finances bro lol.

[@ExplorationRandomDestination]

Hopefully he had her sign a prenup so she cant take him for half hes worth when she decides to gold dig somewhere else

[@TheBashar327]

@@ExplorationRandomDestination , prenups are scams and worthless, especially if kids come later. Please read up on them and do not help spread what is a lawyer scam. They charge you for writing them and then play the other side to get them invalidated.

[@ExplorationRandomDestination]

TheBashar327 dont planned on getting married for awhile thankfully. If ever.

[@stayswervin554]

He’s stupid he shouldn’t of married her

[@LilBleachThaGod]

Yeah she was quite evasive lol 😂

[@iviaverick52]

A husband's responsibility is to his wife and children. He is not on the hook for taking care of your extended family.

[@ulical]

Truer words have never been spoken. Unfortunately, in a lot of foreign cultures (and even in the US amongst certain minorities), it's an unspoken rule that whomever makes the most money has the responsibility of providing for those that aren't as "fortunate."

[@ryanlowe509]

💯💯💯💯

[@hannahl1387]

I disagree. Families should take care of each other where there is real need, but the responsibility should be shared fairly. Life is unpredictable. What if he and his wife were killed in a freak accident? Would it not be their hope and prayer that the grandparents and siblings would care for their children/future children properly and not leave them to welfare/state?

[@littleripper312]

@@ulical The thing is we're in America so we follow American culture. If I go to the Philippines then we can follow their culture.

[@MurangShaBu_MahalNaBiGas]

@@littleripper312 and that's the reason Filipino family crumble because they are depending too much in one person as a bread winner, and by the time the bread winner is sick and needs help, all they can offer is moral support and prayers which result to all of them go broke and hungry, sad reality. To have food, house, water and medical help you need money.

[@TheFactorySeven]

This hurts, because coming from a caribbean background, this is our parents mentality. They use the children as a pension plan. Freaking sick. Her husband is right, this is toxic and if I were him I wouldn't even put myself in that situation.

[@nryanmusic]

he already married her.

[@RowneyPowers]

@@nryanmusic And???

[@howwelearngrowdaily]

So true...the parents are entitled 🙄

[@brendakipkemoi2738]

I agree Africa too the same

[@24434-Allah]

They took care of you when you’re a baby. Now it’s your turn to take care of them. You sound ungrateful, dude.

[@KPlyf]

Ur debt is more. Ur family mooches u and now u want to let them mooch ur husband. U didn't tell ur husband everything before getting married. Siblings are cheap selfish adults. My sympathies with ur husband, poor guy .

[@stormichigura]

"the things i do for love." ~the husband

[@asadb1990]

the family should drown in a pool of water out of shame

[@michaelmarquez6133]

Honestly it sounds like

[@realamazingworld6756]

You can tell the woman feels guilty now when she talks to Ramsy

[@KPlyf]

@@realamazingworld6756 she isn't guilty a bit.

[@milkncookie]

She talking about merging their income but You can't merge finances when the other side has no finances. It should be retitled my husband won't give me his money to enable my family's irresponsible decisions.

[@skibum6422]

Send mom and dad home. Problem solved. This husband should just bail and run now, he's being used as an ATM.

[@thecastle09]

some cultures expect you to care for their family etc..its bullshitttttt...i been there, its crazyyyyyy as fugggg...this dude should run away now.

[@larrybud]

@@thecastle09 The brother living on the property rent free can take care of his parents when they move back.

[@LaCosmetologia]

@@larrybud YES!!!!!!!!

[@aharrison9972]

He’ll eventually bail, but not before she gets hooks in with a child or two. . .

[@Essays4College]

What do you call a lazy woman's retirement plan? MARRIAGE!

[@traveler320ak7]

A brother staying on family property while this woman pays for everything is insane.

[@giannabaptist5347]

very insane😂

[@theyhateme8763]

common overseas

[@tashinaking3198]

Exactly!

[@benjamintorres9211]

Not uncommon sadly

[@heathergray9195]

The boys are the golden children, the girls are the slaves...

[@Alaninbroomfield]

Wouldn't it be far cheaper for her parents to live back home? Cost of living here in the U.S. is insane.

[@Vinicius.Passos.]

That's crazy. I'm assuming they've been in the US for many years and still didn't try to fix their status there. Every 80 year old should have a security number and get retirement money. Now it's only logical that they move back home where it's affordable. Her brother can also take care of them while the other siblings chip in.

[@reddtraining]

@@savannahbyrd7884 Belize has pretty good/comparable healthcare from what I can find.

[@user-kx7do4fh2j]

Or move to a cheaper part of the country.

[@DiscoFang]

@@savannahbyrd7884 You can get good healthcare in the US... But it costs more than anywhere else in the world. Anywhere.

[@thebaglady1443]

@deadend I agree with you that the US is a great country to live in but I am from west Africa and Its beautiful there, I know Belize is similar in climate and culture. With little you can live the life of luxury. 1K to her parents each month is 2k in Belize and since they own their own house, that would be a grand life with little bills. Her parents and her are not using their heads. Its a disgrace! Her parents are 80+, what are they still doing here? Her family is taking advantage. Poor husband.

[@almarosa154]

She's going to end up divorcing...the hubby is going to get fed up. Shes moving back with the parents. She's NOT going to talk to her siblings...shes NOT STRONG enough to speak up.

[@tiebear1]

she will divorce as soon as she either had a child or is married long enough to get alimony.

[@almarosa154]

@Zechs Merquise "he or she" either one, I just don't see this marriage working out. They're taking 2 dffrnt paths.

[@almarosa154]

@@seanlynch2579 we are NOT all like this... Thats a bit over exaggerating 🤦

[@Majestic_Dark_Horse]

Ay bendito!! Female Psychology: Money: "What's mine is mine, what's yours is mine!" Student loans: What's mine is yours, what's yours is...Hun, that's yours! ~Bachelor...I Stand Alone...I got my " Table", Ms. I hope you "own" one as well...bendiciones!

[@danskisbees7348]

Wow, you want him to pay off your $111,000 student loan and support your family. You probably wanted an expensive ring and a big wedding too. You're too expensive, I would've kept shopping.

[@aligncars10000]

Same here. There isn't any female worth all the BS that she brings along with her.

[@chuckbarieka1843]

RUN !!!!

[@richfarfugnuven6308]

Unless she's hot and a straight up freak.

[@jlafaele3908]

Rich Farfugnuven lol that’s a side chick you are worried about

[@SteelTimeify]

@@richfarfugnuven6308 dont be a simp!

[@thatgirl5093]

I'll never forget the day my husband and brother-in-law took me to lunch and told me that my parents could give me money out of my trust fund to cover their mother's expenses. Shortly thereafter I filed for divorce. Oh, and I never had a trust fund.

[@kayala1689]

It was a pre-plan/strategy between the two brothers to offend you to make you launch the divorce proceedings - they remain innocent bystanders.

[@brianallen140]

Never happened

[@vaska1999]

Good for you!

[@vaska1999]

​@@kayala1689 Nah. I think they firmly believed they could manipulate her into agreeing to it.

[@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist]

@@vaska1999 I would like more context to this story, why would they even think she has a trust fund? Its not exactly a super common thing? Its common enough sure… but not that common?

[@sasasavage5047]

There are 8 children. Each person can give the parents $250 a month.

[@MartinSal]

They all live paycheck to paycheck and one is over seas which gets paid less. I say they say the house the parents are living in . Move them back to Belize and they can live off the equity from the house or rent it out .

[@herbiehusker1889]

Parents can pay their own way

[@kingkong-ni4ho]

They are not living paycheck to paycheck. They can all easily cut down their expenses to chip in at least $100 each. They just don't want to because the caller is foolishly footing the bill for their part.

[@whitneyw.7919]

You missed the point where they're broke living in central america. $250/month in central america is probably equivalent to $1500 per month in america

[@pugtortuga3406]

Whitney W. You missed the point. They have 30 months income sitting in the house there. They should move back.

[@reggier2343]

She keeps saying he is hesitant to merge finances, but the reality is he is adamant and doesn't want to.

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

Adamant and wont Nice marriage

[@boboneill6554]

She is afraid of the blow back from all sides.

[@jwebby85]

After finding out his wife is sending their money to her parents, do you blame him?????

[@peacefreedom4930]

The parents are 80 years old with a paid off property in Belize. All the siblings live in Belize. What are they doing here? I think she’s paying for her parents because she brought them here. They are in the country for her comfort.

[@thomassidoti5496]

Smartest comment I've read

[@fixt100]

possibly for the medical care they would have access to if included on her plan

[@crzyruskie86]

@@fixt100 There are doctors in Belize, the daughters money sent back there would at least be worth more and be able to stretch further. Medical costs in the US are horrendous.

[@fixt100]

@@crzyruskie86 if you work for the right company medical costs are covered under health insurance plan her company provides. because i know my moms hip would have cost over 100k if no insurance....

[@Cahluvca]

She expects her husband to be a push over...

[@kamboieyyy9998]

She is essentially paying for her brother to live the house rent free

[@Uhhlaneuh]

“Let’s pretend you’re broke” “We don’t have to pretend” 😂😂😂

[@royalarmy1837]

Nailed it right there.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

@@royalarmy1837 - yup. She was right on the money!

[@globryan3222]

She finally gave him a good answer lol

[@hiphoplifesstyles2077]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 shoot

[@fogandwhirlwind]

Yeah I know that was hilarious

[@slubdub4971]

Yeah, she lied to the husband is what it sounds like.

[@LifeIsRythm]

Another bait n switch song. See how she puts it on him not them!

[@johnroberson1157]

if you have dealt with many liars and/or compulsive liars as well, you can tell she is lying by the tone in her voice as she tries to answer his straight forward questions with complicated responses that lend to the "story". at least...that has been my experience...

[@madbro4803]

@@johnroberson1157 you can hear the smiling when he mentions vows. She came on here to have herself validated.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

More than likely she told him, but men tend to get blinded by the allure of foreign women

[@ganthc]

EcClair Mayo the allure of $111,000 in student loan debt and being an ATM for your undocumented in laws? That allure? I agree with OP. She lied and sprung this on him after marriage. It’s why he’s keeping things separate. He should get out now before he has kids with her or she sends him to the poor house.

[@davidnatiel6886]

Send the parents back home and let them enjoy the rest of the time they have left Send them $500 a month and they should be good

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Yes and the leach siblings should contribute to the $500

[@hengineer]

Belize would be a cheaper lifestyle.

[@nicsanchez1770]

Send them nothing. Theyre adults.

[@jamesjohnson6472]

Very smart. Oh and put your brother on the street.

[@pollito5452]

300 more than enough. Brothers can help. They wont i know it for sure.

[@Cajunman1977-k3f]

This is why you always do your homework before marrying someone.

[@johnburakowski61]

The husband needs to bail , before junior enters the equation .

[@AsDfler12]

100%

[@Mramire]

Word

[@RichV20]

@Brian The Explorer It might be best to cut ties now for half and keep what you make for yourself for the rest of your life after splitting

[@nathandavis8409]

Brian The Explorer better then paying her parents rent and paying her 100k in student loan debt , sounds too me like she doesn’t have a clue of anything going on

[@Mr_Martz_Mc]

Sounds like 90 day fiance

[@krisla3142]

I agree with the husband, do NOT combine finances. Heck no!

[@Weakeyedominant]

It's already too late, her liabilities are his. I don't know why anyone marries someone with these kind of financial ties especially when they are sinking.

[@lilithdemonia74]

Notice how she's hedging her answers; she's evasive and it sounds shady. Husband needs to run....now....

[@JD-qo7hm]

It doesn't sound shady, it sounds complicated. Shes trying to do whats best for all of her family without affecting any one individually negative. Thats going to be impossible as she learns what she needs to do, but shes not being shady by working her way to that realization. Grow up. She called Dave because she needs help doing the right thing, not because she wants to defraud her husband.

[@Naturestheway]

Let me guess, you're not like this 😄

[@Naturestheway]

@@JD-qo7hm Ahh poor guy white knighting for females who would watch you die 😄 you'll learn your lesson soon enough, remember me.

[@JD-qo7hm]

@@Naturestheway Whatever you say, bud.

[@thecastle09]

run and hide in a cave. its cool being single. you dont need a woman ever.ever....i love being solo.

[@scotttrucano584]

"We were never taught about finances or savings." Hence why her parents are reliant on kids to live and survive in the first place.

[@ulical]

"We were never taught about finances or savings." - that would have been the signal for me to get up and say "and good day to you ma'am." The biggest source of marital instability is money and getting married to someone that has no clue about economics/finance is a recipe for disaster.

[@V.E.R.O.]

I think personal finances is common sense, no one in my family taught me either yet I value my possessions, I save and invest and live within my means. My one brother on the other hand has filed bankruptcy twice and is always broke.

[@gwildordipkin6504]

One brother lives in their house, and she takes care of them here? wow.

[@binks3371]

@@gwildordipkin6504 the brother lives in the house back in central america, not the one in the US

[@SpoofedTVadmin]

This lady seems to be in a rush to combined those finances. The husband needs to RUN!!!

[@sinbadx2902]

She's in a hurry to combine there dept lol not finances

[@LilBleachThaGod]

Yeah this dude is being smart while she’s being in denial

[@hzuiel]

@@sinbadx2902 ...Can you even do that with student debt? All the debt i came into my marriage with is still only in my name, and only debts we've accrued together in both of our names. I'm not sure if any of it even could be "combined". I wanted to get her a couple of cards and asked just to be sure that they wouldn't make her liable, and they said that I am the only guarantor on the debt and issuing another card in her name wouldn't change that, only if we applied for a rate increase with both of our names on the application or something like that. A friend of mine came into his marriage with student debt and even though he payed 90% of their expenses all throughout the marriage with the jobs he got because of that education, when it ended he took the student debt with him. The judge only split the assets down the middle(which of course she tried to over-inflate the value of his assets, so he had to pay her the difference), but the debt was kept by whoever's name it was in(him).

[@jamesjohnson6472]

He got smart to late .He should have found this out before he married a money pit.

[@granitemoss1451]

They should not have married before settling how this would be handled. I am a woman, but firmly on his side on this one.

[@BinksyBoi]

I'm a woman too and he is in the right. I wonder if she even told him?

[@Omonike88]

Me too. On his side.

[@jessicaHcat]

@Anthony Bush Not to mention she sounds like she clearly has no guts to tell her brother to move out. If she can't handle one sibling, I doubt she can stand up against the rest.

[@AdaEstherGJ]

I also feel the same way and I am also a woman.

[@HeavymetalHylian]

I doubt she discussed this with him OR she did, but was passive about it and did what she wanted anyway. If she can't talk to any one of her 7 siblings that she grew up with about something as serious as helping her parents survive, what can convince us that she's going to talk to her husband about anything?

[@chuckgoodman3828]

It’s not his responsibility to support your family, honey!!!!!

[@jimroscovius]

It is now, since they got married. If she lied, I'd end it and be gone.

[@chuckgoodman3828]

@@jimroscoviuswrong! Her siblings are NOT helping out! It’s not his responsibility to pay for his in-laws bills!

[@jimroscovius]

@@chuckgoodman3828 I agree the siblings need to help out. I get that it's not all their responsibility. But he married her, which means they are in this together, unless she lied to him. Whatever they decide to do, they are in it together. His only other choice is to leave.

[@davidr9876]

She can't get him to do what she wants so she's calling to hopefully get reinforcements to convince the hubby to do what she wants

[@derekintheph8935]

Yeah that's how the pinays operate they have a shaming culture and it does work on their own but not so much with Americans

[@jamesmoriarty9603]

@@derekintheph8935 I seriously don't understand "shaming culture" ..like, what are you going to do - continue to *not* contribute anything? You're already shameful for letting other people do things for you when you're capable of participating. This supposed bond between us - "family", does what for me, exactly? If I have this obligation to you, do you have an obligation to me? Please tell me you're something other than a line item in my budget...

[@InOrlando]

Tons of shame in the culture. Religion train these women really well.

[@derekintheph8935]

@@jamesmoriarty9603 you nailed it

[@fornos123]

@@derekintheph8935 I’m from Central America too and I would’ve done the same thing the husband is doing. This husband you’re calling American made the biggest mistake by marrying this chick. He should never combined his finances with her.

[@Smullet90]

If you're taking care of half the expenses of the mortgage then you should have some part of ownership in the house. It doesn't make sense to pay half the mortgage to get 1/7th inheritance.

[@cassiepathak]

And you know the siblings will cling to every penny.

[@esmeraldagreen1992]

It looks like she is a scammer.

[@ilvean3122]

This is common with immigrant families, including my own. One or two siblings here in the states supporting an entire lazy brood back home. Things came to a sudden stop when my grandma passed away, they resented my father and aunt for cutting them off. Good on my pops.

[@FredSmith-s5t]

My wife and I seperated our finances after about 10 years. Shw worked, I was semi retired. I had additional funds elsewhere. I paid the mortgage. She paid the bills. We are happy.

[@Curiousnessify]

"lets pretend you were broke" - "We dont have to pretend" LOLL

[@MIS315]

The only sensible thing she said

[@scorpion8rage]

This video goes out to all the guys who say marrying a foreign girl is better. 🤣 🤣 🤣🤣 🤣 🤣🤣

[@scorpion8rage]

@Keep Rocking! If you said that 10 yrs ago, I would agree. It's different now. You can thank social media.

[@roam2rome414]

@Keep Rocking! couldn't agree with you more!

[@linkingwithnaz1295]

Foreign girls not from here. Once they move here and americanize they become just like every other American girl.

[@joshalberto2814]

Foreign girls are definitely better he just got an american girl. She has no accent and she went to college that's definitely not a foreign girl will definitely not a mexican that's for sure

[@fazdoll]

@Eric Collins From what I've seen, Latino beauty does fade, FAST. By the time they're 30 they have 4 kids and they're 60 pounds overweight. But you do you.

[@mccdrew7012]

The way she slowly answered the questions and seemed unsure leads me to believe she didn’t tell her husband anything before they were married, locked him into a marriage and then the truth came out. He needs to divorce her or he’s going to end up being the parent of his wife, her parents and eventually the 7 other siblings.

[@joyceboisvert9167]

Greed isn’t part of marriage she doesn’t love you she love your money

[@ajohonly3721]

I was paying everything for my family until God sent me my husband , I took his hand and we ran far away! Now my siblings understand me better.

[@sophiasmith5949]

Dreamy

[@codingiscreativity]

I am also looking for that man to run away .

[@karfeishaolyia9567]

i learn the hard word way now 31 one and starting over my life

[@Deb_deCoder]

@@codingiscreativity yess! we are here to save you fymales! we are willing to go negative with you!

[@sneakerfreak2002]

Kewl

[@MrJreed1000]

102k income total? .. I wonder how much of that is his and how much is hers?🤔... And her dept is 5x his debt... This guy got a raw deal

[@Robiuche]

😂 ikr

[@YegnaCoLLC]

Rawwwwww

[@Thecairopractors]

Take the money and run

[@filmislife77]

Well as Dave would say once you're married it's not his or hers it's ours because you're married

[@broluxgigantos89]

She might be very attractive or...he is very desperate. We need pictures and the put a dollar number on things. Then sell things. Or whatever financial gurus say...

[@carlosestrella3787]

If the husband actually called in... Dave: Sell the wife. Sell the wife. 🤣

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

He tells ppl to get divorced?!?

[@christinamartinez8132]

He would tell him to have her selling pizzas! 😂

[@niyablake]

@Thelondonbadger get one that brings some thin g to the table

[@littleretroship6403]

She thinks its weird that her husband doesn’t want to combine their debts when her debts are aver 5x more than his

[@RowneyPowers]

That's how marriage works buckaroo. Your debt, her debt, it's both of y'all's debt.

[@BradKandyCroftFamily]

It didn't sound like the debt was the problem, it's her parents living off of her that's the problem. She thinks they are her financial responsibility because she's the "rich" child living in America. Her siblings obviously feel the same way.

[@georgeide2337]

​@@RowneyPowersIts not when her debt is not paid because she funds her parents life.

[@YashKumar-tj3vt]

​@@RowneyPowers mam she has 5×debt even if that's okay she is funding her family every month.Why would anyone combine finances??

[@airinschiff814]

Luckiest man is the “exhusband” lol

[@notanotheryoutubechannel777]

@hermit gains luckiest man is who laid pipe and dipped lol

[@turdferguson5847]

Now we know why he is the ex-husband

[@minervagalvez4748]

I AGREE! LUCKY EX-HUSBAND!!!

[@littleripper312]

Being an ex-husband is the worst situation not the best...

[@angeladerienzo328]

You got that right

[@mdooms76]

I would never join my money together with this person. She seems irresponsible and silly minded!! This is the type of marriage that breaks up over finances. He needs to get out of this marriage...it was a big mistake.

[@analyhernandez4607]

mdooms76 Yes. It sounds like her #1 priority is her parents, not her husband/marriage.

[@Pulapaws]

mdooms76 what make it even worse her says it with her own mouth, her family which include her, are horrible when it comes to money.

[@DisabilityExams]

Divorce in 5 - 4 - 3 - 2 - 1

[@thecastle09]

blast offf and run away bro.

[@MeanOldLady]

Cowards. Both of you. Stop making stupid decisions & take responsibility for your own choices. No one put a gun to this guy's head, he went in there knowing full well what was going on. It's not right for him to bail now, but he definitely needs to get a handle on family issues & learn how to lead the family instead of being a spineless coward. The world doesn't need any more useless, cowardly people in it.

[@JohnnyDub16]

@@MeanOldLady let's make one thing clear here, he is NOT responsible for HER debt or HER parents. SHE is. If anything SHE Is the coward for not taking care of her own debt and taking charge of her family.

[@aharrison9972]

Yes, but he’ll hear the words “ we’re expecting”. Before he gets away free.

[@lt38217]

@@aharrison9972 LOL !

[@takarahayashi4124]

I have a feeling that a good chunk of her student loans were additional loans given to her parents.

[@HaveCommonSense76]

I bet you’re right I didn’t even think of that

[@mateca911]

Husband will pay out the loans then will magically find that her love is gone and divorce is looming.

[@SunShine-oe4rt]

Lol

[@rigobertosantiago5790]

Happens more often than one would think

[@BST-lm4po]

And she will find a million ways to justify it! ...AKA- It's not her fault!

[@mateca911]

@@BST-lm4po It's not her fault indeed, though. It's her nature. We, men need to stop having excessive expectations of women and start taking them for what they are. It's our fault, really.

[@swagsik390]

@@mateca911 How is it men's fault?

[@wichaelmeston1492]

The husband should of ran like Forrest Gump & not get married. Why marry someone you can’t trust with there finances & have family issues. These are the types of issues you discuss in full detail before marriage when you talking about a future together.. because for any logical, common sense thinking man this is a dealbreaker.

[@ricardoalvarez5585]

She must be hot and his hormones won that argument.

[@Perthboy1988]

haha must be extremely hot

[@genemartin6962]

RUN son RUN!!!!! She is living in a dream world. " I dont come from a financially stable house hold""" Run son RUN!!!!!!

[@spike14501]

I don't care what Dave says, I'm not paying my wife's debt! Not happening!!!

[@carboy101]

I fully agree with you.

[@jamestkirkcameron9189]

Same. If it's a small amount, like a few thousand okay no problems. But not student loans.

[@Rokkman3]

I really wonder if she talked to her man about it

[@adhdgirlies]

Then dont get married. It's not yours vs mine.

[@jamestkirkcameron9189]

@@adhdgirlies Yes, we agree with you. Don't get married to women with lots of debt.

[@stephaniedonato6414]

Mom and Dad go back to Belize and the brother who lives the retakes care of them now. All other kids chip in to help them.

[@angelikalaser7778]

Yes, good Plan. They can't feel home in the US. Why did they move at 80

[@TsarOfRuss]

If i were the husband, i could secretly call immigration and get her parents deported !!! Problem solved !!!

[@onenikkione]

@@TsarOfRuss Bro, start a radio talk show. I'll be your co-host

[@ringchaser4488]

@@TsarOfRuss if they are here legally, you just wasted your time and the person you called time....

[@Windom_Craig]

@@TsarOfRuss savage sir. Real savage

[@Southernislander601]

Husband needs to get out of that situation. I was married into a trifling family like that. It doesn’t get any better. Just a marriage full of being the “bad guy” if you don’t allow them to use you and dealing with severe financial ignorance. It’s best to cut ties.

[@zzzinsomniaczzz]

"Let's pretend you were broke." "Well, we don't have to pretend." Best response.

[@rudebwoy9203]

He needs to speak with an attorney to start the process of divorcing

[@DanielIles]

It sounds like he was trying to get her out of crippling debt first. Help yourself before you help others or you won’t be able to do either!

[@triniwondawoman]

Daniel Iles 💯💯💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@RK-ve4xp]

💯 Help yourself first. And never help people who can't help themselves.

[@blackworldtraveler3711]

I can certainly see why she wanted to get married.

[@signorpops8520]

she was in deep love. Thats the problem with women. They love too hard .

[@robertjohnson4401]

@@signorpops8520 In love with money

[@patthetrucker5670]

Life insurance,hubby is about to have a little accident.

[@thewatchersuperman]

@@signorpops8520 lol timely sarcasm..

[@lovethemflowers]

This is one of the few times I don't blame the spouse for not wanting to combine incomes . . . yet.

[@MarthaTorres-gu7vd]

Lol. Rule number 1. Never combine finances. Never.

[@jimbobduggar1747]

The husband made a mistake marrying this woman. I HIGHLY Doubt he knew the specifics of her debt and how much she gave her parents every month.

[@NrthrnKnght]

she threw the puddin at him HARD..

[@MarthaTorres-gu7vd]

She opened wide whenever finances came up. Kept the sausage wet until she got the bag. Right now. He'd be better off giving her 20 grand and divorcing her. Will be way cheaper this way. Right now she's throwing that puss at him every night. Securing a monthly check for her parents.

[@mirandataylor6385]

This show makes me feel okay I'm not married yet.

[@TANQ31]

As a 30 yr old man who makes a good income and has assets, it makes zero sense to get married. The only exception I can see is if I'm gonna start a family with a girl, but as every year passes, I want kids less and less. I know I'm not the only one.

[@ErkFX]

Miranda Taylor haha right?? Especially if you’re already debt free but you know the chances of finding someone else who’s financially responsible and not in a load of debt are slim to none.

[@codybarrett4672]

ditto

[@NickOloteo]

TangyLid and 2/3rd of student loan debt is owned by women.

[@jlucas3flyb0y7]

ErkFX - Roblox & More! Oh cool, i guess i’m the 1% in that area! 8)

[@Ant0417]

Here’s what I heard: “So I tricked this new guy into marrying me by pretending I love him and now he refuses to pay off my enormous debt and give half of his paycheck to my freeloading family! What do I do, Dave?”

[@arleneaugustahair8393]

JJ Anthony Pretty much! 🤣🤣🤣

[@GoogleAccount00]

Bingo

[@mexital1159]

That's sounds about right

[@rudybonilla9271]

After a few months it’ll be what should I do Steve or Jerry, Maury or your honor

[@GeneralChangFromDanang]

Also: "My original 5 year plan was to divorce him after he paid off my loan. This has set me back by at least a couple years."

[@PUGGDAD]

The title of this episode should be “Wife tries taking advantage of her husbands income to pay off her debt.”

[@Cahluvca]

EXACTLY!

[@zacktube100]

...and keep her parents on vacation"

[@Naturestheway]

10000000% females are completely corrupted

[@bobbyg5615]

@@Naturestheway So true.

[@FJDH11]

Looks like the husband didn't vet her enough before marriage.

[@IMOO1896]

Conclusion, he got suckered in!

[@MsJoyce31202]

He's not supposed to. He's YOUR husband not theirs.

[@trekreview]

Been in a situation like this before with my ex wife. Now divorced got a new GF without all the deadbeat family members. He doesn't want to share bank accounts because she is just going to give all the money to the family. She is the cash cow with a American husband and all the other family members just leach off of her. Cut your losses dude.

[@mirandataylor6385]

Seen it one too many times. Needs to get out!!! My ex was like this.

[@jessicaHcat]

A lot of people assume their relatives or friends who live in the United States are rich and having a good life. It's hard for them to grasp the concept that people can still be struggling with debts and other issues.

[@RobTzu]

Thai?

[@GoogleAccount00]

Agree

[@darwinLee81283]

@zadose cause shes foreign and not a western woman. So shes prob very feminine , and submissive and attractive. So he is a simp and married her to keep her. She prob dont even love this dude and her family think they can milk him thru her

[@intelligentinvestor7615]

Poor guy. I think hes being very understanding, it seems as though she clouded a couple things from his veiw.

[@megscott222]

Her husband made the biggest mistake of his life. Yikes

[@HEHE-dx9og]

I`m sure she didn`t tell him till after they got married.

[@NrthrnKnght]

run forest run

[@TruthHurts922]

He can get it annulled she lied to him

[@huhhahuh]

Marrying this woman was a mistake. He did not think it through.

[@karlsbergkarl2230]

Ohhh but he did think about it. Unfortunately for him he was using his little head.

[@kthekeeper5117]

@@karlsbergkarl2230: Did you mean reciprocator?

[@melissam7067]

The mistake was they didnt discuss the financials enough. He ignored it and got married anyway.

[@karlsbergkarl2230]

@@kthekeeper5117 what else ?

[@adilnajmuddin]

Why?

[@Jose243]

Wouldn't it make sense for them to move back to Central America where they have a paid for home and the majority of the kids live there? It's really easy to send money now a days and USD will be a lot more valuable over there. It's cheaper to fly to see them every 3-4 months than maintain this craziness

[@gkbluestocking]

Jose U yes but better medical facilities are here in the States

[@rebeccashields9626]

Agreed.

[@kingkong-ni4ho]

That was what I was thinking. Sell the house in America. Go live in central America. Live off social security and the profit from the home sale. Come to America every 6 months for medical checkups. So much less money will be used that way.

[@monikabennett]

Gkbluestocking Sounds like they can't afford the medical facilities here, either.

[@johndoe-ii1ko]

@@gkbluestocking they're medical facilities are just about the same. Would I get plastic surgery there? No. But if we're talking health and whatnot, they have comparable medical care. Hence why so many Americans travel to Mexico for otherwise expensive surgeries and prescriptions. I think it's more they're leeching off the American husband. The daughter probably promised she'd take care of them or something.

[@ianmowbray3284]

How did her mum and dad get a Mortgage with no income?

[@basthan1]

And pay the other half of it??

[@Ant0417]

I doubt the mortgage is under their name. This lady probably bought the house, or her new sucker husband bought it.

[@s_1408]

COSIGNER!

[@erikaerika7788]

Home was bought when they had income (job) .. simple .

[@velvetrose06]

But they’re clearly not legal residents otherwise wouldn’t they have been able to get SS? So if they’re not legal U.S. citizens then how the heck did they get approved for a home mortgage co-signed or not...

[@frag_g]

Too many women see men as a way to pay off their debt. He wasn't there when you took the loans out, PAY YOUR OWN DEBT!

[@darleneprice3492]

Don't think she's really interested fixing the broblem.

[@walteryoung3492]

females never are. they typically just like to vent

[@Asmodeius]

she is not, she was calling to ask for advice on how to persuade her husband to take care of her mom and dad.

[@lmeaux5240]

Caller stated that she has been paying half of the mortgage for her parents. Where is the other half coming from?

[@tippytoe1250]

I have a feeling she’s paying the entire mortgage.

[@Faith-un7ns]

How did the parents get a mortgage with no income to begin with.

[@dasmesser1]

If those 2000 dls are for the mortgage only, parents are living in a mansion. She is obviously paying for more than half the mortgage or paying for living expenses too.

[@poopn69]

@@dasmesser1 nope ca thats average price .

[@elleivers9387]

@@tippytoe1250 I agree becuz the mortgage is in her name...

[@MyNameIsCorey]

Shes carries more debt than her husband, her family is taking HER on a financial ride and this all some how equates to being her husband's fault...? Intriguing 🤔

[@JordanMadera]

MyNameIsCorey Probably has a liberal arts degree.

[@76shogun1]

Who said it was the husband's fault besides you?🤔

[@CodHumors]

@spot light to be fair, chinese math is the same everywhere

[@Overly_Hydrated]

“Did he say for rich and for poor” “did he mean it” “so you give money to your family without asking your husband” This guy is great. Literally no bias, just marriage and dollar signs.

[@kfgrip]

I DOUBT very highly that she let him know any of this before the marriage, because he hesitates now I believe if he would have known prior he would not have married.

$111,000 college education can’t buy common sense. Run brother. File for divorce now before she gets pregnant and your stuck paying child support for 18 years and alimony for the rest of your life.

[@EugeneTChu]

Divorce without kids may still mean alimony. Annul instead...

[@iviaverick52]

Listening to callers on Dave's show has made me greatly appreciate never taking out student loans.

[@paulremick4291]

Amen brother!

[@theodorelaurence1790]

Dude, she is exploiting him. What is she contributing to support her husbands parents? Nothing.