Stephan Labossiere Talks Dating Multiple People, Myths On Falling In Love + More

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you all for your support and checking out this episode! Be sure to check out our previous episodes via any podcast streaming services, soundcloud.com/theroommatespodcast.

[@deannab4175]

The Roommates Podcast this was awesome 👏.. touched on so many important topics.. great work.

[@harrietpierre403]

Hi there was a show you that you guys had that featured a women talking about women cheat more. I saw a small clip but wanted to watch the full clip where can i find it

[@dequantissmith4670]

The Roommates Podcast where is the podcast women cheat more then men seen a clip but no video

[@xavierevans3147]

I definitely needed to see this 💯

[@chaniera87]

Hey guys! whats your location? I think we should collaborate on a podcast episode, check me out on itunes search uncommon women and email me so we can connect

[@ladycoble389]

“The right women will stand apart from the rest”. That part. Amen.

[@mngwanamngwana4790]

@faith umuk the right men do notice

[@SWIFTzTrigger]

@faith umuk I think barely any stand apart nowadays

[@miguelma3237]

once you're used by many machos, you desgust men! a 25yo woman has 10 year of rotation and 25yo is the peak of fertility and estogen for a woman after that it's all going down(it's science). So men just pump and dump!!! If a woman does not give herself to men when she is between 16 and 25 which is the range in time where fertility and beauty is a its peak, from there on then men just pump and dump!!!

[@miguelma3237]

Men want the phase in life of a woman where she is before the peak meaning before 25!!!! Why do you give yourselfs to many other man when you are before 25(the phase you are growing in beauty and fertelity)? Why do you do that!!? i have no respect for woman over 25yo whatsoever!!! after 25 there is only 5 sometimes less than 5 year to 30yo. And we all know what happen to a 30yo, everything is sagging! everything is hangging down!! it's sad that many woman give themselfs at their worst physically to a man!!! AND DONT COME TO THE INNER BEAUTY BULLSHIT!! WAKE UP FOR LIFE!

[@stocks4bt]

I totally agree with you. I have experienced that 1st hand. His comment at 40:00 is dead on the money

[@Leshay5]

“Love does not keep you where you do not belong”! FACTS!

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Such a great point. You cant stay in unhealthy places.

[@mrs.pwilliams2604]

So what does?🤔

[@halaluyahuahhomesteaders9550]

This comment though ......“Love does not keep you where you do not belong”! FACTS!....SHEW

[@messieeber6323]

@@mrs.pwilliams2604 Infatuation!!!

[@chriscurtis8344]

Mrs. P Williams , fear!

[@rebeccapalazzo3221]

How you treat YOU is a perfect indication of how you’ll treat ME. I like that. Good word

[@Cascadia2011]

Rebecca Palazzo - ❤️ Truth. Facts.Thank u

[@Michelle-so6nc]

My ex treated himself extremely well. Spoiled and treated himself to all his needs and wants but.. he was unable to show love to another other than him. I think it's important to make sure that the people we're considering not only treat themselves well but have a compassionate and giving nature to go with that.

[@zerospecs2331]

Michelle Fermin Right, of course.

[@kaylasheppard7746]

@@Michelle-so6nc on the flip side of that, I dont treat myself well at all really, but I do everything I can for everyone else. So the above statement isnt always true.

[@jornkirkengard8238]

Good point. Sometimes the way a person treats themselves remind their partner of how they should treat themselves.

[@eteldias5176]

So cool to see Stephan paying close attention to the boys' concerns. It's great that he takes the time reaching out to the younger generation.

[@janaya.6943]

Man if he ever have a daughter she gonna be set for life cause he gonna be dropping all the gems on her about men and life 😌🙌🏾

[@mattjames4674]

providing the daughter is mix because you know black men, they dont like their black daughters and always split frm the mother to get them a white or spanish woman to get mix daughters

[@n.amanfu9297]

lion THE KING so you’re saying raising a kid well is just luck?, I feel like that’s discrediting good parenting. Yeah they can still turn out however but more than likely that they won’t.

[@monicathebeautiful6483]

She gonna know the game when she's 3!!

[@StonemanDW]

@@mattjames4674 dumb ass

[@MissyASTB]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@sscott504]

A man that does a Full Spiritual Fast is nothing to play with!!!!

[@wendyberkel4643]

So true that a real man

[@destaylor9999]

@@wendyberkel4643 that doesn't make you a real man one bit😂😂😂🤦

[@justlookingandobservingpeo521]

@@destaylor9999 it's a start. A start on becoming a better man.

[@destaylor9999]

@@justlookingandobservingpeo521 👍🏽👍🏽

[@licki9176]

Des Taylor try going on one i bet you tap out in 2 days

[@takeauthority30]

Nothing is more attractive than a BLACK MAN OF GOD... knowledgeable, strong, bold and caring. Yesssss Lord... Getting the books for my loved ones and self... Thank u awesome video

[@komplexsimplicitydavid5353]

Absolutely!

[@LuckLuckie1]

Bitch you're attracted to his looks shut up

[@nhearts]

why bring skin colour in to this? Hes talking about love which knows no boundaries or skin color

[@Godsgraceish]

nhearts because it’s relevant to her!

[@Godsgraceish]

nhearts and he is black.

[@leaellas8400]

If these conversations are your norm... You are real men. Because real men seek growth, and I am happy to see young black men have these conversations (that they should have). I am a young black women so I have some hope for the future. @The Roommate Podcast

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks so much. Be sure to subscribe and check out more of our episodes.

[@leaellas8400]

@@TheRoommatesPodcast My pleasure!

[@tifawt3736]

Lea Ellas I agree FULLY!

[@gerardobambu9021]

We need more people willing to seek these type of knowledge or wisdom...and stop talking about idiotic subjects ....

[@beautifulsoul8415]

I definitely agree with your statement! Thank you

[@lindagatwiri869]

"Great woman doesn't mean the right woman"👏👏 "A woman you have a connection with will easily separate herself from the pack" Those two points were an eye opener for me.

[@sosouth15]

For me as well. Just broke up with my woman because I could sense it. Kinda felt like I was making a mistake, like I passed up a good woman, but my gut never lies.

[@maseengmasitha6212]

I’m tired of being told that I’m good person 😔.

[@denniskimathi3251]

Gatwiri uko wapi?

[@cherrydeleon9646]

869, FACT'S girl. Men are crazy. I thought the younger guy's had a better perspection of women. Guess I was wrong. The order's are worst.

[@cherrydeleon9646]

South, follow your gut feelings son. Things & better must come. Peaches JAMAICA 🇯🇲 HARLEM NYC

[@shay-shaylawnmayfield920]

I usually do not listen to male relationship coaches because it seems like they are capitalizing on single and lonely women. BUT Stephan is a genius he has my attention. This is good stuff.

[@AS-eq2qm]

Same here...derek jaxn or whatever his name is i believe is one of them

[@kc7476]

@Dinero Fire good point. Is there any piece of advice directed to men or women that applies only to either men or women? Or are we more similar than dating coaches lead us to believe?

[@shantoriascherrie7938]

right! he teaches

[@saladbisch6977]

@@AS-eq2qm this aged so well

[@bananapee86]

@@AS-eq2qm white boy rick agrees

[@kdori787]

Doon't know how why this showed up in my recommended list but I'm glad I clicked on it, great podcast!

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks so much!

[@mizzzelly69]

Karen M Me also Glad it came up Yet super random

[@a.victoria3371]

Me too

[@Jasmillmelisa]

same, in my recommendeed

[@PhaMa1002]

Same, new sub!

[@WilliamsPinch]

Falling in love is soul RESONANCE! It’s baffling how many people don’t believe in this. It has nothing to do with similar interests & values, that’s compatibility. Also, unhealthy attachments get coined as love. Ugh these young men are being schooled by Stephen. Teach them king!

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Haha, being schooled lol. We are all learning.

[@tylynn256]

This is why people can fall in love AFTER they are in a relationship with someone else.

[@BluDrop5]

@@tylynn256...or still remain in love with an ex...

[@tylynn256]

@@BluDrop5 yes indeed

[@misssterling3094]

@Tory Shaye LOL- I'm on the fence.

[@martajajackson1836]

Finally dating advice ABOUT a man FROM a man. I am tired of women trying to speak for both sides. I am like...no no honey.

[@elloello4484]

Mar'Taja Jackson AccurateAF!! Well said

[@AogiritreeLindo]

Vybz Kartel

[@ambercolored3090]

faith umuk if you think you can accuse every man "for not listening to women's perspective" because your husband doesn't, then don't be surprised when someone generalizes you to the lot of women

[@workingonmyself]

Mar'Taja Jackson Amen

[@workingonmyself]

And not from Steve Harvey

[@thebeamli]

I respect a man who calls me out on my flaws respectfully. Tell me "babe, let's go to the gym"

[@w2spec]

Love is getting mistaken for infatuation nowadays. Just gotta be patient. Love will stand the test of time. Keep working on yourself and she or he will come.

[@reneesimone6667]

@Abrar Samen it's that mentality that has men and women panicking and settling... You die alone no matter what

[@reneesimone6667]

@Abrar Samen my apologies in misunderstanding your comment

[@mimimontoya401]

This brother is the truth... I sent him a message on facebook and he responded to my comment within minutes. Mind you he had over a thousand comments. So he really cares about people... Yes, he is God filled. Thank you, for what you do. I can't wait to buy your next book. Love you with GODLY LOVE

[@cyndigooch1162]

Honey M I would've responded to you within minutes if I was a man as well though. Lol. Seriously now, he does reply quickly to many people, yet not all of them because that wouldn't be possible, unless he did it 24/7. 😊

[@TheZeroManifested]

It boils down to Authenticity. You gotta be really honest with yourself first. After that everything falls into place.

[@newgrowth74]

Isabel Montero truth

[@soystef]

100% 100%

[@jeremiah8716]

Facts...being transparent plays a major factor

[@nikkyshamz2696]

💯💯💯

[@VeeVeeLL3Gemini]

Empress Nin9 facts

[@christianyannick4048]

Each time he drop knowledge and they say “ hmmmmm” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Haha it was great stuff lol

[@whoknew5940]

🤣 So true. I found myself "hmmmmm"ing right along with them. It was funny when I realized it. 🤣

[@Chanelfairclough]

I was thinking the same thing. I think they should write their questions down next time. 😁😂😫

[@appetite4chic878]

Kouassi Christian that’s how you know he dropping jewels lol

[@thedavisdimension]

I hate that shit😀

[@EvieBam]

So much truth here. I LOVE it when a guy walks closer to the road naturally. It shows me he subconsciously wants to keep me safe and cares for me.

[@ms.claudia4855]

Folks need to get healed and delivered before entering relationships.

[@TURBOBEATZZZ]

So none should marry then because no one is totally ever healed. As a matter of fact a good marriage can actually cause healing. The problem is that people need to be honest about themselves from the start to each other...

[@namastewellness]

Relationships are often what God uses to help heal and deliver us. If it's the childhood relationship(s) is what damaged us, it would make sense that that would be the same means by which we are healed.

[@hizbonnymyclyde12]

I agree...I truly agree from my own personal issues and reason.

[@percyastronautstatus.8780]

Can u PLEASE say that AGAIN?? ppl our here trying to FALL in love and they straight up needing THERAPY from pookie, Ray Ray and Tyrone.

[@Killerpanchetas]

actually quite the opposite.. People need to stay far away from religion and their relationship. I've learned that strongly religious people are very hard to get through to and communication/logic is the essence of a successful relationship. I've been married for 10 years in a happy successful marriage and one I was looking for a spouse i found ladies who weren't religious had better logic/reasoning skills..

[@thompsonerica09able]

He is impressively aware sand knowledgeable of his expertise. Love it!!

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Indeed. Great conversation!

[@becky5937]

He is a true Hebrew Israelite, El favor de papa dios!

[@annettescroggins3905]

Awesome work!

[@hnpet4245]

I fast monthly for spiritual reasons and it's been so beneficial for me. As someone who deals with depression, fasting has helped me think clearly and I've lost a gang load of weigh but I eat healthier too now. It's like you reach a different level of consciousness.

[@boujieekaylonnii5238]

Hlumelo Petros great

[@mariamalhotra8228]

Wow

[@MissHumanity1016]

Hlumelo I can concur with everything you stated. I was spiritually lead to water fast November 1, 2018 due to depression, anxiety and insomnia due to fighting multiple circumstances. When I tell you how great I felt it's unexplainable. I told my doctors I had a Supernatural surgery. I'm still on my journey. Keep up the GREATNESS and God bless. ❤

[@Thriftblackgrl]

Are we going to ignore his fresh line up on his beard

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

It can't be ignored.

[@kimberly0717]

PrintsAndSequins Lol nope..noticed but I was a hair stylist so my eyes are trained. Again..nope 👀 peeped it early on 😊

[@SincerelyBP1]

No we’re sure not. Lined to perfection...😂

[@1OfdaKoldest]

I think he sprayed black ice on it. it looks nice anyway.

[@marissawilson4644]

It is why I clicked #BeardGang

[@oaklandsoldier5920]

I'm 33 years old and male This dude is dropping some serious knowledge. I need to do better and get better.

[@nessava4965]

Hope you’re still on the path to love.

[@royjohnson79]

Wow! This brother future is bright. I been with my wife for 20 great years and can relate with alot with what he is saying. The connection has to be there and men be a leader for the woman to support you and love will never leave.

[@goldengirl7625]

That's awesome, congrats on your long marriage! I'm only 23 and hope to be married in the future, the mindset of the people in my generation makes me question how much people actually value traditional marriage, though.

[@trishbayhi2902]

@Golden Girl: you have the right mindset - do not conform to the ways of this world, yo. (I felt the same way, and I did not marry until I was nearly 33. I had 3 beautiful children with my beautiful FOREVER husband; however, after 15 years together (nearly 12 of those married) he was killed in an auto accident. I do not regret waiting for the right man - just wish I’d had more time. When we said “till death do us part,” WE MEANT IT. It’s 3 & 1/2 years since we lost him, and I am STILL in need of more “healing” I think, because I loved him so deeply, it’s just VERY HARD to navigate through life without him - I still feel broken... (suppose that’s why I’ve attracted “broken” since then.) Anywayyyy... the point I originally meant to convey is this: marriage is 100% successful when you do it the way God planned it... Love and Respect. Men need respect like women need love - and we both (men and women) need it like we need OXYGEN!! Seek God first, and everything else you need will follow!! (Oh, to be 23 again... lol) God bless you

[@bananapee86]

@@goldengirl7625 don’t forget to bring a towel

[@soystef]

Men: TAKE NOTES Women: TAKE NOTES

[@oaklandsoldier5920]

Great point.

[@JenniferRenae]

Kids: TAKE NOTES ( break the cycle)

[@RealLadi228]

A spiritually awakened man is a beautiful powerful being🙏🙏🙏

[@findyourpixiedusteveryday6344]

as is the spiritual awakened woman

[@kimberly0717]

Soooo many things I wanted to comment on. But connection is KEY! Having a connection where you are genuinely his or her friend, you enjoy each other company etc. you LIKE them as a person will keep you doing right by them and y’all together for the long haul.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks for sharing!

[@wshelby83]

I agree with your comment!!

[@Filmyism]

"people use the label of love to validate and defend relationships that they're in" - Stephen. Wow. Just wow. That's incredibly on point.

[@BP-fh8np]

That connection bit he's speaking of is something that is all spiritual. It already exist and cannot be destroyed just avoided. Once you've experienced this connection you'll understand the difference between love and infatuation.

[@kimallnaturelle]

Truth.

[@moizahqureshi6983]

have you experienced the connection yourself

[@gloriamariadc7757]

Amen👍🏻

[@valerie5732]

“We often forget and neglect intuition can see through illusive intent, listen to it” H.E.R.

[@TURBOBEATZZZ]

Eve had intuition......

[@suzanlamwaka8743]

@@TURBOBEATZZZ ĺkvdyAwst.mb

[@melissaechols1969]

I married a man that I didn't have a connection with. I stayed 10 years. I now realize that I made the right decision in leaving. You are right about thinking you're in love with someone and that person being the wrong person. Great podcast. I'm saving this one to go over again. Thanks

[@soystef]

melissaechols1969 yup this one is definitely a saver!

[@DianaGarcia-lb9dl]

I agree a couple of years ago I realized that the person who I was with for 20 years wasnt the person for me

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks for checking out the podcast.

[@genevivenc]

I married and had children with the wrong person. He was a great provider but a horrible mate and partner. I stayed so long for fear of being a single mom, being labeled a failure and that I was not enough and somehow deserved to be abused and cheated on. The crazy part is as long as I only loved him, catered to him and neglected myself, we were fine. The moment I started loving me, working out, went back to school he became jealous and figured he could beat it out of me. Leaving him was the best thing I could have done for myself and my children. I thank God for my Life and my Freedom.

[@DianaGarcia-lb9dl]

Nicole Cole I'm so sorry that happened to you..I'm glad you decided to love yourself and that you decided to put yourself first..many blessings to you

[@azizifoster6242]

He really has a gift ! This is definitely his calling. I've watched this numerous times but now that I am building a relationship with someone, it hit me deep..

[@wshelby83]

Right!! I've watched it numerous times as well

[@asiajac]

I remember a saying I heard say: A woman has the power to take you to heaven or drag you to hell That’s the power of a woman Heal. Evolve. Choose wisely everyone...

[@yogaflame4128]

This is simple logic. If you’re at a buffet, you taste all the choices, if you like one more than others, it will soon dominate the plate. You won’t go back for the other choices anymore.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks for sharing that analogy.

[@BluDrop5]

Cornbread does it to me everytime...

[@samusgenesis]

But the meal will still have to have other items as that would be the healthiest option. Can't have just all biscuits or all ice cream on that plate. Need proteins, fats and carbs on that plate lol. Men are polygynists by nature. A masculine trait all but lost to the masses IMO.

[@La_abbess]

BluDrop5 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Well well well👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Princesse_D]

“i don’t call it a feeling, i call it recognition” oh my!!! ✨ speak. on. it.

[@1st_b]

DeAja lol anything gasses you lot I swear

[@shemekadavis351]

When he's speaking of connection it's the same thing as a spiritual twin flame. I can totally resonate

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks for sharing.

[@danadavis8333]

Yep 😊

[@animusrye2342]

Girl!!! I was looking to see if someone else was hip. This is exactly what came to mind watching this.

[@animusrye2342]

And yes, I definitely resonate as well. "I don't call it a feeling, I call it recognition" 💫👁️💫

[@PersonalStatementPros]

"If you're not good to you, you won't be good to me." Love you guys, keep up the great work! Stephan is a legend.

[@Virtygo22]

I really enjoyed this podcast. It's so refreshing to see black young men open to a very intimate and vulnerable conversation about love and relationships. It seems like a lot of men nowadays are not willing to consume the knowledge as much as women are. As a woman I want to say I appreciate every man that watched this video in its entirety and was open to the conversation. God bless

[@richardjet2]

Hmph

[@Nate-ph6gv]

“As much as women are” tf is that supposed to mean the same gold digging a$$ females and only want hood dudes because “good guys are boring” nah g don’t make such a brash assumption like that. There are a lot of good men that y’all females don’t want.

[@20yrs_oldBlackGuy]

@@Nate-ph6gv 😆 🤣 lol

[@ladycoble389]

Dude is the Truth. People please listen to him. He is truly telling it like it is. I’ve learned this to be true by living the experience myself. These young people don’t know what Love is. Heck even some old heads don’t know. OMG he’s on 🔥

[@wshelby83]

Love your comments!!

[@bernibee4307]

IT takes TIME to get to know a person. How do you know instantly you have some deep connection..you have to have the patience and willingness to establish a genuine connection. Everyone wants INSTANT gratification.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Instant gratification is indeed a problem in our culture.

[@evianpree9619]

I believe it is possible to have an instant connection someone. it happened to me. its just energy that you are exchanging with each other.

[@BluDrop5]

Connection and compatibility are not the same thing - with the latter taking more time to recognize. Let me ask: have you ever met someone and determined that you didn't like their energy, attitude, or personality? You didn't need - nor wanted - to spend more time getting to know them. You just knew you weren't connected.

[@justanotherabc8888]

@@BluDrop5 Facts... I'm still connected to friends i've had an instant connection with from Day 1

[@animusrye2342]

Instant connection is real. I've experienced it. Only once romantically. However, it doesn't mean jump into anything. Still, get to know each other. Let the connection grow. But that draw towards each other Stephan talks about and that instant connection you speak of is what I have with someone. People settle and don't believe in instant connection and maybe that's apart of the problem. Wait until you get it. Not saying don't give anyone the time of day but pay attention. Once you have that instant connection the draw towards each other will follow.

[@alexvang7572]

"No, You don't fall out of love, you can reject love, you can run from love, but you don't really fall out of love. When its True, when its Real Love. When you are falling out of love, you realize you were never in love to begin with. When you have that genuinely connection with someone, you will always love them." "When its the real connection, it never disappears You can't create a connection, you can't destroy one. But you can run from it, you can decide not to nurture it, you can pile a bunch of crap on it. But it's still there. One way or another." Hits like a fucking truck.

[@1st_b]

Ayaya of course you can create a connection , where do you think connections come from in the first place

[@kekemcclure]

@@1st_b no such thing as creating a connection. You can’t create a soul, it’s just there. And connections come from the soul.

[@Angelinesekle]

A LOT of women are not sexually satisfied and it’s sad because men swear they be laying it down smh

[@queenred.6159]

Might be that the connection isnt there

[@whoKnew1621]

Exactly

[@VeeVeeLL3Gemini]

I’m definitely not staying or boosting..at 41 I’m never settling again because a man definitely won’t

[@justaprogrammer3764]

@@VeeVeeLL3Gemini i dont blame you, this world has turned into a very disgusting place. I personally am young and dont have as much experience as you might, but its clear enough for me that this whole relationship thing aint going anywhere anymore.

[@cmg4p]

Maybe if some of us (including myself) would stop "faking it", then they would realize that.

[@victoriousayesha825]

When we learn the true value of sexual behavior between a man and woman, and why it’s not permitted before marriage, we actually respect a man more for not wanting to lay with us unless we made a Covenant first. At least I have. And it’s a beautiful thing. To be valued in such a way.

[@JohnDouqh]

"Learn the true value of sexual behavior" - excellent choice of words to describe the solution to the destruction of our society. Thank you, beautiful woman and ❤️❤️❤️

[@richardjet2]

Amen

[@Ednet34]

The Problem for many is, that they have a Sex Addiction. That Sex is a Tool to compensate low self esteem to have this feeling of being desireable. At least thats how i feel sometimes. I had some hookups quite a few times and i just realized that i actually dont really like that, or at least it gives me nothing. The reason why i still did that was more, because of me wanting to get her to the point to have Sex. To know that i scoed or archieved. The result was not really fulfilling.

[@kannishawashington9904]

You have to give her something to believe in!!! POWERFUL SENTENCE RIGHT THERE!

[@MissHumanity1016]

As a 3 months shy of turning 49 seasoned Woman I must say, "I really enjoyed your Podcast Gentlemen." Keep up the GREATNESS and Always keep GOD first. ❤

[@seesi6842]

"If you haven't accomplished nothing in your life, expecting her to embrace your lead? It is going to be real tough" . MMMM

[@maseengmasitha6212]

If it’s any consolation, I’m a woman and feel the pressure of being accomplished too from the men I meet.

[@seesi6842]

@@maseengmasitha6212 Difference in culture I guess. Either way, I think we owe it to ourselves first, whether male or female.

[@NubianQueen100]

So true, but so many dont wanna hear it..

[@b100dr4g3]

15:45 man that was some of the realest, most relatable things I've ever heard. People can definitely be in love, but it just may not be the right time to be together.

[@PriyankaGupta-ew1li]

Well.. Men use it to not commit🤣👌🏻

[@michael-ronin]

This helped me save my marriage tonight. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@malimal4972]

how so? you can’t say that without sharing some details lol

[@pepertualamoah2887]

@@malimal4972 lol right😁

[@malimal4972]

@Kuba P Dude, remove thy stick from thee ass

[@BlessedDivinely]

IF you don’t have a genuine connection with a person be afraid. #RealTalk

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Don't get stuck.

[@vaniathomas8859]

Preach. You can have someone who is madly in love with you and doin nothing about it. Preachhhhh

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks.

[@Annjenkins806]

Vania Thomas That is deep..I think they have to have strong connection both ways. Love will not allow you be there if its unhealthy.

[@Annjenkins806]

This is a good conversation..

[@NonanoN-er6de]

I dont get that....why arent they?

[@kaylasheppard7746]

@Amandiquin TRUTH

[@mostlyvegan6034]

This was great. The big take away for me was healing yourself first. I think a lot of folks are going to hear the connection part of this and not the healing and solid foundation for yourself first. You will mistake a connection or not be open to connection when you haven't healed yourself. Lot's of important stuff here. Thanks for this 😊

[@Passion84GodAlways]

I admire how Hafeez consistently asks SUCH INSIGHTFUL QUESTIONS!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@theperfectcircus]

This man just reaffirmed damn near my whole approach. Having a purpose, knowing your "why", always working on yourself and that foundation. I've been single for a number of years and when people ask me why I don't have a girlfriend I always reply with "because I deserve the best." I'd rather be single then be apart of something that I really don't want to be in. I see it all the time and it's sad. It's crazy how people jump from one partner to the next...it seems that people are super desperate to belong to something...guess what?? You are already apart of something special.

[@gloriamariadc7757]

Amen👏👍🏻

[@waakkeuppp]

Well said. Do you still feel this way?

[@london221]

I agree when he said a woman should be supportive and positive to her guy, but my ex would put money he really didn’t have towards a dream/investment and didn’t see a reward/return on it. I do believe we all have to take risks, but after multiple risks with no reward, it’s time to find another path. Him and I had lived together and he couldn’t even provide food/toiletries, had things in collections, didn’t pay bills on time, didn’t budget, and didn’t save but put money into a dream and mention it later as if it’s not a big deal. Nah... Support is cancelled.

[@s.m.8654]

London Michelle, that’s me right there. Good for you. A woman will always support a MAN! But the man’s gotta be a MAN!

[@london221]

S Beckmann Thank you! You’re so right.

[@TheRedstar212]

You picked said man take responsibility

[@s.m.8654]

kamaar sterling That’s exactly what we are doing!

[@TheRedstar212]

S Beckmann The responsible thing would to pick men that are about shyt in the first place and men that you know you won’t eventually start losing respect for eventually.

[@jenebam62]

Speaking nothing but facts 🙌🏾love this. I feel like when your self aware you know who’s for you and who’s not for you

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks for the support. Be sure to subscribe and check out more of our episodes.

[@rachelramirez7654]

Djeneba Mansarae I’ve been told & feel that I am self aware, but also feel like a brat about wanting a man. If I like him I usually don’t give up, which ends in me accepting unhealthy behavior.

[@jenebam62]

The Roommates Podcast will do ! Very interesting male perspective 😊🙏🏽💡

[@jenebam62]

Rachel Ramirez I think it’s ok to go after a man but it’s also important to observe him and understand the type of man he is to see if he is a good fit for you. If he shows that through his actions.

[@Lifeisfun84]

I think Im selfaware when Im single Im at my best ! Confident, Sharp, job good , money good , friends good etc. But when Im dating I AM A MESSSSS, knowing who i am in a relationship is still a struggle , because that emotion Or balance is so weird to me.....

[@beniciabowcher-royce7661]

Stephan makes TOTAL sense. So wish guys would learn this stuff - so often it's just women who look into these subjects.

[@BG-sq7zf]

Projection At Its Best!

[@Bigbodipapi]

*Stephan talks* The roommates: hm *stephan mumbles* The roommates: hmm hmm *stephan breathes* The roommates: hm hmmm hmmmmmmm

[@jmoney20106]

Chavie Doe lol

[@RachelNicole]

😂 soon as I read this they did that yoo

[@eems6859]

Asians so this often, if not more. Lol

[@maryem8263]

Armando Chavez They are learnin alot here!!! Hahaha

[@missmaguii]

Lol

[@victoriousayesha825]

We must be whole in God First

[@kbflawless93]

Amen sista!

[@kimberlyshaw4775]

He had me at ketosis. I lost over 90 lbs in a year with the keto diet. It’s life changing.

[@boujieekaylonnii5238]

Kimberly Shaw how do you stick to it

[@dmacs1187]

I did it for 6 months lost 130

[@billion86]

@@dmacs1187 wow! Now I'm going to look this thang UP! TFS

[@dmacs1187]

@@billion86 it's real bro. I did it like 5 years ago 350/360 down to 220/230 up and down with water weight. Just eat no sugar at all. Anything white ain't right. I didn't even eat fruit tho..

[@FalaqX]

Keto is just the Adkins diet revamped.

[@darvellwilson386]

Thank you for this podcast. I can honestly say that ones intuition will lead you in the right direction. Ignoring my intuition 7 yrs ago is taking me down the long, frustrating, and expensive road called divorce! Stay real with yourself!

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks for sharing this.

[@thulanimgabazi3124]

Please tell us what made you getarried to him/her so that we also learn from your experience

[@jniellerivers5938]

This is real!!! My boyfriend is extremely open and honest and definitely different from what I used to so I was shocked at first but now I do truly appreciate it and I am more open as well.

[@Resdei_TV]

Are yall still toghter?

[@riannaHermione]

"When men get appreciated for the things they do, they do more of it." ooh.. good! Healing: Get a detox before you work on you. Your body can't even process all the good stuff before all the bad stuff is out. SO GOOD.

[@JaeWest]

This is just human nature.

[@TheXOXOJAY]

I love seeing people having these conversations. Having the ability and mindset to indulge yourself in a conversation like this says a lot. There needs to be more conversations like this 💯

[@a1fam560]

That 7 day fast is what's up I've done this and my mind body and spirit felt 100x better

[@ikayajansen2127]

“LOVE DOES NOT KEEP YOU WHERE YOU DON’T BELONG”

[@j4884]

Stephan is just 😫😍 ... the way he expresses himself is truly a gift from God. He is very gifted.

[@cyndigooch1162]

Janae Williams I totally agree with you and just mentioned that Stephan has a special gift in another comment! He's beyond intelligent and very easy to understand too. I'm also thinking that he'd make a powerful cult leader, due to his charisma, so I'm relieved that he's using his gift for good. ❤

[@angeg100]

when you have a connection, it last forever..

[@TauheedahMichelle23]

I have listened for almost an hour and I agree with almost everything Stephan has said. I started following Stephan when I was still a Christian. I no longer follow religion but I'm a very spiritual person. I finally met my twin flame last year and our relationship has been rocky. Most people, especially religious people, know nothing about twin flame relationships. The connection he's describing sounds a lot like the twin flame relationship. It's very overwhelming and a little scary when you can communicate telepathically, and for me(an empath) actually feel what your twin is feeling. The connection is very strong and goes beyond physical chemistry.

[@w_ease8780]

How are things?

[@loverofjesus4856]

I’m Christian and know about twin flames. So

[@jessiegonzalez5906]

Christianity isn’t a religion in the first place

[@glofishdesigns]

I’m seeing this a couple years after it was posted, but the content is timeless. So much insight. So much gold. ❤️

[@tylynn256]

Love is usually expressed through action. That's why ppl associate it with actions. Even the Bible says," For God so LOVED the world that he GAVE his only begotten son that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

[@Kweenduhmconversations]

Where in the world did he come from. He is on point about so many things. Old soul!

[@mcharle01]

I love his advice, he’s the truth !! Even the way he speaks is with discipline.

[@LittleMissHoop]

true

[@mizzzelly69]

What’s crazy is men want the chick to stay slim n sexy yet he start getting chubby I made the suggestion for us to get n the gym, since it wasn’t his idea, it wasn’t a good idea. (Relationship was doomed from the beginning) No both should go to the gym. People shouldn’t be so sensitive Baby, lets both get memberships and let go to the gym. If two people can’t be honest it’s not real.

[@MercLife100]

The part about intuition hit home. I wrote something in my journal previous to marriage regarding my husband and after separation I found that old journal and everything negative thing I expressed in it came to pass throughout my marriage. I knew he wasnt the one in the beginning but I tried to make him the one because I was afraid to be alone. It's going on 2 years of me being single. I've learned to stand on my own and truly evaluate and discard those that don't qualify as a completion to my life without fear.

[@datofficial6062]

All the right questions were asked for La"BOSS"iere to drop those gem. Perfect for this point in my life. Thank you! Ive never considered watching a podcast more than once, ill be watching this a few times.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks for the support!

[@rebeccaledam7544]

As a Swedish woman I find this talk very interesting! Our culture is so different where the traditional roles really are part of the past. There are very few women here who expect the man to pay, or be the one who makes money, and very few men who expect women to do all the work at home. Sometimes I think it's harder for people here, since it's so much about equality, that no one knows what to do anymore. At the same time, do we have to have roles? With having roles comes many shoulds, musts and it's supposed tos. Can't it be more open for people to find their own roles in a relationship? Some men are more feminine, and some women more masculine. It's hard for everyone to follow a certain mold, as we're all different. I think completing each other is the most important thing! What are your thoughts about that, traditional or non traditional relationships?

[@BlkMedusa]

I’m all for traditional roles but u must find a balance about what u and ur partner wants.

[@findyourpixiedusteveryday6344]

@@pvaz sounds to me like the same as in sweden hahaha

[@waltslife155]

I believe in a man's traditional role. Men should be masculine, build their physical strength (which keeps them healthy), do what it takes to be competitive in the market place and bring even more resources home. At the same time they have build the discipline to commit to one woman and have some domestic skills. The role of women has evolved drastically over the past 70 years and I see that as a positive thing. However, the feminisation of men is very negative thing for any culture or society. I think if a man is truly masculine any woman he couples up with will likely choose to contribute to their relationship through her feminine energy. The good thing is that in our society a woman can choose.

[@abanfrancis6400]

@@waltslife155 true but as you see often it's the wrong person.

[@richardjet2]

Yes we must have roles

[@Abena_Goddess87]

I been with guys I love, but theirs only one guy I have a connection with. The connection will never go away. 10 years later I still have this crazy connection with him.

[@Natalia-ns7jf]

Can i ask how you deal with this? Does it affect your new relationships?

[@streetsiswatching9660]

That nigga got your soul 🔮

[@joshcdwyer]

you never fall out of live when you have that genuine connection

[@sarabimotley]

It's called the imprint. He imprinted you. StephIsCold and ams talks about this

[@goldengirl7625]

@@sarabimotley Y'all and these dumbass terms. It's called a soul tie and it is breakable by the power of God.

[@Laurynski]

I am ecstatic that I found this podcast! Hearing the vital information Stephan has shared is encouraging and serves as personal confirmation. I am currently on my healing journey after letting go of a five year toxic relationship four months ago. Three days after the breakup I went on a 4 day vegan cleanse to detox my mind and body and gained so much clarity, new found perception, and heightened spiritual connection that I decided to commit to a vegan lifestyle. Daily prayer, practicing yoga, focusing on self care and attending therapy has played a significant role in my healing process. My brother just completed a 3 day dry fast and a 4 day water fast and encouraged me to try it. I have observed in every instance that when I sacrifice my flesh of its desires, my spiritual connection with God becomes stronger, I have more discipline, my life immediately flows into balance and I make substantial gains towards my own personal growth. After seeing this I am definitely willing to commit to a water fast (maybe not for seven days though 😄). This was a great show. Stephan, thank you for sharing your expertise and wisdom. Please keep allowing God to use you to help others heal, grow, and discover true purpose. You are a blessing and inspire so many! Thank you 🙏🏾 😊

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks so much for checking it out!

[@charlesbutler4363]

Going to "church" doesn't mean you're "spiritual".

[@kbflawless93]

Thank you! That is something that starts within.

[@veronicahaney7934]

A man can do all of those sweet things and there's no chemistry or spiritual and mental connection there. The opposite is also true.

[@evarosario17]

The healing part really resonated with me. I was hurt by a very toxic relationship with a narcissist and during the off times I tried to date multiple and different people. But kept coming back to him. Until God spoke to me and told me to allow him to heal me and I stoped trying to feel better by casual dating and stayed completely single. And allowed God to heal all my past wounds since childhood. It’s been over eight months of me purposely opening to God, allowing him to do his work, and also reading and listening to good motivational speakers and experts in different self help subjects. I feel so much better and I have a new perspective in live, I love myself more fully, and God has become the center and foundation of my life. And I know without a doubt that just as he wants to bless me with my life partner he wants me to be a blessing for him. So God has prepared us both while we waited and it will be phenomenal when God reunite us. God bless you Stephan may the Holy Spirit continue to fill you with wisdom, love and strength to do what God has called you to do. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@catroirenee6519]

For whatever reason I never liked Stephan like i wouldnt even give him 5 mins until this video and I CANT STOP SHARING IT! Thank you Roommates! I needed this x

[@TheZeroManifested]

The whole not being able to trust a man who talks a good one but doesn’t get anything accomplished. Omg that just kills me. I had to break-up with someone recently after a couple of months because I just couldn’t trust him. I felt like he really didn’t ever do what he said.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

If you can't trust then you have to let it go. Make sure you subscribe and check out more of our episodes.

[@n.b.0212]

Wise woman! He showed you who he was. You took heed. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@boywonder2120]

And yet he still landed you and probably fucked lmaoo you didn’t learn your lesson.....

[@alocintsruh]

Wow, this brother is so on point. Great conversation.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks for sharing. Be sure to subscribe and check out more of our episodes.

[@msqueenlyminded7579]

His side profile is extra crisp!

[@sukhan9854]

Now I cant stop thinking that his hair and beard feels crispy.

[@linettboyd4380]

Cant keep my eyes off the beard

[@mergerogue4291]

His whole self !

[@dominiquemanning2521]

He just fine

[@nishisalott1839]

I peeped that

[@jordansandel124]

I’m telling you fellas, right now.... i am so blessed to have found this podcast. It has changed my life. It has made me a better husband and father. Keep on doing what your doing fellas!

[@LSPACE23]

Thank you for this. It addressed every relationship question or issue I have ever struggled with. I feel very clear and empowered just having listened. If you value and desire a quality relationship this q & a definitely deserves your undivided attention.

[@madeline6043]

Stephan, I can feel every word you say with every cell of my body. This man is a beautiful human. Much love 💖

[@travel_therapy_mskimlpc]

You Guys did an Incredible and Amazing Job with this Podcast. Stephan was dropping mad beats of Wisdom. For Real this is thus far the Best Podcast I've ever heard concerning Relationships. I'm definitely have to purchase Stephan books and maybe go to one of these event. You Guys keep doing Great things! This podcast was so appreciated and helpful. Thank You.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks so much for the love and support! That means a lot.

[@travel_therapy_mskimlpc]

@@TheRoommatesPodcast looking forward to watching and listening to more of your podcast. You all are welcome.

[@l.laurendaniels-black4234]

Stephan is the truth. Any money or time you invest with him will be worth it...I promise!

[@modamaven]

The Roommates Podcast great stuff

[@sweetlo3424]

This was probably one of the best Podcast I've ever heard! Amazing..the host asked the very questions that were on my mind and the speaker spoke very directly and clearly with much wisdom greatly appreciated!

[@That_Girl_Bambi]

As a young womans seeking to have a Happy marriage / family this has been some of the BEST information Ive gotten. Thank you. 💕

[@michellemichelle1145]

You got me in tears. I thought I was weird. I was in love with someone at 20, we broke up, he contacted me through Facebook 30 years later. The love I had for him never left after all of these years. I always thought about him, played songs he had song to me in our 20's but never reached out to him. Now, it's been over a year and no matter how well we connect, get along, spirits flow perfect together, it seemed crazy to me how my spirit is drawn to him and misses him when we don't talk, he calls right when I'm thinking of him, 30 years later it's like we never stopped being together.. He asked me for my heart, he asked me to follow him, he told me he was single not married, he said even though he lives in a different state, we could work on that out. We are not together now, I have now just put it in God's hands and letting it go. He is truly the love of my life, it never stopped and it never will. It's been almost a month now we don't talk anymore he doesn't know this but, he is my best male friend. He inspired me and motivated me and helped me to start my own non-profit Foundation. I got to stop now about to cry but thank you again. You hit it on the nose. God Bless you always.

[@Patience679]

Omg thank you, I knew I wasn’t crazy when my ex was in serious contact with his “child” hood friend who I approached as a grown woman and disrespected me. Thank God that part of my life is over.

[@Shea_go]

Wow this was recommended on my feed and this was amazing I needed this!

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Glad we can be of service!

[@ashleybradley4693]

mix_vybz right mee too smh I felt like he was my big bro dropping some knowledge on me

[@Shea_go]

Ashley Bradley exactly!

[@katiejordan8189]

This is such a great podcast episode. I’m glad to know there are guys who think about this. I had no idea women had these expectations for guys. It’s usually the opposite for me. I thought there was only expectations for a woman and the guy gets to do whatever they want. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’ve definitely been doing this dating thing wrong. Or maybe they just didn’t truly love me like they thought. Hopefully it’s better this time around. At least I’m learning, thanks for imparting your wisdom🙏🏽 happy podcasting gentlemen!

[@Haruki_chan]

That’s the 1st time ever that I’m watching a 1h long video on youtube... that was SO interesting, really ! Thank you so much for that, I’m feeling so blessed with all those advice about love

[@Ktvanada]

It has been three years that I am quite lost over relationships, got cheated on, thought I healed, had many options and In one side I wanted a relationship but I realized lately I was just spending my free time. So this video really helped me out. To understand that I do not love any of the guys I am currently seeing. I am just playing around. So thank you. My mind is clearer.

[@sarahhdaoud]

This was absolutely incredible. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks for checking it out. Be sure to subscribe and check out more of our episodes.