Things my abusive father told me growing up

[@annetteprice]

Once we get to the teenage years, it builds up and starts to show in our faces. And then that gets normalized as typical teenage angst. :/

[@tinaperez7393]

One of the things that contributes to that. Not all. Teenage years are hard for everyone - trying to figure out who you are, what you'll do and be in life, how you'll provide for yourself, how you'll get what you need and want in terms of income, partners, children, etc, etc., etc. But yes, this stuff sure makes life much harder and meaner than it should have to be.

[@collegien1]

@@tinaperez7393 To be honest your comment sounds a little bit invalidating, at least to me. Especially the teenage years are hard for everyone part (sounds like there’s an omitted get over it there as well, but it could be my own trigger). The more I heal, the more I realize that all these “difficult” life phases are not really difficult at all when you have a safe base to return to. Whether it’s outside, with other people, or inside, with your inner adult. It’s difficult when people around you are pressuring you into something rather than lovingly guiding you, or even just letting you be yourself. If that’s the case, then figuring yourself out becomes an adventure. Bump along the road? You go back to your healthy system and connect with it even more. There’s some real hard stuff in life, especially when it comes to illness and loss of loved ones, but teenage years would only be hard if you’ve had shitty parents in my opinion.

[@tinaperez7393]

@@collegien1 sure. Cearly THAT'S what I was saying. (sarcasm)

[@jennytaylor3324]

Great observation.

[@Lavenderfairy1905]

@@collegien1 yeah I totally agree... Life isn't supposed to be hard... It's only hard for those of us who had to do it all alone with nobody to return to, nobody to care, nobody to love us... Everyone gets stressed sometimes but once they go and talk with someone that they love and get reassurance... They feel better about the situation and are able to deal with it.. But sadly we have to become our own parent, our own safe place... Sending love and hugs to all my people❤️‍🩹☺🙂

[@That_girrl]

All kids deserve a parent Not all parents deserve a kid

[@sablexqz]

@@Pardis-og3tbNot oddly at all, actually. They project their terrible childhoods onto their children and learn from their abusive or absent parents.

[@tanjiro_heehee]

Can yalll stay on 1 shit Someone says all parents deserve kids But not all kids deserve parents like wtf

[@pinkdollangel]

@@tanjiro_heeheecan you stop being rude

[@tanjiro_heehee]

@@pinkdollangel I'm not trying to be rude I'm just confused as I stated

[@aviyaanaman9387]

Your forgetting that sometimes it's the opposite

[@user-fr2wn4mv7v]

The fact that he still remembered all of these lines...

[@Theaypricot]

it's so heartbreaking

[@Coralinesdoor]

Its abuse obv

[@msdemeanour]

We all remember the lines. I was never allowed to eat at the table with my "father." I was treated like a diseased, feral dog.

[@user-fr2wn4mv7v]

@@msdemeanour dang I'm sorry

[@Toastmyheart]

​@@user-fr2wn4mv7vOfc he remembers all of the lines he was abused

[@Fumbuzzl07]

"I wish you were never my daughter." Right to my nine year old face. He also verbally and emotionally abused my mother, told her he wished I had never been born, and told her I ruined his life (by literally existing). He hit our cats, used to beat me, and wanted to put me up for adoption before I was born.

[@Jasoncewleditz]

Damm that tuff I feel bad for you just focus on your mother I hope she's more supportive

[@penguinplays2673]

hope you have peace now ❤❤❤

[@texasbabie1109]

Life is hard but u have to go through it for the people u love u can't just let him beat u he ruined ur life

[@FatMonkeySexMonkey]

Wht you are just a woman,,, You dont know the struggle of a Sigma (true man) like me

[@not.supermario]

I don't know you, but I love you and wish you all the best in life.

[@andrewjansen9702]

Being a kid is mandatory. Being a parent is optional. Not everyone who is family deserves your love.

[@elliotgraham-yj8og]

what about that one person who spawned as a 60 year old

[@hinakaramat3993]

​@@elliotgraham-yj8og This isn't funny

[@elliotgraham-yj8og]

@@hinakaramat3993 bro it’s a Minecraft joke stop being offended bro

[@hinakaramat3993]

@@elliotgraham-yj8og making fun of something serious and after someone complains you are the one who gets offended.

[@autumnishotterthansummer]

Thank you for this

[@gojiberry7201]

So many children hear sh*t like this and absorb it for life. I just hope that people can see you as a professional telling your story and relating to you, and finding comfort in your help

[@bethb.6813]

Good point. I can use that. What if I were to list all of the wrong-headed stuff I remember and also all of the negative self-thoughts from stuff I have suppressed? And what if I went through each and, taking the inner child vs my higher self, the inner adult, loved myself instead? What would that look like? Here's me, trying it on for size. Thanks Patrick. I can build a new inner life with these tools. I can have access to my inner child's dreams and I can now live with the talents and strength I was meant to have to see reality breathe life, my life, into my dreams.

[@safiyyahhameed6354]

Ikr it's sad

[@himangshu6708]

And I'm one of them

[@abdoucisse894]

@@himangshu6708damn hope the best for you

[@_JustJoe]

​@@bethb.6813 This brought tears to my eyes

[@AvrillWolfie]

My father once told me "You're a monster" when I held my knife infront of me pointed at him to scare him off and to defend my younger brothers and mother from him (he was agressive and wanted to beat my younger brothers and me up for "misbehaving", it wasn't the first time but it was the first time I instead of taking the hit for my brothers decided to stood up for us all). I replied him: "You created me, if you create a monster be ready to face it". It was four years ago, now I'm about to turn 18 next month and my mother finally decided to divorce him and sue him for abuse. When the court will start the case I will be a adult, and I'm so glad because I will be a key witness and I will be able to take revange finally. I hate him so much. I want to study law to work in court so I can punish and catch people like him.

[@fourcrazykats7083]

W goal

[@charizardking1274]

Good W

[@WillFast140]

I’m so proud of you. I could never be brave enough to stand up for my little brothers and sister. I just sort of thought being a “dad” to them would help them since they got fuck all from our actual dad. But I wish I had done more and stepped in to stop the physical abuse at least. I just knew drawing attention on myself was the last thing I wanted to do, even if it left my siblings adrift at sea.

[@KNYbro]

bro u ain’t in anime fr, ur dad woulda left hook you right in the jaw before u even said that sh🤣

[@mikkik3sana8]

lol😂

[@Queenofdorks023]

My father once told me "the only thing i'd be good for is making men satisfied". It's truly disturbing how many people can relate to trauma from parents or other family members💔

[@Bo.shay3]

That’s not right , if you became Muslim you are not allowed to sleep with any one except your husband ( He should be Muslim ) because he can’t sleep with another women , this is gonna make him very guilty and you will not be as he says you gonna be , you will be a successful mom and your kids will love and care for you because in our religion Islam you have to love and make your parents proud of you and take extra care with them , in your case you have to be the better person in the whole situation show him that you are pure because your Muslim you exists to worship Allah not to be a street girl and he should’ve said smithing nice to you not those nasty words YOU ARE STRONGER THAN WHAT HE SAYS ♥️

[@SamikshaIngle-sf7zb]

Stay strong siso ❤

[@JJ_Jacobisverylit1]

Womp womp

[@Toiletfrfr]

womp womp it's true

[@Bluelinechevy82]

That is so hurtful. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

[@lori3670]

We were all so innocent and pure

[@awaywithfairies4689]

Exactly, they saw our light and they couldn't stand it. I think it all boils down to that.

[@orthodoxy6470]

Man God can purify us again

[@Haza123.]

Soo true

[@hello.6748]

I hate how they ruined me. I just feel ruined.

[@alliei__]

And then they ruined us

[@monicatorres4686]

I will never forget this lady I saw at the movie theater telling her grandson things like that and swearing at him.. telling him he was stupid for spilling his drink.. I wanted to stand up for him. I wanted to report her.. But I just stood there .. I felt like I couldn’t, I froze, like someone had a hand over my mouth.. I told my husband what had happened and my husband waved at the little boy and said he’d buy him another soda .. his grandma refused .. my husband gave him a high five and told him he was an awesome kid😢.. I went home and cried .. I was so heart Broken that he had to endure that .. and I was so mad at myself for not being able to stand up for him😓 I promised my self that next time I saw something like this I would speak up and or report it .. Child abuse is not just physical.. 😢

[@natemorgan1996]

Hi I know we don't know each other personally but I'm sorry that you saw that kid being treated badly by his piece of shit grandma but I'm happy that your husband made that kid feel better by buying him a soda and saying he's an awesome kid

[@GreenTea3699]

You did what you could. You told your husband. And the little boy had someone offering to buy him another drink so at least somewhere in that little boy's heart he knew that he really wasn't worthless. He needed that. Next time you'll be more prepared but at least that little boy knows someone somewhere saw value in him 💕

[@chickenuggies333]

I get that feeling. Seeing a caretaker scream at a child just hurts me so bad, even though nothing like that has ever happened to me... Yeah I get it 💔

[@Nugget9910]

Womp Womp

[@bethgeer69]

​@@Nugget9910 You're not funny.

[@Birdsandclover]

“Who’s ever going to want to marry her? Just look at her” “you are nothing and will always be nothing “ “you’re not my daughter, you’re too stupid to be my daughter” “you see that homeless bum? That’s where you’re headed, that’s your future!” Things said to me by my parents. Super fun!

[@R0ub1.]

Parents dont know how to support kids, i will never say this to mine

[@justanormaldilo.249]

Well, look at you now. You’re amazing. And where are they now? I bet they’re exactly where they said you’d be heading.

[@aseed89]

Asian parents by any chance?

[@MOLDYnHAM]

You're parents are so naive and clueless if they think that of you! 🤣 You're obviously a smart, beautiful young women deserving of love and care. You will be so successful that when their old asses are sitting in the retirement home they will come begging you for money and a better life!

[@Hadmaepdhedah]

You are not any of those things , you have never been and you will never be .

[@tylerdixon2316]

Helping others after you've been hurt is the biggest middle finger to those that hurt you. You cannot change my mind.

[@kadelu1137]

That beautiful little boy deserved to be treated with love and integrity

[@jcortese3300]

When you think about it, it's scary how inescapably correct these things can seem to the kid on the receiving end when they are so TRANSPARENTLY WRONG and actually plain nuts when seen from the outside. You do such important work, dude.

[@MsFanpireProductions]

It’s then a mindf*ck trying to undo that as an adult. It’s so hard to make yourself believe that they’re NOT true even though rationally you can see that they’re not

[@punt3rplays]

Kids, don’t succumb to depression. Instead, think about how you’re gonna be a better adult than your parents, and how you will disprove every thing they have said about you failing. Think not on the abuse but on the power you will feel being better than your parents

[@Alisibeth_Talia212]

You looked like such a vibrant and happy young man. I'm glad you didn't let his words get to you.

[@MsLotusBlooms]

Im sure they did, but fortunately he had enough defiance to make himself into a better man than his father ever was.

[@jenniferfox8382]

Seriously?

[@ruth_gordon]

Yes, you help tens of thousands of people live healthy and productive lives every single day. And not to be vengeful, but these pathetic messed up parents are rotting away alone because they've abused and alienated their children.

[@erikvolkers1826]

Imagine how they became like that. This stuff runs for generations #breakthecycle

[@albihysenaj5997]

Some abusive parents don’t let their kids move and become independent adults they force them to live with em for ever and when you try to stand up to them it does not work

[@albihysenaj5997]

@@chandana12605lap nothing u just have to get used to it get to dealing and living with them for the rest of your life

[@natemorgan1996]

​@@albihysenaj5997 that isn't something you should get used to at all, sorry to say this

[@loriglennon6653]

​@erikvolkers1826 It's ok to empathize but it doesn't make it ok for it to continue. We didn't cause it, we can't change it & we can't cure what they went through-But we can heal what we went through and make a difference on breaking this chain. That hurt people hurt people is an excuse for hurt people who didn't do the hard work of healing and keep the abuse going. It's our responsibility to do the work, heal and stop this generational yuck. It's definitely not easy, but so worth it. We can do this!

[@alexandramartin8444]

It made me teary eyed to seeing photos of vibrant baby boy paired with the cruel and heartless things your father said. How wonderful that you took that experience to help others.

[@not-so-obvious_autism777]

Exactly. Children need to be protected, prioritized, and loved. Not whatever the hell this is. (Ah yes, it’s called *verbal abuse.* 😀) There’s definitely no “right” way to parent, but this is certainly a great example of one of the *_wrong_* ways.

[@eliwahuhu]

Same

[@eliwahuhu]

I was never allowed to even play an instrument.

[@MateirlGurl]

Just because someone is smiling doesn’t mean they are happy that sadness is hidden in their heart...❤

[@xtessa1]

Yep it’s called: masking

[@TxR3ap3r]

This is horrible that someone would say things like that to a child. My mother had a horribly abusive stepfather, and I myself had a bio father who left us while I was two or three months old and was lucky enough to have a blind stepfather who loves and cares for us. I wish all children could have good parents like mine.

[@boethjelle8769]

From one kicked around kid to another, I love you Patrick. We are doing so well. I am proud of you.

[@marystevenson8461]

❤

[@christineklutts4991]

😢

[@adrianrios5256]

That’s beautiful

[@scorpification]

The mama in me wants to hold that little sweet boy in those pictures 😢

[@Mushroom321-]

Right!!!, me too!

[@bluebutterfly391]

Yes , the momma in me wants to kick his as* .. My mother was the narcissist , her mother was also a narcissist as are both of my sisters..

[@VirgoKat]

Absolutely 💕

[@wastelandgames9409]

the father in me wants to break that dads jaw

[@xx_aley]

❤same

[@AndWeHaveRisen]

Oh. My god. I am so sorry for everything he put you through first of all.😢 *But* that mic drop of a win at the end; you sure showed him. And I am not saying that's why you did it either, no, not at all. I just absolutely love how he never succeeded in tearing you down in the end. You made it fresh out the other side-- and now you are even helping others to do the exact same thing. Real legends aren't common, they are rare. But *you sir* are an absolute legend. I'm sorry for you then, just a sweet young boy trying to grow up in the world, but you're a strong and accomplished man now, and it's so well deserved and looks great on you. A round of applause for you!!!!👏👏👏 💖

[@TieZeeGuy235]

This is true for most people, I used to know a friend in school who his dad would yell at him all the time. We eventually told the guidance counselor, his father was gone afterwards. This makes me remind me about that kid, that he never gave up, and no one else should. Remember, you are not alone.

[@oceanclawz]

"Everyone has a backstory. Even if it's hidden behind a smile."

[@rawlyrare]

It’s hidden in ur brain.

[@A_Lego_Shoe]

Wow

[@MIR-OMER-ALI]

Same thing

[@Yunaboomer]

“Behind a smile could be anything unjust & cruel and you’ll never know which happy life could be a lie” - maybe me idk someone could’ve said this :/

[@user-lx7zg2qo2q]

That’s not abusive

[@dawnslight676]

My mom said babies don't remember. Some of earliest memories are of her hating me.

[@Screeno1993]

Same .

[@WhisperingMoth]

same

[@BleachMr873]

Same

[@fightingknight2360]

Actually that's false information. Well, technically. While you may not be able to recall the memory like your more vivid ones, it still leaves an impact if it's repeated behavior and it still will affect the baby. Think of babies like sponges, they are constantly learning from their guardians / surroundings. So even if those weren't your earliest memories, it still would have an effect on you.

[@Mikeyglazer250T]

Oh boo hoo

[@Beantus]

I do really relate to this. My father was abusive to me, and he would say the same thing. I hope you're doing well

[@marrrweee]

And that little boy’s bravery gives me strength in my hardest, most troubling, fucked up moments where I just don’t know what to do. You’re a superhero Patrick.

[@CatWithA_GuN2002]

They put us down, insult us, and mistreat us, and then wonder why we’re depressed…

[@michelledickson2155]

Ty exactly my point

[@Hesiesiedits]

@@michelledickson2155fr😢 I feel bad for him

[@Aryan-qv5qk]

Don’t be, you have to live long enough to be the one that sees them in a nursing home

[@michelledickson2155]

@@Aryan-qv5qk 🤣🤣

[@old-soul]

Totally relate

[@kaybrown4010]

Heartbreaking. Thank you for using your trauma as a catalyst for healing yourself and others.

[@dreamsicleblues]

Patrick, you have been able to help so very many people. Just soak up the love we all feel for you and have a great present day. (when I came home from college my dad used to say 'my dolter's back!' my face crumpled up when I realized that a few months ago- I'm 65)

[@alexisnamugunga2693]

All children deserve parents But some parents don't deserve children -a wise person

[@gardengyal2.018]

Inspirational you are to turn such pain into purpose, thank you helping so many with your channel

[@cheryllee4754]

Thanks for the reminder!💖

[@raspberryoxygen8683]

This must have been painful to put up. You don’t usually post much about your father. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for being so strong and for helping people like me now.

[@monicatorres4686]

🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@lydiabisaillon2954]

Patrick, thank you for sharing this. It’s heartbreaking and yet inspiring ❤ your pictures remind me of my brother, who is now 36, and currently in mental health ward of the hospital. I pray that he’ll remember that he matters. That he’ll hear his soul calling to him and allow himself to begin his journey back towards wholeness. his journey back towards wholeness. And hell yeah, you help people!! You help people transform their lives!! And thus you are helping to make this world a more loving, healthier, peaceful planet! So grateful for you, Patrick 🙏🏼✨💛🪷👍🏼

[@Swiftie-Loo13]

I feel bad, you’re not the only one who suffers from this, I do too, you’re not alone

[@__-eh3ob]

Omg 😭😭😭😭 so grateful for people like you , a true inspiration and a pure gentle soul so kind and beautiful and a HERO ! You are amazing ! I wish you the best of luck

[@batterybroken]

I’m so sorry, you were such a cute kid. I wish you could have had more love growing up 🥺

[@bettyjean740]

Thank ypu Patrick I hope you realize how much it Really helps for you to share! It makes me feel better. I think it helps reduce the shame and aloneness these type of abusive statements carry with us. I learned to stay silent small, try to be invisible...Ty. sorry you went thru such sht

[@thinkforyourself518]

you were such a cute kid and innocent teenager, isnt it crazy how none of us know the others are going through. Seeing your child self helped me let some trapped tears out.

[@lizi.2503]

I'm so proud of how far you've come. You were the most goregous young man and boy. We appreciate you right here Patrick💜💛🧡❤

[@scenehowler]

“Once I’m a millionaire I’ll leave you and your mom on the streets.”

[@Iwanttoblowmybrainsoutrn]

"I'd rather be poor than to be with you."

[@_WhyIsEveryHandleTaken.]

If somone said something to you like that, then they will never become a millionaire

[@emilysmith2965]

Sweetie that’s not how capitalism works

[@genesis_athena]

"I'll beat you until the cops get here you little shit"

[@Luv_4_Da_Starz]

"I made a mistake on May 4th, 2008." (That's when I was born.) :D

[@andresmendez6870]

From the bottom of my heart. THANK YOU. I've had a very hard and emotionally draining week, this video reminded me that I should keep fighting.

[@Hedgicorn_Kingie]

Honestly coming from someone who’s mom was so abusive that I had to live with my grandparents, this is so sad. I hope to be like you and help people I want to help kids be happy some how I know I will and what you do is amazing ❤

[@be_kinder_than_necessary1068]

You DO help people. I am so sorry for what you went through. My heart breaks in a million pieces watching that as a Mom of 5, who has also struggled with past Trauma. Thank You for being YOU! ♥️

[@senoraalcantara9098]

Moved to tears. Yes, you help people now. Lots and lots of people. Thanks for being who you truly are❤

[@friedchickeniszesty]

that shouldn’t even be considered a father. i’m so glad you’re ok. i hope your mother is ok too.

[@Basiliakis117]

When I developed Parkinson’s before 30 I lost the patience to mask and put up with these words….and Going no contact with my sexually, physically, emotionally, verbally, neglectfully abusive family was the best thing that ever happened to me. Feels so light now. My chosen family’s mantra is “happy healthy comfortable safe”, and everyone in that family knows it by heart, and works hard to provide that for each other. My husband and daughter are the best, and living life with them is just such a genuine pleasure that I didn’t know existed. I didn’t realise that not being shitty was as easy as making the decision not to be.

[@elizabethhouser3357]

The thing is, I never heard stuff like this but was shown this example. My parents were too covert to be so blatant. Which is why for years I thought I had a good childhood. Such a mind screw! Thanks to healers like you I finally figured out how selfish my parents are. Patrick, thank you.

[@maribelsantana157]

Thank you for sharing this with us, and sending so much love to you and your younger self.

[@Accountdeactivated_1986]

Thank you for helping people. Thank you for overcoming that self hatred from your father that externalized out onto you. And thank you for sharing these memories. As painful as they are, you’re helping others feel less alone and helping us heal ❤

[@y0urf4v0r1t3]

you were absolutely adorable as a kid, you looked so sweet and innocent 😞 i want to go back in time and give you a million huge warm hugs ☹️☹️

[@gracelee79]

Oh Patrick I'm so sorry he put you through that, my mom was like that too not all the time but enough to scar me for life and my dad would just walk away when it happened

[@HalalChad123]

The fact that he still smiled throughout his life despite the mean words his father said 💔😢

[@lazoshi]

Love this. LOVE this. Ty for still being here. Ty for helping others, even after all the years you had to work it out yourself. God bless.

[@Animefanboy700]

This hit Home.. my father was emotionally abusive my whole life Since i was 4yrs old until i was 16-17 yrs old and Then left us

[@srfrancium9728]

then they hit you with the "why don't you visit me t the nursing home"

[@Vinny_The_Fox]

I wish i could give this person a hug bro, no one deserves to be spoken to that way!

[@user-eq2ii5cl9i]

I am so sorry Patrick. I am glad you have been able to find a healing way from that awfulness. We so appreciate all of your insight you have given us and you understand so incredibly much.🙏😊❤️

[@BETH..._...]

Just WOW ... thank you for working through your pain Patrick. I APPRECIATE all of your hard work to help those of us who are ready to receive it. Thank you ♡

[@Heather-fx7sr]

What a moving way to display these words across photos of you growing up. One impactful part of my recovery was the act of putting up photos of my young self to remind myself the she does not deserve the learned loop of negativity that was running through my head, internalized from so many years of hearing it around me. We are all still that same sweet child who never deserved what was inflicted upon us. It takes time to learn how to love and regard and parent ourselves well if that wasn’t modeled for us. Patrick, thanks for your example and the help you give to others

[@Whatisit486plays]

I’m sorry you had to deal with that you’re strong and you, you have a great feature ahead of you

[@Ms_Robot_RHR]

I wanna give this man a hug for all he’s been through.

[@user-nyxx.the.worm.cowboy]

funny how once kids start to recognize abuse, suddenly parents call that "angsty"!!

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

That’s what happened with me. And my parents wonder why I don’t come over anymore.

[@tomascastilloleyton6848]

It's curious that they call it angsty, because angsty is just what happened in the french revolution. Angsty happens for a reason, not because it's natural to become rebel for no reason.

[@jcimsn8464]

You are an angel to other recovering adult wounded children. You described your reactivity at work. That's been my struggle.

[@LunaxPumpkin]

I remember one time when I was 11 years old my dad had woken up and become very very drunk. Also keep in mind he had bought me a $1.4k gaming setup, so I was living the dream. He then walked in the room and he asked “ where is your phone?” I then told him it was on my desk and he grabbed it, looking through my texts with my mom. He was very abusive to her that she had to move out and they had a restraining order to keep them from contact. I then told him “ please, I don’t want you to look at my texts”. He then turned around and stared at me and said “ oh yeah?!?!” I remember it as if it was yesterday, he then grabbed the very heavy pc, and threw it in my direction. I was in shock at the moment, and was able to quickly dodge the pc coming to my direction. He then stared at me, yelling “ GIVE ME THE PHONE!!!!” I was literally shaking so much that I threw the phone out the window and it hit a car driving by our house. Idk what happened about the car, it didn’t get damaged so I don’t think they did a thing about a flying phone hitting their car. But anyways, I yelled back to him, “ WHAT ARE YOU DOING?!?!?!?!” He then got the monitor of the setup and tried to throw it at me, but he was so drunk that it curved over to somewhere else in my room. I was so angry at him, and I was on my 🩸 so my anger just slipped out and I became outraged. I then ran up to my dad, and i repeatedly scratched his face. I really do not know if I was in the wrong of doing this, but he then got my finger and pushed it against my wall so hard that it started gushing blood. I was literally crying so much, and he had to audacity to say “ you are being really mean right now”. Like he never got in trouble for doing this, and I was too scared to tell anyone. And the years passed, the end ( true story )

[@Autumn-bf9so]

My dad used to when i was a kid pick at the pimples and blackheads on my face and ears, he also verbally abused me and physically :( ran away when I was 16 and moved to San Francisco

[@sage9836]

It's clear from the light in your eyes what a sweet kid you were! You ROCK.

[@laurenreynolds6157]

You were the cutest kidddddddd omgggggg ❤️ thank God u found the truth beyond the lies 🙏🏽

[@Commenter12367]

Behind every smile, there's a story you would never understand

[@TranscendingTrauma]

Crying for that beautiful little boy being told those horrible lies. So glad you made your way out Patrick. You have helped me and my little inner to pull out also ❤❤❤ grateful for you and your work 🤗

[@ava_2930]

You do a lot of good work for people! And I'm thankful for the work you've done. Your journey is touching and inspiring!

[@queenoffireenterprises5551]

Look how adorable you are! Who couldn’t love a face like that? Thank you for sharing, you’re an inspiration for me in my pursuit of a counseling degree.

[@patrickteahanofficial]

❤️👏

[@sprunklee]

The idea of a kid being neglected and abused like that crushes me

[@rosieb471]

It’s very hard to understand.

[@sprunklee]

@@rosieb471 I know. It breaks my heart. Especially thinking of how many times those things were said to that sweet little kid

[@joannepingtella8002]

I am so happy that you found the strength within you to seek out the guidance to help the rest of us that also understand your childhood struggles...you are such a blessing 🙏

[@vanessabogaert2104]

I can’t fathom how people think it’s ok to talk to their children like this. I tell my boys all the time that the best day of my life is the day they were born. I’m so sorry you had to endure such a sick father.

[@RichyLove19]

I don't want children; if I did, I would love them with all my heart and tell them how valuable they are!

[@moscowcowboy_13]

Wow I never thought a mom could say such a thing, that is wonderful, you have lucky kids.

[@MrWizard15]

@vanessabogaert My mom tells me the same thing, god bless you and your family.

[@vanessabogaert2104]

@@moscowcowboy_13I am a lucky mom!! They are the sweetest boys and so kind to everyone. I’m so grateful I was blessed with them. And they have the best daddy who tells them “they are the best things in the history of things!”

[@veronica3662]

​@@vanessabogaert2104that's so sweet. Bless you and your family, ma'am!

[@rubberbiscuit99]

You already know you are someone you can be proud of. We each get to choose who we want to be, if we want to live more in fear and hate, or more in joy and love. You done good, and you know it. ❤️

[@Whipporwhill]

Wow. So hurtful & heartbreaking. Little children deserve so much better. 😢💔

[@Aeddy123]

Its hard to live with a dad like this my mother died and i am living with my dad and he is an abusive and traumatizing father it's really hard to grow up with him he always tells me that my feelings my heart has no value

[@abbywolf9701]

You’ve helped me more than you’ll ever know. I wish there was a way to go back and give that little boy a hug, and tell him that when he’s free from his abusers that life will be amazing. Wishing you all the best, Patrick ❤️ you deserve the world

[@kaw8473]

You were destined to rise above your father and every person you help is one more middle finger to him. Thank you.

[@badsoutherngirl]

Your content really helps me! I'm so sorry for what you endured.

[@thiseuphoria1]

"I'm your mother's first priority, all of you come second." We were 9, 5, and 3. What a great man, needing to outrank his literal children.

[@juliah8601]

I'm so sorry he said so many horrible things to you. You didn't deserve to be treated or thought of that way. Thank you for helping others. You've helped me immensely.

[@Ayano_aishi_yt]

"Every child deserves a parents, but not every parent deserves a child." -a grateful heart

[@Calle.Hutch..]

Good for you. You turned the bad you experienced into a way to help other people and not everybody does that. 👏👏👏

[@sandiraymond1761]

Little Patrick looks like such a smart, sweet guy. I'm mother to 5 sons. The thought of someone talking to them like that makes my guts churn. I wish someone had been kind to you back then. ❤

[@Eighties-Jadie]

Everything your father told you was wrong and abusive lies! You're doing great now for yourself and helping heal others. Best wishes and blessings ☀️

[@ritatharp5238]

Thank you for sharing this. Unfortunately there are people who should never be parents but are. 🙏❤️

[@sdflores7572]

My grandmother was like that, she use to put me down and when I proved her wrong, she called me crazy.

[@csviolin0516]

Thank you for posting this very tender post, Patrick. I’m sure it wasn’t easy. I am so sorry that your dad was so horribly abusive and was utterly blind to the gift he was given to have you for his son. I wish I could have known you back then & been your friend in school. No one deserves to be treated like that, yet so many of us were. You are an inspiration for all of us. You are helping thousands of souls and families. I’m so thankful you got away from those who didn’t know you or love you. God bless you for all you are doing to help others.

[@buckshot_honeymoon]

This was so viscerally powerful; the music, the pictures of earnest young Patrick through the years, the searing words on his yearning soul and the great impact he’s having now, unstoppable. Thank you.

[@Bluelinechevy82]

Even at 42 years old, I can still hear the hateful words my stepfather said to me as a kid.

[@Willowpaw.]

"Having you as a Child is the biggest punishment someone could get" is what my mum keeps telling me...

[@GreenSonic4975]

stand up for yourself or seek shelter on something you love, my entertainment is annoying her after we get in a big argument

[@R.E.Marxxs]

“You should just work with your hands.” 🥁 Thank you for expanding yourself and amplifying your voice! Your groove is in the ❤️.

[@lesleydrummond1900]

I heard similar stuff growing up. Thanks for opening my eyes to the fact that this abuse is more common than I thought, not just my weird secret. I really appreciate you showing us tools to heal ❤️

[@zoritsanepenthe638]

My son’s girlfriend hears these types of things from her parents. Tonight I got to hear a snippet when she put her dad on speakerphone at my house. It broke my heart and I wish I could make it better for her. She’s staying home long enough till she has to go away for college….right now she’s in college locally and trying to save up. Now I understand why she and my son spend so much time here and rarely at her house.

[@brianarbenz7206]

I had no idea this was you, Patrick. I saw the video right through to the end. Congratulations for overcoming such an emotional beating.

[@nau304]

I'm sorry Patrick, you were a wonderful child. I hope all men will heal and not bear that disgusting mindset of trauma and repeat the cycles of abuse. I am hearing equally bad things about myself, from both of my parents. I just woke up fully to the fact of how toxic, controlling, and narcissistic both are... that's how they were raised and suffered! But I know for sure that I am healing and I won't repeat the cycle. We all have to heal. We all depend on each other.

[@susanlee8023]

Hello, fellow cycle-breaker! Wishing you joy, ease, and progress on your journey.

[@NoWayJose3456]

Omg, I didn’t even recognize you! Aw, that’s why you’re such a sweetheart. I feel like the sweetest ppl have been through a lot.