Things you HATE when you're an INFP

[@luisa146]

I find the stereotype that INFPs are these cuddly adorable bunnies who experience no hate or negative emotions so funny cause if someone could take a look into my thoughts, depending on the circumstances there's a good chance they'd run away screaming lol

[@Drinfp]

I do experience negative emotions a lot for some people or circumstances, but I guess in the long run we INFPs tend to choose empathy or understanding for the situation, rather than letting that feeling of negativity persist.

[@abel8735]

I kind of agree but personally i dont think that stereo type fits me as an infp that well, and its not like my deep thoughts make me emotional all the time either. Maybe im subconsciously a lot more emotional to things without realising it idk

[@virginiabutters1229]

Yes!!!

[@Darren_S]

The people who say all INFP's are these soft teddy bears just don't understand our inner workings. Every INFP has different values and some of those values and morals might not be what most people perceive as "good". We can be angels or demons.

[@mlandry491]

I have a hair triggered firey temper and have been know to clear a room when in a rage. I imagine it would appear like that moment in lord of the rings when cate blanchett feels the ring calling to her, and she goes from wise serene elf to scary satanic creature thats coming for you! Haahaa just one word for - Run!

[@-xorxito-6736]

We Hate to HATE and sometimes we hate ourselves the most.

[@honeybeeintee8611]

you phrased it perfectly.

[@faethraziel]

infp in a nutshell

[@ra7271]

Please don't. For real.

[@faethraziel]

@@ra7271 what

[@shridharsj]

Naah.. I don't hate myself

[@Fikamar27]

INFP sees beauty in imperfections.... and also sees the flaw in perfections. But again, everything is just a matter of perspective ;)

[@lovewho]

Very good point!! ~ Nathan

[@lovecakesandweed]

Maybe it's just me but on the other hand I can dislike/hate things like character trades that other people don't seem to see as imperfection or not see as a problem.

[@Rhygenix]

Kintsukuroi

[@leticiamartinez9563]

@@Rhygenix excelent example

[@kaila2689]

Except maybe on some of our own stuff. Like artworks that others may think look great and perfect but when we look at it, it's just so annoyingly incomplete or a mess, or something's missing but we can't figure it out. Then boom!!! WE'RE ALREADY CRYING!

[@Darren_S]

The word "hate" is not strong enough to express how I feel when something goes against my values and morals. ☆INFP☆

[@TipologiaDescomplicada]

@@---pe9ll this is so true

[@EngelsLawliet]

Rage.

[@PowerRedBullTypology]

what is 'something'that can go against it ? In which way? I mean, other people should not live their way according to your morals, should they?

[@tweetzone86]

How about abhor?

[@frds_skce]

Despise?

[@onipot9639]

INFP pet peeve : When someone says 'Just be rational' - in relation to high emotions. INFPs are capable of critical thought, we are often quite cerebral, we just value the heart and soul a lot more.

[@zmianastanuwbucie]

yes! couldn’t have said it better

[@AndreaCrisp]

Exactly.

[@sunshineandrain869]

So true!

[@CaveyMoth]

My rational or the system's rational?! I'll do all that I can to follow the system's rationality. But when it doesn't suit me and seems needlessly unreasonable, I'll silently go my own way while not directly opposing the system. My mom calls me opportunistic.

[@erinpanjer6768]

In my experience, the people who say this are not interested in hearing out what you have to say to consider another way of viewing the matter other than what they have established.

[@opotoyem9942]

As infp i hates : - Always attracted to infjs - Easily affected by emotion - Unambitious - Unrealistic - Only doing things that i like - Easily got trauma - Realy hard to move on

[@myrcella9451]

opoto yem infp here. I definitely would consider myself unrealistically ambitious.

[@opotoyem9942]

@@myrcella9451 teach me sensei

[@bia1734]

I can relate.. i wish i don't

[@heidikhalisah7393]

I hate relating to this

[@opotoyem9942]

Yeah but i think its the best way for us in the long run to honest :(

[@NkosiCebile]

I think my biggest frustration is that I accept people as they are and even defend people's individualism BUT they refuse to accept me as I am, constantly telling me things I should change or work on so "I CAN FIT IN", but no one gets that I don't want to be anything but myself... "I don't like small talk, why must I change or work on it"

[@dragonarch0]

Don't accept others if they're too dumb for you to handle.

[@NkosiCebile]

@@dragonarch0 I wish it was that easy... lol I even understand why they dont understand me. I just want them to accept that I'm different from them and that's okay... I've started sharing infp videos with my family so they can understand I'm not really special, there are a lot of people like me and I don't hate people... they just drain me... I love enfp people because they just accept me as I am... I can always tell someone is an enfp

[@dragonarch0]

@@NkosiCebile I guess its pretty easy for INTJs like me. If people don't like me, I don't care. If others are "willing" to understand you, they will understand you whether you show them INFP videos or not. Though I do get it INFPs find it hard not to "care" but they should learn to care about themselves more than others. Reason: not everyone cares how much you care for them as long as you don't go against their wishes and that's not how it works.

[@NkosiCebile]

@@dragonarch0 true... I think I need to start working hard on not caring much about other people's feelings of me... ( it's all about perspective I guess) thanks dragonarch

[@saturniiiidae]

I used to be unique and creative and kind of funny but I wanted to fit in out of anxiety of people judging me and erased my personality to fit what everyone else wanted and now I can’t get anything back and I can sort of understand myself but it’s hard and I don’t know what to do. If there’s anyone who reads this who can tell me how to be me I would love that. I’m not going to write must I don’t want this to get to long but yeah.

[@airnessquilaneta]

The 'small talk' one is so accurate. That's probably the reason why no love interest stay long enough for me. I just don't like talking to them on a daily basis if all they could talk about is the weather and some lovey-dovey gestures and salutations. I don't like checking on someone to check if they ate or not. I want to connect with someone on a deeper level. I want to know their wicked desires, aspirations, and beliefs. I want to talk about politics, theories, music, and weird interests. I want our conversations to be meaningful Also, talking is just exhausting. Can't we just love each other without talking much? Lmao. I just simply want to be there for him/her-breathing and in love.

[@Sharkuterie327]

Small talk was never a thing in a romance with INFP. Out of the gate with dirty talk like “I see you have an interest in chemical bonding theories and questions that stump professors. Let’s discuss. By the way, want to collaborate on a book of poetry?” 😂 Someone out there can match your energy, be a source of inspiration instead of a drain. Might be luck to find them, but they are out there.

[@airnessquilaneta]

@@Sharkuterie327 That dirty talk is so me 😆 I happen to be a science enthusiast, and I make poetry. Lmao 😂

[@bluelotusnefertoum2144]

Airness Quilaneta@ lol for me its the reverse I feel compelled sometimes to make small talk with people and I make them feel uncomfortable.

[@bluelotusnefertoum2144]

@@Sharkuterie327 lmao I think INFPs have a gift in dirty talk. I can innuendo anything a person says and make it sound sexual.

[@Sharkuterie327]

Airness Quilaneta Ha, that is excellent. Infps never disappoint. 😆

[@abel8735]

As an INFP I can agree that i sometimes turn Mob Psyco 100

[@theadmiral7602]

Well said body

[@theadmiral7602]

Shoutouts to the best animme you will ever see

[@loisrabies8713]

the admiral you mean Jojo right?

[@theadmiral7602]

@@loisrabies8713 xdddd aahh shit i forgot jojo sow the second best anime ever

[@Moonface9004]

So funny you say that, sometimes when I'm at my limit I literally imagine a percentage of a high number in my mind😆👀💢

[@EngelsLawliet]

Small talk or not, that sweater looks comfy af.

[@lovewho]

I can confirm, it really is ~ Nathan

[@rosettesionne9139]

Communication is one of my greatest problem as an infp each time I try to express my mind, even in the most peaceful way, people often misinterprete my words or my intention even when my intention is to help, Some people can take it personally and start insulting me for no good reason. I some time have the impression of talking in another language with these peoples

[@kohikappu]

Oh, my God. I just can relate to it. I remember when I was trying to help someone and the response was like "What? Are you trying to mock me?". That's hurt, really.

[@lovewho]

It's a terrible issue to have indeed. People love to ascribe intent where there isn't any or even worse, ascribe the wrong intent when someone is simply trying to help ~ Nathan

[@rosettesionne9139]

@@lovewho Thankyou for your comprehension please can you tell me what to do to deal with this situation? Because I am tired of judgement it even arrive at a point where I started thinking that there is something wrong with me. Do you have advice that may help us? Thanks for your help

[@kasiako355]

Try researching Non violent comunication :) I've been contemplating a lot about this topic lately. It's somehow fascinating how you can say something, and the other person view it totally differently, coz they observe through their own perspective, their filters. My best friend despite knowing me for more than 22 years totally can't get me. We discuss this a lot lately, how we used to argue on something, while basically agreeing with each other on the topic, but she misunderstood me ;) I have another friend whom I know not that long, and she totally gets me in a speed of light, we totally have similar wired brains ;) I don't need to explain myself (as I'm kinda used to haha), she just knows :) You really need lots of patience and just try to explain as long as it's finally understood properly. There probably be some times, when you encounter people who just wouldn't try to understand no matter how much you try to explain. There's nothing more to do in such a situation than to just accept the fact and cope with it.

[@chinnamoniesph]

I feel the struggle akdhsjdbdbd I get misinterpreted so many times too.

[@pizzadohpaz]

I'm an INFP who has been dating an ENFJ for 4 years. He actually loves small talk! I thought he was insane! But I realized that he does the small talk at first to help the other person feel comfortable and then all of a sudden you're having a deep convo without even thinking about it... It's truly amazing! Plus, super useful at social events because I barely talk at all! ;)

[@RCAnderson42]

I feel outed 😉

[@lovewho]

Ok the social event thing is such an important thing! Being able to sit there and observe whilst having someone who can be like a buffer that carries the conversation (during which you can interject) is a real game changer ~ Nathan

[@pizzadohpaz]

@@lovewho too too true and I never knew how wonderful that could be until I met him!

[@LO-bk4bv]

My husband is an ENFJ and he does like small talk with people too. Whenever we go to a social function he is all about the small talk....I just stick by his side so he does all the talking for me, lol. But luckily we don't engage in small talk and only did the first day we met 11 years ago. He's an endless supply of deep conversation....INFPs and ENFJs seem to make a good match.

[@AbigaleKirsten]

About small talk. We sometimes like it and sometimes don’t. Say we are not in the mood to talk, or get energy from this person that they are not that interesting, we only hope if such people approach us, they will speak for a minute and go. If someone wants to talk deeply with us, usually deep convos are our thing, but their version of a deep convo doesn’t match ours, we won’t be interested. I like talking about spirituality, how to grow and question norms, how to break from conditioned ways. But let’s say someone has a deep conversation about politics to me; i won’t be interested. Unless you tell me how politicians should change and reveal what goes on behind closed doors, i won’t be interested in which party stands for what or whose running the election. So we like small talk with people we find boring, because they will walk away sooner. We like deep talk with someone who brings topics unheard of, the progress community, and let’s face it, we hardly get those out of box thinkers on a daily basis. Side note: i actually love when a plant grows through a cracked rock. Absolutely fascinating.

[@fornickation]

for me, I'm really interested in deep and random conversations about literally everything: astrology in which i absolutely relate a lot and im obsessed about, religion, history, books, philosophy, etc. i also love to talk about science, timelines, temporal paradoxes, multiverse, alternative realities, time travel, even if i don't have so much intellectual property in that. i love talking about writing and my ideas for stories and it's so hard to find someone who's actually interested in listening to me. im quite perfectionist and overly critical of myself, so i like to create characters, their stories and profiles, i can get through hours exploring Google Earth just to find the locations in which i want this idea to be placed on, but sometimes i end up being way too indecisive about my ideas so i usually tear them apart and start from the zero again. by that, you probably already know I'm an infp.

[@fernandavelez6582]

Yes, you got it right. 💚🌿

[@savstinks6847]

Honestly i agree, soemtines i feel like just talking abt what my friend just bought from hawaii but sometimes I feel like talking with ppl that's under a comment section about philosophy

[@Userykp]

Yep 😄

[@AbigaleKirsten]

@@fornickation im kinda the same although there are certain things i dont intend to dwell on, like if the topic of conversation is about something i certainly dont have an interest in (e.g reggea music, jazz, xylophones, minecraft lol) then i really cant engage or ill feign interest in order to respect someone and escalate their happiness. I myself dabble into many things out there: Astrology, Tarot Readings, time travelling, different dimensions, reincarnations, angels, demons, numbering, mbti, ennegram, animal treatment, children treatment, questioning norms and conditioning, law of attraction, space, ghosts, aliens, multi universe, mythical creatures, unsolved mysteries, i myself scroll google earth but only to find cool things and unnoticed things, i scroll the seas and snowy areas haha i could say i wish i had the ability to talk about anything with others but the thing is I CAN, it doesnt mean ill enjoy it lol i think i like more deep, questioning, mind boggling conversations tbh

[@evelinke]

"It's like throwing energy into the abyss and being aware of that every moment that passes." Yes, exactly. I couldn't explain why I felt that way but you said it for me.

[@lovewho]

That is certainly what it feels like to me as well ~ Nathan

[@cottage2945]

That's a good way to describe our high sense of self awareness

[@リップヴァンウィンクル-t4b]

Yes, it's exaclty that! Small talk is a huge bummer as an INFP, I think, because it seems to me that people doing it don't really care about what they're saying or about what they're asking. When I have to make small talk and someone asks me something, I don't even feel like answering, because I know they don"t care, and it will be a hassle to answer it - if I give a complex answer I will feel like an idiot blabbering to a wall, and if I give a simplified answer I will feel shitty because I'm sort of "lying" or "dishonoring" the thing I'm talking about. I've actually had a person once tell me, in the middle of me answering a question they made, "you know I don't really care, right? I'm just making conversation." Which is both uncomprehensible to me and exasperating.

[@evelinke]

@@リップヴァンウィンクル-t4b I hope you left that convo after that cuz fuck that

[@flowerchasethesunshine9063]

@@リップヴァンウィンクル-t4b Yes! Smalltalk for me is usually like... I either feel bad for them because I'm not saying anything meaningful OR I say something meaningful and feel bad for myself because they don't really care.

[@Kokola-qh9wp]

Can we appreciate how cute/handsome this man is 😅

[@raine0000]

Absolutely lol. His eloquence and articulation is very captivating tbh

[@airnessquilaneta]

Someone finally said it 😆

[@raine0000]

Holy crap, I just discovered he's also a skilled pianist. Swooning 😂

[@lovewho]

I think it would be a good move for me to treat this question as rhetorical... ~ Nathan

[@JohnH1220]

Yes

[@christineherrmann205]

"Summer in the UK has come and gone... I think it was on a Thursday this year." SO glad I was done with my coffee.

[@MelB868]

Summer is a season and it last for months not a day.

[@lovewho]

As a tea drinker my primary aim is to make coffee drinkers spit out their coffee in fits of laughter ~ Nathan

[@christineherrmann205]

@@lovewho laudable. 😂

[@Yslohr]

@@lovewho Go nathan! make them spit their coffee! Wait it might actually hurt people if it's too hot aaasaaaaah

[@whoanellynelnel3874]

Me: hate? That's such a powerful word:( Nathan: feel free to replace the word with dislike if that works better for you. Me: well ok then nostradamus

[@lovewho]

Nathradamus... ~ Nathan

[@kaylynchua9574]

Same. I only use the word 'dislike' because I associate hate = wishing someone's death sincerely.

[@potatowarrior747]

@@kaylynchua9574 okay. reading this reminded me of that person. Lmao.

[@mehwhatever695]

What do INFP hates about themselves: Everything

[@kokucat]

Even your values and beliefs?

[@Secret-sw8ih]

I'm an INFP & l love myself!

[@Kashi_Mochibean]

The small talk thing is interesting. When I hear "shallow" vs "deep" I'm not sure I'm thinking of the same thing as everyone else. Sure, I like to have conversations of "substance" (especially with people I actually enjoy) but if things are too "deep" that is uncomfortable. I don't want to talk about the weather cause that is uninteresting and impersonal. But I'd still rather talk about "things" than "feelings". I can talk to friends and family about zombie apocalypse plans for a while but I don't want to talk about my deepest regrets or awkward touchy-feely stuff or death of a loved one. I prefer emotions with real people to be at a comfortable surface level. I rather awkward things be reserved to my fictional characters and situations that don't involve me. My friends and I have trust and are able to confide in each other if need be, but usually we just have dumb fun. It's better to be entertained and not bogged down. Let's play video games and talk humorously about stupid theoretical nonsense. "Deep" doesn't seem like the right word for that.

[@potatowarrior747]

Yeah, I prefer discussing ideas that would give an idea of your morals and values too. Or just nerding out about a common interest.

[@nicolelopes1065]

Há níveis para as conversas (principalmente quando não conhecemos muito bem a pessoa), ao mesmo tempo que não queremos ser "rasos" também não queremos ser um livro aberto, precisamos nos mostrar aos poucos, coisas muito pessoais não são compartilhadas quase nunca

[@chubbychee9417]

Sorry but, that doesn't seem like an infp imo :)

[@potatowarrior747]

@@chubbychee9417 yeah I thought so too But then I realised when asked about a passed away close family I don't really like to reply. And the conversation dies there. But I am all ears when listening to other ppls problems. I just can't speak about myself without getting overly emotional so I try not to bring myself up in conversation directly.

[@nicolelopes1065]

@@chubbychee9417 Acho que é uma coisa mais pessoas mesmo...

[@andytheindividual3862]

One thing I hate as an infp(but love at the same time, 😑, is being doubted of my capabilites to actually do something. I take challenges very seriously and break things down to the smallest step, master that something, then 5 years later go up to the same person who doubted me and say "thank you".

[@emelieha]

I relate to this way too much.

[@andytheindividual3862]

@@emelieha maybe you're a real then :)

[@ivanab6858]

Can someone explain me why infps undervalue themselves so much

[@emelieha]

@@andytheindividual3862 So I'm not just a cuddly and overly positive fairy from everyone's imagination? Nice to know XD (just kidding, I tested as an INFP and am pretty sure it's accurate. It's really nice to relate to another from the same type :3 )

[@emelieha]

@@ivanab6858 I'm pretty sure a lot of people struggle with this. But I'm not saying your statement is wrong either (I don't know a lot of INFPs so). I have personally undervalued myself quite a lot (and sometimes still do), but it's both a product of my own self-esteem and the environment I grew up in. Being an introvert surrounded by heated and loud extroverts didn't really help. :| I can't speak for every INFP out there, but I think being truthful to your individuality makes for a more honest and open person, but also makes one stand out and receive more backlash for being "abnormal". That's what I imagine at least.

[@alicem9594]

Interesting discussion 😌👍 I find the biggest struggle with face-to-face conversation to be having to blurt out sentences on the spot which afterwards I regret - sometimes for years, yikes - because they don't fully capture my feelings on that subject. Either they're too reductionist or didn't have the tone I'd have preferred to really convey my thoughts, sometimes just seeming too shallow. That's why I prefer writing where I can revise my thoughts until I feel they best reflect my real opinions (which may only have gained clarity as I edited them...!) It's that paradox of being a walking pile of emotions and yet not always understanding my own feelings. Finding the right words helps, however long it takes!

[@honeybeeintee8611]

Thank you for putting this into words so perfectly!

[@kohikappu]

Same here, it's a big regret. It was like "Why should I have said that?". I don't know but sometimes, the Te of us react to a conversation and it made the chaos of our sentences by all of a sudden. And yes, I prefer writing more as you can undo or even delete your sentences with no harm (Well, I don't care with the yell of people who are online lol). In real life, once you send it, it's perceived by people and you can't take it back, oof.

[@lovewho]

Totally relate to this as well. This is why communicating in written form where you have time to really dig into what you want to express is often much more preferable to conversation face to face! ~ Nathan

[@drsamreenhashmi9809]

INFPs truly rock! As a proud INFP I whole heartedly accept all the flaws & imperfections that are a part of us being Human. "Power of us human beings is that we can change ourselves on our own" - Saitama 👊 Sending more power & love to whoever is reading this ! I hope you commit and achieve to what feeds your soul xo

[@bluelotusnefertoum2144]

I love you🤗

[@raniakidiyoor2424]

"Those who forgive themselves and are able to accept their true nature... They are the strong ones" - Itachi Uchiha

[@raniakidiyoor2424]

So stay Awesome and stay Strong!!😊😎

[@kohikappu]

Heh, I love you all, my fellow INFPs. Stay authentic and stay positive, my fellow idealists. Anyway, my soul is always hunger of something but anything

[@lovewho]

Great comment! Love that quote too ~ Nathan

[@DarkWarrior0175]

There are two things that I can say that I hate 1. To be called heartless or insensitive: If something that makes me not angry, FURIOUS, is that they tell me that. I hate it with all my being, for the simple fact that it is the opposite, I worry a lot about other people to the point of putting others in front of me. The thing is how people tend to ignore our way of being and when we attract attention to ourselves they misunderstand us or do not listen to us confusing things and end up hurting us and it does not help that we do not like to show our feelings for this very thing. Another factor is that we are very imaginative and we end up creating high expectations of various scenarios and when they end up happening in the end we do not react as we thought because of this. Giving an example years ago happened the case that a classmate died and when they gave us the news I was disappointed in a way, don't get me wrong I was sad but I expected a stronger reaction like that of my classmates who started crying and it became chaos. The question is that my best friend (I think it's infp I'm not sure) was the same as me but another friend was crying and I couldn't bear to see him like that so I went with him to try to cheer him up and I told him something personal and other thing and that makes us laugh and end him cheering. What happened is that a classmate saw me laughing with my friend and then in front of the whole class he scold me and said "heartless bastard". It hurt a lot and I even ended up accepting his words as true (at that time I started to have random periods of apathy and that made me lose my understanding of my emotions at that time so I thought I was being apathetic) I would leave it here but I will finish the story if you are interested if you do not go to point 2. Then the parents invited us to the funeral and it was super uncomfortable really uncomfortable, and a classmate did not help at all (this classmate is an idiot that the whole class disliked even me on certain occasions but it does but I had more respect for him than most of my classmates since he was not a fake ass person) since he comes and stands in front of everyone and tells them crying shitty babies and that they look like girls for crying and I could not help the cringe he gave me when he said that (I have to say that although it was a stupid move, he did not do it with bad intentions, he simply wanted to encourage others but he is an idiot so he screw it up) 2. People who don't understand what they want and don't appreciate what they have: This is going to be like 3 in one but I'm lazy to separate them. By this I mean superficial people who dream of nonsense they do not understand. I mean they come and want tragedies to happen to them because they think it will give them an exciting life as if it were a tv series. And they complain about their lives without appreciating what they have, that angers me a lot since they throw shit at what they have and then complain? That is being ungrateful and these are the same people who come and say stupid things like they have depression. No friend is not depression to be lazy and to be sad is not the same as depression. That idea that some have that depression is sadness and melancholy is bad in shape (It is true that one can express it that way but it is more a poetic way of expressing it) personally it would be better to express it like a tired, apathetic, desperate person and with a strong hate. But I didn't hate those people until I started to see how superficial people react to this. And what reaction are you talking about? Well, they come and put messages saying "NOOO DON'T BE LIKE THAT, BE STRONG, ETC". It angers me since they are the same people who complain that someone is dramatic to put it in a way. The solution to help that person? Pray for their dreams to come true and watch them turn into nightmares. I HATE that society repudiates the negative, friends please in life you need to have good and bad experiences to improve as a person and each person is different and that makes their level of The experience different. As an infp you can tell me crybaby or dramatic and it's true. We are people who feel things in a deep way and that makes us hurt in a simple way and we get scars for small things sometimes and I hate this but at the same time I love it because by small acts I learn great things; A helping hand in a moment of sadness taught me what a true friendship is, the death of a pet taught me what it is a healthy loyalty, how being a good person regardless of the circumstances can change someone in a healthy way or make it worse, Each injury and fall makes you the person you are now. And I can't help but get angry since they want to deny that to a person? Remember that it is the darkness of the night that makes the moon and stars shine and look beautiful. By the way, sorry for the big comment and the grammatical mistakes that are in it, English is not my first language and normally I would edit it more but if I do it i would publish it until tomorrow ('^ _ ^)

[@lovewho]

This comment is epic! Thank you for taking the time to write it out ~ Nathan

[@naolucillerandom5280]

I don't get the two people talking about depression in this comment. I have a friend that's clinically diagnosed and taking medication. As for myself, my enviroment is not the best and thanks to thigs she has explained to me, I'm starting to think I may not be just overreacting to everything, and I may need to talk with someone about it. We both have wanted to die. I don't even know how I feel sometimes. She has it much worse than I do, and I understand her, but I have been able to get by dettaching from reality as much as I can. Yes, I know I have a perfectly ok life. Not lacking anything. Not needing anything. I have a computer for f* sake. I don't even want anything for chrismas this year because I don't need anything. That just makes me feel worse. Like I don't even matter. Like how I feel doesn't even matter. Like I should just ignore everything and take my place as a middle class pretty girl with a complete family and an ok future. There ARE people who would want my life. I should be happy, worrying about something stupid like selfie filters. But I can't and I'm so angry at myself for being so affected by things that have happened. Please stop.

[@cutecup4159]

If people say I'm selfish or the such, I actually get real relieved. Like "Okay, let me show you what real '(whatever word was mentioned)' is." It is kinda liberating to let it all out and be an asshole sometimes, especially to genuine assholes.

[@cutecup4159]

If people say I'm selfish or the such, I actually get real relieved. Like "Okay, let me show you what real '(whatever word was mentioned)' is." It is kinda liberating to let it all out and be an asshole sometimes, especially to genuine assholes.

[@rache1ng]

I agree with the second one, some people just don't work hard and keep complaining about their life and are envious of someone's success. I knew someone who doesn't reflect on themself and thinks they are capable enough without learning and new things while complaining why we need to do this and that in school. I hate talking to people like that when they are complaining to me and I won't give and respond a 'true advice' which could help them as it may 'hurts' them

[@inknoodles690]

"pure creatures" No, I'm not, sorry :(

[@lovewho]

Purity is overrated ~ Nathan

[@ReynaSingh]

Infp’s truly are one of a kind

[@antanowrites]

well apparently not because we've all been classified under one type.

[@tessicat]

Nodding so much in agreement that I'm practically headbanging

[@lovewho]

Happy to get you headbanging ~ Nathan

[@MariCornell]

we also overthink certain social scenarios when in reality no one cares as much about us as we do about others. It's a harsh reality but it's true

[@orangesheep7094]

so relatable...

[@mariob616]

Our mind can be an eternal dark abyss on the inside, but on the outside we are just a lil' sunshine. If you hurt someone dear to me that abyss gate opens and the dark entres in the external world.

[@helenwood8482]

Yes, that sounds o familiar.

[@mudpuddles]

"it's like throwing energy into the abyss, and constantly being aware of that fact with every moment that passes." How accurately you captured that.

[@lovewho]

It's what it's always felt like for me so I figured the INFPs out there might relate to it too ~ Nathan

[@jenniferleigh1414]

I have a 16 year old INFP daughter. She is offended by EVERYTHING 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m hoping it gets better.

[@LunaDarkNightwerewolf]

The way you described your daughter, she might be an INFP-A, because, I recently found out that my mom's personality type is INFP-A, and she gets upset over everything too, in fact this morning she got mad and started screaming like a kid because, she didn't no where her keys were, an I had to help calm her down, like I normally do everyday, an I talk to her and told her that she needs focus on what she was doing when she lost the keys, and then retrace her steps and she will find them, and she always does find them, but, then point I'm trying to make, is that INFP type never grows out of their moodiness, all you can do is just sit down with them and talk them down from their anger by being calm and respectful about the way they feel about something and that should be enough to help them, also, try to get her to write down how she feels about stuff and maybe that would help, because, I don't know if that works for INFP personality type, since I'm an INFJ personality type, but, when I get upset, I write down my feelings, an it makes me feel better, so, maybe that could work for INFP too.

[@sweetlikesaccharine]

I’m an infp and my mom is an esfj. don’t think I have to explain how our convos turn out 💃 🏢 🏢 🏢

[@sweetlikesaccharine]

@@LunaDarkNightwerewolf I’m an infp and I can confirm that I’d appreciate it a lot if my mom tried to understand my emotions when I let them out. I also get stressed easily so if I’m omw to school and stuff like that and suddenly can’t find my keys I’d be running around trying to find them while holding in my tears😀

[@afra.1658]

@@sweetlikesaccharine omg, same!

[@Traumatised311]

So me I found this so funny that in excitement I stabbed someone hahah jk

[@sakellaridoupeg584]

I cannot explain how much I despise it when someone says that something is or isn't "normal"

[@helenwood8482]

I have a similar problem with people telling me things aren't real. I'm a writer. I tell my sister, the difference between writers and crazy people is that we know our imaginary friends are fictional, we just don't see that as a reason to discriminate against them.

[@aashnavidyarthi6328]

This is so accurate.

[@charliecastillo2011]

I felt so called out through the entire video 😂

[@lovewho]

Glad to hear it! ~ Nathan

[@enk335]

As an INFP I actually really care about things making sense, but less in a practical way. I care more about truth as a whole, no matter how abstract that may sometimes be. I understand that practicality is important and I do value it, but sometimes it just seems lifeless and cold, with no regard for actually enjoying the one life we're given. I can't relate to high Te users because I use Te as a tool for my other functions, not the other way around. Edit: On small talk. Other people tend to see me as wise, and I appreciate that. But, most people's ideas of a "deep" conversation are really just me repeating what I've already solidified as my beliefs. What I really want is for someone to challenge me and help me see the world differently. I want to be taught. And, if small talk comes from a genuine place and is interesting, and i'm in the mood to talk at all, sure. I'm happy to observe and lust for the beauty of the world. But if you're just going to spew dry facts at me that mean nothing, I'm not going to listen.

[@mangoszki4531]

I believe imperfections make things perfect. Life's not all about numbers and efficiency. Lot of time's you've just got to do what feels right. And just like the story David and Goliath, ones sling-shot, little stone and confidence can take down the giant. Tbh, chasing trends and norms for me are exhausting, not worth the price of loosing myself. Truely stand with the underdogs and outcasts because I myself am one and know what it feels like. And getting to prove those wrong is its own reward. Love watching your videos. You gained my sub. Thank you. - Jez

[@lovewho]

Beautiful comment! Glad to have you as a subscriber ~ Nathan

[@angelicatrino2498]

Because INFPs seeks the question, who am I? We make up the most lurkers in social media. We don't have to engage if we don't want to.

[@lovewho]

Feel free to lurk on our Discord server too!! There are already lots of INFPs on there who love to lurk in the shadows ~ Nathan

[@ritaruggerone4434]

Indeed I lurk...I choose when to engage...which is pretty much 0 percent of the time.

[@tamaragarrett3625]

“We have to communicate for no good reason” no truer words.

[@lovewho]

Amen, speaking as a fellow hater of small talk ~ Nathan

[@mtjloves1324]

I showed this to my mom since she's an Infp, and she was like, "Woah, that is actually ALL true!!" So...amazing work there👍🏻👍🏻

[@lovewho]

Love it! Glad to have you (and your mom) as viewers. Mom's approval = video goal achieved. ~ Nathan

[@bbmn590]

You nailed it with the small talk thing. As an INFP, I absolutely loath it and generally am left feeling highly annoyed afterwards. Though I do understand people tend to not want to jump head first into more deep conversation, I can't help how not doing so makes me feel.

[@five5x]

Perfect standardization is flawed because perfection is different to every person. Life is flawed and that's perfect for me.

[@patrikmelkersson7825]

Summer has officially come and gone. I think it was at a thursday this year

[@mlandry491]

Bahahaha 😆😆😆😆

[@lovewho]

I had one day down the beach this entire year... and it really was a Thursday! ~ Nathan

[@maureenpereira270]

"You have to communicate ...yet...for no good reason". Your sense of humour is unique!

[@lindsayschnittger9698]

Yes! This is so very me. Every bit of it. Also it’s super nice to know there are lots of INFP’s out there and even listening to this and part of this community. Hi! Hey there Mr. KZbin channel guy (so sorry, I’m horrible with names) I know you aren’t an INFP, mainly because you speak so concisely and several other reasons but thanks. Thanks for being able to put to words things about INFP’s that we have a hard time conveying ourselves. (Well at least I do. Maybe other INFP’s struggle to put their thoughts into normal makes sense people words)

[@lovewho]

Thank you for this comment! It really is great to have people of the same type being able to talk with each other here in the comment section. Feel free to check out our Discord server too, there are already lots of INFPs on there! ~ Nathan

[@bethgiven7515]

You were talking about the weather? Oh I didn’t notice.

[@lovewho]

Lol well I'm glad! ~ Nathan

[@HURTHOUSEMMA]

Dang dude. I'm an INFP and within 2-3 seconds skipped straight through your "small talk" intro. Got me. Completely accurate

[@maggie_kamau]

I don't know what I'm doing here as an INTJ. Could you please do more videos of us and ENTJs? Also, I love your accent and your videos generally. Oh, and your eyebrows too of course 😂

[@kohikappu]

Ah, I see. If you are here then you can understand us more, haha. Also, he made a video about INTJ and ENTJ before, you can also check his personality changes based on MBTI as well.

[@maggie_kamau]

@@kohikappu thank you. I'll go find them.

[@lovewho]

I will definitely make more ENTJ videos over time, promise! If you type 'ENTJ' into he search bar on the channel all of those videos will come up. Also I've noticed there are quite a few ENTJs on the Discord, feel free to join, you might find it interesting! ~ Nathan

[@queenofwales_]

The weather topic! 😂 I’m a game show host at work, the best topic to move on from smth weird or underline smth weird in my work chats is just to randomly ask what’s the weather outside. 😂 I just love it, and it sometimes leads to actually good convos. 🔥 But, yeah, other small talk topics can get on my nerves, especially, when people are plainly nonstop gossiping about each other. 😬 Better go and read some book, Amber! 😂 INFP here as well, just found your channel, seems to be awesome.🔥

[@UmatsuObossa]

Man, I FELT that George Carlin quote. I saw a sapling beginning to grow out of a drain near my apt and I immediately admired it, and was terribly disappointed when one day I saw it had been removed.

[@swad2315]

infp hate small talk no truer word has been said

[@swad2315]

we do not hate standardization we just don't like structure imposing on our ability to explore and find new solutions to problem at hand

[@davetbrunner]

"...have to communicate, but for no good reason." HAH! Love this. I work in retail and strive to personalize every shoe purchase someone makes. I often find myself searching for conversations that go deeper than the abysmal small talk. It's draining, because not everybody wants this. Small talk is perfectly fine with the masses, BUT IT ISN'T.

[@morgrugg]

Firstly, it's all true about me. I always root for the one that has more obstacles to overcome. I hate the word "normal". People say it all the time as if it actually meant something, and all it is is just a subjective construct in their minds. And I hate it when people say "awkward silence". Silence is not awkward, it is nice to be silent together. It's a waste to fill this silence with some menial conversation about the weather that no-one is really interested in. Lastly, when you spoke about subscribing, I noticed I hadn't subscribed yet 😅 it's fixed now. Second thing, maybe it's weird, but I'd really like to see you in a movie sometime. Playing a demon with a conscience or a president of hell who just has to run everything and tries to do it in the best way possible even though all he gets are the souls of the doomed. Have you ever acted in a movie? Are you planning to?

[@lovewho]

"President of hell" you know... that doesn't sound too bad to me! ~ Nathan

[@rosannatarsiero3670]

As an INTJ with a very well developed Fi, I can relate to a lot of this.

[@lovewho]

That makes sense actually! ~ Nathan

[@lishayost44]

I relate to a lot of this as an intp, but here are the slight differences: I also would like variety over perfection, however it would be nice if everything was closer to perfect than it is in reality. I would give up a little variation to gain a little more perfection. I believe there is such a thing as real or not real, but I do not believe there is such a thing as normal or abnormal... I often use air quotes when using the term normal. I use the term normal because people will know what I mean, but it's equally important to me that people know I don't like the word "normal" lol

[@pizzadohpaz]

As an INFP, I actually have to agree with you, especially on the "normal" thing because like I know some things are real or not real, but how can anything be "normal"? That's so ambiguous...

[@pizzadohpaz]

@Luce M you're not an INFP are you

[@lishayost44]

@Luce M I was talking to my husband about this and he said I'll tell you what normal is and he starts looking up something on his phone and I'm like, are you looking up the dictionary definition? Because I dont care what a dictionary has to say lol!

[@pizzadohpaz]

@Luce M autistic people are neurologically atypical. "Normal" has a slight nuance to it, or why would we have 4 words that mean the same thing? I said you're not INFP because you want things to be plain and simple, black and white, and INFPs don't see the world that way. As for your "native speaker" thing, yeah native speakers are going to look more deeply into a language than non-natives, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. We're talking about more than the dictionary here: we're talking about the deeper meaning to society.

[@lovewho]

Very well said, it's interesting to see people of different types relate to the things mentioned in other type's videos. It makes total sense that INTPs and INFPs would have a lot of the same views/issues ~ Nathan

[@rawanx_x]

I’m an INFP and it surprises me that people see us as unable to hate. I hate everything, I’m angry at everything. Not the little things but the world as a whole in some way that I can’t begin to explain.

[@theberrynecessities]

yes!! one persons merit cannot be deemed a demerit by another! our worldview are so vastly different that picking and choosing how others should live is absolutely ridiculous! if no malicious harm is done (because sometimes, harm is unavoidable, and unless a malicious intent is involved, it can be swiftly dealt with) then we shouldnt interfere with how others live!!

[@elodiepollock7326]

Small talk- you have to communicate, but for no good reason. Have never heard it put so succinctly 👏🏻 thanks for putting it into words

[@RebeccaETripp]

Wow! Every single shred of that is painfully true for me! Thanks!

[@bunnyjoeyyeung5929]

You are the only one who successfully persuade me to hit the subscribe button. Maybe is because how you suggested the offer is so gentile and nice to infp we felt safe and option to be open at the same time. Maybe that’s also the reason why you have most of the viewer as infp. Your perspectives and words are like so accurately soft and gentle. And your tone of words are distanced yet intimate. Is so forgiving and soothing. Some times the merely understanding in your video hit like a beautiful broking yet healing experience.

[@blanchespinkblossom]

You’re spot on! I’ve been binge watching your videos since last night and you’ve just convinced me to subscribe. 😊 Anyhow, as an INFP I hate how I always have the need to explain myself because it seems like most people misunderstand me.

[@timefortakeoff1447]

lolol "small talk" I have an online friend who's an INTJ and altho I talk to him for hours, I feel more energised rather than drained because both of us hate small talk and we just talk about random crazy ideas or our common interests. His perspective on stuff varies from mine but that just makes it more interesting imo and it feels like its actually a memory worth treasuring. I have a few friends with whom the only thing I do is small talk and how our day was and honestly it kinda makes it feel like a waste of energy to me. I love them a lot but when I'm talking to a friend, I'm more interested in knowing them on a deeper level (like their opinions/feelings/thoughts about stuff) rather than some superficial chit chat.

[@helenwood8482]

I love talking to INTJs. They want to talk about big stuff and they think incredible thoughts.

[@UmatsuObossa]

The idea of us as pure angelically innocent and delicate creatures is so off base. Most days I feel like an alien observing the world with a critically objective eye, meticulously dissecting everything i see and filing it away in the name of science. Around people I care about, I feel more like a mother bear, keeping vigilant watch, showing tender care, but always aware in the back of my mind that I may need to shred someone open to defend my loved ones and wouldn't hesitate nor regret.

[@accountabilityisadmirable]

I'm just glad thought bubbles don't pop up above our heads 😊

[@musicrulesforever15]

The small talk part, yes! I often get yelled at by my parents that I don't call enough (insisting I call every single day, just so they know I'm okay) but...I have nothing to say! To me it's absolutely pointless to talk unless there's some actual purpose to it. We can talk when you want to talk about something meaningful or useful. Not to talk about the weather and how Aunt Cathy made strawberry jam on Friday.

[@BbyXxXBeaST]

i have no HATE within me but only for myself. i wish i am more confident and self-love thats why i hate myself.

[@csmithvenice17]

As usual, you nailed it! I keep hoping I might some day become an ENFP, but when you talk of INFPs I feel it applies so well, sometimes perfectly, to me. Thanks for what you do; I find it helpful.

[@PyroTigerStripe]

I work at a hotel and I get small talk quite often. Attempting to be normal and professional, I try to respond but it usually ends up with me saying "yeah" a bunch until I realize that I'm saying it too much and I eventually go quiet while trying desperately to think of something interesting to say while not offending them in any way whatsoever and then before I know it they're heading off to their room and I mentally smack myself for how awkward I was...

[@nikczemna_symulakra]

Someone: "C'mon.. these are JUST animals" Me: *activates full death mode and reloads every weapon available*

[@alZiiHardstylez]

I'm not the biggest fan of MBTI but your videos are always incredibly thought out. Ever since the ENTP analysis that didn't go down the whole 'argument go brrrr' bullshit, you've intrigued me to your perceptions. You're seemingly the only shining light to do with the mess of what the MBTI community is, haha.

[@lovewho]

This is really great to hear. There are definitely lots of issues with these systems but they do seem to be grasping at something extremely useful even if they are just generalised descriptions and archetypes! ~ Nathan

[@alZiiHardstylez]

@@lovewho I probably should have proof read my comment, had to edit it because it made no sense. Anyway, great take. I agree whole-heartedly. Out of curiosity, what was your result? I don't think I ever caught it.

[@Sharkuterie327]

INFP companion was making complaints about the world that aligns with all these things just yesterday. I played your video for him and he gave me a surprised Pikachu face. 😆 You speak so well, Nathan - both with clarity and scope. And pretty please, never lose that wooly sweater. It is becoming a signature wardrobe (insert black sheep pun here 😅).

[@lovewho]

The fur of the black sheep... I love it ~ Nathan

[@atlasofthemoon2485]

Im having this issue where I took a different turn out of high school to do some exploring. Try some creative things I want to do outside of college because I hated the pressure and anxiety from school. However now i found that procrastinate far to much and have no order to competing works...thinking maybe now that I know for sure what I want I should go back to school for guidance...or try some online learning service ??? idk the drive to be unique/true with myself and not feel pressure to do so because of society is really what makes the decision so difficult.

[@expo_yt]

I'm very new to typology, but since about a week ago, having looked into it; I've become extremely intrigued. The story of how the insight that made me start looking into it was based on a mistake I made in a social interaction hours before first looking up personality test in the hopes to gain knowledge about and understand myself better so that I could start working to improve interactions such as the one a had hours before. I've taken the 16personalities test 3 times so far and have gotten 3 different results, in order they go INTP, INFJ, and today I decided to really think in depth and try to get to the root of each question, used examples from my life, how I have felt and currently feel about them and got INFP-T. After the first 2 tests I felt uncertain of my results, hence my thoroughness in the 3rd test. I am pretty confident that INFP is my correct type, I still feel like I have traits from INTP and INFJ, but I feel like I express those traits much less often than INFP traits. I understand that I am very new to all of this and that I could be mistyped and or misinterpreting things, but going through and examining all of my results and using insights such as these videos, I feel like I am refining my understanding of myself, in that; it allows me to think deeply and emotionally about things that normally I would not know how to start thinking deeply about, which makes me feel more confident in my actions, feelings, and myself in general. I am normally very self-conscious and socially anxious. Anyways, I just wanted to write this to thank you for the amazing videos you make. The depth you go into and the way you describe these things resonates with me to an extent. Also I wanted to share my personal experience with typology so far. For anyone who may be wondering - The interaction was between a potential buyer for the place where I live and I(I'm a renter). They were coming up the stairs to the door after a showing and I was going down when they said thank you! I quickly panicked not expecting to have to interact with them and said the same in a reactionary/slightly enthusiastic seeming tone. Since I am a renter and had to put work into preparing parts of the place for the showing, and since the showing was taking time from me, I feel like this could've came off as rudely sarcastic, which is my LAST intention when talking to someone new.

[@n0_n0]

“I think it was on a Thursday this year.” On fire, Nathan 🙌

[@lovewho]

There was a Thursday where I had a day down on the beach... and that was it!! ~ Nathan

[@wisewordings]

"It's like throwing energy into the abyss." I couldn't have said it better. Also in that category is dealing with day-to-day minutiae in all its forms. I get through it by listening to audiobooks about metaphysics or a fantasy or scifi novel. I am not apologizing for my head being "up in the clouds." I like being up there!

[@barnaclefelching4079]

I just subscribed, I first started watching your videos over three years ago, I'm usually easy with subscribing, but with you, well the taunting felt personal 😂❤. Congratulations

[@Evaporatedscribe]

All of this, ha… While I do know some INFPs who fully embrace the 'fluffy' way we sometimes come across, it irks the heck out of me, and it's an aspect I've tried very hard to suppress in the long-run (unless, OFC, it's a purposeful show that I put on when I think it'll benefit me somehow). So true about not liking the word 'hate' as well. While I don't like using the word, a few very specific things will absolutely cause me to go (internally) feral. Yet, I'll still use a very calm, 'flowery' way of speech while ripping the person's rationale to shreds. I'd like to also add "deliberate closed-mindedness in the face of new or contradicting information" to that list of strong dislikes. And yes - I did pause mid-viewing to make sure I was subscribed lol.

[@danielhendrickson7485]

I'm an infp, as a general rule I always press like at the beginning of the video so I don't forget.bi can do this cuz I just know I'm gonna like the content your about to provide. You da man Nathan, you da man 🤣

[@sandrafrancis3631]

Another thing we hate is routine, and too much repetition. This makes studying music difficult, even though we love music. Music is a life of repetition, practising the same things over and over. Even if you make it big, you are then performing the same pieces or songs over and over. My background is in visual arts, which is so much freer and unstructured compared to the life of a musician or music student. I'm learning piano, and just started clarinet, which is hard work, all the blowing, is exhausting, makes piano seem easy!😅 I did violin for 3 years, which I don't want to go back to. I'm proud I managed 3 years, when I started I didn't think I'd last one term! 😅

[@adriennebruce1673]

I like your fuzzy pullover top. It looks so cozy! And your comments are so true!

[@lovewho]

I can attest to the comfy-ness of it! ~ Nathan

[@evaanjos]

you're incredibly entertaining. can't get bored

[@lovewho]

Why thank you! Just checked out your channel, really nice videos!! Definitely keep uploading, consistency is important, eventually things will click more and more especially with your filmmaking aesthetic/skillset ~ Nathan

[@evaanjos]

@@lovewho That's very sweet of you, thank you! & yes! Consistency is keeeey

[@carries1412]

This......totally.......resonated.....deep within my spirit. Sometimes I feel like I could take down Goliath, with just my mind.

[@thebiokid4286]

Sir, I am an INFP. I become very upset when someone criticize me regarding the decisions I made in life. Again, I am 27 and yet I haven't been in a relationship even once. Sometimes, when I think about these, I kinda become very self analytic about myself and while doing so, I focus more on my flaws rather than my positives which further upsets me more. Any suggestions?

[@fluffykittens1387]

From my INFP sister: "You need to forgive yourself for your flaws and remind yourself that, if it's truly something that harms yourself or others, then there are ways for you to change and grow. However, some flaws are not truly flaws, but merely aspects of your personality that should be considered as parts of your true beauty as a whole. Like..." She is now trying to think of simile. Me: a FlOwEr Her: No Me: No u Her: Uno reverse Me: Esrever onu Her: Onu esrever A civilized conversation between an INFP and an INFJ

[@fluffykittens1387]

Update, my sister has come up with a suitable simile about mutations: "...like how mutations in an organism could be considered flaws in the copying of DNA, and yet end up providing an evolutionary advantage for the organism." Interesting.

[@giishaw92]

Subscribed. Lol the reason I watch all the videos and forget to subscribe is the same reason I forget to compliment someone when I like their new hair cut. My appreciation doesn't seem to translate naturally into the real world😅

[@lovewho]

I'm sure you've been subscribed in your mind for a long time, which is good enough for me ~ Nathan

[@JediBunny]

Shallow small talk is _excruciating_ for me 😿

[@lovewho]

Perfectly said ~ Nathan

[@ImNotYourTypicalGamer]

LMAO, "Summer has officially come and gone. I think it was on a Thursday this year." 😂😂😂

[@lovewho]

#ukproblems ~ Nathan

[@JosiahMcCarthy]

Thought I was INTP, so I subscribed... Didn't know I could have gotten away without for so long.

[@Rita-cs2fk]

This is the best video I have watched about INFPs so far

[@shietzshiel]

We are like, when even a stranger (who don't actually know us) calls us bad or pointed on us as not good enough we start feeling that they are true and we are wrong only.

[@onipot9639]

I would love it if you did a deep dive into MBTI as fiction tropes, as in how their characters are often portrayed. Both the most common archetypes, but also deviations. (Recently I thought an interesting example of an INFP character is Hughie from "The Boys", it's pretty unusual that an infp character exists in such a gritty world, or seems to actually thrive.) I am an infp and I loved this video !

[@lovewho]

Ok so this is something I have pondered before and I think I will take your advice and do it in the near future ~ Nathan

[@PhotoRubio]

(Self Diagnosed INFP) Small talk... This has been the GREATEST skill I've learned to use. It gets me in with the those who like it enough for me to get to asking deep questions. Before they know it, I know them better than most would care to be known. Also, it is used to get out of social situations. Nothing fools the extroverts more that them thinking you talk their lingo. When timed correctly, one can slip out of any conversation naturally... There is a weakness to this though. Seem casual enough to too many people and now you're the guy people want to get to know. INFP Hissing is the next logical tactic.

[@raniakidiyoor2424]

Then can you give some advice on how to small talk with others being an INFP?

[@PhotoRubio]

​@@raniakidiyoor2424 Sure! INFP's are good listeners generally and do so with the intent of finding deep connections with people. The great part is that most people like to talk. They send out key info during the small talk that are *gems* of topics to explore. Example: Someone approaches you and the topic of weather "comes" up. Them: Great weather we're having! (After a brief exchange of words) You can ask about what they like about it. - Do they like being outdoors or indoors? - If so what activities do they like to do? - What's the best or worst experience doing activities. - What do they do with opposite weather conditions. Before you know it, they are telling you about childhood memories, family members, places they've been. Who knows, they might be the person to show you some of these things IRL if you're interested. ; ) The key is to find these key words or ideas spouted out unconsciously and explore them further. Note: it is still taxing on the INFP's social nervous system. Drink plenty of water and rest well after. Extroverts & small talkers are a wealth of knowledge and info more than one thinks. Their wisdoms flow through different channels. It is up to us the seekers to learn their ways and adapt from time to time (even if adaptation is meant for survival of a social event). Doing the talking thing is a GREAT way of detecting people of the introverted persuasion. Talking to extroverts places you on a (incoming metaphor) perch high enough to survey the social landscape. Those who prefer the less crowded areas of the room or event. Find them and stick with them after. Granted, this has gotten me into trouble at times, but it too has given me opportunities and experiences solely keeping to myself would never have granted me. Best of luck to you!

[@raniakidiyoor2424]

What about when it comes to them wanting to know about you?..cuz for me I'm very reluctant about sharing information about myself, since I have an extreme tendency to overshare😅😅 which then landed me in an awkward situation where they were just silent 👀 and then later when I reflect on it , I wonder what must have gone in their minds when I revealed all that ?🤔 and do they think less of me now ?😰😰 and so forth...(another endless cycle of overthinking)

[@PhotoRubio]

​@@raniakidiyoor2424​ Good question. Somewhere between not talking enough and then talking too much how I roll. That's why I try to keep people taking (cause then I don't have to). I've learned to accept this part of me and make a joke about it when asked questions. Especially if what they asked was about a topic of interest of mine. I make a joke about it before I begin my reluctant rant on whatever it was. "Are you sure you want to hear about it? Once I start, there's no turning back." You can usually read the other persons response to how enthusiastic they are to hear about it. TLDR: If you know this about yourself, >ACCEPT IT

[@virginiabutters1229]

You make the absolute best thumbnails.

[@lovewho]

Why thank you! I often think that the background in the videos is so bland that I'll compensate for it with some nice thumbnails ~ Nathan

[@yusra7634]

Ahaha you’re so right about how cold it is in the uk rn

[@lovewho]

Indeed, and the weather hasn't improved one bit since then! ~ Nathan

[@sunflowergirl6167]

I wholeheartedly agree, the weather in the UK is currently pants! ☔☔😝

[@lovewho]

And it hasn't gotten any better since this video! ~ Nathan

[@mlandry491]

So my antidote to small talk is to make it not small. When the chatter is insipid, im usually compelled to dig in and talk about what might really be running through the persons head. " you dont really care if ive had the pumpin thing from starbucks bruh. Why are your ears red? Bf, yeah? Was the test positive???" Conversation either begins to mean something, or ends. Its not always a polite thing to do, but it bypasses the small talk. I say outloud as a guess what they might be feeling, and then dig into the why. I find that those who use small talk often want to discuss bigger things but dot really know how to go about it. So i just give them the space to vent. I always thought i did this because I want to understand. Now i wonder if its because i hate small talk...

[@celeste-g]

as soon as I saw the Tim Burton quote I got so happy. I also zoned out at the beginning of this video classic INFP-T move, but anyhow I can't imagine myself under any other type tbh.

[@cheche9949]

I feel like i love you as long as you play along with my idealized imaginary reality. If you try to break my reality or shove me yours I go CRAZY 😂

[@lovewho]

Haha! Well I’ll try to stay in your idealised youtube reality for as long as possible ~ Nathan

[@Terrormitzsu]

Weather as a topic of conversation is ok for me, because I love nature and what's going on in other places, so nice job, you made it personal and interesting and gave it some place to go, so cool. What I don't like is nosey, judgey chit-chat like what do you do, how much do you make, snub here, passive-aggressive comment there... Although I'm able to find something of interest in some of those questions now. But, historically, hated it because ENTJs or ESFJs or ISFJs or ENFJs or whoever... use those nosey questions as social credit to get in your business and talk about you. I hate social engineering. Love to take those ppl to a deeper level where they eventually founder and show their true colors... although it's usually hurtful and disappointing when their masks finally slip, and they punish ME for it. - INFP

[@yukinokoyuki1488]

Everyone else : INFP Me: INFP 🤝 BPD Yeah, I'm one of those depressed sunshine

[@kaylynchua9574]

Lmao. Am infp with bpd symptoms as told by a psychiatrist but mo diagnosis so hopefully I ain't in for a loop of he'll.

[@yukinokoyuki1488]

@@kaylynchua9574 I hope everything will be fine 💓

[@elizabee]

Haha, I literally just realized I haven’t subscribed until you pointed it out in the beginning of this vid...I’m an INFP 😆.

[@lovewho]

Typical... also thank you for watching and commenting btw! It's really nice to get feedback from people ~ Nathan

[@ra7271]

I was so convinced I'm infp. I must be infj because I can rock a grudge like few would want to like it makes me happy when it doesnt. I can also project being better than I am, feeding off a pressure that I actually hate,but making love to the pressure. If i was an infp i think i could learn to love myself easier.

[@georginaennis2717]

“summer has officially come and gone, I think it was on a Thursday this year” - 🤣🤣 too good

[@julianagregori3236]

I never felt so deeply understood. Thank you❤