Three Secrets to Thriving After Losing Your Spouse - You Won't Believe #2!

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Three Secrets to Thriving After Losing Your
Spouse - You Won't Believe #2!

[@kathrynmolesa1641]

after losing my husband i was in kind of a fog for an entire year. But then I slowly came out of it and began to feel to joy of life again. Having a routine helped me immensely.. Exercise, getting a new hobby, going to church, visiting friends and family. I got a gardener and a housekeeper. Now I don’t mind being alone too much. I do know that my faith, family and friends is what helped me the most.

[@clay1883]

Typical advice from someone that hasn't walked a mile in my shoes. My Wife and I were together for 53 years. Just kids when we married. She died in April '24. There aren't any words for my loneliness. I am trying to carry on. We did everything together, not apart. The things we enjoyed together are no longer desirable or fun. I still talk to her. And yes, I cry for her. I feel terrible for others that have to live this life. I am thankful that I survived her because I wouldn't want her to have to live this way. I really don't like people telling me what my Wife would have wanted, etc. Not helpful.

[@Charlesguzman-q9u]

Clay - I too know exactly what you're going through, I lost my Princess of 45 years - 4 years ago and like you we were inseparable and did everything together. I also miss her more than words can ever say. And I'm not ashamed to admit I still cry for her all the time. I even contemplated taking my life, but knew she would not want that. I just take every day at a time and see what tomorrow brings. I do have some brothers and sisters who have been there for me and they not knowing have probably saved my life. Just try to hang on Clay, that's all one can do. I try to think of the good times we had and I'm grateful for that at least. I'm sorry I can't really help you. Just think of the love you once shared.

[@fionaforward3358]

Exactly how I feel.My beloved husband died 13 years ago and though I just get on with life,I miss him so much.The joy has gone out of my life as we did everything together.I keep busy and I want to make him proud of me.

[@gjdoan]

I feel just the same, life isn’t the same without him

[@georgiamcneil1661]

I lost. my husband this pass Dec. It has been hard. But I depend on my self

[@roblloyd1879]

Same here although I do look after grandchildren Friday evening to Sunday morning so the parents can work. Technically my step-granchildren but they are my youngest grandchildren.

[@waltisher]

43 years together. We lived, loved, and worked together. May 2024 ended that. I crave his presence .

[@erickriebel4366]

BEST THING IF YOU'RE STILL IN GOOD CONDITION. GO ALONG WITH YOUR LIFE AND MIND YOUR PRIVACY AND OWN AFFAIRS UNLESS YOU NEED OTHER PEOPLE TO CARE FOR YOU.

[@markgoostree6334]

I met my wife when we were 5 years old. We started dating at age 16 ( 1966 ) and married in '72. She died 6/1/ 2021 after 49 years of marriage. I am tired of it all. It's like the song by " The Feel Good Tanyas".... "Waiting Around To Die". That is what I'm doing.

[@clay1883]

I'm sorry and I do know how you feel. I was married for 53 years and my Wife passed 4'24. If you figure it out, let me know.

[@Lulu-ce3jt]

It has been almost 3 yrs since I lost my husband of 33 yrs. The separation has been excruciating and all encompassing. I have come to the realization that in order to keep living, I need to learn to put "it (the painfull loss)" in an imaginary box, on an imaginary shelf, in order to move forward. Even if it is for only moments at a time, it has turned into an exercise for me. A choice to control my thoughts by containing and organizing them. Whenever I do it, I find I build a tiny bit of personal strength. I allow myself to go back to my imaginary box when I want to. Some may have a hard time with using the imagination in such a way, but extreme measures are sometimes necessary. My heart goes out to all who suffer in such pain. I had no idea until it happened to me.

[@jimmcgeehan7393]

I don’t want my children to take care of me, I have adjusted to living with myself I am good company

[@whoknowsthefuture]

So what are the 3 secrets?

[@big6142]

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[@tiedryflies]

2 Corinthians 12:9 KJV with 1 Timothy 5:9 KJV as advice in remarriage. I'm 76 and have thought about this.

[@lindalogan5479]

This was little to no help! Three years alone after 49 years is not easy. I, too, want to know the three secrets. You did not tell them!

[@Hazy3]

I was taken advantage of. Exploiters. Be careful. They go after weak widows and widowers. I helped someone with 50k. Not a lump sum. For a year. Help her get up on her feet. After that she doesn't care. She used my money for her vacations with her boyfriend. Its ok. Its gonna come around. Makes me wonder why her boyfriend doesnt help her? Im a young white deaf widow woman. Trying to be nice. Still grieving. ❤️ I dont want her money back. I want her to apologize. Try to be a better friend. She doesn't try. Her loss.

[@PatThecat-n2l]

Don’t bother. They give no secrets.

[@ourv9603]

After my wife passed my widow neighbor started dropping by. First she brought over a pastry she had made. Then I invited her over to watch a movie with me then I started taking her out to dinner. Guess what? She taught me that I really didnt have ED. All I needed was a hotter partner. !