TikTok hates your relationship

[@laurajanespain]

Can you please stop talking? I’m trying to sleep

[@ndeez3894]

He never shuts up.

[@Holygroundgirlie.fanpage]

So inconsiderate of him, smh 🤦‍♀️

[@bigreputation]

literally!!

[@prosandcons-fl2cc]

no sleep for u

[@TenderNoodle]

I can’t believe drew would be so inconsiderate🙄 SMH

[@levibee9451]

My wife and I have the perfect relationship. She stays home coming up with uncreasingly elaborate tasks to keep busy the swarm of suitors awaiting news of my demise, while I tie myself and my men to the undersides of sheep to evade the cyclops I've blinded.

[@1ris693]

underrated greek mythology related comment here, folks

[@xmlthegreat]

We got Odysseus over here 😂 Calm down, your Royal Highness 🙄

[@elius1548]

After reading this I can 100% say you’re a complete Nobody

[@WickedKatze]

@@elius1548 lol dammit you made the joke first

[@Saxjon]

​@@WickedKatzeI didn't get it. What was the reference?

[@bslone9005]

Honestly Drew, your marriage must be a nightmare. I've been with my husband for 500 years and the way we live is pretty much the only way to have a successful marriage. It works for everyone because every relationship is the same. My advice to you is to do the exact opposite of what you are currently doing. Hope this helps!

[@AdrianskiASMR]

Wow, I cant believe you would say that. WRONG!

[@mrocks0515]

Immortals detected

[@Mikoeditsfr]

Uhm ackually very invalid opinion ☝️🤓

[@MarcBliss]

“Hope this helps!” is objectively hilarious

[@sanninlegends1843]

Elves detected

[@rzeka]

This is like when you tell your parents a joke and they turn it into a lecture, except instead of your parents it's the entire internet

[@sas.tronaut5055]

its like a whole neighborhood worth of people from a different country you’ve never been to come in and are all giving you lectures

[@CS_0-0]

This is a great comparison ahahaha

[@adesuwa9112]

Lmao yess exactly!

[@adesuwa9112]

@@sas.tronaut5055 🤣🤣

[@mirandabrumwell5318]

lmao I felt this comment so hard!

[@mollydarling1993]

My husband and I have the perfect relationship. He stays at home looking after the kids while I roam around the countryside looking for quests to complete. I haven't seen him in 2 years

[@theeleanorshellstrop]

my husband and I have the same relationship dynamic. I think he enjoys time away from me; I’ve been spending all my time at this tropical island as of late

[@mudfish6861]

Careful, you might return one day to find your husband died of a Mysterious Illness(TM) and your kids set off on a quest to find you and somehow ended up fulfilling a prophecy that marks them as the Chosen Heirs to the Great Throne and now they have to stop the Apocalypse

[@jordynensor2081]

john?

[@TheLafandemangas]

Is this a skyrim reference

[@ryltair]

Don't forget to occasionally return home to cash in the quests.

[@_typhoid_mary_]

I have been married for 6 years and have only seen him in person twice and that was when we both had to shit and the same time and he opened the door on me. Never been happier to have our own hobbies and space ❤️ neither of us have ever looked at our kids. I only know he still lives with me because he does the dishes and I’ll sweep to let him know I still live there.

[@drewisgooden]

this is the funniest comment i've ever gotten

[@cheesecaked33]

@@drewisgooden bye

[@_Khanyi_]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@getschwifty5271]

True love, brings a tear to my eye

[@dunno-19]

no see this is the problem with our world right now, it’s visually obvious you two are entirely infatuated with each other. you have kids woman! have some respect, leave them now. i’m certain you two will destroy the patriarchy. hope that helps edward

[@Justsomegamergamingandstuff]

"Your relationship doesn't need to make sense to anyone, except you and your partner. It's a relationship, not a community project"

[@justsomeguy4955]

Unless it involves killing babies. Otherwise, I agree with you

[@Justsomegamergamingandstuff]

@@justsomeguy4955 why do you care? It doesn't affect you personally, just let people do what they want. It's not up to you what other people do in their personal life

[@justsomeguy4955]

@@Justsomegamergamingandstuff also, you agree with killing actual babies wtf?

[@Justsomegamergamingandstuff]

@@justsomeguy4955 no, I don't agree or disagree with anything, actually. I just don't give a shit what people do. I'll care if and when it concerns me personally. Do what you want, I couldn't care less. I let important things bother me

[@justsomeguy4955]

@@Justsomegamergamingandstuff Did I say fetus? I said killing babies. I didn't say anything about abortion. Take a freaking joke and stop assuming everything is about politics

[@pinkdarkman]

One time I saw Amanda and her husband eat square food. She didn't say it, but I could tell from her eyes that she had been crying and was only eating squares because it was the only way to get her husband to spend time with her. Watching Captain Planet loudly on repeat in the living room just wasn't working like it used to. This is my fanfiction. Tags: Lemon, OOC, Crossover with Inuyasha, rated G

[@Weruen]

This was a hard read, I can’t believe some people can be so horrible in relationships :((

[@akaashikeijiluvr]

INUYASHA LMAOO

[@corduroy799]

LEMON? Screaming and crying rn

[@alilordoftheskies5079]

Lemon AND rated G? What a fic 😭

[@yukikanegawa7470]

I haven't seen the lemon tag in so long

[@everyonehtswill]

I once got called a scallywag over a internet fight and i couldn’t even be mad anymore it was great

[@PlaylistKid25]

lol

[@jblazerndrowzy]

Being called a scallywag or whippersnapper online is too silly to be mad about, it’s just hilarious

[@stevedenny7887]

Who were you arguing with? Davey Jones?

[@thecolourfulpill]

I once had a full on fight on wattpad (which ended up involving moderators who I was friendly with at the time) and at some point the other girl told me that I was born in juvie. To this day, this is one of the funniest things anyone has ever thrown at me... Because of me pointing out spelling mistakes.

[@Juniperfoxxy]

Dave profile spotted

[@hannahwilson8391]

Drew has gotten scary good reading the comments with terrible grammar with complete fluidity.

[@cheackertroop]

itonyacomment 🤷‍♂️

[@cheesecaked33]

I'm very jealous of his skill!!!! I will steal his skill on March 6th, at 5:37 pm!!!!!!!!!!!

[@lozenger8]

I know, right? It's genuinely so impressive.

[@A_N_T333]

He was always scary.

[@nickwright4817]

Drew had got pretty awesome reading comment with the terrible grammar complete fluid.

[@Skapologist]

Man, Drew talked about the balance of chores being fair because he does the grocery shopping, and NOW he’s using Factor AND Hello Fresh so that he “never has to step foot in a grocery store again”? What a gross, obvious play to make Amanda take on all the responsibility in this relationship, we should all get upset about this.

[@yaboicolleen]

Oh good I didn't have to make this comment 😂

[@a.r.mproductions5616]

Bahaha 😂

[@tonyakriba6836]

Justice for Amanda

[@internetstranger-]

they both need to divorce. that's an unhealthy relationship. it's visually obvious that he hates Amanda 🤬

[@Cuarentaydos]

And he also said he cooked 90 % of the time. The AUDACITY.

[@newandroid2673]

I genuinely love people who say being a househusband for a woman is gay. Not because I agree with them, but because we've gone from "Fella's, is holding hands with another dude gay?" to "Fella's, are wearing jeans gay?" to the glorious "Fella's, is having a relationship with a woman gay?"

[@adrih8694]

My favorite one ever was a dude who said that any sex positon with the woman on top is gay. Fellas, is it gay to have sex with women????

[@thisisnotapplejuice]

they really took it full circle, "we all know that the most straight thing is being in a relationship with your homies, because then you're not submissive to a woman!!"

[@lucyandecember2843]

"Fella's, is it gay to be straight?"

[@Deddshot]

And as we all know the answer to each of those questions is *yes absolutely*

[@papertape7911]

Lucyan December the jury is out on that one.

[@1977felisha]

We've been married for 28 yrs. He used to go hang out with his friends & pursue hobbies in another room of our home. Then about 10 yrs ago, I chained him up in our home & forced him to spend time with me. I can say, I've never been happier. And he makes me laugh all the time with his funny jokes, 'Let me go!', 'These chains are too tight!', 'You're insane!'. I love our life ❤❤❤ The internet is right...spending every minute together makes a healthy marriage.

[@malachilining2730]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@iantaggart3064]

Congradulations to such a commitment. We all got your back. 👍

[@multiversecatastrophe]

We need more people like you both! I also love chaining up my girlfriend in my attic and she’s a good actor! Her crying is so realistic so every time I watch her, I always get to see her talents!

[@sarahmcdonald9624]

Plot twist: this is 💯 true and we think it’s a joke

[@ev4n_scence]

Okay Ryoba damn

[@maydoubled]

14:23 I once saw a tweet that was like, "You're a grown man and you still use an umbrella?!" One of the replies was, "What, getting older makes me waterproof??"

[@gooeydude574]

You mean your anti-water force field hasn’t developed yet?

[@maydoubled]

@@gooeydude574 No, but that's probably because I haven't thrown a traditional coming-of-age parade yet.

[@shay5479]

HAHAHA I LOVE THAT RESPONSE

[@Flesh_Wizard]

​@@gooeydude574 no I think I'm a late bloomer

[@manologamerss5801]

What? You really don't know how to flex the rain clouds away yet? Shameful.

[@shinji391]

What hurts me about this is, people can't even spread hate properly. They can't argue, they can't make a point, they can't form a sentence, and they can't accept when they are wrong.

[@alelarsen99]

did you type their on purpose to make me mad

[@haleymist09]

And the entitlement. Since someone posted online, the commenter must stop scrolling and project themselves onto the seconds-long clip.

[@mostlysondheim1930]

I have to take the bait. *they're 😉

[@LionsInBoots]

and then when you provide a point they can‘t refute they just start insulting you and calling you anything they can to try and get at you

[@YehudiNimol]

*they're

[@constipatedfrog5578]

"How often do you even need to fix a toilet? Every couple of years?" actually my sims household has broken theirs three times in a week now

[@sleepyote]

The commenter was a sim

[@morningvillains]

I made my sim max out handiness and get the goddamn trait for the amount of times they broke the toilet and shower. had to make sure those bitches never broke down again.

[@lilynote2016]

LOL 😂

[@cotom-dunkery5558]

To be fair though, that's like a quarter of their lives if you have aging on lol.

[@smoothmilla]

thankfully i can substitute it with a click or using a cheat, so i don't need to be a mechanic

[@dearlily325]

"Everything is a debate now", you are right and thats probably why I have anxiety.

[@John34bruh]

Any comment with over 50+ replies I go “yep, there’s an argument going on”

[@Ihavethehighground69]

​@@John34bruhor it's a massive chain of memes

[@banifaradha7774]

I absolutely disagree with that oversimplification. It's like when I have discussion about something and some rando came in and just reply, "oh you both wasting time doing useless debate" Like, you need to be a really mentally challenged person to thinks that anytime there are discussion with two different opinions have convo is always assumed it's "all debate or everything its debate".

[@dearlily325]

@@banifaradha7774 thats not my point at all. A lot of discussion online isn't just a regular conversation, its usually gets pretty heated or unnecessarily intense when the topic at hand is some dance moves or something. I'm also referring to the way most people comment on a video that doesn't at all call for the reaction being made. The way people think everything has to be about them or they must express anger over something that isn't harming anyone.

[@sidasterdisaster]

@@banifaradha7774 me when I prove op’s point

[@meggoegoo]

I'm starting to think we were never supposed to know everyone's opinion on everything all of the time

[@tychopanda]

To quote Bo Burnham: "Um… Is it… is it necessary? Is it necessary that every single person on this planet um, expresses every single opinion that they have on every single thing that occurs all at the same time? Is that… is that necessary? Um… Or to ask in a slightly different way, um, can… can anyone shut the fuck up?"

[@sophiaanderson3064]

This comment is underrated asf

[@houseofhas9355]

I understand what your saying. But tell me what do you think of pasta and genocide. Do they go together. I am not asking for commentary. I am seeking philosophical insight. 😂😂

[@batacumba]

@@houseofhas9355 I too wanna read that comment thread 😂

[@alechs]

​@@tychopanda "Can I interest you in everything all of the time?"

[@DAngeloWallace]

fellas, is it controversial to have a healthy relationship

[@AubstaWolfheart]

You're alive!! Hope you're well

[@cheesecaked33]

Drew gooden 😡

[@cozycasasmr4510]

I hope you are doing well 💗

[@FijianSouljah1312]

I love you and miss you :(

[@FijianSouljah1312]

My gf seen my last comment and now I retract what I said.

[@krabiat]

"he based this entire rant on the assumption that she's pretending to like the movies" he based the rant on his own divorce

[@anerrorhasoccurred8727]

Fr. I was expecting him to throw out accusations against her yoga instructor too bc goddamn, you might as well get ALL the cliches in there 💀

[@miscelaineous5164]

What I was going to say! Mans was airing out his own dirty laundry projecting all his shit

[@mouthbreather9435]

@@anerrorhasoccurred8727 not the yoga instructor💀💀

[@dylanbarrett5454]

Clear example of his projecting lmaooo

[@DexterMorgan133]

​@@anerrorhasoccurred8727 did somebody say yoga?

[@emgonzales1799]

Parallel play is a real thing, it's just existing near each other while doing your own separate things. It's a great way to hang out and spend time with a person.

[@bajjajajbajjjajaj6473]

That’s what it’s called for 4 year olds

[@licoriceandlumine3391]

@@bajjajajbajjjajaj6473 no that's just what it's called. just because it has the word 'play' in it doesn't mean its for kids

[@nobodynowhere000]

Ohhh, so that’s the official term for it! I’ve always just called it “cat socializing”, based on how cats grow more comfortable with each other as long as they are in the same room, even if they are doing separate things.

[@alicethemad1613]

@nobodynowhere000 ngl “cat socializing” is way cuter I’m gonna use that instead

[@santafe6943]

My partner and I love parallel play! We introduced the concept to our best friend and he was blown away by the concept - turns out all his exes were of the "We need to be actively spending every bit of time together doing something *together*" mindset :/

[@aliensandwhat8497]

DREW I AM SO GLAD YOU TALKED ABOUT THIS!! I am part of a princess program that dedicates itself to bringing joy to kids that have cancer(its called the PrincessFoundation) and literally whenever we post on tiktok the amount of hate is so confusing? Some people are like "you dont even look like Belle!" or "that child looks so ugly" to LITERAL CANCER PATIENTS who are CHILDREN. It blows my mind. Tiktok is just an ammalgomation of hate.

[@MrsWeasly123]

literally tiktok is so fucking cruel it's unbelievable. i feel really bad for the people who get posted on tiktok without their consent only to have their looks attacked mercilessly. it's such a cesspool

[@genericname2747]

At least you know that the people getting mad are all idiots. Because normal people wouldn't get mad by you helping kids with cancer.

[@wonderfulchaos5472]

I remember some girl posting about her experience being SAed on TikTok and all the comments were calling her ugly and saying she must be lying because no one would want to SA her. It's terrible. I hope the people posting these sorts of comments are young teenagers who will eventually grow out of it, because the thoughts of adults sitting behind the screen doing this is vile.

[@Mel-nw2ko]

People forget it's a public place where actual human beings can read their comments and then they voice their most disgusting inner thoughts.

[@melodye14]

That's so sad. Thanks for the work you do! I'm sure the kids love it.

[@DustyHoney]

Doing a chore your partner hates is an expression of love. That’s all.

[@bardofvoid174]

Absolutely!

[@Kil408]

She probably does chores he doesn’t like as well, hella stupid

[@TheMindofagenius1]

just to preface, i'm not in a relationship, so i may not know what i'm even talking about.... but like what if they both hate the same chore the same amount? does it boil down to "who's the bigger person"? xD

[@bardofvoid174]

@@TheMindofagenius1 I mean that's kinda the point of the video! Solutions range between anything that ends up working best for them both, whether that's like- "I do a chore we both hate and you do another chore we both hate", or the one who hates it less does the chore, or they randomize it, or they have somebody that they both agree does less overall to do it, or hire somebody, or find some way to eliminate the chore entirely- solutions would range based on what you *can* do for the chore and what sustainably works for you both. ... assuming they find a solution that works lmao, it could also end up becoming an eternal point of contention, but the point is kinda minimizing the amount of time of contention or the minimizing the contention itself.

[@TheMindofagenius1]

@@bardofvoid174 see, that's what I think would "ideally" happen, but the more I live on this earth and between "humans", the more I see shit that just SHOULDN'T "ideally" be happening, so I try to not place any kind of expectations or theories anymore, especially when it comes to relationships in particular =P

[@-piras]

I love the moment when he assumes that people commenting on how to have a healthy relationship on TikTok have actually been in a relationship before, very kind of him honestly

[@cuviefien]

my exact thought

[@jotunn30]

i mean some of them are so specific that they must be projecting past relationship trauma, hopefully.

[@sxhizornsmn]

@@jotunn30 biggg emhpasis on 'hopefully'

[@georjiep4338]

Fr it's probably a 12 year old

[@AmandaFreitas1998]

@@jotunn30 I thought the same, but sometimes people are projecting just the idea of what a perfect relationship for them would be, not whay they really have been through

[@haleiaboyton512]

i also find it interesting that every single one of these "takes" antagonised the woman in the relationship, no matter who was "more in the wrong" according to the video.

[@another_day4783]

most videos i see on tiktok the guy get the most hate people always calling them abusive or that they should break up them.

[@owyemen9367]

People always put themselves in the shoes of the person Thats their gender no matter Whats actually going on so when a relationship has problems people Will automatically antagonize the opposite gender since its harder to put yourself on their shoes

[@EamonWill]

You're absolutely right! I wondered if anyone else had realized this. The world has become increasingly open with its misogyny in recent years. For a while women were making good progress with feminism, and now between INCELs and Alpha Bros banding together and gaining confidence and constantly screaming on the internet, views towards women are becoming increasingly hostile. It's gotten to the point of influencing government to take us back 50 years. And unfortunately, it's not just the men who are saying negative things about women. Even the women commenting who kind of made it sound like they were against the man, we're really bashing the girl for not being smart enough to recognize his red flags or not being strong enough to leave or whatever. And the men who were being criticized were the ones who seemed too feminine. Because what's truly awful is being too much like a woman. Because again, 'we hate women' is the overall theme. There is a very scary trend towards blaming women for everything and criticizing women no matter what they do!

[@AnarchoPunkChad]

​@@another_day4783 You are not living in reality

[@taylormorgan8995]

this!! they were straight up targetting the women

[@aseips]

This is also exactly what Twitter is like. original tweet simple as "I like oranges and bananas" Replies be like "Why do you hate grapes" "What did lemons ever do to you?"

[@aseips]

Also totally wrote this while still on the TikTok section, lol drew is spot on with the Twitter take

[@tinyblueunicorn7807]

How dare you miss out strawberries

[@theunderstatement6842]

it's like peaches aren't even fruits to you.

[@ujjeshasrivastava5552]

Oh I know you think blueberries are too blue for you huh? Think about that the next time you see the local Domino's

[@st4rp0p]

Oh so you think I caused World War II? Well I think YOU'RE the reason serial killers exist!

[@kh0di]

It's fucking crazy to me that Drew is always making these videos when Amanda clearly wants him to just stop talking to his computer and come play stawdew with her

[@siilih8156]

yeah him ignoring all of Amanda's signs is so visually obvious

[@cheesecaked33]

Yes!! He is being a bad partner to all of us!!!! Thank you for pointing this out

[@Raspieberry]

Right? They should get divorced.

[@rachelagron6172]

You can see from the look in her eyes that she actually hates Marvel movies

[@lillipup_tamer1148]

She wants him to play neopets with her too.

[@confusionandcreation6036]

The reveal of "we're not even halfway through" at 10:30 was more genuinely shocking to me than I'd like to admit. Had to collect myself for a bit lmao

[@GippyHappy]

I yelled out loud NOOO 😂 I genuinely had to skip ahead I couldn’t sit through that comment, the vibes were absolutely rancid.

[@Lamphia]

@@GippyHappy what do you mean thats top tier comedy im tempted to write to the head of any psycology department at my college to cement it as the perfect example of projection and insecurities. the layers. the drama. the completely made up narrative clearly reflecting their own experience. its pure art

[@Fluff_Noodles]

​@@Lamphia Right?! It's ridiculous how insanely specific that whole rant was! A masterclass in projection.

[@confusionandcreation6036]

@@Lamphia Honestly that fuckin monologue belongs in a period drama. Masterclass in villain writing

[@Miiissssile]

I was at 6 mins when I came upon this comment, thank you for the heads up lol 😂

[@philipkingswood5800]

The fact that Amanda is stealing his pre-made meals is unacceptable and shows his relationship is toxic and he should leave her for me.

[@Random-sk6hm]

I ABSOLUTELY disagree. She is a WOMAN and should be cooking everyday because he will be fixing the toilet in 2-3 business years. He's the toxic one and is treating one of our veterans in such a HORRIBLE manner! Don't even get me started on his defence of genocide

[@madison31505]

can we talk about how drew is so good at reading grammatically incorrect sentences like they’re normal?

[@mangomonet2464]

I was genuinely impressed he did it all in one take

[@krow8940]

timestamp?

[@heavenlything]

spo9nglubohb

[@noahatlas5240]

It gives griffin reading a terribly formatted yahoo

[@junebuggy1]

@@krow8940 4:39

[@schnabelborg]

Drew, if you actually cared for your wife, you would divorce her, turn gay and find yourself a husband to engage more in her interest in men! Trust me, I know what I'm talking about, I've never been in a relationship.

[@thatnormalfolk]

⭐️⭐️⭐️ Thanks for this advice! Very helpful

[@thatnormalfolk]

This is not Yelp.

[@batacumba]

A lot of these people hating are prob angsty teens who truly haven’t been in relationships. It’s sad. I remember being a salty teen but not like that. Damn.

[@Whatsabird]

He should date danny

[@sian186]

​@@WhatsabirdHe can't be that egotistical- dating himself would be too far

[@VarsVerum]

I feel like people who nitpick, micromanage, criticize and psychoanalyze everything about your relationship are the ones who have never been in a relationship LOL

[@greatestgianni]

Yeah or else they’d be worrying about theirs and not yours

[@MylotheZooLovingScientist]

Not necessarily. I imagine projection about their own feelings about their own relationship and all its imperfections or their individual insecurities and unfulfilled desires within the relationship could probably factor in, too, lol.

[@austinwhitmore8174]

Armchair psychologist moment

[@athinawalther2562]

This!! Or really bad ones

[@Biboche23]

Facts 😂 im always like do you even know what that is or you’re just jelly therefore unleashing your hatred on us

[@AnimeLoveLover123]

On the side of people trying to tell you how to parent, not posting about your kid online will not save you. You can be hanging with your kid at a park and you will have random ass people come up to you and try to tell you how to parent. I can't tell you how many times I had someone go out of their way to give me, a stranger to them, parenting "advice". AND I'M NOT EVEN A PARENT! My sibling and I are 10 years apart, so I often took them out to play when they were young.

[@ND-kh5yw]

Drew: Amanda does more cleaning and dishes, but that's because I cook and do grocery shopping! Also Drew: Thanks to Factor and Hello Fresh, I never have to cook or go grocery shopping!

[@Tinkertessa5]

I was thinking the same thing hahaha

[@MamadNobari]

@@caseydakus7492 Slavery

[@Mintpuppy17]

That's why she is stealing them. He is starving her! 😥😥

[@v0id_d3m0n]

Hmmmm

[@amilederdnaxela]

"I Do 90% of the cooking" = She microwaves once a week.

[@Claire-lu8hf]

I’m worried for all the kids growing up on TikTok. Constantly seeing extreme hate comments is either gonna make them cruel or extremely anxious. I can’t imagine being 14 and navigating this mess

[@LuvFearlessly]

We survive Facebook and Twitter. They’ll be fine.

[@arianamitchell7050]

@@LuvFearlessly we barely survived that era. teen suicide skyrocketed then, i cant imagine being a teen now where everyone rages so easily its insane

[@3FuzzyBunnys]

I’m 23 and the TikTok negativity even gets to me. As someone with (not under the new TikTok definition) intrusive thoughts, it’s been HORRIBLE for my self image and self esteem to constantly see people criticizing others on minor issues (if they’re even issues at all). I feel so bad for teenagers who are still developing and are seeing this constant flood of negativity.

[@shpup]

@@LuvFearlessly its worse now honestly lmfao back then ppl used to just call others gay and fat, nowadays ppl will send a whole essay detailing why exactly they think youre gay and fat and also toxic and less than dirt

[@alannahood4107]

exactly. i'm 17 y/o and i feel like i've noticed this very strange "woke-ification" of bullying among people my age (both online and irl) in recent years. there's this assumption that bullying must have gotten better since it's becoming far less acceptable to body shame people and such...but bullying is still alive and well, it's just like probably worse now?? at least it used to be simple. you might get called ugly or weird or annoying or fat or something like that... but now it's like, if someone thinks you're weird or ugly or annoying or fat they're going to instead say that you "have off vibes" or "exude problematic energy" or "are giving off internalized misogyny vibes" or "seem like a bad person" etc. etc. and just make a bunch of very strange and presumptuous value judgements about you so they can publicly be an asshole while avoiding any criticism they may get for doing so.

[@nat2501]

It genuinely feels like being part of some mass hysteria. I’ve admittedly caught myself a few times caring wayyy too much about someone’s opinion or lifestyle on the internet, and I think it’s just because social media has been training us for outrage. I pretty much deleted Tiktok once I realized what it was doing to me, and all my other social media I use pretty sparingly. but I LOVE the internet, it’s just too bad that it literally drives me crazy.

[@itskindofemily]

Fr I removed Ig from my phone because it makes me feel and act in an awful way

[@Yo-bd6cx]

i deleted tiktok because it was taking away time i could be sleeping and doing more important things in life, HIGHLY RECOMMEND

[@RD-dt7us]

Nearly all people are normal. Crazy just dominates online conversations, because it makes regular people so exasperated they stop replying. That makes it seem as though the tiny, tiny little fraction of really loud cases are the only ones out there. They're not. Also, make no mistake: this sort of thing gets heavily co-opted by fringe interest groups and authoritarian governments to stoke unrest. As trite as it may sound at this point; social media is one of the greatest threats to societal cohesion now. It's an entirely new issue in human history that we have to overcome.

[@viiuan]

luckily i uninstalled tiktok immediately after it showed fake badge notifs. everyone i see who uses it for more than cute animal vids seems to be going insane bc of it

[@YasmeenCheM]

Same here! Going on the internet used to be fun but now, it's an amphitheatre of people projecting their opinions left and right. And the saddest part is, I catch myself looking at comments to feed off of that negativity too often. I have since deleted Tiktok and took measures to limit my social media usage.

[@Grapes-nk2vk]

Instagram reel comments sections are a hellscape.

[@definitelynotmeg]

one of the biggest problems the internet brought about is people believing everyone wants to hear their opinion about strangers’ lives

[@gigisilk798]

I always go to the comment section and laugh at people who are either clearly bots or are 14yos whose concept of a relationship comes from the curated content on KZbin or TikTok.

[@Hip.Username]

I gotta say that's not the internet's fault, people have always wanted to give you unsolicited advice about your relationship and kids even if they've never been in a relationship or had kids or are too old to remember how many mistakes they made. The internet is just giving people more opportunity to do it and the likes they get encourages it

[@Aaron-tu5lt]

Irony

[@jashuawood7631]

Go tell your life story somewhere else xD

[@Anna-zt3jc]

that tweet thats like "we were never meant to know this many people existed let alone their thoughts" resonates so hard 😭

[@justabridget]

I think one of the meanest yet most brutally honest and eye opening insults I’ve ever heard that just sums up these entitled people’s behavior is “When you die, they are going to bury your laptop”

[@littlepinkniki]

😂

[@americantoastman7296]

holy shit

[@imsadlol4528]

don’t get it

[@brintesiacirce9414]

@@imsadlol4528 their life is online. Therefore they bury the laptop.

[@lexsublime]

I love that tiktok so much that guys so brutally honest and I love it

[@akiramakara2062]

Hearing Drew say, _"And 5 people agreed?!"_ is my entire internet experience, and I've never felt more seen. Edit: stop validating me, its gross

[@miuleauna4967]

I get absolutely HUNG UP about it. Like in an anthropological way I can't stop thinking about it, I'm like "who are these people? What do their lives look like? How did their thoughts and feelings come to agree with the most insane takes ever come to man? They need to be interviewed... for science!"

[@LanceWillMakeIt]

@@miuleauna4967 yeah same -- but sometimes i like comments cause i think they're funny, not thinking about how they might be taken seriously

[@imbadatdis]

the first thought i had was thank god only 5 ppl agreed, ive seen so many vicious comments and every single one of them were way more stupid than this one and it has like hundreds of thousands likes🥲

[@hamtaru]

5 people is still okay. ionce saw someone being accused of grooming cuz he dated a 17 y/o while he was 18 and that comment literally had thousands of likes ;_;

[@elias_xp95]

@@hamtaru Tiktok is crazy. They're so quick to call people paedophiles and murderers xD

[@spoofilybeloved6729]

favorite lines: - “what are you shitting, grenades?” - “you need to be dating your boys”

[@FairyGodAunt]

“We have two toilets that face each other”

[@LileeVT]

I cannot express how happy I am to see SOMEONE make a video on how angry the world/internet has become. being online sometimes makes me feel ill for how much hate and toxicity is out there. everyone is so angry and it’s exhausting:(

[@kykycupcake1]

Couldn't agree with you more. It's so emotionally exhausting that it honestly follows me even when I try to log off and take a break from the internet

[@WhatExcellentBoiledPo-ta-toes]

The last time I went on Facebook (it's been years now) I had some sort of panic attack/break down (?) because it was like horrible thing after horrible thing and then there was this post about a missing 15 year old and all the comments were just people bitching about how the missing kid had a tattoo and what kind of parents let their child get a tattoo. I couldn't believe that was the problem and not the fact that this kid was missing! Anyway I haven't logged on since.

[@Rerizz]

One time i really just cried out of frustration because the comments wouldn't get the video at all. It's incredibly sad, just makes me want to log off.

[@jasmine-xk7ot]

I used to have insta and a very very regular presence there, and then i logged off. Deleted my account. I was going insane. It felt really empty at first but then i realised just how much i can achieve with the time i now didn't spend scrolling through mind numbing reels that i forget within a second. I started reading so many more books and watching KZbin because even this community is better than insta and one can only watch so much of it. Best decision I ever made

[@javishobbies7818]

Just ignore them, who cares about what some random people on the internet you’ve never met said?

[@whatisxoxo]

nothing like a drew gooden video to distract me from the ever separating distance between my parents

[@bonelessbananna5410]

🎉

[@hyewonity]

real

[@simppythesimp1370]

L parents lol.

[@DankrumStar]

❤❤❤

[@rockification]

yippee

[@direcircumstances]

I recently saw a cute, lighthearted tiktok by a single mom, basically joking about how she thought she would have no dating prospects since she's 31 with 3 kids, but ever since she started posting her life on social media, she gets a bunch of DM's and comments from guys in their 20s who are super into her, calling her a MILF, etc. To be clear, this woman was not bragging or acting arrogant, she was just making a funny observation about something in her life that she found ironic. I thought this was completely harmless, but apparently not, because the comment section was FLOODED with men viciously trying to tear her down, saying that single mothers are low-value women, damaged goods, etc., and insisting that any younger man who shows an interest in her was just trying to "hit it and quit it," not have a real relationship. Bruh I was shocked. She was just minding her own business, lip-syncing to a silly song, and making content about her life that other single moms might find relatable. But NOPE, the manly man man brigade had to show up and make it clear how much they hate women. Fucking disgusting behavior, honestly.

[@taliaroses]

Oh yeah, the misogyny is insane with them

[@catsplat1272]

I'll never understand how single mothers are "low value" when it's the men abandoning their kids

[@waddle623]

@@catsplat1272 Didn't you know? If a man does something bad it means the woman is bad even if she does nothing wrong.

[@butoutofcontext]

Men™ ruin everything

[@Makasennn]

BUT WHO'S DOING THE DISHES!?!

[@isthisagoodyoutubehandle]

If you're sad when you see happy relationships, you're just lonely and being reminded of that makes you sad. That's normal. Just don't lash out at people and pretend they're doing something wrong.

[@DewyRueskie-sl7nk]

For some reason this comment made me feel better. It's very well said

[@nandinighosh7338]

This was actually so refreshing and relieving to listen to, the internet lately has been so tiring, and I’m glad Drew gave his take on the whole angry comment section phenomena that’s become so normal

[@deepwokensucks8664]

"Internet has been tiring" yeah stop living on the internet bro, you don't have to live in the comments or even look at them

[@LittleSprout73]

The Internet is so bitter over the smallest things, it's refreshing to see that I'm an still sane

[@AJ-pu9jq]

I was going to do my undergrad thesis on this phenomenon and intentional misinterpretation to spark a negative dialogue, but wasn’t able to find research specific enough to coherently write about it. It’s such a weird mindset, and one I’ve actively had to correct myself on sometimes due to the volatile environment social media has.

[@lamibonxd]

i think tiktok as a whole have ruined comment sections. toxicity is almost encouraged in comment sections there, n when reels became bigger, that same toxicity followed

[@finntracy3235]

@@AJ-pu9jq have you read the article "The things we do and do not say?" its by Zeeshan Aleem its really interesting

[@PinHeadSupliciumwtf]

Man if I ever became a therapist I'd ask every patient to bring me their social media comment history. So much of this screams projection that I wouldn't even have to ask them any questions.

[@deepwokensucks8664]

Or, your not a therapist so why are you trying to dissect some kind of meaning from other people's opinions, actaul reddit armchair psychiatrist talk

[@PinHeadSupliciumwtf]

@@deepwokensucks8664 German medschool covers psychotherapy/psychology. I'm not going to become one though.

[@deepwokensucks8664]

@Patho loge yes so what are you trying to analyze stranger comments for

[@PinHeadSupliciumwtf]

@@deepwokensucks8664 practice.

[@deepwokensucks8664]

@@PinHeadSupliciumwtf did you not just say that you weren't gonna go down path

[@westernhemlock]

People online have gotten waaaay too comfortable making wildly negative assumptions about relationships they’ve only seen a 15 second snippet of on TikTok

[@Zigby_]

15 seconds of video with no context is surely enough to form a complete and accurate conclusion on something you otherwise knew nothing about

[@BL-hw4mn]

Not just TikTok but posts on the AITA subreddit

[@user-rr2gk9ds4i]

@@BL-hw4mn at least they're asking for speculation

[@negligible_reality]

@@BL-hw4mn that's different tho, since those people actually encouraged this type of speculation by posting on the subreddit

[@rachelreii5952]

How dare a person be in a happy relationship. Im actually happy seeing other couples happy. Its a nice thing to know healthy love still exists.

[@Yourhandleneedstobeatleast]

Makes me sad 😔☝️

[@AngelBirdo]

Big props to Drew for acknowledging the fact that "men's chores" have to be done like once every six months at soonest, but when women don't want to cook and do the dishes every single day for their entire lives, they're lazy and entitled. Fucking insane line of thought.

[@mady8539]

You’re so real for this.

[@beyondviolet]

@@darris1939 did you watch the video? There are literally dozens of examples proving that you’re the one living under the rock lmao

[@r4ts311]

@@darris1939 what world do you live in. huh?

[@salosalon489]

@@darris1939 people were crying about a woman not doing the dishes what do you mean. you are not under a rock, you´re a straight up a cave gnome.

[@quincyepic]

Three things first: I agree with you second: what did darris say third: (gets shot by the darris police)

[@sarahismyalias4672]

Drew gives me hope that there are still sane people in the world 😭

[@valenshinee]

love your pfp snuy mcdonal💓

[@areszverse]

@@ninjabanana0885 IM not the one defending genocide YOU are!

[@9sheri9]

​@@ninjabanana0885 🍿

[@naumangilani5831]

what do you mean by that?

[@Erin-000]

Drew gives me hope that there are still people in the world 😭

[@tomkemball-cook1923]

I feel like a big problem with Social Media discourse is ppl don’t stop to consider why something makes them feel a certain way and just vomit out their projected insecurities without thinking twice and the design of certain apps encourages it

[@cdw2468]

this is a great point, i think next time isn’t of arguing with some lunatic that replies to me i’ll say “why does this make you feel that way?” to really fuck with them

[@leobe2104]

I'd feel sorry for people like that if they weren't ao miserable to others

[@amemelia]

You can usually get a general just of why people comment things they usually do, usually insecurity and jealousy. Jealous because a couple have their own separate time, hobbies, friends while they feel stuck in a relationship they feel drained in. People really complain about the weirdest thing and as an outsider you really can look and go "your insecurities aren't good and the manifestation of hatred towards others is proving that"

[@JennaEmbers]

THIIIIIIIIIS. They don’t stop think, “Okay, i’m feeling upset right now, but does that mean it’s automatically on the creator?” Instead they immediately blame the content creator when they sense any uncomfortable feelings within themselves. WE HAVE OUR OWN SHIT WE ARE BRINGING INTO THE SITUATION IT IS NOT EVERYONE’S JOB TO CATER TO YOU. It’s been making me so fucking angry, Sorry lol

[@ALT-vz3jn]

A massive database of cringe is quickly building up from all the impulsive crap being posted out there… the wayback machine is becoming a black hole of 💩💩💩💩

[@m.d.s.69]

I gave up social media, except for KZbin obviously lol, about 4 months ago. Not only has my depression and anxiety gotten way better, I have a more optimistic view of life. It took a week to get used to not looking at my phone all the time, but now I have *remind myself* to look at my phone! 😊 I will never give up my KZbin, or my Pinterest - but getting off of Facebook, Instagram, Reddit and even Bored Panda has been awesome. I'm more social in real life and I like people again 😂 highly recommend!

[@Resolver101]

I like how drew doesn’t blink in the skit where he ends with saying he doesn’t blink anymore

[@drewisgooden]

thanks for noticing

[@pyramidhead6998]

Not blinking is unhealthy and you should be ashamed for promoting an unhealthy lifestyle.

[@onezerosevensix]

thanks for noticing

[@chgeri2232]

I am one hundred percent certain that the reason he doesn't blink is to secretly try to tell us how unhappy he is in his relationship. I didn't even need to watch that part of the video to know that he should leave everything he has and get out of that toxic relationship (unlike mine). People like him who just accept the abuse and don't do anything about it make me scik

[@shaliekk]

That's amazing

[@AA-wx1gk]

I wished you would’ve talked about the lady who said she likes to drink coffee with her husband in the morning… Everyone was in an uproar. People were talking about their chronic illness and how she shouldn’t post cause THEY are sick, that the lady is lazy and doesn’t have a job, etc.

[@BabushkaKoi]

I fucking remember that. The fact that all she made was a video that was appreciative of the fact that she can spend time with her spouse and so many people took it as a personal attack.

[@carmie3908]

omg and that one video of the girl talking about something nice her mum did for her and how much she loved her mum and this other girl stitched her video talking about how her mum was abusive and could never relate. the comments were full of ppl saying things like 'i love talking about my traumatic childhood to people who have a good relationship with their parents to make them uncomfortable' like wtf

[@idontevenknow9758]

I’m sorry what? This needs to be studied. Like why in the world would be people freak out about a couple drinking coffee together. We need some kind of international study to understand this phenomenon cause I feel like there a ton to unpack.

[@quandaredevil]

@@carmie3908 I have no idea how people can be so publicly awful. they're literally just admitting to people all over the world that they're a piece of shit. I see it so often in tiktok comments

[@carmie3908]

@@quandaredevil its so insane. someone shows an ounce of happiness and people call them priviledged and out of touch because “if IM not happy you shouldnt be” 🙄

[@cavanmorber3238]

I absolutely adore when Drew reads grammatical errors in the same voice as the rest of the sentence, implying that that is what the author of the comment really meant

[@stars_acc]

the thing about angry comments is literally so true. i replied to a comment on a tiktok about people making r*pe 'jokes' and i get people defending people who say in response to the question "if time froze for an hour at your school wyd" something disgusting that heavily implies r*pe. its so fucked up

[@c4tl4dy76]

I can always count on Drew to remind me why I avoid TikTok like it's a plague-ridden hospital ward.

[@meowmeowmortbird]

Because it is.

[@karkatvantass3730]

Random ass question but is the cat in your pfp internet famous? I got a website pulled up in another tab and it's icon is the same cat picture just edited a bit.

[@c4tl4dy76]

@@karkatvantass3730 That's my Maggie, a fave rescue cat of mine. Maggie passed away about 7 years ago now. She wasn't famous (as far as I know), but tuxedo cats are fairly popular.

[@parkernark]

to be honest, it just depends how you use it, no better or worse than any other social media

[@KnappstersaurusRex]

TikTok is no worse than any other social media and the algorithm works better than most so you only see what you want to see very quickly

[@neverneverland5836]

These are the rules of the internet: Every reddit AITA post must receive comments seriously telling OP to sue the other party, and every tiktok relationship post must receive comments seriously telling the poster to divorce their partner.

[@peace_larva]

'delete the lawyer, hit facebook, get a gym'

[@hotsexyangel]

Although, I will say, most AITA married couples actually do need a divorce 😭

[@dragonsrule20201]

​@@hotsexyangel "so me (42M) and my wife (19F) got into an argument and..." 😬

[@harharharharharharharharha240]

Or they tell op to break up with them after the AITA post 💀

[@rayblay6295]

I saw an aita post where people in the comments were telling op to literally cut his mother off over her *almost* spreading unkind gossip. just a total disconnect from what relationships are like irl while acting like they know everyone's relationship and motivations from one post

[@Lulu-cz1gk]

If Drew’s life was a movie it would be claymation

[@bonelessbananna5410]

what

[@cc13556]

wait yeah

[@JeffKelly03]

I don't know why. I'll likely never know why. But this comment just clicked with me and makes so much sense.

[@dynamo_danamo]

What does this mean?

[@lynx_the_]

why is this so accurate

[@SimBits]

"The only 'gay' thing here is using a STRAW at HOME 🤬" is the funniest thing I've heard in my entire life 😂

[@jojo-he5gj]

I remember seeing a tiktok of a girl saying she and her long term boyfriend slept in different rooms sometimes and people were PISSED. Telling her that they didn’t love each other and they should just break up…for sleeping in separate rooms SOMETIMES. I never saw the big deal. I’m sure for many people they love sleeping in the same bed, but i don’t see what’s wrong with sleeping in your own spaces if that’s what makes them comfortable. As someone who tosses and turns all night and gets hot FAST, I’ve shared a bed before and if i could afford place with an extra room I’d LOVE having a room for myself at night to go into sometimes when I want to sleep alone lol and also because I’m always up late and on my phone watching tiktoks or twitch and laughing, a separate room would be a great idea to avoid disrupting my partners sleep all night. Tiktok comments are just hell.

[@Natalie-hg3gh]

I've known married couples who have separate HOMES. I've known married couples who live in SEPARATE STATES. And they're HAPPY.

[@sofiipote7]

i've heard about this before, there are a lot of couples that apparently do this for comfort. I'm not married but i can imagine it being more comfortable and i don't see any harm in it

[@no_peace]

People don't have to have a reason to do stuff and don't have to justify themselves to anyone Even if they sleep in different rooms because they don't like each other it's still no one else's business lol. It's such a satisfying power move to refuse to engage with toxic people on their terms. They want to force the argument to be on whatever topic they've chosen so they can push you around and win. Like how Karens are always demanding personal info. They're not the authority, they're not the arbiter, they're just some weirdo who isn't entitled to any information or explanations

[@no_peace]

Sleeping in different rooms doesn't have to be justifiable, adults can do it if they want

[@quehagoconmividasos]

I do that sometimes with my bf. Like sometimes he just goes to sleep earlier than me and I don't want to wake him up when I go to bed lol

[@brettley2480]

90% of the comments on tiktok are just people projecting their insecurities in an attempt to feel better about themselves. There's no way faster to make yourself angry faster than reading them tbh

[@keychains5806]

One of my pet peeve about these tiktoks is whenever an attractive or conventionally good looking person posts an "outfit of the day" or just storytime and people are like "I wish I had your body" or "I wish I looked like you" or even "I wish I wasn't so (insert insecurity)" Like the premise of the TikTok is not to look at the tiktoker body at all but the comments just..

[@specializedchemicals6669]

@@keychains5806 o m f g tell me about it!

[@thetoto4360]

@@keychains5806 A bit related to that my pet peeve is when a fashion tiktoker tries to share small tips and tricks on how to style and combine certain clothes which helped them and someone be like “uhmmm sweetie just let people wear what they want” or “lol don’t listen to them and just wear whatever” Like if you don’t want tips and are comfortable in your clothes…why you on this? They just wanna help people with their style, sharing experiences and opening peoples mind to certain options in styling You don’t think it’s applicable to you then just move on…

[@MIMO-if3hy]

Same with instagram comments too, just so negative for no good reason 😕

[@123dapizza]

Why are you allowing the comments to make you angry? Are you insecure?

[@gab.bee123]

i had no idea so many people were against the concept of parallel play. my partner and i adore doing things together, but sometimes on stay-in days just being in the same space is enough. plus idk about y'all but i find it adorable and heartwarming when i look up from my game or book or whatever to see them happily immersed in doing what they love

[@ManiacalBlueberry]

Just being in someone’s presence is a good way to spend time. Not everything has to stimulating. I wish more people would understand this.

[@helenhankey3632]

same! i had no idea this was controversial either. i'll be on my pc and my bf will be on his xbox and occasionally we'll make jokes and eat food. it's terrific.

[@NatTalks01]

i don't think so many people are against it, it's just when we see all of these hateful opinions together it makes it seem like it's a popular opinion, but i'm pretty sure almost no one sees a problem with this lmao maybe like older people who have a problem with adults gaming in general

[@TindraSan]

I feel like most of these hate comments are incredibly bad faith and they're just pulling shit out of their asses to justify their hate when the real reason is just pure bitter jealousy of someone else's happiness

[@poogissploogis]

I agree! I will sit and crochet in the same room as my man while he games and it just feels great to be near each other even if your activities are separate. We're both introverts, so it feels very natural and comfortable.

[@deletedflame8424]

Normalize just enjoying someone's presence tbh. All my closest relationships (platonic ones too) include hanging out doing completely seperate things but like together.

[@literallywho1440]

The amount of people who get super pissy because you as an individual has decided to not have children is absolutely insane, and they're always so vile about it.

[@randomtinypotatocried]

I find it weird how defensive people get over that. I have a step kid and I won't recommend it for everyone since it can be a lot of work and hoping you didn't accidentally scar them for life

[@Feezee223]

I don’t want kids for alot of reasons but I been told I’ll change my mind but like I won’t I still don’t want them I’ll just get a cat

[@stardusst]

and they always say shit like "no one will take care of you when you're older". like is that the main reason they wanted to have kids?

[@Romanticoutlaw]

​@@stardusst my parents have pretty directly stated that to me and it seeded some pretty hardcore resentment in me. Kind of seems like a fast track to making that not happen, but parents take their kids' love for granted when all they did to "earn" it was the bare minimum required of them by law

[@apmanda]

It’s true and just as insane for the opposite too. I’ve seen commenters absolutely RIP into people who announce they are pregnant or trying for kids etc. The dichotomy is crazy. People need to chill and worry about their own lives instead of criticizing others lives. In all honesty, it just seems like a LOT of insane projecting is going on everywhere over everything. What a world.

[@hellogoato]

I'm so glad someone finally touched on the "everyone with a Greek/Roman statue pfp has the shittest takes of all time" trope. Also count on them getting needlessly aggressive and overusing the word "degenerate" without a shred of self-awareness or personal reflection to be found.

[@RED-my9hl]

fr they usually have pics of philosophers and they think it makes them look smart and therefore they can say what they want lol

[@crash.override]

They're always subtly alt-right accounts, but they know publicly branding themselves as such wouldn't end well. Thus, classical busts.

[@redbird3697]

Me: Watches Netflix after a long day at work Some dude with a statue of Marcus Aurelius as his pfp: This is why society is breeding weak men.

[@cranid98]

Anyone with a historical figure as their profile picture think they’re above everyone

[@PeidosFTW]

You can always assume they're full on fascist, it will never fail, it's insane

[@5001Fergies]

Ive been trying to train myself to stop pressing the comments button on instagram because no matter what the post is, somebody is going to make it about how all women are evil, its so weird

[@1991-present]

Yep!

[@anerrorhasoccurred8727]

People with extremist/dysfunctional beliefs tend to behave in specific ways. They _really_ don’t respond well to anything that challenges their worldview, or if they see something that validates them, they’ll immediately run with it and start venting bc they usually have to keep their opinions bottled up. Or they just never shut up about it because their ideology is basically their whole life. That’s the reason for all the weirdass comments.

[@shay5479]

ignoring the irony here, commenters are really something else

[@1991-present]

@@shay5479 for real. I am continually taken back by the high levels of ignorance.

[@tinyblueunicorn7807]

​@WinWinWoo Yeah it's either an unusually big comments-to-likes ration or the OC editing their comment (sometimes multiple times) to clarify and/or warn people not to read the comments, which just piques my morbid curiosity. It's a shame because sometimes early replies are pretty normal or interesting, then the further you go down the more of a toxic wasteland they become, but who knows where to stop. "Don't read the comments" should probably be the Internet's mantra, even though I mostly comment via replies rip.

[@eeveelovereve]

6:35 thank you for talking about this part… I was in a relationship where he would say “aw I thought we could hang out tonight” all the time, manufacturing sadness to play on my empathy and make me think I was neglecting him, when in reality we spent every night together, my connections to real life friends were no longer existent because of his behavior and attitude towards them, and I realized I had only seen my sister and dad a couple of times all year outside of larger family gatherings that he joined me for. Crazy behavior to look back on. And I was unemployed so I didn’t even have time at work to be away from our apartment, which he had installed an electronic lock on that sent notifications any time it was unlocked or locked. Once I was meeting a client I was going to petsit for, and he forgot that I’d told him the time and put their address in my calendar (which he also NEEDED access to) and called me thinking I was at an ex’s house……

[@haleymist09]

Omg that's awful

[@eeveelovereve]

@@haleymist09 I’m in a much better place now with him out of my life ☺️

[@mandymooncakes]

I feel like Drew always posts a video on the exact topics that I'm thinking about. Recently there hasn't been a single moment where I left Instgram or TikTok and didn’t feel either depressed or pure rage. I always tell myself not to look at the comments but I inevideibly do, and end up in a cesspool of hatred, toxicity, and stupidity. It is impossible now to go online without seeing a pointless and stupid argument or ending up in one.

[@deepfried7246]

Preach

[@Lybrel]

Delete TikTok

[@MegInWhispers]

delete IG and tiktok! you'll truly feel so much freer

[@arijj8629]

​@@Lybrelwhy would someone delete tiktok bc someone doesn't know how to keep their bs to themselves

[@monarch3495]

Drew reads your mind for video ideas.

[@charlottedawn2482]

“What are you doing in there? Are you shitting grenades?” might be my new favorite drew quote ever

[@spiritsys]

I'm going to reference it at every chance possible

[@trinityakyea4087]

I was eating cereal and no joke I spit out the milk when he said that all over the table

[@juliiju0484]

L toilet tbh

[@justangela1684]

It made me genuinely laugh out loud

[@Mickeyz7046]

reminds me of people's reactions when I mention that my partner and I have separate bedrooms. I shouldn't have to defend what works for our relationship but I constantly feel like I have to. Same as when I have to defend our choice to be childless. People cannot wrap their head around the fact that just because you can't imagine yourself doing something doesn't mean it isn't valid.

[@assidreflex9718]

Sometimes I need to sleep in a separate bed from my boyfriend, it can get uncomfortable sometimes and cramped. It’s totally normal, even if it’s every night.

[@drewisgooden]

yep I saw videos about this too where people argued against that idea and figured you might as well get divorced if you don’t want to sweat and snore in the same bed every night as your partner.

[@hadesedits1501]

Lmao that kind of thing is so stigmatized it's too bad. Everyone should do what they want to do if they're not hurting anyone

[@frenchfryequeen]

Ik! I told my mom recently that I didn't want to have kids or get married and she was so angry. Even all through hs and college, I never dated and people thought it was weird and began speculating and spreading rumours. Why can't I just be single. I'm happy being alone I'm sorry you aren't 🤷

[@addimbantuwe9406]

hi drew 🫡

[@KuR58]

I've really notice in the last few years instagram comments have become really unhinged. Not only are people generally insufferable but there's so many trolls, bots, ragebaiting..it's kinda crazy

[@morgangaming64]

So freaking glad someone with a large voice finally said something about this. I can't even read the comments for a good laugh anymore because people are so negative and always so out of pocket crap or people always get offended at the dumbest crap.

[@dffgffffffdddddddddd]

You could literally just post a video of you petting a dog and someone will say "kill yourself" for no reason because everyone is trying to make a Twitter joke or "own" someone. Someone could literally drop a nuclear bomb in Ohio and kill 2 million people and people will say "only in Ohio"

[@buchstaben-suppe]

it’s gotten so bad.. i was watching a short of a streamer who told a story about a first date and she said she felt like it wasn’t working and ghosted the guy and like 70-80% of the comments was dudes defending the guy and telling her how she should’ve behaved instead of just accepting that she didn’t want to date the guy… like they were upset she went on the date to begin with, they where upset she ghosted him after just one date, they where saying she’ll be unhappy like most females will get nowadays like real incel stuff :( it makes me so upset cause so many girls on the internet have to face this more and more it’s becoming so popular. can’t open comment sections anymore bc of this

[@sofaham3706]

@@buchstaben-suppe fr there is so much misogyny on social media ☹️. People are so hateful and bitter in comment sections now and it’s like why? Why would anyone want to be that miserable.

[@lamennods9512]

This is so true you need to scroll through 100 nasty people to get to the hilarious comments lately

[@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360]

@@buchstaben-suppe The incel stuff is bringing a national crisis. Social media platforms should be doing something to stop it and it’s so saddening young girls have to see this and are growing up with it now.

[@BabushkaKoi]

What concerns me is how often people will create a premise in their head, write a whole fanfic backstory, and the argue about it when none of the things they talk about are present. I’ve had to call out people so many times for this, when they’d hear a story or see a video out of context and make their entire backstory as to what they believe happened instead of learning what anything was even about. It’s wild.

[@bookjunk]

My dad does this. He's constantly upset about stuff that he's just made up based on the tiniest nugget of information. There's a true fact somewhere in there, but it's surrounded by so many crazy (and often racist) assumptions, that you can't even have an argument about it because he doesn't allow you to strip it down to the thing that actually happened without the bullshit he's concocted around it. It's frustrating.

[@driphearts8035]

We do it to make sense of the world. I'm guilty of it and I'm pretty sure a lot of people are. It's a "coping mechanism" that actively makes the world make less sense.

[@mahnoorali4102]

@@driphearts8035 It's not an excuse for being an asshole to other people though. you do know that right?

[@Tzedakah263]

This is the reason I left Reddit. I could comment anything, and people would instantly go "Oh, you're not happy in your job and want to get out of it? MAYBE YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE PURSUED THE JOB YOU'RE IN IN THE FIRST PLACE and you *deserve* to be miserable, I bet you also like to kick puppies and are racist too", and the original comment would be like "Wait, I don't get the reference". Internet is a wild place.

[@kphoria1009]

@@Tzedakah263 honestly, you could say you don’t know what to get your husband for his birthday and people will be like GET A DIVORCE RIGHT NOW BECAUSE YOU WILL ALWAYS BE UNHAPPY. like bro chill

[@minecraftjunky2001]

You'll never convince me Tik Tok isn't the worst social media platform. It is quite possibly the single best place to go get misinformed on a topic of your choosing, someone who read the first paragraph of a Wikipedia article will be happy to educate you

[@kitty-ds4el]

don’t forget how it ruins your attention span and sucks you into the endless scroll!

[@hnichole]

I will never ever download TikTok or Instagram, like idk how anyone's mental health is strong enough to consume all of the absolute garbage on these platforms. One thing my parents did right growing up was not letting me use social media lol, I can't imagine how much worse my anxiety or eating disorders would be. And that's not even considering how it's suuuuuch a waste of time.

[@ameliemaynard4217]

@@hnichole I mean it depends what kind of content you look at too. My feed is mostly art and edits of media's i like so 0 drama but it can be easy to get wrapped up in negative content if you start interacting with it

[@jainiteixeira9615]

I love how passionately Drew can talk about the most random subjects

[@goldenglowable]

Amen

[@whichline8408]

the pacing in his videos really made him a very good youtuber

[@PinkPartyCat]

I can listen to him rant about the most random topics for hours

[@123dapizza]

Fr he’s like Penguinz0 but actually good

[@DollfaceLizkah]

I can't tell you how many people have told me my fiance must be unhappy or cheating because we don't have kids. My fiance wants kids even less than I do but somehow it's always "you're a bad woman/wife" and I'm not fulfilling my duties. The criticism women get for not having or liking kids is a whole new level of ridiculous. They are so concerned about what we do with our bodies. They genuinely get irate when I tell them we're not having kids, some people will even ask why we got married and claim we'll never be happy or a family.

[@bookjunk]

Or they act like your parents are the victim, cause you won't 'give' them grandchildren. And the worst part is that these people don't realise how insane that sounds. There are a lot of bad reasons to have children and 'so my parents can experience the joy of grandchildren' has to be right up there. Bonkers.

[@hobisdimples94]

I've spent the majority of my 25 years of life helping take care of my disabled brother and that is the sole reason I might never have kids. I love him to death and he is most certainly not a burden, but I feel like I've already spent so much time being a caregiver. And even if that wasn't my reason, why TF do people care?? There's always this feeling of "Oh so you're a failure at being a woman then?" 😒🤦‍♀️

[@ju5tiganimations746]

Yea that's a super weird thing to get mad about, they seem to not grasp the fact that having children is taking on a lot of responsibility. These people want you to have kids, alright, are these people going to pay you childcare because *they* want you to have kids? Are they going to raise your kids with you every day? If the answer is no, then they really shouldn't have a say on the matter. Even if the answer is somehow yes, it's still up to the couple whether they want kids.

[@aeoifjapefijl]

What's the story behind your amazing channel name? Also hard-core agree, it's like "why does me existing bother you so much? Just look the other way perhaps?"

[@Dondizle]

I'm 30 years old, and I'm glad I chose not to have children. I wouldn't be able to cope with the financial stress I'd be under. Starting a family now would be really difficult.

[@Esitaro3670]

Social Media has become so toxic that the idea of someone being happy with their couple seems like horrible so they want them to become as miserable as themselves

[@poogissploogis]

I agree. People are so black pilled about happiness that they think any happiness they see must be fake. It's very unhealthy

[@MorgurEdits]

I also do not like the opposite of every single comment being super nice and cuddly, with like no meat but only positive buzzing :D.

[@Bergensape]

You made me think about how most people that feel like shit buy stuff. Promoting things that makes you feel bad and then blasting you with ads might be the tactic they are using, what a wonderful world we have

[@jarodgolgori3137]

someones projecting

[@hadesedits1501]

@@MorgurEdits W hating

[@isacfxd3163]

i refuse to accept that im living in the same world as these people

[@duckner]

tbf, you're kinda not. These people live in their own world and dont go outside.

[@justagirl36]

Forever thinking about that one tweet of a lady saying she enjoys spending the morning with her husband before they go to work and how people wrote think pieces accusing her of being tone-deaf, classist, wealthy and privileged.

[@cultureshock916]

The irony is that those angry people are exposing their own “privilege” by how much a single tweet of someone committing the crime of being happy is an actual problem in their life. People who are actually going through hardships have more important things to worry about than a woman minding her business and enjoying herself.

[@amemelia]

Omg was it the coffee on the porch one, the comments were a joke. People are so jealous that's what they turn to, it's 1 thing to feel jealous because you can't spend time with your partner because you're too busy working but... shut up

[@goosewithagibus]

Where can I learn more about this? I'm intrigued lol Garden coffee lady, that's what they called her. Those tweets are insane lol

[@ALT-vz3jn]

Holy shit 😑 this is why I’m not on social media. No one can handle a healthy happy marriage anymore.

[@wroniskoooo]

It reminds me of that time when Drew Barrymore made a tiktok about enjoying the rain and people on that cursed app somehow thought it was racist Edit: typo

[@Hi-there-fella]

I'm autistic and parallel play (both doing things we love next to each other) is very meaningful. It's frustrating when people assume we're ignoring each other or our relationship is not healthy just because it differs from theirs

[@GeeBarone]

Neither me or my partner are Autistic but we have adopted Parallel play as one of our ways of spending time together- it works really well. We get to feel like we are together but can both do our own things

[@carterchaotic]

my partner and i are both autistic and we’re doing parallel play right now. i’m watching drew, he’s gaming.

[@kevinsundelin8639]

What is parallel play?

[@newcamomile]

@@kevinsundelin8639 buddy they literally said what it is in the comment, it's 'both doing things we love next to each other'

[@OffMyGourd]

Just out of curiosity, why was is important to know you are autistic? Couldn’t parallel play be enjoyable in a non-autistic relationship? Curious what the difference is.

[@abbywolffe4114]

The ironic thing about people criticizing the couple doing separate things in the same room is that it's literally a psychological behavior that helps people _improve_ their relationships with others, and it's such a basic concept that children learn it when they're toddlers because it encourages healthy social skills.

[@BewareTheLilyOfTheValley]

If it's mandated that a couple must always do things together, they might as well just become fused together 😅. Then they can be together...forever 😘

[@fauxclaws]

@@ninjabanana0885 I'M not the one defending genocide! YOU are!

[@kenosabi]

@@fauxclaws my dudes got a slow response time lol

[@kenosabi]

God forbid yall continue to be 2 independent people.

[@theeemadimargarita]

My first thought was also just that this is like my favorite thing for my relationship with anyone. Like just sitting in the same room as someone without otherwise interacting is very comfortable what are they going on about?? 😣

[@nebularianwav]

your points about how having space in a relationship is important really stuck with me. for the past few years a partner and one “friend” i had were manipulative, guilt tripping me into ditching my closest friends and family to prioritize them, at some points even threatening me that they would hurt themselves or worse if i didn’t. when i first watched this video my mental health was at an all time low, and now that i’m here again, i’m glad to say it’s been a lot better and i cut off every red flag in my life. it’s weird for a random viewer to open up like this but i guess i just wanted to say thank you.

[@laurync4342]

One common denominator in almost ALL of these videos and comments is that the hate is primarily directed towards the women in the relationship no matter what the situation is.

[@nataliaisabel3462]

yep

[@oiinahgiiusadurrybrahchuck7209]

Yeah sometime in the last 5 years or so, the internet has basically become the HQ for men/boys who hate themselves and project it onto women. Between that, the neurological, social, and societal damage of social media (including yt), and the fact that search engines barely even work anymore; mainly just work as a promotional platform for the highest bidder and generic pop blog websites… Between all that.. the internet is mostly just a useless sh*thole now.

[@anerrorhasoccurred8727]

They will write _literal fanfics_ about how evil the woman must secretly be 😭💀

[@Caleb5]

And that they push the responsibility to make him comfortable instead of a single comment saying that he should've stopped gaming to watch a movie with her (this is not my view, if he wants to game, game away) yet they were all saying she shouldn't hate on him for her suggesting (which I don't even think the video was about) they spend more time doing stuff together they never think that she's the one that needs the comfort or additional love but push for the husband to be the victim (there are no victims)

[@monochromicornthetuna4256]

I've been recently trying to stop watching reels with women because the comments are always going to be so misogynistic no matter what the video is

[@thelonleyUchiha1]

If I’ve learned anything from “the couch guy” debacle is that people love just trauma dumping on random strangers on the internet and refuse to admit that’s what their doing

[@sapphirethesapphic]

who was the couch guy?

[@thelonleyUchiha1]

@@sapphirethesapphic oh my god it’s a rabbit hole let me tell you but to sum it up quickly A girl posted a vid on tik tok of her surprising her long distance boyfriend and because he wasn’t acting super excited people on tik tok we’re convinced he was cheating on her with a girl who also was in the video to the point people were making videos trying to prove he was putting his number in her phone. Dude and the girl adressed it a million times that they were very happy together and he was just awkward on camera but people just refused to accept that to the point many people told the girl “well if he’s not cheating on you I hope he starts!” It was a bunch of people trauma dumping on this random couple on tik tok and it was insane

[@sapphirethesapphic]

@@thelonleyUchiha1 that all sounds so insane omg thank you for explaining

[@baintreachas]

He wrote an interesting article abt his experience if anyone’s curious

[@echo_sprite]

And I really hate our relationship. Drew, I’m breaking up with you.

[@-bugbite]

Maybe this will be the pinned one

[@ratstanduser]

Get a divorce.

[@cheesecaked33]

I thought drew was dating me!!!

[@PersonTP]

Wait he's dating you?! I thought I was the only one!

[@lefishe6611]

He's dating you toooooo!

[@annamay731]

Your takes are always on point. The Internet is full of unhinged people who thrive on argument. I used to debate people on KZbin after they showed up to argue about the most unnecessary things and I had to stop and switch accounts. I would say innocent things and have weirdos come out of nowhere to project whatever they had going on. It's wild.

[@a-frog]

Every month I forget about Drew’s existence until he uploads again

[@ragequittingrn]

it's like a suprise gift

[@cheesecaked33]

he scares me so bad!! I always jump out of my seat, and I bump my head on the ceiling.

[@FurNixen]

Saaame And then I binge watch all his videos in the course of a week, and then I completely forget about his existence once again.

[@realdragon]

It's really fun, it's like "Hey this guy uploaded new video, I like this guy"

[@Borntobeabandoned]

Same I literally thought I clicked an old video he made and I was gonna rewatch💀

[@mythcat1273]

If you can't fathom having alone time while being married you are for sure the type of person to constantly complain about being married but refuse to get a divorce

[@shay5479]

EXACTLY

[@SuperT]

I think the issue is so many people are so dependent on other people that they can’t comprehend not being with someone

[@batacumba]

@@SuperT yeah I think a lot of people kind of skipped over the whole ‘learning how to enjoy your own company’ thing and that’s really bad. I know a lot of adults who are so scared of being on their own they move from one bad relationship to the next, it literally ruins their lives. People who try to hand wave that away or act like because they lucked out and found someone good that it doesn’t apply to them are foolish. They may end up suffering when their partner dies or leaves them. You never know what can happen, it’s important to like ourselves enough we can be on our own and be ok. Maybe we’d prefer a partner but we’re not miserable and lost without one.

[@mx.menacing]

It gives the vibe of people who would complain ON the wedding day.

[@pick2206]

u just made an unhinged assumption that this video was pointing out to be absurd....

[@milesfarns1085]

If you look at Bim bim in the background it's OBVIOUS that she's being underfed, neglected, spit at, screamed at, and they probably call her bad names too. ABSOLUTELY SICKENING.

[@MaxiemumKarnage]

Her name is Amanda

[@ajbasc]

@@MaxiemumKarnage Why is this so funny

[@TindraSan]

Bim Bim was my mom's nickname for me as a baby

[@SnoopaSchnozler]

ACTUALLY YOURE WRONG!!! And here’s 8 reasons why:

[@GoblinGoblinson]

I just watched this after encountering a nasty argument online, and it made me feel so much better

[@Moon_Child_Mari]

I’m glad you pointed out that relationships aren’t always going to be a “1:1 transaction” because i feel like nowadays, so many people expect a relationship to be an even 50:50 split or else it’s ‘toxic.’ The truth is, it likely will barely ever be 50:50 and that’s ok! Sometimes our partners need our care more/ vice versa, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s not being a burden. It’s just life.

[@chickentenderlover2412]

parasocial behavior has gotten so out of hand lately, truly the reason i've removed myself from social media. too many people living through and caring so much about other peoples lives instead of their own, especially with celebrities and influencers

[@sortofsomething]

God that's so true

[@drunkpaulocosta]

Yeah i got off most social media besides this. I have a private msger app and thats it. I find here i can still have productive conversations

[@i_garfed_on_the_carpet]

i deleted like app things except for youtube a week ago it has been amazing

[@bemygfriend_5736]

so true user chickentenderlover2412

[@lordwaluigi8535]

Twitch has it the worst because the top users downright prey on their audiences parasocial feelings

[@pinklemonade8320]

The unhinged comment was a brutal rollercoaster. First it seemed like he was supporting her, telling her she shouldn't be with someone that doesn't pay attention to her, that this relationship isn't worth it. But then halfway through he turns on her, telling her that she'd be stupid to throw away such a good relationship and that she won't find anything better. And then by the end of it he's 180'd to the idea that the husband is the real victim.

[@laure4980]

All based off a 15 second video

[@kai_maceration]

that person needs so much therapy there won't be any left for the rest of us

[@iruleatgames]

While the guy is a moron, his perspective is that he's on both people's sides. His comment is meant to evoke "tough love".

[@ruthizred9090]

It also just screams projection like holy shit

[@azminalibsp4800]

Sounds like every parent that tries to be supportive about your thoughts but then manages to say it was your fault

[@MrJuan_Vzla]

In my opinion, social media has become toxic. Everyone is an expert on how others should live.

[@leobe2104]

The only social media I have is Pinterest. To me it's the least toxic

[@Acd815]

@@leobe2104agreed as long as it’s not showing me women who have the “perfect body” cuz man that shit gets me and send me to my own little rabbit hole and then I start to starve myself once again 😫

[@troodon1096]

It is also my opinion that water is in fact wet.

[@EmyN]

When was it not toxic though lol?

[@littlepinkniki]

Pure Joy from this video. My dad is an angry Instagrammer and I tried to explain to him that he’s trolling… went down like a lead weight. I’m convinced the internet is made up of people venting their frustration because they don’t have healthy outlets, and pops being just one example telling everyone their art is shit. Sigh. Thank you for making us laugh Drew.

[@itskindofemily]

Someone told me mine was shit one time and then they went away and came back and apologised lol so I 100% agree

[@KallieMae]

As a teacher, I’m also convinced more than half the internet is my ignorant 12 year olds who are the meanest they will likely ever be in their entire life and don’t know their ass from their elbow but think they know absolutely every single thing.

[@e_Dave]

​@@KallieMae True, but I believe a lot of it is also grown people who don't have a good coping mechanism for built-up feelings. I don't think venting on the internet is a good coping mechanism though, as it's essentially the same thing as bullying: you're making someone else feel like crap to get some of YOUR feelings off your chest. But most people don't see it that way because it's just "someone on the internet." Except that "someone on the internet" is in fact a real person with a real life, it's just hard to remember that considering how many people we interact with on the web.

[@caithenry8429]

​@@e_Dave yup, I try to remember this when invariably comments turn into fights. It's not mostly aimed at me, its the other person not having a different outlet to vent out their anger or insecurities. Helps a lot for when I want to fall into the argument cycle

[@benno_360]

He's waisting his time

[@urnewstepdad]

This is so relevant right now. I just saw a bunch of TikTok’s in “lovebombing” that completely neglected to specify that love bombing had to end in someone withdrawing their love and manipulation. All they described was moving fast in a relationship and they called that love bombing.

[@michaelio6548]

The word will begin to heal when people on the internet stop bastardizing mental/emotional health terms

[@ietjesiobhan]

This

[@EF-kk3vh]

@@michaelio6548 this. “gaslighting”, “narcissist”, “toxic”, “intrusive thoughts”…I’m worried these words are gonna lose meaning if they haven’t already

[@Romaine_Letttuce]

​​@@EF-kk3vh I hate it so much when people use intrusive thoughts when they mean impulsive thoughts, cause my impulsive thoughts are like I'm going to stand on this chair and sing, and my intrusive thoughts have caused full panic attacks

[@jamangel]

Oh my....god

[@janellelanham861]

Wow. It's really problematic how he mentions he's the one who does most of the grocery shopping and then gets pre- prepared meals and hello fresh to avoid doing his share of the chores. This is why modern relationships never work out 🙄

[@janellelanham861]

Please let it be obvious that this is a joke

[@buchstaben-suppe]

@@janellelanham861 it is lmao don’t worry

[@metakarp_]

hahahaha this is so good (yes I got the joke before seeing your comment, I giggled a lot at it!)

[@donnylurch4207]

I know, right? He should really find a Roman statue to represent himself online and move his wife from the house to a chain in the yard, and stop contributing to the degeneration of western society!

[@themorrigan7702]

@@janellelanham861 the fact you had to put this in the first place 🙄 gotta keep the sharks away

[@any8574]

0:42 the way he says “living behind a screen” sounds so much like Gene from Bob’s Burguers