Tips For Shorter Guys To Look And Feel More Confident

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Some people are extremely judgmental about height. And it sucks to be judged for something that’s totally out of your control. There’s no magic formula to get every single person to stop being prejudiced BUT there are tricks you can steal from some of the world’s most charismatic men to help you command more respect from the people around you. Regardless of your height.
This video isn’t meant to be a one size fits all solution. Instead, think of it as a menu to choose from. Pick the advice that fits the charisma style you like most.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:00 - Intro
0:25 - #1: Addressing your height
0:39 - Option 1: Go there first
1:09 - Option 2: Talk about it like it's no big deal
2:16 - Option 3: Don't make it a part of the conversation
3:04 - #2: Be a big presence
3:10 - Option 1: Be the loudest person in the room
3:37 - Option 2: Use expansive hand gestures
4:24 - Option 3: Freely use neutral space
4:57 - Option 4: Use platonic touch
5:52 - #3: Celebrate other people's success
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[@joce5739]

"......if you're short" - never clicked on a video so quick

[@cte3109]

LMFAO same

[@reptidan]

I have an interesting idea. There is evidence that shorter men are payed less and promoted less than taller men. As with women. I demand a short men quota in business!

[@miguelconamor6687]

BRO I'M SAYING🤣

[@op-rk6tc]

True 😅

[@xAlBertOz]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@helen6365]

My husband is 5’1 and does just about all these things. When I met him I was so impressed and he had an awesome wingwoman who backed him up so I wasn’t overwhelmed with the Kevin Hart style forwardness. He still impresses me and it’s honestly amazing how he can make friends and acquaintance anywhere he goes.

[@karimguled2923]

If you don't mind me asking how tall are you?

[@helen6365]

@@karimguled2923 5’2, I’m the shortest gal he had ever dated

[@homie89916]

I am 5' 3" , do I need to be worried?

[@helen6365]

@@homie89916 about what?

[@homie89916]

@@helen6365 I am insecure about my height and worried I am not attractive enough. I am fine dating tall women but don't know if they are fine with me. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@briansmith9238]

I usually say “I’m short but I identify as tall”

[@luisfelix2093]

Totally stealing this lol!

[@JesusHernandez-td8qe]

Genius

[@Tinyteacher1111]

That’s good!

[@jusbkk]

Brilliant, love it!

[@philiptaram]

This video is so valuable, you could replace height with any other variable outside of a person's control and these ideas and tips still hold water. Thanks so much guys!

[@ThunderApache1604V]

I’m 5’2” and I have a hobby called motorcycling and it is perfectly fine. If you’re insecure about your situation, go do the very thing that scares you the most.

[@swarup.mondal]

I can attest. Also, finding a passion or an interest, devoting time to it, becoming good at it, builds a strong sense of autonomy. And when it is strong enough the need for outward validation loses its potency.

[@merr5593]

Good on you on for not making owning it. The women look for qualities in their partners (not the ones who for shallow things) must find you really attractive. Evolutionary women find outgoing,passionate, interesting(hobbies work too), funny and orderly men very attractive. If these are the qualities a women look for in their mate rather than relying on superfical needs(money, size, height, bad boy nature) then she's the one who deserves you. This is for every man outthere not matter the size just focus on improving your self and be the best person you can be, find happiness in yourself and the right women will come naturally to you. For guys shorter than 5'4 It will be harder to attract women much taller than you but the best of em will fall for you eventually If you come of as respected and know how to make the height difference not awkward. Finally women with preferences such as "just taller than me or not too much shorter than me" works too(especially If they are short themselves) ofcourse the best kind is that don't care about height at all but that does not make these other types more shallow or unworthy. Shorter guys will have a hard time with these ones but as I said the best ones will eventually..... Just keep this in mind above average guys, If she fits these types of women then you are in good hands of a wonderful loving women.

[@tHeR4s3Ng4n]

Dani Pedrosa approves this!

[@ThunderApache1604V]

@@tHeR4s3Ng4n Definitely

[@someguyontheinternet7165]

Motorcycling is the one space I've experienced where being shorter can lend to gaining more respect. Riders tend to give extra props to smaller folks who can confidently command larger and taller bikes.

[@missamal05]

I like how you incorporated clips that show ´´uncharismatic traits´´ it makes it easier to understand your point!

[@TheDenisedrake]

YES! People DO get weird about shortness, but I've always taken the Kevin Hart approach. When people ask how tall I am, I usually say; "4 foot 11 AND 3/4 inches (on a good day)". I also like to joke how people taller than me are abnormally tall.

[@SillyGoose2024]

Umm yeah you're little self deprecating jokes aside.....you have no chance as a short guy

[@rufushughes4331]

I tell people that I am tall for my height (5'7"). I would also say that I tall, is just that there are ALOOOOOT of people taller than me. I am still tall, just not as tall as most.

[@PlanetaJuegosPC]

so youre jestermaxxing?

[@SillyGoose2024]

@@rufushughes4331 right. so you're like a fat girl who tries to fit in by making herself the subtle butt of her own jokes.

[@Afterword.]

I have been known to call people who are 5'8" or taller "freaks of nature" as well. ;)

[@idahallbck1539]

I am a woman and I am 6'1. I benefitted a lot too for this video and I am sure it is relevant for my boyfriend who is shorter than me. Thank you Charisma on Command I value that you bring this subject up.

[@manofculture2085]

Dang 😭 u don't need that 6 inches on I wish I was 6'1

[@organizedmicrowave4414]

@@manofculture2085, these were the cards we were dealt with in life. So Let's make the most of it. I know I ain't folding

[@manofculture2085]

@@organizedmicrowave4414 yes bro let's be positive, and my gf is taller then me tho she loves me for who I'm. Life is short and so are we 💀

[@bro918]

@@manofculture2085 U gonna get cheated on with a taller man, just a heads up

[@SharpSteelz]

As someone who's 5'0, this is pretty helpful! Just goes to show there is something you can do

[@bluesp2758]

I think this is a good video for anyone! I’m 6’3 and I took a few tips from this video.

[@Akaza.2023]

@@bluesp2758No stop it, if also tall people start to do this we are again in trouble…u are already tall what do u want more?😊

[@FromGroundToMud]

This applies to being fat too. I've always been a little overweight and when the conversation goes there I say I'm preparing myself to survive in case I get lost in the mountains, or that I'm fat on purpose so I can be warmer than everyone else during winter. People find it funny because it's absurd, and it shows I'm aware but comfortable with my body to the point I joke about it being "useful" rather than a negative trait. After I joke about it I usually bring up to the table how I lost 25kg, how it changes your perspective, how I've found out there's more of me inside than my appearance, and how it makes you feel weird that people treat you different when you lose weight. So... self-awareness, humour, and sharing a point of view some people may have never experienced.

[@terrorsquadlith]

umm no.. Being fat is a choice and a sign of laziness

[@FromGroundToMud]

@@terrorsquadlith being fat is not a sign of anything in particular. Multifactorial. Must analyze case by case.

[@terrorsquadlith]

@@FromGroundToMud nope.. Ninety nine percent of people are fat because of lack of discipline. Yea, some have slower metabolism, but just eat less and exercise and you'll still be fine. I would never trust or respect a fat person. If they dont care about how they look, their health that means they have their priorities all messed up

[@ipassingthrough]

Bro your weight is manageable. Get outta here and fix yourself, this pity party aint doin you service

[@NoneStopDamage]

" How To Command Respect If You're Short" Literally, be spiderman.

[@merr5593]

Its just sad that even the guys who live by these tips gets accused of "overcompensating". The society really need to change their outlook on short guys so we can get over with this heightism. Luckily where I am from Its much less of a problem and Its common to see short guys in leadership roles and dating tall girls. At least that's the case with my province where the average man is 5'5. These tips are good for anyone to get respected and I recommend you use it no matter your size but Its just said to see that in the west we have to a point where we have to make these videos to and hope that short guys practice them effectively to even get the respect they deserve. Guys the height disparity with men in leadership roles is real, womens unfair high standards on tall men is also another thing. We really need to make a difference, someday.

[@ChapoValencia]

Interesting perspective, where being 5'5 is average, if I may ask?

[@merr5593]

@@ChapoValencia India

[@ancillarodrigues1132]

@@merr5593 i agree

[@techboy8330]

@@merr5593 5'5? bro which state you from? I rarely come across men that are under 5'7 here... i guess the avg is 5'7-5'8...

[@merr5593]

@@techboy8330 I am from sindh pakistan not india(but we got similar averages). Sindh/Baluchistanis known for short men. North Pakistanis tend be over 5’8

[@amazingdoublea]

This works for women too! I was taught these things in hs by one of my teachers pointing out why I command a room and "literally feel much taller than you are "😂

[@themacocko6311]

Being short for a woman is hardly a concern. Unless you're trying to be a runway model nobody judges a woman's worth based on height.

[@amazingdoublea]

@@themacocko6311 not worth but respect a lot of the times lost. Kind of expected to be seen and not heard

[@wolfdog3226]

@@themacocko6311 being a short. Woman is dangerous. You more likely to get kidnapped and walked over by other men and women. Being short regardless if you are a man and woman is hard just different for both genders.

[@sakshishopaholic]

@@themacocko6311 we are not criticized as much as short men but trust me we are not respected that mich. People listen to taller girls over me. ☹️

[@ipassingthrough]

​@@wolfdog3226Being a short man is more dangerous because men are statistically likely to be attacked or killed. Don't play that game. Short people are faced with challenges but this world's climate will do anything to bring shorter men down. Go to any media and see who they're houndin on... it ain't short women

[@user-lk9wy7hi1d]

Love this video! Would love to see one from the female perspective. One issue i face as a super short women, is that i can come off as overly assertive and too masculine; which unfortunately turns off male leadership and make it difficult to climb the corporate ladder.

[@kimia1664]

Can you make a video on how to get your charisma back when you’ve already come to be known as the non-charismatic person of a group?

[@Gdawg0331]

Find a different group of friends

[@burgerfrites3480]

I think if you truly become/act as charismatic (especially if you're trusting yourself) it won't matter that much that you weren't before. I mean yes people may not take you seriously or make jokes at first, but if you trust yourself and are confident you'll find a way to react in a proper way (maybe laughing with them if they weren't mean, calling them out without being too agressive, or literally explaining you're trying to improve socially..) and with time they may even forget. Ps : I'm not sure of anything I wrote but it seemed logical in my head

[@kimia1664]

@@Gdawg0331 I did. I’m over it now. But I’m still curious if there is a more practical approach.

[@kimia1664]

@@burgerfrites3480 You’re absolutely right.

[@Gdawg0331]

@@kimia1664 practice loving yourself. To love yourself you most put you first. Once people see that in you they want to know why you are so special. The answer to that is because you love yourself. Take care Kim and I hope you do well out there, for yourself!!

[@AdamLortonSpeedgolf]

Ben, this might be your best video yet! Great stuff.

[@GustavoSilva-ny8jc]

Ooooohhh finally a video about this!!! That's more interesting than using tall guys as an example, not only from a social advice level but on a scientific level, to know what makes us tic.

[@donrabitt]

I agree that being confident and charismatic can get people to respect you but we shouldn't ignore the fact that the people in this video are celebrities that's got a lot of money

[@jgeorge288]

they weren't always celebrities. Just saying... their personality and actions MAY have played a part in getting where they are.

[@FedeGeko34]

Charisma doesnt have anything to do with money

[@josecervantesmontero4667]

There are plenty of famous people who don’t have the charisma these guys have.

[@kristin123a]

Yes, and for celebrities the standards are way higher. There are a bunch of handsome and tall guys who could’ve been casted instead of Tom Cruise, yet here we are. He made it happen.

[@Msboochie2]

@@kristin123a Well in terms of acting, especially on tv actors are typically short.

[@Afterword.]

I'm 5'6", so my go-to self-deprecating short joke if someone says something about it is: "Hey, I'm above average height for a woman!" I'm a man.

[@ablurida]

Sadly I can't steal that one, but you can steal mine if someone mentions my height, I just pout in an exaggerated way and say 'but I am the tallest in the Shire'

[@tmmnago2722]

Mine is I’m 5’7” without heels.

[@Afterword.]

@@tmmnago2722 Oh, boy. That might be a bit much in a church or work setting!

[@shinobiboy3350]

Tom Holland is 5’6 and so is my pops. Both doing well in life with beautiful women. Height doesn’t matter King 👑

[@franklinsantillan17]

Be self confident . Serious . High status bud . That’s it

[@tommafer3250]

Would’ve added working out to this list. It takes awhile to get results, but it helps you take up more space

[@PieterFret]

The worst thing about being a short guy (non-celebrity) is that most women just dismiss you as a romantic option at first sight. You don't even get the chance to display any charisma. I do agree it works for other social interactions though.

[@ameennasar2583]

But I believe this saves you from many unwanted relationships without commitment. It's defenitely a blessing there, you would most likely get a partner who really loves you

[@petiks6391]

@@ameennasar2583 thank you for that

[@johanbothma8031]

Yeah I can relate, but agree that for one thing, this automatically sifts the shallow and vapid women and means that when you do find someone, it will be for the right reasons- quality over quantity! Also, it helps a lot to make sure that your appearance stands out - dress one level higher than the occasion calls for, be presentable regarding grooming, be in at least reasonable shape. These are all things in your control that some taller guys may not be doing and that women will notice

[@cof...]

Tbh a lot of people don't even care and you feel that way as a result of low confidence.

[@Julia25120]

Tom Cruise still could get any woman because he is famous and rich.

[@andreiconstantinescu4404]

This the perfect thing that I need right now

[@GustavoSilva-ny8jc]

0:00 I realized that this is specially a problem in the US, it's crazy how a guy's value and potential can determined just by a simple number. I've lost count of how many times i've read comments like "if your height start with 5... [insert a super disrespectful and insensitive comment here]".

[@techboy8330]

What about 180 cm?

[@PlanetaJuegosPC]

is not just the US stop coping

[@ravenclaw8227]

No its also in europe the case that if you are a short guy you are invisible to most women, sorry for my bad english

[@GustavoSilva-ny8jc]

@@ravenclaw8227 Well, i think it's kinda expected to happen in other places, especially if you're from a place like Latvia or Netherlands where everyone is super tall. In a place like that it's probable that you would call attention for being short and would be rejected more often. But i have the suspicion that in the US it's more extreme because of their sports, Basketball and US Football are massive cultural influences and give them the idea that bigger it's equal stronger/better, regardless of context, and therefore short is bad. This also shapes notions of masculinity between man and women. But of course, my perspective it's limited to the cultures i have more experience with. I can't say for everyone's condition but i would say that women are more likely to go with shorter guys than people think, a quick search online will prove that, and not everyone it's the same. If there's someone like me who's irrationally passionate about tall girls, there's a chance you will find a weirdo that's also the same way with shorter guys. People have all sorts of fetishes (but i wouldn't call mine interest a fetish tho).

[@pairinn3232]

I feel blessed to find this channel 😊💫

[@whodatboi2567]

I would say though that I believe that Tom Holland's approach is better than Kevin Hart's. I believe not making it a big deal is the true path to removing the power that being short may have on a person.

[@meijinx9673]

I do as well, for the reasons you stated, and I'm not funny, nor do I have as big a personality as Kevin.

[@CineShinya]

Some of the most charismatic people are the ones with the lowest high and in my country we have some sayings to describe that. The point is not how big you are from the outside but how great you are inside and you you make the world perceive you.

[@emilrasmussen8341]

I must say that I've learned so much from these videos! But a thing that I found very interresting was that i realized that i recognize these patterns more in other people and take that to my advantage. But deffinetly also used this knowledge for myself. Thanks alot!

[@fivefiveshortguy]

Great message!! I agree with these! A lot of the girls I've interviewed on my channel have said the same things. Short Kings!!

[@stevengraham5454]

Great video. I am a wheelchair user. I am four feet eleven inches tall and this video is going to help me immensely. Thank you.

[@Elias-cg7uq]

All the best to you Steven!

[@reelworldknowledge]

It's pretty helpful. Good to know. Thanks.

[@cvanims]

I'm 5'6 and didn't talk much because of a gap in my teeth. After I got Invisialign, I started talking more, and noticed I immediately got more respect. It's all about just being comfortable with who you are.. people feed off that vibe.

[@tsquirrel8675]

Where do you get Invisalign? My front tooth got pushed back a little bit from a punch and I really dont wanna get braces again😂

[@cvanims]

@@tsquirrel8675 I TECHNICALLY had Clear Correct (competitor brand), but I just went to the dentist and paid it off monthly. Best investment I've ever done!

[@Elias-cg7uq]

Me too!

[@cat3584]

Vibes are important, in a confusing world a chilling vibe means comfort, and even in a non confusing world. Good adds on to good

[@IndigoHazelnut]

Watching this video reminded me of a time when I was insecure about my height.. but I kept my eye on celebrities of similar height and observed how they exuded confidence and thought ‘if these people can do that, so can I’. These are great tips though ;)

[@harshitavlogs]

Gosh needed this haha

[@hucklesnook1848]

Every single one of these videos provides expectations on how people should react, respond, behave when they aren't communicating, etc. It just shows how much society EXPECTS people to behave, versus capitalizing on differences. Let's all pretend we have the same thoughts, actions, and conscious/unconscious desires.....

[@lookfeelbehealthy6320]

These are great videos!

[@azaryavids]

finally a video made just for me😌

[@sb4216]

Yes just for you shortstack

[@azaryavids]

@@sb4216 lmaoo

[@SMFH999]

@@sb4216 😂

[@ismugireson7622]

I love this channel very human

[@surgio98]

I'm not short yet this advice still applied to me. I try to take up as little space as possible. I feel like if I don't it will be like I am hogging up space. Actually, to be honest, it was more like "Do I deserve to stretch out more? This isn't my train/room/couch." I read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and started to take up more space and it felt good. I would even take up less space when in my car by myself because it was such an ingrained habit. I highly recommend the book especially if you find yourself seeking validation from the gender you find attractive.

[@returnoftheromans6726]

I am a very short female, and one day, I was sitting on a couch with some friends. I immediately sat down and curled up. The guy sitting next to me said something like, "you know there is a whole couch to sit on. You don't have to take up as little space as possible." Lol. Didn't realize that my mindset is primarily based on not being a nuisance to anyone and am very shameful of existing most of the time.

[@Joselitty]

I love this channel

[@capsyy]

2:08 YOOO STEVIEEE OHMYGOD I KNEW A CLIP FROM HIM WAS GONNA BE THERE

[@yateamorganization4317]

love yourself and the chrisma wil be appreant

[@PremiumUserUltra]

Thanks bro

[@general_pepito]

Although I'm ok with my height this is still great advise thanks

[@deeznutz6880]

I do all these things subconsciously. I am 5'6 and had her few occasions where someone way larger than me try to intimidate me but it always stems from there insecurities from my massive confidence.

[@cat3584]

People project their insecurities all the time, need to find a better way of coping with or fixing them. Life is useless if you don’t at the very least respect people

[@08wolfeyes]

When it comes to shaking hands, there's something else that can be helpful. Imagine that you shake hands with your right hand, in most cases that's true. The other person may put their left hand on your wrist or lower arm. You should then put your hand on their upper arm or shoulder. This gives the sense of you being in control, confident etc. If you want to create a feeling of likeness with the other person, rapport, then simply match them. They will subconsciously feel that you are like them and so more likely to get along with you. Something else that i'm sure many knows is how you shake hands. If you have a firm grip, although not to the point of stopping blood flowing, you will again come across as confident. If however, you give what is known as the dead fish handshake, Weak and limp, it will give the impression you lack confidence, that you are in a sense, giving in to the other person. It's a little like a dog laying down in submission to another dog. Watch a dog at play with another and you will see this happen from time to time.

[@Peanuuut3]

Someone's been reading Dale Carnegie. The book is great, but I'm still working on actually using the techniques lol

[@ttr8141]

Also being in incredible shape is a good thing to do when short

[@alexandracoffin696]

Forgive me if you already have a video on this topic or a similar idea, but I would _love_ to see something covering the topic of demonstrating confidence and/or controlling the frame in a virtual meeting environment like Zoom, TEAMs, etc. Although our world is slowly returning to a "new normal" with COVID, I think many companies and organizations have realized the benefits of video based "face to face" interactions. Especially when it comes to limited interactions like a job interview, and short-form meetings and appointments that don't rely on any kind of physical evaluation, I think a LOT of people could benefit from some guidelines on demonstrating confidence and control in social interactions where body language and verbal cues can be significantly limited.

[@thechancellor-]

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.

[@juneelee-johnson3718]

Thank you 🕊💜🤗

[@Spooky_Psyche]

Best thing to do is work out. I'm only 5'6" but I'm also probably 5'6" wide lol. No one makes comments about my height since I started working out seriously.

[@stantonvalberg9814]

I agree. I'm 5'2", one of the best things I did for my self confidence was starting to workout when I was in my early 20's.

[@johanbothma8031]

Agreed! A firm handshake, good posture, some definition in your clothes, the ability to do things that taller but out of shape people can't, coupled with some basic social skills like the ones taught here can go a long way. 😉

[@leodiscorpion3350]

finally something i can relate to

[@notproductiveproductions3504]

Do “how to hold a conversation if you don’t have good social skills”

[@Afterword.]

Step 1: Watch Charisma on Command Step 2: Practice Step 3: Hold a conversation WITH good social skills

[@johne0824]

My short kings, let’s go!

[@AvoirJoseph]

can't believe I've been doing the Kevin Heart and Tom Holland approach all the time, it seems soo intuitive

[@whiteguilt]

brother i am going to command so much respect now just you wait! 👊💥

[@samharryful]

I would like a video about the Gallagher brothers confidence, would be really interesting

[@SwapnilGtm]

This channel is great i have been watching it for 4 years now and not even once it helped me out turns 9ut you gotta be either pretty or rich to use these tricks

[@thatguy1895]

This video made my confidence taller

[@kalebmsfn2297]

This is a bit off-topic, but can u make a video on Tom Hiddleston? I've always been fascinated by his charisma and confidence.

[@user-sw7pi8cy5c]

I love Tom and Kevin they're such nice guys

[@yousefahmad538]

Do a jack reacher video, he absolutely has something to offer, I mean the series not the movies

[@littlevoice_11]

It would be great if you could do a similar video knbody size eg for those who often experience negative comments about being too skinny

[@zaininamdar3268]

Thanku thanku thanku from heart

[@thookbulls]

I’m 5’2 and I approve this message

[@akassasin5768]

#1 genuinely don't care. #2 genuinely don't care. If you dont care other people won't.

[@VishDumb]

I'm 6'3 and here just to read comments. Just wanna say to all my brahss, WE'RE ALL GONNA MAKE IT regardless of height!!!!!

[@SZEditor]

I often watch your videos and ironically most of the things I come to know I’ve been already doing subconsciously But when It gets point out in your videos it just makes me anxious and cuz of this I not often but rarely gets awkward lol

[@enrriquechinchilla936]

My video finally!

[@ptrichie71]

I'm 5' 4" n I'm forever using the "I'm too short to get on some theme park rides" line When people try to make you the victim or target your height flipping it n using their attack is a great way to negate them n normally gets a laugh from people around

[@sidogga1234]

I’m 5’5” and just tall enough to get on the theme park rides.

[@NathalieLazo]

To anyone watching this... GIVE YOUR BEST THIS WEEK FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO! 💪🔥

[@michaelj.mccall6530]

Thank you! Will do!

[@yeahMarenROCKS]

I am a 6 feet tall (182 cm) woman. And I am not thinking about it more than that I am very happy I can reach all the stuff in my kitchen without using a chair. Super practical. But once I met a girl that was my height and uncomfortable with it. She actually approched me because of my height and expressed how happy she was that there were another tall girl in the room, and we could stand next to eachother. I kinda just thought that that was super weird. I hadn’t noticed that others were shorter than me before she said it, and I had nothing in common with this girl who somehow though that because of our heights we had something in common, and that I would be happy to have her standing next to me. That was a weird moment. I don’t choose my friends because of height. In fact I have in many occations hung out with a group of friends who were all very shorter than me - like just reaching me above the elbow. Maybe it looks kinda stange for others to look at us. But I don’t notice what others are seing. And if they thought that our heights were stange, that would be their issue. Why have a problem with your own height? You don’t know what others are seing and judging. Why imagine that they notice your height. I rarely notice that people are short. I am a face person. I look at peoples faces. And how they speak and move their body. I would give credit to my mom who succeded very well in not letting me inherit too many complexes about my looks. I just learned my neighbour have complex about her feet being «to long». And she has my shoe size. I never looked at her feet before. She told me her mom and her sister had the same complex. And that when shopping shoes they were thinking about what shoes could make their feet look smaller. So my friend had worn black shoes always in high school. I feel lucky I have never heard about this complex before. I am thinking what a waste it is to spend time being sad about how the feet looks. I feel the same about height - what a waste of time and feeling it is to think about this. Rather it could be good to think about what flowers grow in your surroundings. Learning their name. Flowers give happy feelings. However being so tall, and of course then heavy too, has made me insecure about sitting on other peoples lap, or jump onto others to give them a hug. But I think that is a good thing, because my weight could do real damage to others if I jump on them. Like they could get back problems. So the possibility to do these things I really envy short people. And also my legs don’t really fit it my car - so if I did crash I would be seriously injured. So if you are short. Learn from my mother. Think about the practical benefits. As a tall person I can watch a concert standing behind a crowd of people, but as short people you can: - Be lifted by others - Survive easier (need for less food) during a zombieapocalypze - Live longer (this is true, tall people die sooner). - Be closer to the ground if you fall. So you’d be less injured. - Get more clothes with you when travelling. (Suitcase would be lighter). Also your clothes probably dry faster. - Can climb easier. Do acrobatics easier. - Fit in cars. - Fit in your bed. (The bed I got in the hospital once was to small for me, because it has this foot-end I would bump into.). Also when I have slept over at friends I would have to sleep on too short sofas. Really uncomfortable and this problem has happened often. - Bigger chance you can inherit clothes or buy used clothes because it is more normal to be shorter. - The smallest clothing sizes are often on sale, I’ve heard. So as we can see there are pros and cons to everything. It is just different qualities - not good vs. bad. When it comes to dating. I have not have a heigh- preferanse myself. But I suspect that shorter guys are reluctant to date taller girls too. Because there have been less interest from shorter guys I have noticed. But it could also be because some tall girls sadly reject shorter guys - so short guys might think I would be like that too. What missed opportunities this can cause. I urge people to be open minded and not pre-decide what your future partners hight or apperance «should be». But I do also believe that because I am a tall woman I do get more automatic respect and attention when I enter a room. So that I think is very sad for the shorter, or normal height, girls. I have seen that they get easily ignored. And taken less serious. For short guys I don’t know how it is. I think that this video from Charisma in Command is important - to combat that issue. There is probably a need to do more effort to «own the room» being short. That is unfair. On the other side. Who am I to decide that «owning the room» is better than not. It could be «blending in» is exactly what you want. In that case it is a benefit being shorter. All is preferanse I guess. And luckily there is much that we can do to overcome out obstacles. Like getting a chair when you need something on top of a shelf. We have chairs! And once I met a short guy from US Navy Seals. He was so strong I could jump on him and he lifted me like in that scene from the movie Dirty Dancing. I guess that there are no limits after all. Much love!

[@faisalalduaij9523]

I’m happy to read this 5.5 guy here

[@Stromblad2211]

WOW I needed this! THANKS!!

[@Ivan_Lopez2024]

Im 5'9" and im Amazed how Tom Cruise Behaves like me. He does a Really Good Job and wish him much success

[@angelamerkel3373]

:D

[@bruceleeeditz]

I can defitely related. We all the same horizontally :)

[@GustavoSilva-ny8jc]

2:43 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 That was brilliant

[@ryanodriscoll]

I clicked on this because I was intrigued. I'm 5'6" so not tiny, but short by most male standards. I actually sometimes do one or two of the things on this video, though I had never noticed. But actually, the most significant thing for me is that I really don't care. I come from a short family so being short is a part of my identity, it's a connection to my heritage. Additionally, I don't think people really give all that much thought to my height, so I don't really worry about commanding respect. It has come up in conversation, but broadly most people have never given a damn. I've never seen myself as in competition with the tall people. Aside from the mild inconvenience of having to ask people to reach things for me from time to time, it doesn't impact my life at all.

[@caffeineshotS2]

2:10 lol wasn’t expecting to see Key from Shinee here

[@ClERCE]

I’m not even short but knowledge is everywhere👁

[@peterstoric6560]

I’m 5’7 yet I’m still one of the shortest guys in my area. This’ll be good

[@techboy8330]

Where do you live and what’s the avg over there?

[@djtdawg87]

Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.

[@Val1414_]

Great video. you've remind me of what someone once said❤️ "The mind is the man, the poor is in it and the rich is it too". This sentence is the secret of most successful investors. I once attended similar and ever since then i been waxing strong financially, and i most tell you the truth..

[@mariekitty]

This is good advice even for short women

[@emzen_13]

Charisma university looked like PH for a sec…also great tips! It’s nice to know that my approach to my height is validated haha

[@DSan-kl2yc]

Tom Holland calling himself quite short when he's 5'8 and average height is 5'9. The image of height is so off. Zendaya, and I don't mean this in a negative way because she's a gorgeous young woman, is above average for a woman. And they get along well. So it's a good example of how it doesn't even have to be an issue.

[@danielkim1657]

tom holland is 5’7 he aint no 5’8

[@TrashPanda5150]

Zendaya has her own problems, women being taller than the average height of men can be a burden. Plus, while she is beautiful and intelligent, she is built like a 2x4. Her height and "lankiness" can be an issue.

[@MrChannelforwatching]

@@TrashPanda5150 An issue how exactly? Just curious.

[@CubedNightShot9777]

@@danielkim1657 He's more like 5'5/5'6 I reckon. But it's cool just one of them things really

[@JimmyBoosterCrate]

Tom Holland isn't an actual 5'8" though. More like 5'6.5" he even said it himself Also, the average for young adults is more 5ft 10, and for Hollywood celebs, 5ft 11-6ft

[@kelseymatchen9569]

Great video! 5’4 here. One joke I’ve used when giving talks before (but could easily work as an intro to a story): ‘I’ll make this as brief as I am short’

[@GustavoSilva-ny8jc]

2:45 He KNEW some joke was coming 😂😂😂

[@eo7063]

Can you do a video on Ika Wong from Big Brother Canada? I think it’d be a very informative video !

[@Chhesterification]

I was today years old when I learned that Tom Cruise is "short". I guess I never noticed.

[@LethalOwl]

He's going out of his way to be shown as taller or at least as-tall as everyone else in his movies, which is funny.

[@ManuelRodrigues1024]

tbh hes not very short but he is short for a man in hollywood

[@Chhesterification]

@@ManuelRodrigues1024 that's why short is in quotes. I'm quoting the video.

[@mqvwatch9754]

4:53 lol, I wish I could freely use the unused neutral space above my head

[@NOPPYify]

Well, respect is the last thing a person should command. It is something that is slowly earned by great actions.

[@SteveRogers...]

We are short that's why you are tall

[@ormpi1]

oh, just the perfect one to me

[@arunkamath]

"Never forget who you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you." Tyrion Lannister ( GRR Martin)

[@CoG_Likes_Parties]

2:09 im crying, that girl violated him 🤣🤣🤣

[@allen604]

Being rich and famous helps too

[@nickp3949]

As a very short guy, the best way to get respect is to stop caring about other people’s respect. Some people just won’t. And that’s their problem. Most people respect me because I’m a standup guy. I’m confident, I’m funny, I’m loyal and I’m honest. You know where you stand with me. But some people just won’t purely on the basis that I’m short. But it’s all good. The worst thing you can do as a short guy is show the world that you care what everyone else thinks. They will eat you alive.

[@arm3199]

King Spotted

[@randomguy661]

My time has come

[@MarcoSartorato]

I'm a dance teacher. And the funny thing is, the students that usually feel insecure about their height are the tall ones. I guess being the center of attention and looks even when you don't mean to can be kinda stressing.

[@bretzky9261]

Joe Rogan awkwardly ignores that he's as wide as he is tall.

[@themacocko6311]

He wasn't always.

[@yisraelkaiser4934]

He doesn't awkwardly ignore it. He doesn't talk about it because it isn't relevant. That's like saying he ignores the fact that his name rhymes with Logan.

[@dcmirsabbir]

We love Tom ❤🎉

[@hana_maru22]

I think the thumbnail would sound better if it said techniques instead of tricks imho 🤷🏻‍♀️