Tired of Getting Triggered? Try This. | Mel Robbins

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If you struggle with feeling triggered, I’m sharing a simple way to stop your mind from spiraling out of control.
Feeling triggered is the start of your body’s reaction to anxiety. Anxiety always begins with a worry or a thought that is triggered by something from your past.
This is what I want you to do to stop the downward spiral in its tracks:
1. Write down your triggers.
2. For every trigger that you wrote down, ask yourself “what exactly am I worried about?”
3. Write down an anchor thought that grounds you when you start to feel triggered.
Knowing what triggers you and how you will ground yourself ahead of time will help you take control over your mind and interrupt your default negative thinking.
Use this trick when you get nervous about confronting your roommate. When your mind starts spiraling about applying for your dream job. When you get overwhelmed by what you want to do with your life. When you catch yourself worrying about college applications. Use this any time you start to feel your stress and anxiety set in.
It’s going to take practice. You have to use this method over and over and over and OVER again in order to cut off the habit of negative thinking. But it will be worth it.
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[@wisdom-for-all]

A true relationship is someone who accepts your past, supports your present, and loves and encourages your future. We fall in love by chance, but we stay in love by choice 🖖

[@jasonosborn8154]

Disagree on that

[@kamalalimbu3091]

Agreed 😛

[@chicanica64]

Wise. We build love daily by choice.

[@sanketh5832]

I wish I get a good friend :(

[@aduts1177]

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[@khanyisilezuma388]

I am 26 now my mom used to yell about every single thing she still does. whenever someone yells at me my blood instantly boils . my body starts to shake ...I switch to Anger mode instantly!!!! I become so angry that I feel like I can even devour that individual...my mom is always angry and would tell at us about every single thing ....I'm moving out of home again and I'm not turning back!!! I have to heal from having her as a parent now.

[@farihamohamedhilmy4700]

1. Write down my triggers 2. What are you worried about? 3. Write down your anchors to solve those triggers (come up with a plan)

[@jonnycpardoe]

Ah thank you, that's what I had written down too :). Helpful that someone else has written it down.

[@GLesbihonest]

Thank you!

[@ModernGentleman223]

Already wrote it down

[@Edithk60]

emotional triggers are so hard to deal with every day its exhausting this video was helpful as so simple thanks

[@lorettashields7263]

Mel, thank you!!! I’m 54 and Dyslexic and when Around A certain group it seems it always comes up as a joke. I smile and act like it doesn’t bother me, but it hurts. It took me six years to get an associate degree, but I did it!!!!

[@HeronCoyote1234]

Congrats on your degree! Is there any way you can stay away from that toxic group? They sound like bullies to me. You’re better than they are.

[@Bebe-og3bc]

Congrat's! That's Awesome !!

[@clelaw9930]

Bravo 👏 👏 👏 👏

[@kacanghijau166]

Reminds me of bullying. The thing is, bullies could just move on, redeem themselves, and change to a better person, most of the times without any consequences. People who know them later who never think they could do such thing, they know them as a good person probably. Meanwhile, the one who gets bullied has to build a really strength mind so they don't fall into a victim mentality. They have to move on and to be a "bigger person." . It's not easy to build self-worth or thinking you're good enough to do something. But again, the only person who is responsible for your life is you, no matter how much scar they gave to you . I know life is not fair, but sometimes it's too much man.

[@secretagent4610]

That's why you need to put your bully in their place.

[@ggwhhbb1822]

one of my bullies has gained almost 150 pounds and that actually gives me immense pleasure

[@drewsson]

To anyone reads this, I hope you find success in whatever you do next 🙌 Your content keeps inspiring me Mel, thank you for all that you do 👏

[@sudhirchandra9790]

I love you Andrea

[@jonnycpardoe]

I agree!

[@aduts1177]

i will take over the world and become a god, wish me luck🙂

[@Magick51]

Does this short list show up on her full podcast? And if it does please let me know what the title is please so I can listen to it on my walks. And if it isn't don't worry about I was only curious, it maybe something she did while being interviewed and share these 3 steps to analyze your own anxiety.

[@ms-ej7xg]

I soooo needed this. Today, at 27 years old, im realizing triggers are VERY real and have affected so many things in my life. you can read every book, watch every video, get all the advice. But it's so different when you experience that realization first hand...that the way i act towards others isn't because "i just don't like them", rather there's something underlying that is triggering this overwhelming emotional (over)reaction. it's really hard to see it in yourself. at least for me. it's like I blink and I'm one person, blink and I'm another. Then I blink again and I'm apologizing because I didn't really mean what i just said. I imagine it's really confusing to be around me. I'm struggling a lot right now with myself, with projecting negativity, I don't like it, I know it's wrong, and I'm finally seeing it but now I need the tools to control these emotions and triggers. Thank you for making videos like these, I'm really glad to have found your channel ♡

[@khanyisilezuma388]

hey we are the same age and you've just described me exactly...I like the part where u say " I can imagine it's confusing to be around me" i feel that way 100% of the time. I get triggered NOW!!!! only to apologize...

[@MadhabikaParida]

I feel you

[@edszy_]

This is exactly how I feel. It’s been a lot of years and it’s still the same. And yes read books, researched a lot. But the triggers are still there and after experiencing some trauma recently I feel like it’s getting worse. I don’t know what to do at this point. 😢

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[@MuseSunday]

I was always so stressed out going back home to my partner. It’s starting to make more sense. I was always in the wrong place. Thanks lord for getting me out!

[@sarahdenibee]

Anxiety does not always begin with a thought, this is completely inaccurate. It commonly begins with a thought, yes. But many people with anxiety have no conscious thought first and may experience somatic symptoms first. Then they try to make sense of that somatic symptom & when they can't increase anxiety symptoms - a spiral. This is great information for thought-based anxiety though!

[@durgad7329]

U changed my whole world melll I would show more ur video to my future child that perfect ur

[@CanadianOptionsTrader]

Really great video! I think this constant anxiety is contributing to eating more junk food, drinking alcohol, doing drugs, and other unhealthy habits.

[@stars_for_night_lights]

💯

[@YoMike91]

Exactly, what you put in is what you get out

[@rudig5698]

Mel really changed my life 🥺❤️

[@Batira583]

She did for me too

[@justinhessedenz2819]

Definitely made a difference for me, the 5 second rule made a big difference for me

[@sudhirchandra9790]

Marry me Rudi😘😘

[@dancegodparkjimin1134]

@@justinhessedenz2819 what's the 5 sec rule?

[@justinhessedenz2819]

Mahnoor Zahra search Mel Robinson 5 second rule she will describe it better then me, very simple tool. Works wonders for me.

[@misslanapford9169]

Thats how i feel about my ex, because I don't want to see him and nothing good will come out of us bumping into each other.. I just never want to see him again cause I'm happy..

[@NenaLavonne]

[@jaiminsharma]

I have a suggestion, there is a method I read in a book called Power of your subconscious mind, So there was this girl who was constantly being chased by a man & she wanted to get rid of that so she used this affirmation & it works like charm, It goes like this:: " I _______(Name of the person) hand him over to god. He is in his true place. He is free & I am free. I now order the universe to accept my words & so be it" after using this affirmation, that girl never saw him again! and personally, I have tried it and it works. hope this helps

[@nataliesmith2458]

I’m not quite sure why I clicked on this video ..... 4.18 mins later .... I now know why I did ..... thankyou x

[@TheGioalexb]

It's amazing how the perfect video shows up in my inbox to help me navigate the "drama of the day"! Despite my attempts to avoid my toxic family, they continue to inject themselves and their assumptions of me into my life just when I begin to feel calm. I'm in therapy because of them! And just yesterday I was looking at houseboats in Seattle because I plan on returning to WA when I graduate from the respiratory therapy program next August. I have finals tomorrow but I had to focus my attention on the one thing that keeps me sane for the moment because I was beginning to have a breakdown. I can't breathe or stop crying. I can't wait to leave NJ and them behind!!! I thought my relationship with them would be different now that I was older and on a more level playing field, but it was such a mistake coming back here. I will miss my friends but my family will never leave me alone as long as I'm in this State

[@phillipswatson3452]

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[@TheGioalexb]

@@phillipswatson3452 I know. I can't wait! This is why I registered f/t - so I can finish in a year and be gone forever! I have been trying to avoid them. I even made plans work on Thanksgiving and travel to DC with my son for Christmas so I won't be around them for the holidays. My aunt knows that I'm taking physics in half semester and have finals this week - and I work almost every night - yet she's been texting nonstop that she wants to discuss "family feelings". They all assumed I didn't send a sympathy card to my brother-in-law for my sister's passing. Didn't bother to ask first. My sister turned on me 5 yrs ago because she ASSUMED I said something that I didn't. Again, didn't bother to ask if I did and the rest of the family believed her. No one stood up for me. This family always assumes the worst in me and I've never had any ill intentions. I just want them to leave me alone. My friends are my family. Oh, and they say I'm selfish for leaving! I can't win. I joined the Army 32 years ago. That was my sin! Seriously! I left the family and chose to be an independent woman - and I've been an outcast ever since

[@phillipswatson3452]

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[@CanadianOptionsTrader]

@@TheGioalexb Good luck with your physics final! Stay strong!

[@TinaLouise73]

Its so difficult to NOT react to othr ppls nasty behaivours especially wen its PURPOSELY directed towards u personally 😐

[@wselenag45]

Exactly!! It's like it's ok for them to treat you bad, but if you react to it then you're in the wrong? 🤷🏽‍♀️ That's crazy!

[@billoberg3272]

I liked the 5-4-3-2-1, and getting anchored. Thanks

[@shembeliever6095]

At the end of the day, we are all broken, all struggling, all moulded by the past, all trying to wade through the deep waters of life and human relationships, and I believe we all experience anxieties albeit on a spectrum.

[@jonnycpardoe]

Totally agree.

[@karadiberlino]

Don‘t make sentences with „we all“. It‘s very prententious. Try to look at humans as INDIVIDUALS! ☝🏼🤓

[@shembeliever6095]

@@karadiberlino This was not supposed to be a debate, this came from a place of general human truth and human experience - you might want to read psychology manuals on how we all are ALL shaped by our pasts, childhoods, upbringing, cultures, etc into our adulthood and the complexities of life. I'm sorry that you got triggered by this.

[@ayyyemossy1355]

3:13 Me: an 18-year-old taking notes 📝 👀

[@jonnycpardoe]

There is definitely a great power in identifying the thought. Great video again Mel.

[@monicarai1497]

I used to feel that way when my mom would walk into the door. And yeah she was a narc.That feeling started to come out on my house help I was almost imitating my mom. I am glad I got into theraphy.

[@khanyisilezuma388]

before I have kids of my own I need to work not to be like my mom. I just shouted at a security guard now for something so stupid ...I'm going to therapy I hope if helps because I'm scared of myself sometimes I can't imagine what it's like to be around me...my mom used to yell ...whenever she enters the gate we jump to check if the house is in order

[@queenofqueens5460]

Yelling causing a lot of problems in adult life with looking into crazy how we attract experience with people that act like our parents

[@stepclosertosuccess996]

Thank you for sharing! Knowing what calms you makes a big difference when anxiety hits.

[@whitenix2585]

Thank you, thank you for sharing these videos. You’re helping more than you know!

[@onehundredmillionstars1276]

Mel, we appreciate you and what you do, so much. Thank you.

[@kingfua2988]

So much wisdom. I love you Mel.

[@user-ui5lc6yz4i]

You are amazing, Mel! Thank you for everything❤️

[@speakehabla5638]

I love your videos because I can improve my listening skills while learning from topics that I really enjoy. Thanks for posting it!

[@Tinaraver]

thanks - I needed this - my JOB is always triggering me - I have to fight & struggle every day to keep it

[@elbeteldesta6070]

Mel i love you really you can't imagine how courageous you make me to face my future

[@alibeaumont-filder3185]

Thank you .. must watched this several times now .. yet today the message I internalised .

[@goldengirl6149]

This is a GAME CHANGER 💪🏼❤️🔥 THANK YOU SO MUCH MEL 😭🔥❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@NbaLive4ever]

I’m not sure if I’m doing this right but here is one of mine: 1. Trigger: Driving far to an unfamiliar place 2. Worry: I am gonna get lost, or won’t get there safely, stress being in traffic w/ lots of other aggressive cars, etc. 3. Anchor: not everyone is a mean driver, I’ve handled a traffic jam before, just gotta study the map beforehand/follow my GPS, etc Did I do it right?

[@NenaLavonne]

Thank you for offering REAL solutions. You are an inspiration, Mel!

[@jonnycpardoe]

Totally agree.

[@chipbuttytime3396]

Counting to 5 and thinking of puppies is not a REAL solution....

[@nirmalajenifer7168]

Thank you..You really are helping us..I use your 5 sec rule everytime I want to distract myself from an unwanted thought..you gave us Power😁

[@gailgrooms997]

I love you so much! Good luck in your next adventure

[@choosengeneration2470]

Mel your videos are always great and helpful thank you for this video .god bless u and we love you .

[@joymae]

Been triggered a lot this year

[@misslanapford9169]

My ex and family members, both of them I'd happily never see again..

[@TheMastersuperblaste]

You're probably a liberal.

[@jonnycpardoe]

Think there's quite a lot to be triggered by this year, but of course we all have our own struggles. Thanks for sharing. I hope you feel better soon and can work through it.

[@barriegrubb5682]

Hang in there. Life will get better.🙂🕊

[@jonplaud]

@@TheMastersuperblaste you probably lost 😂

[@chzhsea]

Thank you for your advice 💜

[@einsteindarwin8756]

This is so helpful! Thank you!

[@aprilrenaeofficial9668]

I needed this!!

[@kasia4919]

Thank You Mel ♥️

[@StormCaller5]

I ended up getting really bad anxiety about being on the freeway. Especially if I'm NOT the driver. It's almost crippling at times. I'm definitely going to try this. Thank you, Mel

[@fr7820]

Thanks!! This is so helpful!!

[@MuseSunday]

I was always so stressed out going back home to my partner. It’s starting to make more sense.

[@tammypfeiffer1062]

I feeling the same, I don't have the courage to speak,I use to stronger

[@TheSpirit99]

My mom and sister become a team and attack me verbally at the same time. This is my biggest triger. By doing so they lead me to constantly remember their past mistakes maden to me by them !...

[@journeytoart]

If you can just show that u r unbothered by their words. Coz they like to see you succumb to their words and so they keep doing it. Do the opposite and just walk away or show that their words don't make you weak.

[@zq1612]

Excellent advice!

[@sharilynfritz247]

Thanks! Family triggers but in 3 weeks I'm moving and that makes me happy & excited. The anchor thoughts really help.

[@inzichte]

I do the same this year.

[@nwabisabaraza8706]

Thank you God, I really needed this👏🏽

[@Krystalwatchesvideos]

Thank you Meg

[@Ikr2025]

My father didn’t drink at all. He didn’t do drugs or raise his voice. He barely said anything. He didn’t hit us or physically abuse us. He didn’t need to do any of those things to elicit stress. I actually wished he would drink or smoke to loosen up sometimes and have a laugh. I would have preferred it if my parents yelled and swore sometimes as at least it would break the tension. My father was a minister and his body language and facial expressions alone were enough to convey his continual disgust, disapproval, anger for us and the world. He emitted that toxic energy throughout my childhood. I hated being around him. Sometimes its not drugs or alcohol. Sometimes its just toxic energy and emotion.

[@karenmininni4962]

I worked in the Legal Field for many years. Mel Robbins speaks and teaches kind of breaking things down close to the way the facts and evidence in cases are broken down - then straight to the decision of a Judge. You get somewhere!

[@FearlessLeis]

Wow. That door thing. Never noticed that was related to a childhood thing.

[@tammypfeiffer1062]

Thank you mel, now im aware why im anxious niw

[@Nyc99]

My trigger is pain others will feel and i start yelling, screaming, who ever say stop or whats wrong, i go more crazy , its the pain that scare me and like i feel it

[@Poniella81]

Brilliant 🙏🏼

[@digitatissue8502]

that was great!

[@BeeRich33]

Sometimes they never go away, no triggers necessary. Everything is a trigger.

[@elegantinfusions]

Wow, That’s was great also using the 54321 rule as well, that’s another exercise to try.

[@inzichte]

I did that today. ❤. I make a border. With my parents.

[@damnatiomemoriae962]

I've read McGonnigal's "The upside of stress" and this sounds like a pretty great outline of slipping into what the author of the aforementioned book calls "the challenge mode", which she contrasts to the triade of basic stress responses

[@balancedplans3007]

Handling triggers - this is good.

[@pharmclare]

Interesting insights. Thank you

[@robertaronchetti5676]

Thank you! Roberta from Italy

[@hunnylove7111]

I love Mel Robbins.....she is such a motivator and great at getting to the root cause of things.

[@FrancesShear]

There is a huge difference between getting triggered and responding to help dispel myths and outright lies while having fun now up until a couple of hours before bed time when no one is looking over your shoulder anymore not only trying to control what you write also trying to control your thoughts too. Like when a know it all Dr. once just because he didn't like a poem I wrote while trying to heal from both domestic violence and childbirth too both at the same time told me I was dangerous to the public and should be moved to a more secure facility because my poem had the line in it, "God is on your side and god is on my side too." At the time in the year 1980 that must have alarmed him which left me wondering if he had paranoia while being a psychiatrist while being close to burnout because of all the lies being told to him about his patients like me while having to cope with the odd patient every know and then who ended up on his care when all of his own lies caught up with him later too. For sure that must have been stressful for the Dr.who was trying to work around all of those 'demons' [called lies].

[@jasonosborn8154]

Sounds like you need to be careful good luck with that

[@user-rj3qe6hn6n]

Thank you so much

[@cindytong7473]

Thank you

[@karenmininni4962]

Super Helpful.

[@yang7436]

Interupt the negtive thought and recall the good memories in childhood at the end is also what I normally do.I think it do help me keep my life long anxiety always under control and let rebellion and courage kick in if needed in some extreme cases.

[@Talkinglife]

Tired of getting triggered

[@countingchange8677]

My mother was a yeller and I was triggered everytime it was time to do homework because she just didn’t have patience.

[@ladev91]

My father got mad at me for reading too slow at 6 years old. He smacked my face (lightly) with the book. He acted like it was a joke but I still remember it to this day.

[@raraavis7782]

@@ladev91 Yeah, these things can stick with you, no matter, how insignificant they look from the outside. My parents never physically punished me, but I remember one time, where my mother lost her temper on a shopping trip and threatened to slap me in public...and over a genuine misunderstanding at that. She thought, I was 'being fresh', when really, I just had expressed myself somewhat unfortunately (I was a very well behaved girl, not at all prone to acting up). I remember to this day, how utterly shocked and frightened I was over this threat of physical violence from my usually very good-natured, loving mother. It affected my feelings for/trust in her for months. Which sounds ridiculous, compared to other people's experiences, obviously, but there you go.

[@Adominic]

thank you

[@CandyAmble]

I want to focus on myself, not the judgements or viewpoints of others to speak on the first 60 seconds, only person who made me feel like that was my mom, she was a violent bigot

[@JustMe-yk1bx]

what if i say I'm tired of being tired

[@JadeTrading]

So inspiring. I wish there was a love button ❤️

[@jonnycpardoe]

Double love button!

[@ll5584]

2:10 😂 I love her

[@MelissaLearns]

I remember walking into the home feeling like that... Wasn't in a physically abusive home but I guess the yelling and seeing what I don't want for my future

[@Chris-tj4eo]

Okay, good words. I recommend to go listen to Julia Kristina Counselling .

[@blessedandbeautiful8365]

What triggers me: my children and my husband, especially him! They all ignore me but pull from me for everything!!! Then they blame me for the house being dirty, no food in house. Nothing. I hate being ignored. Hate it!! I know it’s from childhood. But They can’t do anything alone. I ask them nicely for weeks to do basic things. I’m worried that I will destroy our relationship by yelling. My husband and I got along best when he left the pastoral office. We talked on dreams and goals. Now we just literally fight all day. Today I told them all that I wish I was dead instead of being in this house 😢 I feel so stupid afterwards This is such a miserable life living with someone that doesn’t love you and you don’t love him but he won’t divorce or leave. He’s taunts me, belittles me, says to me I’m a worthless project rat, I was never anything in life, and laughed at me bc my mother was on drugs and left me with an abusive family and I didn’t know my dad growing up I’m so broke and can’t leave. I have even developed a seizure disorder being with him. I hate life!

[@Shane-gw5yt]

My fat neighbor in the flat above me has been stamping and slamming things on the floor non stop for nearly 2 years. Nobody believes me because I have schizophrenia. The noise is real and I am triggered every single day and the fat bully upstairs is doing it on purpose. Just writing it down helps getting it out my head. I'm learning to try and ignore the noise. It's hard when my trigger is in my home all day every day.

[@obscuriosities]

Okay but, if you live totally alone & get that kind of a response to coming home, does it mean u need to break up with all of your stuff/house (the prob w that is that it is not logistically practical/even if u do takes a lot of time). I’d also really love to be able to ask u (esp re the last part directed at teens) how this process would apply if your anxiety is abt things u really DO NEED to be thinking abt rn & the situation IS a problem, and/or you HAVENT figured it out… (This is amazing thank you, so glad to have found your channel.)

[@kerencollins1548]

Loveee you😉👍🏻💞

[@jdt8983]

My parents still give me anxiety. Not as bad as they used to. Good ol childhood I can't remember. Good times

[@Chippy88]

My family has treated me very unfairly and outright judges me and criticize me. I just always took it because I never believed in, and I always said I could never not talk to my family. Every one of them has no problem has no problem doing that. My sister will go over like two years without talking to my mother mostly all the time my mother was extremely wrong. But like I said, my father was able to disown his mother. As my mother always said, they all had tempers, including her, but I was always a crier , I get hurt so easily, and it’s gotten to a point where I am extremely depressed and scared. I finally went back at them and even to my brother who at one time said I was his favorite person in the world. They want to know my mom miss treated me. Even though I miss her so much. I am different than them in a lot of ways. I was always outgoing I won class clown I have a Lotta friends and none of them even have a friend except from my brother. I never saw this coming. But the other day and incident happened and as usually I was spoken to nasty and hurtful things. Even though I had it on my life, ADHD! I mean literally from birth. And so many times I would go to visit my mother obviously. And for the last five probably at least 10 years they outright say they can’t stand me at times and I’m annoying. But again for the longest time when I go there, it’s almost like a freaking morgue. They are dead quiet and I am me laughing, trying t to live in things up. Janet will become so weird I would leave. Leave. Leave l 1:44 1:44 throughout the years would say to each other we would never go without talking to each other. My mom was famous at l cutting family members off like it was nothing. She can’t keep a friend. She has said horrific stuff to me. They all have tempers and I was always the crier. But anyway, my high brightness you didn’t know I had it on my life would just be so annoying to them because they either sit there on their phone. I think it stands out more now because I’m 52 years old and I’m just is hyper as I always was. I guess the normal person as you get older starts to calm down and not have as much energy. And as a kid OK it’s sad because a lot of stuff was hard. I’m 52 and back then my mother took me somewhere and they said it’s hyperactivity. They never had a big problem with it all those younger years. My father would take me I would put on shows to make them laugh. Etc. And because the last two years I feel funny and I know it does look probably weird and embarrassing. That at this age I’ll still do something I did when I was 10. It’s different when you’re older and it stands out more end this past year. I’ve been working so hard on talking slower etc. again a lot for myself because I feel foolish sometimes. And I don’t like that sometimes I make people nervous. I’m starting therapy etc. and I am trying to make myself aware. But it hurts so bad. Because the high always try to be there for them. I never pick a fight. Sometimes I would say stuff back because they were so hurtful and I always thought about them. I couldn’t begin to tell you hell if they call me or text me or look sad or whatever I do love you and I can tell them up! I’ve done way more good. I have so much love in me. What is weird as they always tell me I had a heart of gold. Well, then why or how can they say such mean Stuff. There’s nicer ways they can talk to me and I never thought we wouldn never not be close. How can somebody doesn’t try to lift me up. They know how bad I’m working on the OCD. It’s just that I don’t know how they can forget all the good things I did just from the heart just to see them smile. this is the third day when something came to a head. They’ve said in the past they want nothing to do with me and of course, a lot of time. Can you say anything when you’re mad. I know this is so long and there’s so much more I can say. I had enough and like I said, I went back at him, and that when they made a big scene. The last five years has just been so toxic. It was like crazy and I only said, and what helps me is avoiding triggers, but I literally said, how can you not talk to your family even if they’re a trigger. So I would only still talk to them. my dad lately has been just insulting. All of them make me feel like a piece of shit. It’s just so crazy how against this I was, but what can I do if I can sense we just be so annoyed with me and would have no problem never speaking to me. But it happened so weird. Everybody’s emotions are all over with my mom being sick. And I may be repeating things. I don’t know what I said but like I said, they know I, try to do anything I can to help them they’ve told me, they know and say I was treated wrong. So many times at home I would think about my dad or my mother or brother and cry at home if I was worried about them. I get it could be annoying, but then you know one more thing on it. They know right now my stomach is not like a nervous stomach. My dad couldn’t feel like that. Sometimes I know that they have their own issues and they don’t need to hear mine. I just don’t get it. And I’m never doing nothing or buying stuff for my sister because she doesn’t so much money. I would get so excited to wait and see if when I’m bored or some thing I did make him happy. But it was just happening way too often if I want to be healthy for my kids . But this is hard. It’s so hard like right now. They are not even thinking about it. They’re probably laughing over doing whatever. I’m not just saying I am perfect. But I know in my heart and God knows and that’s what I just have to know. for death triggered me in so many ways as I’m sure it did then. Then I finally get good happy get myself up again and then I get so insulted by one of them. If I could bring up stuff, they didn’t throw stuff in our face like they do it to me, but I never did. I prayed this would never happen, but it’s physically affecting me and mentally too much so I am done. I’m not gonna keep being the one to suck it up and giving everybody the benefit of the doubt. But I’m scared to death. It hurts so damn bad.

[@mrscpc1918]

This advice is from Neuro linguistic programming. A very good system

[@muminabegum7466]

I get badly triggered when I see a particular type of clothing that I don’t like due to being bullied about it in the past by a family member.

[@sarapatch616]

I have extreme anxiety! And it's super strange but a trigger for me is other women. My mom taught me that bcuz i dont look like a model I'm not good enough or I'll never be able to accomplish things due to my weight. I've struggled my whole life with this and it has given me severe body dysmorphia 😒 I'm going to attempt this and see how it goes 🙂🙃

[@NenaLavonne]

That's wonderful that you have identified your triggers, though. I wish you the best of luck! Anything is possible!

[@sarapatch616]

@@NenaLavonne yeah I try not to blame my mom bcuz she grew up with her own issues obviously but she raised us girls to have issues with our bodies but yes I hope to one day love myself ! 🙂

[@goldengirl6149]

You sound like a beautiful person.... you look beautiful in your picture too. Try and remind yourself that looks fade - Being beautiful inside lasts forever, it’s a gift and no one can take that away from you! Wishing you the best life ever you beautiful soul ❤️ x

[@jamiecee4960]

Just read something on FB that tried to trigger me. Be careful who your around.

[@Meow_meowwww]

Im using that advice on relationships. There is a girl which constantly triggers me and I think the tios can help

[@carlosfonseca5826]

Love this chick

[@adomux2000]

It is actually crazy how the 54321 thing works. Amazing, don't know what else to say.

[@pazzasono3193]

what if my trigger is my dad screaming at me? because I literally start shaking and tearing up, it takes me back to my childhood

[@tiianieminen2381]

easier said than done

[@mattng4707]

this came too late but she right

[@sutapamukerjee8602]

Can u please suggest a couple counsellor. Thanks

[@akasha11111]

hello, are we triggered in an emotion as a consequence of an unconscious limiting belief OR is the emotion (physical sensations) first in case of a trigger and then follows the belief to not feel the emotion? or both? thank you

[@sivonparansun]

How about this concept, why don't you try to address the problem so the anxiety goes away

[@kellylasaponara746]

Mel...,😓... been trying to find ME , wear my truth,...5 years....still stuck in fight or flight"Trauma brain,.. 36 YEARS....sooo need YOUR LIFE COACHING 😭....🙏🙏🙏 Please..help me break free...so I can truly find and BECOME ME,...at 48

[@kenyattahockenhull5636]

What if u don’t know your triggers ? If that makes sense