Psychologist Shows You How to Reset Your Personality and Redefine Yourself | Benjamin Hardy

Do you feel trapped by your personality or self-identity and struggle to move forward in life? It’s time for you to take control of who you are, redefine your entire personality, and reshape your identity so that you can move forward towards the future you want for yourself.
On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu is joined by organizational psychologist and author Benjamin Hardy, PhD to discuss such matters and more as they explore why your personality and self-identity is an ever-changing thing that you have the control to reshape and reform. They discuss why most of us are trapped in our personalities, how your personality is always changing, how trauma shapes us, how to move forward in life, why your past never defines your future, the power of reframing your past and future, why pain tolerance is key to growth, how to become cognitively flexible, and how pressure creates traction to move forward in life.
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SHOW NOTES:
Personality | Benjamin shares why the conversation needs to shift on personalities. [0:12]
Trapped | Benjamin reveals why we get trapped in the identities we’ve created. [1:30]
Change | Benjamin reveals why your personality will change no matter what in life. [3:33]
Trauma | Benjamin discusses how we hold onto and interact with our trauma. [8:09]
Healing | Benjamin discusses how he healed from trauma and mended his relationships. [11:23]
Moving Forward | Benjamin reveals how we can move beyond our own trauma. [13:22]
Giving Up | Benjamin discusses why you shouldn’t give up on your idea of your future. [17:03]
Your Past | Benjamin discusses why your past never defines your future. [17:55]
Reframe | Benjamin reveals why you must reframe both your past and your future. [22:26]
Future | Benjamin discusses how to craft a beautiful vision for your future. [25:28]
Next Steps | Benjamin discusses the power of journaling and thinking ahead. [29:07]
Self-Expansion | Benjamin discusses how our environment influences our visions. [30:49]
Pushing Through | Benjamin reveals why pain tolerance is key to growth. [34:51]
Flexibility | Benjamin discusses the power of being cognitively flexible. [38:51]
Commitment | Benjamin shares how you should redefine commitment. [39:45]
Pressure | Benjamin shares how pressure creates traction to move forward in life. [41:26]
Acceptance | Benjamin discusses acceptance and commitment therapy. [44:50]
Connect | Benjamin shares how you can connect and continue to follow him. [45:50]
QUOTES:
“Trauma isn’t what happens to you, it’s what you hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.” [8:47]
“A lot of people think that the past is causing the present, but the reality from a memory perspective is that the present is causing the meaning of the past. Wherever you’re at in the present, that’s what’s determining how you view your past.” [20:03]
“I think commitment is kind of the jumping point from courage. You know, however committed you are too something, that’s how courageous you can be, and however courageous you can be, that’s what ultimately leads you to developing flexibility, developing competencies, trying things you’ve never done and that’s how confidence is built.” [41:07]
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[@TomBilyeu]

Here are the topics discussed: Personality | Benjamin shares why the conversation needs to shift on personalities. [0:12] Trapped | Benjamin reveals why we get trapped in the identities we’ve created. [1:30] Change | Benjamin reveals why your personality will change no matter what in life. [3:33] Trauma | Benjamin discusses how we hold onto and interact with our trauma. [8:09] Healing | Benjamin discusses how he healed from trauma and mended his relationships. [11:23] Moving Forward | Benjamin reveals how we can move beyond our own trauma. [13:22] Giving Up | Benjamin discusses why you shouldn’t give up on your idea of your future. [17:03] Your Past | Benjamin discusses why your past never defines your future. [17:55] Reframe | Benjamin reveals why you must reframe both your past and your future. [22:26] Future | Benjamin discusses how to craft a beautiful vision for your future. [25:28] Next Steps | Benjamin discusses the power of journaling and thinking ahead. [29:07] Self-Expansion | Benjamin discusses how our environment influences our visions. [30:49] Pushing Through | Benjamin reveals why pain tolerance is key to growth. [34:51] Flexibility | Benjamin discusses the power of being cognitively flexible. [38:51] Commitment | Benjamin shares how you should redefine commitment. [39:45] Pressure | Benjamin shares how pressure creates traction to move forward in life. [41:26] Acceptance | Benjamin discusses acceptance and commitment therapy. [44:50] Connect | Benjamin shares how you can connect and continue to follow him. [45:50] QUOTES: “Trauma isn’t what happens to you, it’s what you hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.” [8:47] “A lot of people think that the past is causing the present, but the reality from a memory perspective is that the present is causing the meaning of the past. Wherever you’re at in the present, that’s what’s determining how you view your past.” [20:03] “I think commitment is kind of the jumping point from courage. You know, however committed you are too something, that’s how courageous you can be, and however courageous you can be, that’s what ultimately leads you to developing flexibility, developing competencies, trying things you’ve never done and that’s how confidence is built.” [41:07]

[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Thanks so much Tom, really enjoyed our conversation!

[@charlesaltman7511]

TRAUMA INFORMED THERAPY (TIT) I am seeing a therapist, but, that being said, this guy is right on. I think Wilhelm Maximilian Wundt would agree.

[@KP-Mentor]

Great

[@RianMileti]

In my top 3 favorite talks. He breaks difficult ideas down extremely well

[@rileydavidjesus]

Hey Tom, I'm not sure if the team knows this yet but if you past this in the description then we get the timestamp on the display bar for the video with labels.

[@Trying_very]

Promoting someone else’s book says a lot about this man. He cares more about improving people’s lives than his own self-importance.

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[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Thanks for your kind words Saskia! It's a great book!

[@sandjvj911]

@saskia ya it isn't like it is helping grow his own channel or something..

[@kombooch]

“Your view of your own future is the greatest determinant of who you are.”

[@nextlevelwarrior]

Absolutely

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[@justinholtgrave]

These interviews are PURE GOLD for anyone looking to improve themselves in any way.

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Hey Justin! Thanks for the support man. So glad you enjoyed the video!

[@clubadv]

Beat quote in here from Peter lavine:. "Trauma isn't something that happens to you.. ..it's what you home inside in the absence of an empathetic witness..."

[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Hey David! Definitely my favorite quote from his book. Thanks for the support; hope you enjoyed the video!

[@Trying_very]

Wow - that definition of trauma is brilliant. Losing hope and feeling helpless to change anything.

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@lisakruger86]

The part about trauma resonated with me! How it hinders us from having hope about the future. And the blame! I have wondered why I cant switch my mindset, no matter how much I journal and meditate and all that stuff. I have so much self blame in me. Hope is not in my life. I really feel what this guy is talking about. ❤

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[@journeyoflovelight]

Perfect timing ... Im working on this now. Tom, you have help me beyond what I could write here. I started watching you after starting Seizures 2019. The info you have put out has been instrumental in my recovery and the choice to not to give up my life. I chose to live ( ; ).Thank you for the confirmation Im moving in the right direction. Have a good day both of you.

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Thanks for the support! So glad you enjoyed the video. It was a great opportunity to talk with Tom. I hope your seizures are better under control, and that life is bright for you right now!

[@maryannegautier]

Benjamin Hardy is the MAN, discovered his writing on Medium and its the only one I kept coming back to read.

[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Hey Maryanne! Thanks so much for the support, I really appreciate it!

[@cassandrarolin9962]

Very cool

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[@barbarafairbanks4578]

@Maryanne Gauthier Oh! He writes on Medium?? I didn't know that. Thanks for bringing that to light. I'll look for him there.

[@AmyJackson-_-85]

“Your view of your own future is greatest Determinant of who you are.” Benjamin Hardy

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[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Thanks Amy! So glad you enjoyed the video!

[@x80WildCat08x]

How about you get Dr. Gabor Maté on your show? He’s done incredible work as a physician who’s worked with people suffering from addiction. And his work linking chronic illness to childhood traumas

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[@elenif.vlachou9126]

THIS guest is probably one of the most brilliant minds this day and age has to offer the greatest opportunity to change. 130thou views temporarily...all big things start small. Congratultions DrBH and one of ur greatest guests TOM!!

[@federov100]

Wow. This deserves repeat viewing.

[@Hbk-gc7st]

Dear Tom and Benjamin, Thank you for sharing these nuggets of wisdom. This episode was absolutely something that I needed to watch today! Benjamin really articulated how the human mind works and how you can break free and change course. It triggered a moment of clarity on what my next step should be. Have a great day! And God bless you and your families. Much love from the Netherlands! :)

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[@chefkartez]

The results I am currently getting is what I am truly committed to? Mind Blown 🤯! Buying the book 📚 just because of that.

[@nextlevelwarrior]

Yep. Commitment is a statement of what is..

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[@kaanuverma6772]

Which book ?

[@nextlevelwarrior]

@@kaanuverma6772 Personality Isnt Permanent

[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Hey Karetz! Thanks for the support! So glad you enjoyed the video. I hope you enjoy the book!

[@immersivestudyandliving4272]

"Personality is not permanent" is a great book.

[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Thanks so much for the support! I really appreciate it.

[@nextlevelwarrior]

Worth multiple reads!

[@deliap.8456]

So exciting to see 2 people that have so majorly impacted my future and current positioning together having an amazing conversation!

[@ach9580]

I second you Delia. I had recently just finished Personality Isn’t Permanent, and it helped change my current circumstances for the better.

[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Thanks so much for the support Delia! It was a pleasure and great opportunity to talk with Tom. So glad I played a small part in impacting your future; keep up the good work!

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[@TheDhammaHub]

Our mind and personality is conditioned like everything else. That's quite a powerful realization!

[@mars1783]

I'm EXTREMELY POWERFULLY MADE.... Power 🔋 of FAITH....LOVE BY FRANCESCA.... WANTS TO GO TO CALIFORNIA N 😕

[@dominostimes2119]

When Benjamin told about his rough family past and parents divorce at 11 my attention level increased by 5 times

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@mrkevintetz]

Tom your ability interpret the foundational principals of your guests point and re-articulate and even elaborate on it is incredible and truly helpful in ensuring I understand what is being taught more completely. I love when your questions make the guests head tilt a little lol Benjamin it was so great to see you here, Personality Isn't Permanent has had a lasting affect on me, I've ready 20 books in the past 5 months and it's the only one I went back to read a second time (so far). And your 30 Day Future Self Program is part of my (ever more consistent) morning ritual. I love you both and can't wait to see where you take 2021. Thank you 🙏

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[@shularosa5164]

Amazing guest. Love Benjamin’s work as much as yours, Tom! Thank you for continuing to bring on the highest quality guests!

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[@TheOlgaKay]

Love Benjamin's approach. Reframing the past, creating the future self to inspire action, gap vs growth, assessing yourself against the old self for progress instead of ideal future self are all such helpful tools! Much appreciated! I'm obsessed with this approach now :)

[@michaelvatcher4661]

Going through a traumatic experience now that was unimaginable just a month ago. Searching out those little shreads of hope. This was so helpful for looking forward, thinking through things now, and looking at the past and the hard place I'm moving through now. Thank you.

[@farah5804]

Benjamin Hardy explains complex psychological concepts into simple terms that most people can comprehend. Great interview Tom!

[@monocyte2210]

I agree. I took down a lot of notes from this.

[@ramakrishnna8446]

I heard this when I needed to hear it! Thank you Tom - you truly do create IMPACT! that matters!

[@awakeninganna]

Tom I absolutely love this conversation parts of his story gave me goosebumps It’s really juicy 18 minutes in and love listening to this perspective of how our present gives meaning to our past and what makes us conscious beings is seeing multiple futures and using the presents to align with which future we want 🙌🏼 I appreciate him recommending other books on this topic and also love that he quotes other authors. I also love that he calls everyone out that if you are still thinking of your past the same way you did 5 years ago then you are not growing expanding or asking big enough questions 🤯 it is so important for us to gain perspective especially from those who initially inflicted trauma in our past. Be the empathetic witness in other peoples lives we can all heal and expand just by listening and using compassion instead of judgement. ❤️

[@david.walters]

"They are watching you... but you are stronger, more powerful than you can imagine, they cannot harm you anymore... you are made of light, you are eternal" This came to my mind while meditating with this music... my heart rate was strong, I started to swing softly... like... vibrating? I don't know... just wanted to share... Love to everyone... specially YOU!

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[@lanikiamccloud4227]

Wonderful presentation!! Thank you, will buying this book and the other recommendations!

[@blacksheepk3227]

This one got me SHOOK in a good way.

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[@MusiC14545]

Been following Hardy for a years, great guy and top knowledge!

[@SuzanneRobichaudHypnotherapist]

This is such a great conversation !! Loved every second of it... Thank you so much. Buying this book :)

[@meshover]

Such a great interview! I've followed you (Ben) for a couple of years now, love the work you are doing and applying it to my own life, and I've read (and recommend) your books. Thank you for sharing your life in such a vulnerable way. It's truly empowering! Tom - I am just learning of your work through this interview, you have great interview skills and great to watch. I'm subscribed and will be watching more. Thanks for the work that you do!

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[@carriejohnson7816]

Wow! This interview is life changing! Thank you!

[@mike28110]

Surprisingly, this video came exactly when I needed it. Benjamin is awesome and very helpful, as is Tom. Kudos everyone. Good luck on reaching your goals.

[@shereebent5930]

Thank you and the very same to you.

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@artturock820]

l love the show notes abnd quotes for all Impact Theory Podcasts. This interview and the entire body of podcasts is a huge contribution to improving our ability to make effective choices---the essence of freedom! Keep going for it Tom B + team Impact!

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@ShamanicLightHealing]

This really inspired thoughts of goals I had years ago. I was feeling stuck because of trauma that resurfaced. This interview has turned things around for me. Also really cool he mentioned David Bednar, another person that turned my life around when I met him.

[@ocmetals4675]

This interview was fantastic! I liked the Bednar story about the firewood and the pick-up truck.

[@CAIrondad]

Wow.... loved, LOVED this.... near the end, seemed reminiscent of Goggins' message.... pushing through adversity..... accepting emotions and experiences along the way.... etc.... EXCELLENT interview. I'm getting the book ASAP

[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Hey there! Thanks so much for the support! It was an incredible opportunity to work and talk with Tom. I hope you enjoy the book!

[@paulleyva5076]

Tom, you are one of the best interviewers on KZbin. Thanks for this content!

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@caronmorgan4100]

Thank you, thank you, thank you. What an excellent and enlightening interview.

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[@MarleneChism]

Currently my favorite author on my favorite podcast. Soooo good!

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[@RozzaMindset]

Very useful video! I needed it! Thank you for sharing with us such valuable content!

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[@lizjardine3076]

that talk was a WOW!!! THANK YOU Tom & Benjamin!!! I am enlightened!!!

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@UcheNkiru]

The discussion of the past and how who we are today shapes our past is pricelsss

[@thefilipinoentrepreneur5283]

I love this interview... thanks much Tom and Benjamin

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[@angstvision7108]

I'm just over a minute in, but I caught something. I think temperament is the base level fundamental and the personality is the external choice. It's like comparing the guy who likes to fight so he gets into fights because he has that kind of temperament, versus the guy who fights because he has the personality to never back down, but internally, he doesn't like to fight.

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[@shivaninaswa7572]

Loved the conversation. Started to read the book too ‘Personality isn’t book’..it’s just incredible..

[@bewellwithdanyel938]

This is an awesome interview / great info!!! SO SO important for people to know! I've experienced this in my lifetime and time again. It great to use these TOOLS consciously! Thank you.

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[@robhulme1479]

A nice guy with a really good handle on identity, memory & changing who you are

[@nextlevelwarrior]

100%

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[@BottlegardenUK]

Thank you, that was really interesting and expressed some of my thoughts and experiences on past trauma and memory and how we recall and use them. Super helpful!

[@nehainthebay]

Great content 👍🏽 Discussion on nature/nurture and fixed mindset theory was especially great. ✨

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[@FrenchPhotos]

Tom you introduced a lot of people in my life in the past. And after finishing 3 of Benjamin Hardy's book recently (because he's just so good and I hope he'll see this and finally reply to my email), I'm so happy that fate brought you to each other. (or maybe Benjamin's who.) Haha! I am so happy. May the universe bless you more, Tom!

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[@alimoon4723]

Wow this was so great! Thanks for sharing, Tom!

[@ARINDAMSARKAR1]

Thank you for this video and spreading awareness about human psychology ❤️

[@AmyJackson-_-85]

True nobility is not about being superior to your fellow man. True nobility is about being superior to your former self.” - Ernest Hemingway.

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[@saratonnan]

Great discussion! Thanks for this. 💜

[@debrabloch3003]

Wooooh what a great concept ... The potential of who we are changes as we go through life. I Love the phase "we are meaning making machines" the meaning we make of things and how we perceive events should always be looking at good and as a result more good will come into our life.

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[@TRYumphCoaching]

You can change other wise a lot of people will have excuses about why they cannot succeed and get better. 💥 Having a growth mindset is key.

[@NancyHauschildt]

My new FAVORITE book!

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[@lucian1607]

Heavy knowledge here! Thank you for sharing!

[@marlahernandez9267]

Great interview! Tom, you always ask the best questions:) But I shook my head during the 5 stair kick flip part. My son tried to do that, broke his leg and ankle bone popped off!

[@musicvixen24]

This was great to listen to. Very helpful

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Watching it now... feedback to follow

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[@ReynaSingh]

Keep up the good content Tom 🙏

[@mars1783]

Hi Reyna!!! I 👍 he's very cool... loved hearing how he was bullied as a kid, but fought back!!! Awesome

[@monocyte2210]

Perfect timing. I was thinking about this topic these past few days

[@nextlevelwarrior]

It's so epic when things are affirmed like this

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[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Hey there! What awesome timing! I hope this was able to help! Please reach out to my team if you have any questions!

[@monocyte2210]

@@dr.benjaminhardy wow thanks Benjamin, I already watched your other videos and your website.

[@mthandazolusinga66]

This is next level, whatever that means, Tom you the best and always interview the very best, appreciate Benjamin s knowledge and experience great interview 🙏💥💝👌👏

[@rajasingam2010]

Exactly what I needed to hear!

[@aldoaguilar5121]

This interview got to me. Gotta change the narrative, the meaning and the point of view

[@moira5675]

This guy seems to be really genuine 👍

[@RaluBoza]

Thank you Tom for all that you do

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[@MyPersonalCoachingClub]

The power of journaling cannot be overemphasized. Super effective !!

[@mars1783]

Yeppers Sgt Peppers 🌶 😋

[@adanaryjacques7776]

I want to keep clicking more thumbs up, if I could I would!! Was skipping back so much, had to grab a notebook. Ahh, I needed this, so grateful for both of you today (and in my future 🙏.) Wish you great success on the book. [I am struggling with the discussion of our "actions give an outcome". It's hard to accept that where I am currently was created by me and me alone. When I think this, I lean towards mental pictures of people who caused the hurt (my traumas) that immobilized me. It's hard 😔 but there's so much to take away from the talk. I will seek more of your work and apply it right away. Thanks again]

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[@polymathpark]

Life-hack to more easily reset your personality: recite and reflect on the principles listed in this video in mantra form while under the influence of psychedelics, to absorb and apply them 10x faster. As long as you're already comfortable with these substances! Thanks so much for all your efforts, Tom and Benjamin!

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@@akhandpratapsingh3369 this is great!

[@megankwisdom]

One of my favorite spiritual practices is called "rewriting the past" but I've never told anyone about it because I know they would think I'm crazy

[@reinaldomartinez13]

tell me about it, I'm interested

[@megankwisdom]

​@@reinaldomartinez13 I don't remember which book it was from, but the author I got it from is Sanaya Roman. I highly recommend her books Living with Joy, Personal Power through Awareness, and Spiritual Growth, which provide a lot of other practices that are really helpful as well. Anyway, basically the process is a meditation or visualization in which you take a painful memory that you feel is holding you back in some way and reimagine it in a beneficial way, you basically replay it in your mind the way you would have wanted it go. As you reimagine the painful memory, you can release the negative emotions attached to it and forgive yourself and/or others involved. I've used this process many times before and it has helped relieve anxiety around painful memories and helped me develop more self-acceptance and self-love, which I always struggled with.

[@gutsyparenting4300]

I also love rewriting the past AND future Self-journaling 💚

[@gutsyparenting4300]

@@megankwisdom and love Sanaya Roman meditations! ;)

[@megankwisdom]

Omg yes! I have a huge library of her guided meditations. Have been doing them for years 💜

[@MindNow]

*Remember that your thoughts become your reality* 🙏❤️

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Hello!

[@d5396]

First comment!

[@mars1783]

Absolutely

[@JonathanMcGuinness]

Fantastic Episode!

[@stephaniepittaluga5057]

I am sooo grateful for this interview!!! This is pure gold.

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Thank you! This is awesome 👌

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[@charliehobson33]

I got the audiobook, 1/4 of the way through and it is amazing, really helping me, it feels like the perfect book for me at this moment, helping with the blocks.

[@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12]

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[@wafaibrahim369]

Thanks for sharing information knowledge excellent idea regarding improving the personal ty explained in very great full way

[@beyondlimitswithralphhaven2000]

thanks Tom, love your work. saw you at FHL last year

[@kruseisthetruth]

Hardy is a G! Great interview

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[@coppersense999]

13:20 First Ive heard that trauma affects my ability to envision my future but I can relate.

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[@101hamilton]

This was one of my favorite interviews! Thank you for posting. I just purchased the book!

[@dannykweller7873]

Thank you for this wonderful insightful and honest conversation, its like west world we all have a cornerstone to our narrative that you really have fight hard if you want to re write your initial programming

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@twiheart4life]

I love your videos. You add so much value!

[@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12]

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[@lytecyde]

Just got a seriously important insight into my own trauma! Thanks for this interview! and it is Time and Psychological Explanation by Brent D Slife that is missing from the synopsis.

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@socialmediamarketing-milen8847]

“We are meaning making machines” .. sounds like Tom took Landmark 😊 Life changing course that covers a lot of this. It’s interesting how human nature is to think negative or self blame for many situations. Why couldn’t we be wired to always see situations as positive? I guess it’s why we go through journeys and have to train ourselves to reprogram our mindset.

[@dr.benjaminhardy]

Thanks for the feedback! I totally agree; it's like we have to train our brains to see and do better, and then keep practicing it.

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@crushitwithkris]

Thanks for this 😊

[@bageshwaradhamanubhavreact12]

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[@padidehboloorizadeh1434]

This Was AMAZING 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

[@alvarojoseortiz]

I really appreciate this episode specially because Benjamin opens up and exposes himself to how f*** up he was. David goggins says that's when you can really relate to people's stories.

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@qorileequixotic4795]

I love this so MUCH

[@satvindergill4194]

So much good info

[@mcee555]

Hey Tom, can you perhaps get someone prolific on Islam please (e.g. Mohammed Hijab an Islamic student KZbinr)? I think ancient religions have some great wisdoms to part. I love all your stuff and recently I have been digging deeper into Islam, and see so much reinforcing wisdom from both that kind of light me up like never before!

[@yedeydreamer777]

Loved it!

[@a111oveWrldWde]

Thank You! ✨😃 .DivineTiming⏰

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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[@wafaibrahim369]

Thanks for sharing 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️💫🌿🕊

[@djamilamonteiro8951]

Fantastic!

[@AberrantArt]

I wake up tired and lethargic every day with complete pessimism. I hope this interview can teach ways to have energy and positivity each day.

[@MrFrank107]

If you're a male, check your testosterone levels. Sounds like you suffer low T. As for pessimism... find a way out of the darkness asap. physical fitness (working out) will release all the good chemicals in your head.

[@AberrantArt]

@@MrFrank107 thanks for the tips. I've had my testosterone checked, right in the middle of normal range. I train 4 days a week. It helps but not enough to rid myself of the pessimism.

[@lytecyde]

Check Huberman , Wim Hof and Goggins to get moving !

[@AberrantArt]

@@lytecyde I watch all the Goggins clips, do the Wim Hof guided breathing. I'll check out Huberman.

[@slippo99]

Welcome to middle age

[@nataliagomez4825]

Super interesting!!! I like it a lot.

[@akhandpratapsingh3369]

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