He’s a good man but not her “type”… should she date him?👀

[@tisha812]

My question would be..."How's your type working out for ya?"

[@dodlevez]

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[@christopherturner4605]

Right 😂😂😂😂

[@melinda3242]

Bloop! This. That's why a lot are single cuz of wanting "their type".

[@ayeshakarreem8813]

The statement “Try it, you might like it” can be applied to many different things. 😊😏

[@tinyking11]

THIS‼️ I’m currently not dating my type anymore. I had to ask myself this. It has never worked out for me. 🥴😮‍💨💯

[@Prismatic9008]

Sometimes, your "type" is where you're going wrong 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@yoboybigj875]

This is why half of black women think all black men are trash because they never want to date the good they rather have the baller,rapper ,thug or bad boy because of poor dating picking choices..

[@thecoach11]

Say it louder for those in the back

[@king489]

women they care about how you make them feel....women do not practice self improvement and they do not trie to have a good relanshiosp with God and herself. If a man and a woman do not put God first and love themselves, do not expect a good relationship with anyone.

[@rodom9195]

Bingo

[@sisjones623]

That part !!

[@rochellethundercloud346]

THIS!! It's not your type, it's your pattern. Date someone you normally wouldn't. You could find your prince.

[@tcs07d]

Practically the fantasized (disney) premise of the beauty and the beast.

[@R.Yvette.X.]

Or another frog. As long as you learn something.

[@jag2666]

Prince? You mean king lol

[@jackiedavidson4305]

or your queen 😉

[@markusbanks7572]

I truly agree

[@chosen2serve1]

Stepped outside “my pattern” and married my prince now king and December 2024 (God willing), we’ll be 30 years married!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏽

[@jusjazz89]

Aww congratulations!!!🎉 If you don’t mind me asking, what was your “pattern” before you were married?

[@chosen2serve1]

For me, back then, it was about appearance, his possessions and if the honeymoon period was strong I would fall hard (give my all, in a short period of time to MAKE it work). Chasing pipe dreams and waterfalls. Ignored red flags like the plague, just to name a few.

[@jusjazz89]

@@chosen2serve1 hey we’ve all been there a time or two. Glad you’re were able to pinpoint where you needed change and was able to have a success story in the end 😊

[@BC2023NYC]

Congratulations and glad to hear. Even though things didn’t work out for me when I was married I’m glad to see it’s still working for others out there

[@MrKkilla24]

🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@dredey1971]

I think before any woman tries this advice, she needs to be healed and mature. Trying this when you dont have the "type" out of your system is dangerous for all involved.

[@Artemis-True]

See you can’t do different if you don’t know different. MOST people change for 3 reasons. 1. Awakening of self 2. No choice 3. God. And if you really think about it. All of the reasons are the same. BUT FIRST YOU GOTTA KNOW AND BELIEVE THERES BETTER IF YOU BECOME BETTER.

[@Dwillztx]

These women just settling for whoever will actually take care of them while dealing with their bs

[@MzSweetzTalk]

Facts 🎯💯

[@sickofguysnamedtodd2293]

They never have their type out of their system. They just settle for something different out of necessity when they need help, not love.

[@honeyisnatural5]

That’s what I did. I let go of my “type”. Then God actually sent me a man with all the stuff I never knew I needed.

[@moniqueburnham2200]

That part!!!!

[@metatronblack]

It wasn't god that sent him. You let go of the type you were looking for before.

[@TroyP20]

Amen Kevin Samuels used to say what you need looks opposite of what u want.

[@tisha812]

You better testify!!!

[@rgtunderworldrgt7773]

God ain't send you sht. If anything your shtty experiences from bad choices finally opened ya eyes to the losers you were picking. From the Man's perspective ( which y'all Never consider) Why would God send me someone that's been run thru and mistreated by Losers? When he could have sent me a good woman with No negative Experiences and traumas? I'm a good man and never dogged no women...why make me Mr Clean up in Aisle 7? But of course... only the female perspective is all y'all see Not at all selfish and self centered 🧐 He must be incredibly happy...Not

[@kishahelena5312]

I think there is a difference between "not your type" and "it doesn't feel right". Because a person can be "good" and not be the right fit for you. I've met plenty of decent guys, but it didn't workout because it didn't feel right, and I couldn't get comfortable with them. If I can't be myself then it doesn't matter what he is. It had nothing to do with wanting the thrill of a bad boy. Also, attraction is important, doesn't mean they have to be 6ft, but you do have want to look at them and be with them sexually. That said, if you are skipping on a guy because he's too nice or doesn't make you crazy (full of drama), because he doesn't wear designer clothes, because he shows respect and actually gets back to you in a timely manner. Then yeah, that's a pattern you need to get out of. No one should be shamed for not feeling like someone isn't a match even though, they are a nice person, if it simply doesn't feel right. I've tried to make something work with someone, I wasn't feelin', but they were nice, I never caught up to them in feelings and I hurt them. After that, I told myself I wouldn't date someone that clearly liked me more than I like them, no matter how nice they are. *Note, someone did ask, I am in a relationship, we are going on 5-years, he's 5'6 and awkward as hell. I like tall like most chicks, but I'm highly attracted to my partner and he is my type I have always been had a things "dorky and awkward". Not all types is the "bad boy" or the "rich guy", some of us like the dorky and funny guy.

[@r.walker7986]

exactly. Not sure why she immediately jumped to the idea that the girls "type" was a drug dealer or a bad guy. A type can be nurturing, it can be artistic, it can be funny, it can be highly intelligent, etc. We really need to stop trying so hard to push people into relationships with people they just dont like...

[@hereforit2347]

One hundred percent. 💯💯💯💯

[@Alexandrite7]

​@r.walker7986 So true! And this is the reason why a lot of relationships don’t last. Especially with men. A lot end up cheating with their "type".

[@Drea007-YT]

THIS is the comment!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Needs to be pinned!

[@terribrown6930]

Thank you.

[@mactherealestateman]

Once again, Kittie hit the bullseye! 🎯

[@meicealways5842]

Yup! She’s right! As soon as women change their type they always find their person

[@tinyking11]

💯💯😮‍💨

[@jmar385]

Most of the time it be too late, because most end up as a single mothers and some had too many partners

[@meicealways5842]

@@jmar385 i see it differently…thanks for your input tho

[@seekeroftruth45]

​@@meicealways5842its the truth whether you like it or not

[@Dwillztx]

No shit because she settles for any guy willing to put up with her shit and give her what she wants even if she doesn’t actually love him. But years later (according to real stats) she’s going to leave/divorce him. 😂

[@trondadon2527]

lol nope. As a guy, if you aren’t into me/im not your type, please DO NOT try and continue to date me. I can handle rejection so be up front. I’d rather have someone who has genuine burning desire for me, than someone who is settling. If you haven’t done the inner work on yourself to even receive certain openness to expanding your type, then you clearly aren’t ready, or aren’t my cup of tea.

[@rossnyanga]

No, please don't date him and waste his time, energy, and opportunity to find someone whose "type" is a good man. You attract reflections of you, keep working on you and eventually you will desire your best good. Don't try to make anyone fit, that isn't fair to them or you.

[@diaryofamadlacefront6928]

Hell nah😂if i ain yo type let me know, so i can leave you alone!

[@dodlevez]

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[@Only1WithAnE]

That part!

[@sickofguysnamedtodd2293]

Exactly. The best thing they can do for guys who aren’t their type is leave them the hell alone. Because we know you’re just settling for him and if a dude who was your type came into the picture you’re gonna cheat with him, or dump dude for him or both. So just stay over there, don’t waste a dudes time if he ain’t your type. Good men are not just something to be settled for.

[@crw3673]

My girl was 100% correct! This all goes back to maturity. The things that you are looking for at 15 are not necessarily the same thing you are looking for when you are 25! And surely when you are 35, the qualities that were listed from 1 to 5 have surely have changed or have dropped out your top 5 entirely! Case in point. If you are 45 and still looking, you are looking for a person that is now loyal, healthy and financially stable! You weren't looking for that at 15! Those things weren't probably in your top 5. As you get older, your mind changes. What was very important at 20 isn't so important at 30. Choose wisely for the long haul!🤔

[@redroses309]

I just love her. She brought reality to that statement " he's a good guy but not my type" she didn't mean jump on a gifted horse because you can. She's just saying sometimes you could explore the opportunity to know for sure.This doesn't mean getting sexually involved with the person. Just take a little more time to getting to know a person.

[@acedhj]

I disagree with this. Don't waste a good guys time if you're not attracted to him. If you're finding that your "type" are not good guys, then first look inward and work on changing your type. Don't stay with him because of how he treats you if you don't find him appealing.

[@adilmustapha1862]

Speaking from experience I think

[@jon3326]

💯 you don't deserve a good man if you need to learn how to love him. do your healing work first before you approach him!

[@yoboybigj875]

In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.

[@hers_bodysoulmind]

I definitely agree…

[@rgtunderworldrgt7773]

That's Not what the message is

[@lonitagraham8399]

I almost missed out on an opportunity to experience an amazing relationship with someone, with the same mindset. Absolutely nothing was there.....Out with a friend one evening had too many drinks!!! He took me to his home. I was so very vulnerable. Never made it home that night. Just petrified, ended up going to sleep and woke up in the morning!!! He never touched me or tried anything. He woke me up to breakfast in bed. Then he started looking very different to me , the respect, boundaries he never crossed. The kindness. Naturally doing things with effort or forcing. I Changed my whole mind about him. We started dating for two yrs. Best relationship I have been in.

[@tonyalston4838]

What ended up happening ?

[@blue-greensunshine9991]

I agree with what she said. HOWEVER, a lot of times men and women ignore their "type" and go for the "good" man/woman, only to end up cheating on said good person with a man/woman that's actually their type! Yes, 💯 physical looks shouldn't be your ONLY consideration, but the truth is that it matters in the long run. Because some years or months into your marriage, when your type struts infront of you and you don't have the integrity to not fall for them, you'll find yourself destroying whatever you've built and fucking over a good person. And a lot of times, the person cheating is so comfortable doing it because they know just how "good" their partner is, as in probably kind and forgiving or trusting... they take advantage of their partners' goodness to engage in affairs with people who are actually their type. I mean, if you can admit that sexual compatibility is a thing, you must also admit that so is physical attraction/compatibility. Downplaying those aspects is how you end up unsatisfied and your eyes start to stray, and soon your body follows as well. Look at how good someone is, yes, but also try as much as you can to find someone with those qualities, who also looks and vibes with you the way you want.

[@yoboybigj875]

In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.

[@gilbertigabe7331]

If you've had sex with your types only then how do you break from that??. And Your type is usually your canal type, your fantasy, which is usually everyone else's, generally. She's light skinned and thick, he's tall and handsome!!!. To be safe abstinence works better, until you meet someone whom you match values, mindset, good chemistry, and physical attraction to an extent, cause that changes eventually, or it could change very suddenly.

[@blue-greensunshine9991]

@gilbertigabe7331 People marry partners they have similar values with. However, they never cheat with someone because of their "matching values and mindset". Idk about women, but men quite literally cheat on their partners with women they may not even have had an opportunity to have an in-depth conversation with to ascertain whether or not they have similar values. It's all about physical attraction and what's rocking their boat atm. And no, not every man wants a thick lightskinned woman. I wouldn't even say that's what majority are attracted to. Men are also attracted to darker women, lean women etc - but idk where you come from, so I digress. The breakups when you're sleeping with your type happen because you only looked at the physical aspect of an individual and forgot to check whether you're compatible on other levels. Which is why I said that values are important, but I will still emphasise that you should definitely not stray too far away from what you're physically attracted to. It is not impossible to find someone with similar values, who is also physically your type. It takes time, but most people are impatient. But it is in no way impossible. I agree with you that abstinence would solve a great deal of relationship problems, especially among younger people. However, that is a path for the strong, and the greater majority is weak. So most people are not going to do that.

[@Zero-s7k]

I always think it's funny how a women calls good man "boring" are the same women that never grow up stable structure or had consistency. How life now, is a perpetual wing door of men, live in constant fear of uncertainty, and never had anything of their own. "Boring" as women say, is safety and comfort, and security, not chaos and fear. AI is supposed to replace 80% of female related jobs by 2030 and 46% of women in America are single mothers

[@Zero-s7k]

​@@gilbertigabe7331nah beauty fades that thick ass looks good but that shit will sag. People think about right now and not the future. Her ego is going to heavily inflated. Don't forget most women are single for a reason

[@WebJ-ts3rm]

Yeah there has to be a balance between attraction, and compatibility, of course being 100% compatible isn't realistic, but there should be reasonable understanding and common ground.

[@yoboybigj875]

I agree , I feel like people are more focused on attraction than seeing are they really compatible with each other because some time they're not able to get both the looks and someone with moral/value.i see people online post or say don't approach them if they're ugly...

[@yoboybigj875]

You make a very valid point! In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives. Thank you for sharing your insightful thoughts!

[@lifewt]

“Oh we wasn’t supposed to name-drop?” “I’m sorry” 😂😭💯💯

[@d_vyneblackkrown1201]

He can have all the good characteristic ...but ain't my type ? How am I going to be sexually attracted to him ? Or vice versa? He gone cheat or I ll be sexually frustrated 🤷🏾. Type and attraction IS important. In my opinion.

[@rdkirk3834]

She said "learn to love." Human beings are not animals. We like what we _decide_ to like. There is a whole multi-billion dollar advertising industry that convinces us to like something different every few months. We love whom we _decide_ to love.

[@d_vyneblackkrown1201]

​@@rdkirk3834 I disagree, we don t decide what we like or love. Attraction and desire are feeling you can't dictate their direction. Learn to love is one thing ... How many are with a man because it s convenience not because of attraction or deep sense of love ? Will and Jada. You love what you love ... YES it can last a lifetime to find the right person but I don t truly believe in settling in the name of " learning" to love or build an attraction that was not there from the get go 🤷🏾 If we want to have this conversation we have to be totally 💯...and honest And when I say attraction I am not talking about physicality only ..

[@misguidedpearls7456]

It has a place to a degree yes This discussion she didn't ask any questions to find out What the girl meant

[@rdkirk3834]

@@d_vyneblackkrown1201 Back in the 60s, we as a generation of young black people made a conscious _decision_ that black is beautiful. We consciously _decided_ that natural is beautiful. We literally changed our minds on what "beautiful" is. My own wife was not, when I first saw her 41 years ago, my idea of "beautiful." She was all right. But I loved talking to her from the first few minutes. I loved her kindness, I loved her intelligence. I loved that she liked the esoteric things I liked (that I'd never found a black woman liking before). And then this thing happened: I began to like her appearance more and more. She began to appeal to me more and more. I look at her now, after 41 years, and I honestly think she's aged to be far and away more beautiful than any of the women I knew back then has aged.

[@d_vyneblackkrown1201]

@@misguidedpearls7456 FACT this question has so many under lawyers to unfold... And not enough precision and specific on what she defines by ..." Attraction"

[@quanetramartin5879]

Speak to em Kittie 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 Oftentimes, people create a "type" based on other people's "perception or expectations" of who they should be with. At the end of the day, your family and friends aren't going to have to deal with that "type" behind closed doors. Choose your mate based on intentional chemistry and not characteristics, and you could live happier!

[@trenastewart2599]

She always speaks with class and facts.

[@yusufhasaan8781]

Yeah this is nonsense you need to be fully attracted to the one you’re with. It’s not everything but It’s important

[@courtnmoopsmama]

If I feel a genuine connection with a man, he’s my type 😂😂😂 and I mean a deep, spiritual connection.

[@ninacoven1705]

Yea a lot of us created a type unknowingly that our type can sometimes block our blessings. That’s why I need to pray or outweigh the person. Great topic

[@bradleycampbell245]

Nah this ain’t it. If I’m not your type, stay away from me. I will never pursue a woman that’s gonna do the bare minimum or feels like she has to force herself into liking me. One thing I’m learning that I’m not compatible to be with every woman out here just because I’m a good man. Preference is preference and woman like what they like. I refuse to marry any woman that I’ve wasted my best years on and sacrificed a lot to keep her, just for her to file for the divorce saying that she settled for me

[@Xzilesenju]

I love this woman ⛪️👸🏿

[@pabloconstanza5618]

she did jackson dirty but she spitting facts though

[@jmar385]

He did his self like that

[@pabloconstanza5618]

@jmar385 facts you gonna talk about how men need to step up and you the first person to cheat and you did it twice what a joker

[@mrpgarner1982]

He did himself dirty.

[@alexistaylor7483]

Your type should be a Godly man. And no other. Honey if he don't love father and christ. If he don't pray about you. If he don't think highly of you. He will never love you. It's that simple any person or God will love you forever. They would thank God every day you are here. So until you come to father and christ. Your flesh will lead you. And you will fall into your own grave of grief. Praying for you my dear sister. In the mighty name of Jesus. 🙏🏼 ❤

[@kishamceady1359]

Which he said is so true.My psychology professor said when you start to get to a certain age, you're not even concerned about looks anymore.You're concerned about what this person can do to help you better your life

[@jaeraee3437]

You have to find an attraction to the person. If not dont date them 😮

[@detroitboxingtv9875]

It’s great advice. The hardest part is that the man has to worry about that fantasy “type” approaching his woman and just hoping she doesn’t fold behind his back due to temptation. even tho she learned to love you and all these great things, you just never really know

[@shekinahkaconda2309]

That was the cutest "am sorry" I've ever heard❤️😂

[@RShaun]

Felt like Ether should have played when she leaned back! 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@arieldanyette]

the way she looked in the camera lmao

[@nigelbrown6070]

Kittie you as well as Tripp give a dose of reality every time you speak. I love this ability that you both have

[@r.walker7986]

People are attracted to who and what they are attracted to for a reason. Some things just look better to you than other things and that ok. Preferences are ok. But you have to assess all of this there is nothing wrong with having a type as long as your type is not something that's going to harm you or bring difficulty into your life. Like she brought up dope-boy types, of course you need to evolve beyond that but if your type is artistic becasue that's how you are wired then its not a bad criteria to prioritise. Opposites do not attract.

[@dreyb1801]

Maybe she was referring specifically to physical attributes.

[@shontaemitchell7274]

Perhaps she means she is not attracted to him. Because you can't fake that

[@claymorekwaramba6937]

The one she's attracted to is BROKE & can't pay bills. Good luck chasing cute , muscles and good looks .

[@konsyansnou8623]

So true. I can see some wedding bells in some near future with my actual girl, and the decision is not based on looks. It's based on character, on how we handle conflict, support each other in hard times, how we are with each other, and with each other's respective circle. Everything else comes secondary. In my younger age, I had some types, but that would constantly change and couldn't get me too far. Lots of wisdom in what that lady is saying

[@dumpd6227]

Yet Derrick Jaxon is still giving relationship advice, and people are still paying attention to him. Why? The blind leading the blind.

[@smoothsavage2870]

It's because his viewerbase is women and he's pandering to them. They wont stop supporting because they're attracted to him. He's using his Halo Effect to get paid.

[@mssheena24]

Facts 🧑‍🦯👩‍🦯👨🏾‍🦯😂😂😂

[@Jazzyone246]

I dont see the hype face wise he is average, i cant believe some black women are still showing support to him and they wonder why they single

[@mikeyc1125]

I’ve said this before Derrick is their perfect man he’s their fantasy the kind of man they want and I fear they’ll never Not listen to him and follow him but let them do what they will we won’t worry about them

[@Scottie93]

This is exactly why I can’t stand him. He’s playing on the same team and calling out his teammates for their ain’t ish behavior while he’s just like them. Ol hypocrite ass ninja

[@Oorchids]

I get the whole type thing but There's just some things im not willing to compromise on! Especially sexually! I don't care how fine you are or how well you communicate or what you have financially, I will not compromise what I like sexually! I've tried and was miserable! No thank you!

[@misguidedpearls7456]

I dated 2 men in life Not my type Turned out to b crazy n evil .. Soooooo This conversation needed more questions Its not black n white... Everybody got 1 box answers But ask no questions to gain insight

[@yoboybigj875]

In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.

[@ruthcook8599]

#KITTY GIVING KNOWLEDGE 🎯💯🔥🖤

[@jeffreykgatitsoe627]

I love this melanin Queen's intelligence and man that deep, clear voice does things to me.

[@raidennc]

This is exactly right. I love my wife, think she is beautiful, and we are very happy 12 years in. And neither of us were each other's "type" heading into it. Character, values, and connection have been what has mattered the most.

[@jadamsjr_]

Facts. Take it from experience, you can have all the physical qualities and the actions of that person will turn you completely off.

[@sorandom2028]

Someone said "sometimes you don't know what you need until it arrives"

[@edwardjmayer87]

The problem is that they date the same man, he may be taller, he may have a different complexion, he may be more muscular, but at the end of the day is the same damn man.

[@ranatawilliams8181]

Speak it, mama. Speak it. I've been there did that. Everything you saying is facts

[@shaneejoseph6074]

Damn kitty you savage for name dropping like that but you were so right about what you were saying so it doesn't matter😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@BluBoiART]

Nothing but a WORD

[@gillokonkwo791]

I’ll never pursue a woman that says I’m not her type. I’m hope the guy is watching this

[@Michelle-so2hz]

Love you girl 💁🏽‍♀️. That’s my type 🥰🥰

[@slbllc]

Facts! I finally got married after some much needed therapy, time alone and dropping the whole "MY TYPE" bull....let it gooooooooooooooooooooooooo

[@danyettelee1686]

So you meet somebody who is not your type… you hit it off what happens when it’s time to be intimate and you’re not attracted to that person to be intimate. But everything else is cool ….but the attraction and the intimacy it’s just not there….Statistics still show the largest reason for divorce is finances sex sex sex sex and more sex (sad but true) what do you do? So the woman is not dating her type? and she’s not attracted on an intimate level to this man … THEN WHAT? Do men date outside of their TYPE??? NO! is it a situation where women find themselves settling again :( ❤this channel

[@sacred_soundscapes_]

Physical type matters!!.... Physical attraction matters!!....Married a man that wasn't my physical type and 12yrs later we're divorced because of the severe lack of physical attraction because he wasn't my type and I should have honored that... You really have to follow your intuition and what truly feels good to you in all aspects of the relationship.....Not the podcast advice because those people don't have to live your life.... You do... Physical type truly does matter... At least in the top 5 of non negotiables

[@nickjones3860]

You’re the problem

[@raizzy33]

EXACTLY.

[@mizzchoc10]

What if he's a good man but has one eye? Or looks like ET. Sometimes looks matter..you gotta be attracted to the person.

[@bigde131]

Y’all are literally the only group of women on the PLANET that think like this. 🤦🏾‍♂️. Literally every other woman wants a good man that’s going to take care of them. Y’all act like animals frfr

[@waterbornesapper7953]

Sometimes with women, her personality, her intelligence, her character comes across as such an attraction it either enhances her beauty, or makes up for the lack of it. Also with women, a lot of the physically and sexually attractive women have absolutely nothing to offer a man except just that...sex. That's why so many females get played over and over again. Physical attraction should be a bonus, not necessarily the foundation. There are plenty of physically attractive women who are butt ugly on the inside. And there are physically attractive men who are nothing more than gift wrapped packages of destruction.

[@PrinceRevolver]

Ya resort to using extreme examples instead of being realistic.

[@bigde131]

Y’all the only group of women that think like this. SMH. Gone learn the hard way

[@laurencameron3150]

@@bigde131😂😂 Why are you lying to yourself? You really think Asians, Latinas, and white women want to be with men they ARENT attracted to???? Would YOU be with a woman you ARENT attracted to?

[@ohanaohana8844]

Why don't we say this to men???!!! It's always the women who has to settle.

[@ibiro868]

Men will date anyone. Women have all these fantasies about who they can and can’t like

[@4fastdrs]

I think the real question is how come a "good man" is never the "type"??? The answer is too many people convince us that Russell Wilson is a "dork" And FUTURE is "DOPE". Without thinking about what a drastic difference in day to day existhence these two men will have on your life. Far too many women focus on getting with FUTURE, without thinking about their futures.

[@Bigdarrin90]

As a man, THE biggest read flag I hear is “I don't normally date men like you”. Nothing screams trauma and Stockholm syndrome like that. RUN my guy! And RUN FAST. You are not Iyanla. You can't fix her😂

[@yoboybigj875]

In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.

[@lobecosc]

I heard that recently from a girl and she turned out to be crazy. It took me a minute, but I got out from under her.

[@ThePrettiestCommenter]

“You are not Iyanla” 😂😂😂

[@claymorekwaramba6937]

How is your team treating you, paying bills and his duties as a father? She's still learning & will soon realize that " TYPE " doesn't always match characteristics .

[@ShiLoveee]

She didn’t saying anything about being hood or a bad boy. I’ve known a couple of guys that weren’t my type but they weren’t hood either…or into illegal stuff. But they seemed like good dudes. Out of everyone I’ve dated, only 1 is a hood dude (didn’t know at first). Everyone else were regular dudes. So this answer was for one variation of the lady’s question. Which isn’t really that helpful.

[@bfields112]

Ace Metaphor = Derrick Jaxn 2.0😂😂😂😂

[@bobbyblue67]

Love her and tripp they bring so much wisdom at such young ages to the group

[@dynamitesparkles1457]

How do you stop worrying or being insecure that she'll always revert or compare you to her orginal type?

[@Jobes.music46]

There's a woman I'm dating I've been loyal loving and supportive in every way. She's been cheated on lied to etc. But she doesn't appreciate and see the value in me because I'm not her type.

[@FeedMeLeaks]

It's likely she dates strictly by her ego & biases, meaning if you don't meet all of them, she'll label you as not your type. After cheating on me for months, then dumping me while bedridden (pneumonia) & unlawfully terminated, my ex is 2 years into her efforts to crawl back. After she was dumped a month later, she realized she sabotaged everything, because she decided I wasn't her type, no matter what. Each day I was gone, she realized I met her biases & more as she kept failing. I keep her at a healthy distance now and hope she finds someone else as she continues to humble herself. You'll likely leave a major void after leaving, and that's great

[@jaxcoss5790]

She is so right. I had a 'type', but that type is not the man I married, thank god! I was mature enough to recognise who would be good for me and who would not. I couldn't be happier. 😊

[@seansartor]

Derrick was actually providing relationship advice 🤪☠️🤪☠️🤪

[@dodlevez]

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[@smoothsavage2870]

Not really lol. He was too one sided for that.

[@FactuaLens]

This helped me, I was struggling to come into qualms with this topic because I'm going through it. And I'm just gonna head into it because their personality is EVERYTHING. Thank you.

[@illnamethisaccountlater4762]

Don't waste that guys time, go and find your type.

[@JackieBickham-c5t]

You're right 💯💯 and keep it moving forward I💯💯💯🔥🔥⭐🙏⭐🌹🙏🙏 you are right 💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥 keep it real 💯 💯 💯

[@rohanlawrence]

So very well Said... Maturity is needed to see beyond a socialized definition of "type" ..keeping "type" while trying commitment is a recipe for resentment and infidelity when the road gets Rocky

[@shdreamlove17]

If he's a good man but not you're type leave him alone. Let that good man be with a good woman who wants that type.

[@clytchan]

I think everybody has a type, but some of us recognize at some point , that that same type may not be beneficial to our lives. In this country, image still seems to trump substance.

[@cjohnson_]

I don't have a type. Always thought it was silly. Mostly only superficial folks have a type. And like she said it's rarely a type and more so patterns and conditions.

[@laurencameron3150]

@@cjohnson_Nah! It’s a PHYSICAL type and that’s what the woman was referring to! Kitty can’t assume what that womans pattern and conditions are based on one question and as a therapist she should know that! It takes multiple sessions to get to the root of some people’s issues

[@yoboybigj875]

In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.

[@dennisjohnson7139]

Dating the same people over and over and be like i wonder why i haven't found anyone. Lol

[@walkerenterprise1764]

People so lost, they ask a panel of nobodys for advice.. ask your got damn self.. who are these people and what qualifies them??

[@lshinobi9999]

I disagree , i tell ladies all the time, date your type dont settle for the good guy you never wanted or dont know how to be with.

[@terrancewashington7996]

Right bc some people say I just don't date anybody

[@Demerrisk72]

This went over 95% of their heads. They still gonna turn around and go for their "type" when they get out of that environment. Women are the biggest ASKholes I've ever met. Will ask you for your opinion and feedback, agree with you, say they will implement it... then do the complete opposite the very next time. These conversations are pointless when ppl don't actually want to change.

[@patricia2007]

Ole girl melanin be popping tho seriously

[@marianaya5824]

Every time I hear her talk or teach really, I get Aquarius vibes. Her apology here after a deeply TRUTHFUL rant was Allll the Aquarius vibes! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@smc5127]

Date someone who’s not your type bc he’s a good man, he’ll probably treat you better than everyone else and make you happy ❤

[@raizzy33]

Do you tell men to date women who aren't their type? Only women should suck it up and date men that they aren't attracted to, but men get the grace for having a type and grading women on their looks. Bullying a woman into a relationship with a man she isn't attracted to is disturbing.

[@smc5127]

@@raizzy33 then tell that to all the other women this has actually worked for. Stay single and keep going through the same shit over and over bc you were expecting to do the same thing but get a different outcome. Good luck to you……

[@hahadarrie]

Be careful of the not your types. A not your type can present flawlessly and have hidden horrible character.

[@DetoxMyLifeWithTNichol]

Nobody tells men to look at another type of woman. . . We will always and forever be the ones that are told to go for what we need and yet men just continue to go for what they want. It needs to align both ways. And just because a man is good, doesn’t mean he is sexually attractive. But again, nobody tells men to change their type. It’s always the women who have to readjust. I’ve never been a woman who approached men. That’s not how I was raised. And men eliminate themselves by being inconsistent. But I don’t believe that every woman has a pattern as much as men have a pattern when it comes to how they approach and deal with women.

[@David.dalmon7]

Because men don’t marr for money in general. Women can choose a man only because hes rich

[@tootsie2264]

1:27 He doesn't have to be her type but he gotta have money. Ok! I'm not sure I understand. Type or preferences are there for a reason!🙄

[@djsalteenuts]

And how has that served women so far? Right, it hasn’t. She’s explaining how subconsciously events or ppl in your past have shaped many women’s “type”. Following types aka patterns have led many ppl into toxic or abusive relationships.

[@nottodaylilbaldhead]

Girl you missed the whole point. Your type gets you nowhere.

[@kennethgoings5620]

Massive truth. Bulleye fam. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@SuperLadyd7]

I've been noticing lately, that Lots of people mention a Woman "Finding" a Man; when that Is Not Our Job To Do! Maybe thats the Biggest issue. There is Biblical direction in Proverbs 18:22, that is clear on this process. When We as Women/People; focus on God 1st, then ourselves, life goals & purpose; Everything else will come together. Matthew 6:33. Who knows the creature better than the Creator? God Himself preordained All of this prior to our arrival. Starting right there will Always ensure Success. The Most Trustworthy source Ever has given us the playbook with All the rules to Win. You can bet your Life on these facts; Literally. Be Well & God Bless.🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

[@lataviaburrell]

She always give good advice

[@dreyb1801]

I kinda feel bad for the dude. Like, so you know he ain't your type, even though he's a good man right? Women & having men as options. If I were him & I found out, that relationship is over.

[@bradleycampbell245]

And this is why the divorce rate is so high now because social media has influenced modern women thinking they settled

[@dreyb1801]

@@bradleycampbell245 Hmmn. It's crazy.

[@dark8prince201]

No wonder the brown community divorce rate is 48%. When judging people on a surface level, it's not a solid foundation to start a relationship.Reliable,integrity,kind, honest,compassionate,flexible this needs to be at the top of the list. Vibe,energy,swag should not

[@yoboybigj875]

In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.

[@ruthcook8599]

PEOPLE KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING 🎯 💯 🔥

[@owttlaw]

It’s crazy that a “ good man “ is never a woman’s type!! Women will have a “good guy“ fall into their laps ALL THE TIME! But that good guy in NEVER their type.. Then the women will go on to meet another guy who isn’t “a good guy “ give THAT guy a chance, but then when that relationship doesn’t work, the women will complain that there are no good guys in the world!🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[@delconteeallmyharmon5526]

You have to first find that man attractive before dating him also how he treats you also your kids if he's not your type don't waste your time it will always end bad I know this for a fact have a sweet day.

[@UnabashedNerd]

I realized as I got older that the person we want, rarely looks like the person we need. She nailed it

[@ladyjenkx]

Looks don't matter but attraction does. Yes, get some therapy if you’re always attracted to the wrong type but do not marry someone you’re not attracted to.

[@ladyjenkx]

@LsvgsBaibeeThere should be something about the person that draws you to them physically.

[@yoboybigj875]

In today's society, there is often an overemphasis on physical attraction and appearance, which can lead to superficial connections and neglect the importance of mental compatibility. While physical attraction is natural and important, it's crucial to prioritize shared values, interests, and personality compatibility for a deeper and more meaningful relationship. Research has shown that relationships built on emotional intimacy, trust, and intellectual connection tend to be more fulfilling and long-lasting. It's essential to look beyond physical appearance and focus on building a connection that encompasses shared passions, similar values, and a deep understanding of each other's thoughts and feelings. By shifting the focus from solely physical attraction to mental compatibility, we can cultivate more substantial and lasting relationships that bring joy, growth, and happiness to our lives.

[@ladyjenkx]

@@yoboybigj875 I agree. Im just saying dont throw the baby out with the bath water. You definitely need more than physical attraction for a healthy relationship. But that doesn't mean you should ignore a lack of physical attraction. It is important. Especially in a marriage where a lack of desire to be connected physically can make or break the relationship.

[@lamontmoore7381]

When she name dropped, she was at 💯 and I like that 💯✌🏾

[@tousainthart-yc1tr]

That's the Only Woman on the panel that talks sense into women on stage, but why she dropping quarters on camera tho 😒

[@nikyagivens3729]

DAMN SHE'S GOOD!!!! SHE NEEDS HER OWN SHOW PLEASSSSSSSSE ❤❤❤

[@mikeyc1125]

And women Still listen to Derrick 😂 some of them anyway

[@Mrnmayse]

That is why I love her.

[@tinytune]

Damn this hit home. I been with my guy for 2yrs and still not inlove. He's not the typical guy I would go for but he is someone that I need and I'm trying so hard to like/love him like he does me. I need the full show on this on!