Trauma Bonding Breaks Down Your Boundaries

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You have a natural set of boundaries that give you an aversion to danger and mistreatment. Trauma bonding punches a hole in those boundaries. In this video explain how this works.
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[@sonnyca]

I’ve run out of pepper with my narcissistic family. My mother threw in the entire bottle of dawn.

[@pinkrabbit7672]

Hey, I totally resonate with what you wrote Hang in there, do the work, brrak it down to bits and learn to strengthen your connection with yourself , and expect no satisfying closure with them to ever happen - instead , in time , you will be able to get them all off the hook because your happiness within your clear new boundaries and self approval will not be dependent on them in any way. Its a process .. has ups and downs I needed to hear/write this (for) myself this morning 💗

[@princesslollipopmeow2199]

@@pinkrabbit7672 thanks so much for sharing this. I’m finally free to find the true me. It’s like a roller coaster but everything is a life lesson & I’m becoming a better person for it. Love, peace & healing to you & everyone who knows this journey 🥰🌼🌈🙏🏾❤️‍🩹☮️🍭

[@DR-cg1ly]

@@pinkrabbit7672 thank u

[@pinkrabbit7672]

I'm deeply touched by this little thread; to know that I'm not alone; that we all know and share this journey It does help to know that none of us is the only one on the planet with this It is actually quite common And we are actually very normal , Though each one here is a warrior

[@Mara_143]

🎯🎯🎯

[@yuk498]

How cute! You are such a teacher Anna! ❤️

[@user-su7cd6vf9i]

Not me

[@TofuTeo]

This describes how my parents treat me till this day. I’m 22 now. I’ve put up boundaries and broken off all emotional attachment to my parents. But I’m a tender-hearted soul. (How does one deal with the grief and guilt that comes with being forced to put up walls I never wanted to put up?) I have a chronic illness and right now I feel so weak, like I’m dying inside and wasting away physically. I had a traumatic relationship with a dismissive avoidant ex last year. I’m in therapy, but I could still use some kind words if anyone has them. Sending love to everyone who’s suffering far too much, too young, or for too long.

[@fetijajasari9522]

🤗🤗🤗🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🌈🌈🌈

[@faithbelleg7465]

I’m so sorry you’ve been mistreated. I’ll pray for complete recovery, stable friends and healing for your body. Look up eating whole food, plant based. That will help you heal also. 💕 God has a good plan for you! Be strong! You can do this!

[@TofuTeo]

@@faithbelleg7465 Bless you, this came at the perfect time. If only you knew. I appreciate your prayers so much and believe they're making a difference. Thank you so, so much!

[@TofuTeo]

@@faithbelleg7465 I'll look up eating whole food too, thank you 💕

[@starlifter3387]

I’m praying for you, I too have dealt with trauma and bad relationships so I can relate. Most of my early years feels like one huge setback and recovering feels like it’ll take even more time. Sometimes I even wonder if I’ll have a life 😅

[@PkmnMasterHolly]

Awesome analogy!!!!! 👌 ❤️👑✨️

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@purplefireweed]

I've been watching you for years and this is the best description of my abusive relationship I've ever heard. Breaking free of it was a first step in my healing. I would never stand for that treatment today. But back then I was absolutely captivated by the dopamine from the diminishing crumbs of loving levity between all the gaslighting and pain. It's been seven years and I've yet to feel like dating again, which is fine. If I do in the future, I'm much better equipped to recognize and embrace healthy relationship. Thanks to years of therapy, and the Fairy, of course! ✨💫✨

[@twizttiez4910]

Your advice is so wonderful thank you so much.

[@recuerdos2457]

I like that explanation. I broke up with my ex like 10 years ago, and we were on and off until 3 years old due to the pandemic, I started to realized his presence has taken the time and opportunity to improve myself. Alone time is so important to understand who we are and what are important in life.

[@girlofanimation]

This is so similar to my situation. I was too young and naive and it was my first relationship (he was a few years older and had been in one already). He started before we got together (I didn't know he was setting himself up to emotionally abuse me, but was hiding it until he had me attached), then continued lying and withholding signs of love, then only showing "love" when he thought he was losing me. He was also creating unnecessary drama by bringing his female "friends" into the relationship, for lack of better phrasing. He'd hide some sketchy things, and then confess something really harmful to me every month or so, followed by trying to comfort me when he saw my reaction to the emotional pain. We met almost 9 yrs ago when I was very young, and we'd been on-and-off (I kept breaking up with him because I thought that was the right thing to do, but I always got pulled back in) until around the time of the pandemic, too. It took me years to realize that he was trauma bonding me to him. He'd do something that would cause me a lot of emotional distress, then pretend to be the hero to save me from the pain that he caused. When I first left him, I moved across the country, but he chased after me. He seemed to try to win me back for awhile, but then he'd start the cycle of harm-then-comfort. I hope I can make a clean break this time, since the last harmful things he's done didn't just push my boundaries; they were way out of bounds for me. I've been having anxiety attacks every day, since the last few confessions of his. The last one, he tried to comfort me and I refused his hug. He's sending gifts now, but it won't erase what he's done and my "infidelity-like PTSD" (that's what an AI chat of said I might be experiencing). Plus, I found out about trauma bonding last week and have been coming to the realization that the person I thought I knew isn't who anyone thinks he is. The cognitive dissonance is real, because I thought his attempts to comfort me and make things right were sincere until he went too far recently. I feel like I wasted the first years of my adulthood with this guy. I really hope I can get away from him permanently, because I don't see him ever changing for the better (his harmful actions have only gotten worse).

[@crystalzip2002]

@@girlofanimationI hope you are okay and managed to get away from him.

[@pinkrabbit7672]

Dearest Fairy, that was magical❣️ ..and a profoundly precise example. Visuals like this help me get clarity, and to become more confident with what I feel is true Thank you💓

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for the support. Jack@TeamFairy

[@1111angeld]

This was fantastic Anna! Keep doing what you’re doing, you are changing thousands of lives for the better ❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for your kind words. Were glad to hear that our videos are helping. Thank you! Jack@TeamFairty

[@brinalee3362]

Thank you for existing!!! You have helped so much. Honestly, you calm me down.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

So happy to hear that! Glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@suzannedarrell6797]

Brilliant, clear example of trauma bonding and recovery! Thank you!

[@kashish1204]

Beautiful!! Thank-you for all that you do ❤️🧿

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for watching! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@temporarythoughts]

I love how this illustrates that once healed you might even be better off in the long-term (having many more peppers)

[@nicholelesassier1799]

Thank you! This was a perfect example of what is happening in my life with my husband. Childhood trauma of keeping the peace, no longer needed in this relationship! It’s time for me to stand up, save myself ! I’ve been doing the work for almost 3 years now I need action!

[@AbleSue]

Great visual! I prefer to self “psychologize” or treat/heal. Because of this I’m not always sure I’m “doing it right”, if at all - in turn, causing me to feel lost or helpless- or worse, stuck at square 1. This short helped more than you know. Thank you!

[@Frejborg]

This is exactly what I'm going through. I've lost sense of self, I feel unraveled, I don't know what's what anymore. She ends the relationship every week just about. I love when we're together and good, but it feels like it's only when she wants it from me(sex and comfort), then discard. She fights about everything... she insults everything about me, she insults my family, she lectures, condescends, and berates me. And I have such a hard time defending against her. She's convincing me she's right about everything, and I'm wrong about everything. I feel like I'm being trained to be a slave. Often I feel like going no contact, but when she discards me, I feel desperate to keep her in my life. I feel like I love her, and hate her. We don't even like each other. It's been so tumultuous, and she blames everything on me. She threatens me subtly sometimes. I feel like I'm at her mercy, but she's merciless, and cruel. She says I'm entitled, need to grow up, pull my weight, that I'm selfish, and self absorbed. She calls me a narcissist, weak, coward, abusive, and more. Why do I put up with this? Feels like she doesn't want love, but war. Like she wants some kind of puppy dog, slave, and it's all about her. She's convincing me that she's good for me, and that my family are the ones who treat me like the puppy dog slave. I don't know what's true anymore. She attacks the beliefs I had, values I espoused, my experiences. I feel gaslit constantly. When I try to defend myself in arguments, she says I always argue, and that I engineer the bad outcomes. She says I don't listen, that I don't respect her, or love her. It seems to me that she herself does everything that she accuses me of doing. But it seems she's right about me... am I a bad person like she says? She uses everything I've ever confided in her about against me. She's a severe alcoholic, drinks a lot of liquor pretty much everyday, smokes cigarettes too, and weed. I'm needy, and so afraid of being alone, and never achieving anything in my life. I've persued her from the start, and still do, but when I've pulled away, and said it's over, is one of the only times where she shows any need or vulnerability for me. When she's horny, dirty talk, and sex is prevalent, but when I initiate, it's almost always no, and turns into a fight often. She's even gotten angry at me, and started fights when I didn't have sex with her, or when I said no to her physical requests, like rubbing her back. She pays very little mind to sleep and me getting the quality regular sleep that I'm used to. She can be up through much of the night, and wants sex before bed, middle of the night, and first thing in the morning. I give her full body massages, and she barely ever reciprocates. I can't seem to decide if she's my twin flame to change my life for the better, or if she's Satans greatest attack on me ever, sent to destroy me. I've never felt the bond and connection, and pleasure with anyone else, that I feel with her. Even our kissing has always been incredible, I don't foresee that I'll ever have such passionate lovemaking and connection with anyone ever again. It's just hard to imagine topping the intensity. But this is tiring, and some really bad things have happened during this time. I'm not going to say she's all bad. I'm struggling big time. Early on after meeting her, I just knew, she would change me forever. And it seems to be proving true. I had no idea what that would look like though. It's been so painful, but also some of my fantasies have come true by her. I dont know if I can be as she says I should, or if I even want to, but here we are still involved, after more than 2 years. God help us.

[@Vbe796]

Do not put up with this behavior. Sounds like everything she is accusing you of, she is projecting onto you. You need to get out now or you will become more enmeshed as time goes on. Run far and fast, as it does NOT get better!

[@curaturable]

Sounds like you need therapy very unhealthy relationship it's like toxic drug Stockholm syndrome

[@MrChachiyo]

Run.

[@ionageman]

I’m amazed how this has applied to the last 36 years of my life .. I discovered your channel a few days ago .. can’t imagine I can change .. I’ve pretty much given up on life .

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Stick around, see if you hear some strategies you think you could try : -Cara@TeamFairy

[@sarahbaer1593]

What an example

[@helloworld188]

Hi Anna my name is also Anna. I wanted to tell you that your channel has helped me get through some of my worst times. Thank you so much!

[@charumiglani5203]

WOW ! very creative way to teach....Visually learnt we are likely to retain it forever.

[@lucidneptune]

Beautiful!

[@M0J0_]

So we pretty much have to put in more boundaries! Omg I’ve been not feeling safe and feeling so hopeless. When you have trauma and all you want is to be able to trust another. It’s damaging and just makes you want to be more reserved, which in return gets you further and further away from what you want the most.

[@emmamacgregor731]

Very effective, Anna! Thank you!!! Please do more. This is so helpful! Thank you for your example of recovery, all your love, and for all you do!!! You are making the world a better, safer, and nicer place...and showing others how to do the same. Well done!

[@meganjohnson9540]

I didn’t think I could love you any more, Anna, but then you did an awesome science demonstration and made a perfect analogy with it. Yay! Boo trauma bonds, though. Thank you!!! 💕

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Aw... thanks for your kind note. Happy Thanksgiving!

[@paulothx138]

Damn, that was cool, she's a natural teacher.

[@elissacollins1898]

How good ! Love it! Easy to remember.

[@cindy3218]

Awesome!

[@joannkemaldean1541]

That was a perfect demonstration! More should see it!

[@vinitham226]

TQ 🌹,such an awesome msg with visuals to maintain our boundaries 💖

[@kathafulio]

Thank you for the visual it helped me gain an instant understanding. This feeling i get from a complete understanding and totally choosing to trust in what i see , not having to due to autopilot kicking in , is what resetting my neurological pathway feels like. Makes my entire perspective of today positive and hopeful!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for sharing. -Calista@TeamFairy

[@dmt0430]

That is how it worked for me. Now, at 62 I’ve got all my healthy boundaries in place and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been an all my life!

[@scootergirl3662]

This is something I’ve had to learn myself and I’ve had to step away from people who haven’t learned it. The sad thing is that when you don’t set boundaries of what you will and will not put up with, then people who care about you have to decide if they are also going to put up with the crap or if they want to leave. Unfortunately this is why I am estranged from my whole family. It was hard, but now I’ve been able to work on finding found family

[@bellastone-le9eb]

This is good. Today I began the process of healing because I fearlessly set a boundary with someone who was testing my boundaries. I felt healing begin to happen inside all day from this.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you shared that. Thank you! Nika@TeamFairy

[@jbeezy8245]

Wow! This is an impactful demonstration.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I'm glad it was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@dearfuturehubbypodcast]

This is extremely powerful ❤️ Thank you for sharing💕

[@deborahmack8205]

Thank you for making it so clear!!!

[@mariajmc6557]

Needed this was wavering over a close relative.... Giving me bread crumbs....

[@Sandra-hc4vo]

so simple and effective way to describe it. I feel like it really cuts into one's personhood to be in a destructive relationship. and people not in it, i feel like often don't understand.

[@thirstonhowellthebird]

What a great video! Really makes sense. We weren’t allowed to have boundaries in my family as a child. It just wasn’t allowed. The rulers made the rules and we followed them because of utter fear of consequences if we did not. The house was ruled on fear. What a horrible way for a child to grow up and not even know it until decades later.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for sharing. Glad you're here now! Nika@TeamFairy

[@laurenh7286]

OMG I love these adorable kitchen coaching videos. Great teaching tool.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you like them! -Jack@TeamFairy

[@lismi9178]

OMG, this is uncanny 😮 this is exactly what I needed tonight 😮 thanky you ❤❤

[@jodiburnett6211]

What a perfect imagery. A fine line of hot pepper keeps out the vermin. ❤️👍🏼

[@ed000]

Well explained with the illustration

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you! We appreciate that. -Calista@TeamFairy

[@JustMe-uw6yd]

best way iv heard this explained without all the fancy stuff some hv added to the explanation thank u

[@hollylorn131]

Does a narcissist actually know what they are doing with all the ups and downs to get a person addicted to a trauma bond? Is it done intentionally and consciously or is it done below the veil of their consciousness? That's what I'm having trouble understanding. Very good example. I'm really trying my best to understand narcissism and all I went through in a narcissistic relationship with the ex.

[@Sedum54]

They know.

[@356Krisu]

They know full well what they are about and they revel in it.

[@pocasanchez]

It's often both IME. I can expand if you want.

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

Thank you. You finally said it in a way that is not accusatory. Yes that’s exactly what happened. I never had good boundaries because people have worked all my life to erode them. They would then sit back and say you don’t have good boundaries. You think???!!! You nailed it HERE. You deserve both a gold star and a hairy jellybean. Thank you! Intermittent reinforcement sucks hard. We need to write that down. Issue a memo. Make banners. You and Dr. Ramani are nailing it today. She said never out a narcissist. That’s all she said. She made a TikTok, and all it said was never out a narcissist. Good advice. Now, you’ve said that I don’t have good boundaries because of intermittent reinforcement, and people (narcissists) have worked tirelessly to erode them. It feels like someone’s listening. I’m being validated in the most anonymous way possible! Yes please!! Scream that into to void!!!! Now, if we could just tell all the armchair therapists not to victim blame the person that they are supposedly trying to help by saying “you don’t have good boundaries” like they’ve found gold, when in reality, they, therapists, have a good grasp of the obvious. And where the hell does someone go to procure good boundaries?!? It’s your fault you don’t have them--they don’t sell them at Walmart. How much gaslight is that? You can say that I have spinach on my teeth--you can say that I walked through dog poop. Those are obvious, and easily remedied by most people, unless something larger is wrong. But, telling me I don’t have good boundaries, and expecting me to know what you mean, is like you are speaking Cantonese and I can’t find a translator. Brilliant deduction there Holmes! Good work. It’s like walking up on someone who is laying in a ditch bleeding to death, and making a mental note that someone is lying in a ditch bleeding to death for others to eventually find and assist.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Yes! I feel this way also about "find a good therapist" "you need to love yourself" and a bout 100 other things. I guess that's what drove me to make the channel -- to unearth and teach HOW.

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

So true, because loving yourself, as the child of narcissists, means doing whatever it takes to stay off their radar. Whatever you call the survival instinct that keeps you from offing yourself (is love??) is what it takes. Other people outside of religious doctrines don’t describe acts of service as love. Do you love yourself enough to be a full time slave, occasional whipping post, and scapegoat? Do you love yourself enough to stay alive and wait for a better day? That is what loving yourself means to that kid. They are still here. Don’t ask that kid if they love themselves. Ask them what they have done in their own service lately. I can remember my first manicure I hugged the attendant. Neither of us had a handle on that swell of emotion. The guilt I felt for having needed a manicure combined with the gratitude for the act of service from the manicurist. Heady. If we are calling that love, the answer is yes. I’m still here.

[@janewanderlust9668]

fantastic visualization! I wont ever forget it. ❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for your kind words :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@yashiplays3184]

Perfect example 💗

[@candicecan1634]

Love this video!! Such a great illustration!! Thank you ❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for watching. Jack@TeamFairy

[@MissJJoan]

So that’s what trauma bonding is. Thanks for the explanation, good to know.

[@kellyfisher1889]

Soooooo accurate!!! Thank you!!!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for watching! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@excusemyvacantstare2214]

You're amazing! Thank you so much! This has helped alot.

[@imatruthseeker4094]

Thank you for all that you do…I’m learning A Lot!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You are so welcome! Glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@jps.888]

Wow thats the most simple way of explaining it thank you

[@punyashloka4946]

Beautifully explained

[@daniellemason4951]

Great teaching!

[@yelleyelley7036]

Omg I’ve been working with a therapist for month and I haven’t been able to understand this but the kindergarten science experiment did! THANK YOU! So much!

[@claudiasbarra1044]

Oh my Gosh. Thank you so much ♥

[@Lolabelle59]

Great visual metaphor, which I really appreciate. I can relate to this.

[@RookMedia]

thanks needed this today

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for watching! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@needthissong]

What a fun way to visualise it! Even though I know the theory, its so good to be reminded and this image will definitely stick. Thank you for your work 🙏

[@smileyface702]

Fun!

[@rawchantal6990]

Thank you. ❤

[@janessah.2534]

Phenomenal as usual! TY Anna and Team Fairy 💖💖

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for listening! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@ConnieWobbles]

I can't see the visual aid part on my screen 🤔 How odd.

[@debbyphillips6148]

Very good analogy

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for listening! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@user-ey4rc5tu4t]

Brilliant.

[@cbc5095]

While you getting the awareness and on your healing journey, you stay identifying all the people that knew about your abuse and "sympathized" but still took advantage of your weak boundaries. Now that you have your healthy boundaries up you start seeing them having issues with you.

[@user-sg8wf5qo9s]

Brilliant!

[@carlasiqueland5867]

Thank You❤ great visual and explanation

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for watching. - Ashley, Team Fairy

[@Nina94771]

Love this.

[@amanjotkaur4651]

Thankyou!

[@saadiazahra4303]

Nicely illustrated

[@diannashuster5594]

Such a great way to explain it.

[@crystalroseheart]

Perfect visual! Thank you!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you liked it! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@amandamilobooks]

This was cool!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for watching! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@littleiodine9480]

Wonderful example. Thank you! I needed that! ❤

[@Riyaaaa__621]

Wow great explanation 👍

[@thecommonsensecapricorn]

When I finally started speaking up and expressing boundaries, he dumped me. I knew that would happen which is why I kept myself from doing it for weeks. Fortunately this trauma bond only lasted a month and a half, where my previous ones lasted much longer. I’m growing. I’m healing. But it didn’t stop it from hurting so much when I got abandoned by him.

[@KosmicN.]

We’ll explained.

[@angelakeely5859]

Great explanation

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you think so! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@xeik7482]

Awesome 😍

[@dogblues4829]

Thanks

[@rachaelshepard9153]

Love the example!!!

[@princesslollipopmeow2199]

I’m 50 & just starting recovery ❤️‍🩹 thanks for the pepper/detergent example,I’m literally working on boundaries recovery right now 😅& this 1min short means so much to me. I’m definitely going to watch you on the regular now 😁❤️‍🩹😻☮️🍭

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

So glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@francymurphy2887]

Thank you ❤

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You're welcome 😊 -Cara@TeamFairy

[@amywest7041]

No human treats another person perfectly respectful/loving. That's why there are weddings, so people can promise to stay loyal even though the bad moments, as they learn to mature & treat each other better. Some people are very slow learners.

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you. True. We must hold our boundaries strong.

[@lizdennett9002]

That was amazing

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@CatgirLinKC]

@Joel Joy if you watch her other videos, the channel is Crappy Childhood Fairy, you find out why she was traumatized. She has done a wonderful service to the world, belong others learn how to heal from their trauma.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for standing up for me. His comment, now removed, was creepy and invasive.

[@CatgirLinKC]

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy you're welcome! By the way, I forwarded the video to my counselor who loved it. She said, "Wow, what a great way to visualize that concept!" The video was very timely for me because I just received breakup letter, #3(!) from a boyfriend I've been stuck in a cycle of love bombing, ghosting/discarding and hoovering up again, rinse and repeat 9 times over 10 months of craziness. It's almost diabolical! But now I know, with all my tools on my toolbox thanks to so many of your videos, that I need to shut him down for good, and not let it happen again!

[@gglin5595]

Well described, thank you so much .

[@FatalDegree]

That was an excellent visual tool!

[@shannonh2541]

Excellent video

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for the visit! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@rdbeckett590]

Excellent!!! Didn’t understand the term!!! Thank you.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad it was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@Captain_MonsterFart]

Oh that's so funny. When I was little my sister showed me that trick. She described the pepper as people in a swimming pool, and the soap finger as a dirty kid getting in and making everyone run away. I always remembered that.

[@Msjltriplett]

❤Awesome illustration thank you.🌹

[@pamelatoombs4150]

Great lesson Anna, so helpful, Thank you😊

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you enjoyed! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@mimigong7943]

Awesome explanation

[@SB-yl1ng]

Thank You Crappy Childhood Fariy LOVE 💘YOU LOVE bet your also a great COOK LOVE 💘❤💕

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you -Jack@TeamFairy

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Dear Anna , what about a mother who never gave me love ? A mother who was Always criticizing . Screaming , shouting at me Bitting me up for reasons in her mind and nothing to do with reality. Maybe, Never even aware that there is such a thing boundries? Plus abusing , walking all over me ,humiliating me , putting m me down all the time . Thinks you are her punching you bag . A toy to take allme and immediately always putting herself up in compression to me since I remember anything . Often my mom did everything she can to make me fail and was very happy to see me fail . My older brother is a little bit like her . They both dont really see me and will lie to me and make sure I dont get my needs and wants , make sure I have bad , miserable life . What shall I do ? I try my best to keep away from both of them .

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