The Art of *subtle* Seduction

[@Eye_Said_So]

I learned to say no, mean it, and do it unapologetically. Now I have nothing but “yes” coming TOWARDS me, not FROM me. No joke, I’m less stressed and unbothered, life is way more enjoyable.

[@bm5_5_5]

Same! I love it here 🖤🐈‍⬛

[@Rexaaaaaa]

How to stop feeling guilty for others behaviour towards you?

[@Eye_Said_So]

@@Rexaaaaaa block them.

[@shatakshipandey8014]

Also , practicing selective treatment. I don't mingle with every man around me. I only mingle with men I consider worthy. That signals reciprocation, openness and attraction. It also gives more time for yourself and the other person you chose. Don't be afraid to keep your ooptions open at the start. Not every man is a king , and not every man is distasteful.

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Completely agree! I’m the same. Turn it on when I want too!

[@llgrazes]

Bravo, so well said❤❤❤❤

[@ShaySunshyne]

The crazy part is…I do all of this so naturally & so well but now I’m getting called “intimidating”. When I was a nice girl people walked all over me now I get WAY more respect & love but I find that the average guy wants to be chased. Its weird.

[@VickitaTrivedi]

We don’t want average babe, your king will come ❤️

[@ShaySunshyne]

@@VickitaTrivedi yes my sentiments exactly! I guess even when they don’t seem “average” to me, they have that average mindset anyway. But you’re absolutely right! Thanks for the reminder💕🙏🏾

[@Sally-og5lh]

💯 and in any case we are doing the world a favour teaching the average chase-me men to step up their game.❤

[@Sandra.B]

So true 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@MandyJRoss]

Focus on you and the focus becomes you.🖤

[@bm5_5_5]

THIS 🎉🖤

[@lazycorik]

Periodtt

[@NishaRajbhar-ih7jb]

The fact that nobody talks about the book Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance.

[@Ilona_230]

Where can I buy that book 😭

[@-bonitoflakes-4958]

scam alert peeps ive seen this comment like 50 million times

[@Aleyah]

I was all this when I was with my parents. When I got married I got into the supportive good girl role and he took me for granted every single day. Till date he doesn’t know what expenses a man has to bear for his wife. I buy expensive clothes and trips on my own and got properties of my own. I didn’t get rewarded for any of this. Rather he shifted focus on his selfish mother and sister. Lesson learnt, no more trying to be supportive at the cost of your respect. A man who doesn’t have to work hard to keep you happy won’t value you.

[@bunnyboo6295]

Yes men seem to love women they invest in when you doing all the investing they seem to lose respect

[@danicaharley6273]

They lose their attraction the moment we do too much for them and then they get lazy...

[@theetravelhippie]

the golden retriever and black cat analogy was so on point!

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Right!?

[@inmy20_s]

I have both n it is so true in real 😅💖

[@melaniejoannejohn8]

Thank you so much for this reminder. I tend to make myself too accessible to someone I’m interested. Never again.

[@BabyFaceRose]

Me too 😫 I have so many regrets of that , but it’s okay because I have changed and can only move forward now ❤🎉

[@marywithane9166]

When you said at 8:58 when you give give give it's not because you're a nice person but attached to the outcome that hit me like a freight train. Thank you gor calling me out. I am depleted worrying about my family and friends. No wonder I'm single.

[@dreamchaser7603]

Dicentering men is the Ultimate goal!! Whether you plan to become completely independent or be in serious relationship, moving them out of your focus is the key!! Stop centering your life/personality/development around men!! You focusing on how to be this/ how to be that is desperation and obsession!! Spend all this time on learning about finance, physical health, new hobbies and your life will be great!!

[@Isabelle1395]

"I don't chase, I attract."

[@nyssatang1173]

No time for men, focusing on myself and try to level up.

[@BabyFaceRose]

AND ISSS😂❤🎉

[@Pensivepenelope1]

I put the black cat energy into practice after my partner came home after we had a weekend apart due to things being difficult between us. He said to me by the end of the evening, he forgot how beautiful I was and he found me very sexy that day. Turns out golden retriever energy on women is not sexy. He’s not said that to me for ages so that was amazing:)

[@Nash_Aurora]

Shit

[@Nash_Aurora]

That means I've been wrong

[@theclassyconsultant.]

The part about absence is true. When you're less seen it seems as though people are happier to see you. Weird isn't it?

[@shadi6028]

Watching your videos just sets me right every time. Please do a video on retaining mystery in a relationship/ marriage and keeping a man wanting you

[@nesie.noodles6541]

am literally ADDICTED to your youtube channel

[@oktobersown82]

Same

[@_Priscilla92]

Wooow the black cat and golden retriever analogy made so much sense

[@iamshatonia]

I have to learn how to quit being so available when it comes to dating. Like they say “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”

[@BrookeAshleyTaylorFitness]

In the video you said that a lot of women are in their “wounded feminine which is more of the lighter feminine” but I thought the lighter feminine was more of the expression of the light, positive and soft energy that we all possess as women which is a good thing… can you explain what you meant by that phrase…love your videos❤

[@alejandra6418]

I agree with you!

[@chez_clio]

I interpreted this as: being excessively entrenched in your light feminine energy might equate to dwelling in your wounded feminine because it could signify an overemphasis on people-pleasing, a tendency towards being overly accommodating or self-sacrificing to the extent that your authenticity and sense of self are compromised. While it's totally possible to embody genuine strength in a gentle manner, a requisite assertiveness primarily associated with the dark feminine is essential! Whereas if you’re in your wounded masculine, if you’re a woman, there could be an overlap with being *too* much in your dark feminine to the point that you’re very domineering, aggressive, or controlling. Hence, the need to balance the two! I know you didn’t ask me personally, but I’m passionately learning about this to help me on my own journey, so wanted to share- hope it helped and is actually what she meant haha

[@BrookeAshleyTaylorFitness]

@@chez_clio GOT IT!!! that makes so much sense! Balancing the light and dark feminine is key… Thank you for taking the time out to explain!❤️

[@aseeshera5998]

Vickita thanks for making this video. I subscribed so quickly. Everyone talks about femininity but not how to get in that energy. I get the sense that people who don’t know me say I’m intimidating. Which doesn’t bother me. But my therapist made me realise I’m a people pleaser with friends & family. So loved ones, I will drop everything. Put myself in situations where im uncomfortable. Which I want to stop. Because I always feel empty afterwards.

[@maismadi6189]

Sooooo important video it’s really life changing for me i will practice the 3 states 😭

[@thesillyscribbler]

Can we have a video on "Getting rid of anger"

[@DiscoWitchBarbie]

Don’t get rid of it, just alchemize it. How can it become fertilizer to grow what you need? Your human emotions are there for a reason and they communicate important lessons to us. Focus on your behavior and how you manage your anger rather than getting rid of it. But I’m sure Vickita will have some great insights too

[@iguessitslydia]

Anger is a secondary Emotion that is covering a different Emotion, for example feeling hurt. Anger is supposed to signal a boundary of yours that is being crossed. Look inward and figure out what is happening beyond Anger. It is not necessarily a bad emotion

[@ItsEmxo]

Easy, just workout 😂😂😂loll

[@Moon_child25]

Anger is a good emotions, all emotions are important and valuable , u shouldn’t avoid it.All emotions is energy.It signals u about things going wrong or that your boundaries were crossed. It shows u the direction . It’s only maybe how to use this emotion so it works for u , not against you . I am a dancer , so if I’m feeling angry I am thinking about the situation or this feeling and I use this anger in dancing , than it becomes really powerful and concentrated .With this I also release this energy.If it is something in relationships, address this to another person , let them know ure hurt and angry. It shows ure mature , u know your boundaries, u know your emotions.It makes the relationships stronger as ure being transparent with another person. Trust me, if the person truly values u, and treats u with respect , he/ she will be thankful ure sharing these things and how u are feeling so he can also open up maybe and u together can work on your relationship . It also helps to get to know another person better ❤️❤️❤️hope that helps

[@chelseafabbri8705]

Amazing video like you should literally have your own show ! Most feminine energy content creators are one dimensional ( light feminine energy typically) but you truly embody duality. ❤

[@LaylaTeal]

I love your self care videos and life advice! You inspired me to create my own channel ✨️

[@MsJazzy1700]

Your KZbin channel has helped me so much😢❤ thank you for your wonderful advice!

[@khushiagarwal9644]

Its kinda confusing, how to be the black cat in a relationship but also the sunshine person that we truly are

[@sara_qr6nl]

Exactlyyy

[@sp4rkle81]

Put that sunshine energy in your hobby’s, sports, friends, family Also in your partner, but not all the time, I guess

[@sapowoman]

I have no idea either. But I'm assuming it could be that you can be your sunshine self and be vibrant and playful, but when it comes to more serious issues, say what you mean and mean what you say. Also, just be assertive, even if it's in a lighter way, and don't over explain yourself. And definitely, have time for yourself, where you nurture your likes, hobbies and stuff, without your partner. That way, you can show your partner that you love them and you're their sunshine, but you also show them that You're doing great by yourself, and that you are capable of being your own person.

[@mild7250]

I also follow that Tiktoker!! You both are amazing❤

[@too602]

So excited to watch the video!

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Hope you enjoy ❤️

[@shresthitripathi1910]

Just the video I needed today. How do you know what I need and when I need it?! So grateful

[@relishbee187]

A much needed reminder bc I can become clingy with my husband at times ❤

[@HairByReneeLLC]

13:08 Posting on social all the time watered me down in this way too.

[@milomazli]

Wonderful Vickita! Thank you!

[@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes]

Genius 🧠intellect

[@Heatherdoll1]

You can be either More sharp or sharper - you can’t be more sharper

[@mikkismovies4433]

Great advice as per usual, also you look amazing! 😊☺️

[@yoongurt8651]

why must i always be in the seduction zone? why can i not be comfortable and just be properly in a relationship w that person without having to manipulate them or distance myself all the time? serious question

[@VickitaTrivedi]

I mentioned in the video, explicitly saying "dating stage". However, It's important to keep some mystery in the relationship as well to maintain polarity, but always do whats best for you!

[@fluffedsquirrel]

I think in established relationships the "distancing" is meant as "not always saying yes to your partner, when you rather feel like saying no" and not always pleasing them but pleasing yourself first before pleasing them most of the time. Edit to add: it's not a manipulation per se, but it's rather something that might feel counterintuitive at first, because society has wired us to please others first before we think of ourselves. I think that's what the advice of "not chasing, but being chased instead" boils down too. Don't do all of the relationship work by yourself, let your partner do his share, too.

[@tdoncheva2099]

Great video! Can you please link the videos of the two other content creators you mentioned ?

[@skincarerainbow]

You go girl! ❤

[@mariahashmi1234]

I know acting according to the context is important. However, it feels hypocritic to me. I think I know why is that the case. I always have been a class clown. Everywhere I go people do appreciate my sense of humor and they really like my energy and I think it is because I'm very easy going can make a fool out of myself just to be funny. I think unconsciously I don't want to lose that and that's why I act in a way that to me seems funny and I just want people to miss me when I'm not there. I hope I can improve on it.

[@Mya.atPlay]

We are all evolving, its ok to evolve, expand yourself to be more than you have been. You can alternate and be however you want/need to be whenever. You can be flexible and adaptable and powerful and wonderful and awesome. You can say: “i’m choosing not to be a class clown today”…. shock people for fun hehe. We are all multifaceted. ❤ you’ll be ok The caterpillar and butterfly it becomes share the same DNA

[@mariahashmi1234]

@@Mya.atPlay That's so beautiful. Means a lot to me Mya 🥰🥰

[@oliveb9007]

He confessed that he is attracted to other girl, which is sad, but is willing to work it out, I gave him a chance but he confessed again, after 6 months. What should I do

[@RP-uu7oq]

Stop giving time and energy to a man who is messing with you and who has told you to your face that he doesn't want you. You deserve to be cherished. Anything less means that person isn't worth your time and energy.

[@6adrianna]

leave him alone, u deserve someone who will always choose u. if he told u he’s attracted to this girl then he don’t want u fr

[@llgrazes]

Leave before he hurts you more.. run baby run.. before it hurts even more.. self focus selfish era for you now.. much love❤❤❤

[@mzsaraitorres]

All the love you have to give him, give to yourself. Focus on you 💕

[@Wolfieyani1314]

Mirror him. Say to him that you’re attracted to other guy too, 🤔

[@BabyFaceRose]

Loveee you for this !! Thank you ❤😘🥰fav

[@sal.30]

Thank you!! Can you please tell me the exact channel you were talking about (Anna Christina)? I didn't find her...

[@nishat_zaman]

Love your videos vickita ❤

[@lindalaini9448]

I have seen some of your videos and I appreciate them. Thank you for sharing them. I have seen you point to “the next video” but nothing is written. Can you help me better understand which video to go to when you do this?

[@s.jatav_143ji]

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[@Apsaraaaaaa]

Pure gold content❤

[@saumyasharmathisside]

I love love love your videos 💗🦋🌿

[@defaultabundance]

Thank you for this

[@Gnorei]

Completely unrelated but you should be Lucy MacLean from Fallout for Halloween

[@pricilalozano996]

Do you have any books for this type of seduction?!

[@luciamrvova5551]

what if i never get picked cuz he always pick prettier girl ?

[@RP-uu7oq]

Then you're focusing on the wrong people. If you get a no, consider it a sign from the universe that there is something better around the corner. It's easy to get stuck on a specific person as the ideal, but it's actually a disadvantage to the relationship. If they aren't more fond of you than you are of them, you will have a hard time receiving the treatment you deserve.

[@luciamrvova5551]

@@RP-uu7oq i am pretty tall for a girl i am 5,10 and only short guyz like me and i hate it cuz i love high heels...

[@RP-uu7oq]

@@luciamrvova5551 Babes, don't give energy and attention to things you don't want in your life. It draws those things toward you. When you think about something that dismays you, let that thought pass, but don't give it attention and focus. Focus on you. Spoil yourself. Put thought and energy toward things you want in life. Most importantly, listen to the universe. Some people don't believe in this energy stuff, but I personally do. If nothing else, it drives me to take actions that will bring me closer to my wants and needs. Being delulu about it really does work in your favor. Don't pay attention to guys you don't want or guys that don't adore you. There are plenty of amazing men out there. Trust the delulu. And hang out in places where tall guys migrate to give yourself better chances haha!

[@REBsessions]

I am 100 percent serious when I say seduction is the great equalizer when it comes to looks.

[@Mya.atPlay]

What if you’re actually a queen inside and he’s actually only a potato? Leave him alone and love yourself.

[@zaylo7931]

Well said !

[@BabyFaceRose]

Omfg and now I’m so happy for Vanessa because she’s happily married and now about to have a baby 🩵🩵😭😭 cause she decided to do what’s best for her . Always have loved her but I didn’t know that’s what happened between her and Austin😢 . Happy for her now ❤

[@Devkritisharma]

I really want to control my emotions but i have a question: so currently I’m living in an environment which stresses me out my mother treats me less than my sister and doesn’t care for me the same or talks to me the same way, she does favouritism a lot and says hurtful things to me if i say something, and i constantly keeps getting upset because i think i have no one to count on , please someone tell me what should i do?

[@Mya.atPlay]

Wat else can you do besides getting upset? You are powerful and creative, you can find other ways to look at things or find a way to channel your feelings towards something that will benefit you. You could share exactly how you feel to your mother in a calm voice. Only share what you are going through, don’t accuse her of anything. Ask her to listen because you have something important to share. And however she responds….Tell her thats just how you feel, and don’t argue. Walk away if she gets defensive and let her go away to think about what you shared with her. She may realise something when shes alone. When we share true feelings, its very powerful. As humans we all share the same emotions, we just express the feelings in different ways. Something else that will throw your mum off is if you thank her for her love and care, it’ll make her rethink how she treats you, it may wake her up to how shes been treating you and treat you better. Thanking ppl who aren’t nice to us confuses them. 😂 Try it as an experiment.

[@TARALEKTRO]

Read about inner and outer child

[@NiteshSaste-rw3qu]

It’s kinda crazy how nobody’s talking about the book Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest.

[@Maya-m9h]

Nice❤

[@rahulvaghela7069]

This is merely the start. Get the forbidden book Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest, and uncover the secrets they've been hiding.

[@ShubhamYadav-tc6ob]

This is just the beginning. Read the forbidden book Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest, and you'll see the secrets they're keeping from us.

[@Nare1313]

Since I’m like this it’s like it’s so hard to find a man that actually is in his masculine provider energy🤔

[@returnoftheromans6726]

Ha! Yeah, where can we find such men? 🤣🤷

[@Mohamme656]

I recommend everyone to find the forbidden book titled Women’s Magic Truths on Borlest. It goes deep into all of this, and it changed my life.

[@prettytings8216]

Cuss them out breifky and mess up thier minds once in a while then act cold 😅😅😅😅 then like nothing happened

[@riyasera1677]

I want to get out of my country and shine like you love you ❤

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Rooting for you ❤️

[@juanitagomez8078]

Is this an echo to Jills video ?

[@naomia472]

Sharp Soft Playful

[@MeshaRambaran]

First!💗

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Yes you are!

[@Niniriina]

Oh right in the beginning when u said women dont have control of their emotion I was out. Thats just playing into this "women cannot be logical" argument, nice

[@Val.Kyrie.]

Funny enough, you reacted emotionally, not logically. So she was correct. A true stoic would sit back and consider “do I react emotionally and impulsively when I hear things I dislike” and “could accepting this help me adjust to react less emotionally next time”.

[@Niniriina]

@@Val.Kyrie. And then he might come to the conclusion that such a over generalised statement doesnt make logical sense. So we are back to my original comment. How do we go on now? To add to that, finding something funny is also an emotional response, so I guess you dont have control of your emotions

[@FeminineRose]

❤❤❤

[@liferendering2769]

As a man this made me laugh 😂😂😂😂 Feminine energy = Toxic person

[@SamYamn]

The only way this woman makes money and gains validation is by instilling insecurities in other women's minds, creating a systematic division between men, women, and families. Dear women, always remember the ultimate goal: to build a happy, healthy, and functional family and relationship where you feel loved and can give love in return. Think positively of each other, work together step by step, and face life's challenges like a champion. Be wary of other women who may not have your best interests at heart and only care about themselves. They may be gaining something at your expense, without concern for the consequences. Whether they manipulate you to distract you from your man, your job, or your lifestyle, remember that women sometimes offer your man a better deal just to undermine you and take your place. If none of this resonates with you, you may have been deceived, and disillusionment may be your only constant companion regardless of who you are with.

[@justb4116]

YOU are instigating division with accusotary language What are YOUR interests to come here and throw shade on people? How do you know about her finances? WHO are you? WHY are you here? WHAT is YOUR goal with such energy here? The odacity.... 🙄

[@jacksonthedoggy]

Ugh, read the room. We love her. If we’re here we have reason to be, don’t expect that you will understand what it’s like to be a woman.

[@Baddgallindsay]

🍅 🍅🍅🍅

[@ArifKhan-pz8dd]

Hi

[@VickitaTrivedi]

Hello ☺️

[@RobertCalifornia-yz6tg]

​@@VickitaTrivediI knew I was gonna upset you that's why i said I was leaving it's Eugene Krabs I always check to see if someone shadow bans me after disagreeing with them my name disappeared in the comments maybe you were having a bad day or maybe i really hurt your feelings i didn't mean to I just addressed your content in a logical manner I showed no disrespect or rudeness but doubtful you'll explain your actions and just because you can shadow ban people doesn't mean you should especially if they've not earned it bye bye once again✌️

[@charleenkls]

Fazit : Schreibe einem Mann einfach gar nicht 😂😂

[@Hepsj]

You are the best girl mentor 🤎

[@christinecooper4256]

Thank you so much for providing truly applicable advice for embodying femininity. You're a gem! 🩷