wait- you eat?

[@zoeunlimited]

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[@sippinlean277]

Please turn to Jesus he loves you so much and wants a relationship with you

[@ahmarindungu9010]

Girl dinner looks like when moms say they’re full but the really just ate the scraps from the meal they were cooking us

[@marymurphy1877]

I thought girl dinner was supposed to be our like most least effort food. like me making nachos with leftovers and calling it dinner

[@gabrielalampreia]

Me too

[@briannalikesbooks]

thats all the ones I’ve seen

[@alfiona7951]

Same! I live alone so I relate to the quick lazy meals. I'm so confused.

[@Najeetatika]

That’s what I thought it was like my girl dinner is a thing of Ben and Jerry’s that I forgot I had😭

[@Akisclov]

That's literally what it is. Or just a weird combination of food that the person really likes.

[@sofiii___10]

this trend started as a funny way to show what girls EAT for dinner. I remember watching this short videos and feeling represented on them because I also eat whatever I find in the fridge but sadly ‘girl dinner’ became a bunch of tiktoks showing nothing but a glass of water as dinner. Is so sad that a lot of young women think that not eating is the same as having dinner and normalize it.

[@briannalikesbooks]

yea I thought it was supposed to be a funny trend not what it turned into

[@StarWars_TheFan]

Ik, that’s why momma taught me how to eat😅

[@MsLinoi]

Somehow these trends always turn into something toxic as soon as they get picked up by the algorithm 😅

[@liilykh4n]

Somedays my girl dinner is a cigarette, a laxative powder and a jar of pickles… other days it’s a big ass sharkcoochie board. Thats the reality of girl dinners

[@silh3345]

Yeah in the beginning it was just a relatable trend to show how it’s okay not to cook a full meal when you’re too lazy. As someone with adhd I often lack the attention span to make “proper” meal the original trend was very validating because I too often go for lazy dinners. I often throw some cheese on top of leftovers and heat it up in the microwave and call it dinner when I’m too lazy to cook from scratch. That’s what the girl dinner trend was intended to be about until it got over saturated by ed content.

[@r.8902]

girl dinner is literally just what my depression dinners were. i dont understand why this is romanticized lol

[@Justthinkitsophie]

Yeah so people leave you alone as well lol

[@Likelymeesk]

Because it’s the reality of a lot of people. I cook for my entire family elaborate meals, but if I’m only cooking for myself I’ll grab a slice of ham, and some random leftover, maybe a dessert that I made earlier that week and call it a night.

[@annetteareid4128]

A friend was complaining her housemate was eating an icecream for breakfast... I defo did that when I my depression was really bad

[@silh3345]

Personally it’s quite similar to how I “cook” when my ADHD is extra bad which is why I actually find it somewhat validating to see others making lazy “meals”. I feel less pressured to put together “proper” meals when I’m not in the mood to do so. However I don’t like how the ed community on tiktok took the trend to show off how little they eat and find that aspect of it pretty toxic.

[@Likelymeesk]

@@silh3345 at the end of the day, nobody is cooking for you, so it’s valid to eat whatever’s easier

[@Niki-so6bf]

I kinda saw this trend as also being a result of the rising cost of living and not being able to afford enough groceries.

[@ShawtyShmackin]

This! Thank you! Thats my case😂💯

[@tymac9127]

If this is what Americans are eating then i guess we're not eating in the rest of the world 😂

[@SamRabbitx]

It's literally not that deep! How many people wanna put in the effort to make themselves a whole ass meal just for themselves? I have a feeling single men eat similarly to this but they don't put nearly as much online as women do.

[@mossonthenorthside]

That feels super valid as well. They kind look like college student meals!

[@progamndocoisas4407]

@@tymac9127 poor Americans exist. 2nd, how do you know they're American?

[@Honeyslider__]

I think I needed a trigger warning for how much I would hear the "Girl Dinner" song.

[@KittySnicker]

Same here lol. I winced every time

[@kianaw.8096]

i was literally thinking this 😭

[@SamanthaBlueberries-x8i]

Girl,I can relate 😭😭😭😭😭

[@MeiKasai]

I remember when I was 25 and in a grocery store and I saw a mini-cake and went "I'm an adult. I can have that for dinner." It felt liberating. Now, I don't do that everyday but goddamn if that wasn't one of my most memorable meals. It made me feel like such a rebel. 😅

[@nad-ia-8069]

I didn’t see girl’s dinner that way. For me it was a great concept, allow me to explain. As women, wifes and mothers, we are expected to cook delicious and nutritious meals for others and healthy balanced meals for ourselves. So girl’s dinner for me sounds like a rejection of norms. Normalizing eating whatever you want, no matter if it’s healthy or not, as opposed to our « duty » to cook for everyone.

[@lxvezaya]

Here is the thing there are some videos where they are making it look like eating very little is normal,(for example just a gum for dinner, which I understand not eating a whole ass buffet since I don't eat a lot for dinner myself, but a gum for dinner should NOT be normalized)when it's obviously not

[@nad-ia-8069]

@@lxvezaya that’s a very interesting debate. For me there’s a distinction between something that occurs a lot therefore is shown a lot and representing more of something than there actually is to purposely shift mentalities. I feel like the TikToks we saw in the video weren’t praising their small proportion nor demonizing eating a lot so I’m quite 50/50 on that matter

[@selmaice]

the trend started out as a "no cooking dinner" where you just ate a bunch of random things together instead to, like you said, reject norms of women cooking all the time. but the trend has changed and been taken over by girls eating nothing/really unheathily instead of the original intent of just not cooking.

[@nad-ia-8069]

@@selmaice I see !

[@shreyaadani694]

yesss

[@Bamgeutcutiepie]

that "girl dinner" song is obnoxious like make it stop 😭

[@thatsydvicious]

Haha it’s going to be stuck in my head for the rest of the day

[@Wolfiewolf1234]

Dude the girl dinner audio made me so uncomfortable everytime I heard it. I hate it 😭

[@victoriaminjeur7856]

Same lmao 😂

[@KittySnicker]

It is SO GRATING!

[@MissFunky98]

As someone with depression and adhd I can follow sour arguments but girl dinner just has been too accurate in depicting my eating habits.

[@rachael5807]

Right? Adhd executive dysfunction dinner

[@rzgre7611]

​@@rachael5807ED dinner but not the regular ed

[@FiestyForce]

Same

[@MelodyInTheChaos]

Same

[@laweafome528]

The trend is NOT shaming anybody. it's just a joke of being too lazy to cook a proper meal.

[@elinat2414]

I would say that there is a big difference between a lovely charcuterie board with crackers, fruit, meat and cheese (which is a lovely low effort dinner option if you don't want to cook), and literally eating scraps of food not sufficient for survival. Also while it is NOT healthy to go to the extreme and eat scraps, there is something to be said about modest portion sizes; especially for shorter women that aren't super physically active. As a 5'4 woman, if I eat three full meals a day, I will usually feel overfull and gain weight. Sometimes a bit of fruit or crackers is all it takes to hit the spot when I'm hungry and it's not time for a meal yet. I do not need as much food as someone that is taller and/or more physically active. Our view of portion sizes are so distorted by constantly seeing massive meals, especially when we eat out. I just don't like how Zoe is constantly smug about women not eating enough, when everyone has different nutritional and dietary needs.

[@LotusesGalaxyOcean]

I don’t think she is smug personally. Its more the issue that this trend is a bad idea for most. Just as an example myself I could not do those charcuterie boards shown.I am 5” 6” and a healthy weight. I am not very active right now. I would essentially need several slices of bread and probably a very large chunk of cheese and meats to get full or even kind of close to full. I am a pretty everyday average height and weight. So looking at the size of those boards I would probably need to triple them in portion even if I was looking at a reasonable sized one that she showed. I find this trend creepy also because I have become very aware of how different foods make me feel due to their nutrition. Everyone has different requirements but to me it is about how easy these meals would be to do in an unhealthy way. It defeats the point because to me what would make sense is very simple easy meals that still taste good. Stuff that is a great hack so that people can keep on hand for lazy days. For example sometimes I will cook a large pot of rice and then keep it in the fridge. If I cannot decide what I want to cook I can easily add cheese, eggs and vegetables to that and make a bowl of it for dinner by just microwaving it. Oatmeal cup muffins, a few boiled eggs and a some fruit…. You get what I mean. Solutions that naturally encourage healthy delicious choices is what I don’t see much of in this trend.

[@dotcom3015]

@@LotusesGalaxyOcean I agree more with swell entertainments take on girl dinner. It’s hard to take Zoe unlimited’s diet videos seriously after watching the trolleybolley video about her hypocrisy

[@stalemouldybread]

nah i see it too every video of hers has this overly confident kinda borderline superiority complex about anything and everything diet related which made me not watch her stuff anymore lmao

[@zsannab.2157]

I can't go to bed hungry, but I also can't sleep well if I eat junk before going to bed. As someone who lost weight because of health reasons, I think that having some ham and vegetables or fruits for dinner is perfectly fine.

[@LeilaleilaZ]

Thank youuu

[@MelodyInTheChaos]

Yeah I don't believe in eating big heavy meals. It's just not healthy. Espeically as we get older. If I eat a lot close to bedtime I get horrible heartburn. I go by my grandparents mantra "eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a pauper" also I interment fast so I typically just don't have dinner.

[@Mr.WalterH.WhiteSr.]

I mean that is fine because it has nutrients and protein but only eating some crackers provides little to no nutrients for food. I don’t eat that much for dinner because of stomach issues but you still should eat something that provides nutrients

[@transaryan]

I’m pretty sure “girl dinner” is just a joke. It’s not about normalizing unhealthy eating. It can’t be because it scrutinizes a phenomena among women that is already normal. My mom and sister have always eaten like this when they are too tired or lazy to cook. There’s literally a “guy dinner” meme where a dude moves a bunch of trash and beer cans off his bed to reveal old pizza. It’s just a joke, and the fact that its unhealthy is already presupposed by the joke.

[@Orangelemon167]

A lot of ppl (Younglings) take these jokes seriously, some criticism is necessary

[@madlyclumsy5910]

It started as a joke (and for most people it still is), but has gone viral and it has reached the wrong audience, they have turned the joke into a tutorial that may affect impresionable young girls who are still building their perception/knowledge of the world and their role in it. That's what's dangerous.

[@Edenlikethegard3n]

​@@Orangelemon167its not our fault that people take things seriously

[@radiosilenve]

i’ve only been on kpop tiktok for the past few months and have only heard of ‘girl dinner’ as a way to call someone hot, but the way this actual trend is developing is quite disturbing

[@SamRabbitx]

I think people read WAY too far into girl dinner. It literally was just a way to document how women eat when we can't be bothered to cook a full ass meal. If I don't cook for me and my husband, you bet your ass I'm eating an apple cheese and some Pringles. I'm far too lazy to make myself an entire actual meal. I think commentary girlies like Zoe and a couple of others have put waaaayyyy too much meaning into it. It's stupid and silly. It's not patriarchal, it's not women fighting to survive. It's literally not that deep This also feels low key shamey to women who are too lazy to make 3 full meals for themselves every day. Let girls be lazy.

[@batterypowers-j2d]

Im recovering from an eating disorder, and zoes vids always remind me to stay on the right track, even if eating makes me feel guilty.

[@blackspace007]

I'm becoming more and more convinced that this newer generation is mentally unstable/ It's not just stress from the shit society puts on everyone. It's all this weird new crap they create.

[@pinkroses135]

Something

[@elzx876]

Social media first convinced an entire generation of women that we all need to eat just 1,300 calories no matter what our size and height is, now this??

[@רונהלוי-ה1ז]

Already 30 years ago we had diet books with 1000 calorie menus and this is also what was published in women's newspapers, I think today there is more awareness that it is not healthy

[@elzx876]

@@רונהלוי-ה1ז I wasn’t aware of these 30 year old 1000 calorie diet books, thank you for sharing this. Sadly, I’m not at all surprised. There is more awareness that it’s not healthy, and it’s easier to find resources online to educate people on what’s actually healthy, but I worry these low calorie diets that are far below most women’s BMR are becoming so normalised that more and more women aren’t questioning it.

[@MelodyInTheChaos]

Nope not social media. This is nothing new. 30 years ago I was convinced I had to be under 1,000 calories by the magazines, books etc. It has always been pushed for decades and decades that women are supposed to eat very little.

[@mimijaynee]

I miss at the start of the trend it was usually just a random assortment of food that doesn’t really go together but you have it anyway😭

[@tannajoy_]

The sleep for dinner is a economic thing more than a ed thing. I’ve never had sleep for dinner because I wanted to, but I understand what you are getting at. We should all watch how we say things cause the kids are watching.

[@lkf8799]

I eat like that when I don't feel like cooking. Definitely eat cereal for dinner when it's too hot in the summer. It's picnic food.

[@theuscivicsnerd7070]

Whenever I see girl dinner it’s usually random shit that doesn’t match which we’ve all been there. This video could possibly be true to some extent for some.

[@jaedenloydmaldives]

Why do people gotta make a mountain out of a molehill

[@remekhalifa5416]

yes and honestly the sound is the most disturbing thing in this trend

[@chewy_mochiiart]

I feel like every trend that happens in tiktok is either degenerate right from the start, or eventually would turn that way. WHY is that?

[@mossonthenorthside]

As an autistic. I felt seen by girl dinner at first. It was nice to see that others had the same kind of food as me sometimes. Cause most of the time, unless someone is cooking for me. All I can manage is to just pile on my safe foods cause those calories are better than no calories. Sometimes it's hard to eat but we all need to be doing our best to nourish ourselves. Even if it doesn't look the same for everyone 😊

[@MelodyInTheChaos]

Yep. I have autism and adhd and this how I've always eaten. I see nothing wrong of it.

[@jkseraphim4]

Sleep for dinner is really when you're so poor you have no food in your home that you have to sleep to forget your hunger. It's very sad😢

[@juspa8284]

it's not that deep, nobody's making y'all eat like this😭😭

[@kateemma22]

Everything on the internet starts fun and then turns dangerous.

[@kellye.5678]

It’s so interesting that you had the opposite experience with food shaming. I feel like for me I’ve always been naturally thin so even if I eat a large amount of food for my size, it’s “never enough” to anyone. It’s like people expect to me to eat like a 200 lbs man to prove that im not naturally thin since they believe I’m thin because I starve myself. It got really bad because I would stuff myself until I wanted to throw up to avoid comments like “you didn’t finish your food thats why you’re so skinny”. Like American portions are huge im sorry I can’t finish it? I’ll bring it home and get hungry again in a few hours and eat it though lol. It took me quite awhile to just eat until I’m full and stop being worried about peoples comments.

[@NightshadeGoddess]

What they eat as a dinner is my snack for in-between meals, i'd feel starved if I ate that little...

[@mii-sanch.939]

Eventually, once you're so hungry, you don't feel hungry anymore, just tired...

[@peaceteez]

my girl dinner consists of eating nothing and only looking at hot kpop idols 😂

[@moonieri]

I thought the girl dinner trend was just funnily bad dinner ideas

[@PapaGinzer]

It is, people take things WAY to far

[@cheesecakej2840]

Girl dinner is also about being very tired and not able to cook

[@theladyofthelake1331]

No but what you said about the shame of eating “too much” felt so true. Because I often feel like that, like when my mom or brother or boyfriend are not hungry I feel SO ASHAMED for craving food or for wanting dessert or something sweet or whatever.

[@feemetsnor]

I also found this trend disrurbing and depressing, glad to see I'm not alone

[@alfiona7951]

I live alone I'm not gonna cook a 3 course meal. I just ate instant noodles and an egg and I'm good. I 'm also a poor I can't afford to cook like a woman who has 3 kids. This trend was just for fun! Girls who just wanna eat a lazy meal that takes 2 mins to cook cuz they're lazy. Am I the only one who saw it this way?!

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

I guess it's because there's a difference between eating a lazy meal and a person who thinks a glass of water qualifies as a meal.

[@alfiona7951]

@@HighAsHeckPriestess Ok that makes a lot more sense cuz I didn't notice the crazy diet ppl took over the trend. Ugh this was the only trend that spoke to my laziness & now it's been Highjacked! It used to be so innocent and dumb.

[@FromXytoz]

Yeah that’s why Zoe mentioned in the the video that this trend can have good interactions but it’s also important to question, then why is the “boy dinner” and “husband meal” being stereotyped much more nutritious and healthy?

[@zombiestalker420]

These killed me 😂 i didnt even know this was thing. Like wtf! The happenings of this existence leave my mind discombobulated. Buuut i love watching Zoey talk, because ur voice is so pretty. Always adorable. Listening while cleaning is highly recommended. Much ❤

[@sarahbecker6431]

#girldinner more like ✨depression dinner✨ aka the first three ingredients you found in the cupboard

[@tressymart]

or the sleeping for dinner tho

[@theMyRadiowasTaken]

yes that is the fucking point.

[@ariadnavallejogarcia3496]

As someone who had anorexia, the Sleeping beauty diet is a reality that many people in the ED community use constantly to lose weight

[@Sponjosita]

Just what I thought with girl dinner, that the only thing I saw was people damaging their bodies, eating poorly, a lot of sodium, few nutrients, a lot of sugar.

[@sophiaisabelle027]

We appreciate your insights on this matter. You'll always have our support.

[@aimeewells1886]

Thought this trend was just meant to showcase our depression meals 😭

[@kristenp1606]

For me, spending my time cooking is not about necessity, I’m purely driven by the joy that I get when someone loves a dish that I made for them.

[@neptxnetips]

im so glad someone finally spoke up about this bc this trend never sat right with me

[@ChristineLeclercq-w9q]

I understand Zoe's point, as this trend can be a bad influence on young girls and encourage disordered eating. However - as someone that does "girl dinner" type of meals pretty often out of laziness and is shamed for it, it's reassuring to see other people doing the same thing! The point is not to promote nor encourage eating this way everyday, but just show that it's okay to not always eat a perfectly balanced home cooked meal. Tbh we should just stop being obsessed with food. Just nourish our body according to our wants / needs and stop comparing ourselves to others. Having a healthy relationship with food is NOT about eating healthy foods. It's about enjoying your food, regardless of what people or society think, or if that food is healthy or unhealthy.

[@genevievejenkins-wu6rg]

this reminds me of a very specific feeling that i've felt whenever i'm in public sharing a meal w/a mixed group of guys and girls and seconds are offered, and in those situations every woman in the room balks; then i ask my friends about it later and they all say they felt bad taking seconds? like what? this should not be so relatable.

[@HighAsHeckPriestess]

Its neurotypical folks with shitty self esteem who ruined the trend. Neurodivergent girl dinner makes sense. Im autistic and i struggle with depression. Some days im too depressed to eat a good meal, sometimes i just dont have the energy to cook when ive been masking all day. Some food textures and smells are nope even if i like the taste, so i go weeks without a vegetable.

[@anarchyneverdies3567]

I’ve found some good recipes to disguise veggies so my very picky kid will eat them- shredded carrots (I buy them shredded) in meatloaf, chicken nuggets that ares either plant based or the ones with chicken and veggies mixed, potatoes with veggies like squash or something mixed in, etc. I have to Google recipes every time but it’s really helpful if you don’t want to taste or feel something

[@cma.ksiezycowa]

Yea, honestly "girl dinner" was relatable to me bc i struggle with executive disfunction due to ADHD, and i'm tired very often. I though it was GIRL dinner simply bc a girl created the first video, i don't think it was supposed to reflect gender stereotypes or encourage disordered eating. I thought it was supposed to be funny relatable video, representing a moment in life everybody experience (more or less often than others). I had no idea ppl started comining it with diet culture ugh

[@LoveBlackIvy]

" neurodivergent girl dinner makes sense" how can you gatekeep throwing random things together and calling it a meal, it's not inherently autistic. Go touch some grass right this instant. Everyone gets too tired to cook sometimes, go into the world and find some common sense. Ruining a trend my ass like no one cares that much about tiktok.

[@lalailm]

I swear, tiktok will never run out of content bc people will never stop looking for a way to call anything “problematic”

[@SamRabbitx]

Literally.

[@MelodyInTheChaos]

Everyone is a victim of everything on social media. Apparently. I've always eaten like this. So what. Sometimes it's healthy like a couple eggs and broccoli and sometimes it's some corn chips with hummus or cheese. Either way it's not healthy for anyone to eat huge meals.

[@juliette6035]

okay but a good bowl of buttered pasta makes a perfect girl dinner every once in a while

[@staymylife8]

What I saw of "Girl dinner" was basically people eating nothing and then others making fun of those people and eating unhealthily (not really alot of food still). I saw one person make buldak ramen wirh corn cheese which was at least a complete meal though.

[@kellye.5678]

That girl dinner song is so irritating it was hard to get through the video 😭 how to ppl binge watch them

[@CreateXSGACHA]

Do you think you could do a video on fashion tips on how to style with color and styling casual clothes? I really like your style.😊

[@one1riyc2]

off the topic, but your editing is soooo good!!!

[@AliciaWeatherholt]

i thought girl dinner was a bunch of snacks you make that has the same calories as dinner but isnt a real meal. Usually eaten when you dont feel like cooking and in front of the tv and not all at once, but one right after the other when you get up from the couch when you're watching tv. and i wasnt against the tread. i saw it to be like eating chips, five minutes later some slices of cheese, ten minutes later some fruit, etc. had no idea people were using it as an excuse to post eating disorder (junkarexic) content. if you eat a bunch of snacks that fills you up and isn't only empty calories, i dont see it as much of a problem unless you do it everyday. when i was getting on disability checks, they essentially asked me if i ate girl dinner or not. the exact question was something like: "when you eat, do you eat snacks, make frozen dinners, sandwiches, or fully made meals with many courses?" and i almost got denied my disability payment because i make sandwiches and cook dried pasta for dinner most nights. i mistook girl dinner for disabled behavior.

[@virtualsocialretreat8234]

"normalizing unhealthy eating"? i thought that was the norm already... i feel like you could've just said something like " these are examples of non-nutritious food choices, however funny they may be in this context". that's the message, isn't it? i guess it doesn't sound as sophisticated

[@DolceFarnienteABC123]

I thought 'girl dinner' was an 'eggplant emoji'.

[@MoonNoverseG]

and here's me who thought the "girl dinner" trend is abt girls thirsting over hot men

[@percivallavoie4415]

Lmao am I the only one who finds the sound-byte soooooo annoying 😂

[@annas3076]

Its soooo annoying

[@KittySnicker]

It’s ridiculously irritating

[@toqa6735]

The girl singing has a beautiful voice.

[@ShawtyShmackin]

The person singing the “girl dinner” sound?🤣

[@toqa6735]

@@ShawtyShmackin yepp yepp

[@KittySnicker]

You gotta be kidding me

[@toqa6735]

@@KittySnicker no

[@ANoOneOnTheInternet]

My girl dinner was a sloppy joe and a protein shake. 😊 honestly, though, overeating is very easy to do in our household, so making the effort to eat a can of veg, apple sauce, and moving my body is me trying to take better of myself.

[@zerda209]

As a bar assist "girl dinner" is funny because most of the time on a busy friday night when youre starving you end up eating pieces of garnish to get through the night 😂

[@001-x1b]

Every adhd meal I ever had.

[@SpringSpark]

I think you are stretching it. I can't fathom how obviously making fun of a messy snack can be "normalizing" it. Especially how mocking the sound is.

[@Winggggz]

*These trends need to be stopped*

[@khadijahbegum3546]

NO! I actually luv it so NO😂

[@xxxarimaxxx]

Fr

[@StarWars_TheFan]

Yes, this needs to stop

[@faresa7365]

My intro to girl dinner was pictures of Jungkook with caption 'girl dinner' I think that's what I prefer for girl dinner lol

[@Fati_Alien]

I thought an apple was a healthy dinner, all my entire life i’ve been eating that for dinner 💀

[@seriouslywhatever1031]

Mom dinner when you can't afford to feed yourself and your kids. Girl dinner when healthy food is so expensive and you're burnt out from societal pressure to fit in a narrow box of womenhood. Girl dinner when you've been at work all day, cleaned, ran errands, exercised, showered and have no energy to put together anything sensible you turn to high calorie snacks and call it a day.

[@tanyamorales868]

I thought “girl dinner” was beautiful boys HAHAH

[@victoriaminjeur7856]

LMAO😂

[@katelynn.kensington]

😮I personal trained. I cannot tell you how many moms do the mom dinner of “whatever my kids don’t finish”

[@lizzyleefree1593]

Eating something for dinner is better than eating nothing. No one is saying "girl dinner" should be for every meal and like every eating trend it is taken too far by those with disordered eating. However, as a wife and mother who grew up with very traditional gender roles, the girl dinner trend removed the guilt I had in not cooking a full family meal every night, despite my husband and child being able to make food. When I'm anxious, exhausted, or just low spoons in general I relish in the ease and instant gratification of just assembling comforting snacks and ingredients into a meal. I eat girl dinner the same way as I eat all my meals, intuitively and until I'm satisfied. Sometimes I want a hugh bowl of pasta with salad and dessert, others all im really craving are berries, string cheese, and chips- especially if I had a heavy meal earlier in the day. Having a small meal every once in a while is not disordered eating if you're being true to your bodie's needs in that moment.

[@ArtesLemures]

For me "girl dinner" is just a depression meal most of the time, thing that you can eat when you can't get yourself to actually make anything. It is good that a certain person eats anything, but it is a BIG sign to seek help, because if it is the only meal you eat the situation is really bad. At first it really looked like struggling people showing their depression meals, but through time, as it turned into a trend, people are just posting random stuff that they have at home just to participate, which is even more disturbing. Is tiktok doing the tumblr thing that mental issues are hot and sexy? And that everyone wants to be that, not seeing how first people posting their "girl dinner" are mostly just struggling. This trend has so many layers of concerne, that I wanna cry.

[@bung0144]

This kind of dinner is a bit normal in my family but we eat our meals at different times. In the morning we eat eggs, sausages, and beans for breakfast. Then at 3 or 4 pm we have our main meal which can be rice with chicken or pork, or soup, or lentils. And for dinner which is usually at 8 or 9 pm we eat less because we are going to sleep in a couple of hours anyways.

[@TeamJY]

"The most disturbing trend ever"... I beg to differ. Male suicide is a little more of a disturbing trend.

[@we.genuinely.think2882]

I know that this isn't the point of this video or of what this trend has sadly become, but where I'm from it's totally normal to only have a cooked warm meal for lunch and then bread with cheese in the evening. Now that I don't live at home anymore it's easier for me to cook in the evening and have a warm dinner but that means I'll have my cheese bread for lunch. That has nothing to do with cutting calories or anything, it's just how most people eat here 😅 (I remember when I went to the US with my family and after three weeks of only really greesy burgers and pizza because everything else was so expensive, we all craved some black bread with good cheese)

[@truecrimespree9868]

My feed shows girl dinners of all sides or canned goods or a thousand snackies… I question some people’s feeds and hope they curate better

[@laholidev]

I just realized I was watching while eating a DIY lunchable😅 For a snack. Until I’m full. But I still like the irony of it

[@koralowakornelia7825]

As for "girl dinner", I saw this trend only in the context of idols and not actually food and I thought that was the point from the beginning 🙈

[@kaliyah6480]

I thought "girl dinner" was supposed to be girls eating dinner and saying "girl dinner" but now i know what it is and its def problematic

[@naranjitavirgo]

I don't follow tiktok trends...until now because it took me bread and smoothie ❤

[@lina.en777]

mannnn ik it’s a joke and all but there’s people who struggle with that and they don’t realize it 😭😭😭

I eat 3 meals a day and light snacks. My ribs are showing again, but I weld for work. Then reading ingredients lists that contain bioengineered food.

[@gabriellafritz2312]

"#girl dinner?, More like girl you need to eat some dinner...a lot of you have eating disorders"- that's one of the girl dinner reaction qoutes I saw. I thought girl dinner was like..a mix of low effort meals and depression meals ..like sometimes it's a joke about how you don't have to be cooking everyday and other times it's showing the toll depression can have on your appetite and how recently we tend to ROMANTICISE our lives (including the mental illnesses that come with it) and how harmful it can be to view a problem that way. ✨#Girl dinner✨ but it's water and a bag of peanuts..like- . Thanks for doing a vid on this topic. ❤ Insightful to say the least fr.

[@polabewrarska845]

I see this trend as" i'm hungry, tired, i will eat what ever only to survive and have energy to made BIG next meal"

[@bekaeast7346]

Srry dude it’s not actually a trend, it’s more so something a lot of women already did without knowing it was common. I live in communal living and this summer I noticed basically all the women would make girl dinners pretty often and I never saw a man find a random assortment of things. I ever had to explain girl dinner to quite a few women that we’re eating girl dinners, because they didn’t know about it they just do it already

[@SamRabbitx]

Like. It literally isn't that deep.

[@victoriaminjeur7856]

Ik it’s not that serious. If you don’t mind me asking what kind of communal living do you live in?

[@Canev821]

Does it have to do with people not getting married or have boyfriends they need to cook for

[@bekaeast7346]

@@victoriaminjeur7856 I do seasonal work at rafting companies so I live in these little camps with a whole bunch of ppl around my age

[@bekaeast7346]

@@SamRabbitx that’s what I was saying, we just do it, it’s not some big Ed misogynistic deal

[@what_equals_42]

I feel like something that was meant to be a satire on low-effort meals became co-opted into the ongoing discourse between society's image of the ideal (skinny, dainty) woman and the reality, which is that we are human beings who require sufficient nutrition. It seems that anything that can be influenced by societal standards, is- every time I've seen a food trend emerge, it has been adopted and altered in some way by the eating disorder crowd, who always drag things into one or another extreme end of the metaphorical sliding scale. Perhaps instead of relabeling meals as "Girl Dinner" and then applying and rewarding new expectations to that, we should stick to dance trends.

[@PapaGinzer]

If this is the disturbing trend to you I’m sorry but the internet isn’t for you in the slightest

[@thatoneweirdkid7272]

if anyone likes the idea of a fun meal with a bunch of different foods like the charcuterie board looking girl dinners, look up “snack plate meals”. it’s an actual thing that a nutritionist showed me when i was recovering from an ed. if you look into it properly, it can be an actual filling and nutritious meal. idk why but i feel like it’s more fun to eat a plate of food that has a ton of things instead of just 2 or 3 regular sized things.

[@liahadams7796]

I love this video but the best part in my opinion was the fact that Zoe likes the same kind of kind bars that I do

[@PhoenixTV109]

Lets not make fun of the ones that choose not to eat as much as others for their own personal reasons just because it makes you feel insecure about the amount your eating

[@Алиса-й6в1у]

I used to eat like that or not eat at all because I was really tired to cook. It was a nightmare! My stomachache was really bad until I started to eat properly

[@DinosaursOnly-pv2wx]

i think girl dinner was a joke at first but now its has a bad impact

[@nameless9851]

you should call it college student dinner

[@kristenp1606]

I’m very guilty of cooking for my boyfriend only. If it were just for me I probably wouldn’t cook at all, even though I generally like to cook. It says something not so great that he is worth the effort but I’m not. I consider myself a feminist, but I need to examine why I feel this way.

[@hwin]

How DARE you post this on my lunch break of pistachios, plum, and a pack of guac because I was too busy to make something.

[@svenjameiner9532]

I totally get that approach. I luckily have a healthy relationship with food and I really just thought about it being about my pesto, cheese, grapes dinner that I eat when I am too lazy to cook something proper after being out all day

[@Ioveraa]

i’m trying to eat a little less but with more protein, and i’m glad i haven’t fallen into this trap yet.