What About After You're Gone

[@rickslife]

Prepaying for your own funeral and making arrangements takes a huge burden off the family. Both my parents prearranged theirs, it was a great gift in a very difficult time.

[@valgoodridge1810]

My daughter recently died and I am working through her possessions. I took the precious and sentimental jewelry pieces and the rest I laid out for her closest friends to select a piece as a memento of her. They were touched and it was a very emotional evening as the girls shared memories of times she had worn each piece.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

I’m so very sorry for your loss. Your act of heartfelt generosity to her friends will keep her memory alive with them forever. 💔

[@pamengland7863]

Sorry by for your loss. I cannot imagine. How wonderful it brought you together for a memorable time & for her memory to live on with all the stories that will surely continue for years to come.

[@pamengland7863]

I have to make sure they keep my Beanie Babies because when they’re my age they’ll actually be worth something because they certainly aren’t now. 😂 Love this. So needed in our world of overconsumption.

[@62Movement]

I’ve been doing this for years and am fighting an uphill battle… my siblings, stepmom… perhaps they’re not sharing with me what they’re doing but I think they’re in denial. They don’t want to talk with me about the subject at all. I started a poshmark account in ‘17. Got rid of most of my fanciest things (my relatives are larger than me… including shoe sizes so there’s no possibility of giving to them), and the fancy stuff I still have, I’m using. I always have a donation box and usually go 2x a month to a few places. Took most of my books to the little libraries in my neighborhood. I’ve just reduced Christmas decorations, Valentine’s, Costume (not just Halloween but St Paddy’s, Mardi Gras, Dia de los Muertas, etc), party and summertime outdoor & picnic bins… reduced things! Happy to say it’s all in 4 bins. Still have sentimental memories boxes from birth thru college & career. Did manage to take training manuals and stuff into the shredder, and recycling. Electronics reduced but still fighting the DIY I might need most things. I’ve managed to use that stuff a lot so I keep it. I also created a Treasure Hunt for “strangers” to find hidden money and more importantly, sent letters with the detailed information about the same to family members. There’s not a lot but people should look in cookie jars and the Bible. Evidently a lot of people put money there. My reasoning is IF my family doesn’t visit quickly enough after my death and some kind strangers have been contacted by my apartment management company… maybe they’ll find a few bucks. Or IF they donate it to Goodwill there’s some funny money in a coat jacket or something. I’d rather it not end up in the landfill. I am not a hoarder (yet) and hope my wits remain so I have a safe and well kept home. My dad had Alzheimer’s so it’s not a guarantee. That’s why just beginning is important; it’s a long process.

[@akontarini]

beautiful, well thought out plan!🥰

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

Just wow😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

❤

[@Sentimentalist0923]

This is something that Ive been thinking about lately. Your video couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Thanks, Tim!

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Good luck!

[@Mysticislander02]

Love the wisdom, Tim. Thanks for talking about it all! Also, love the sweater! Xo 😘

[@kzZnAT0r]

❤

[@khill6510]

This topic is so important! A few years ago my stepmother passed and I along with her brother had to go through everything with no direction. What we found was she was a very, organized hoarder. I wish I'd had more time to go through things as many items belonged to my dad. Because we both lived many miles from her house (me 2,000 miles,) everything was extremely rushed. Because of that experience, I've followed many of your suggestions so my kids won't have to guess. Two things I did in the process: 1) Donated a whole stack of genealogy research to the local library. 2) Donated antique toys to a toy museum so others could enjoy.

[@akontarini]

🥰

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

Well done 😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

😊

[@pamengland7863]

That’s really great to donate for things to still have a life.

[@LittleQueenie64]

My husband and I have gotten an estate plan. This is supposed to keep our assets from going through probate. I have been declutterring to minimize our belongings so that our kids do not have to go through what my siblings and I went through when our father passed. We have verbally told our children what we want when we pass and make sure they have no obligation to keep anymore than what they want. Our next step is to prepay our cremation so they are not responsible for expenses or making arrangements. Some think this is morbid, but I feel it’s my final gift to them. We are both 60 and healthy and do not expect to leave this world anytime soon, but it never hurts to be prepared. Especially when some of these preparations cost money. It’s much better to spread these expenses out. You had other great ideas that we had not thought of but will take into consideration. Thank you

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

My dad died suddenly. My mom was faced with all the details of burial while grieving. It was really, really hard on her. She has prepaid everything for her funeral. Including the plans to transport her body back to AR to be buried next to my dad. Believe me, it will be hugely helpful.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

@@TheNewRetiredMe👍💕

[@xpsxps1339]

I think this is not morbid (though, in all the Western culture we have this kinda approach to death), but very considerate. And yes, it will be an appreciated gift to your children. Mourning itself is stressful enough, let alone some other financial and material burdens over the top of that. Your children are very lucky to have wise and reasonable parents like you!

[@kzZnAT0r]

😊😊😊

[@k26kv31]

A written story behind things helps. Along with some fancy glassware Mom has three pretty ordinary juice glasses in her cabinet, and she recently shared the story behind them. They were the three glasses that the kids were given to drink a small bit of cherry juice while the adults had their beverage of choice. The glasses were raised at Christmas before dinner at my Great Grandparents house (old country Swedes) and Mom told me about all of her memories of those days in great detail while looking at these three ordinary glasses. I would have just donated these glasses but knowing the story behind them and having it written down helps me to understand why they were kept. They are more precious to me than any of the fancy stuff in that cabinet.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

sweet story!

[@pamengland7863]

You helped me to have a Conversation with my adult children. They both know I hoard things. I’m just like my Parents. Everything can certainly be used again…right? Well my items have become such a burden. I’m 55. So for my Birthday my Daughter if flying up to visit me for a long weekend to get the ball rolling because I don’t want to burden her. 2 weeks Prior to that visit I will be spending a week with my Parents to go through some things. It’s so wonderful how you’re saying every word you’re speaking. And of course I have to mention your very comforting voice. ☺️

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Wow! Congratulations on taking a first step!

[@sandycalhoun9496]

One of your best videos since I'm at the age to consider advice on the topic. Years ago I asked my daughter if there was anything I had she wanted. She said 3 things so I went ahead + gave her. I'm glad I asked as later I had actually passed 3 times of a blood clot. Thankfully I recovered but took 6 months. So ask your kids! Some do, some don't. I spent most of 2024 decluttering our house. The best question is to ask yourself "am I using this item"....if no, donate or give to someone. I don't need or will I ever again use three 9x12 baking pans. Repeat....I will "never again" use three! I won't ever again wear that Christmas inexpensive broach. Decluttering brings peace + feels like a weight has been lifted. Walk those bags of donations immediately out to your car + immediately drop off.

[@akontarini]

😊you got this!

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

Good thinking 😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

❤

[@PippyKatStamper]

Valuable information, Tim! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. Being the sole caregiver for all of my family members who are now deceased, I have accumulated a TON of their possessions. Over the years I have donated, sold, and purged nearly everything. What a daunting task that was - and continues to be!! I still have a few "collections" from my grandparents (antiques) and my husband (camera collection), that I'm just not ready to part with - yet. The older I get, the more I want to pass them along to a dedicated collector. Meanwhile... In the process of all this, I have decided to declutter, purge, donate and sell the majority of my own belongings since there is no one left to inherit what I own upon death. If there are viewers who find themselves to be an "Elder Orphan" like me, the time is now to get rid of everything that you possibly can. Pre-pay your cremation or burial - personally, I chose no funeral since I would be the only one in attendance - LOL!!! And, as a home owner, an attorney can prepare a "Ladybird Deed". In essence, this deed allows you to name a person, charity, etc... to become the owner of your properties upon your demise. You are still the owner and have FULL control over selling, remodeling, etc... - until your death. Additionally, if you no longer want to be a home owner, downsize to an apartment to make things even easier upon death. This is what I will do - eventually. If there are pets involved, name the Veterinarian's office as the sole heir of any animals involved. If heirs are involved, by all means speak with an attorney, tax consultant, investment broker(s) and anyone specializing in probate issues.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Much love to you in your journey. ❤️

[@PippyKatStamper]

@@TheNewRetiredMe Thank you, Tim!

[@richardmcgreal8825]

We updated our will 2 years ago with our then 30 year old daughters present to hear and understand. We stipulated if we all left this earth together, all our money would go to Sister of Charity of Nazareth as this was where my father's sister served as nun for over 60 years. You have provided some excellent information. Joan

[@sandycalhoun9496]

Amen

[@akontarini]

🤓

[@AngelaDavis-yz3xf]

Thank you Tim for covering this important topic without being morbid 😊

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

I try. :)

[@akontarini]

😊

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

😊

[@AZsunflower]

Once when our son was visiting I asked him if he wanted a certain item I had that he had once referred to as a 'treasure'. He replied, "NO, in your house it's a treasure, in my house it is junk." We laughed, but it sure has made letting go of things much easier.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

That’s a great story!

[@AZsunflower]

@@TheNewRetiredMe My daughter-in-law and I hid his baby crib quilt in her suitcase because she wanted it. She has nothing much from her own childhood. I promised her I would keep the child sized maple rocking chair he got for his first birthday.

[@anngosda7333]

I think about this so much because I had to clean out my mother’s house by myself. It was daunting, it took me two years. I don’t want my children to have to go through the same thing that I did.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

True😊

[@trumax33]

Witnessing others dealing with their parents stuff, I vowed to not burden my only child with mine. I've told her with 100% certainty that once I'm gone, she has ZERO obligation to keep ANYTHING that belonged to me. I have some notes for her in my bible & a journal that I've been writing in (to her) since she was young. She knows those are the only 2 items I would like for her to keep. She can keep any or all of the pictures she wants & the rest is just stuff. She has my blessing to sell it, donate it or throw it all away. The best gifts are the memories....not tarnished by a big heavy bow of belongings on top!

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤😊❤

[@marnyharrison9176]

In my experiences unless you have something very valuable or very sentimental the younger generations don't want your stuff. Get rid of what you can now by gifting, donating, or selling. Use the money to take care of yourself/loved ones or enjoy an shared experience with your family and friends. Everyone will treasure this more most items could ever offer.

[@richardmcgreal8825]

I agree about getting rid of stuff now as you said. The only thing that is valuable to my daughters is our 2 family house and it is theirs. Who doesn't want a house. Joan

[@akontarini]

well said!

[@debrajones7349]

Sometimes something not valuable and insignificant is what triggers a happy childhood memory. I’ve given my children the opportunity to let me know about those items as well.

[@richardmcgreal8825]

@@debrajones7349 Good point. I have my grandmother's winter hat. Simple, but means a lot. Joan

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

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[@rrichardson53]

Well articulated! In 2020 my husband’s health took a major decline (dementia). We took the following four years going thru all of his material possessions from his past and donated 99% of it to charities while he was still aware. I’m a minimalist so I have very few (important) possessions so it will be easy for my loved ones (siblings) if something happens to me.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤

[@allisonspeer649]

Such a great video. I've actually talked to my son since I was about 40 about final wishes, both paperwork and items. Back then he used to be kind of creeped out about it, you know... Mom you're not dying. But now that I'm 65 he doesn't present that argument. LOL. It is a fact of life. I've seen so many family members/friends who had to deal with the sickness/death of a loved one with absolutely no guidance from their loved one. I truly feel this is the best gift you can give your children. We have discussed personal items and basically my son and his wife are not interested in anything that I have collected over the years. I will leave them one or two items. I"m planning to have my own estate sale before I pass away if possible. I've been downsizing and decluttering for a few years now.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Sounds like a great plan. Let’s hope it is many, many years from now.

[@akontarini]

good plan!

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

👍

[@gillianspooner5521]

Hi. I regularly watch your videos, and enjoy them.😊. I lost both my parents, 17 weeks apart in 2022, and gave away most of their belongings to help others. My 2 grown sons and wives (I'm your age), had what they wanted, but they also had a very good chunk of my parent's estate, to help them while we were alive. Sadly I then lost my husband very nearly a year ago and had to sort his belongings out. So, the point of all this is, I now have my will and POA sorted, and am getting all paperwork together and will do as you suggest, with items. My youngest son and wife will be sorting it, and I want to make it as easy as possible for them. Sorry about the long comment, but thank you. ☕☕

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

My condolences on your losses. I’m glad to hear you are getting things together for your children.

[@richardmcgreal8825]

I'm so sorry for all you have been through. I also lost both my parents in 2021 only 5 weeks apart so understand. It sounds like you are doing all the right things legally to make it easy for your children. That is one of the greatest gifts you can give to them. Joan

[@akontarini]

❤👍

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

🤗💕

[@dianalama1591]

Decluttering and passing items to others is what our mother has done for years. She always says she doesn’t want others to come in after her and be tasked with it. Mom says it’s a lot of work and decision making that takes time. THankYou for such a great topic!!!

[@akontarini]

🤗

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤😊❤

[@kzZnAT0r]

❤

[@lanalou77]

When my sister in law died her daughter kept so much of her stuff her house was literally packed! After a few years I finally convinced her to let it go!

[@akontarini]

grief does funny things to us

[@lanalou77]

@ I know! I kept my mom’s clothes! After a few years I gave them away.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

😊

[@kzZnAT0r]

❤

[@AgingOnYourTerms]

Great information Tim. I am going to add that this is also applicable to making your home safer to help a person age in their home. I went through this with my in-laws, and we had a made scramble (7-days) to get their home ready so my father could be discharged to to his home vs. a skilled nursing facility.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Thanks for sharing! That’s great information!

[@akontarini]

very important point!

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

👍

[@kzZnAT0r]

😊

[@tiahill832]

Thanks Tim for sharing! Have a wonderful weekend! 🙂🥰😘❤

[@akontarini]

❤

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤❤❤

[@janetroberts7073]

Very thoughtful tips. I think if we simplify now, it won't be a big burden. We have downsized to an apartment and got rid of most of our stuff . What we do have is labelled as you say. Like my husband's train collection which is now minimal. My kids didnt want china ir crystal so its gone . I like the way your Mom gifted some jewelry now. I do have photo boxes for each child and grandchild with their photos and keepsakes , each labelled with their name

[@akontarini]

❤❤❤

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤😊❤

[@vickieelijah3616]

Great idea to explore this issue/idea. Thanks so much!

[@kzZnAT0r]

❤😊

[@akontarini]

Thank you! Not there yet, but definetelly in the plans!

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

Same here 😊

[@TheTwistedJalapeno]

Great video on a very important topic.

[@akontarini]

💯

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

Indeed 😊

[@lleocttx2326]

Absolutely 100% right!

[@antoinetteklaasen5540]

Thank you so much for this Video Tim it's a very good one ,will follow this great advice

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

Very nice 😊

[@ellenherman9543]

I went thru all my stuff about 10 yrs ago. Glad I did.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

me too!

[@billphelps3548]

Thank you for this. I am going through my things now and having great difficulty with how to proceed you have helped my thought process a lot.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

You are so welcome!

[@akontarini]

😊

[@lucindawilson5510]

Well said ..important topic thanks Tim

[@akontarini]

I agree

[@karelseemonster]

Ek stem saam.

[@richardmcgreal8825]

Keeping to Sharing: Great idea! Over Christmas I gave my daughter Mary her great mother's green "Depression" candle sticks. She also has my grandmother's kitchen table and gorgeous chairs made in Boston at Jordan Marsh. She uses it everyday. Her twin is getting the glass bowl that goes with candle sticks and has other items. Yesterday I gave my sister a beautiful Irish blanket with my maiden name in Celtic symbol. She is single and it means more to her. She was thrilled. I like having an independent person involved if needed. When we broke down my parents' house very quickly, I made sure I was there to empty the kitchen, garage, shed in order to prevent dumpster dumping. My parents lived in town with St. Vincent de Pauls and I packed and my brother and husband drove ( many trips) My parents did no planning. It will be and is different for my girls. This is a very difficult topic and I see why people avoid it. I forgot the most important keepsake: My mother's engagement ring and my great grandmother's (Winnie) wedding band. I have them on as I type. That's all I need. Joan

[@akontarini]

😊☺🙂

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤😊❤

[@jennifergreen4324]

I have listed items that are special to me, and the reason why. When the time comes my children can decide if they wish to keep any of them or not, knowing my thoughts.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Good plan.

[@akontarini]

excellent choice

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

👍🤗

[@grassrootsgardening]

good advice, like your channel!

[@pamengland7863]

I so love this!

[@kayscheuer9159]

Thank you ❤

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

😊😊😊

[@PennyPudge]

Some great ideas.

[@rubysmith4931]

Well thought out video Tim 11

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Thank you, Mom!

[@akontarini]

hi Ruby! ❤

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

You did so well ❤ but you know that❤😊❤

[@PeacefulGirl-lf1ys]

Good topic. I do not want relationships to be broken because of my belongings. My siblings did not get along after my parents' deaths. It has been almost 25 years. We still have issues.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

I have some distant family like that. It’s very sad.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

Sadly too common

[@valerierandall3640]

Such a great video. We’re still struggling in this area and I hope that my husband and I can watch this together and maybe reach some forward progress in this area. I appreciate your insights as always, Tim.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

😊

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤

[@jacquelinewalters6811]

I almost gave up on your channel but this video is great. I just got a Nokbox so many of these ideas you mention can be included in the box. TY

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

I’m sorry to hear I almost lost you!

[@GoingGreenMom]

Ive been using my Dad's hair cutting scissors. My daughter's friends are asking me for hair trims lately, and they won't mean anything to anyone else, but I'll use them til I can't and let them go. ❤

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

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[@akontarini]

🤗

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

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[@Kiki-wi7px]

Like " They " have Alway's Said . . . There are "2" Thing's that are a Given. Death and Taxes. We All N-e-e-d to Be Responsible enough to Take Care of Important Matter's so Other's Don't Have To. GREAT Video Tim ! !👍🏽

[@akontarini]

so true!

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

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[@TheBigfoot567]

Nice sweater-!!

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

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[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

Thoughtful ❤

[@tarynsanmartino8930]

Good evening Tim, Thanks so much for doing this one. It's excellent and has many details that may be overlooked during estate planning. The struggles with making decisions on stuff left behind is daunting. Without some direction, it can take years to get through it all. I particularly like your recommendations with regard to downloading the family photos to disk form that can be kept and shared.

[@akontarini]

❤💯

[@Beingnessing]

Distribute money early if you can . especially to those who are struggling and the money could help them immensely.like a needed car condo.....my uncle did this for my aunt and she was able to get into a condo which secured her living until she passed.he could because the money was liquid

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

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[@cathyrobrahn2864]

Tim you are so right about things that are important to you are not important to your children. I have 2 step sons and want to give to them now things that were their father’s. To my nieces and nephews I would like to give certain items from my side of the family. The reality is they do not have the space or the desire for a lot of “things”. I think your suggestion of digitizing photos would be most important to them all. A picture is indeed worth a 1,000 words. Your topics are always thought provoking and timely. Thank you for this video.

[@akontarini]

🥰

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤

[@CanadaFree-ce9jn]

The video topic is also popularly called "Swedish Death Cleaning" on KZbin. I'd first say get rid of all clothes that you no longer wear, that includes those pants you will get hemmed one day, that pair of shoes you will get re-soled one day. Then get rid of sport/hobby gear you no longer use, the ones you keep when you think of the "good ol' days". Get rid of collections as well when you know no one else is in the family is into your old bayonet collection, your vintage car models, etc. I should mention a dream I had tonight. We had a friend who lived in a senior center but his unit was a full apartment unit. The dream was: I was in his apartment and there was a table of all kinds of old people stuff and it all had price stickers on it, like he was selling things to the other residents. I guess it applies here in that, if you sell things off in later life, then you can use that money for your needs or simply for your fun like day trips, etc.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

an idea....

[@sj6728]

I am so grateful that I have done this already. I still get rid of things and everyone laughs because they can't believe I have anything left to get rid of 😂😅😅😅😂😅I do not want to leave a mess. The one thing I have to improve on is my current tax papers organizing has to be improved. 😮 I enjoy decluttering so much!!!

[@akontarini]

hat off to you

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

👍🥳💕

[@sj6728]

Thank you!

[@desertfish6239]

My inlaws will not get rid of anything. The closets are full of stuff that haven't been used in over 30 years. They dont even remember what they have. MIL also has 3 closets full of clothes that no longer fit and havent in years, some have sale tags from stores long out of business. They moved 25 years ago and still haven't unpacked boxes from that move.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Wow!

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

Oh boy😂

[@Busy-After-60]

Great topic I had an idea to do that on my channel, but you did it so well there’s no way I can even come close but one thing I have done already is I passed on something that was my great grandmother’s to one of my cousins daughters it was a cedar chest that she used to call her despair barrel and with it, I included a framed photograph of my great grandmother and a story of where she got it and how it was passed down through members of the family. My cousin’s daughter will appreciate it. I have other things I have started to pass on to my cousin’s children since my son really is not interested in things like my grandmother’s handkerchiefs.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Im glad you’re finding a future home for those items. And please. Make your video! :)

[@Busy-After-60]

@ it’s on my list of videos to possibly tackle. I am at that stage of needing to D clutter and minimize and pass things on just because of my age. I kind of wish I hadn’t done so much of a huge decluttering minimalization of my home already because I don’t have it to video for the channel. I have started since then. I’m sure I can figure something out though, but I enjoyed your talk. You have a great way with words.

[@akontarini]

@@TheNewRetiredMe 🤗

[@akontarini]

@@Busy-After-60 🤗🥰

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

@@TheNewRetiredMe👍

[@PatB415]

I'm now the last remaining, an Orphan, as my Brother passed 12/24. No one lives nearby. Moving to an apt, downsizing, donating, garage sale, etc. Family Search Genealogy was shared with his Great Grandchild, the only person interested. Photos will be flamed as his family line have their own memories. Prepaid cremation is with Neptune Society. I still have my Mom's ashes (at her request) in a vase & I guess we'll be dispersed in the wind together. Heirs are addressed in Will/Trust...Atty to execute it. Atty contact is magnet-ed to the refrigerator. Did I miss anything?

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

I think you’ve covered a lot!

[@akontarini]

😊🥰

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

😊 well done

[@PeterCleveland-n1t]

Good advice. I have given some jewelry to granddaughters much as your Mother is doing. I am not wearing much anymore and gold is too expensive to buy! I hope to leave a very limited amount of “stuff” for my kids and grandkids to worry about. I have started taking pictures of things that I donate or pitch or give to family and keeping it in my phone. That way I don’t spend a lot of time later looking for something, like maybe a rolling pin, that is no longer here. Carole

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤😊❤

[@SharonOnTheNet]

i also saw a video that talked about all our digital possisins and accounts and hoe to transfer them and the rights to any income to our heirs.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

Also important!

[@akontarini]

😉😊

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

👍

[@jangibson825]

My mother of 89 has been thinking quite a bit about this topic, she has always been very careful to ensure that we are all treated equally . We are fortunate in that my father ensured my mother was well cared for financially When he passed . She has some beautiful rings but not enough for each female in the family because of this she has made the decision that her rings have to have the stones removed and each stone made into pendants therefore each granddaughter will receive one. I thought this was a great idea and would prevent some difficult decisions !!

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

That’s a great plan!

[@akontarini]

🥰

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

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[@ellenherman9543]

I have nothing material wise that means anything. My kids will have it pretty good.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

good thinking

[@valerie718]

I struggle with knowing at what age do I start distributing sentimental items to my kids. I’m only 56. Do I start in my 70’s or 80’s? My husband and I are very mindful about not having a lot of possessions. We don’t want to burden our kids.

[@akontarini]

🤗

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤ that’s true 😊

[@Jean-ni6of]

All I have, and it's a lot, will go to St Jude's Children's Research Hospital. Money, house, and contents with jewelry should go to a good place and, it will. Others will have memories, maybe.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

❤

[@lose999]

Have you heard about Swedish.Death cleaning? What are your thoughts? My kids will want a few special belongings, jewelry, but that's it.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

I have heard of it and briefly studied it. But I don’t know enough about it to share an opinion of whether it is the right thing to do. :(

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

😊

[@lose999]

Tim, didn't you once tell us to video ourselves telling stories and documenting our stuff? Would that be better than a will? There would be no questions if it was video recorded.

[@TheNewRetiredMe]

I’m not a legal expert, so I can’t answer that I’m afraid.

[@amritabhattacharyya4882]

@@TheNewRetiredMe👍