What are the Cognitive Transitions of ESFJs?

[@Seljhbff]

Everybody: gets dizzy and/or uncomfortable. Me: laughs in Si demon.

[@Riiiiiingo]

Same, I actually really like to look at the sky, my favorite one is in the beginning of 'who are the ENFJs' lecture.

[@grahamlichtner]

The way this is shot is legendary... Chase you're the man.

[@ericjam]

I thought I’d be hella annoyed but it’s like weirdly comforting, he’s biking and chatting without sounding tired at all

[@nicodiangelo3308]

No one: An entp:Making a psychology video on a bike and thinking about lecturing while jumping out of a plane 😂😂😂

[@soniac2156]

💪😂😂😂

[@Yunixes]

The ultimate *BRUH* just entered my mind when reading this.

[@whatthetart]

I'm an ESFJ and I'm truly thankful for you and all your knowledge that you share with us. Your lectures gives me new perspectives and ideas on how to be better for the sake of myself, not others. I didn't really think early how much I need to be listened to by my friends and partners. That's could be a reason why I felt awful in some relationships. This and many other pieces of information already helps me to be more direct about my needs to my loved ones and bring wonderful results. Thank you.

[@pennymichelle2819]

Add hi 17:55

[@christiecochran18]

I died laughing remembering my experiences with SFJs when you talked about SFJs being both passive aggressive informative with their bitter criticisms but also “polite” and “respectful” with their word choices. You’ve got to love SFJ passive aggressive caring gifts and acts of service. I do enjoy that INTP subconscious that spends days thinking about one thing until they have verified proof why they know what should be done.

[@BookofYAH777]

31:20 "swallowed a bug" the bug can hear you more clearly when they're in your mouth. It wants to learn psychology too, you know

[@hannahspurling1105]

Take a shot every time he says "it is what it is"

[@princethomasx7315]

Read this the moment he said it. lol

[@dairdb]

Chase: "This is going to trigger people cause im on a bike" Me an ENTJ: "i cant believe we let this ENTP make these horrible, badly filmed, bad presented, blah blah blah, videos" *watches video with no issues* *reads comments about the video triggering people* Me: "oh yea, i was complaining about the bad video presentation... i can believe, blah blah blah 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@dtrupl]

OK, lets count the dizzy people for his Se demon, ill start: Me =1 great lecture tho, just look at a different tab the whole time

[@soniac2156]

😂😂😂 all of my pictures are just like taken while on a bicycle -ENTP

[@moodymcsorley7691]

Thanks for the great lecture. I immediately started cracking up as soon as the video started, knowing that you took the presentation to a new level.

[@TarTelperienNumenor]

51:07 - 51:42 Beautifully said! As an ESFJ I relate and aspire to this.

[@lloatgamma]

Shooting a lecture while biking, and talking about potentially shooting a lecture while jumping out of a plane or skateboarding is total Ne chaos/movement lol

[@lloatgamma]

Your comfort + solid execution amidst this chaos/movement is very Ne Hero of you

[@claudiaramos3992]

Tell us how to use our superego entj side to make more money lol pleasee

[@NatsGhost]

Damn, you are just one of those people that actually makes me happy I'm a people, lol. Seriously you are incredibly valuable to me and checking in with you on this process for the last couple of years has been incredibly bolstering, incredibly informative, and incredibly efficacious for me and my loved ones. I dig the bike. Actually I remember hoping a few months ago or so that you were okay and taking care of yourself and now I'm not worried lol. In the last video of yours I watched I mentioned that my entire self was aligning for a relationship with my dual and while it used to seem absurd I was reconsidering my position and I was having this sense and feeling and knowing that I was going to have a significant encounter with a dual, a mutual learning experience, but I was imagining it was romantic for some reason, I guess lol. Well, once again I'm so unconscious of something right in front of my face!...I was unable to type my dad definitively in the past, I kept going back and forth, it was like something was in the way, possibly because of extreme emotional complexes remaining from childhood of abuse and abandonment. It does hurt to go back and try to figure things out, and I'm only just now becoming fully conscious of how my dad and I interact and though I've never been able to type him before (I'm an INTP), I know now he is an ESFJ. I have been, for the past seven months or so trying to rebuild my relationships with my dad and sister and clear up any old patterns together. (Wah :( no intense, sexy, conflicted relationship with a fireman dual??? :( Super sad...) I've been able to mend so much! My sister is an INFJ, so it was really important to type her so I could understand her. I asked her to type herself about eight years ago but she lied and she said she hated her type. She threw me off the scent really well lol. But during this new healing time she explained all that and really owned herself, it was fucking beautiful. She is learning about herself through the cognitive functions and you can see how incredibly helpful it is to her psyche right now. My dad never listens enough so I gave him some books and I interject when I can make the most impact very succinctly. In about two years he will call me up and tell me all about this new thing he's learned about cognitive functions and tell me about everything I've ever said in an hour long monologue lol! But it's okay, I'm just happy he might start phenomenologically understanding his functioning a little better. I set him up in a conversational group with the intention of listening more than talking and he's happily attending these bimonthly and I'm looking for other ways to help him. I'm even kind of pretending Actually now that I know for sure he and I are going to make some real progress and I'm going to make some charts for him. Dang, phone calls and work..gotta watch the rest later.

[@diyab1056]

I'm INTJ, I started dating my ESFJ because he's just the most caring person you'll ever meet. I stayed out of romantic relationships for my whole school and university life because I didn't trust men (and consequently had the most sleazy ESFPs and ESTPs chase me all through this period which just terrified me further) but then my ESFJ came along and suddenly I wasn't afraid of romantic relationships anymore. Now 2 years into our relationship he still does a lot for me (he listens to what I want, he takes me anywhere I need to go because I don't drive). I just think he gets extremely passive aggressive when we fight (I'm straightforward so I'll say "You did X so it's wrong" and he'll change the subject but then an hour later tell me something deliberately to push my buttons) and also he's quite manipulative when he's being passive aggressive and I fall for *any manipulation strategy you could possibly Google* How do I make an ESFJ more straightforward and less passive aggressive and manipulative? Also sometimes I feel like he provokes me in order to get a reaction (to prove I still care about him) because I'm sorta reserved with handing out affection.

[@CSJoseph]

It will never happen. He is triple informative. You need to read No more Mr. Nice guy and watch the virtue and vice vid for ESFJs. Learn about the covert contract then call him out for doing that.

[@diyab1056]

@@CSJoseph Thanks I'll give it a look. He's definitely a _nice guy_ but I love me a nice guy, I didn't know that had cons :p

[@chunis]

I didn't see that "CóMo EsTá uSteD?? " coming 😅 As a castellano speaker I found that hilarious 🤣🤣

[@bobbyjean1581]

Is that the polite form of asking how are you?

[@themoonbleu627]

don’t feel bad about taking advantage of your grandmother you were an innocent child you had no idea 💙

[@salaheddinecherrak6386]

I've practicaly seen Chase's face in every angle now, if you do a skydiving lecture then we'll see the top view angle view

[@nguyenthanhlong137]

Just go cycling when listening to this and you wont get dizzy at all

[@Retrogamer71]

21:40 second view jump in; transitions 52:00 good advice to the ESFJ persona, gratitude

[@lucindaessin]

Thank you for focusing and making sense of it in the end.

[@leilanoorani2976]

Best channel on MBTI. Another super-helpful in depth, insightful lecture. Thanks

[@CSJoseph]

You are very welcome

[@CuddleClaw.]

I love that you’re lecturing on a bike

[@Lairenzo]

Very good format. 10/10 se

[@caymant8959]

SE demon RELISHING this video actually; relishing the fact that someone whom I greatly respect and learn from constantly couldn’t give a damn about his aesthetic presentation (at times) which is refreshing. please do a skydiving lecture Chase! hahahahahaha

[@malindaeckert2300]

Not possible, a skydive is maybe 15 minutes 😜

[@fib4983]

@@malindaeckert2300 Ooo what if he added time by starting his lecture before he jumps like the fly up

[@nicodiangelo3308]

That's the best community on KZbin, I swear 😂😂😂

[@blue-ks8zu]

i was not expecting this video to have such a funny/cute start😂😂😂

[@failedbooli6028]

The video just just got released an hour ago and most of the comments are people complaining about Se demon 😂 love it ❤

[@Hadeel.414]

* God bless you and railgun together , I am happy seeing you that you are happy and in love with her ❤ * literally I realized that it doesn't matter the lightning or experience at all ..Because all it matters is the context and the knowledge you have inside of you and btw i enjoyed the bike lecture ..I felt that you are hanging out with us , talking about psychology which it seems real and very authentic from you and also love that pragmatism, you could shoot whatever place and time you want and I will literally still want to listen to you

[@t.6071]

When you say traditional, I’m starting to think the new traditional is the whole liberal, feminism ish and I think truly going against the new traditionalism is the old traditionalism if that makes any sense. I know so many SJs who are feminists and so many NFs who are anti-feminists and housewives.

[@CSJoseph]

just goes to show how the "affiliative" is far more subjective than the pragmatic

[@marianocastro3430]

Fascinating.

[@brainwashed2534]

Do you live in a city ? This isn’t really that true overall

[@redadventurer3552]

Awesome video keep up the. Awesome work man. This series really helps to elaborate on the positive and negative flow of cognition for each mbti type.

[@bethlanglois9361]

It’s nice how you always remember to acknowledge who in your life gave you a piece of advice. That’s a sweet thing to do. Also I don’t care one bit where or how you lecture- just want to get more of this info into my brain! It never occurred to me to criticize where you’re doing it or the quality of the video- what counts is the info. That’s se trickster for you I guess lol

[@catinthepeng2686]

I hate my ridiculous Se (poLr); I zone out constantly and miss information; how I am still alive and have the job I have, I have no idea.

[@cifa2638]

The quality of the last videos content of this season is very much superior. Please remake the cognitive transitions for the ESTP. I couldn't learn as much as I'm learning now.,

[@ericjam]

I’m like absolutely melting in my seat you are calling me out on every single behavior and racket I run, like now I know why I was testing ENFP sometimes, because I’m so blind to my own bullshit and embrace ideals I don’t actually do

[@CSJoseph]

That’s how it is for 999/1000 people

[@BookofYAH777]

25:30 "cosmic lottery" prob more like a genetic lottery than a cosmic one

[@moonshoestarkid]

i can never multitask like that 😂 i can’t even chew and think at the same timw

[@soniac2156]

😂

[@st3llarmemer111]

Imagine being dizzy when you could just listen to the episode while working on something else This post was made by ENTP gang

[@sandradibiaso7316]

ISFPs can covert contract because our shadow is an ESFJ.

[@nicholasedmunds5975]

Have you considered leaving the United States? Cost of living you referenced. It seems like your business does not require physically living in the US? I watch Nomad Capitalist, even though he is a bit smug (IMO) and specifically markets to people 10 times as wealthy as I am, he is correct about the exorbitant costs in the US. I do like his videos, and I do like Malaysia and Mexico.

[@jaredvaughan1665]

61% of ESFJs self typed as enneagram 2 in a massive personality cafe survey. (See Wikipedia.)

[@nicodiangelo3308]

Chase:If you ask an esfj what they want you're going to get a ,,deer in the headlights,, response. Me:If you put an entp on a bike while making a lecture everyone better have a ,,deer in the headlines,, response cuz I dunno how many will survive this 😂😂😂

[@danieltarantino988]

It's fascinating how your video becomes dark soo quick #sun.

[@webkelpie]

Hey Chase, Thanks for another great lecture. I liked the bike idea - it was fun - but I think it messed with your delivery a bit. Ever been skydiving before? It sounds terrifying and exhilarating all at the same time, probably make for a large number of views but I reckon you would maybe have to reshoot the actual lecture so that we could hear you over your exclamations!! 😆

[@RoseyCreations]

When I listen to this while doing chores and I don't get dizzy :P

[@nicholasedmunds5975]

I am not triggered by the way you’re filming your video. I think it would be fascinating if you traveled to Mumbai and filmed a video while walking on the streets in Mumbai. I saw one yesterday, not about typology, it was amazing with all the color and people. I want to do the same.

[@Kiseochan]

I'm so interested in this stuff that I'm about to get a damn notebook and start taking notes so I can actually PROCESS it. XD It all makes sense to me, but I can't quite make sense of all of it... If that makes sense?

[@bethlanglois9361]

Kiseo Chan are you an intp?

[@Kiseochan]

@@bethlanglois9361 I'm an INFP

[@bethlanglois9361]

Oh awesome! Me too 🤗❤️

[@marianocastro3430]

I had to stop the video at 42:18 because I was laughing so much! Funny. : ) You remind me of ENTP (duh), INTJ, and INTP people I know. Love it!

[@BookofYAH777]

42:20 "bringing out the ESFJ grandma from the CNN echo chamber" did you manage to do it without her throwing hateful labels at you that they learned from CNN?

[@tituskolars3843]

23:50 helped me realize just how important birds are.

[@Magdalene41]

Is it possible for an ESFJ to appear pragmatic if they are UD / SF? Or if they are very jaded from being a giant human doormat. (totally understand if you don’t answer just taking the random chance that you are bored out of your mind lol)

[@moonshoestarkid]

am i the only person that doesn’t consider esfjs as loyal? is it because of my high standards of loyalty as an infp. i see them being loyal to everyone that passes by which kinda devalues their loyalty towards me

[@KrypticKiss18]

Technically we are loyal yes. However our loyalty comes from an extraverted feeling perspective which is why it’s odd to you. Just why I think introverted feeling loyalty is, often times, insanity. -ESFJ

[@user-uq9oe7sc5m]

Well... INFPs are the most loyal of the types, is their virtue. But they can also be the most treacherous.

[@maryrosenwasser1656]

If someone is loyal to their friends, family, clients, exes or current partner i know that there is a high chance that they will be loyal to me People tend to act the same with everyone, so if they are only loyal to you it is probably an act or a temporary crush that keeps them from betraying or cheating on you People who are generally flawed until they fall for someone and become the perfect person just for them exist only in manga, in real life anyone who acts like this is manipulative or severely traumatized

[@Heart.headed]

We're loyal af.... unless/until we realize we've been pouring our heart, mind & soul into others (with them being happy/well, the only goal)... shirt off our own back (cuz they were cold outside & said they didn't have one)... then, when the tables are turned... and we are cold outside... cuz we gave them a shirt we no longer have.. and we ask if we they might be willing to share one of their 3 layers.. the response is: "Fuck off." That's both a literal & analogous example. Point is, we're all about the R's. Mutual(s): Respect, Responsibility, & Reciprocity. An unhealthy/exhausted ESFJ looks pedantically demanding for those... A healthy ESFJ will set healthy boundaries... So we don't have to put our foot in an exploiters ass 😁. To do otherwise (boundaries related), leads us to call back for help we really don't need... and gettin all hurt for lack of reciprocity we don't deserve-definitively speaking. Ya dig? 😎 TL;DR EDIT Reciprocity. What I'm saying is... ESFJ's are all about giving. Shitty &/or Shiny. Choose wisely 🤣🤣🤣

[@nicholasedmunds5975]

Is the phrase ‘would you be so kind as to...?’ considered informative? If used routinely and habitually for requests? I can make the argument for both. Confusing to me. Or could it be just extroverted feeling? Asking in a socially proper way?

[@kurodesuuuu]

so kind as to... What comes after the dots wil determine whether it's informative or direct. Direct will be to the point & concise

[@maryia.v]

Every time I tell someone I'm and ESFJ and in a 5-year commited relationship with an INTP I get condescending replies like "you've probably mistyped each other" I've been watching Chase from season 1 and no we didn't mistype each other, we are simply two mature and healthy individuals supporting each others' aspirations and development, and learning how to make each other happy if it does not come naturally (does it for anyone?) I understand Chase's view on "why dual relationships can't work", but that only applies if one or both people are stuck in their Ego ways and close-mindedly follow "default mode" programmes You always brings up the fact that two Si's would be horrible in bed for example, but if both people listen and try hard to please each other - they may as well learn to enjoy their own experiences and feelings (me more because my Se is higher up in the cognitive stack, but still) Or that our Heros would tire each other out - yes I do get tired after an hour of a Ti-Ne metaphisical science conversation, but talking this through with respect and understanding we have found so many ways to fit each other better based on the knowledge of depth psychology from you Chase (Thank you, truly) I just don't want people out there to think that their dual relationship is doomed - no relationship is if there is respect, love and willingness to open up your mind to new things

[@CSJoseph]

It is not doomed. However, it is a staggering amount of work and effort that goes far beyond other relationships

[@twistedsunshine3276]

Lmao @ shooting while biking! Wtf. Question: Does INFJ really find it hard to focus over something? Like this one i have to get my earphone off just to mute it off so i can concentrate typing. I will have to replay the vid for like hundred times so i can focus on what you're saying because my mind is already messing up with me traveling tru different space and dimensions everytime i tried to focus! Kiddng More power to you and your family! What a sweet couple! ❤

[@Dakuta12]

have you watched Better Call Saul? What do you say to Kim Wexler being an ESFJ?

[@CathAlexandra]

Ewwwww, bugs. LOL Just extra protein.

[@ShadowQuik]

lol I laughed at the beginning that was so unexpected

[@t.6071]

What’s the difference between Fe-Ne loop and Fe-Se loop

[@LutraOfTheSea]

really solid lecture

[@dallasjansen2226]

Are ESFJs more likely to suffer from PTSD with that Si being so high up?

[@CSJoseph]

Probably not since they have higher endurance

[@grahamlichtner]

Fade to black

[@alexsantana3588]

How does the Inferior function develop prior to the Parent function ... that seems a bit confusing?

[@CSJoseph]

It doesn't.

[@redadventurer3552]

Random question but are there certain cognitive functions that translate to someone posting pictures about themselves on social media?

[@CSJoseph]

Yes

[@helenzheng9557]

Always good for ESFJs to have someone in the family with high camaraderie? Does it mean same quadra relationship is actually good for their development?

[@CSJoseph]

its good for everyone's development

[@helenzheng9557]

@@CSJosephit all comes to maturity. Duality can also be wonderful if both people are mature and healthy. This season and season 19 will save many relationships.

[@maryia.v]

Happy to hear someone in this community actually accept that duality can be a thing!

[@lucindaessin]

How do you get over SJ bias?

[@CSJoseph]

Embrace the unfamiliar

[@conor_tobin]

God those frogs r loud

[@harleyashwood7965]

ESFJ women are probably struggling to keep up with the times because their caretaking tasks have been automated or sometimes looked down upon by others. Maybe society, female friends, her Dad or intp husband expect her to be more into male hobbies/ be more career driven and she is lashing out and following the rules at the same time.

[@CSJoseph]

I did mention that the role of women in the home is diminished due to technology, see season 13 playlist on this youtube channel.

[@harleyashwood7965]

I have watched many, and not all of your vids. Will view. Really happy to know you covered it because, like, no 1 ever does. All i keep hearing us about all these religious dudes wanting women in the kitchen like nothing has changed at all

[@KrypticKiss18]

I have to disagree with this. While it’s true that SFJs can’t really exist in housewife roles there are several areas in society where we are likely dominant such as healthcare, nursing, etc. it’s crazy how much people just want someone to act compassionate and warm towards them. Men in particular claim they want a woman who has similar hobbies but really all they want is a woman they are physically attracted to LOL

[@heii2512]

no it's cool . to ride a bicickle when lecturing . it would be even better for u if u set the camera to capture the road u are driving

[@utena8518]

Hello, can you please type Lana del rey and Ellen Degeneres, i did some research but i think most people mistype them

[@bethlanglois9361]

Charles he typed Ellen as an entp

[@ashleyching7894]

ISFJ beats around the bush to be polite.

[@ashleyching7894]

Sticks to traditional gender roles

[@ashleyching7894]

ESFJ nags SFPs, to their benefit.

[@ashleyching7894]

Wants to be heard, but doesn't want to listen.

[@ashleyching7894]

Ego is primary mode of thinking, feeling, decision making. Subconscious is who you try to become. Unconscious (shadow) is how someone gains wisdom to unlock maturity. Superego where evil, human condition comes from

[@ashleyching7894]

Growth stunted by unfamiliar ideas

[@michelled8962]

Hello I was wondering if you or anyone out there knows what happened to Jaco van der merwe?? He made videos about INFJ's. All his videos are gone.

[@x-ray-vizionz]

buddy, edit in the board at the side or something cmon

[@CSJoseph]

lol you want me to edit, not going to happen

[@themoonbleu627]

I had nothing but a bad experience with this male airhead controlling esfj the one I knew wanted to look perfect to everyone but the truth was they were not being respected at all and far from perfect but overall I like esfj’s they are fun when they are on your side they are very predictable and are kinda ride or die they will hold on and be dragged and be loyal ... now I have isfj always attracting enfj esfj isfj like crazy I avoid enfps &infjs at all cost my dream mate entj ( but I refused to be used 🤣 ) my dream friend intj wish to know istp ☺️

[@nicodiangelo3308]

Yup.

[@lucindaessin]

It is difficult to understand the four sides of the mind because you bounce all over the place.

[@CSJoseph]

Keep watching then

[@kristendutton580]

We are totally doormats. It is not about being smartest in the room-it is more about control. That being said- as an, ESFJ I absolutley cannot stand when someone knows more than I do...I call myself a competitive learner. Is that somehow linked to the ESFJ personality or is that an individual quirk? Maybe because of our need to be the informer? Not a fan of the bike. Are you ADD? Your need to multitask to stay on point is an indication of ADD. Married to ENTP with ADD...he is brilliant... I see a lot of the same tendencies in you.

[@kristendutton580]

Pride maybe...the need to be the best. Not sure if that is pride or competitiveness or a little of both. Maybe insecurity-but I know I am intelligent. Perhaps insecurity makes me want to prove it.

[@kristendutton580]

You are right. TI inferior..walk around afraid we are not smart or intelligent. AGH!! I know I am smart! Why do I have this insecurity!? Logically ridiculous-I know I am smart.

[@kristendutton580]

Thanks. It is not about being likable. Everyone likes ESFJ...because our need to be liked makes us puppies. Another aspect I don't like about myself. I wish I had the ability to not need harmony and affirmation from people. To subconsciously know what I logically know. I want the ability to tell the world to go pound sand and not care...but that is not me. I am the SNL character that needs to looks in the mirror and say "Im good enough, smart enough and doggone it people like me"...the problem is that character is a joke...and I know it.

[@kristendutton580]

I'll get over it. I have a great life.

[@andreazeller3756]

You sound like a ray of sunshine lol. The people that think they know everything usually aren’t the brightest crayon in the box. Don’t throw mental diagnoses around based on your personal experiences.