What is Hypersexuality? | Compulsive Sexual Behavior

[@gabrielasoto3267]

Hello Dr Grande, thank you for touching this topic. I believe my husband was suffering from this problem. Sadly he died from suicide. He had kept this problem a secret for a very long time until he told me about it a few days prior. I miss him every day.

[@sagebias2251]

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm hoping you're well.

[@rohithedalath]

I feel sorry for him...not his fault

[@angelayala3842]

Sorry for your loss I hope that you are healing!

[@omsairam8648]

Rest in peace his soul, 😔 God give you strength 🍀

[@AJPMUSIC_OFFICIAL]

I know this was several months ago but I hope you are dealing with the grief and would recommend talking to a professional to help you learn to manage the pain and move forward.

[@Damnto]

My gay friend was hyper sexual and he told me he got molested by many people when he was young. He killed himself by driving off a bridge. Rest In Peace buddy, the world has been harsh on you for no valid reason

[@aleksandracatt]

That’s so sad 😢. Rip

[@_S._S._]

Rip bro. RIP

[@autumxxleaves4186]

@6core there’s hope x

[@MsStealYourDadAndMom]

I think that's interesting how that works. I'm bi, was molested and eventually raped by a couple of people. I'm the complete opposite, though. I tend to stay away from sex and even get uncomfortable when people get too close to me physically.

[@h.e.l.p.3655]

​@@MsStealYourDadAndMomit's about control over those traumatic experiences. As a SA survivor, I tend to swing wildly between sex aversion and complete asexuality to hypersexuality and intrusive thoughts. Your brain wants to feel safe from trauma, and establishing how those interactions occur gives a feeling of safety and "I am in control, I am not unsafe"

[@casualintrovert207]

I have autism and I have this as a consequence. Apparently a handful of people on the spectrum will be hypersexuals and for as long as I can remember, without any history of abuse, i've been like this. It's not good. I had a severe porn addiction as a child and a teenager and it's only now in my early 20s that i'm more mature and can think a lot less impulsively, but there are still often time's when i'm left alone and those urges will arise. Often times it's hard to control. And its even harder to tell anyone about it, especially my parents.

[@danielgunz2364]

Which do you think is the connection between your mental health and the high libido problem that you're describing is it hormonal?

[@casualintrovert207]

@@danielgunz2364 I couldn't tell you honestly. I've never really been depressed, so I wouldn't say my mental health is bad. I've had some low points sure but I think the fact that my autism makes me pretty non reactive to most things helps with keeping my mood very stable I guess. However, I do also have ADHD, and that might also play a part in terms of impulsivity.

[@hatersgotohell627]

OMG same and I'm just figuring this out for the first time with autism. I masturbate to full ejaculation over 5-8 times a day. I've been thinking of chemical castration no joke. I went on finestride for about 8 months and it gave me severe ED and low labido and I loved it. For once in my life I was free but I stopped because it also gave me severe clinical depression. Have you been able to find some kind of help for your hyper sexuality?

[@casualintrovert207]

@@hatersgotohell627 OK I really don't think i'd ever consider chemical castration. And no I havent found help other than to just keep myself distracted with my special interests to keep my mind off porn.

[@zacharyantle7940]

@@hatersgotohell627 ugh same, it kinda sucks but I’ve also learnt to enjoy it to a degree haha

[@marcotaranto9365]

My life has been severely affected by this. The love of my life recently left me because I repeatedly lost her trust.. it's fucking scary, It's almost like my eyes glaze over and once I impulsively decide to do this very destructive thing such as cheat, the adrenaline kicks in and it doesn't matter if I have to drive 500 miles to do it, nothing can stop me. Immediately after the fact I always regret it and I feel disgusted with myself but I'll do it again.. I've hurt and chased away everyone I've ever truly loved. I just want to be good, I reached out for mental health treatment, I can't wait to see where my life can go after i address this. Thank you doctor for sheding light on this topic.

[@moneysexual1706]

im only 18 and suffering just like you, been on a downward path since i was a little kid at i think either age 5 or 3rd grade, i dont remember anymore. Luckily the girl i like is sticking it through with me and im going to get help, best of luck to you.

[@marcotaranto9365]

@@moneysexual1706 that's awesome that you recognize and are addressing your issues at such a young age. Unfortunately for me I never communicated to her or even truly recognized the pattern until recently.. it's too late for me but I'm happy for you, you found a good chick who's willing to stick through this very rough very difficult obstacle. Keep on keeping on my man, things will get better!

[@moneysexual1706]

@@marcotaranto9365 yeah unfortunately it got personal so im gonna fix myself first before trying to fix our relationship, whenever im with her all the uneasy and unnatural feelings go away. We broke it off before and i spiraled downwards, as did she. We reconnected and we're gonna try and figure things out again.

[@jaxonn3744]

@@moneysexual1706 how did you bring it up to her

[@wyntermarie6034]

I’m going through this now with my boyfriend. Idk you but it seemed like you really loved her.

[@astral_shooting]

I was r@ped by two men at a young age, I'm dealing with hypersexuality and I'm too young for it. I want to get help from my therapist but I don't want to be called disgusting by my own family, I don't want to see as a horrible disgusting person bc I'm dreaming of being in any sexual situation. I'm literally sexualizing myself for others pleasure and it doesn't matter to me that I'm doing it to older people and that worries me.

[@astral_shooting]

@Be REAL I'm trans

[@LynxRhyme]

I hope everything gets okay

[@charlotteedits8705]

It’s ok to be feeling like this. I would recommend talking to someone! ♥️

[@astral_shooting]

@@charlotteedits8705 thank you

[@astral_shooting]

@@LynxRhyme i hope so!!

[@spockthevulcan]

I have Bipolar 2 and go through hypersexuality during periods of hypomania. I’m a rapid cycle so i can bounce between euphoria and depression daily for periods of time, but when hypomanic for weeks or months, exacerbated by lack of sleep and an almost drunken state even though I don’t drink, then I’m always hypersexual during those times.

[@jrbknyc8785]

I have bpd and have struggled with hyper sexuality since my early 20s I’m 35 now. Frequent sexual partners, porn , impulsive sexual encounters it feels unmanageable . Lots of shame. I want love and intimacy but I’m never able to attain it.

[@amberwoods3377]

This is me 🥹

[@carloferretti8956]

Hey bud you’re not alone, one day at a time!

[@jrbknyc8785]

@@carloferretti8956 thank you man

[@pommie5093]

Thank you for taking the time to create this video, as always. I wondered about common threads in the histories of people who might have this construct. Interesting topic, thank you again.

[@nineball5058]

I think at least more than fifty percent of society have hypersexuality and that is why there is so much sex trafficking, teenage pregnancy and adultery. Hypersexuality is marketed through porn and a lot of people have it.

[@MrSaa-uq1lq]

@@nineball5058 You think "teenage pregnancy" was better in the stone age?

[@chibobird482]

I am absolutely positive that this disorder is Hormonal in nature. I can’t speak for everyone but I hit my early 30s and seriously became very Hypersexual. At the risk of sounding lewd, I turned into a sexual machine, even scaring my partner a bit. I got my Testosterone and Estrogen levels checked and I was way high on Estrogen believe it or not, seeing as I’m Male.My doctor put me on a natural T booster and it’s been better.

[@lanchanoinguyen2914]

yeah it is both hormone and stress involved

[@danw1374]

May be diet related as well. A high intake of certain vitamins can send your libido sky rocketing.

[@prettysweet8114]

I’m a female and just turned 35 and ever since I was a little girl I have had non stop thoughts about sex and different fantasies that I can’t stop thinking about it. Even after being married it’s non stop. I didn’t always want sex while married but when I turned 29 30 I feel like I became “like a man” wanting it all the time, getting aroused while going to work, even at work and still non stop thoughts about sex. It doesn’t matter where I’m at it’s a constant thing it’s waking me up out of my sleep. I wake up every day around the same time 4 am and start these fantasies. Even when I’m conversing with people I can’t focus because it’s there in my mind as they’re talking to me. I’m tired of it, I want it to stop. Any advice on what to do would be great. I never told anybody because I feel ashamed.

[@lmatic8two]

@@prettysweet8114 I'm going through the exact same thing and I'm a male. Hits around 4 or 5 am and my mind is fully into that mindset.

[@prettysweet8114]

@@lmatic8two it’s so strange isn’t it, I’m tired of it.

[@nancysmith5276]

I'm 24 from California. I was 11 and abused by my neighbor who was 19. At that time, it didn't look like an abuse to me because I felt i liked him plus, at a point i kept visiting him voluntarily. even after we stopped dating. I'm not totally sure it was the pleasure thou. I didn't often enjoy it. I used sex as a way to punish myself for a lot of years. It was like it wasn't enough to just hurt myself I needed someone else to hurt me. At the same time, i felt like i had a lot of power, no one can call me a victim if i did it to myself right? Those were the thought in my head. I think the "hypersexuality thing" is declining. Though sometimes i still have that urge... you know from my stomach. I've avoided being alone with guys especially older men and tried therapy too. But i guess somehow it only gets better. Thanks for bringing it up, it really needs to be talked about. Why do i feel like I've said too much...

[@JeffreyWillis800]

Thank you Dr. Grande, I always appreciate your views on things, love the way your brain works in most situations.

[@tonymontana8664]

Insecure attachment explains it. Studies have shown securely attached people according to John Bowlby have sex much less frequently than those who are insecurely attached. Disorganized attachment is associated with hypersexuality as well as substance abuse issues, impulsivity, gambling, run-ins with the law etc. Funny how a high school drop out knows this but not the majority of so called professionals who hand out meds like candy. Little known fact, about half of children diagnosed with adhd have a disorganized attachment. The movie Pushing Tin explains hypersexuality very well.

[@Codduct]

Woah..

[@mahammalik4700]

How can someone help someone who is suffering from hypersexuality?

[@tpespos]

7 in a week ... don’t you mean a day 😔 For better or for worse I feel like I have this now

[@plantbasedunicorn7995]

Same

[@andrewwalton5813]

I have known for a long time that i have BPD but discovered basically just now from watching this video that i am also hypersexual as well. All the traits - emotional disregulation, paraphilic interest, decreased life satisfaction, criminality and substance abuse i have. I wasn't sexually abused as a child (that i know of or remember) but my father was abusive in every other way - emotionally, mentally, verbally and physically. My mother was an enabler - knowing the abuse happened but did nothing, and she was extremely emotionally unavailable. My older brother (5 yrs) developed Bi Polar and after finding our fathers stash of hardcore magazines, became preoccupied with them and his whole persona changed... like BANG! and he was suddenly someone else and remained someone else since then. He became very abusive too, but had a more psychopathic tone as opposed to my dads abuse. Overall my childhood was an horrific dysfunctional traumatic mess. It wasn't even a childhood really, I should have known i would have developed hypersexuality. I researched enough about myself to work out i have other cluster b mental illnesses before they were diagnosed but this i overlooked.

[@genuinehearts8247]

Thank you for your professionalism.

[@lajellybeans]

I wish my trauma made me hypersexual. It made me afraid to have sex. I am sexually frustrated 95% of the time, but I just can't bring myself to do it.

[@Yeettube2777]

I'm here as a worried gay female teen I'm aware my hormones are ridiculously strong in my bloodline, almost an imbalance but I'm worried bc idk if this is normal and it does to some degree get in the way of my day to day life and whenever I feel like I can't do anything to satisfy the addiction I go through something similar to a drug addict withdrawal I've been hiding this from everyone in an attempt not to look crazy 😭 but it's eating me alive and I go through what looks like "random anxiety" "random irritability" idk what is happening. And the fact that I would often be told only men have these problems make me feel crazier

[@yourenough3]

Thanks Gr. G , I really needed to hear this. Hope you have a great holiday. 😁

[@yourenough3]

Bpd , in my early years i was very hypersexual. Now that im older (45,) it has calmed down a little. Thankfully!

[@vw1098]

I’m suffering from this and every time I have a sex urge it takes a lot to stop me. I almost have handle on it and there is hope, I am improving but still slipping from time to time

[@Statistician0407]

Please tell treatment part also ...

[@anjachan]

when you spoke about orgasmn I thought it's cool that you can speak so casual about it ^.^

[@MrSaa-uq1lq]

He is a doctor... he had to analyse and cut a dead body to become that...

[@anjachan]

@@MrSaa-uq1lq not every "doc" has to do that.

[@Derlet30]

@@anjachan He is a doctorate holder (a PhD in psychology/psychotherapy), not a (MD degree or medical doctor) physician! 😂😂😂

[@bogmanhimself4656]

@@anjachan either way after analyzing 17 types of rare skin rashes and reading about a disease where you rip out your hair and eat it until it becomes a giant stomach shaped hairball, busting a nut probably seems like small potatoes

[@Beiskraft]

Sounds like every other word to me.

[@radicalhonesty3628]

as I watch this video, I pray. I pray for: health, wealth, and love. perfect health. abundant wealth. sacred love. I pray to be radically honest, with everyone, about everything. I pray to be flooded: with bliss and with joy. I pray to attract and receive miracles... I pray for continual healing, on every level, in every way: for myself, and for the entire planet...

[@nour-eg3by]

Dr please can you talk about porngrahy addiction🙏🙏specially how to break this bad additional behavior?

[@overstimulated8594]

One time a dated someone asexual and I had sexual thoughts abt them and I felt really bad

[@nadiaoulahri4779]

Hi Dr.Grande. To what extent exposure to jail worsens mental health disorders? Which disorders get more dangerous and bring irrevocable harm to a potential friend or romantic partner of the person, once released from jail, and back to society ? Thanks very much for responding to this question.

[@ashleighsalinas8526]

Excellent question, I would also like to hear Dr Grande explore this

[@mrs.crystalwbdonald7752]

Yes great question...right on time

[@lilyofthevalley5586]

I know someone who may have this. It is very sad indeed.

[@Ghostgirlravenrae]

My partner left me as he tried to please me so much and couldn’t understand why I would still use my vibrator even though we had sex that morning for hours. He accused me of cheating on him with the vibrator and also said I was not ok and may need help as no man can possibly keep that level of sex drive up constantly m. He has damaged his knee, his back and his hip by trying to keep me satisfied. I think I may need help 🥺

[@JustFootball25]

Sorry about that, I love sex so much. I can have sex everyday without getting. Since the day I learnt that I am hypersexual, I stopped feeling about myself and decided to embrace it. I just pray my future girl/wife loves sex like I do because I love to do it a lot.

[@mikey_clark]

I’ve found a way to navigate my issues is to learn how to appreciate the human body, male or female. I’ve taught myself almost to realize that nudity doesn’t equal sex or sexual needs, if anything I’ve learned how to appreciate my nude wife, or a nude woman, or a nude man, I no longer view it as a need to pounce or a need to imagine them in a tainted way. It’s still quite hard but I feel as long as you recognize the issues, don’t act upon, and truly try to “counteract” these urges and thoughts by pure acceptance and turning it into an appreciation. It’s taken me many years but now I can go into nude saunas, nude beaches, nude really anywhere and not have a massive boner or keep thinking about how I can turn this into some massive orgy. Sex has always had some weird control over me but as I’ve grown older I realized it’s truthfully me not taking action. This may not work for everyone but try to view the body as art, whether it’s a penis smaller or bigger than yours, a vagina or anus, learn to appreciate the beauty and ability to feel these things. It’s quite something once your brain sees art instead of a hole to fill.

[@vincypaul8730]

Good approach. I liked the way you have changed your thought process. Like to adopt this. Thank you ...

[@mikey_clark]

@@vincypaul8730 it takes genuine drive and effort but it can be fixed. You got this brother 💪🏻

[@M_Kru]

Hypersexuality can happen after head injury too.

[@shannahoward9425]

I was molested as a child and had this problem.

[@zeddeka]

The ICD (the system used in nost countries outside the USA) now has "Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder" as a diagnosis. It is used in cases where the hypersexuality is not explained by other conditions.

[@MrDpbazan1955]

I have hypersexuality and my thing always gives it away

[@rebekahkiwi2965]

What do you mean?

[@jimothygoldfish]

@@rebekahkiwi2965 His step bro-ner gets stiff as a board

[@jeremywvarietyofviewpoints3104]

I think I would be hyposexual because I don't have much sex drive and only rarely am attracted to anyone. I don't have sex or masturbate. It's probably because I'm quite low in testosterone and estrogen. But I prefer to have low sex drive. When I was a teenager it was different and I found that unpleasant.

[@jaybenjamin5649]

Is there a way of getting rid of sex drive ?

[@renostubbs8504]

Thank you so much Doctor. I just want some clarification on a point you made...you mention that the interpersonal is attached to the negative,what are some of the negative and what is the driving force behind these occurrence?

[@neiljohnson9686]

4::40 Why would he, or maybe whoever wrote the article is talking about, say that sex with a partner is associated with positive mood, and masturbation is associated with negative mood? Says who? What is the partner is a prostitute? Plenty of negative mood. And I think most would agree that self-love including masturbation is healthy and important to some degree And are we talking a mood that leads to these or a mood that one would feel afterwards? It could go either way. Bad mood could lead to masturbation as a way to feel better… It’s endorphins it’s like any other addiction. Sex with a partner could be a reaction to a bad mood as well… Sex with a partner isn’t always a bed of roses and a positive experience… Bad mood could lead to seeking out a prostitute, plenty of negative feelings afterwards. Anyway I’m overthinking it.

[@davidsweeney111]

is there also a physiological aspect associated with the raised sex drive, in which case blood tests for increased hormone levels such as testosterone might be useful?

[@legomyego420]

Yeah, there is many theories. Apparently some cases of temporal lobe resection have led to patients having high sex drives (i.e., hypersexuality). However, this is very complex since multiple parts of the CNS can play a role such as the: limbic system, amygdala, and the hypothalamus.

[@TrailRatedNurse]

Samuel Baker 4wk post amygdalohippocampectomy here with sudden increased libido. Any articles? I’ve only been able to find 1, a case study. Hence, broadening my search to unreliable sources, such as KZbin.

[@lanchanoinguyen2914]

hormone drive a big role,but lazy and non physical excercise life does increase the sexual hormone.And stress is also a cause

[@singingsiren82]

Is this like paraphilic disorders where it's not really a disorder unless it affects their daily life and they consider it problematic? Can this also be associated with other disorders like bipolar (during a manic episode), narcissism, or anti social personality disorder?

[@alyssajada2319]

I mean I feel like it is a disorder if you have no control over it

[@genuinehearts8247]

I wish some would learn about symptom criteria before analyzing in the public.

[@autumngalix4616]

People keep getting hypersexuality and Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder mixed up. Intense arousal does not mean hypersexuality on it's own. If I had known these where different I wouldn't of been so confused for so long. Hypersexuality is characterized by by an intense preoccupation with sexual fantasies, urges, and behaviors that brings personal distress. Hypersexuality is consistently portrayed as having intense arousal, but it's more characterized by behaviors and thoughts rather than sensations like PGAD. Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD) is a condition defined by unprovoked and unwanted sexual sensations. It is most commonly portrayed as causing constant orgasms that become painful after awhile, but can be anything from no-touch genital stimulation to intense arousal with seemingly nothing causing it. The portrayal of PGAD throws a lot of people off, because again not everyone gets orgasms with it.

[@ArtbyMagic]

Dr Grande. You have nice lips 👄😄

[@quirogatnonerrat3214]

Oh yes, you are crazy. Just listen to the man's work

[@UnunderstandingScience]

@@quirogatnonerrat3214 welp this comment section turned to the worst.

[@unapologeticella4540]

Lol🤣

[@deathuponusalll]

Here we go again smh

[@kipperkristy1301]

Sounds like some of you have hyper sexuality 🤔

[@psyience3213]

I had this hardcore, and since as early as I can remember. I had a major break through in inner child work and it all just vanished. Like the snap of someone’s fingers. Must have been repressed emotions funneling through whatever avenue was easiest. I think in a way I used fantasy as a coping mechanism as well in my fucked up and abusive family.

[@LadyofSharlot]

Well done on the major break thorough. Interesting stuff the inner child work.done it myself in therapy.

[@SoJustCool]

'because the study doesn't include women" typical.

[@chanceDdog2009]

Can it be treated as an OCD?

[@Gospelwatcher]

More like an obsession.

[@Darren-sn4ki]

I’ve been spiritual abused and emotional abused and I think I really have a problem like serious I have social anxiety and I have a narcissist controlling manipulative toxic family and my mom passed away 2 years ago and I still have unresolved grief and I deal with depression and loneliness and emotional pain and my dad has never been in my life and don’t have nothing too do with me I’ve struggled with porn addiction since I was a kid it’s really hard for me and nobody understands me my family don’t understand or really care they shun me and reject me and just avoid me because I believe different which too me is toxic

[@jackjack4412]

There's a good solution..

[@estebangiacarini1728]

Bro you need Christ, look for a local church, get in a bible group, you will see real change in your life

[@jackjack4412]

@@estebangiacarini1728 bad advice man. He should be focusing on bettering himself professionally, physically and financially. Once he has tension between where he is and where he's going in those categories, he can start slowly working on his mental, emotional and spiritual life.

[@michaelcastaneda4135]

I have this issue its really annoying

[@craigmarkowski7156]

How do you explain a 3-year-old sexualizing things with 0 abuse or trauma or anything negative ? Just every day normal thoughts , Yet knowing it wasn't something to speak about !

[@JocieFire]

One of your reasons for saying the amount per week isn't a valid indicator is because it could be with a partner vs masturbation. I disagree- if it's with a partner that doesn't necessarily make it 'good' or bonding if there is any level sexual coercion involved (very likely with hypersexuality).

[@pdpode8978]

So hypersexuality...could this be considered porn addiction. Someone told me yesterday that porn addiction can cause something called split personality disorder? My husband appears to have a lot of narcissist traits and has had a porn addiction issue as well as alcohol, also 30 yr issues, he also appears have multiple personalities

[@alyssajada2319]

That’s not really how it works dissociative identity disorders *also known as multiple personality disorders* are usually caused by repetitive child hood traumas that makes a person create a new alter to take in that trama for them and later on becoming a different person/personality. He could have stumbled apon a lot of porn at a young age and not remember. But please don’t take my word for it as I do not know the trama.

[@angelfreedom911]

Stress related issue...... anxiety

[@lmatic8two]

@@alyssajada2319 I'd love to know more about your perspective and or where you got this information as I'm going through this myself.

[@alyssajada2319]

@@lmatic8two Oh thank you. There’s a lot of places that you can read up on did. I get my information from looking it up and watching videos of people who have it. They are all super informative!! Another thing would be to listen to a professional. There’s still so much idk about it just yet. A friend pointed out one of my behaviors and said that it was actually dissociation, that was about last year. And I have a lot more times I go through things did related, i have a lot to learn about it but I’m glad I’m finally finding education on what’s going on mentally. Hyper sexuality, porn and other things can play a big part in someone’s mentality. See I don’t know if watching porn can do that to someone? But I don’t know their traumas along with that. Maybe if they stumbled amount something really fucked up that could happen, especially at a young age maybe. Their brain probably couldn’t process something like that and then created a alter to block him from that trauma. No one really likes to talk about all of the dangers of porn when it comes to that to be honest but yes. But someone having a. Stereotype of watching porn in general, might not hav A did problem unless he is showing some signs of it before he watches it or something like that. But yes with porn he might have a hyper sexuality disorder especially if he’s compulsively watching it orrr he might have a addiction.

[@alyssajada2319]

And I didn’t notice that part where you said he had narcissistic traits. It is common for narcissistic people To have a hyper sexualized mindset and really watch porn. I had a ex with definite signs of narcissistic personality disorder, and he had a huggeee tendency to be sexual and talk and be around girls he found attractive or things like that (even though we were dating), he was also a huge cheater. He would even entertain my friends and once when he was texting her and he told me who he was talking to I passed it off as them being friends. Which they definitely were, he was just BEIBG to close (but I didn’t know at that time and just said okay, but should have really noticed something when he started to kinda smirk a little). He also gaslighted her with his friends once he was caught. I don’t blame her because he didn’t tell her he was dating. With narcissistic they like having people as supply in a relationship. You should really look up things more about it online if you notice any symptoms of some sort.

[@sabjertheartist]

Wow. I thought i was the only one.😢

[@redhotz21]

How does a man average 14 partners while a woman averages only 7 partners? Are half the women lieing? Are half the men homosexual?

[@violetscott5628]

Both

[@ThanasisVydouras]

It means that a lot of men have the same female sex partner, if the numbers are true. Men are more likely to be promiscious than women btw, so i think that's the explanation of this number. Remember these are average numbers so, there are men that had 2 sex partners and men with 40 s. p..There are a lot of women with less than 5 and a lot with more than 50 easily (promiscious women have way more sex partners than promiscious men).

[@andrewmccullough559]

​@@ThanasisVydouras Hi. Thank you for sharing this thought. However, it does not explain the mathematical discrepancy between the averages. A lot of men having the same female sex partner does explain a difference in variance -- the sex is more evenly distributed among the men. This may be consistent with the rest of what you say: the men are more promiscuous on average, while the promiscuous women, though fewer in number than the promiscuous men, are promiscuous to a higher degree -- they have more sexual partners. But there are not enough of them to make women more promiscuous overall. Mathematical average, however, glosses over variance -- two populations can have the same average but two different variances, or the same variance but two different averages. Consider a population of 10 men and 10 women, in which 6 of the men have sexually partnered with one of the women. As far as mathematical average is concerned, it does not matter how the sexual partnerships are distributed or concentrated. There are six sexual partners on each side: 6 distributed among 6 men, and 6 among 1 woman. Since the denominator of the average is the number of men or women in the population, you get 6/10 in each case for average number of sexual partners (the result is the same if you add sexual partnerships involving other combinations). There is another problem with this result. There is a way to change the value of the average in the above example, in a way that stays true to what it is trying to measure, and that is by excluding sexually-inactive persons from the count (celibates, lifetime virgins). Then the average would measure the average number of lifetime sexual partners AMONG THOSE WHO HAVE SEXUALLY PARTNERED AT LEAST ONCE. Granted, the number of lifelong virgins is very small, but the fact remains that this is a mechanism which could alter the average. In our above example, let's say the 9 other women never sexually partnered (the result would be the same if it were 1 rather than 9) -- in other words, those 6 sexual partnerships with the one woman are the only partnerships among these 10 men and 10 women. That requires that 4 of the men never sexually partnered. Our new averages are as follows: 6 sexual partnerships / 6 sexually-active men, and the same 6 sexual partnerships / 1 sexually-active woman, for averages of 6/6 = 1 and 6/1 = 6, respectively. This is an interesting result, because it does provide a mechanism for one population having a higher average -- without homosexuality or lying in the survey. However, by your theory of higher sexual variance among women, which is an implication of them being less promiscuous on average but more promiscuous at the extreme, if anything it seems that there would have to be more sexually-inactive women than men, raising their average rather than the average for men, opposite to the result we observe. Now I concede it may be possible for women both to have a higher variance, explaining your data, and a LOWER number of celibates, thereby raising the male average. My math is not good enough to say -- maybe someone trained in math can comment? In either case, though, what's needed to raise the average for men is a smaller denominator in the ratio -- absent sexual partnerships BETWEEN men, or men lying to inflate their number of partnerships with women, or women lying to deflate their number with men, the numerator in both calculations for the average is the same, and therefore so should the ratio be the same. The denominator is what needs to change. A sexual partnership is reciprocal and counts as one for each side, no matter how they are distributed or concentrated. A and B shaking hands at the party is one and the same handshake both for A and for B.

[@neiljohnson9686]

No you don’t need to hyper classify all of the stuff to treat it

[@Randy_jb13]

I have hyper sexuality bipolar disorder i want know the medicine for this

[@salvationbordercountry3800]

Information helps me understand where the psychiatric community stands. But the confusion and lack of study therein is not understandable. The poor cannot afford what little help seems to be available. My counterparts are probably mostly criminals. How much longer can I stay in proper mental health. It's a fight to the finish line (Prison or freedom; Heaven or hell?).

[@davechef8424]

This was dry and informative in a lot of ways. But at the same time I’m left with obvious observations and no insight. Good video though for a bit of validation. Or, maybe conformation is a better word. This shouldn’t be a construct. It should be a disorder in the dsm. A wide range of conditions that affect mood, thinking, and behavior. I think hypersexuality is under that panoply.

[@cam1954]

this does not mix well w ocd and intrusive thoughts

[@emilyjackson9234]

Agreed.

[@lonewolverinesurvivor6303]

Yeah it’s really bad I wouldn’t wish it on my enemies. Living with it was a hellish stressful experience. I have ocd and had hypersexuality.ssri got rid of the hypersexuality I still have ocd tendencies though.

[@Rauwalejandroismyhusbando]

Im suffering from this..can someone help me with it please reply to this comment because im done..

[@Idontknow999-k4e]

Try and do something you enjoy to get your mind off it, you can also try therapy if it's really bad

[@Rauwalejandroismyhusbando]

@@Idontknow999-k4e thank you!

[@Idontknow999-k4e]

@@Rauwalejandroismyhusbando :)

[@benfrankdalist2709]

Is it basically ADHD or Satyriasis or like nymphomaniac

[@alyssajada2319]

People who have this might also have a condition called ocd obsessive compulsive disorder. OCD leads people wanting to repeat things over and over again till they feel satisfied because they feel like they have to.

[@luviemoo]

7 a week.. more than that in a day at this point

[@Bbsauruxxx]

I feel so weird looking how some of y'all of you are like 30 or 50 and me being 19😂 why so early?

[@sun--shine3296]

Thought I was the only one......

[@monaasmr2936]

Is lusting after older opposite gender normal?

[@FindingoutWhoIam]

Does this fall into Bipolar disorder? Bc im not sure... I have in the pasted struggled early (19-21)with increased sex drive.. Once i was properly medicated The manic sex drive when away..

[@NOV123]

Yes

[@danheath1937]

Hey doc, id like to ask u few questions if u have chance

[@Joseisaesthetic]

No

[@XxYOLOzombiesxX]

He look like he don’t wanna be there

[@JonathanHilierChannel]

I think that's just his resting face, he always has that look in his videos. I saw a family photo on his Insta and he still had that look on his face.

[@FazeLetsPlaysskullrainer]

Yes sir that's me

[@Nutspittle]

I did not find it interesting. He was talking gibberish while trying to prove everybody how brilliant he is. If you don’t get anyone to make sense of what you’re saying, it’s a waste of time.

[@Trenchfox1917]

Please hurry with understanding this.

[@guyfromthe80s92]

Dr. Grande, are your last name Spanish or Norwegian?

[@DrGrande]

Actually, it's Italian -

[@guyfromthe80s92]

Ahh ok

[@drwarisahmad8716]

@@DrGrande sir am running with hypersexulity from round about 10 years now am 25 but look like 40 year old it completly runed me plz help me for this kindly tell me about any medicine from which this control am unmarried thnx

[@joycesmith3076]

I have a question someone is hyper sexual are they likely to cheat on there partner

[@genod3938]

i mean if their pieces of crap am I right? they might just masturbate alot if their fiance is not going along with how much sex he or she wants

[@aquamarinedream8304]

Maybe slightly I have a very high sex drive but I'm not a cheater

[@della7838]

Yes, we are

[@caseykeener3525]

Maybe for some, but I think plenty of individuals will initiate more sex with their partners and when they can no longer fulfill those sexual urges, the individuals will turn to pornography and masturbation. Some may seek out additional sexual partners, but I think people who struggle with hypersexuality will be less likely to seek a committed long-term relationship in the first place (unless they believe it will somehow "cure" them of their impulses).

[@fishgonewildbptwerkstar2879]

I haven’t

[@playfulK9]

i was sexually assaulted by many people throughout my childhood, most of the time by my younger sister. i dont know if i was hypersexual before being s/a'd because the first time it happened i was too aroused to care what was done to me, i hate myself everyday for not being able to stop it, i know i couldve prevented it if i hadnt been so horny at that time.

[@JK79311]

I think as a 16 I have this because of wanting sex so bad. I feel lonely and I want it

[@Saffron-sugar]

7 times a week is the max?

[@nicholasdickman2246]

Could you send a link to the claim that masterbation is associated with negative mood?

[@SharonDrummond-by6of]

Can you possibly control your sexuael urged.I go through a manic episode when I'm well up for it. Then I have a quiet period when I'm just not interested

[@hjjwoodstock9740]

5-10% of the general population???

[@TheMidnightPrince]

My mind and body is in physical anguish if I don’t touch myself at least 4 times a day every day idk how to explain it.

[@EasyBravo]

Maybe u have to much energy maybe working out with heavy weights or strenius exercise can help...what u tried exercise?

[@lonewolverinesurvivor6303]

@TheMidnightprince I know how you feel combined with ocd and intrusive thoughts it’s awful I wouldn’t wish it on my enemies.

[@hiii8731]

@@lonewolverinesurvivor6303I need help because i think i have a mix of both i literally can’t stop thinking and having the urges about this certain video. i physically and mentally go 2 weeks without it. once the 2 weeks decline ends. i would start start shaking so bad feeling anxious it’s literal hell. I WISH IT CAN JUST LEAVE AND I COULD NOT BE OBSESSED AND SHAKE ABOUT IT

[@lonewolverinesurvivor6303]

@@hiii8731 I had hypersexuality for as long as I can remember probably since I was Conscious at 3 or 4 years old.The urges were really bad. I would get aroused and mastubate and get off to all kinds of stuff from cartoons to ideas and just random thoughts. When I was 15 I sought for help and I was on ssri for 4 years then quit. That took care of the hypersexuality. But be careful of ssri it could cause sexual impotence I have some impotence but I’d rather have that then have stressful urges all the time. I still have ocd tendencies. Im trying a natural route get a good amount of sleep and eat healthy,exercise,reduce stress and screen time.

[@lonewolverinesurvivor6303]

@@hiii8731 I had hypersexuality as long as a could remember since I was conscious at 3 or 4 years old. The urges were really bad. I would masterbate and get off to all kinds of things cartoons,random things or ideas and thoughts.The urges would get really bad and stressful if I didn’t touch myself. I finally sought for help when I was 15 took ssri for 4 years and quit . It helped with the hypersexuality. I still have some ocd tendencies Be careful though. Ssri can cause sexual impotence. I have some sexual impotence but I’d rather have that than having stressful uncontrollably urges. It’s best to take a natural route (if that doesn’t work see a doctor)get good sleep,eat healthy,exercise and reduce stress and screen time.

[@bestcity0979]

Can this be diagnosed with no sex?

[@Frank020]

28/ week more realistic...Sample size and condition is highly questionable.

[@PHOTOLOIART]

Before it becomes categorical - what are the gender differences? LOL

[@iroamalone6953]

@@chocolatewheelchair um. Yeah. There's two. Duh

[@arts6325]

I ROAM ALONE Biologically there’s 2 sexes - male or female. Gender is a social construct of a man and his typical attributes and a woman with her typical attributes. It’s no wonder that in a world where there is no definition of what is exclusive to each gender (not sex) the lines are getting blurry.

[@iroamalone6953]

@@chocolatewheelchair popular? Just lost me. Just because everyone doesn't believe something doesn't change what's a fact and the truth.

[@IbrahimTheGamer2006]

Why people watch irrelevant and inappropriate stuff? Like what do people get out of it 😒

[@Sillydude-cf4qk]

I was shown pornographic material at 8 i never realized how much it had affected me i have consumed nsfw every day for the past 4 year im only 13 i feel disgusted in myself

[@daisydd1709]

it’s funny as a female my average orgasm with a sexual partner in one session is around 20 (in varies shapes or forms) and I can get over a hundred if I’m stimulated in the right way. I don’t believe I’m hyper but my body is incredibly sensitive

[@andrewwalton5813]

Well why even comment on a video that does not concern you then?

[@x3r0s1x5]

well I guess Im completely f'd I get off like six times a day by my self I dont manipulate anyone. Im alone so I feel its okay. 3 in the morning and once at lunch and maybe three or four at night alone. Damn Im screwed

[@jimmybaldwin737]

I have this aswell. I hate it. What is the cure for it. I drive around. Looking for pretty girls so I can relieve myself in my car. I know it’s not normal behaviour. I really am ashamed of it. But the desire for it is so overwhelming. Cause you can’t do that in this day and age. It’s not right. But I feel some of us have genes that refer back to cave man days. I think it’s a hormone balance. I really hope it is. Anyone. Advice please ? I’m getting a full blood test to check my testosterone levels. Cause I feel tired a lot. But always sexually active. Dunno if it’s a hormone imbalance. But I crave females all the time. Just have all sorts of fantasies

[@everydaywithiboblak]

I started thinking about when my partner was sleeping with someone else , it made me feel bad Id masturbate to make myself feel better.

[@govege5130]

@@jimmybaldwin737 maybe write a book or draw a picture? Hobbies are a great thing to occupy and discover oneself

[@enriquecastillo3729]

Can someone become hypersexual towards one sex? Not the the other

[@Impaled_Onion-thatsmine]

I say get some good lubricant and go screw an exhaust pipe.

[@gauravkhatana564]

What am I ill too ....

[@michaeljosephjackson2364]

Not just need a control

[@PHOTOLOIART]

Kinsey? Are you kidding me? LOL what a joke.

[@blesiemylinealamer3521]

Hi.

[@KleWdSide]

Sounds like my kind of woman!

[@Dreadtheday]

😳