What's Different About WIll Smith?! Body Language Analyst REACTS to CONFUSING Interview!

[@rlawrence9838]

It's weird how Will Smith seems to both laugh and PERFORM an act of laughter at the same time.

[@mariateresabissinger3035]

That is disassociation.

[@orangewarm1]

He's been watching Tom Cruise. He thinks that is a recipe for success. Maybe it is.

[@fox-truehart175]

​@orangewarm1 good point

[@fox-truehart175]

Great observation

[@jihadamcsween2677]

@@orangewarm1Tom cruise is a crazy

[@katiesibbick360]

I’ve just paused after the ‘it makes me feel safe’ bit; what struck me is the way he looks across at the host on ‘safe’ & what I feel like is almost the tiniest hint of a smirk at the end. On an instinctive level it feels like an ‘isn’t this weird’ moment that he is sharing with the host.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Love this take. I can definitely see that

[@katiesibbick360]

@@TheBehavioralArts oh wow thank you! I’m always afraid to comment for fear of looking daft 😅 but your videos are fantastic & I’m increasingly finding that I’m seeing people through the ‘Behavioural Arts’ lens! My profession is very much centred around people so I’m enjoying using all your tips 😊

[@heatherjackson8840]

I'm so glad you said smirk..thank you! I thought I saw that too, but couldn't describe it so elegantly

[@katiesibbick360]

@@heatherjackson8840 it’s a very Will Smith look!

[@elizabethrose5333]

This is one of my favourite KZbin Channels of all. I love the professionalsim. The explainations and neutralism and all that. Keep it up Spidey!

[@NYCAppl3]

Agreed ❤👍🏾

[@angeliconda123]

That's why I love him too. He's the only behavioral analyst I trust.

[@Blooderfly17]

Agreed 💯💯💯❤️

[@IronicleseAndSardoniclese]

You said what my million word comment said, but so much more concisely. 😂😂😂

[@elizabethrose5333]

@@IronicleseAndSardoniclese haha love that!

[@natinatyoutube]

Will Smith seems so miserable. Him saying "ain't nobody doing better than me" was the saddest part of the interview. Like he was trying to convince himself. I wouldn't trade my life for his.

[@madzi3rd]

That's not quite how I read it. It seemed to me like he was saying we are all struggling through life in some way, shape, or form, and not that he has the best at life, or that his life is particularly great.

[@mashpojayde-o]

He seems defeated :(

[@natinatyoutube]

​​@@madzi3rdWhat I honestly, genuinely find so crazy about your comment is that Will Smith literally said these words( "ain't nobody doing better than me") at the end of long answer about his own very specific life ( 25:24 HIS wife Jada, what she said about HIM, HIS weird marriage and HIS situation. He's literally not talking about anything else than him) but still, you decided to "read" that "he's not talking about himself specifically" and make up a whole explanation... It is so bizarre to me how people can hear a clear, straight, undeniable sentence but still twist it to fit their narrative. And I'm not even exagerating when I say your comment makes me feel weird, because it's proof of how certain people will never listen to what you actually say. They will hear whatever they want to hear. It's so strange to me.

[@TischTosh]

I wouldn't be famous ever, and not anyone in Will Smith's family in particular. There is not enough money....

[@AilsiePath1122]

He looked happy at Coachella

[@mndfst9433]

It's weird, but I miss loving Will Smith. He was my favorite celebrity/actor/entertainer. I know he's human, but so much of the veil came crashing down after the slap.

[@fourofcats5803]

It’s not weird! It’s natural to want to look up to someone and be able to trust that they are essentially good people

[@johnmarkson1990]

i mean people change as they get older and more famous. all that attention eventually erodes away the goodness. so you can still have fond memories of who he was. and who he will be when hes a old man away from the fame for a for years.

[@sandrakrestan2776]

Deservedly so. We are not to judge, however we don't want young impressionable people to follow his lead.

[@nostalji93]

I feel similarly. Reminds me that the images we construct of each other are very biased. I still think Will Smith is a people pleaser with usually good intentions. A decent dude with positive vibes. But he is also a reminder of the world we life in.

[@michellemonet4358]

The slap ruined it

[@janet257]

“Word Salad” is quickly becoming our nation’s secondary language. 😂

[@Rachel_Lol_]

I love how Hot Ones raised the bar for interview questions.

[@CreapingDeth]

I thought I heard a few questions that had a hot ones vibe to them!

[@EllusivePancake]

I find these interviews so interesting. Would you consider doing OJ Simpson’s “hypothetical confession” interview?

[@mystik.mermayde.aotearoa]

Great suggestion!

[@Rhawn246]

Didn't he already do a video on this?

[@harryevans1111]

I love how Spidey is swinging his head left and right for “no” as he accurately and genuinely explains that doing so doesn’t mean deception. An example baked into the lesson!

[@AnitaStellium]

I noticed this. I was like "just as you're doing right now" as he was explaining haha.

[@madzi3rd]

Yup. And he did the same thing when talking about the ticket prices for his upcoming show. It is what it is.

[@Luv_brd]

Not sure how I didn’t find this channel before today considering it’s everything I ever wanted 😂🏆

[@hannahmitchell87]

I'm actually a bit jealous that you have so many new videos to binge watch! Spidey is great, hope you love him & his work as much as we do! X

[@Arti-iChi]

This is the only body language channel I watch these days. Spider is unbiased, he is honest and fair and points out observations that are both good and bad ... there is no conclusion bias. Other channels seem to only point out observations which put the person in a bad light as they know that the social media audience do not like that person... And thats something that make me question those channels character of the people who are on those body language panels.. So well done ... and thank u.

[@shearqualityhairsalon8584]

I totally agree with you. Maybe I’m being a bit biased, but if I watch another analyst on KZbin… I’ll go to Spidey channel to see if he has uploaded a similar video and I’ll make my decision based off of Spidey’s analyst. He’s just so professional and unbiased. 😊.

[@orphanl]

I’ve stumbled over the umbrella guy and he just makes money off hate.

[@conyates8959]

I think the scrunching is ‘I don’t know why fame makes me feel safe’. Like he’s acknowledging that it seems counterintuitive. Thanks for another fantastic video! Really enjoyed this one x

[@ruthiebee6139]

I really appreciate how you approach analysis. It is done respectfully, honestly and professionally. It's informative and entertaining at the same time.

[@Arti-iChi]

Absolutely agree...it's a pleasure to watch when it's a fair reading of both good and bad and done respectfully

[@MissRarrrn]

Got tickets to your show! I am SO excited! It's like a dream come true, I just adore what you do!

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Woohoooo!!!!! Come say hi after the show! We’ll get a pic 😊. It’s gonna be a fun night!

[@MissRarrrn]

@@TheBehavioralArts yay! That would be awesome!

[@lilninja23c77]

@TheBehavorialArts Can you do a video analysis of Jaguar Wright videos. That would be interesting with everything that’s been said

[@ebsandflops]

The ‘makes me feel safe’ face, struck me as Will Smith having not really had this thought before and simultaneously realising that it’s not a standard reaction many people would have. He has spoken before about having therapy (I believe) and after a while people tend to develop an internal therapist. I wonder if, at this moment of his face scrunching up, if Will Smith was wondering what his feelings about fame making him feel safe might mean from a psychological perspective.

[@NeuroNinjaAlexander]

I agree, I think it's a realization that confuses him and I've noticed the same (or something similar) expression in myself. As soon as I saw it I thought "I do that all the time when I'm thinking/talking through something and realize something interesting "

[@jenniferl995]

It's almost like at that moment, he realized fame makes him feel seen, heard, validated, which in turn makes him feel safe because that makes him realize that he's worthwhile in his mind. Jada has invalidated him so much and this was almost a light bulb moment for him, kind of a, "see Jada, I am somebody". It's really spotlighting that lost and shameful inner child and telling it, "I see you, and you don't need to be ashamed". That look on his face, combined with his words, hit me in the gut.

[@girlcalledmango]

Fame is power and power can make you feel safe. We see Will Smith the famous actor. When most people see him in real life they want a Pic, a hug an autograph. He's getting affirmed pretty much everywhere he goes. Recognition and appreciation feels like love and safety.

[@brooklynqueen7089]

Where we were all confused (word salad) and I’m sure the interviewer was also, a follow up question should have been asked.

[@LisaKinoti]

I love this!

[@tammyarnold6876]

I think part of the reason he feels safe is because he’s a recognizable black man. He once said he got pulled over by police, and was feeling uneasy, black guy in a fancy car, but when the cop saw it was him he wasn’t scared anymore.

[@BuruRaven]

My thoughts precisely

[@lisajohnson5665]

So, the look of contempt was the paradox that as a black man, he can only feel safe if he's highly recognizable. Interesting!

[@cjtrules1]

That safety is being treated special, just like the story you told. No matter where he goes on Earth he will be treated special and given things and opportunities most people will never get.

[@dillpickledoe]

He went full Wayne Brady before Wayne Brady

[@ezpic2]

Exactly!! Hard to convey without the element of “racism” having to be drawn out into the light. When others will say “you’re wealthy, Black, living your best life, and you want to still say you’re oppressed, treated wrong, etc….” He is definitely in a “safe” space in America, and many other parts of the world having to wear “that” skin!

[@joyw101]

It’s good to hear that I’m not the only one that was confused and didn’t understand what he was trying to say. It sounded like gibberish aka word salad. That was certainly not a question he wanted to answer truthfully

[@bryanangley7771]

I understood that he was responding to the “you didn’t necessarily want it public” from the interviewer because he starts off his response with “I did intent to make it public” meaning he wanted to open up his life with his wife. And all his responses that follow are in the context of it being public.

[@tiffanymichaels2429]

I was confused as well. I felt like he thinks he's being deep and as some sort of enlightener but it comes off pretentious. Like people who think there is some deep meaning behind an abstract work of art. They'll dole on about it to appear intelligent and deep, as though they have greater insight than your average lowly person. I can't stand that.

[@ManifestingDestiny]

How has everyone missed he is gay... 6 degrees of separation. The Diddy parties etc Jada is a beard.

[@michael-4k4000]

So I know Will and he farts when he gets nervous

[@Bowiebaby87]

I feel like the eyebrow scrunching around the topic of safety in the public eye analysis was spot on, in the sense that it shouldn't, but it does make him feel safe. For me, he's revealing a vulnerability around the subject of safety that he might not otherwise feel was guaranteed without his recognisable name.

[@jrb4347]

Ain’t nobody doing better than me - I love when people are in abusive relationships and like to normalise it like everyone is dealing with this and they’re just being honest. No most people don’t have their wife sleeping with their sons best friend and you’re physically assaulting someone. Nah that’s a you thing.

[@caroliamurri3872]

👏👏👏👏

[@pearlosibu]

Right!!

[@skinnypete3104]

She slept with him during a time they were separated. He was an adult. Its weird people are so offended by others sex life like its their business. And please stop pretending like he is in an abusive relationship. Its an insult to those actually living thru the nightmare of actually being abused

[@jamikatechaos9972]

​@@skinnypete3104The fact that it was her son's (son's age) friend is the nasty part.

[@diwi5823]

​@@jamikatechaos9972He's actually not her son's age. Look up August Alsina then Jaden, as your reference. It was salacious for the media to call him "Jaden's friend" because that made it bigger. Will Smith has been having affairs with ppl the same age and younger than August.

[@suereinhatdt6458]

He and Jada thought that being open and talking about their relationship ‘agreements’ and ‘issues’ would help others. That is what he thinks the “Gift” was that backfired. And in the future they would need to be clearer with what they were saying and how they said it. And most importantly tell everyone that He is OK & Jada’s OK and still together and stronger .

[@twirlingparasol_]

You are a creator I feel compelled to thank before I even watch. 💖😌

[@croakingfrog3173]

I definitely feel compassion for Will. Sometimes we humans really get ourselves into big messes and have no idea what to do about it. As an imperfect person myself, I hope he gets the healing and direction he needs.

[@emutimedhane1233]

Such an elevated opinion.

[@35406]

I feel sorry that his life and all the work he has done are reduced to this single moment. If he never understands it for himself he can't move forward. If he never explains and takes accountability, he will never be allowed to move forward publicly.

[@Elle-fp5uy]

​@@35406I think that was the least of his moments, the public is going to have a much harder time with pdiddy and the abuse of JB.

[@1972dsrai]

He could help himself in a huge way by finally calling time on Jada. She seems really toxic. Its weird how she seems to relish airing all the dirt so publicly, not caring how it will affect him.

[@mariateresabissinger3035]

Here's my take. Will wanted a healthy family and he is willing to go through all types of self machination (that is very easy to do when you're an actor) to get that. Jada loves a type and belittles Wil because he is not that. Maybe these realizations happened after they had a whole family. I think it is killing Will that he can't have that nuclear family and a co partner who loves him and the children as much as he loves her and the children. Jada wanted a thug and that slap was literally Will Smith trying to hold some of the energy of his family in place by trying to be that thug. Will is not that thug and it kills him that he can't get Jada to love, respect and deal with the Will that he is. I can't help but wonder if Jada is a narcissist. She refuses to help Will see his way out of this relationship because his celebrity is her Uber Ride to public visibility and career success. She is very superficial and Will is a very real human being with healthy emotions and a love of healing himself and others with humor. Thugs hurt people to obtain power and relevance, but Will is operating on a higher plane than that. Will can do healthy things to obtain self esteem and respect. Will is a good guy who will never be the thug that Jada is attracted to. I get this from her words. She perceives his advanced mastery of positive energy as weak, because she is super low vibration. The saying in spiritual circles is that positivity and high vibration can lower themselves to meet a very low vibration, but low vibrating people can't raise their vibrations to meet high vibrating people. So, to meet her half way, he acts like a thug. She did not buy it, or go "my hero" she rolled her eyes. That has got to hurt him even worse. He picked that to be married to and he is finally having the Chernobyl like meltdown that is inevitable from living through all that toxicity for too long. The only person he needs to stand up to, is her. Wil Smith, the real Will Smith is a beautiful advanced healthy person. He needs help and I hope he is privately getting it.

[@tonitoafinao]

notice Will scratching his leg and the nervous laughter later when he responds to the Jada and public affairs question

[@CoffeeCrazy]

That is when things got really weird. 😂. I feel sorry for him because what is the purpose of an interview if you are not going to be honest. Just let the interviewer know ahead of schedule topics that are off the table because it made him come across as deceitful and lacking confidence.

[@SandraDi]

Such a good show Spidey!! We went to go see his show in Oakville and it was incredible - highly recommend it!

[@corinaspfx]

linguistically, i can't decide if jada sounds like him or if he sounds like her. these two are SO enmeshed it's wild to listen to

[@TammieBuckeye]

I was thinking the same thing.. either Will is following Jada or the other way around.. Jada says “ok ok” a lot..

[@TheBehavioralArts]

It’s unbelievable how when he answered the question about Jada, he sounded like her. That whole “artful with the gift” thing. Sounds exactly like something she would say.

[@donna.p]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@TheBehavioralArts is this just, we start to behave like people we spend a lot of time with we mirror them.

[@celinaduran9252]

I think Jada is in full control of Will's life and has been running the show for a very very long time.. How horribly sad 😢 I know for me personally I grew up watching fresh prince and watched a lot of his movies. Once I started hearing and watching things unravel I lost all respect for him and Jada. Fake fake phony bolonies and that's most in the industry from the things that are coming out! Oh and evil!!

[@Steven4Strings]

Couples who have been together for a really long time often tend to share a lot of traits over time

[@krisphiles]

Spidey, this was one of your best and most nuanced analyses. Will Smith makes a good subject for your work. My son does that nose scrunch, and after you described it and hit on "confusion," I thought, that's it. Like, "It shouldn't make sense, but that's what I'm feeling." I could almost hear the inner dialogue. Very astute.

[@TheRustyTrike]

My first concert was DJ Jazzy Jeff and The Fresh Prince in about ‘90. I met them backstage and they were big kids. ❤❤❤

[@forensicfaithinprofiling]

I'm really appreciate your education Spidey. I know in the past I've disagreed on some of your stuff with will smith, but I have really had to back up, stop and analyze myself. I put my emotions in the way, which is the number one No-No in profiling someone. So thank you. Thank you for all of your help in educating my ass, and helping me take my emotions out of the process. Enjoy your day.

[@six2917]

I think the expression of him feeling safe, is because I think deep down he feels so dehumanized by the whole situation with Jada, that he thinks it's weird for him to feel safe that "nobodies" will know who he is, whereas people that know him personally don't even seem to respect him. It struck me as a confused sadness.

[@seedsoflove7684]

Good insight. It is sad when those u love dont love u back (at least not how u think u need them to). Maybe u r the problem. Maybe they are. But u still feel hurt and confused.

[@girlcalledmango]

I agree. Great observation.

[@alicjakempisty2729]

yes, I think this confused 'it makes me safe, people KNOW me' might mean 'somebody cares about me, I matter to somebody'.

[@anarivera8134]

I love when Spidey illustrates the emotions he’s explaining to make us understand 😅

[@jeffhidalgo6037]

I'm so glad you decided to cover this Will Smith interview. I really think Will & Jada have one of the most dishonest public relationships but looking forward to seeing if you're analysis changes or reinforces my opinion. Thanks Spidey! Edit: This reinforced my opinion & it absolutely seemed disingenuous when Will said the meaning of life was unfathomable then proceeded to give step by step instructions of how to find it.

[@KandyRenee]

For me, I interpreted that “switch up” as saying there is no one or TRUE meaning of life. It’s all an individual experience. You have to look within yourself and look at the things you want to achieve and the way you want to perceive the world to create YOUR meaning of life. And once you figure out how to sit in yourself confidently, you will find it.

[@Llkolii]

@@Jcolorado555 no don't think he's fake he's just lost in a toxic relations hip

[@lindabea3371]

Thank you for the analysis of Will’s interview. I didn’t seem like a wise choice of words for Will to say “ain’t nobody doing better than me.” He rich and famous however, he still seems a little messed up in his thought process. Will also seems like he has manager to seek guidance from many different modalities and jumbles them all up together when answers questions.

[@shatings5605]

I don't think Will Smith is any more dishonest than his peers.Ya'll just choose to focus on him and he unfortunately Needed a real hyattis and didn't take it. I mean. There are still following criminals in the industry of acting that are still walking amongst us like nothing happened and in some cases never really paid

[@juliancalendar328]

​@@Jcolorado555 he's merged his actor personalities into his public persona. That's why it feels so fake.

[@savage_optimist]

Is this scientology, psychedelics, something else? Very bizarre, fascinating. Didn't even know about this interview, thank you spidey!!

[@florgarza6409]

I really don’t understand what he was trying to do at all!! If he is trying to clean up his image this did nothing for him, it seems to me like he is trying to hard but not a single drop of honesty comes out, I’m still so disappointed of his behavior and since the Oscar’s scandal cannot tolerate him, the only reason I saw this video is because of you spidey and your true review. Thanks for the amazing content

[@Brightangel55]

He leaves me wondering who he actually is.

[@MisterFoxx]

@@Brightangel55 Read his book. It's pretty insightful. I mean he even acknowledges Will Smith was a persona he created (to shield him from his own trauma).

[@Brightangel55]

@@MisterFoxx Oh I didn't know that. Yes, I will look for his book now...thank you

[@jackzanetti6235]

That expression that had you confused is will smith's universal facial expression for confusion. He is saying it makes him feel safe while at the same time thinking it makes no sense and wondering if the interviewer would get where he is coming from. Basically it's his way of showing that he is questioning what he is saying. He has done that exact face for years

[@artylove3956]

I think he does that gesture of “it makes me feel safe” bc he has many insecurities that he hides, but with the fact of being famous it makes him feel like he’s definitely worth it. He needs way to much approval to feel valuable, and he is very hungry for it.

[@jjroseknows777]

I do think it was that hunger that drove Will to slap Chris...all for Jada and public acclaim. I wonder if he did any substance that had seriously dampened inhibition.

[@MisterFoxx]

@@jjroseknows777 you brought up substance which is interesting because I know he did that Ayuascha retreat multiple times, idk if you're familiar with that, but it's basically an indigenous type of ritual where people ingest a naturally psychoactive concoction that's sort of like a deep cleanse of your spirit and it reawakens your spirit and you feel enlightened, and I've heard it can be quite the mental and physical experience. Will actually said it was "the most hellish psychological experience" of his life. He said he saw visions of his career slipping away and I feel like that whole experience just led to that Oscars moment. I think those ayuascha journeys opened up some personal traumas that he's been trying to deal with ever since, and now he's in the healing phase.

[@daniellewestenmeyer8444]

I think you are spot on. Good point!

[@missvegan1967]

Npd personality has a constant need for attention. It's baffling to me how everyone's so quick to throw this word at Jada but not Will....🧐

[@TheTigerlilySystem]

I want to see a behavioral analysis of a dissociative identity disorder system. (I'm a system myself, I still struggle with believing I have it because I was gaslighted so much after I was adopted) It's so interesting watching these videos! Thank you for them!

[@Lgshinelight]

Hey Spidey caught your show in Ottawa was fantastic love what you do!! great flow, charisma, intelligent, genuine and at the end encouraging local magicans!! always kind and respectful! If you get a chance go see Spidey!! Thanks!

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Thanks so much Wendy 😊 ❤️ glad you enjoyed it!

[@pinkgorilla99]

I would LOVE to go to one of Spidey’s shows. Hopefully, one will come to an area near me. ❤

[@thingsiwonder2001]

The response to the question about Jada makes perfect sense to me. Up to this point Will Smith has rarely if ever discussed he and Jada's relationship outside of her being with him at the time. He, from what I have seen will never say anything that can be perceived as negative about their relationship and certainly not about Jada. I wouldn't expect his response, including being bitten, to have anything to do with Jada. Will, in my opinion, was talking about himself and the Oscars debacle and the bitten statement was a generalization. Will has, in the public eye, always given the impression that he wants his life to be open and teachable for others. Over the years of watching his interviews, at one point he sounded like a psychiatrist,( after reading his book I found out why) that was an annoying phase in my opinion. As far as the "feeling safe" eye crunch, I think the expression was the perfect example of "if that makes sense?" I do think his "look at me" exercise was an attempt at, as some say your mind is not you. Meaning, as you said Spidey, possibly referring to something spiritual. However, the "..look at you while you're looking at me" sounds like something some people used to say that means whatever you see in me, (usually the good because the one being looked to was well respected) to look at yourself that same way. From that perspective I would say he got a partial answer to the question from Will if, that was Will's intention. But mostly it appeared to me as if Will was just making it up as he went along trying to sound deep😆 The host was hilariously uncomfortable but I'm unsure that he didn't speak up out of respect. I say this because he pinned Will on whether he liked the theme song and his "diplomatic" answer. It's possible though, his level of being caught guard seemed extreme😆. Yes, this is long but I had time so....😊 Spidey, I enjoy your channel so much!

[@elle_sanchez]

A little word salad with your meal, Mr Smith? Hmm 🤔

[@theelletrain4775]

😂

[@natinatyoutube]

😂😂😂

[@video83046]

Look at you looking at me. I guess he simply means to observe your own judgment. People have whole ecosystems of thoughts about these people without even fully knowing if anything of what is being shown is even real or just an act to make them judge. If attention leads to revenue wouldn't it be normal to just exploit it in every means possible.

[@natinatyoutube]

@@video83046 Her comment is strickly about what she heard in this video, which is, indeed, a lot of "word salad". Even Spidey - an actual professionnal - was confused at some points. I'm not here to hate on Will Smith some more, not at all. But famouse people - ESPECIALLY JADA AND WILL SMITH - do have this awful tendency to say stuff that seem deep, but if a nobody said or wrote the exact same thing they would be laughed at. And rightfully so.

[@michele36618]

Had to stop and say I’m loving you hair !!! Now on to the video !!

[@sarahkwast1250]

I am so glad you analyze without bias. It is interesting how much personal bias makes everything sound and look completely different.

[@alice5515]

Anyone else been watching Spidey so long that when he says the eyebrow flash can mean 3 things….its like, yeah…😂

[@aleigha9141]

I’m so glad you said you were confused by Will’s response to the question of his and Jada’s relationship playing out in public bc I was lost 😳 I couldn’t figure out any of it at all. I thought of him sitting at the red table and Jada asking him about how he felt about her “entanglement” with their son’s friend and that was where he got “bitten”? I don’t know 🤷‍♀️ and what was the gift? Maybe doing things more artfully was in reference to the slap? 🤷‍♀️ Isad bc I used to really love Will Smith. But since he slapped Chris Rock (and he didn’t truly apologize IMO) and then the lies have come out about his and Jada’s relationship and all that, it all just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I feel like he has been protected not just by Jada but by Hollywood for far too long. Thank you for your analysis Spidey. Always look forward to your uploads! ❤ Edit to say that I so agree with the last part. The advice about living life NOW. Be in the moment. I learned that when diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that doctors don’t know much about at all. It is a tick borne disease that attacks my organs. I also have Lyme but this one is the latest one discovered. It is about 25 years since the discovery and it was only 10 years discovered when I was finally diagnosed with it. The specialist I see knows how to kill it. But it cannot be totally eradicated and it’s one of those where the “cure” can kill the patient. Much like how cancer treatments were way back when. So, I learned to live in the moment with my own children and husband. We are now raising our granddaughter and I’m present every day for her. I have a grandson as well. I just want to be here long enough to get her raised. So Will is right. LIVE TODAY. Your life is NOW. No one is promised tomorrow

[@LeeHardeman-qm9ox]

leaves a bad taste because she asked him in public how he liked the fact that she had someone else in her mouth.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Wow your life experience you shared here is so so sweet and so accurate. You can choose to worry about what your condition will do to you in the future or just enjoy right now with your family because that’s a certainty. Seems like you made the right choice 😊

[@bryanangley7771]

His entire response makes more sense when you consider he was responding to the question about it all being public. He wants to be more delicate and deliver the gift of opening his life to the public. And when we said “nobody doing it better” he meant that everyone lives have drama and mistakes and mess but his is just more public.

[@aleigha9141]

@@TheBehavioralArts yes that’s how I feel. Thank you ❤️

[@brooklynqueen7089]

@@bryanangley7771I think you are correct. This could have been made clearer if a couple of follow up questions were asked.

[@Slayqueenatron]

I really enjoyed you contextualising everything at the end. As someone who reads a wide range of biographies, I think there is something to be learned from everyone. I just think we have a problem where we either love someone and put them up on a pedestal, or hate them and ignore all their advice. Thank you for your balanced approach.

[@lauraj8429]

I love how positive this video is. Analytical and uplifting ~ the best of both worlds for my weekend. Thanks Spidey 💕

[@rachellee2515]

I want to personally thank you for teaching me so much in just a few videos. Its really tough nowadays to find genuine people like you. Just by talking about how you view the world through goggles of of your own bias perception has taught me so much. Theres way too much horror, worry and cynicism in our world today. From the bottom of my heart, i thank you. And please, keep spreading that love, humility and knowledge over this troubled little blue ball we call home.

[@dawned-onme2601]

Word Salad! That’s all I got from this interview.

[@srosemyers11]

Bro was looking and acting like a grandchild stuck in a convo with their grandparent who talks just to talk and you just smile and nod.

[@TopHatNat]

I feel like Will's always acting and he isn't genuine.

[@srosemyers11]

@@TopHatNat same here he never stopped playing that character from 6 degrees... He has been hurting since a child.

[@OnceUponaTimeline]

Yeah when he says the 'no' gesture need not mean deception when discussing his top song, I actually did feel there was quite a bit of deception there because he almost totally dodged the question. I think he did not want to admit how he truly feels so he dodges and shrugs. Not that I blame him really considering how the media is but I feel like all of his answers are attempts to cater to what will sound best and only truthful answers that he thinks will sound good will be let through. On the flip side, he does seem to dodge the rest vs outright lying so I'll give him credit for that.

[@WORMbig56]

First 10mins I checked out. He's literally full of himself #NoAccountability

[@FloTwinkletoe]

Spideeeeyyyyyyyyyyy!! You didn’t talk about that weird synchronized “ Mr smith” moment…..and when he does that uncomfortable look at me looking at you thing, I saw that as Greg Hartleys famous “chaf and redirect” ❤ you

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Haha yeah chaff and redirect could he nicknames for Jada and will 🤣

[@FloTwinkletoe]

@@TheBehavioralArts ps your fans in Calgary would love a show too! Summertime is a great time 😎

[@charisma-hornum-fries]

He still sound and look like a Scientologist. I can even imagine him and Tom Cruise sitting and talking Lord Xenu.

[@doro626]

At least he finally dropped all his false pretenses at Christianity.

[@corinnemercer9948]

I absolutely love that more and more people are exposed to the real Scientology. I listen to Aaron Smith Levin ex Scientologist..

[@tammygray]

I kept thinking he reminded me of Tom Cruise brand of crazy. Trying so hard to convince himself he's enlightened and has a wonderful life.

[@MisterFoxx]

Except they were never confirmed to be Scientologists. In fact, there's been more confirmation that he's never been one by people who were actually involved in Scientology.

[@Standing.W.Israel]

😂😂

[@abigailflannery]

33:00 The interviewer’s reaction is so me at that moment. That uncomfortable smile shows he’s willing to go along w it but he knows it’s going to be a little too woo woo for him. He’s trying not to yuck on someone else’s yum.😬

[@BrandenAllen]

I feel compassion for Will Smith. I think he's been through some hardships that I wouldn't want to have gone through in front of the whole world. He's not healthy yet but I hope he gets there.

[@TheBehavioralArts]

What a sweet sentiment ❤️

[@Sheri_J]

I agree he made a mistake and he's learning and human.

[@Mrș_Caș3y]

I agree. He kind of looks like a victim at times. sort of like he's trapped in this life with Jada, but in other times, he looks like a predator on a mission. I really feel bad for all of them for betraying God.

[@deebee5772]

What?

[@sadgequeen6990]

Umm hasn’t he been named in the “Diddy” saga?

[@dekimyayyoga2426]

All the "confusing" moments are because he is deceptive with himself in ways that he is not aware of but thinks he is. It's like several meta-layers of ego on display. I can honestly say I actually DO understand what he meant by "look at me while you're looking at yourself." But it is also clear that HE doesn't really understand it, while acting like he does. Just something he heard that he thought was profound but never actually did the work to uncover the wisdom behind it. He furrows his brow when he says he feels safe as being famous because it's likely the only time he feels safe. He equates safety with external validation and the subconscious knows that's not good. That "who's doing better than me" was absolutely a protective moment. His subconscious and his conscious are in constant conflict. This is the case with many many celebrities. They can't reconcile their incredibly privileged lives with who they are actually are so the conscious mind just makes stuff up.

[@loving_lioness3518]

Hi Spidey! Just wanted to say thank you for always trying to keep morals and values in all you do! The good humans appreciate it.

[@natinatyoutube]

Definitely.

[@hohenheimvsama6290]

SPIDY! You are awesome! I love your videos. Just wanted to say, we also shake or move our heads left and right when we scan an area or landscape. Will as a performer has stood on stages and scanned his audience many times.

[@annajanek95]

Would love if you would cover the Prince Andrew Emily Maitlis interview now that it is brought to light again through the Netflix film

[@lauraj8429]

Oooh ! I second this, yes

[@Gwennij]

As far as your evaluation when Will Smith says fame makes him feel safe… as a person of color; I suspect that what he meant was that fame is a form of protection for a black man in this Country. He is so easily recognizable that it is less likely that he would be subject to police brutality and or getting shot down during a simple traffic stop. There is no question that black men are unsafe and unprotected in America. That’s my opinion of what he was alluding to.

[@Gemma_LR]

Wow, that was some few minutes of distancing language, from one sentence to the next. I agree with you, I couldn't work out if he was talking about his relationship or the slap 🤷‍♀️

[@ADenton]

Great video. I’m from Philly and Woodcrest is a neighborhood in west Philly, pretty close to Overbrook High.

[@talanoso.4791]

I have never recovered from the slap. As a South African, we adored Will, but for me no thank you. He needs to take accountability, first.

[@SpikeLover1863]

I feel the same way - I lost all respect for him when he assaulted Chris Rock. I'll never watch another Will Smith movie again.

[@CrisHaasbro]

@@SpikeLover1863 lol thats seems a little dramatic

[@judytaylor3099]

Sorry, Will Smith turns me off.

[@MisterFoxx]

Did you not see him take accountability in his multiple apologizes? Why are y'all so eager to show off how unforgiven and non empathetic you are?

[@MisterFoxx]

@@CrisHaasbro not "seems"... it is dramatic lol

[@jearperry]

The head shake for 'everywhere in the world' could also indicate a circular movement within his mind. We usually tend to use our hand (finger) when we say 'around the world'

[@5paces164]

True

[@karaynaR1132]

❤ Loved this analysis. And Spidey please continue to share future performances with the channel i would love to attend one of your shows if you're ever in my area.

[@karaynaR1132]

There is something ive been wanting to say. Just didnt know how to say it. So im just going to say it. There is no doubt in my mind that Chase has great support system with you being among them. Stay strong. Hope this makes sense. Much love❤

[@TheBehavioralArts]

@@karaynaR1132it makes a lot of sense. 😊 ❤️

[@scrantonstrangler8301]

Spidey, do you think you will ever get to do a performance in Texas?? Are any of your performances televised or streamed?? I would love to attend!!

[@delislice101]

When you were asking about "what was the road you got bitten on?" Will is talking about how Jada cheated on him. Jada and Will went on her show "Red table talk" and they aired out that situation with the public. She was originally supposed to do it by herself but Will insisted on going because he feared the world wouldn't be as gentle, and also was hoping it would help others navigate a relationship after being cheated on trying to work things out. I don't know why I know this stuff. Gosh I need to get off social media. But, that's how I understood Will in that clip you are talking about around the 27:00 min mark.

[@mom-and-son]

I am glad you did this video b/c I was wondering about his demeanor behind his answers. I do think that he’s trying to MAKE hisself be ok with his life and relationship being in the public eye. I know he said he meant for it to. But I think he just learned early on ‘this is your life now so become ok and accept it b/c you can’t do anything about it’. And I think he’s mixed with emotions in how he feels about the uncomfortableness of him being on display for so long.

[@justbnjb4880]

I think the artistry of being transparent. Of sharing your story ( Jada book)and hoping it will help someone. He is saying he got bit going down that road but he plans to get better at it in the future. It's cultural speaking.

[@johnevans4874]

I would love to see you break down some of the video game L.A. Noire. You play as an LAPD detective and It's all about figuring out if someone is lying or not. They put an emphasis on observing the suspect when questioning them. I'm curious to see what you would say about the body language displayed in the game.

[@Osage80]

I feel like he lost his shine. He doesn’t seem himself….not that I know him personally, but he seems off. He’s just too “put on”, like he’s trying to convince, rather than just being his true self.

[@NancyWestgate-gj7ev]

You are so right. He even looks Smaller! But really.....theres no GRANDNESS that comes with Will Smith.

[@lindseymahoney7603]

Hey Spidey your videos are always what I look forward to every single week xx

[@tmanning6829]

I am Will Smith Agnostic- eg: I don't have strong feelings either way. What I have always sensed though, is a personal underlying rage [ even before the slap moment ]. In comparison, Bruce Willis PLAYED angry characters but he never really had that underlying unresolved anger. It's a sense of a powder keg about to go off thats unnerving.

[@TirraOmilade]

Spidey, I agree with your assessment of Will scruntching his face when talking about fame making him feel safe...it's his look when he is serious.

[@AIsuitability]

I think it’s a confusion look.

[@tiffanymichaels2429]

I also think maybe there is just the smallest bit if contempt at the fact that he relies on his fame to feel safe. This is someone who takes pride in power as we see from the early part of the interview. Depending on others recognizing you to feel safe takes power away from you and makes you reliant on their recognition. Don't know if I'm explaining that in a way that makes sense.

[@samstromberg5593]

@@tiffanymichaels2429I’m not sure I agree with your assessment but you are an explaining it clearly

[@tiffanymichaels2429]

@@samstromberg5593 thanks for a respectful response. I like that about this channel. I like when people who have differing views don't feel the need to belittle or attack. That is rare in social media. It's a pretty cool community in the Spidey-verse.

[@jenniferl995]

​@@AIsuitabilityI agree. He says it and is confused because fame would make most people feel more vulnerable but because it makes him feel seen and validated, that makes him a sense of safety.

[@Apep507]

I’m going for Psychology major in college. Your vids are very informative Spidey☆

[@katyarb5745]

It’s called word salad, Spidey 😂 Thanks for a great video!!

[@evonyevans]

When he said, “I love being famous because it make me feel safe. It’s like someone knows who I am anywhere I go on earth.” We need to LISTEN. His self worth is tied to external validation.

[@aliselynch]

I'm getting "mentally manipulated" by Jada and her culty tendencies. She has had a clear interest in "religions" that tend toward mental manipulation and control. That's what I got out of his weird diversion tactics. The real honesty I saw was when he said fame made him feel safe, and the first time I heard it, I wondered what hurt him as a child that fame made him feel safe. That was clearly an honest statement that confuses even him, and I wonder if he's talked about it in therapy or with Jada-- who would likely ridicule or use it against him, for the control.

[@progressiveGal73]

I’ve noticed that he code-switches when he’s uncomfortable (to make a joke or make light of something) or when he’s initially trying to build rapport (to seem harmless or remind folks he wasn’t always rich and famous). When he’s in a philosophical mode he uses the kings English.

[@lisaogrady2900]

I"m so glad that you mention the confusion you had when Will was responding to his personal life because I tjhought that I missed something. I's like he felt he had to say something but didn't know what to say so he came out with that jumbled jargon. It was great hearing your thoughts on it.

[@bryanangley7771]

I think is response was all specifically about it being public.

[@SHintz]

A wild guess about the scrunched nose on feeling safe, is to grab context clues in the next sentence- that he is known around the world. A assumption is the scrunch is truly disgust that he HAS to be well-known to feel safe.

[@maya-jh6iw]

I agree that the face he did ( 24:07 ) was his face when being serious. I know that face from him and I am pretty sure he does the same thing in his movie roles when delivering a serious moment/ emotion

[@TheBehavioralArts]

Yes he does. Absolutely. In pursuit of happiness he does it a lot even when he’s not angry.

[@kitsuun.]

A lot of moments through this made me feel like he’s the in the therapy/self-healing version of the Dunning-Krueger effect. Like he’s been going to therapy and it’s felt really helpful to him and he wants to show that, but bc he’s not quite there yet, he doesn’t realise that he probably hasn’t fully taken it in yet himself. When he was responding to the question about how he handles about his personal business being public, I feel like he’s trying to express that he is intentionally public with his personal life because he feels like being open about the negative parts of it, and the mistakes he’s made, might help someone else to learn from it, but also that he thought in sharing his life so openly, people would be more “gentle”/understanding towards him. Ironically, it also felt like deliberately being ambiguous and distancing from the situation the host mentioned. Eg, I felt like the “will got bitten” was more of an analogy than reference to a specific situation. “Delivery of the artistry” didn’t even feel like his words, it was more like Jada, but I think that kind of relates back to misjudging how gentle people would be. It kinda sounds like he’s saying he wasn’t mindful/tactful enough to realise how it might be perceived (or could be twisted), and indicating that if he’s more intentional about it then it shouldn’t be misunderstood (?) - not sure misunderstood is the right word, but it sounds like to him there’s dissonance between his intentions and the feedback he’s getting from the public. Then at the end of the response where he says “ain’t nobody doing better than me”, I think he’s trying to acknowledge that even though his had a lot of personal matters on display and that it’s been kinda sucky, he still lives a privileged life, so he doesn’t want to complain.

[@westieweardogkilts9715]

That wiggle head thing Will did was SOOOOOO Cosby!

[@mustangnawt1]

U do an excellent job of thoroughly explaining & then perfectly demonstrating, the verbal & non-verbal cues of many different communications. Being able to clearly convey complex ideas to those who likely have very little to zero knowledge of reason verbal/physical cues is such a fabulous talent. Being able to share your education, training, experience, etc in this way makes me wonder if you also have teaching (in person) in your background? Also, going to look @ all your posted work to see if you have ever analyzed the speeches of Presidents, and other Government Leaders. This non verbal info would be so valuable to both the higher ups and average citizens. Most humans often need help to read between the lines. Just IMO, u would be such a huge asset to your own country’s government. Perhaps @ one or all of the 3 letter entities, if u are a US citizen. Wherever your from, bet u would make a significant difference. Big $ too. I’m fascinated, will look through your channel and maybe Google too to learn more. Appreciate you

[@IronicleseAndSardoniclese]

Sorry for the extra long comment but I hope that it brings value to the discussion. Every time I watch one of your breakdowns, I’m blown away by the depth of the analysis. I’ve been a subscriber (on my older channel and then this one) for a long time (in KZbin time 😂) and have always felt like I should be taking notes. No shade on anyone else, but yours is my favorite channel of all the body language/behavior analysis channels. In my very humble opinion (but not really because I KNOW I’m right😂😂😂) the quality of the material and the fact that you almost always keep it neutral (or at the very least are upfront and honest when you are expressing a personal opinion), just make this channel heads and shoulders above the rest. I also love that you have a background in psychology and understand how people really work. I don’t believe you can successfully read people without understanding what really makes them tick, including how different backgrounds, experiences (traumas etc), and neurodiversities, affect a person at their core. I wish I could just sit down and chat with you and pick your brain for a few hours or (even better) be in a position to be in a mentor type program. My brain loves to go deep, but to really learn, it needs the freedom to ask tons of questions and to be able to practice until I get it. But this channel is the closest I’ll get to that sort of thing, so I’m very grateful! Until I am able to support monetarily, I’ll continue to support via the algorithm by “smashing that like button” and commenting. Thanks again! Through all the ups and downs and changes in life, this is one of a very few KZbin channels that continues to be relevant to me.🥰 And please, no matter what success you find in the future, stay loving and humble, man! They are your most endearing qualities. I believe that is the real reason that you have as many followers as you do! I’m not a “like my comment” sort of person but if anyone reading this agrees, please do like it so it can be seen. I only ask because I think there are many others that also want Spidey to “Keep on keepin’ on!” 🥰🥰🥰

[@zahedah80]

No one is going to read your novel

[@IronicleseAndSardoniclese]

@@zahedah80 🥰🥰🥰

[@robynkahle7240]

I think you are the one I always trust in these videos, you really know your stuff. Keep putting out this amazing content.

[@thewildokierose]

Will Smith needs to understand if he wants back into mainstream Hollywood and entertainment he has to accept being constantly roasted rather than being defensive or emotional.

[@user_angelmum]

He needs to take accountability and appologise to Chris for his cowardly slap .. He feels entitled . But he is a little boy who threw a tantrum .

[@seedsoflove7684]

​@@user_angelmum If he did it for jada, she didn't appreciate it. He should have been quiet. He is a spoiled brat.

[@MisterFoxx]

he's been accepting it for the last decade or so. And we've never seen him defensive or emotional for years. He's literally avoided addressing every rumor about him unless he was directly asked.

[@MisterFoxx]

@@user_angelmum So you saw the slap, but not his many apologies afterwards???

[@GrowRichSpace]

It’s always about letting go…exactly…accept let it hit you then LIFE will provide MORE for you as you keep on letting go

[@SieraTheChosenOne]

25:50 I think Will said those things without elaborating because either he doesnt want to say exactly what it is in public because it will either give too much info thats no ones business, OR maybe hes not even sure himself but since its a interview he just has to say something to give an "answer" lol. Idk

[@ryvlaw]

34:20 I feel like that "head shake" thing was more of a "this is awkward, help" and Will Smith is saying: "Find out why you needed to do that, why it felt awkward and then you will find your answer" which in my opinion does not answer that but might tell him more about himself and why he couldn't let that moment be that moment but felt the need to escape it with that head shake

[@jamiejackson1780]

It makes him feel SAFE, “disgust that as a Black man in America, FAME is the only thing that makes me feel SAFE” contempt… possibly 🤔 this was my thought on it.

[@sussngardner5059]

Great video. Wish I was closer to see you live. 🎉

[@equolizer]

That whole "look at me looking at you" part made me laugh out loud. Very pythonesque.

[@blessed1611]

Thank you for educating is the public. You are appreciated

[@savage_optimist]

I'm baffled and intrigued. I have so many thoughts, I wish this was am interactive stream this time!!

[@biblewomen77]

I love the analyst you do!

[@marejojohnson4902]

Analysis. He IS the analyst. 😊

[@biblewomen77]

@@marejojohnson4902 you know what I meant

[@beccatorres]

I respect that the interviewer did his research. The fact that Will looks genuinely surprised, it shows most interviewers don’t or keep it superficial.

[@suestatham-yi4uo]

John Lennon said....life is what happens when you're busy making other plans.

[@LadyDanzell]

@TheBehavioralArts new fan here. Literally discovered your channel last week and I’m HOOKED. Lol. In my journey of self discovery, I’ve become deeply interested in and fascinated by psychology. A few thoughts on this particular interview and I admit I have a bias because I’m a Will Smith fan. 25:15 where he was asked about navigating personal relationships in the public eye, I thought he was referencing Jada’s very open book tour which is what the host kind of referenced at the initial part of this segment. So Will is essentially saying he wanted to be transparent about things that were happening within his marriage. As a long time fan, their marriage was very private in the beginning. People used to be very speculative about their relationship. I think writing his book was a big turning point for him. I believe Will buried a lot of his shame and had a lot of work to do to come to a resolve of his many issues- so his book Will was the beginning of the turning of a new leaf for him. And then Jada’s followed a few years after, of course I’m sure they discussed it all before publishing and therefore he is saying, nothing about what was published was going to be a secret anymore and his only misgiving (I think he used misjudgment) was how all of these things that were only speculation before going to be received and perceived by the public… his fans. In his book it was obvious to me that Will had major insecurities because of trauma and he tried so hard to portray a perfect image. But I think he got tired of doing that. When he said “if I could say something in this interview” I think he was referring to generally not keeping his errs a secret anymore to maintain his perfect image on account of the world’s propensity to be unkind towards others’ mistakes. So he’s saying whatever he does or says publicly he intends for it to be so and regardless of how it’s perceived, if someone else is able to learn from it so they can avoid the same errs, he’s ok with that. He’s saying based on how his intentionality was received, he will try to be more delicate in the delivery of his authenticity going forward and that even though his “stuff” or baggage is publicly scandalized by those judging him, he’s ok because if we all were to open up our personal lives in the same way, the same ones judging and trying to shame him would be equally ashamed. Basically they’re just projecting because their own mishaps aren’t publicized. Of course this is just MY understanding of what I listened to. I really am glad to have come across your channel! ❤

[@rlh125]

I love your channel, Spidey. Of all the body language channels I have seen, this is the one that seems the most like a class. I also agree with your takes 99.9% of the time (and let's face it, I'm probably wrong about the other 0.1% 😂).

[@Arti-iChi]

I absolutely agree with you... I can't bear to watch the other body language channels who constantly bash and point out bad observations by someone they are analyzing....and especially if it's someone that the public dislikes... Seen it with Prince Harry and others like him... it's like they analyzing for their audience and views and likes and not giving a fair analysis

[@rlh125]

@@Arti-iChi The least valuable channel, in my opinion, (and I won't name it because it isn't necessary) is one that could be VERY valuable if they would rework it. There are four experts who reference body language in the video they are reviewing, but they don't clip out the part they are talking about and show it to the audience. I'm mystified by that decision. Also, they show you the same clip over and over and over as the talk about different things in it. They really need to hire a good video editor or one of them needs to learn that skill. As it is, I find the channel unwatchable.

[@duttyluke]

he's shaking his head not to mean no, but to assert tiredness or a feeling of a resentment towards his extensive body of work after not being as recognized.

[@JillianReeves]

He said he was Big Willie Before he got discovered, but then he says After he was on the radio he was no longer "Little" Will. Seems like a contradiction.

[@Blooderfly17]

I noticed that too because he only became big Willie after the fame before he was Lil Willie and his dad was Big Willie before. I agree I think he slipped up there.

[@woofbarkyap]

Well, there there are both operations and medications these days, maybe the fame gave him the money to afford help?

[@liliarosales1961]

Yes! That stood out to me too

[@DABA2024]

Guy has been lying so much for so long he doesn’t even know his own story anymore.

[@TheCallMeMisterPig]

"Big Willie" = nickname from those around him in his personal life; he's really tall, so it could be referring to that. "Little Will" = locally known to nationally known now that he has a song on the radio. "Little Will" in this context, I believe, is being used as a reference to refer to him as being a nobody, not necessarily how people saw him or referred to him in his interpersonal relationships. Just my interpretation.

[@shawnmccammon]

I see the "safe" scrunching as a sign that he had not really thought about it in that context before, and he was giving the question some serious introspective thought while holding onto curiosity.

[@mariee.5912]

Spidey, I think the interviewer influenced how smoothly the interview went. I thought that would happen with Tevor Noah, but that felt like deeping his toes under water.

[@vsmash2]

24:30 you can see a hit of a smirk after the feeling safe bit, i think its more of "its weird" followed by, "isn't that funny".