What's Really Going On Behind The Scenes Lately?

What's Really Going On Behind The Scenes Lately?
Welcome to my stream of consciousness... Seriously. I didn't even script this video. I wanted to share what was going on behind the scenes. I think by now most people know I don't have it together but somehow when you have a following the message gets a little lost.
SO here I am laying out my daily thoughts lol
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00:00 Introduction
00:12 Life Lately
00:36 Little kids need you physically
00:57 We had a nanny
01:44 Night Weaning Update
02:11 Trying for a 3rd?
03:05 Hormones during weaning are NUTS
03:17 Figure out my priorities
03:40 1. Get off your phone guide
04:25 Digital minimalism
05:28 2. Flip book for thought prompts!
06:11 Figuring out where to focus my work time
06:30 Money stress
06:42 DECLUTTERING madness
06:54 A Slob Comes Clean
07:05 Containers are for containing
07:57 I (thankfully) have a great partner
08:14 I WANT to workout again
09:10 Expecting and Empowered
10:01 Feel like I'm in limbo currently
10:14 CANNOT WAIT TO RESTART THE PODCAST!
10:42 Non Toxic Mattress I love
11:23 An Empties Video
12:00 How to avoid toddler tantrums
12:25 Get on the email list!

[@kendrascorner]

If you make a solo podcast, you just talking to us, I would totally listen to that. Lol

[@madiarabella2589]

Yes me toooo

[@taylormohr8729]

Um, yep!

[@gamblekatie]

Ditto!

[@CJ2023Incognito]

100%

[@kseniaarie560]

Me tooooo

[@ginapurcell1732]

A video of Shayla's rambling thoughts is hilarious and so entertaining. This is what I do with myself throughout the day. Just full on conversations by myself. 😂

[@_pandacecelya_]

Saaaame.

[@Toriapardoe]

100% agree!! Plus it's just so reassuring to hear we all think like this, haha

[@macyakoon]

Feeling this kind of overwhelm in my soul lately. Never enough moments in the day to do all the things that fill my cup. So thankful for you sharing!

[@MusicIsMyAeroplane09]

Not me watching this on my phone while my LO nurses 😬

[@catherinecarver8025]

My personal get off your phone tip - take up a hobby like crochet. There are a lot of small projects that are easy to pick and put down and it gives you something to do with your hands but you also feel so successful after finishing a project.

[@CJ2023Incognito]

Our kids are pretty closed in age and I have absolutely no idea how you get these things done. Seriously, some days I can’t form a thought and here you are with all these creative ideas. You are amazing. Thank you for your content.

[@rcece569]

LOVE your flip book idea, much needed! And getting us & kids off the phones is crucial

[@danikastow-monk9393]

This is so rambly and chaotic and I love it! Reminds me of excited conversations with friends before we were being interrupted every 30 seconds by little people!

[@kelseywilliams323]

Yup. This is my internal monologue all day every day. It's A LOT to live in my brain 🥴 Thanks for sharing your "ramblings", so many of us relate!

[@qpixelthree80]

The “I can’t I can’t I can’t I can’t I can’t” was the most relatable thing ever in this exact context 😅

[@Thisorganizedmother]

The change of seasons usually brings so much overwhelm and I’m stay at home with my kids. It’s wild but normal, I believe. I try to keep/buy just enough clothing to do laundry each week on Mondays. And a few extras for messes. It helps a lot!

[@thedesertdaydreamer]

Love a chit chatty video 😂 Life updates are so fun to listen to 🙌

[@breestep9591]

Oh my God! Yes!! Help me get off my phone! I too am embarrassed. It's so hard when I'm alone and trying to put the baby to sleep in the carrier. My brain loves to look up anything so I can learn and inevitably end up in a rabbit hole. If you share your numbers, so will I!! The many decisions of motherhood can be such a mental load. Glad you can get some time soon! Also I enjoyed the rambling!

[@tesslah8163]

“Don’t your kids want to wear pink sparkly thing?!” You’re awesome.

[@laneadamslivingwell]

This makes me laugh because I just did a rambling video on Facebook the other day I really love the stream of consciousness style… It doesn't bother me at all and I can make bullet points in my head and get takeaways without it being organized. I guess it's a skill. Ha ha anyway, thanks for sharing. I love it. My kids are grown, but my daughter has two little ones that are exactly 2 years apart just a year older than yours so I know she can relate to a lot of what you're saying. But getting her to listen to anything more than 30 seconds is difficult because the kids are always talking to her, etc. ha ha anyway Love it. I worked in early intervention for 31 years so 2 to 5-year-olds are my favorite… Thanks for sharing you're doing a great job!

[@cenavisch8888]

I love this. Very real!! I hope you were able to enjoy those last 3 weeks 💞

[@a_v_16]

I just found you within the last month and all your videos have been such a breath of fresh air. Today's video was just superb. I love how it felt like we were just a couple of friends catching up and how you had the liberty of just sharing your thoughts with us. Great content as always!!

[@amelidominik9385]

😂 It's so relatable how many directions your thoughts go in, in just 15 minutes

[@carolinekayesavage3746]

Aaaah, loved every second of this video. Stopping my phone as of today! This was the sign I needed. Thanku

[@hanofly]

Every bit of this resonates with my current life! Would 100% listen to a podcast version of this video.

[@blairchetram2449]

I'm excited for the flip book!! Pumping can be boring sometimes lol

[@bobacabuja]

I dont make videos, but listening to this mind ramble made me think i should do the same, just let out all my thoughts at the same time, untill im empty. Let them all out, let them goooo, seems so comforting. Love it. You are amazing! ❤

[@OstomiesAreBeautiful]

The flip book idea is honestly genius. I have been so good about limiting my own screen time…. Until about two weeks ago when I had my second baby. Now I find myself just mindlessly scrolling again because I’m constantly nursing and thinking “what else do I do while I’m glued to a newborn?”

[@Agerman87]

Can’t wait for the flip book! What an awesome idea!

[@Bekah4568]

You can actually get pregnant when you are breastfeeding, even if you haven't gotten your period back! Fertility Friday podcast has helped me a lot with understanding ovulation. Thanks for your videos and honesty!

[@heyshayla]

Totally I just want to know when to try lol

[@gamblekatie]

Love you and your videos! Keep doing what you’re doing.

[@lakenjones17]

I feel every bitttt of how you’re feeling!! sometimes we just need to brain dump & get it all out!

[@heyshayla]

Exaaaaactly!!!!

[@eg9350]

Love your videos, even unstructured one’s! Feels like I’m talking with a friend! ❤

[@devinkaauwai8906]

I love having video podcasts that I look forward to once a week, do it!!! And when you can have guests, have guests 😊

[@Dana-mb1hd]

I just love your channel!❤

[@aro4781]

I havent been an long term subscriber but I like your rambling videos the most. ❤

[@nikkiwaltenburg4135]

Yes! Help me get off my phone and the flip book! ❤ love the rant!

[@kirstendunteman5061]

This is soooo relatable. I haven’t wanted to do daycare for a few reasons but my childcare is so minimal and all over the place and it’s a constant stress and I’m always questioning myself 😅

[@madiarabella2589]

also yes please do a full video review of the book!

[@lizpleszkoch403]

I absolutely LOVED that interview with Dana White!!! So many mind blowing tidbits!!! Love how real you are too!!❤

[@beccabauer1726]

Ha girl I so relate to the feeling sluggish from not working out over the summer! I also used to be a dancer in high school and I’ve never felt this olllld. Man ok I’m inspired! Gonna find a way to workout! Also totally relate to the basing how I feel based on my stomach’s appearance. 😅🙄

[@musicandsport]

I love you Shayla, you have changed the way I see and live my motherhood

[@CJ2023Incognito]

Great content, Shayla. 👍

[@kaylamoore912]

I know this doesn’t help all the things but I just listened to an episode of the We Can Do Hard Things podcast talking about caregiver fatigue and I just want you to know you are NOT supposed to have to do it all. And our country is built on the unpaid labor of women. I know Seth is an amazing partner and dad like my husband is but I’m sure he’s not making hardly as many concessions as you are. And of course still breast feeding and what not are things you can’t hand over but it’s insane to think you alone can grow your career, be a full time mom to two, clean, and be a partner! Our work as mothers is meant to be valued and we are supposed to have more subsidized help and care that is also valued and payed well to help us! I’m not saying your doing anything wrong!! Your doing absolutely amazing!! I just wanted to point out that the expectations on what mothers should be able to do are high and often cannot be met! It’s just too much!!

[@_pandacecelya_]

I can’t wait for your video about temper tantrums! I should read those two books you recommended. I can’t wait for your podcast to come back! I do love your interviews with people but would totally listen to just you. I love how fast you talk, it reminds me of Gilmore Girls 😅

[@nylagodwin1723]

Yes to solo podcast. Love this.

[@annerapp3]

yes do a review on digital minimalism!!

[@dawnforlife]

Tip to stop mindless scrolling. I try to not use my phone when my girl is with me (which means almost never 😅) UNLESS it’s something important like, “I need to write back to grandma about ABC”. I need to look for this recipe or learn about this thing. I tell her what I am doing to be held accountable. Maybe it helps you too or maybe it’s already in the guide 😊 I think keeping up with a toddler, keeping a household and making wholesome food is more than a full time job. So, something’s gotta give if you have a baby and your job. I think it’s so smart to delegate, get a baby sitter maybe and maybe delegate even more. Big hugs.

[@drishticommunitywellness]

So relatable! 💜

[@kristenmicula9337]

I SO need the get off your phone guide!!!

[@kerryclark2438]

haha, this is so accurate. our girls are the same age and same gap as yours and I do the same thing where I go into my photos and videos. to see if the oldest was walking yet, how she was talking at this age, what she was wearing lol all the things. I’m glad I’m not the only one! love your content and how relatable it is.

[@HaileyNicole]

You’re hilarious and I totally relate!!!!!!!! Also, what is this long sleeve shirt brand? It’s soo cute!!!

[@heyshayla]

Here!! 1stphorm.com/collections/womens-long-sleeves/products/peak-seamless-long-sleeve?variant=40130215870550/?a_aid=heyshayla

[@sonyaalexanderpevzner5130]

This video was my brain today actually?? God I needed to hear someone else just narrate my inner anxiety thoughts 😂

[@naorivas]

I hope the thought prompt book comes out before February! Baby is due then.❤

[@heyshayla]

Hopefully the next two weeks!!

[@analiachyrnialisnichuk2125]

Hi! Those are wonderful initiatives. Thanks for the books recommendation, i keep adding then to a list. 😂 reading a book being a mom toddler is just so hard. To the moms community here: I’m just so irritable about noise somebody else? … Love from Madrid ❤

[@kellyteresa3450]

I have a 10 month old and in the exact same place as you right now Shayla. ❤

[@lisak574]

I’m hopeful to see some transitioning into daycare videos from you in the upcoming weeks. My almost two year old boy has been going for just over a month now and is finally settled, so much so that one lunch time pick up he refused to come home and just stood there waving bye bye to me. Now he has his nap there and I pick him up later!

[@teaganjoanparke]

I am really looking forward to the get off your phone guide

[@dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122]

I'm pregnant. But I can see myself having all these thoughts and makes me feel like... ok these thoughts happen to all of us we just need to find our way.

[@dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122]

I've been using my phone to escape my anxiety.... I guess I should sit with it. But I don't feel like I want to...

[@dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122]

I'd listen to you podcast. For sure

[@irene9062]

I definitely should be working out, but I clicked on your video instead 😂 I promise I’ll do a little exercise after!

[@prisc.l4051]

would love podcasts episodes, hopefully you can get money from that too. what you say is very valuable i relate to this

[@GodisInYourJobSearch]

1. Love ur videos. 2. As a work from home mom and career coach I still have to say. YOU have the BEST job for this season!! It’s a lot to juggle and manage but every job is. AND it’s using all ur skills of connecting people. Make recommendations / share. And learn from experts etc. I know you know and get that. But had to chime in!

[@MrsYoung-in9ov]

I read that the stiffness / joint issues is a part of breastfeeding. I get really bad stiffness especially in my feet in the mornings.

[@irene9062]

If your period comes back, try to get pregnant around January/ February with me and we can have October babies together!

[@AbbySamuels]

This is making me want to put my eldest in daycare. He's 17months and I have a newborn and it's sooo hard but I have mum guilt that I just want a break from my toddler 😢

[@dawnforlife]

Must be so hard. I can’t imagine, I have a 3 year old. I recently put her to a few hours daycare, once a week and I can feel the guilt too, especially when she starts not liking it but to be honest, I feel worse when I lose it with her when I don’t have enough time to have a breath. 🫂

[@heyshayla]

One thing that helped me was knowing it’s not a permanent choice, you can always change your mind if it’s not going well

[@youtubeacc]

Please please don’t put them in daycare if you’re able to be home. Just even research it, there’s some great KZbin videos about daycare detriment

[@lillylongton9498]

I love a ramble video. Just feels like we are chatting about life 🤍

[@kseniaarie560]

Giiiiirl you’re awesome

[@cecilliachi]

The stomach part 🥹😂 Am in deep on that one. Nothing but solidarity here ❤

[@Yeavemealone]

I would absolutely buy the flip book. I am newly pregnant with my second baby & I am exhausted. I need to be on my phone less but I’m too tired to do more than one activity a day. 😅 so I would absolutely benefit from an e book about getting off ur phone.

[@kaycevictoria9947]

Last one.. yes my husband doesnt really get it the way us watching this do. Lol i get the well i give you as much time as i can. Now i suck at managing my time. So im working on that because i can do more... its just overwhelming is all

[@kaylinlarson8349]

Where is your shirt from? It looks comfy! Nice color on you too!

[@heyshayla]

Thank you!! 1stphorm.com/collections/womens-long-sleeves/products/peak-seamless-long-sleeve?variant=40130215870550/?a_aid=heyshayla

[@annerapp3]

"stuff does not stay that clean, and neutral colors. don't your kids want to wear pink sparkly things?" LOL

[@megs_ae1617]

Have you looked into the Vitex supplement for hormonal support? I’ve heard it can help get your cycle back post partum. It may have helped me! (whether it was the supplement or not, who knows)

[@madiarabella2589]

My son has all his teeth too he is 18 months and he is already getting the top 2 year molars 😩 you wouldn’t know he was teething when all his other teeth came in but my poor boy is having some very Rosie checks and miserable moments that aren’t like him at all so I just know it gotta be those dang teeth!

[@Amanda-dt7kq]

Looking forward to your empties

[@TheLisseth83]

Omg my 18 month old he has all teeth minus four molars. It's nuts 9 came in one week

[@patriarchywife]

I was exclusively breastfeeding and did not get my period back and got pregnant immediately lol my kiddos are 11 months apart

[@kaycevictoria9947]

If only you could hear me ramble back to you! Thank you! Like what the crap.. just ahhhh. And its funny because we're all in the same boat.. yet thinking and wanting ANOTHER BABY 😂😂 its madness! I haven't washed my hair in a week ok I can't leave my house because I look like a bum... but when! When I say?! Lol or the parents with a newborn who are working out... what?! When?! Or getting all ready for the day! I'll type forever so im just going to say Yes I agree, same!!!! & I have zero mom friends. Hahaha

[@chelseaarnold9292]

Your brain works like my brain! ❤

[@ginaives3343]

Best vid yet lol

[@jennastevenson806]

do the podcast!! lol

[@kaycevictoria9947]

I dont have as much money as i used to so yes im decluttering as well 😂 haha i cant with this its too real i love it though

[@shannonvananda9198]

Do you think getting a smart watch would help you get off your phone? I know it sounds counterintuitive, getting more technology to use technology less, but I feel like if I had a watch to know if there were any important messages or calls I needed to know about, then I wouldn’t have an excuse to pick up and check my phone which always leads to checking eeeverything besides just texts and calls. I’ve never really used a smartwatch before so I’m not sure exactly how distracting they can be…

[@shannonvananda9198]

Also always the EMFs to consider, but I feel like a Bluetooth watch isn’t as bad as a phone connecting to satellites? 😬

[@heyshayla]

I’ve done this and it does help!!!

[@devinkaauwai8906]

Why don’t you do KZbin podcast?

[@kaycevictoria9947]

How old is your 2nd daughter with a name i dont want to spell wrong 😂 My daughter is 11 months... I was wanting to start night weaning her. * Any advice anyone? * I want to sleep train to get back into our bed. She wakes up far too often.. I know it will benefit her more to learn how to sleep without me.

[@heyshayla]

Search hey Shayla night weaning and hey Shayla sleep training!!

[@rachelbylsma7714]

100%%%%%%%%%%

[@MySweetIsabella]

It’s called being still and content. You should really meditate and slow down. It’s hard to listen to you talking about getting off the phone when you talk so fast and you sound like you don’t know how to stop and relax. I’m much more relax and content with my new mom life without doing a lot because I purposely want to put my attention to my daughter. Everything else can wait. I enjoy each moment with her because I know how to be still and not look in my phone all the time. You don’t sound like you can convince people to get off their phone. Try to relax a bit more. Just saying.

[@bethw3573]

I think the talking fast is partly how it's edited. If you don't like it, don't watch. ✌️

[@Katie-qx7ys]

This comment is really going to help her relax. Good thing you told her what she needs to do oh wise one

[@MySweetIsabella]

@@bethw3573 if you’ve been watching her videos you’ll know this is how she is. Lol I like some of her videos but this one in particular is difficult to take seriously. You can’t take the advice of getting off your phone then you tell me you check your social media. I don’t have social media accounts other than you tube. I cut that crap as it doesn’t add any value to my life. But yeah, I stopped watching the video before you read my mind. If you don’t like my comment, then don’t respond to it. Lol

[@MySweetIsabella]

@@Katie-qx7ys she makes me anxious listening to her sometimes.

[@dawnforlife]

I have to disagree with you because usually, the more people struggle with something, the better a teacher they will be because the struggle for them is real and they have practical tips to overcome it. For example, I teach yoga headstand especially well because I struggled for years due to fear so in that way, you can’t say that I can’t teach well just because I fear to be upside down but the contrary because I can relate to the struggle and found a way to overcome it. Also, I struggled with eczema and managed to heal naturally, so I have the experience to share better compared to someone who was probably just learning the problem from a book. Hope you get the gist of what I am trying to say.