What surprises me about the end of life and why it matters

Even after working as a Hospice Nurse for so many years, I think there's always something new to learn or experience with the End of Life.
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[@markrunyon5524]

My Mom passed in a hospice facility in April,while I was feeding her,I knew that she was gone,The doctor who came in right after said "keep talking to her,she can hear you for at least 20 minutes.I didn"t question it because their was no down side if he was wrong.

[@JobyJoby-iw2wr]

I'm preparing to die alone. Palliative Care starts this month after Home Nursing discharges me this week. Reevaluating hospice care later this summer. My family visited me this weekend - a wonderful experience. They live 3 hours away and have their own lives. Neighbors from Hell - I avoid them. The second Behavioral Health practitioner dropped me last week, he apparently got tired of hearing me ramble on, same as the first practitioner. I'm somewhat overwhelmed by basic tasks - I'll soldier on to the end. I want to pass in my retirement home, very proud of my home and worked hard for it.

[@Thrillnow]

I send you my well wishes and hope, pray, believe you will have all the healing comfort you need till the end.

[@BR-kk9qu]

I am sending you strength, love, and total peace. May you feel the presence of loving kindness around you.

[@brianamitchell8078]

Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed

[@wlonsdale1]

@@brianamitchell8078 This right here.....He's waiting for you to believe. That's all nothing else has to take place.

[@brianamitchell8078]

@@wlonsdale1 Not true. Even the devil believes. It takes more than just believing in God to be a Christian. You have to trust in him. And when you repent, put your trust in Jesus, He sends His Holy Spirit to live inside you. The Holy Spirit is the seal of God, and our evidence we have been born again. He is your helper and teacher. He gives you the strength and power over sin. Once you have received the Holy Spirit, there will be no doubt there is a God, because the Holy Spirit will transform your heart and mind. You will become a new creature. Old habits will pass away, and all things will become new. In Galatians 5:22-23 Paul explains, “When the Holy Spirit controls our lives He will produce this kind of fruit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.” The Holy Spirit works in us by peeling away our sinful characteristics and replacing them with godly characteristics. His work in us makes us more and more like Jesus. Just as Acts 1:8 mentions, the Holy Spirit empowers Christians to be effective witnesses for Jesus Christ. The Holy Spirit will bring you into a relationship with Jesus. He will give you love and desire to serve God. The Holy Spirit is the key. You must possess Him to be saved.

[@senseofstile]

I am retired. I worked as an RN. I remember a cancer patient. She was in her 50's. She was ambulatory and had no problems communicating. She was discharged. About a year later, she was my patient again. Now, she wasn't ambulatory and unable to speak. She was not very alert. A lot of her family were in and out of the room. I came in and took her blood pressure. I didn't talk to her but, she looked up at me and smiled. I thought; wow she remembers me. She passed not long after that. I totally believe patients can hear us. Love your videos.

[@j.svensson7652]

My mother died in 1983. She slowly stopped eating and drinking (refusing food or water) for the last week and a half of her life. She was unable to speak due to many strokes in the speech center. The morning she died, I had to keep track of her pulse as no one else could find it. She was unconscious and yet each time my father entered the room (utterly silent) her eyes would open and she would watch him. Everyone was suffering from their grief. I whispered in her ear that it was time to let go. That we'd be ok and her situation was just hurting everyone. I told her it was ok. And I got up and went out into the back yard. I spoke to her from there. I told her it was a perfect day to go (it had snowed the day before but that day was sunny and warm). Palm Sunday. I seriously felt her hand caress my cheek and it felt like she rushed past me into the sun. Not a minute later, my sister came to tell me "We think she is gone." I knew she was. But I checked her pulse and she was gone. Her passing was so joyful. I could feel her relief. She'd been sick for almost a year with liver cancer. But I'm sure I carried her spirit out of the house so she could go on.

[@susanweiss1439]

She walked out with you.

[@welshpete12]

Beautiful !

[@reneeb.2702]

I had my arms around the back of a patient. She suddenly died & her spirit/soul went thru me like a sudden brisk wind. It was startling & I will never forget. You were there for your mom & she let you know she knew it.

[@dimpsthealien333]

Oh my. I'm crying reading this. My mom is on hospice. Not super close to death yet, but I want to believe she will be joyful once she does cross over. ❤

[@susanb.4965]

@@dimpsthealien333She will be absolutely blissful. She will have loved ones in spirit and Angels come to help her continue on where there is only beautiful love. I’m so sorry you’re going through this extremely hard time. Much love to you and your mother. ✨💖✨

[@andrewjoyce9038]

My dad was unconscious for the last week of his life. We told him we loved him and that he was the greatest

[@AzDesertFoxx]

As one should. Not "he's just a shell", or the equivalent of, in that video.

[@Kada4646]

My Dad died almost 25 years ago. He was in hospice for the last 2 weeks of his life. About a week before he died he was visioning. He would stare and reach out to the right corner of the room- always with a small smile on his face. Perhaps he saw family that had passed. That's what we thought and it brought us comfort. I spoke to the hospital pastor and he said this happens frequently. Anyway my Dad wasn't responsive to any of us the last 2 weeks. We would speak to him and got no response. We did not know if he could hear us or not. We wanted to believe he could. 2 days before he died -- I took his hand and told him it was ok for him to go. He said i a low voice - "I'm trying" I was so surprised. I never expected an answer. So I do believe those in a coma or dying can hear us

[@user-ov4wr5yu4r]

That's so amazing. I believe he didn't want you to suffer.

[@scotsman6712]

Thats amazing!

[@jguenther3049]

There's a thing called "terminal lucidity," where the patient briefly recovers the ability to communicate and to recognize friends and relatives.

[@sandradarier3060]

So I lost my lovely father 2 weeks ago. He was very elederly, frail and sick. I watched a series of videos by Nurse Julie and these helped prepare me so much. I was so at peace with his death. You have no idea how valuable these videos are - thank you so much. God bless.

[@marathoner43]

My mom died on hospice one year ago tomorrow. I was with her. She had the "death rattle" going on for several hours. I suddenly heard the breathing start to change and the breaths getting shorter. I held her hand and said "It's okay Mom, I'm here. I love you Mom. It's okay to go. If you see a light go to it." Listening to this video tonight brings me some comfort. I'm guessing that if you're right, she heard that.

[@PrincessLisa2U]

This is true ... Even when my mother stopped responding... I kept talking to her. In her final moments as I was telling her that I was ok .. a tear dropped from her eye and I did rubbing noses and she moved her head ... she hated it lol lol ... she waited until I left and transitioned. I learned about the fluid because I thought if she had them she would last longer but the hospice nurses told me this .... Keep educating us ... I was terrified of hospice. But they kept excellent care of her.

[@Dawn-cb7xf]

My mom held on till my daughter and granddaughter drove in from several states away. They were able to say their goodbyes, give her kisses and tell her they loved her. She passed about 6 hours after they left for the night. All the while my father and I sat there and talked to her. I do believe she heard us completely.

[@kensakamoto258]

I am a partner to someone currently in hospice. I have also been a first responder and one of the first lessons we received was "Don't lie to your patient or their family" I often think of this when staffers try to comfort me by saying "Everything will be ok. or "She is fine". This is obviously not the case as she is dying.

[@marynemedez3738]

I lost my husband On Nov 5, 2023. I feel very fortunate to have had all our children and grandchildren at his bed side. His brothers were also there. My husband was very aware of all of us being there. Towards the end my husband was looking at the upper left corner of the room, behind him, he then got a smile on his face, turned to me, squeezed my hand and whispered, "I love you so so very much honey, but they are here to take me home so I have to go now, bye. That was it, he was gone.

[@catmama54]

My husband was in hospice for only six days. I knew the end was coming and I told him as I would talk to him. I’m gonna be OK. It’s OK you can go. I will be fine. Even though I was lying through my teeth because I wasn’t going to be fine. I wanted to let them know it’s OK to go. That day I told him that he waited till my stepdaughter and I left. We call a call 15 minutes later he passed. I will admit the death rattle is horrible sounding but they assured me he wasn’t in pain. Whenever any of the hospice workers went into my husband‘s room, they would address him by his name and say hello how are you today. They talked to him as if he could hear, I appreciated that more than I can say.

[@leannebrand2212]

❤

[@jimrebr]

I know for sure that they can hear us. My mom almost died in 2013, she was in a coma from June 19-July 19. When she woke from her coma, she remembered everything about the ICU room she’d been in. She had 27 surgeries and was in the hospital so long, her team of specialists told us the night of June 20th that her chances of living were extremely low. She lived 11 more years, she just passed away 3-19-24, and I miss her so much, we all do. My dad is deaf with dementia and he is in a hospice house, and me and my siblings make the long journey to visit him as often as we can.

[@myphd-myprisonhistorydiplo691]

I can relate to your mom passing. My mom passed away on January 15 of this year. I got the privilege to hold her beautiful delicate hand on her last breath. I want to share with you what I later learned is called a shared death experience. I was singing to my mom “you are my ride or die until the very end me and my best friend” and I heard the last breath and I turned to the nurse and said “that was her last breath” and Nurse Bev said “yes I believe so” and the next thing i knew I was not in a hospital room anymore…I heard sooooo much clapping and sheer excitement like everyone was waiting on us. I was behind the scenes so to speak and my mom was in front of me. It was the most beautiful light a golden light and I felt all the love my beautiful angelic mom gave to every person. Y’all it was like a download of her life review but it was about how good she made people feel. I felt all the love she gave!!!! It was stunning!! Then I could hear my moms thoughts “where am I” and I could feel her confusion, my sweet Angel. So I screamed “run mom run” like someone cheer their kid on when he or she hit a home run⚾️❤️when I yelled that my mom jumped in the air with her arms up above her head in a V for victory and I got to see my grandparents waiting with open arms, it was the most stunning moment my eyes and spirit have ever seen !!! Omggggosh I see it again right now as I’m typing this, and yes tearing up! Them boop I was back in the hospital room. I was absolutely honored and privileged to have had that moment and KNOW for a fact that this is what it’s all about!! I don’t know why I got to have this gift but I know I have to share it!! My grieving process has not been linear…lots of firsts this year without her, but omgosh y’all I got to have the most greatest goodbye see you later gift ever!! I hope our moms are hugging right now and sharing fun times together whole and complete!! I am blessed I get to share this with others!

[@jackpotdreams2954]

Hi Nurse Julie, my name is Karen. I have been subscribed to you for some time now. Yesterday, my mom Marie, passed from stage 4 stomach cancer. She was 81. I am completely heart broken and feel a piece of me went with her. However, I want to thank you profusely for your candor and your calm compassionate approach to hospice and the dying education. I found this information not only helpful but it helped me maneuver the hospitals, doctors,palliative care process and hospice in a way I couldn’t have had it not been for you sharing everything you did. I wasn’t shocked by what was happening rather aware, informed, knew what to expect and understand why certain events were happening. I could even question doctors, nurses and hospice professionals more and stop or start certain approaches to her care I otherwise couldn’t have had it not been for you. While I am kind of numb right now as I pick up each thing she owned and cry or smile or just stare out holding something dear to her; I am super thankful to you. You helped me so much. So many ask what can I do to help you, and while I so appreciate them asking, it was you who helped me the most. Thank you seems to not be enough to say but my heart is filled with such appreciation for you ❤. You made an incredibly difficult process much easier to maneuver. Much love and a big hug for you!

[@TakeTheRide]

I hated family standing around my grandmother & talking or talking about her, as if she wasn't there, just because her eyes were closed. I know for a FACT, my grandmother's mind was present, until her last breath. She died with only me at her side. Miss ya Granny. ❤

[@sarahkittelson622]

Our minister said that my comatose dad could hear us. He heard his wife and mother planning his funeral at the foot of his bed, while he was comatose. I continued talking to my dad, and he tried to reach up with his hand to touch my face. It broke me heart. He did come out of his coma for a while when my sister flew home, 8 months pregnant, with his first grandchild. He was totally normal, although his brain cancer had stolen him from us months before. It seemed miraculous to me. But he couldn't come out of a coma for me, because I was there every day. Which broke my heart. He did come to me after his death, in a dream, which wasn't a dream. It was a visitation, and meant the world to me.

[@elbee1290]

Yes, the visitations after their passing feel so different than when we dream about them. A marked difference. What a gift that he came to you. I hope it continues.

[@amadahyrose]

Thank you. I'm a hospice chaplain and was with my mother this week as she passed. As her passing drew near, I held her face and told her how much we love her, how wonderful she is, and how she would soon inhabit a place too beautiful to imagine. Then, I sang her out of this world. The dementia left her and she KNEW everything I said was truth and had the most peaceful smile as she took her last breath. Also, I have been in a coma. Not only could I see and hear. But my vision and hearing was amplified almost to the point of being overwhelming. (Dating myself: it was like the bionic man and woman -- ultra sight and sound.)

[@staceymichaels9530]

How wonderful for Your Dear Mother.

[@bobzeren4789]

I had a college professor who went into a coma after being bitten by a mosquito. Don't remember if it was medically induced or not. Anyway, he has no concept of time but remembered who visited him while in the coma. He also remembered hearing words but not complete sentences.

[@karenminniec3008]

My mom at age 99 was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and went on Hospice in December. She turned 100 in March, and is not suffering pain from the cancer. She also was diagnosed with CHF 3 years ago. But she is getting more and more tired and less interested in eating. I have watched your You Tube presentations and just bought your book. Mom is in an assisted living apartment. I believe her body is beginning to shut down more to age than the cancer. I hope she passes peacefully on her sleep.

[@censusgary]

The fact I find most astonishing is that hydrating someone at the end of life makes things worse, not better. But when you explain that the body tissues can’t use the water anymore, that makes sense.

[@kimberlypeterson9234]

I visited my mother who is in her last days of vascular dementia today. She was asleep but I spoke to her and said everything I wanted and needed to say to her. I thanked her for being such a good mother. I told her that I would alright and that my Dad was waiting for her and it was ok to go. As I spoke to her, she had facial expressions and as I held her hand she reached over with her other hand. I know she could hear me and was trying to muster a response. Thank you for these videos.

[@rickschwab8270]

My fiancé told me that your family adopted her mother’s dog when her mother died over 20 years ago. The Dudas. They are also from harbor creek. Small world! My fiancé is also a RN.

[@fascination2525]

My sister's husband (69) was diagnosed with AML leukemia a couple of days ago. Statistically, the odds he'll live more than a very few years are very poor. What I've learned from watching your videos will help me to help her when his condition deteriorates. Thank you.

[@morpety]

Nurse Julie, I got your pre-ordered book on Amazon through today. So I am at the part when you told the Doctors that we need to have a meeting with Scotts Family. So listen. Your disguise is now blown. Now we know you are a real Angel from above. The tricky part is - do you know? And will this change everything? Will you now depart and exist in the formless realms? I think not, being aware of your boundless compassion, but who knows. Just want you to know you are loved and I love you. God bless you Nurse Julie. xx

[@Ad-Infinitum]

Who is Scotts Family, please? 🙏 I couldn't find anything online realated to hospice or dying.

[@carmennooner2027]

My husband just passed away on Father's Day, June 16, 2024. He was in a small, private nursing home under hospice care and I was able to sit with him every day for a couple of hours, with few exceptions. He had dementia and suffered a stroke in mid October, 2023. He had a feeding tube because he lost his ability to swallow after the stroke. But after a couple of months of physical therapy, he regained the ability to swallow so he was able to eat solid food again, though everything had to be cut into small bites for him. He was good natured and could communicate with everyone, though his short term memory was gone. He (thankfully) remembered me, but would often forget I had just been there to visit with him. About eight days before he passed away, he took a sudden downward turn and could no longer swallow. He also became combative and very short tempered with the staff, and with me. His nurse said that his vitals were bad and that he was beginning to decline, so we decided to take him off of his meds and put him on "comfort" medications, as needed. They also cut way back on his fluids. The Friday before he died, the aide was finishing up with him when I came in and, as usual, I asked him how he was doing. He said, and I quote, "I feel like I'm dying". His aide looked at me, a bit startled, wondering what I was going to say. I just looked at him and, with all the humor I could muster, said "how do you know? You've never died before!". She smiled at me as if to say that I gave an appropriate response. Those were the last words I heard him say. After that, he fell asleep and snored through the remainder of my visit with him. On Saturday, he started the "rattle", and early Sunday morning, he was gone. The staff at the home I found for him, and all of the hospice staff were absolutely wonderful. He was there almost six months to the day and everyone was treated like family, whether a patient or a visitor. Hospice is definitely going to be my choice, if the need should ever arise. It takes special people with a special gift to take care of the terminally I'll with such compassion. God bless you all!

[@angelas4681]

❤️

[@franhill2802]

Your video’s are so helpful for me. I became caregiver for a friend I have helped for 12 years. He had open heart surgery, Ross procedure, in 2002 and the valve has been leaking for years now. He has a 6.3 cm aneurism on the lower left and a 4 cm aneurysm on the right aorta. His first major heart attack was 2 days after his 80th birthday on February 22, 2024. Since then he has had several more. He’s very weak now and cannot get up without help. Sometimes his leg and arm shake when he’s trying to push himself up. He’s eating less than 1,000 calories a day (very small amounts) and has seen angels, a little girl in a blue dress, he wakes up at night thinking I am there talking to him, one day he said, “ I didn’t know they were raising the dogs up today”. I asked him where they were and he pointed to the air so I just said that I didn’t know they were raising the dogs up today either. He wrote a few children’s books in the late 1970’s and always wanted to be a published author so a friend who writes children’s books and self publishes on Amazon formatted and illustrated his book, Jerry and The Princess. I arranged a book signing at our Church. Since he has no living families, he has been coming to my family’s home for holiday’s and they visit him. I had to convince him to let all the caregivers use the gait belt for their safety and his. I have tried to tell him that he will need to stay in bed when he gets too weak to get up with help but he seems to not believe that’s happening. He’s not quite to that point but it’s not far off. I’m pretty sure he has had a couple more heart attacks recently, the most recent this morning. I’m very nervous as I am not a professional caregiver or helped someone in his state of health (I helped my sister when my mom was dying but not the last two weeks). Anyway, your videos about end of life and CHF have helped tremendously and he has a great caregiving team (24/7 since he wants to die at home) and hospice nurse too.

[@angelaharris1112]

Ive always believed they could hear us. Ive dragged so many out of the room for that.

[@RABPWarrior]

Your book is astounding. The experiences are touching. I can see why you referenced the movie…

[@sandrak.robbins6305]

what movie?

[@Mrsbehavin59]

I was singing to my mom I prayed with her…I told her we forgive each other for all the challenging times we had……it’s ok to go - we will leave you for 2 hours ….let go if you want to….I love you and we’ll meet again. She left while we were gone…and when we came to see her when she had passed I kissed her and I ……..felt in my heart she heard me. And at her funeral she was in Sweden I was in California and I did set up a memory tribute for her with music and flowers … she would have loved thar entire day one of our lamps …kept BLINKING…..the entire weekend…and have not done this since her funeral 05/31/2024….she was thanking me for the beautiful wreath and flowers that we’re surrounding her urn. I believe ❤

[@lenoreneale4257]

Julie, Your book was delivered yesterday. I love it❣ I have been following you for 2 years since about 2 weeks after my husband died. You helped me to understand a few things then that gave me great peace of mind! I'm giving a copy to my niece & 2 nephews plus donating one to our library! Please keep on doing what you do. You are a blessing to more people than you can ever imagine❣🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍👍👍🥇🥇🥇 ❤❤❤❤

[@SURFERGRL72RAKM]

Hi, what is the name of her book? I would really love to purchase one. Thank you 😊

[@lenoreneale4257]

The book is NOTHING TO FEAR by Julie McFadden, RN.

[@reneeb.2702]

A great idea to educate the younger family & donate a book to the library. ❤️. I wish this knowledge was given to everyone. I don’t know what the culture teaches in most countries but here in the U.S. we seem so fearful of death that we know very little.

[@SURFERGRL72RAKM]

@@lenoreneale4257 Thank you! 😊

[@FriendofDorothy]

I was a hospital-based social worker for 35 years. I applaud you for your excellent communication skills and this illuminating channel. You are doing a much needed service as there is SO much bunk and horror-movie Halloweenish nonsense surrounding the issue of death and dying. Good work! I hope you are highly paid as I bet you are a splendid hospice nurse.

[@Tk.utelab]

I am a hospice volunteer. Love your book Julie. Thank you.

[@jguenther3049]

The optic, olfactory, and auditory nerves don't go to the frontal cortex; they go to the limbic region, the seat of the unconscious emergency response system.

[@KindrasJourney]

I love the info that you share with those that aren't medically inclined. Absolutely the best job I've ever had ❤

[@donnajean5372]

My father in law passed in early May, a very peaceful passing. He was in the active dying stage and one thing that will always stand out to me was our caring hospice nurse, Greg, said make sure everyone he loves comes to tell him they love him and that it is ok to go on that his family will be ok. Every family member did this and thats why I think his passing it was so peaceful. He knew he was so loved by us all. Hospice nurses are blessings.

[@samtaylor2258]

Very good perspective that is spot on. When my mother was EOL in the hospital and could no longer communicate with us, I leaned down and gave her a kiss and said goodbye to her. then I saw tears coming from her and knew that she could still hear me.

[@angelaharris1112]

Thank you for this, as i have dementia

[@hospicenursejulie]

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[@brianamitchell8078]

Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed

[@zenduffett]

Blessings on you 💜

[@brianamitchell8078]

@@argophagley5309 Shame on you. How am I bothering anybody? I am only offering them eternal life in paradise with our Lord and Savior. Whats so wrong about that? Its a wonderful message of love. Maybe they are looking for someone to lean on during their difficult time. Just because it bothers your spirit, doesnt mean it is hurting anyone else. We all have a choice to be made where we want to spend eternity, and the bible says, that unless you are born again, you will not see the kingdom of God. You dont get there being a good person. John 3:3. So just because you dont agree with it, dont stand in the way of someone who does. You dont know their heart. Only God does. We all have free will to choose where we spend eternity. It may not be important to you, but maybe it is to them, so show some respect.

[@dee4435]

I passed out at the nurses station when I broke my finger. BUT... I could every word the nurses said as they tried to wake me up. I could not open my eyes. Could not move or talk. But I heard EVERY word. I wondered if I was dead because it was so weird.

[@WorldWideWebObserver]

Thank you Nurse Julie for sharing your comforting messages as a result of your experiences.💐

[@lauracoxtorgeson9936]

Thank you for your service and tireless videos! ❤️

[@stephenmocanu408]

Ditto!

[@amyvanderbosch4477]

Bless you, Julie. What you are doing here is invaluable. ❤

[@paulao776]

Your videos helped me understand the death process when my brother-in-law, at age 54, quickly succumb to cancer. Then, just six months later, helped me with my 85 year-old father's passing. Thank you so much for sharing this information with people! ♥

[@carolmartin4413]

I talked to my dad and mom...more her because she remained semi-conscious. She would respond with an uh-huh to everything. Yes, they have the audio senses left.

[@jonathanlandau-litewski7405]

I did this as part of my 10 year long career as care and support worker in peoples own homes. There's something so primitive and primal about caring for someone in their final days- the rest of the world disappears as you try your absolute hardest to do anything and everything to make this extremely vulnerable individuals passing to the other side as comfortable and pain-free as possible. During 10 hour shifts with the one person, after all the personal care was taken of I liked to just sit beside them, stroking their arm, holding their hand, gently wetting their lips or wiping away drool, so they knew they weren't alone. I'd even sing to them- something I only do at home but a few times I got a little smile during my attempts at You Are My Sunshine so at least they enjoyed it! Other staff would often just go sit in another room with magazines which I found disrespectful- I know not everyone can handle death up close and personal but you know what the job entails when you apply plus they could have at least sat in the same room as the client- they KNOW someone is with them. I'd still read the days newspaper to them, even though they were 'unconscious.' A few times, beginning a few days before they passed, if their eyes were open they would see long-gone people from their younger years like parents or siblings. It's a very difficult job but one driving factor was that these people had no family left (or the ones that did had barely any interest in being there for them.) So in order to keep myself composed I'd ask myself 'would I want MY mother to be effectively by herself in her last hours?' There's a huge difference in being there for someone in this position and truly being there. I like to think I made their next step off this mortal coil easier on them than the other staff members that would be there but sitting in another room on their phones. Remember, when it comes to death- hearing is the last thing to go so have discussions involving it away from the person. So many times I'd have to take doctors out of the room to discuss timescales and stuff, just incase my client was aware of what we were saying. I don't do this work anymore, having become ill out of nowhere myself and planning to be legally euthanized in Europe when I turn 40 but I salute and massively respect all those that do this.

[@lauramartinez7057]

Here’s to a peaceful and harmonious transition. 🙏

[@Garrett0329]

Thanks for your profound insight 😊 If you ever happen to read this. Why’d you become a hospice nurse, in particular? As a brain injured person. The human brain is so freaking beautiful in every way. It was made with a tiny bit of evolution and also our brains are made with god’s love ❤️ LOVE is why we exist

[@dmitrymanchenkov2996]

And it does decrease my fear of passing away. Dear Julie, thank you so much for these educational and, to some extent, motivational videos. In the sense that they motivate us to accept Death easily, philosophically, and without any fear.

[@Lindalou5977]

My beloved Great Aunt was home dying on hospice ( from cancer ) wanted to stop in to be with her one last time as she was now in a coma . I walked into the room and said her name …. Out of the blue … she woke up … said my name … and that she loved me … we got to see each others eyes …. And shortly thereafter she closed her eyes and never woke again … 😢😢😢😢. I feel so honored to have had her love me so much …… and I did her also ! Thank you Julie for all you do … you are an angel here on earth 🌍 ❤

[@zenduffett]

My mom is transitioning.Nonresponsive, Miele eating/drinking- Unfortunately sh went deaf in tandem with her dementia.So up to this point of her closing her eyes I had to communicate with her using a white board and dry erase markers. Oh and I am reading your book and am exactly at the point you are discussing: dehydration!

[@AzDesertFoxx]

You posted a reel recently that was about agonal breathing. It showed a man, and his family was saying "basically he's not here" and, and saying it loudly. I was SO surprised you posted it. They were SO rude, and knowing the dying can hear, I was appalled at this.

[@2008betwixt]

I'm sure she posted it for us who are so close to losing a loved one. My mum is now unresponsive, and her swallow is almost gone. That video helped me, and I did hear them speaking as though he wasn't listening, but you can not always have a perfect situation. People in the grief stage do and say things that they wouldn't normally.

[@hospicenursejulie]

That wasn't the focus of video- the focus of the video was to educate about end of life breathing

[@AzDesertFoxx]

@@hospicenursejulie how could that not have been focused ON? It was obvious. Perhaps a better video should have been chosen.

[@DogObsessed430]

@@AzDesertFoxx maybe you can make your own KZbin videos and then you can have full control of what is focused on. I think Julie does an awesome job educating us.

[@AzDesertFoxx]

@@DogObsessed430 Did I say she wasn't?

[@jacintaparmeter1077]

You're amazing to share all this. My mother was a community health nurse who helped patients die in their homes back in the 70's and 80's in Australia. She did many course on death and dying to help her help them. Everything you have shared reiterates her words. This knowledge helped me as I cared for her in her final year and last moments. I'm so grateful I had it.

[@gsilcoful]

Thank you.

[@lastboyscout1065]

This is the first time I heard your comment about dehydration. That is the most important fact ever heard you share over the many years I’ve watched your videos. Thanks

[@tylahoc9271]

I was caring for my mum but was going through immense depression with this grief because of her sudden diagnosis, however i wasnt caring for myself. But the day i finally changed my clothes and brushed my hair, i whispered to my mum that i had gotten changed, within minutes she took her last breath. It was as if me telling her, gave her clarity that her baby was going to be okay. Sometimes I wish I never told her and then she might of stayed a little longer ❤

[@rmaria517]

Awwwe... I don't know you but I felt the ache of your heart. I truly do hope you're doing alright and you still feel her Love around you. 🌹 🌿

[@SusanFarrow-xd5qr]

I wish I had found you when I did a 4 yr career as a hospice nurse as I was learning on the job. I can identify with alot that you talk about. Loved Hospice and Love you! ❤️ I bought your book and can't wait to read it!!

[@tammybingham7745]

I want to thank you for helping me your videos educated me so much on how to care for my mom, she just passed awY June 14th 2024 at 6:45 am , she was so peaceful thank you for helping me make sure i gave her all i could

[@raine2011]

I was laying in bed holding my husband. Promised to take care of the cats, he was so worried about them, and told him I would be ok and that it was OK to go on. 2 breathes later he was gone. He needed the ok to go.

[@LunaMiel186]

I really enjoy your videos. I believe you are providing a worthy public service by sharing facts that only a hospice nurse would know. Bless you!🙏

[@leannebrand2212]

I love hearing everyones story. My story is my best friend at 49 was actively dying at home, we had known each other almost our entire life. There was always 3 or 4 of us together..this time it was the three of us. We were sitting beside her talking and cutting it up like usual. Shan never opened her eyes or seemed that she could hear us, we talked with her but she was close to death. When we got ready to go.my other friend bend down, kissed her and said i love you. She whispered back, i love you too! She heard everything. It made me smile, hardest death ever but certainly backs up the hearing to the last minutes or hours!

[@thomastessier4529]

Very good information and well presented. You can tell you really care by your voice and hand movements.

[@pigglesby]

My dad tapped to g us about dying before he did. He wanted friends and family with him when he suited. My mom waited until everyone left then died 2 hours after we left her. I think it’s so interesting how people have such strong opinions about Joe they want to die that they make it happen the way they want.

[@gregallen1]

Heh??? Jesus you need grammar therapy

[@Jillybeans140]

@@gregallen1just take a little time and substitute some words for those that don’t make sense. It’s then clear that predictive text has gone a bit haywire and caused the written chaotic result. It’s clear what he is saying. ie … he “talked to us” about dying before he did (died). Joe = How

[@triciacarr5019]

@@Jillybeans140I’d like to thank you for your good manners. So refreshing! You sure you belong on the internet, lol.

[@colleenmaurer6400]

Oh thank you so much! Your sharing will help all of us! It is not talked about enough.

[@Qu_2_wil_lmjk]

Thanks Julie; very useful information to know beforehand. You're doing a good job. By the way I suffered a road accident many years ago when I was a teenager and had lost a lot of blood from severed arteries. I knew my sister and others had got to the Intensive Care Unit and were beside me, but I was devoid of any will and/or ability to communicate with them, even though I remained highly conscious of everything going on.💛

[@comeconcon569]

I am so attached to life I refuse to depart from this earth. our planet earth is so beautiful and there's so much to see out there.

[@Janeburns-mi9dh]

Wow, we needed to know this. You are the best Julie.🤗

[@toryberch]

Julie is right about the last surge of energy I've seen it and was taught it years ago in the 90's while in training. A person will look and be lethargic no energy just blah then they will just perk up like hey I've got stuff to do and they will look like their old selves but it's short lived up to ?? Everyone is different just enjoy the moment ❤🤗❤

[@TheScottib1]

My late mum passed Xmas eve 2017, she seen her late father and her brother reach out to her a week prior to her death, and a few mths before she passed she said she would see Xmas, I kinda shrugged it off, but now its all clear, they know when their time is up 😢😢❤

[@darlene2861]

Thank you Julie for this awesome video ❤

[@sandrahorak9771]

Thank you so much for having these videos. Such useful information and very comforting!

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Sandra, how's your day going with you?

[@Sandrab769]

I appreciate the work you put into these videos.

[@hburke575]

That is very comforting to know about the body helping us to prepare for death. Thank you for this great information and your loving care tenderness as a Nurse.

[@AlanShirtsink]

Thank you for educating us all. It makes a difference

[@user-xj7wl4de1h]

Thanks again, Julie!

[@pepperpower1652]

My mom of 97- I played her favorite music! She passed 3 weeks after my brother! I know,she left to be with him! We will meet again! Mom had 11 children & Im number #11 ! There is only 4 of us left!

[@dimpsthealien333]

I'm learning so much from you from your book and videos. ❤ Thank you!

[@scottlambert2949]

Thanks for all you do and both of my parents were in hospice care and they passed away peacefully and I will see them one day and I miss them everyday my dad had Alzheimer's and cancer and my mom had early symptoms of dementia but don't quote me on it but truthfully I think that she grieved over my dad's passing because they were married 55 years

[@robertbudnik3318]

You are doing such important good! Thank you!

[@normanjefferychester882]

God bless you Julie, today is 17 days without smoking cigarettes, praise God for my Deliverance, God bless you young lady, in all that you do, help people to know what to expect, at the end of life, I wish somebody had told us, we had a hospice nurse but I think she was on drugs, something was going on between her and my brother, I think it was something sexual, God help God help

[@tl2913]

Thank you for sharing this information!

[@websurfer5772]

Now I see why they have a sign that says 'Nil by mouth'. Thank you for explaining this. They also say if you have no food and are going to die from starvation that you shouldn't drink anything either. Now I see why better.

[@mrenzoni]

Great points. I found your channel as my mother went into assisted care. i wish i had found you sonner. It would have given me the reasons for a lot of the things I didn't understand at the time.

[@lout3921]

My dad was able to confirm just about 6 hours before he passed away that he could hear me.

[@bloodhound3817]

I worked in a nursing home for about three years. It's been twenty years ago but I was always told a person's hearing is the last thing to go. I can believe that.

[@staceymichaels9530]

Julie , Your information is invaluable. This knowledge is of great benefit for myself and for retrospection in recollecting my loved one’s passing. 🙏🏼

[@kenh5317]

My Mom died at the end 2022 after 6 months of hospice care and several years of Alzheimer’s. Julie, thank you for being a part of that journey. I do not regret a moment of being her full-time caregiver for six years.❤

[@cathymarshall8327]

Thank you for what you do. It means a lot to a lot of people.

[@sandrabeck8788]

I wish I had known some of these things as a new nurse in a tiny rural hospital.

[@davidtifft66]

Thank you Julie. So informative and kindly put.

[@musicgirl8152]

That’s so important……

[@antrygis1]

Thank you nurse Julie. I was there with my mother until the end. Lots of deep stuff. My sister yelled my name and I came hobbling into the room to her bed and attempted to give her CPR. It's all very deep and I knew when she was there and when she left. And then the electricity remains for a little while. Not like I knew what to expect but in a way it was beautiful. No more pain for mom. Peace.

[@TheKmonta]

THANK YOU FOR POSTING THESE VIDEOS.

[@anniesilver9201]

I hope you realize just how much you are helping us deal with death. Julie, you are a blessing. 😊

[@ltvanburen8555]

When my dad died of cancer in Western North Carolina in 2013, he had the most magical hospice team lead by a nurse name J-Elle C-and. I will never forget her or the support that group of people gave my mom, sister, and me. I am not religious, but, if there are angels, those people were angels. And they introduced us to Libarte Brand French yogurt in Cocoanut, which sounds terrible but is actually fantastic… That piece about dehydration: Fascinating! I have never heard that before. Just subscribed!

[@tracielillytan1530]

Thank you for your posts which are so helpful to so many.

[@kelliedickens4111]

Very good information to know. Thank you.

[@dobby6799]

I was a hospice LCSW for 7 years. I agree 100% with the the great wisdom you shared.

[@lorileighfischer4254]

Yahooowee, I got your book in the mail on Saturday❤

[@trudyramgren8817]

Thank you for sharing your great knowledge on dying Julie. It's so interesting. I have a question please. The day my Aunt passed, she was alert and talking. After a few minutes she said " you can go now". I thought that was strange. A little while after getting home, I received a call saying she passed. I was so shocked. Do you think she knew the end was coming soon? She was a very private person. Thank you! ❤

[@sweetpeace5]

Absolutely! So fascinating. Sorry for your loss.

[@imitatefirst]

Love you Julie, thank you for educating us!looking forward to your book.

[@timeparty718]

Thank you so much Julie, so helpful to me.