What The Narcissist Ultimalty Wants From You

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@beech1013 8 ай бұрын

They want you to give and give, whilst they take and take, and treat you awfully, and then try to destroy you when you've given your all and finally left them.

@chellotrevino7323 8 ай бұрын

They want you to conform to live their lifestyle it’s all about control

@deb2319 8 ай бұрын

They want u to be their 3rd arm.

@chellotrevino7323 8 ай бұрын

@@deb2319 nah it’s about control

@clarencehoover6748 8 ай бұрын

When you stand up for yourself to disagree on a single matter, they will turn into an angry, scary brat child that throws a fit, then eventually disposes you. Not a real relationship. Not worth the emotional drain. Flush and do your best to move on.

@peterknyk1942 8 ай бұрын

My lawyer told me when he first took on my settlement issues “it appears she wants everything and you out on the street”! That was made crystal clear to me in the very beginning and has not changed. Narcissists seem to be incapable of engaging in any kind of transaction, emotionally or materially in a moral way. it’s always a game for them. 🥳

@anneyoung2310 8 ай бұрын

“it appears she wants everything and you out on the street” Only, he wanted and got everything. My lawyer royally screwed me (and mine) -you would not believe the dozens of things that were not accounted for. There was not a remotely legitimate settlement. I walked with next to nothing, and then they came for me because they screwed me. Damage control, cover-up, piling sin upon sin to do away with mounds of evidence and crime.

@KP-tn9cq 8 ай бұрын

Do you feel like you’re still in love with her deep down? I’m asking earnestly, not in an aggressive way.

@peterknyk1942 8 ай бұрын

@@anneyoung2310 after having gone through so much of this, I wonder about the judicial system, and I certainly wonder about legal help. Neither, in my view, looked at or considered the immorality of what my ex was up to.

@peterknyk1942 8 ай бұрын

@@KP-tn9cq that’s a tough question to answer. i’m disappointed that things have ended up this way. I don’t know how you can just stop loving a person that you loved dearly no matter what this person may have done so, I guess I would have to say I still care about her but I can’t live with her or have anything to do with her anymore in this lifetime, it’s too toxic now.

@peterknyk1942 8 ай бұрын

@@anneyoung2310 oh my, your commentary sounds oh, so familiar! At this point, her insatiable demands and desires, don’t seem to be waning at all, and sometimes they’re even worse so I suspect that so much will just remain the way it is until it’s over. It’s a drag!

@louiseelliott6404 8 ай бұрын

I wasn’t willing to accept it any more so I walked away. It was the only way in order to ultimately save me. The power and control was always in my hands but I temporarily gave away that power and control to the narcissist. Now I have it back from going and staying no contact.

@anneyoung2310 8 ай бұрын

So true. "They are looking for emotional caregivers." Another great point. "They know what they are doing is wrong or they would not do it covertly!" "They know they are trying to get something from you that is immoral."

@angiehayes7397 8 ай бұрын

He "thanked" once for making him feel like a man 😕 🙄 told him it's not my responsibility to make him feel like anything. Result? Silent Treat(ment) Win/win for me this time 😉

@TurinTurumba 8 ай бұрын

True, they try and groom you to have parental feelings for them , they want you to feel the way a mother loves her children

@anneyoung2310 8 ай бұрын

Interesting.

@darrynreid4500 8 ай бұрын

In my experience, they want to inflict punishment, and will arbitrarily change the rules to give themsleves the chance to do so. They seem to find conflict reassuring, so they create it wherever they can.

@3rdeyespecialist94 8 ай бұрын

Simply put, they want ya soul!

@johncummings5755 17 сағат бұрын

Please keep the knowledge flowing

@ippmoeproject8502 8 ай бұрын

I think he my hubby, wants another Mommy.

@kaoshi_kutie 8 ай бұрын

What?

@deb2319 8 ай бұрын

Oh for sure they thats it-mommy issues

@lynnanderson1923 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for explaining. Really shouldn't have to explain to an adult how to behave properly. They have excuses for everything. So exhausting.

@sukrutteni1454 8 ай бұрын

I have been left with so much self doubt that it's causing me to lose my sanity. I have gone down the rabbit hole trying to understand every little thing that was said to me. I took the blame for the failure of the relationship even told my parents that it was my fault. But, then there are a few instances where she doesn't come across as a narcissist. Where she had prepared a questionnaire of 25 questions asking what if these things happen what should we do? And she wanted to know my answers. When I told her my answers she got mad because she said aren't you interested in knowing what I feel? or where she told me that I have a victim mentality(First one to tell me) and expected me to understand how she felt after telling me that rather than me going silent to process this information. Which I ofcourse accepted. She never was interested in my past or the kind of films I made or the poems I wrote before meeting her for someone who claimed to like poetry and expected me to know that she liked poetry as her friend is a poet. There's a big dark cloud of confusion over my head and I don't know how to move on from these feelings. Cuz, she clearly told me it's easier for me to let go and I deserve better. Meanwhile, I feel I have wasted a year of my life thinking she was the one

@kaoshi_kutie 8 ай бұрын

Don’t beat yourself up! Some Narcissistic people hide themselves well and we don’t always see the signs. She may have traits but not NPD. Still doesn’t matter as the behaviour is and outcome is the same: Destruction . Process the grief and also the person you thought she was. In time you will heal and find a healthy normal person . Who can give and receive love ❤

@Drogonmoon 7 ай бұрын

A very dangerous situation - she is a Thai go go dancer - she has convinced herself I am her boyfriend / husband - it is like being in a living nightmare - I kissed her once and short timed her - she went crazy - hoping it is over finally but doubt she won’t leave me alone.

@annaleoni8316 8 ай бұрын

Thank you 💕 Anouska you are right . He was never appreciated for what I was doing for this ungrateful b....

@rebecaboyd 8 ай бұрын

You are so helpful. Thank you so much!

@mmm091000 8 ай бұрын

My narcissist is finally gone ? No more channels left to open ? even though we share the same passion hobbie etc ! She is jealous of me in many ways ? sad really I pity her nowadays.

@andron967 8 ай бұрын

My advice to you is to be very careful. I left my first narcissist female and even left the state and my frienfs. I left everything that I couldn't get in a backpack .But I still had issues. I just wound up in a series of other relationships with other narcissists. It's weird that I thought I'd never replace that first beautiful girl. I managed to find several more. Each one worse thsn the last.

@shipperz88 8 ай бұрын

This video resonated with me so much, thank you 🙏🏻

@andron967 8 ай бұрын

I had several lucid dreams after I met my first narcissist girlfriend. I died in these dreams. In one dream I died three times while saving a little girl. Note, i always had the important info. But with this narcissist problem I didn't understand what I was seeing. Or my problems that led me to be open to the shared fantasies. I've had times when I was extremely phychic. But didn't understand why I developed that kind of adaptation.

@romansepiol 2 ай бұрын

All true , what do they want?❤

@leighwall3259 Ай бұрын

Amazing video! So helpful .. thank you ❤

@micangeles3752 8 ай бұрын

I enjoy your content and find it very helpful 🌹 however what do you supposed to do when your child mother is a true narcissist can you simply just can't walk away ?

@ramzhouran2152 8 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@anoushkamarcin 8 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏼

@John-qz9py 7 ай бұрын

accept they are BROKE and need money!

@nicholecornes1915 8 ай бұрын

I get it know

@harishgupta1303 8 ай бұрын

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@rynichols 8 ай бұрын

I DEMAND YOU TO BE MY DADDY WHO OFT REJECTED ME AND LET ME GET REVENGE ON HIM THROUGH YOU... or else

@karltaylor6391 8 ай бұрын

I just outed narc to new supply right in front of her I was sleeping with her b4 this dude and he went away and I slept with her again I told dude to his face she has made out im a nutter and jelous lol even tho I told him things I couldn't possibly know I hope he thinks about what I said . Plus narcs like providers who don't question anything yet her whole interaction with me had allways been challenged and yet she keeps coming back knowing I ant be trusted to keep quiet? I mean why woukd she bring the dude around me lol she has blocked me now and tried using that saying she showed him the text I said look at my phone if you want also she must be quite assured she has control of him they love dudes who have kids but live alone so they can be number 1 and I guess most dudes fall in to dad role with them