What To Do When Dating A Masculine Woman

[@0rnery0verwatch]

My experience has been, the tougher a woman's exterior, the more nurturing and soft her interior is. But you have to really make her feel safe and secure to crack that outer shell. Many men understandably see that as "juice isn't worth the squeeze" and I don't blame them. But, in essence, in a lot of cases of a masculine woman, it's her *knowing* deep down that she has a propensity to fall head over heels, which can be fun, but it can make one feel powerless as well, so sometimes people do everything they can to maintain control over that. EDIT: Just reiterating the part where I said "for some men the juice isn't worth the squeeze and that is okay". If you don't see that as a battle worth fighting I totally understand, but you don't have to comment and tell me that as I've already made your point for you haha

[@Ozzy-Mag]

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[@croissants1280]

In a lot of cases the tough exterior reflects a tough uncompromising interior. There is nothing to crack, except your head as you waste your time.

[@ZenPepperClub]

Totally on that one nothing to do but crack your head on that one why not just find a nurturing caring woman sure she may not look as good but it'll be better for your mental health😂😂😂

[@0rnery0verwatch]

@@ZenPepperClub Apparently I wasn't descriptive enough, but what I meant was, seemingly combative women *are* nurturing and caring once you crack that shell, because once that happens, the bratty behavior goes away permanently. Or at least, that has been my experience so far. Point being, if you like the way a woman looks but she's not acting the way you like, you might be pleasantly surprised if you give it a shot. But like I said in my original comment, some men don't see the juice as worth the squeeze and that is totally okay, but I'll likely still get people commenting saying "bruh not worth it" as if I didn't already make their point for them lol

[@okaySam]

This can sometimes be true. On the other hand, I've witnessed in multiple relationships of my friends, that the tough personality traits come back after years of marriage. For me, it's less about "being worth the squeeze" and more about not being attracted to that tough demeanor in the first place, so there is no incentive to exert extra effort to crack the shell.

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*Dating a masculine woman can be a unique experience, and it's important to understand that her confidence and assertiveness don’t mean she isn’t looking for vulnerability or emotional connection.*

[@GuyVinmara]

She might be looking for one, but that doesn't mean she knows how to be open to one.

[@danielnetsah]

This is the most useful and balanced video I've seen on this topic. Very coherent, practical and empowering, really appreciate it

[@rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr1]

Yep.

[@jlhkenobi]

Longtime follower and fan! This video is the first I've ever seen that directly addresses the issue I find myself tackling. My wife has been living in her masculine energy for most of her life for a variety of reasons - many of which were discussed in the video. I think for many women, staying in their masculine energy is a way of staying safe. It almost rings of avoidant attachment - "I don't trust anyone to meet my needs. I can only rely on myself to ensure that my needs are met." But what do you do when your wife expressly states she wants you to take the lead (step into more masculine energy), and, when you do, she is quick to strike down your efforts? What then? I feel my wife has this conscious need to relax into her feminine, but there is an unconscious reflex that prevents her from letting go and allowing someone to assume the masculine energy, or even the masculine role. I completely appreciate Connor's advice - giving up the need to be "right", stability, etc. But what do you do when she wants you to assume the masculine role and then she self-sabotages that dynamic?

[@Arquebusier89]

Maybe the fearful avoidant she has is the problem to begin with?

[@thecurrentmoment]

Maybe she is testing your ability to take the lead by challenging it when you do. Possibly not intentional but maybe she doesn't really trust you to take the lead so when you do it makes her nervous submitting and following your lead, hence her challenging it. Taking the lead is funny, really, it is a bit of an art and I'm still learning. Basically it sounds like you need to take the lead, even when she resists. Because if you think about it, either you are in charge or you're not. If you're charge then what you say goes, and it doesn't matter what she thinks about it. If she challenges your authority and you give authority to her, you were never really in charge you were just acting. If you are truly in charge then it shouldn't matter if she resists it. Maybe it is an issue of boundaries - if you have really strong boundaries then you will decide what is the best thing to do, and lead her and if she doesn't follow your lead you go do it without her. If you need someone's permission to lead then you aren't really the leader, because you have to keep people in line as a leader. So if she says she wants you to lead, you try, then she resists and you give up leading, then all it shows her is that SHE is actually in charge. Even some very firm and loving authority over her, i.e. telling her what to do and how things are going to go and enforcing it, might go down really well. It's amazing how women respond to being told what to do - we can't really imagine it as guys but it is a major turn on for women when they realize they are in the presence of a man who is truly in charge. It's like they can't help it.

[@0psec_not_good]

@@thecurrentmoment so then what’s the recourse in this predicament? Because in a male-to-male conflict of authority, typically the assumption or direct threat of physical violence is what will resolve things and cause one man to submit to the others lead. How do you resolve this scenario with a hyper-masculine woman? You can’t hit her, you can’t even threaten it, so what then? Just kick rocks or tell her to? Ignore her and do your thing anyways? Genuine question by the way, not trying to be a smart ass.

[@Himmiefan]

@@thecurrentmoment If you think that masculine leadership is "what you say goes," dude, this right here shows that you're not ready for a relationship. You're in your self-centeredness, your destructive male-entitlement mentality. Either seek help and talk to a therapist about your insecuriities, or stay single. You do not have the right to get a self-esteem boost at someone else's expense. Be a strong man and be a partner. My way or the high way is for weak, little men. True masculine leadership is when the man is the first to serve, wants to make sure that he's not dominating his woman, that they're making decisions together, that her needs are met, that she's flourishing, etc. A good, strong man is a caretaker. Put aside your selfishness and any notion of male-entitlement and take care of your women. Believe me, she'll then take care of you back (in a positive way!)

[@thecurrentmoment]

@@Himmiefan well, you are making a lot of assumptions here. Is your boss a control freak? Maybe, maybe not, but they have authority over you and you consented to it (assuming you have a boss). You look to them to deal with those sort of decisions, while you do the work. His woman told him she wants him to lead - how is it a problem if he then leads? If you reread what you quoted, you might see that I was simply describing things as they are. In your view, this would be a bad thing, right? That's not how you see relationships. Well, good for you. What you quoted was: "either you're in charge or you're not" and "if she challenges your authority then you are not in charge" - do you actually disagree with this?? I mean, do you believe people are kind of sort of in charge or do you believe that someone is definitely in charge or not in charge? How much grey zone so you see in this? And if someone is challenging someone else's authority, do you believe that person of authority is in charge or not in charge? Maybe reread my comment again and argue with what I actually said, not your interpretation of it Finally, do you disagree that a lot of women want to be lead by men in a relationship? I never said women should be controlled by men, and maybe the words 'authority' and being 'in charge' and 'enforcing' sound a bit harsh to you, which is fair enough but I thought they were the most useful words to use. The truth is that I, as a man, submit to people's authority all the time, so I really don't see the big deal. If I'm looking to one of friends to help me because I don't know what to do in a situation and they do, then I'll let them lead and do what they say, because I TRUST them to lead. I submit to their authority, and I'm not going to challenge it. Same as listening to any other expert that I have confidence in. No woman should let a man lead who she doesn't trust, that's ridiculous. So clearly this woman has chosen the man who wrote the comment and wants him to lead (she ASKED him to do it) so she presumably trusts him to do it and that was the context of my comment. My own experience is that women appreciate a man's leadership and that they much prefer that over being in charge of a man. In my experience the women that like to be in charge of a man and lead the situation are control freaks and treat men like an overprotective mother would treat a child, or some degree of that. It usually happens when she doesn't trust his leadership - either because his leadership shouldn't be trusted or because she doesn't really trust guys in general (trust issues). A man leasing doesn't mean it's his way or the highway - you made that up and projected that onto me. But what it does mean is that she wants the man to make the final decision so that she can let go of responsibility and relax and express herself without being responsible for everything. OF COURSE SHE HAS A SAY, you are just taking a superficial view of what I said. You talk about with each other and then the man (me) decides what will be best for both of us. In my experience, the women that appreciated me the most WANTED me to do that, so I don't get what your problem is. The bit about enforcing my authority - yeah, it sounds harsh, but in reality if a woman trusts you to lead she won't challenge your final decision (because she has been a part of it AND she trusts your judgement/leadership) and there'll be no need to enforce anything. However, if she wants you to make a decision and then argues with your decision then that's because she doesn't trust your leadership - if she doesn't trust your judgement then why are you even together? That doesn't even make any sense, so the assumption is that in a relationship where a man is leading a woman they already trust each other. And 'enforcing authority ' can be as simple as enforcing boundaries - in other words not people pleasing and changing your mind to please the woman when you really don't want to. But in any case, you aren't actually adding anything of value to the conversation - e.g. explaining your points so others can learn - you are just trying to make others smaller so just GTFO and try to do something useful instead of diminishing others.

[@theobrown1309]

Navigating complex relationship dynamics requires a high level of understanding of yourself and the other person

[@MultiRandman]

This is so helpful. I've had a relationship like this with a strong woman, and was able, after some trial and error, to maintain my cool during a heated exchange with her. It took me a while to realize that if I could just manage my emotions and respond calmly and with understanding to her emotional outburst, we could avoid a major blow up and in fact strengthen the relationship. Being grounded is a good way of explaining it. I think many strong woman still have a very sensitive core that they protect.

[@donfabian1542]

Excelente video, thank you. I have a very dominant, controlling mother and I think that she is acting that way because my grandfather was very hard with her and thus this is her way of dealing with that feelings and insecurities. Anyhow, my father just seems to have resignated and shut down in order to deal with her demands and her controlling behavior. Thus, considering my parents relationship, it's no coincidence that I have been in relationships with rather dominant and masculine women myself. These videos have been a great help understanding my situation and dealing better with the difficulties which arise from such relationships than my father is able to do. Thank you again 🙏.

[@Lihoradka-s6v]

I may be such a woman and I am writing this even before watching the video. No woman "in her masculine" is such with no reason, or just to freak men out. Most likely her whole life she had to be like that to protect, assert herself, either physically or psychologically, while she knew for sure no one's going to help her in that. I grew up fatherless, while other men in the family were practically absent and avoidant. Women in the family were very resentful towards men. It took me a lifetime to change this worldview. Now I practice quite a 'masculine' type of sports (historical fencing), and this is where I met guys who can be protective and supportive, who try to be gentle when they spar with you, who give honest feedback and help in many other ways. For some women who grew up with caring and protective men in the family it may be nothing (or something so natural that they would take it for granted), but it means the world to me. It encourages me to be softer and accept my feminine traits (outside of sparrings of course). Every woman is different of course, but this is my view on the matter.

[@okaySam]

Completely understandable. I think this maps on to "nice guys" as well. People are the product of their environment. Empathy is necessary.

[@ptyleranodon3081]

Great observations. I was raised by a single mother and my wife by a 'my way or the highway' father. So we naturally fell into a similar dynamic when we got married. It took me a few years to realize that I didn't want to always play that role, it's just the one I was familiar with. I haven't tried to overtly take over the role she had taken on (she was getting pretty used to it at that point), but through the years I picked up weightlifting and have embraced a Buddhist/Stoic approach to life and it's made a big difference. I think your metaphor of fighting fire with water is very apt.

[@TheBenzwanger]

I hope you get to read this. This video changed so much for me and even got rid of a trauma response that was really hurting my relationship. My wife was in a very abusive narcissistic marriage before she got with me and let's just say she exhibited a lot of masculine qualities and was her way or the highway but you could tell she didn't quite understand that she was doing it. Fast forward 10 years and a lot of cheating on both sides but insane abuse on her part. She took it to a a while different level trying to punish her narcissistic x that was no longer in front of her so she punished the nice guy that was easier instead. I was so confused and paranoid for almost 10 years and one day when I finally told her my simple truth she snapped out of it and was this soft feminine woman I always wanted. Long story short we never set boundaries with each other and both of us needed a lot of therapy that we had no idea we needed in our early twenties. She had three step kids that we never discussed what the roles were because the narcissistic expert attended like he wanted to be there but always flaked out. So at the age of 38 even though I have five kids I felt like an inexperienced father because your message finally got through to me. I've been reacting to everything that's been happening to me thinking that's what my wife wants when in fact all she wanted was for me not to react. Once she saw that I could ground my emotions and be that stable person it changed everything for me within 4 days. It's been a few weeks now and I've started putting down the video games and cleaning the house instead and I'll tell you one thing, You want your sex life to get better men....clean your house lol.

[@CourtlandLove]

I love your videos, but with all due respect, it sounds like you’re saying let the masculine woman remain in her masculinity until she feels comfortable being feminine again. Mean while, your masculinity as a Man is constantly challenged by her and her masculine traits, but she’s allowed to do so because she didn’t have proper guidance into her femininity. And if that’s the case, why do we never hear a man challenging a woman about his femininity, or how he’s more feminine than her? Simply put, a woman wouldn’t want to be with a man who’s more feminine than her. 🤷‍♂️😅

[@ptyleranodon3081]

Masculinity doesn't have to be an overt assertion of power. What I got out of this sounds like a lot like getting in touch with your inner stoic. And stoicism is a very masculine quality.

[@Arquebusier89]

A woman wouldn’t want a nice guy aka feminine man. This is because 1. she doesn’t trust him, 2. she has no respect for him because of his clinginess and not man enough for him (imagine nice guy saying sorry when it’s clear that the girl is the one who has cheated), 3. the girl is the woman she doesn’t need another female in the equation So yes, nice guy finishes last

[@YourNemesis23]

If your masculinity is challenged purely by the fact that your partner has masculine traits, maybe the issue lies more with your masculinity tbh (no offense, just an observation). It's your choice whether you want that or not. However, if your masculinity is not just challenged but you're actively getting humiliated that is a different story obviously and eventhough it's still possible to overcome that I wouldn't wanna invest in someone who does that. And to your second point, while this might be not as common, there are definitely relationships where the woman plays the more masculine part and the man the more feminine one. To each their own..

[@okaySam]

@@ptyleranodon3081 I love how we're using stoicism to gaslight men into submitting to toxic relationships.

[@ptyleranodon3081]

@@okaySam it’s not submission. It’s about inner solidity. It’s about not allowing the external world to shake your inner sense of peace. And sometimes that requires drawing boundaries. I picture the sage living on his own in the mountains.

[@CsVintageCo]

Connor Beaton can be blindfolded in the snow and still be able to snipe a paper plate 100 yards away. This man does not miss.

[@calanolson4999]

I came across your KZbin back in late October and just by haopen chance I had just reconnected with a long lost love of mine. And every step of the way you have released a video in perfect line with my relationship with her. Amd I've used your other videos to just continue to grow as a man along the way. I owe you a lot! I wish I could attend one of your camps. I hope someday I can. Thank you for everything you do and I hope you find reward in comments like these as I'm sure there are countless numbers of men who have been helped by your videos/podcast. Thank you Connor.

[@ManTalks]

Hey man, thanks for tuning in and glad you’re finding value in the content. Let me know if there are topics you want me to cover

[@calanolson4999]

@ManTalks for me specifically it would be more tactics and tools for regulating my anxiety and processing the trauma that caused it

[@aculem36]

So well elaborated. Definitely a topic for me.

[@dld3151]

Excellent analysis of a 4-year relationship I just emerged from. There were a lot of good times, but conflicts were far too frequent. Glad it's over.

[@annab3184]

Omg, excellent, you really caught the essence of the issue here...

[@yzma6142]

I originally found you through your wife’s page. Since she’s also a successful therapist/author, could you two do a video together about navigating potential competition between the two of you and balancing the polarity of masculine and feminine in your relationship? Or have you ever even felt like there’s competition between you two being in the same field?

[@yzma6142]

I also ask because I generally date men in my field (finance), and it often feels like there’s an unspoken level of competition between us

[@jaredmatthews7988]

Seems like an easy question to answer, you date a masculine woman by becoming a feminine man. If you're not willing to do that then don't waste your time or energy. You can not and should not expect her to become more feminine if that's not who she is. Either become her complimentary energy or don't even try. The don't fight her for masculine supremacy is good advice....just become feminine and let her win for the sake of the relationship. If she is masculine, then it only leaves you two options, cooperate like a true feminine master or admit the other obvious solution. Two masculine energies have no business or reason to relate or create.

[@carolarrieta619]

As a very masculine woman, i find myself embodying the characteristics of how i'd like my man to be. I find myself waiting for a man to be enoughly comfortable in his masculinity so that i can allow myself to be femenine around him. The fact that i'm so masculine (greately related to my family dinamics and how i was raised) doesn't mean that i'm not emotional, in fact i am very emotional, but i keep rejecting this side of me because in my family life i was always rejected when i tried to be so. In my partner i don't seek to be rejected for my mascunility, but for him to make me feel safe, so that i can allow myself to be his nuture and safe haven whilst he is so for me too. This man i so right. I wish much more men were masculine in a healthy way (calm, collected, in control, confident in themselves) so that i wouldn't feel the need to be this way. In a world of overly/toxic masculine men (insecure, with a need to be dominant, harsh and mean), it's almost imposible to feel safe as a woman, and a classic response to that is to (accidentally or not) end up embodying a more masculine persona.

[@RyuHadokenMaster]

What to do when dating a masculine woman: don't.

[@vickysharma-gl6gv]

Haha

[@sabincioflec8413]

Yeah, only good answer. Imagine a woman asking how to date a feminine man

[@FloridaManConstruction]

I listened fully and think I’m going with the mediocre life. I’ve never met a woman more beautiful than my freedom…. 🌴🐈🐈🐈🐈🌴🏴‍☠️

[@KNuzX]

Very insightful video, good practices to reflect and act upon

[@FooMantis]

Based on some of the replies, there are some dudes that need to work on their emotional grounding and not being in their feminine energy. Just fuckin with y'all. Live how you wanna, just recognize where you're at instead of blaming others.

[@annamarsch6091]

Great video, thank you,

[@Aylinnrae]

I look quite feminine but my character and psyche is very masculine and dominant. I have a very kind husband and I am very loving and nurturing and soft towards him and people I love (friends, children etc) but I am very rough on the outside and to others.

[@andreas5563]

Dont and find a feminine one that gives you less stress

[@vickysharma-gl6gv]

True

[@behelertrespass7002]

Love that most of the videos on this channel are huge cope

[@ManTalks]

I mean listen man. You’ve watched a TON of my videos and commented on like 20 of em, you must be getting something from some of them. Unless you’re that dedicated to pointing out what’s “cope” on the Internet. Either way, thanks for tuning in. Let me know what topic / question you want me to tackle. I’m teaching men how to get out of the challenges they’re in and teach g how to deal with their shit in a mature way. So my guidance isn’t as “just ditch the bitch” like most channels for men are.

[@behelertrespass7002]

@ManTalks hey man, don't you take money from men for your so-called mens group? It is cope. Havent seen this shit for 2 years. It gets recommended to me, and it's THE same drivel. Don't you have more grifting to do?

[@Solutionsarejustcompromises]

So masculine women creates conflict and man has to yield/avoid to solve the conflict ? doesn’t sound masculine for the man… Though I get it, it Is kind of letting a child run its tantrum course, and not letting it get to you. I suppose the one thing you have to be looking for is progress, if there is no progress and it just keeps coming its time to knock it off.

[@alice_rain_day_is_nice]

Being from Eastern Europe where women work for a way longer that in the west - it’s so interesting how west talks about both gender working it in modern times, seems like it’s still a new thing over there.

[@kevindagoat2931]

Wow! I should've watched this video about 4 months ago. This is my "ex" in a nutshell, power struggles, battling for dominance, she always has to win an argument and be right. She has a deep mistrust in men, and she never feels safe. She does open up sometimes and she told me, I'm an alpha woman and I look at you and respect you as an alpha male, at that point I understood we'd bump heads a lot. The thing is, I can deal with it, I let her yell and say what she needs to say because I understand her I just couldn't deal with the constant break-ups and make ups.

[@PizzaTime727]

I'm getting a lot of hints of Avoidant traits depicted here.

[@vandittpatel]

So basically you have to do all the work while she doesnt see the need to be soft. OK ! no thanks

[@0rnery0verwatch]

No no, if you do the work, she will become soft as she starts to feel safe and comfortable around you. Some guys say "not worth it" and hey, fair enough, but I'm telling you they are the most loyal women you'll ever be with if you're patient and stern.

[@anoncspan4129]

​@@0rnery0verwatch I agree, only realized after ten years of marriage and eventual disconnection that I realized there was a bit more masculinity in my babe. That shell developed. I know it can crack and come on back out in that soft and pleasant way. Maybe just breaking even on the juice and the squeeze directly, but with kids in the mix, gotta try to get that juice for them, in a healthy way to model for them, too.

[@Ozzy-Mag]

@@0rnery0verwatchdon’t believe you and don’t care to create a new person by breaking down all their trauma. They don’t accept us if we’re damaged

[@vandittpatel]

@@0rnery0verwatch great, but you still end up doing more of the work. Relationships shouldnt be hard to maintain. Rather focus making more effort on providing for my family.

[@cliffchampion5501]

@@0rnery0verwatchthis is pure deception masculine women live under expectations they don’t appreciate nothing!!! Because they feel your in the position of servitude you should be in so they will likely become controlling. You’ll be the wife in the dynamic.

[@CeeT-wg3hz]

Quick answer to this is WALK AWAY

[@vickysharma-gl6gv]

NICE

[@okaySam]

This is all good advice, but the most obvious advice is not to get into this kind of relationship in the first place. I will send this video to some of my friends, though.

[@AliMacAzz]

For most men I’m guessing - unless they have a thing for masculine women, the only real way is to press the issue (lead) & say this how the relationship is going to be….set the parameters and dynamics….just as a high end employer would vet applicants by establishing fairly solid expectations for behavior & performance….almost like a behavioral/character contract….& be sure to stick to it.

[@v.certain]

I have a... sort of a question, when men say that they want to "fix" whatever problem they have, I've seen that that's not always true. They say that women (as you said) need to express themselves and men have a to fix, but then they come with their emotions all over the place and complain (not explaining) and when you ask them something about their emotions they get reactive and say that they don't need just understanding, but a way to fix the thing so you give them an option then another and another and another and they just keep complaining, not about you, the one who's trying to help, but about the problem and what I see is that they do have the need to express themselves, like "this was unfair", "they make me feel like a failure", "it made me feel like I'm not enough", "I felt stupid", but they mask it in this "I just want a solution" narrative. So my question is what do you think about these kind of situations??

[@ChadZaugg]

Thank you for approaching this in a non polarizing way. I think there’s also a genetic component to this. Humanity has long and mostly unconsciously been breeding men to be more masculine. So women by default women will also become more masculine. Historically the less masculine men died at higher rates than their more masculine counterparts. So in our more civilized modern world less masculine men are surviving at unprecedented levels. Leading women to a higher population of less masculine men leading to greater disappointment.

[@GuyVinmara]

OK...I have to ask this question. If it is feminine to "express" rather than to "explain", that's fair. What about all the advise for men to use "I feel" statements? Because by this definition, the man will be moving into his feminine by doing that, right? So are men supposed to "explain" and women should "express"? This goes against the pre-dominant advice of "safer" conversations focusing on "I feel". But that means we would move from two people being masculine, to two people being feminine. This is all so confusing. I hope you can clear it up.

[@Himmiefan]

Don't worry about the specific words. It's just silly, like way back when, women were told never to say, "I think," but were to say, "I feel." That's just stupid. Use what conveys your point and feels natural to you. As a woman, I naturally say, "I think."

[@TheBlessingReport]

Great video

[@korbitror]

This comment section is hilariously reminiscent of the comments women make about avoidant men.

[@jbdsvld8175]

Seems like it indeed

[@YourNemesis23]

Would you care explaining that to me? I'm not too familiar with this.

[@korbitror]

@@YourNemesis23 In videos talking about how to be in a relationship with an avoidant men, particularly in Adam Lane Smith's videos, there are a bunch of women commenting "Just don't be in a relationship with them" and basically describing them as though they're worse than the devil. Seems to be the opposite happening here.

[@delinquenz46]

That's a great observation :D People repeat the same things such as "if we are doing all the work, we should just leave and stop trying"

[@okaySam]

I wouldn't recommend women to date avoidant men either. People need to work on themselves, not get into relationships and make the partner endure their nonsense.

[@jaredmatthews7988]

What should you do if you find out that your masculine girlfriend is actually your masculine boyfriend? Help him get into his feminine energy by not fighting him for dominance. Nah. It's a fool's errand respect other people's sovereignty and autonomy and the only appropriate response is either change yourself or move along. You get to choose who you are but you dont get to choose who other people are or what they should be, only if they are complimentary to you.

[@Rebecca_light_artist]

Sad thing about being a masculine woman is calls the feminine out in a man and if he's not pretty evolved and integrated...what a mess.

[@TremelJackson]

How would a pimp deal with a masculine woman is what you really need to be asking yourself

[@ВиталийСлонов-ч4ъ]

Unless a bird is calm peaceful feminine submissive and chaste, I might as well stay single for the rest of my life. Happy Christmas! 🎅🎄

[@Himmiefan]

Sounds like you should.

[@FaithResurge]

What timing!!!

[@paradisepriest1320]

This is all true, but it’s nuts!!!🎉 Why should men be in battles over power? Stay grounded to allow her feminized insanity to fall back? We get to do all the work no matter what. 😂

[@beowulf_of_wall_st]

tldw: just don't, problem solved. why are you telling men to waste their time with this?

[@okaySam]

I think he's speaking to the men who are already in these kind of relationships? Not sure...

[@rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr1]

Conner, your talks are meant for men, right? You don't have to do all the PC asides that have to be included to get through women's feminist-embedded filters. We don't need them. And it muddies your communication and point.

[@beowulf_of_wall_st]

dude has lost the plot when he's telling straight men how to date masculine women. go find a woman who wants to be a woman.

[@rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr1]

@@beowulf_of_wall_st Nah. The pool of top quality women is small. Some men have to settle for a project (and/or are a project themselves) and need advice on how to do the renovation. But in this room he doesn't have to the usual ladies-please-don't-be-offended game.

[@Himmiefan]

When you complain about feminist-embedded filters, you're saying that you want the woman to be lower in rank than you in the relationship. Your self-centeredness and contempt for women is showing.

[@rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr1]

@ I'm sorry sweetie. It's okay.

[@Arquebusier89]

When you say masculine woman, you are mentioning avoidant woman? I am cool with a woman who works out in a gym, who carries dumbbell just like me. In fact I hate women who only use treadmill in a gym

[@beototbungong1560]

I’d not assume going to the gym is a masculine trait, in fact it’s a caring behavior for one’s body it could be perceived as feminine even, but i don’t think it’s feminine enough to call it feminine and it surely doesn’t feel feminine either so i’d say it’s neutral imo.

[@JG-mt3rp]

Yeah real talk if they're acting like this it's because you're not capable of leading. Not a good match.

[@MasterMukopa]

Good stuff...

[@cacayomen]

Why wasn’t this here a month or so ago haha great vid 👍

[@maximososa9181]

Dont

[@Kyle-pj2vc]

Leave.

[@BlackJesusChrist666]

My dad is a 🐈

[@soopittedbra]

Kitties can’t type I beg to differ

[@aygwm]

What to do? Stop. Get help.

[@NeedsYaHUaH]

If only my husband would even consider listening to these man talks. Instead, here I am, and he wonders why I need to be in my masculine self. Gentlemen: it goes both ways. The one that is doing the work to learn and change should not be discounted and thrown away. Stop that nonsense.

[@Malekith2k5]

You NEED to be? Nope. You chose to be. Take some accountability for your own actions. You married the guy and supposedly vetted him. So either you thought you could 'change' him, or you yourself changed. Not his issue to solve.

[@sanjeevgig8918]

You are SO MASCULINE that you are crowing about your masculinity to random people on the internet. LOLZ

[@NeedsYaHUaH]

@@Malekith2k5 I stand corrected.

[@Malekith2k5]

@@NeedsYaHUaH Glad I could shed some light on your situation.

[@NeedsYaHUaH]

@@Malekith2k5 just feeding your ego. TBH, I don’t care much for anyone’s opinion unless they’re willing to be honest and humble enough to care to hear how both our actions cause certain reactions. Like he says in another video as well, it doesn’t matter who is right or put the cycle into motion. It’s vicious and it is tearing apart marriages. But I do know if my husband would just listen to this specific message and reflect, we would get far. I firmly believe that. And yes, I NEED to be in my masculine state in order to protect myself. You have no idea what I’ve been doing so for you to state that I’m not taking accountability, that’s your opinion based on…? My comment? Okay. That’s fine. We’re all entitled to our opinions. Take care of yourself and please be kind.