What To Do When You’re Troubled By Someone?

Students seek Sadhguru’s wisdom on the right action to take when a situation hurts you.
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[@vidyachavan6133]

Yes, that's why Krishna said No one is your friend no one is your enemy, it's the situation and time that make people as your enemy and friends. So, he led his life focusing on Karma and Dharma..Sadhguru, Thank You🙏🙏🙏

[@Prity_choudhary61587]

So true ❤️

[@dshshetty2880]

❤🙏🏼

[@spirituality8721]

Just curious how you know krishna said this.. i mean is it written somewhere in scripture?

[@sujal1943]

Reference please

[@biprojitdhar1901]

Absolutely sir, we must change ourselves not others and we should be with the 'life'.

[@Forbidden.wisdom.]

*”Do not fear having no friends. Fear having bad friends”* ~My life taught lesson

[@Forbidden.wisdom.]

More wisdom in our channel ;)

[@pragyan507]

There is no such thing as friend actually. Some who we think is close to us we label them as friends. But it is all life acting in their own nature and cycles.

[@jacquia.7340]

There is no bad friend either... Just people that aligns with your path...or ones that take you off it(is what your calling bad friends) since they are going a different way in their own way .. And the ones that are lost in harmful habits is exactly the time when every person needs a friend.. not someone who avoid/runs thinking it's self preservation..when actuality it's because of lack of experience insecurity runs away.. instead of being present and walking away in mindful decisions is two different things

[@jeffharper7579]

I'm in my mid 50s and I have so many friends I all I need is two fingers to count with!. I tell people ( kids) life is not a popularity contest.

[@carolewoof9512]

So true 🙏🏻🇬🇧💝

[@raymondtendau2749]

When someone is being nasty to you, first try love. If that doesn't work then try compassion. If that doesn't work, distance. -Sadhguru

[@rassoul3548]

Coran said that first.

[@raymondtendau2749]

@@rassoul3548 oh really..Which chapter please.??

[@pragyan507]

@@raymondtendau2749 Sadhguru never said to walk away unless it is real physical damage. All emotional hurt are self created. The hurt is because of what we expect and expectation not coming true. If you are truly enlightened, you need not walk away to save yourself from emotional damage.

[@raymondtendau2749]

@@pragyan507 Do not misquote or misintreprete me. I only quoted Sadhguru. You can verify this quote by Sadhguru pls. Thank you.🙏🏿

[@pragyan507]

@@raymondtendau2749 I am not. I am explaining what he truly means

[@explorer.samrat]

Physical pain might be caused by others. But NO ONE can hurt us mentally & emotionally. Emotional pain is our own creation. 🙏🏻😇

[@shivania4221]

Hi . In my workplace, I have a small issue. I have a manager who doesn't do any work and our project doesn't follow any guidelines and always there is always a pressure from clients on the employees. Actually, many of the seniors have left the organization because of this toxic culture. But myself and some of the other people are freshers, we have worked for 1 1/2 year but didn't receive any promotion. Hoping that after we get some promotion, we will leave the organization. Our managers always give more work than we can do. So, we have to work for longer hours and we don't have any work life balance. Please guide me on how to respond to such situations and how to speak up for myself in the corporate culture? Because our manager doesn't speak for us. Myself and my friends do more work, so he assigns all the tickets to me and my friends. There are some people who doesn't do any work and are in the favour of manager. So they chill around. So, The manager assigns their work also to us saying they are on leave. But when they go on leave, not a single line of code will be written for the objects. If we inform the same to manager, he just nods his head and asks us to the development as the deadline is running out of time. Please guide me on the above issue.

[@shivania4221]

I am in need of money urgently as I have some responsibility to pay the fees. So, I can't quit the job as well as of now.

[@babushkapoponick3384]

I don't believe that

[@graycadmon]

That's why you need a disciplined mind. Meditate and stay fit. Write if it helps. Eat healthy and sleep enough. Remember your past. Know that you will die some day, and what hurts today will not hurt tomorrow.

[@Aarav.B]

​@@babushkapoponick3384 Let's start a discussion. Why do you feel that way?

[@redgemini9851]

Some people have real maliciousness and try to hurt your ego and peace of mind. They should be removed.

[@nipaparekh1678]

It’s easier says then done .. and the art of ‘letting go ‘ is probably the most difficult to overcome ..

[@rabeni805]

He explained a thing in under 3 minutes what some of us take life time to realise. 🙏

[@babushkapoponick3384]

And even when you realize it might not even be true

[@jeffharper7579]

And some never realise, my opinion is lots of people think every thing should revolve around them 😵 I'm lonely at times but feel better off by myself ( we me and my cats are better off)

[@kathrynsevers8532]

When you are hurt by someone you forgive no matter and continue forwards praying for them and knowing God has you.

[@bhvlogs110]

Awhh so kind of you ❤

[@unknowngba]

At philosophical level what Sadhguru said is right. But in real life its very difficult to digest when someone keeps hurting you or cheats you or takes advantage of your position ... Especially its very difficult when you have to live with them forever 😢😢😢

[@AnubhavSingh-xq2nu]

True yar

[@sunshineshining4167]

True

[@SahilCycleCyclops]

It is only philosophical because we all are seeing that way, we all don’t want to put efforts. There is a whole process of putting all that to practical and sadhguru and other yogis have just mastered it

[@yichable]

Also you can "distance" when love and compassion don't work.

[@Just_A_Name14]

@@bentridermaybe you can’t grasp the concept that taking things personal is hard to let go of and not get emotionally attached to. Some people are living you know

[@Mary-gg9mj]

Never give anyone that much power over your emotions or behavior. Be yourself and if they don’t like it allow it to be their problem not yours.

[@rajanchaudharymotivation]

Sadhguru is the real inspiration for everone......... agree ? Yes or no ?

[@nagwag123]

No

[@bhanushsharma85]

Yesss, love him 😍😍😍😍

[@rushikeshdesai8705]

Yes

[@vaishaleeghoshmantra8917]

Yes yes yes....only

[@Noobprokermit]

He is one of them, but there are many. Taking the ideas from multiple people can provide you the best viewpoint

[@paulachoche4286]

This came at the perfect time when I needed guidance. ❤

[@patriciaazzinnaro4610]

For me as well 🙏

[@divyashautomationprivateli6504]

I don't know how but my mind was asking the same question and this video popped up. So universe is listening. Thankful grateful and blessed.....

[@nrlw-77777]

Same happened with me

[@sujitpoojary2651]

Me too

[@cs18989]

I had to search for it :-)

[@Indian_working_mom]

Same here

[@shwetasingh3414]

Same here

[@maaya7986]

Yes...this is very true.All you can do is move away from situations and people which retards your growth and peace.Because they are doing what is the only thing they know to do ....and all we can do is uproot yourself from that area and root yourself where you can grow healthy.

[@cing9545]

Yes and no. Sometimes some people *try* to treat you poorly because of being jealous, or simply because they are not responsible enough to deal with what their perception of *you* provokes in them, not you. And you are like, "I did nothing to you, why are you behaving this way?" It is important to unmask this behaviour

[@sunshineshining4167]

So true

[@dgjlo]

Spot on!

[@RanjanRevankar1997]

If People are emotionally hurting or insulting u, the best thing is understand their Nature Of Mind & ignore such People by staying away from them. Also practice Self Realization Meditation Techniques such that u won't be affected by anyone.

[@pixelotetm]

I am already feeling better. just by hearing this and realizing that I am the one casing pain to myself. Thanks for those wise words

[@jeffharper7579]

Me also. Were I work they all have to be together but I stay by my self and they can't stand it, but when they tare up equipment they blame someone else but can't blame me.

[@Pallavi11.11___]

The main reason behind of watching all this vedios is one person I have in my life... causing me lots of pain and love both ..to get rid from all this situation ..now iam fond all this vedios it's giving me hope..I dnt know what destiny will create for me..may be all this pain will be worth it someday 😌🧿💞

[@aryanthakur6235]

I Heard this about 20times.... And each time i learnt many exciting things.... Thank you 🙏

[@jeffreyjackson5229]

"What you are asking for cannot be found in humans"- Divine inspiration.

[@snigdhapillutla1188]

"It's sometimes funny how the other person blames us for distancing even though we got hurt, and they never understood how much we cared and tolerated, no matter what."

[@mobilepsycho]

There is a significant overlap with what Sadhguru is saying here and 'stoicism'. "It's in your head' Don't let the mean, vile, rude, and malicious people 'hurt' you by 'living' in your mind. The way you react to it is important and what you can control. I am living some difficulty at this moment and understand this, however I am making no illusions as this is extremely difficult. I hope it will get better day by day.

[@dreamingacacia]

At first I thought, hey did I just keep escaping from pain inflicting by myself? But then I realized that, no. I only walk away from people which not only ignoring me but also not offering something that lift me up. It's a waste of time spending with people like that. I'm glad I did so, and found a group of people which could offer their knowledges and opinions to help improve everyone including themselves. It's nice to have a group of people the love to improve.

[@neetashetty4910]

Just his presence in India is a blessing 🙏

[@barbarafleenor6649]

Yes, this is true. I didn’t realize how true until Sadhguru opened my mind

[@Paulinekoni]

Wow.. Sadghuru put it so simply here... the words i could never find to describe the many situations i find myself in... We look for places were we can be effective with our lives and energy to evolve... some places and people create atmospheres where this is not conducive and energy is wasted on madden things instead of evoling into better beings ❤

[@Self-HealingTV]

171 / 5,000 Sadhguru's wise teachings are precious. Thank you and your team for making this video. May everyone always spend a lot of time listening to the Dharma to expand our wisdom ❤️🙏❤️

[@creativemindplay]

I love the way the young lady asked the question

[@biprojitdhar1901]

Absolutely sir, we must change ourselves not others and we should be with the 'life'

[@jayashreesaha6154]

Words have psychological power. If Sadhguru's words heal us then toxic people hurt with their words as well.

[@Leo-ks6fm]

True. But that's a conscious choice we have to take!

[@stephanevillatte5970]

Yes it's true,I don't create my own pain,words ,behaviors,can deeply hurt....I never suffer with good people,they can make mistakes,that's ok,but being ugly,vilain,toxic etc...is another story

[@its.a.bellestory]

Exactly!

[@bhvlogs110]

Indeed, rightly said we need to build a power to take what we want and leave the rest

[@bonnyedmonds7539]

Toxic people hurt us with their words and actions.

[@al-jeddi]

Simple way to leave it all behind. I've seen & heard enough to know what others fail to.

[@juliethorpe2739]

That is very true! Just when I needed that advise. Thankyou x

[@Darima2]

That's a good way of putting it, he's saying only physical pain is real and any other pain is your mind interpreting it as such. It goes against what psychology says though which I sometimes thinks overly focuses on the problems. I'm a highly sensitive, empathic person so I feel on a deeper level, things hurt me for a long time but I'm going to try to keep this in mind, "only physical pain is real, the rest is nothing".

[@Viyatae]

It feels like he said what my inner self really want to hear thankyou Sadhguru 🙏❤️

[@marilynbernardez1757]

Needed this 😢❤

[@iamadorableshrrishti7237]

True words sadguru ji❤

[@deepaksaini4209]

Anyone can hurt you when you give them the right to make you happy . If you are happy from within no one can hurt you ❤❤❤.

[@DiscoveringSelf647]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKDGdnSjeb2rd5o Sadhguru talks about correlation between love sex and meditation. 🙏🙏

[@marykavanagh531]

How do we stop giving them the right

[@crystaldance5731]

Perfect timing sadgharu thankyou ❤️😊

[@mgroliveira]

Hurtful or deceitful words can wound as much as, or even more than, a punch on your face or stomach. If someone is exposed to emotional aggression, lies, manipulation, despise, etc, for a longe period of time this will normally cause ALL sort of pain and misery and emotional distress. Of course, those few enlightened ones may have the strength to not being so hurt by the emotional aggression coming from others.

[@anitha6249]

It's true it is very difficult. But what Sadhguru says is the only intelligent way to deal with life. We have no choice over our external circumstances many a times and how long do we suffer for life, bit by bit?It is so tiring. I am constantly reminding myself with the words of yogis to become inward focussed.

[@mgroliveira]

Emotional aggression normally leaves scars, bruises, the eyes cannot see, but which are real. This is something that needs to be embraced before the person may heal and move away from the abusive relationship - as Sadhguru recommend. Of course the person's ability to do that will depends on a number of factors. Sadhguru is not encouraging anyone to follow him blindly, unquestionably. This would be very unintelligent for a wise and realizem Teacher to say.

[@vimalanair6075]

The right time and correct words Guruji. I was going through an emotional turmoil that anything cud happen. It was yr words saved me.

[@gemsher78]

Life is more complex then this. It’s helpful to see this perspective however. Ownership of our reactions is essential ☯️💗🙏

[@bhanumatikapitaara]

Last week i was busy questioning myself that what to do in certain sitution ….nd here u answered …sadguru ❤😊

[@PirackieCzogi]

i really like watching those. Curiosity and wise words.

[@judithrusso6613]

Thank You Mr.Sadhguru for your words of wisdom !!Love to hear you !! I am thinking about going on a spiritual retreat for three months !

[@crystaldance5731]

You are wonderful sadgharu thankyou ❤️😊

[@T-Bone93]

What a lovely looking place. Sadhguru really goes his own way of living his life.

[@komalBhadauria222]

Thanku so much Sadhguru 🙏 it was much needed 🙏🌸❤️

[@nilammore9726]

I really need this thank you so much for the video ❤️

[@ayushsharma2784]

I don't know when I heard this I feel confident because I practice what sadhguru has said people do ignore me but I kept being same as I am but with better version

[@kriskrysler]

Simple yet powerful

[@asssainhunter2919]

Sir you are great ❤❤🙏🙏

[@ZAMBA197]

Whatever others say but for me sadhguru is living teacher angel ♥️♥️

[@tsb7911]

Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.

[@SJ-ky3sg]

Sadhguru's answer bring tears to my eyes

[@TheSmashCapital]

This helps, thank you.

[@bikashsir638]

You said right sadguru ❤

[@soulfulishgirl816]

I love this! because If you are the student & the teacher.? You are teaching yourself to love & not need right? 😅❤

[@nalinil.v8125]

Keep distance is only a way.....Sadhguru..🙏

[@haigohaygo4353]

So genius 🎉

[@reneeriquetcarr4829]

Sadhguru ,This talk came at the perfect time for me.Thank you for your unending words of wisdom.May I ask you what the name of the music was playing in the background.

[@Prashant-sk9mj]

So many youtubers trying to defame Sadhguru, only person who give clarity to us.❤❤❤

[@banumathiramakrishnan]

Yes

[@jennypenny6502]

Thank you for your wisdom 💫

[@Isaahmed810]

Thank you Sadhguru so much

[@andymejia8572]

I love this man he has so much wisdom ❤

[@bhvlogs110]

So much indeed ❤

[@bankrollbigg6265]

So profound! This mindset stops you from thinking like a victim! Which in turn allows you to move with acceptance and self awareness. 💯💪🏾🙏🏾❤️‍🩹☮️

[@Dora-wc8be]

Emotions are an essential part of who we are,but they can be messy, complicated and downright confusing at times. Every situation we go through has the potential to teach us something. Writing down things like emotions can really help so that we're not holding it in anymore and can release it. Thanks.

[@JoseRamosPizzon]

Thank you Bigger Sadhguru

[@Renew55574]

Yes. They say what they say because that is the best they know. Right.

[@iah8331]

Omg I needed to hear this today.

[@rakhimehrotra6943]

Namaskaram 🙏

[@alejandrowarrez7445]

This guy gets better like aged wine, truly this man has some real wisdom.

[@TheAghoriKing]

🍷🍷🍷

[@keithraney2546]

I understand. It is not another person who harms you. Rather: how do you respond to their speech & behavior is up to you. Thank You.

[@jmahalekshmymenon9309]

wonderful advice, Sadhguru!😍😍😊

[@ganeshv3549]

Once we understand we are immensely stronger🌟

[@bhvlogs110]

Honestly ❤

[@vijaybharath6107]

Pranam Sadhguru

[@margocouturie2692]

This video dropped on point. I am pissed today at someone. Maybe this person was not trying to cause pain to me. I was going to walk away.

[@escalade8759]

Wow! Perfect advice!❤ The Lord certainly knows what you need when you need it! Thanks!

[@vinaytravelvlogs142]

Sadhguru is the real inspiration for everyone..Because it has a very good inspiration & a very true inspiration quotes.

[@parth2sukhadiya]

Your iglis blows my mind

[@vinaytravelvlogs142]

@@parth2sukhadiya Yes

[@ayeshaclassesgk]

Sadhguru❤️ you are a real inspiration thank you for always putting a smile on my face with your awesome video

[@sujal1943]

you're everywhere..how ?

[@radhika5933]

I highly suggest (Secrets of sanatan dharma) book by Author sai prasad panda ...

[@bihongkollogov]

It's not always about "that's what they know best". Some people deliberately shoot ans poke and stab with words. Word is powerful. Shabd is said to be Brahm

[@miracle7902]

Thank you Sadhguru .. you have opened my eyes .. I got the clarity within me..

[@bhvlogs110]

That's nice

[@shanichaturvedi1055]

Pranam,sadguru

[@littlejan52]

Yes dear Sadhguru, what you are saying is right. There is no perfect human being anywhere.

[@ViralDuniyaaa]

Best way to make understand thats y he is special..Namadkaram 🙏

[@bijoydey3.0]

Take my love sadhguru ❤️

[@BanBiofuels]

Enjoy him while he is still with us.

[@gitu_p]

This answer s my predicament

[@AbhishekKumar-dh5zk]

Namaskaram sadhguru🙏

[@AnubhavSingh-xq2nu]

Sir this is not easy to heal and recover when someone hurts you we r human with emotions 😞

[@bessk8847]

Hes a guru....what about the regular joe with feelings not realistic!

[@liekesteijn5478]

THANK YOU

[@geetashah7717]

Thank You.

[@Just_Be.]

Thank you ♥️🙏🏾

[@keerthim462]

Thank you 🙏

[@DevanshBansuri]

~~Sadguru Is Sadguru !!🙏🏻🥰

[@user-ef4qv9xx7v]

Thank 😊 you

[@Mino99778]

@Sadhguru Love from Sri Lanka. ❤Visit Sri Lanka.

[@davecook3278]

Such a powerful, yet simple message, that few know. Thank you for pushing the word to more minds!!!✊🏾💯🙏🏾

[@radhika5933]

I highly suggest (Secrets of sanatan dharma) book by Author sai prasad panda ..

[@bhvlogs110]

Right ✅️

[@robbertwww]

Neededthis

[@jeffreyjackson5229]

"They are doing what they know best"- Such a powerful and insightful comment to be so simple. And it's 100% accurate. When I apply such to those who perpetrated the negative experience, it fits and I smile because I have seen beneath the facade that they betray.

[@md.nahidulalamchowdhury9568]

Outstanding