Where do you stand in your ‘situationship?’

[@illinoisvideoatlarge8039]

Notes: When you know what you want. What are we? I prefer to state what I want to see. Negotiate what is possible. You get battle weary.......... put out a positive message of what you are trying to create: "It's nice to have someone to share things with.......I value having a partner to do things with" Highlight the benefits of what WE want..... We cannot be afraid to articulate our dream? Afraid to state what I want?...don't be afraid, paint your dream, share that goal. attraction, seduction, encouragement, clarification, shared goals...allow them to see image of what you want to create. move on to the next if they do not like your attempt to communicate. Well said.

[@k4ir0s]

You're brilliant Susan. You analyze each topic so clearly and logically, and you're a great speaker to boot. It's clear that much of your content is based on loads of experienced, but you're also knowledgeable in dating games, psychology and human behavior. Not the typical KZbin coach! All of that makes your videos worth watching. I discovered your content months ago after a breakup and consumed most of it thus far. Thank you, I'm learning so much from you

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you for this generous assessment. I'm smiling now. Very kind of you k4ir0s

[@tracywall5182]

Susan Winter hi I’ve looked and looked and I can’t find anywhere that give me an option to email you a question . Kind regards Tracy From England x

[@northernthrifter8817]

Tracy Wall she wants your money these coaches prey on people stuck and the lonely their advice is at best pathetically awful

[@Tammy-SophisticatedGlamGurls]

thank you for this video I am currently in a situationship and can't wait until this damn "rona" shit is over so that I can jet. I detached myself completely emotionally and started taking care of myself. I reinvented myself, educated myself in a new business, built a clientele in the process; I let him continue to pay ALLLLLLLLLLLLL of the bills, banked my money and came up with a quiet exit strategy. Situationships are the worst, for real, you have got to be strong and get out before it back fires on you. I'm good now, healed from the disappointment and pain. Once I got back into my meditation and went inside and realize my value, I said FUCK him, I better than this bullshit. So he no longer have any affect on me. I am ready for my new beginnig, NO MORE SETTLING I love my Peace Of Mind PRICELESS. Thank you Susan Love your videos.

[@samiranchowdhury1806]

Mother Winter,your programs mean a lot to us,we who consider you to be our family member.

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you, Samiran. Thanks really lovely. I'm glad we're all a family!!

[@ezgicetin5855]

Mother Winters will become a thing, lol!

[@claudiaclaudia8599]

He might’ve meant madam 😊

[@janochs]

I had been stuck in a "situationship" for 3 and a half years. I DID state up front what I was looking for and the response was, "lets just see where it goes". This was a man I had dated 20 years ago and felt I might have a 2nd chance. He was married and said he wanted a divorce. I took a chance. Now, they're finally filing for divorce and he told me he can no longer have a relationship with me. So, being up front didnt work for me....but Im hoping it will for the next guy that comes along. My heart is broken and the fact that Im almost 60 isnt helping, timewise. One of my friends said I was pushing him away by trying to define the relationship and having expectations. I only wish it had pushed him away sooner, before my heart got so deeply involved.

[@nyomijacob9972]

Wow I'm sorry you had wasted so much time with that😢 now I'm getting serious about my relationship I don't want this to happen to me nah😖

[@Fallen_Venus]

My situation has some similarities. He's always said he cannot commit but in reality has to an extent which kept me hopeful but though I try to accept his terms and the good things we share in the present, I'm so frustrated and wish I had the courage to end something that ultimately is going nowhere I want it to.

[@Fallen_Venus]

Just to add he was married but for 3 years now divorced and free legally...but not emotionally or mentally it would seem...

[@kimturner9309]

jano if telling someone that you want a relationship chases them away.....he’s not your guy. I just went through it myself. Peace❤️

[@lydianobles1513]

Technically it did work for you because he finally said that he can’t be with you. That was the best thing you did for yourself in the last 3.5 years! Congratulations! Now you can actually go and find the amazing person for you, who wants that committed, beautiful and high standard relationship you deserve!

[@JadedJade_]

I was upset that he couldn’t provide me what I needed but now I understand that he’s not capable and he did tell me so. I told him that if he needs a friend, I’m here, but I’m absolutely 100% never sleeping with him again.

[@jimstevens1726]

I have never had this topic explained to me before in such detail. I watched it several times.

[@seemslikeyourready]

Your advice is spot on, and I lost someone who I thought was the 1, but she thought otherwise. Glad I did not waste another year with her. Thank you Thank you Thank you

[@bonniebender9268]

Don’t muck about ... be bold and share your image of what you want. Don’t compromise. (I’m preaching’ to myself) ☺️ THANK YOU, SUSAN!! 💜

[@EndlessLoveNyx]

This is whati needed to see!!! Thank YOU. This CONFUSION and anxiety is what drove me to test the guyi was dating to see if he was STILL FOOLING AROUND WITH OTHER GIRLS and ultimately he went bye bye 👋 to me But then again HE NEVER EXPRESSED HOW HE FELT FOR ME... Clearly i was falling

[@LRaine73]

I was in a situationship for a little over 2.5 years, I think I knew it but didn’t label or understand the rules of it. I believe it’s ended when I realized and learned of the term situationship. I told the guy I was “seeing “ that I didn’t want this and needed to discuss the terms or level up or if he couldn’t level up them I couldn’t be in one. The result was he pretended to go along, said we would talk and see another them turned around and blocked me then discuss. It’s exhausting. I’m sure it’s over and he won’t come back. I do have a question that I haven’t seen you discuss. The “ boundaries “ men place in situationship where they will not share details of their life, won’t invite you over but only come to you, the my way or highway ideology. Why do they do this. Why not just be transparent as give us the option then play their game. I don’t understand the logic. It’s like they can’t give up control on the most mundane things.

[@albaonamission5540]

Susan, I have only been following for a couple of weeks and I'm so glad I found you! This was one of the most insightful videos on how to share your dream and view on a partnership that I have come across. I'm taking notes and hoping this will help me "market" what I want in a positive light. I like presenting it that way rather than giving the other person the power to "shoot down" the idea of a relationship. I'm tired of getting into situationships and this is the clearest way to begin the relationship conversation. I will view this on repeat until I can confidently use my own words to convey my vision. Thank you!!

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for the kind words!!

[@albaonamission5540]

@You can't leave this empty Yes! Same here. Helps me practice so when I decide to bring up this topic I won't fumble through my words and come across as if I'm emotional or I do not know what I want.

[@katherinegoodacre9519]

Be Bold!!! Have a Vision of a Shared Life

[@cherylcuttineau7916]

You and your advice are like manna from heaven! Im always learning some new insight or way to "tweak" a situation! Have myself been in sales & marketing most of my 8 careers--LOL and embarking on a 9th--and Presentation is EVERYTHING! Love the new phrase, "situationship"--will have to include it in my next book, with proper attribution, of course!! Love and Blessings, Beloved!

[@SusanWinter]

Dear Dr. Cheryl. Thanks for your participation on this page. Love reading your entries. Just and FYI: I didn't coin the term so I can't take credit for it. But it's brilliant, right?

[@livelovelaughforever2131]

I love your videos. Thank you. I have been spending time with a man weekly for 6 months. We are both in our mid 40’s. We talk daily. I have met his family. I asked him a month ago if we were more than friends. (We have kissed once that’s all) he seemed very uncomfortable with this question and kept saying “take things as they come” and why does it have to be in a “category”....he then disappeared for 2 weeks and didn’t talk to me. It hurt me terribly as I really had a lot of feelings for him. He and I began talking again a couple weeks later and he was very clear to me that he does not want a relationship. I am just confused because he calls and texts me several times a day. He asks me to dinner at least once a week. I have gone to outings with his family and his kids. His friends. I just don’t spend THAT much time with a “friend” so I just don’t know where to go and what to think. I do want a relationship....I would love to have that with him but I gave up and accepted “friends” as I didn’t want to lose him out of my life completely. I am always willing to go places with him and I have decided not to be so willing. I am going to make plans outside of our situationship...Confused.

[@TheBishop12]

This is easily the top 3 videos Powerful communication ideas. Thank you for sharing your life experience!

[@trapfactory8600]

You're such a treasure here on youtube. Thank you for the continuous relevant content

[@SusanWinter]

I appreciate this comment, Trap Factory.

[@lisarice4402]

That’s a thinker ... I am doing okay being by myself for now ...

[@jessechapman6633]

I recently had someone I met 3-4 times kinda went cold as well so I asked were I stood said hi hope your ok have t heard from you in a few day and just want to know we’re I stand with you although I like you I don’t want to be messed about she said hey sorry had the flu and work has been non stop and to be Honest I don’t know what I want at the moment and work is full and it’s hard to make time around my son. I just replied ok. Deleted the number and left it at that no point negotiating if someone can’t make time everyone has time. Glad I have watched this video

[@OlderWomenRock]

My ex asked me if I would like to move from dating to exclusive. I agreed and assumed we were in a relationship . After a year I found out he told one of his closest friends who had no idea that He had a girlfriend that we were dating . I was shocked and hurt . My ex would often mention this friend and tell me how much he liked him and about his life etc . The friend didn’t know my ex and I were a couple , he didn’t seem to know that I existed . I had met his family several times , another friend a couple of times but this one friend had no idea about Me? I could not understand and I was never given a plausible explanation . So I learned that exclusive doesn’t mean a relationship to some men . Spending all the main holidays with them , every WE with them , meeting family still doesn’t qualify as a relationship ? Well it does to me !

[@rev.jimjonesandthekool-aid4488]

Just because he was his friend, his love life is none of his business. In fact, the more seriously he felt about you, the less likely he would talk about you to a single friend who is banging chicks. Once your serious with a woman, you stop talking about her in detail. Maybe he didnt want his friend talking with alone with you because he know his buddy has a history of poisoning his gf's minds. And here you are. Now your ex has even more reasons he won't be sharing any gf issues with his so called pals.

[@shirleymadiva6886]

This is one of your BEST VIDEOS!!! It spoke to me in volumes....you said it all here.... just what l needed.... THANKS! I love it💕😘

[@joesurfer9754]

I just want to thank you. It is amazing how much clarity you have put in my head

[@marangelliramos]

You are a blessing Susan! ❤️

[@TheFrancinetrainer]

Here is my question .. why can’t someone that already said “we are only hanging out “change their mind after spending a lot of time together ? I am with this guy for a year. Met his family , friends and we go on trips and he said we are not a couple .

[@milanadran8350]

Of all the coaches that ive watched.yours is i can relate with,its so normal and very real that im really amaze.you already healed the broken part of me.thanks

[@r1h2o3n4d5a6]

You are amazing, Susan! You have helped me so much. Thank you!

[@billbull4924]

This is just what I need I'm so glad I ran into your video

[@janiceweathersby2280]

I wrote a letter and used many things you have taught me. It worked. I wish you could read it, you would be proud

[@sepomaimouna5683]

Thank you for your wisdom Susan! ❤

[@sasdekock870]

Hi Susan. You are an amazing woman. I just love your videos. Keep them coming.

[@latinsensationgurl27]

Love this! Thank you for this empowering video ❤️

[@tinathompson591]

Thank you so much!! AWSOME VIDEO 👍👍👍

[@cjr258]

Great advice

[@HiHelloHeyheyhey]

This video is pure gold! Thank you Susan!

[@vivimanchester2541]

Susan, I need a tight hug. I’ve been dating a man for 10 months (long distance) he finally told me he’s married. I’m completely devastated by this situation. What am I doing wrong?

[@ildikoivanyi6873]

Long distance is never a good idea, and u fell for the wrong guy because he wasn't honest with u.

[@stephaniemendez6784]

I love the title... love it. The subject, the channel and Sue

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks Stephanie,

[@josenavas9968]

Ms Susan; very good I just the way you put ."situationship"

[@jocelin10111]

This video means a lot to me.Thank you Susan!

[@mikyl-fo8rh]

Great video.

[@larissasoares2252]

hi Susan! do you think you can do a video on expectations for a partner? because ive been with this guy for a few months now and I am a little more social and affectionate. However he is a great guy but he has not really dated so i dont think hes use to being social or affectionate. is this something i should expect more of as our relationship develops? i dont want to rush and force him to be this person but i do want more of that from him in the future.

[@b_melly]

Thank you for this. I needed to hear it.

[@epicsputnik]

Thanks for the informative video as usual :D Ps your hair is on point here! Lots of love from the Netherlands

[@nathalie5238]

I’m just in a situationship while looking for my dream relationship 🤷🏼‍♀️ And you know what it feels good. We like each other, both want a relationship... just not with each other. Tbh. This feels much better than being totally single and desperate. Now I show up very calm and self confident ... Mr right is around the corner, now I am dating mr right now 😎

[@CJDavis-rx1ev]

Wonderful content and excellent advice! Spot on!

[@sharminimuniandy5973]

Asked before.. stated before but yet everyone I meet never been clear with what they want. It’s been the same old pattern for the last 20 years! 😔 By the way.. I never got my bye byes..

[@5thdimensionliving727]

Excellent video 🙏 thank you. Very helpful indeed 👍

[@lehua16]

Amazing !!!! Absolutly resonated with me thank you 💜

[@ThatzMzMJ]

Girl preeeeaaaach!

[@ori.1986]

Great and such a simple advice.

[@cosmospray]

Thank you so much for your great advices 🙏🏻 can you make another video on hot and cold dating game? Cause im going through since 2 years, and i dont know how to respond to his "why dont you want to speak to me any more?"(sorry for my bad english) Thank you again your videos helped me a lot! 👌🏻

[@SusanWinter]

Yes, it's time for another hot and cold video. Good suggestion

[@nyomijacob9972]

Love this message so much 💕💕💕

[@patriciaearley4177]

Exactly right Susan thank you for this

[@bernitapennick4685]

I never had an relationship but I am trying to talk to someone long distance but the person just want to be friends which make it more difficult

[@fahad561]

Her husband had passed away and 9-months ago before we met and she and I started to date, after few months she went cold on me and though I was never married I could empathise with her, since her husband and my mother both passed with Cancer/ It took me a month to finally understand that her memories of her late husband became too strong. I never got the closure, still don't quite know what happened, since she wants us to be just friends...can you tell us how to deal with late spouses? It'll be of great help to so many of us...fighting a ghost is the hardest thing any of us could do...

[@simini1837]

Saad nazim Hello Nazim, maybe you met her too soon after the death of her husband. To me 9 months after doesnt sound that long. Probably she is in deep mourning and might not be ready yet for a new relationship even if she wants iT. I would maybe give her some time and space and see what happens. Also maybe you can ask yourself if you want to chase ghosts and if this woman is worth waiting for? From your post you seem really interested so i would give iT time. I speak from a somewhat similiar experience because when i met my partner he wasnt divorced for that long and still mourning the end of his marriage. At first i broke off contact after a few weeks because i felt he was still so sad and i didnt want to be a shoulder to cry on so to say. After a while i reconnected because i realised i really liked him. We have been together now for over five years in a happy committed relationship. I really didnt blame him for being sad because its only human and shouldnt be rushed. But sometimes you just meet someone too soon. All the best of luck!

[@fahad561]

plantbased sim Well to be honest when it started off she came on pretty strong and I was not in a good place in my life anything and we did connect over pain which I think is a very strong bond to have with anyone; a common denominator so to speak...when she went cold and started to gradually back off I was still climbing the mountain with all my emotions in my backpack I think it’s one of the most painful feelings in the world when you can give the other person all the love you have gathered and there is no reciprocity maybe it’s too early as you say but I lost myself in those initial two months

[@fahad561]

plantbased sim Something also hurts me more than anything else is that initially it was a “phase” which turned into a notion and she just wanted to be friends from being so intimate with someone as to unveil your scars to them And then go back covering everything and pretending as if it doesn’t really matter I’ve started to question so many things about myself; a lover; a friend; a person etc... it’s just been that way and I really don’t know what to do...

[@simini1837]

Saad nazim Hello, iT must be very difficult for you both. From mourning the death of loved ones myself i have experienced that grief comes in phases. So iT could be that in the beginning she came accross as very strong but after a while the loss really “kicks in”. But this is all speculating, i dont know her. If you are in a difficult place yourself and you have trouble being friends with her instead of lovers i would maybe distance myself a bit. Work on yourself first and become more stable, the best version of yourself. Dont doubt yourself, you are worthwhile! In the meantime she can figure out her life and what she wants with iT. I wish you all the best!

[@fahad561]

plantbased sim thank you for these words 😊 Just hope Susan does a video on late spouses and how is to one work around these sort of relationships

[@janetswain2354]

I told my guy at the very beginning that at my age i didn't want to get married again and didn't want to live with anyone. But, i truly want to be in a committed relationship. Is this even possible in this day and age? BTW, my guy is an ex husband from many years ago that i just reconnected with 6 months ago

[@kenkaye7314]

Wow interesting topics, ,,lone wolf on a wonderful path, Ty for sharing, lot's of love and light to you nasmaste

[@dawnelliott8794]

Awesome!

[@johnnybk7436]

Love your videos!

[@craigosborne8667]

Thanks 😊.

[@J0N4Th4N1984]

I love your comment Suzan :)

[@josephcarney4444]

Absolutely brillant susan, would give anything to have my ex back, but she has issues

[@bernitapennick4685]

Please help me

[@tima1443]

Hello Susan! I love your videos and even turned on the bell notification. Question, what if you define what you want and they answer with, " We'll see how it goes".. Or something along those lines ? Would it be too demeaning for me to wait or should I be harsh and say I will see other people than if hes unsure ?

[@burnsyodice3049]

How long has it been since you started dating

[@burnsyodice3049]

If it's been more than 2 or 3 months max then tell him bye and call me if you change your mind. And never look back

[@tima1443]

@@burnsyodice3049 thank you about this. I actually placed my foot down & he didnt listen, so I simply walked away:) great feeling

[@zion8303]

Wooo thanks 🙏🏾

[@lovelyjoy.01]

❣💘 love it Susan

[@Iguanchik]

very wise!

[@mamaurku]

Human beings and our relationships are not commodities to be marketed.

[@lilliankillian7366]

What if he wont say or decuse things .wants to leave things is which is now and then. We were togeather for 6and half months and I still care and try to hold on

[@schmetterling4477]

Then you got exactly nothing. I once had a first date that began with the question "So what do you want?", to which I answered truthfully "I am here to have a long term relationship.". Adults can do that without blushing or stammering. If the person you are dating can't, yet, then be weary.

[@bernitapennick4685]

Please help me susan

[@sspector100]

Why would someone ghost you after a five year relationship?

[@silvershadow7655]

cowardis

[@kelpiegirl]

@@crimestoppers1877 🤣🤣🤣 I'm actually way more concerned about the player men, and the men who want mommy's. And you have no way to know why someone would ghost another, let alone go into a diatribe about menopause. 🤐

[@sspector100]

Well damn definitely not what I was thinking I mean, ahhh I would hate to think men actually think like that. It’s pretty sad don’t you think? Although that maybe your reality thank you for sharing but I’m not where close to menopause hahaha

[@sspector100]

Yes I am actually disgusted by him. Why is he even watching Susan’s videos then?! Haha Susan has such a positive light to her videos. This guy seems extremely sexist. Really hope he’s joking because it seriously is disgusting!

[@npkrn6764]

@josyjump...he’s just a bitter, mysoginistic, D-bag internet troll. Sadly, there are many out there! 😿

[@briechilli4496]

Love you 🌷

[@reggiedavenport3911]

Wow

[@reggiedavenport3911]

You are simply amazing

[@mack_titan]

Hi Susan, someone that I was seeing for over a year broke up with me in Jan. However, she is still "friends" with me on FB(you know the FB kinda unless friends). Do I leave her as friend on FB or delete her? What do you recommend?

[@alexfriedman2047]

Hi Susan I just wanted to say you are beautiful... , and because of your channle I am realizing that I am very attracted to older women like 20 years older. I know I am not really supposed to ask a woman this but how old are you? I am only asking because you look incredible. I would love to find a cougar to have either a serrious relationship or just mess around. I haven't ever had luck approaching older women though.

[@crissieroserose]

luv u susan xx

[@alaiaadam5767]

🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙🌙

[@Eyat369]

❤️

[@benedictaalfonso5802]

Well I love dating but no one cares

[@benedictaalfonso5802]

If men interested in Lady he set a date but men is very busy with little girls

[@bakhtzaman9216]

You have unsubscribed me from your KZbin and you have expelled me from your fb page and I love you more and I am feeling so bitterly now

[@SusanWinter]

@bakhtzaman: Your comments offended my readers. I was asked by several dedicated followers to remove the sexual comments you left. Please understand that these open platforms are for sharing information. I'm not a dating service, nor am I comfortable with sexual information unrelated to any article or video. If you can refrain from offending my viewers, then we can talk about opening the channels up again.

[@MrSivansuresh]

@bakht zaman... Please don't ask for bobs and vagene pics on Susan Winter channel. Understand difference between appropriate and inappropriate comments. Just because she is white does not mean that she will tolerate inappropriate comments on her channel. It is not for her but for her audience. You and your loved ones are one of her audiences too.

[@tuff47]

I will be turning 50 in two months. Who wants a 50 year old single male? I guess I'll be single forever. I don't own a yacht.

[@emmatyler4375]

I’m in my early 30’s and want a man who is 58. He’s not rich either.

[@justinsidervag1643]

Funny , all this time " you don't need a man ". Yet, spend your life worrying if you can lock one down.

[@komalkoul6486]

Do u knw term evolution, women have evolved over time and today is the proof. I am afraid u will see a day when we might be high on testosterone’s and stop giving a damn just like ur species. Again time is the witnesses men don’t evolve.