why black women no longer wear their natural hair

why society won't let a black girl with natural hair breath.

[@Nille0212]

I was about to relax my mid back length natural hair recently. I’m disabled and caring for my hair was so hard on my body. But instead I just cut about 8 inches off and it’s changed my whole hair care routine. I used to take 2 days to do my hair. One was washing and deep conditioning and any other treatments. The next was styling, typically twisting it or braids because I don’t really go anywhere and I can still style them quickly to go somewhere. Now I can do everything in one day and it’s just a few hours instead of days worth of work. I love my hair. But physically I just couldn’t keep doing it and financially I can’t get it done every two weeks. No one speaks about the disabled women who have natural hair and what issues we have that may lead us to relax it or wear wigs and weaves instead of our own hair.

[@Girlintheewild]

Thank you for providing this unique perspective. It was never considered to me as an able bodied person. I hope you continue to do what’s right with you.

[@tintamanengu]

Thanks for sharing I'm glad you found another way to enjoy having your hair without compromising it's natural state. Thank you so much again for sharing this❤️💚👏🏾

[@Theeorie4393]

I actually spoke about this 2 weeks ago when a bw called other bw "lazy." She also didn't want to consider caregivers who lack time or the homeless who may not have access to a mirror or sink

[@Nille0212]

@@tintamanengu you’re welcome love. Thank you for making a video with this video and opening it up to discussion.

[@tobekai]

Natural hair is only hard when you try to treat it like straight hair.

[@Girlintheewild]

This!!!

[@commentateurtrice0705]

Only and truly !

[@90ejb]

I agree

[@abbasdaughter7777]

That is absolutely true

[@tracybrown2738]

Absolutely!!!!! You took the words right out of my mouth.

[@invadingminds]

I think a lot of ppl spent way too much time on social media instead on truly going on their own personal hair journey.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@shenadarling50]

Nah it happens in real life too. I had a girl tell me why I didn't style my hair. Sis my hair was in mini twists😂. It be from our own ppl and I just can't understand

[@tintamanengu]

@@shenadarling50 💚❤️👆🏾

[@Aunestly]

Agreed cause I love my natural hair

[@user-on6xc8dk4z]

You can say that again

[@Kissmycrown]

My natural hair got easy when I stopped trying to force my hair into unnatural styles 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@tricksgrl2]

Lol

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚

[@diamondcascadeblackspring7260]

Preach it! ❤

[@MJ_Solo]

This is just propaganda. No beauty routine takes no time and no effort, people will spend hours and days plucking, bleaching, dying, and gluing and styling a wig, but taking some time and effort to learn your natural hair is all of a sudden too much work.

[@aliyahharmon9045]

I think it should be up to the individual to decide what they want to put effort into. If hair isn't one of them then that's their call.

[@fayelis]

@@aliyahharmon9045 We dont live on an island. If any of these women were to have kids, especially a black daughter. They would traumatize them because of their hair repeating the cycle.

[@aliyahharmon9045]

@@fayelis Traumatize is such a strong, negative Word for someone's hair choice. The natural hair community is truly a cult following. We're getting to a point where people aren't natural by choice but by fear of backlash and being accused of self-hate. Hair is only as deep as you make it.

[@fayelis]

@@aliyahharmon9045 no it really is that deep. When you see people in this video having mental breakdowns its that dam deep. live in your lalala world and pretend there were not centuries when blacks were being programmed that everything about them was inferior. Go to a place predominately black and look and see 7 out of 10 black women wearing weave. "To say its only as deep as you make it" is foolishness. How many little black girls have painful memories crying as their hair was hot combed/permed. Never seeing represntation of yourself and media and constantly being pushed that straight hair is the only thing pretty. People being denied jobs for their natural hair and say that stupidity that its not that deep.

[@crazyfurbabieslady]

🎯

[@aleathacoleman6413]

I love my natural hair.

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️

[@keishaomole4320]

Same here I love my natural hair also.. I do consider myself a lazy natural washing and detangling and styling doesn't take me hours of end.

[@kittyyoutuber9]

Same! Mine is soft and curly

[@denisej2937]

Yesssssssss 4c and PROUD✊🏾! I think these women is over exaggerating. All you need is a good detangling moisturizer and shampoo. It cuts the time and less stress.

[@pwettyprincess9773]

Im a lazy natural. You really don't need to do much for your natural hair. People need to be more patient and find out what works for them. You can literally keep you hair in a high puff for two weeks and people want to say natural hair is too much work.

[@jozzz222]

That’s exactly what I do!!

[@denyshadials5702]

That’s a detangling nightmare for me. I never wear a puff longer than a couple days. But styles that showcase volume are usually the most becoming, so I agree with that aspect of a puff.

[@tobekai]

Two flat twists, two braids, updos, flat twists, cornrows or buns. Put it up and put it away

[@Badgirl-mookie]

Yup I'm a lazy one to !! 😊

[@ED-lc8qk]

That's from your point of view. Everyone's hair does not have the same manageability. Some people's hair is course to the point pony tails don't work. So you can't say this for everyone.

[@Definitelynotabot4]

It doesn't require you to do alot if you just let it do what it naturally do.

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️

[@zooweellama]

Right. I’m rocking my afro. Keep it moisturized, wash every few days and slap a bonnet on at night. People make it complicated.

[@samlewis6615]

Exactly!! Keep your routine simple and products to a minimum. For me I moisturize ( fully wet & rinse or wash when needed usually once or twice a month) & detangle once a week which allows me to wear my afro out for a whole week. I use a curl pudding & grease dats it 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Jesusisnotcomingback2150]

I don’t care what anyone says. I love my hair and I’ll keep wearing it in its natural state. Get used to it

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️ Amen to that

[@sarahwilson6458]

Are you 4B/4C because that’s a different conversation. I tried that (no twist out) and my hair tangled so bad :(

[@Liyahw2326]

Look at how the Asian people are now trying to imitate Afro textured hair like our own. Thats how ridiculous we look trying to emulate others. I used to be a follower as well so no disrespect. I used to say natural hair is too difficult too. But the truth is I didn’t love myself enough then. I’m 8 years natural and now have waist length hair, something I could never achieve with chemicals. My beauty is real bc I realized God didn’t make no mistakes when he created me. Black women your crown is extremely beautiful and unique. Embrace your texture. Loving my hair was the best thing I could have done. Super easy maintenance. I feel the most beautiful , comfortable and confident I’ve ever felt

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚

[@TheMspoodle2]

I will choose my natural hair always

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️👏🏾

[@deeharris7452]

I love my natural hair. I went natural in December 2013 and have never looked back. I said I will never go back to relaxed hair. A lot of black women went natural because it was a FAD to them/ because everybody was doing it type thing. My hair being relaxed was not easier for me. I had to put in work everyday to keep my relaxed hair looking good etc. I can exercise more frequently with my hair being natural. I do not give a damn about what no one thinks about my natural hair. Any one who does not like my hair can kiss my a**. Period

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️

[@Goddess_Infinity]

Period!

[@90ejb]

That's right!

[@yanni_]

My mother growing up never allowed me to wear weave, have a relaxer or straighten my hair outside of the holidays. It forced me to appreciate my hair. And not be dependent on wigs/extensions

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️

[@tangiechapman6219]

I wish my mother was like that grown-up with me. I had relaxers when I was seven or eight.

[@lavonnealexander6936]

I was the opposite now , I am trying to do my own natural hair.

[@isolda980]

For me, doing the job of 4c hair is negatively impacted by menopause. Also, the only pushback I received from going natural was from us, at work. NEVER ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE CHANGED INTO SOMEONE OTHER THAN WHAT THE CREATOR CREATED.

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️ Amen 🙌🏾

[@shanchan8247]

Unfortunately that has been my experience. Why can't black women be more accepting of each other and how we wear out hair?

[@darceyderosa2426]

It's our own people who do this

[@msdiva]

Actually....non-melanated supremacy, in conjunction with Eurocentric beauty standards, conditioned us to see our Afrocentric features as inherently inferior. And we are STILL going the deconditiong process & learning to love ourselves.

[@LonnieBhi]

​@@msdivaAt some point, bp need to hold themselves accountable & stop putting the blame on others. Nothing is going to change unless you make it reality, normalize natural hair. What better way to express that by simply living in truth. It's a God given right.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@tintamanengu]

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[@tricksgrl2]

Natural Black hair is very simple… but when you low key try to change its texture😏 that’s when it gets complicated. Just let it be.

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚

[@beautifuldreamer8803]

When I do wear my natural hair A LOT of people's anti blackness come out. Including other 🖤 people. That why some don't wear their natural hair out all the time. Only long, thick type 3 hair is accepted.

[@mariepearl-harbour2335]

And type 4 hair that is long is seen as amazingly exotic. Regarding hair types is just divide and conquer tactics, and to scare women with the coily so called type 4 hair from showing their beautiful hair glory. It seemed to have worked again the agenda. 'Nothing new under the sun.'

[@sarahwilson6458]

Amen. If I ever wear it out I either do a twist out or blow it dry. Unfortunately there is a double standard in the black hair community. You can wear you unaltered fro but it can’t be type 4 hair bc it’s not desirable or deemed pretty. It’s been like that for years and I don’t think we will ever grow out of that mindset if there isn’t enough representation to embrace it.

[@mariepearl-harbour2335]

@@sarahwilson6458 Are you an Afro-American woman? It seems in the Afro-American community coily hair that is considered type 4 is undesired. It's not like that in the Afro-Caribbean community especially the British Afro-Caribbean community in London, UK. The texturism is no way that bad, despite the Afro-American influences. America sounds really horrible, the colourism and texturism is off the roof in the Afro- American community. The majority of Afro-American women I would assume have coily, what is ignorantly described as type 4 hair. So what is the problem?

[@Missiloveafrica]

True people are racist as fuck even our own people sometimes

[@farmhouseonthemountain]

All the rules are what cause the natural hair fatigue. I keep my hair stretched, I wear half wigs maybe one day a week, and I don't do wash & go. I get more compliments on my natural hair than I do in a half wig. Everyone needs to do what's good for them. I consider myself a lazy natural so I don't find it to be a crazy amount of tiring maintenance, but a lot of these ladies are doing the most and I can see why they get burned out.

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️

[@Liyahw2326]

Ladies, adjusting to the social norm of straightening our hair or wearing another races hair texture on our heads is a mindset that is very difficult to overcome but the benefits to loving yourself as is unlocks a new level of confidence like no other! I used to get upset because my hair would not lay down after I relaxed it and it would always frizz up! After all those years of struggle I realized it was just not meant to be relaxed. It was meant to defy gravity! I use to wear the most luxurious wigs and weaves but nothing has ever compared to the beauty I feel from wearing my own natural hair ( now 8 years of long waist length locs). I have never received so many compliments on my overall appearance until I began to love and nurture what God gave me. It wasn’t until after I stopped trying to be something I was not that I found the Gold! I also realized what type of psychological warfare we as women of African descent goes through here in the US. We are beautiful as is! Put all the love and energy you put into weaves into your own crown because everything grows with love!❤

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚

[@zooweellama]

I big chopped my hair last year March and I was TERRIFIED to wear it out as is but I am proud to say a year later and I am more confident than ever wearing my short afro. This is advice to any woman out there who wants to do this but are afraid of being seen. Trust me when I say it will be scary at first BUT YOU WILL GET OVER IT. It will become your normal and it feels really good. I never thought I would ever get to this point. So if I can do it you can too, I promise ❤️

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️thank you 😊

[@coppertonedone]

I absolutely adore my curly kinky hair!

[@veyveye.2985]

Hours and hours of detangling? What am I not doing to my hair that i don't spend hours detangling?

[@fayelis]

This just proves that most black people dont even know how to maintain their hair.

[@cymbamcreynolds8838]

It used to take me 3 hours to detangle my hair before or after washing it outside of the shower. I started detangling and retwisting it in the shower under running water since our hair loves water. It takes about 15 - 20 mins now. Sometimes less. Going back to basics is the best thing I've done to reclaim my time and energy, especially after arm injuries that gave me tendonitis in both arms.

[@Kitana74]

Also doing it into sections and most importantly after detangling a section put it in a twist. Then when you are done detangling rinse out the conditioner with your hair still in the twists

[@fayelis]

@@Kitana74 1. section 2. detangle 3. twist section 4. rinse out conditioner while hair is detangled/. I will follow that method

[@Kitana74]

@@fayelis Yh and if you are doing a wash and go/ twistout, unravel one twist at a time and apply your styling products. After your hair has been styled and dried, do the banding method ( probably into 2/3 sections) before you put your hair in your bonnet/ scarf at night. This helps stretch your hair and more importantly, keep your hair from compressing and tangling up in your bonnet

[@Ms_Introvert_4_Life]

I love a woman who is completely done with wigs and Weaves. Natural beauty is the best beauty, from the crown to the toes.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@Thekenyatta]

I think we first have to unlearn what we ever thought about hair. Then we have to love what we are working with. I have 3 daughters all different texture and I keep their hair laid, and all need a different technique, but where there is a will there is way. We have a problem with comparison. Once I loved what I got, it doesn’t matter what any one says, my hair is a something I take pride in taking care of. I learned to love doing it and letting it be. It’s never perfect, but I love it. I wish we all felt like that. ❤

[@tintamanengu]

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[@sg5720]

The issue is SOCIETY norms. If Blk women can just wear their hair out and free without judgement we would. We our natural fro and people judge us even our own. Allow BW to wear their hair as is and you will see more blk women without the extras in their hair. Every other race can wear their own hair NP, but blk women have to tame theirs. Change the narrative. 🙏🏽😌

[@tintamanengu]

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[@Opinionatedcancer]

You have to change the norm by wearing your hair. Society isn’t just gonna wake up one day and just love our hair

[@The1GeminII]

@@Opinionatedcancer-Why do they even get an opinion, though?

[@ceecee8924]

Exactly I live in a white community now and when I wore my hair out the stares and looks I got was ridiculous it's like they ALL EXPECT you to wear weave

[@selenama]

​@The1GeminII I think that's the point they're trying to make : if society won't accommodate you then society's opinion is irrelevant. We alone have the power to bring about change.

[@ebonyeverly5289]

Loc the hair up and call it a day. Been loc'd for more than 3 years, and it has been the best hair decision I have ever made. All i do is spray with water daily, oil twice a week and put a bonnet on at night. Then, in the morning, I shake and go.#TeamLocs

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚

[@vmploverr]

I really wanna start mine this year but probably after I finish college, what method did you use to start if you don't mind me asking

[@ebonyeverly5289]

@vmploverr I did braid locs, but I would recommend doing full interlocking from start. Also, I would not get extremely small locs like over 500. I have 220 locs but started off with 300 or so, then combined a few, and a few popped off because they were too small and post partum shedding.

[@vmploverr]

@@ebonyeverly5289 Thank you x

[@Hypatia04]

Same here...7 years in August. I keep a bonnet on in the house. When I leave, I'll either wear them up or down & I'm out the door

[@trinitychicken3704]

Im going to say it and I absolutely do not care about the backlash. MOST OF THESE WOMEN CAUSED THEIR OWN PROBLEMS!!!! "I gOttA wEAr mY wiG" and "I gOttA spEnD rEnT oN wEaVE" like, no one told you to do that. Nobody forced you to do that. Can someone please tell me why weave and wigs are what doing their hair is to them, because people act like they have to go hand and hand. A lot of them made the natural hair journey unnecessarily hard for absolutely no reason other than they just wanted to go with every single trend they saw. They choose a high maintenance life, it really didnt have to be even half as hard as they made it out to be. Yes I do understand that some black women do have big problems with their hair, but you really do not need to be spending thousands getting weave and your hair braided or spending 8 hours a week doing your hair. It is not your hair, IT IS YOU! I have VERY, VERY, VERY thick, long, and low porosity hair. I guess im what you call a lazy natural because I usually wash and retwist my hair once a month (could do it more often if I wanted to, but why bother if once a month is working with no itching?). Natural hair is not hard, its only as hard as you make it out to be. How much do yall wanna bet in about 6-12 months at least 60% of these natural to perm girls will regret their decision? And before anyone says it, no im not hating, this is just a vent because Im really sick of weak minded naturals, who went natural just because everuone else went natural, and follow every single trend they see without thinking about anything. Its sad really, they got the big chop because of the natural trend, grew their hair to great lengths, and then perm again? This all could have been prevented with some critical thinking skills and proper knowledge on how to take care of your hair. START THINKING AND STOP FOLLOWING EVERY TREND, whether your natural or not.

[@Definitelynotabot4]

Girl I keep my braids in 2 months no problem. They just fighting the nature of their hair when wearing your natural hair truly needs you have a certain level of acceptance to how it truly is

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️

[@carolwilliams8517]

PREACH!!!

[@Seeingisntbelieving]

So yeah, I’m natural and I have 3c/4a hair but it requires frequent washing because I have allergies year long. So yeah it’s a job but I love it😊. My sister has 4b/4c and does nothing to her hair-literally washes it whenever and combs it infrequently-no problems for her.

[@trinitychicken3704]

Im trying to keep my twists in for two months this time! ​@@Definitelynotabot4

[@mynameispeaches]

I'm not good with my hair either way. I lack the skills and patience. Relaxers are work as well in that I had to get them often (BIG difference in texture with 4C new growth), which wasn't healthy. I prefer natural because I don't miss wasting my Saturdays in the salon. As long as I have enough hair to pull back into a bun, or can add a textured hair piece, I can make myself presentable in less than 10 minutes. The beauty industry would collapse if BW stopped spending money on hair products. So they will always push the idea that we need to make our hair do something it would not otherwise do.

[@tintamanengu]

So true❤️💚

[@nnzulu7684]

The issue is people always wanting it to look 'laid' and 'neat'. Once I got over the obsession with slick styles and styled edges my hair flourished without me doing much

[@tintamanengu]

💚❤️

[@yvonnemakori9869]

Me too

[@venaetheartist8067]

Choose how you want to perceive yourself and your hair. Its difficult if you decide it to be. Its beautiful if you say it is. All that matters is what you speak act and feel about yourself. Everyone else is irrelevant. Its freedom.

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚

[@ivybee347]

It was too much and I hate doing hair. Just really didn't have time. I locd my hair in 2018 and haven't looked back 6 years later.

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚

[@jejelaurent9495]

The crackhead 🤪 got me.

[@jejelaurent9495]

Blow out and twist out help me alot.

[@tintamanengu]

I'm yet to try a twist out.

[@Definitelynotabot4]

​@@tintamanengu it's lifechanging

[@fayelis]

african threading is also really good and doesnt require heat for stretching.

[@roedawson4236]

Oddly enough I felt I was received better when I wore my natural hair! Almost like I wasn’t trying to be someone or something else. Just my experience though.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@ashleyrobinson9129]

I'm a natural hair woman and idc who got a problem with it. I do my own hair and when I have one of my hair treatments in I wrap it up in a scarf for weeks then wash and style either in mini twist or a low manipulation style. Me embracing my hair shouldn't make me feel uncomfortable and I'm not not gone allow others to make me feel uncomfortable because of my hair. Other women can do as they please, but ima show up as ME!!! I use to wear a lot of weaves and stuff in my teenage years and early 20’s then when I hit mid 20’s I began to fall in love more with my natural hair rather than my braided or quick weave styles and since then my edges have grown back, my hair is fuller, etc. Without all the tight yanking and high manipulation hair styles to “fit in” The more you wash and deep condition your hair the more your texture will naturally soften because it's moisturized and healthy. The hair that naturally grows out of my head ain't ugly and doesn't make me look ugly!!! It's the hate of others when I wear it that's ugly. It's like they be mad because you don't hate yourself so they gotta hate your natural hair for you in attempts to bring down your confidence in who you truly are. I see through the tactics and I'm not moved and most of the time it be other black people who do it #Fu@kThemPeople 😂🪮🤎

[@stephaniejones1413]

My hair had been relaxed from age 7 to 45. I stopped relaxing during 2020. I can't ever see myself going back to relaxed hair. It's honestly been such a joy for me these last few years getting to know my own hair. I think that I probably don't feel some type of way about wearing my natural hair in public or at work because I never got a chance to live with it at a younger age and form any negative opinions about it. I look so much better with it in its tight coily state too which is just an added bonus for me.

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚

[@librarianrose4472]

Micro or sister locs saved me

[@ebonyeverly5289]

Me too, the easiest and best decision I have ever made.

[@pageturningpriestess2859]

I only get my hair flat ironed once or twice a year. I only have two styles: my hair braided (with my own hair) and a braid out. But when I get it flat ironed, I get treated so differently. One year I flat-ironed my hair and someone asked, "Excuse me, but are you a lawyer?" Later that day, somebody asked if I was a doctor. A lot of people asked if I was from India. I felt extremely self-conscious. It didn't even feel like my hair, even though it was my hair! Another year, I had my hair flat-ironed and some customers at work started to flirt with me. I know some women might be flattered but over the years I have found it very disturbing, this obsession with straight hair or even nearness to straight hair. I meet a lot of women daily who are trying to grow their hair. They are all hair types but a majority are somewhere near 4C. Many of them are trying to make their hair into something it isn't and get frustrated. I had to learn to love my hair and know what it did and didn't want to do. I learned to respect it. My hair is not hers, her hair is not mine and each of us has different needs. The more people want to talk trash about a Black woman's hair the more it reveals their secret admiration for it. Even the earliest goddess statues had coily hair. Black women should stop listening to people who don't want them to thrive or embrace themselves. There will always be something we are doing "wrong" even if we are following the list people gave us to follow. There are bald-headed Black supermodels, and there was Grace Jones with her architectural hair. Do what you want to do for YOUR hair. They are just mad that they can't be YOU.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@sandersshameka31]

Your routine is my total routine; braids for a month, braid out the day before wash day, then rinse and repeat. I straighten it every 6 months for clean trim with my Deeper than hair trim cloth. It's flourishing by not manipulating it.

[@xXJade_AssassinXx]

We still wear our natural hair. In fact the whole natural hair movement has not only helped us develop many new ways to grow our hair long, but is destroying so many negative ideals and misunderstanding. I don't hear nor deal with half the things I did in the early 2000's about afro hair, because its becoming more common and more information online and in person about it. Shrinkage was a cool thing and now people even ask me "oh how long does it get when you stretch it?!" because they're starting to associate density with length - as it should be. I don't have an issue with people touching my hair, so I let them have fun experiencing it. Touch is a very primitive way of bonding, and its cultural - bonding when we can share in moments of our differences. I've had ZERO issues with men...except yep you guessed it BLACK men. Black men are chasing status and validation given them being treated like lesser men in this country for so long. Men thirst for status a lot more than women do, and unfortunately women (and men too,) get objectified for "status" reasons. Its kinda funny because whenever I'm around other black women in weave, things get a bit awkward, because not only am I pretty, but my natural hair is longer than their weave (LOL.) Black women weaved up start to feel real uncomfortable around sistas with long natural hair, and that's because the male gaze / human gaze is snatched by afro hair the way it's snatched by blonde hair. A natural black woman just stereotypically comes off as authentic, down to earth (as BBL girls kinda ruined the weave game,) good with money as we aren't spending hundreds on wigs, and more confident. Not saying that to put weave ladies down at all, but just bringing awareness to the shift in world mentality about afro hair, because we started wearing it out more. Give it 10 more years and everyone's gonna laugh at the fact that we even had a natural hair movement, because natural afro hair will just be so common. These gen-alpha babies now have mothers who KNOW how to grow out afro hair, so 6 year olds got afro hair down to their ankles lol. All of those black girls are going to grow up not facing half the trouble us older ones did, which means afro hair will be normalized for them. That's what we want, a better future for the youngins, a better future for afro hair.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@marajones1828]

My natural hair is WAYYY easier than the years I spent wearing it heat straightened. Omg loads easier. I love my natural hair and it's been the best journey of my life cuz I'm not forcing it to be someone it's not. I love my curls, love the bounce I'd my shrinkage, I feel beautiful and sexy after a wash n go. I love it ❤️

[@amireerbaker6541]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 100% related to everything brought up in this video (Good and bad). Thank you for making this and sharing. ❤💪🏾

[@tintamanengu]

❤️😊 thank you for watching

[@starsandlakes8576]

It encourages self care and more time with yourself which conducive for healing and self love. You're literally pumping your energy back into yourself which is important.

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚

[@jasminscarbrough2596]

Brah… all we see is the negative stuff. We should show more of the people that actually love their hair#4c gang❤

[@tintamanengu]

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[@jmanhope1745]

Have we been taught to vicariously live the reality of others? When it comes to females in our lives, males often prefer the world of make believe, also. Males have the same hair but not the same relationship with our African hair as females do. We must begin to live our reality and not the reality of others.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@mariepearl-harbour2335]

Apologies West/East/South/Central African hair ranges, the same with Afro-Caribbean, Afro-Hispanic and Afro-American hair textures and types. Everyone's hair is truly unique. Not even every coily hair shrinkage is exactly the same.

[@jmanhope1745]

@@mariepearl-harbour2335 the problem seems to be believing certain hair textures are BETTER than others, which is the bummer. We must overcome self hatred with EVERY fiber of our being!

[@mariepearl-harbour2335]

@@jmanhope1745 The truth is there are favoured or should I say preferred hair textures. There is a preferred curly type and a preferred coily type. Their are ideal natural hair types for both coily and curly hair. However, it is important that women stop comparing themselves and embrace their own natural beauty.

[@jmanhope1745]

@@mariepearl-harbour2335 just like everything, preference of hair texture is in the eyes of the beholder. However, something is amiss when people begin to qualify hair created by God as "good hair" and other hair created by God as "bad hair". Mariepearl-harbour, I must give you credit for not describing a particular hair texture as nappy, knotty, kinky and coarse, as so many of us often do.

[@vmlksm9]

Type 4 hair is hard when you wake up everyday trying to make it look like type 2&3. The same way Type 1 hair would be hard if you woke up everyday trying to make it look like Type 3&4.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@kittyyoutuber9]

I have short hair (because of a hair condition), and even then it’s kind of hard to detangle it. But I STILL love my hair, I love how soft it is, I love how bouncy it is, I love how great it feels on my head.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@lindao9377]

Every race of women wash, detangle and blow dry. It's not a unique experience to black hair. They also have hair issues which is part of taking care of your body. For black hair it's moremof soviety norms and how you treated. The difference is real bit 8 dont care.. It’s on them. Not changing jow God created me to makemothers comfortable or to like me...

[@tintamanengu]

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[@SugaBee]

This is not for the weak😅

[@tintamanengu]

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[@yetundethesketcher542]

Personally, I've learned to take days off to do my natural hair. I dont care what or who needs me 😂😂😂

[@tintamanengu]

A few good self care days❤️💚👏🏾

[@diamondcascadeblackspring7260]

Please take a read... ❤ I have had natural all my life. However, there have been times when I wished I could style my hair quickly. There were times I envied my friend who cut it short. However, I knew if I cut mine, then I personally would regret it after my knotty period was over. During covid I detangled in the shower and with shampoo and that really help phase out some of my irritation. I also have to say thank you for the some many black female, KZbin content creators out there. Without the awareness, discussions and testimonials I would have never found a routine that works for me. There are many ideas out there. Find the approach that best suits you. Don't be discouraged ladies. Our hair teaches us patience, understanding, acceptance, gentleness and constant self improvement. When we look at it from this perspective we resent it a lot less. Also, our hair gives a sense of community with other black women, knowing our hair struggles are not ours alone. And if there is anything thing we can't handle, there is always headwear in the interim.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@honks9484]

My hair has been flourishing ever since I stopped using protective styles with extension hair. I grow my hair in wash and go’s and I know it’s hard for most to do that, but it’s been working sooo good for my hair and all I do every night before bed is put it up into twisted Bantu knots, loose twists, or braids and then cover with a bonnet. Every day I wake up with beautiful curly hair and it saves me so much time bc I don’t have to take time to do my hair before I head outside like I used to do. Moral of the story is that you need to find out what works for your hair and what it likes. It took me this long to find out how to properly take care of my hair and find out how to make it look good everyday. I’ve never had a good hair day everyday but I do now!😂❤

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚 thanKs for sharing

[@honks9484]

@@tintamanengu 🥺❤️

[@lindao9377]

They care too much about other people's opinion of them...I rock my natural hair locs braids snow here...I don't care for wigs or weaves that don't look like my hair texture.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@lelecheesy]

So proud of the comments. Especially since we are finding out so many things are causing our cancer. I remember under someone’s post on tiktok the women they don’t care and that if everything is harming us anyway then why not relaxers and perms,?which is crazy to me. And another post said perms are actually causing us black women cancer, one of many contributors to our decline in health.

[@Ms9mmBeretta]

They don't love themselves and they've been conditioned to think that black hair is ugly and unkempt.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@eena3173]

I hate when people talked about my hair and how the texture looked different and it never looks combed. I’m from the Caribbean and people expected it you do your natural hair every strain is suppose to be curly, every edge is suppose to laid. While forgetting one head can have many textures.

[@wanidawright1343]

Yes it is a lot of work, but the outcome of having long healthy hair is WORTH IT!!!! I've been natural for 6 yrs!!!! Never give it on what God has blessed you with.

[@noirefit5954]

Natural hair, especially 4a-4c hair, is only difficult when we don’t accept it for how it is and how it looks. All the manipulation makes it almost impossible to have a healthy and happy natural hair journey

[@ladyd8800]

Well said! 👏

[@tintamanengu]

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[@adjeleganl2984]

I think we haven't truly moved the needle on redefining beauty expectations. Black women are the only ones who can set that bar. I get that it comes with comes with stuff, but we're worth it.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@AntiJeffreyMcCrayCommunity]

I rocks the hell outta my twists and 4c curls but sometimes I gotta tuck my naps. 😂

[@tintamanengu]

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[@AFocusedLiving]

It was really to prove to men we have long hair and when the attention most decided to go back. I will say don't watch channels of people that arent your texture unless you are planning to change your texture to it.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@Stoudem]

Definitely not for me and majority of bw. As for myself it’s to see what my real hair looked like.

[@bre9328]

Are you kidding!? And this comment actually got likes? The natural hair movement a nothing to do with proving anything to men. Im not trying to be disrespectful but one thing ppl will do in this community is create a narrative.

[@denyshadials5702]

Sweetie no. The men are now copying us so they can grow and accept their hair without using locs (nothing wrong with locs, but it’s a common misconception among men that their hair can only grow with locs). All of the OG KZbin videos, all the old forums/blogs to read. Not a single one even hinted at men and their acceptance of our hair. It was all about self-discovery and self-love. AND there were a sprinkle of OG KZbinrs who were men, their channels just weren’t as popular. Men and women’s natural hair (as far as ‘impressing’/‘proving’ to each other) wasn’t a conversation until red pill became a thing-that’s less than a decade old. The true origin of the natural hair movement goes all the way back to the 1970s. Men and women started it together and took different roads. But more and more of us are ending up in similar locations.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

​@@Stoudem Same for me. It was also because my hair was so damaged from relaxers, I had no other choice...

[@tecklafurro2040]

I've been natural for 7 years now and have been using my own hair oil that helps stimulate my scalp.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@bunnybeeyou8026]

Thanks for this video. I have coily hair 4c. I have been natural since 2012. For the past 10 years, I've kept my my hair in box braids. It was fine until i had my son. My scalp and my hair will no longer tolerate them anymore.myhair will get so dry and brakenoff in the worst way. Im sure its because because of the years of wearing them. It could be hormonal. Or the brading hair could have changed over years. I dont think braiding jam helped either. But I've come to realize that i never gave myself time to learn how to properly take care of my hair because i could always hide behind braids. I did them myself and always gotten compliments on them. So im on another journey of learning how to take care of my hair. Now that hairstylists are finally spilling the tea about hair science 🙄. Its not as hard as i thought. I wanna be able to teach my daughter how to care and love herself, if i have one in the future.

[@bunnybeeyou8026]

I wanna add this too. I've written life off as a game. I recently stopped playing video games for some reasons but thinking of life like a video game has helped me understand life a whole lot better. In some games, the character you choose can make the game easier or harder. You have access to different areas or even missions. Bringing it to real life, I think of our hair as the same thing. Certain hairstyles will open up social groups ,or even better, financial opportunities. Same with weight/appearances. Now this is f×cked up. In real life it shouldn't matter. I shouldn't have to put on a wig for ppl to accept me especially my own ppl. But that's how the game go. How you wanna play it? If u can't stand how ppl treat you with your hair, what is the plan.? Truth is, They dont have accept your hair. Its their personal choice. There are infinite possibilities of how u can go about it. You can not subscribe, wear your hair how u want, and live your best life. Or your can play along to get where you going. You can get what you want out of life either way,really. We just have to be aware and understand how each path will affect us and how we truly want to live our lives.

[@lisaoneal8792]

I soooo much agree I have 4c hair I have hard time styling. Ugh!!! Can't please a man please yourself! Learning man like weaves r natural they just miss up in the mind!!

[@tintamanengu]

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[@Introvertsan]

It's hard to manage and maintain even if your hair grows long unless you are really a great hair dresser or stylist it is difficult. If you have psoriasis, dermatitis, fuzzy or frizzy hair you cant be one of those girls who can wear braids, sew ins or extensions for even a month much more three months. Then its not only time consuming but expensive with prices from hair dressers and hair stylists. Natural hair products are also expensive typically unless you are going to stick with just using grease and lotion and you still cant leave it out, or leave it in certain hair styles because it will get knotted and dry. It's pretty hair just not easy hair. And I am saying this as someone who had had natural hair for the majority of their life from childhood to adulthood and only briefly processed it before reverting to natural.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@PrettyPrincess9609]

I love my natural hair but it takes me over an hour to do my hair on wash day and all I do is wash, detangle, and braid it in four braids. If I were to do mini twists or a blow out, it would take me HOURS! I have long thick mid back length hair. Sometimes it’s annoying having to spend an hour doing your hair every week so I can understand their frustration. Also I wore my natural hair on vacation FOR THE FIRST TIME and I will never forget the STARES I got. Why is it wrong to wear my natural hair to a WATER PARK ?! Who cares if it’s frizzy ?! I’m at a WATER PARK! I literally feel ashamed wearing a messy bun to the gym or a water park because of how people act. 🙄

[@tintamanengu]

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[@zaidarivas7152]

I love my natural hair. It took me some time to learn how to take care of it, but I'm 10 years in, all natural. Its the longest its ever been too.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@tiptriptravel]

I’m here in Little Rock, Arkansas and there are more Black people out here with natural hair than relaxed or wearing wigs. A lot of people with locs of different kinds. I’ve been naturally for 26 years. I’ve never felt that my natural hair was hard to manage. I think this is just a lot of self hatred and laziness…trying to make your hair do something it not meant to do.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@RxchLJ]

I’m 30 and have only just been natural for the past 4 years, there’s no way that managing relaxed hair is easier, I think a lot of us are lying 😂 now if the reason for wearing relaxed hair / wigs is because you want to change it up and recognise our versatility, great! But those who do so because it’s closer to the western beauty standard and don’t recognise their own beauty have some work to do at no fault of their own ❤️

[@senpaihere7604]

I love my natural hair now I did the big chop in December

[@xGhostRidah]

I believe God made no mistakes when he designed our hair. Trying to change it is a slap in the face. And you wonder why your prayers don't get answered.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@splendorpromised2273]

Finding (stumbling through what the next person said is the right/best products are and waisting $$. Finding the best style for type and length of hair and buying the correct styling tools is hard work. Not to mention how your hair is going to respond to weather, wind, heat or moisture in the air is another problem. An afro may not look the same after you get where you're going.... People around you may not tell you your style bailed out on u in public. Consisant mirror checking, style critiquing and hair training is hard work for yourself, especially coming from a relaxer or pressed style all your life....

[@tintamanengu]

I hear you, especially hair's response to environmental factors, for the few times I tried to wear my hair straightened (blown out), it was back into its afro state a few hours later. But I feel things like that can be avoided if we don't try so hard to make our hair do what it's naturally supposed to be doing, and if we choose otherwise then we shouldn't be disappointed at how much work needs to be put it🤷🏾

[@jacquelynn2051]

Natural hair imho is difficult for women who truly utilize their hair as if it’s an outfit…and they wanna wear a new outfit every day and they are being smart to braid their own hair underneath those wigs. I’m a Basic Bonquesha way past trying to impress others solely based on my appearance as long as I’m clean…so natural for 45 of my almost 50 years and I used to get braids aka extensions, however I was never into wigs or weaves. I also attribute my thickness to low manipulation and leaving my hair alone. I never was into trends and it’s a no brainer if you need attention…wear that kinky Afro and minimal makeup…you’ll stand out trust me.😊. Also men will often go for the trend doers assuming they are into impressing others aka men… meanwhile you wear your Afro and holding a book…Chile they see danger so this one trendy saying that I do like: rejection is protection.

[@TheRealHER-ny7xz]

I just started wearing my natural hair 11 months ago , I don't plan on going back to weave or braided hair . I feel free and more in love with myself !

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚 wishing this for all of us.

[@hybridinfodesk409]

They haven't learned it. Just did mine today. Drying is the longest part, but in the summer, heat should be easier. My hair came out nice. Deep condition before washing and rinse out afterward. No product today, just jojoba oil.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@MichelleG333]

It is hard, I have fine 4b hair, I don’t want to relax it because I want to be chemical free, but my wash and go’s also suck. I’ve been transitioning to heat training I don’t have time for hair trauma every 7 days. I had locs for 5 years and that was nice but I wanted a change

[@tintamanengu]

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[@jeanett8416]

I think it is harder to take care of relaxed hair vs natural. When I was relaxed my hair grew fast, therefore, I had to maintain the upkeep of 2 different textures. relaxed hair is high maintenance due to having to repeat the application of the chemical treatment. Once I learned how to treat and take care of my natural 4c hair, it literally takes 30 minutes for my wash and go, Then I air dry. I personally think black women are more beautiful with their natural hair however, that is just my preference.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@CarmenSD]

my natural hair is thin, fine, and short. I couldn’t do much with it. I wish I could get my hair up for a cute puff ponytail or bun. Yes I’m healthy, eat protein, take all the vitamins and supplements, deep condition, massage scalp, everything. My hair is naturally like that. I relaxed after almost 10 years.

[@tintamanengu]

Doesn't that make it thinner though?

[@moriah9132]

Mine too.

[@CarmenSD]

@@tintamanengu possibly, but it will genetically thin out anyway. As much as people don’t want to admit it, hair growth, retention, and texture is mostly genetic. I only get a professional relaxer every 3-4 months. It has made my hair routine easier.

[@sarak4418]

Yes it does. Im sick of mines now. I been natural since 2009 im ready for the scissors. And im a 3b so it dont matter your hair type. People just get tierd of it. My sister had been a Beautician for over 25 years and she was the reason i went natrual in the first place. Because my hair was very then so i let her cut my perm out been natural ever since. But i will be fading it soon no perm.

[@Anime_no_joō]

My hair couldnt handle relaxers. I knew i wanted to have natural hair. Once i had it. I couldnt do it. It took too much time and i had a newborn at the time. So i got locs.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@Davian775]

I cut my hair short and it is really nice and easy to take care of. But, at the same time i want to grow my hair out and be able to wear it down. a lot of maintenance though

[@tintamanengu]

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[@aliyahharmon9045]

Hair should be a choice even if it's not natural.

[@barbararichardson2747]

Can't imagine a mature and confident adult allowing others to choose for them.I do what makes me feel attractive others are irrelevant!

[@aliyahharmon9045]

@@barbararichardson2747 I love that! I wish that for everyone.

[@arayaday1774]

Natural hair really isn’t hard. You will find if you want long beautiful and THRIVING hair you have TO TAKE your time and find out what makes your hair thrive. Nothing is done in a day overnight. You have to put in work I find that protective styles retain length in my hair I have 3c hair. It’s easier to moisturize it prevents tangles and knots and I love that 😊

[@tintamanengu]

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[@aliyahbeanmean]

It took me my whole high school life to learn and love my natural hair, it might take sum ppl longer but I also dont want to police black woman on their hair.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@WTFVIDSok]

I’m over the constant complaining about how hard it is to take care of natural hair! #1-stop being a product junkie. Shampoo, conditioner, oil. PERIOD. Did just that for many years and my hair was fine. #2- stop fantasizing about long hair. ALL long hair, be it, Asian, Indian, European, takes EXTRA CARE. Look around. Most Caucasian women have shoulder length hair or shorter for a reason. #3- cut your hair to a length that is EASY for you. No one is holding a 6un to your head. Short Afro, dope. Caesar, also dope. PLEASE DO YOU and ignore haters, one and all.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@tamradillonittybittysiddit1536]

I will never perm my Nair it's braided and well cared for growing like crazy I'll make videos about it sooner then later ❤

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚 would love to see it.

[@Dfgjgjod]

Lmao so I kind of did “quiet quitting” on my natural hair. It only grows to a certain length which is long enough for me. I now Make my wash day happen for only 1 hour because I’m just over it. Wash and condition, comb with jumbo ugly twist. When it’s time to go I just put it in a ponytail and leave.

[@kymania.c.915]

I've been to a hair salon twice in my life. The first time it was just a wash because my step mom wanted to take me and my grandma on a girls day and that was fine. I remember my stepmom was surprised they didn't charge more for my hair because it took so much longer than theirs. The second time, however.. I was in high school and wanted a tapered cut for my birthday and failed miserably attempting to do it myself so my mom was nice enough to take me to a salon to "fix" it. Long story short, the lady put a texturizer in my hair because it was too thick for her and said it was "temporary". It didn't even look anything like the picture I showed her. I wore it for a few months, until the lack of shrinkage was pissing me off too much that I cut the texturized parts off. I've been to barbers since, only when I wanted a design or professional looking haircut, but other than that, I've gotten the hang of cutting it myself for the most part

[@tintamanengu]

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[@CarlaRFowler]

Just subscribed

[@tintamanengu]

Aaaw thanks and welcome hope you like it here 😊

[@st-od8mt]

Sisters! We have a problem. We need to love & accept ourselves that goes for our hair as well accept your hair rather it's short straight long corly,kinky take care of your hair find out what products work for you work it ouuut.❤

[@tintamanengu]

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[@jemimahkwakuyi7879]

Bra strap length here. I spend 45 minutes washing and 1 - 2 hours styling dependent om the style. I domt do braids or twists unless i have time. Updos are my go to. I wash every 2 weeks. It took me 3 years to reach here. I learnt to do my hair. My entire family complained but now they are jealous of my growth. What causes this is lack of education. Coily hair is easy if you know what you're doing. If not, do what worka for you. But hair doesnt have to be painful And 9 times out of 10 black hairstylists hate 4c hair and will see you as a burden My two cents on tne matter (also i have a full time job, hobbies and demanding family but no kids though)

[@tintamanengu]

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[@AfroGirl5852]

PSA: Once you start doing styles like twists outs and braid outs simples styles instead of the slick and sleek styles with hella gel for your natural hair, doing it will be easier!!!

[@tintamanengu]

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[@sosgirl6846]

I hate this video, not the actual work of the video you did a fabulous job. The subject of us hating our hair. I did too, but one day I decided I would keep trying, so I started washing and twisting it. Yes, it takes time, but I'm now proud of the fact I did it. Yah !!!!! BTW, I love your work (video) new sub and yes I hit the "like" button on the way in.

[@tintamanengu]

Thanks and welcome, hope you like it here 💚❤️

[@navybeans17]

Oh yess it's no joke...lots of work but once u get your grove it's not that bad..i felt free from relaxing. ..European standards should never be the goal because everyone is different.. its only a big deal bc we make it one ...love yourself..ignore the dumb s#it...

[@tintamanengu]

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[@EvieAswiti]

Natural hair is easy and manageable when you wash it often. Moisture > tangles.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@Rhedysky]

I've been natural since birth so I couldn't care less what anyone says but It mostly annoys me when I get comments about my natural hair from blk men like wth you should be applauding blk women wearing their natural hair out. Like what level of uneducated is this?

[@tintamanengu]

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[@RainSoundsHealing818]

Learn to love your hair and love yourself. If you can’t don’t complain when nobody else hates you and your hair. Simple.

[@tintamanengu]

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[@Rosey0928]

I’m white and my natural hair is still hard to take care of. So I can highly relate to this video. But no matter what race I always thought all natural hair looked the best 😊

[@tintamanengu]

❤️💚 that's true 😊

[@2_blAck]

When I wear my natural hair, people feel uneasy about playing with me😂😂😂 They can feel my Black Power attitude💪🏽✊🏽 The wig softens me in their eyes

[@tintamanengu]

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[@SheritaLee-er4sp]

Our hair is our connection to the divine source and they know this it is why they get mad when they see it in it natural state. Malcolm x once asked" who taught us to hate our hair?" It was the others who knew what our hair represents.

[@tintamanengu]

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