Why Everyone Treats You Like A Ghost

[@ColeHastings]

Which tip in the video was most helpful? (I’m making you recall what you learned so you have an easier time remembering it.)

[@itsLantik]

Definitely the point near the end about not forcing a fake personality. I think I often take the wrong message from vids like this, but that really clicked with me! Loved the video Cole!

[@memoryhunter2084]

I must say, it's kind of ironic that my username, MemoryHunter, signifies what you said in the video. I found myself thinking "EXAACTLY!" a lot of times during the videos, like it was second nature. I love to create memories which are full of excitement, full of sadness, which would make me laugh and cry, but laugh over it in the future. The storytelling part was quite memorable since I always inadvertently try to practice being expressive. I don't think about it when I do it, but later on when I rethink myself being in some moment, I do remember that I was expressive albeit with body language or verbally. What I want to expand on is to create memories that involve others, more of person-to-person interaction memories, rather than a "solo" story on whatever topic.

[@FRON.]

IN ORDER TO FIND YOURSELF YOU MUST LOSE YOURSELF ..MARKED

[@CheekClapper69420]

Brosef here preaching "muh self improvement" while promoting a SCAM 🤣

[@CheekClapper69420]

Certainly not the part where you try to promote a scam to your audience. What a letdown

[@mustbecome]

Hard pill to swallow: Being memorable isn't about seeking validation, but about genuinely connecting with others. If we constantly focus on: • Mimicking charisma without genuine interest • Telling stories without emotional depth • Seeking attention without offering value We'll always be overlooked. Why? Because true memorability comes from evoking emotions, sharing genuine experiences, and being authentically present. To truly leave an imprint, dive deep into your experiences, share them with passion, and always prioritize genuine connections over superficial impressions. Keep going everyone!

[@officialbrandonclarkll]

Yup exactly. Perfect explanation.

[@khylerrodriguez1443]

Is there a way to save this comment?

[@markvilman7803]

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[@sabocharge]

@@khylerrodriguez1443 you can screenshot it

[@Mister.420]

I have no experiences

[@Ascendion_Mine]

Actually, out of all the self improvement yt channels, this is the most harsh yet true

[@ColeHastings]

Interesting to hear you say that 😅

[@Ascendion_Mine]

It's because it connects to my reality almost perfectly, probably because you were also a normal person that went through the processes of life already

[@raednk2170]

I believe that he may be trying to manipulate us with his self-improvement content. It seems contradictory that he previously posted a video titled "tragedy of self-improvement" but now claims that it is good. This inconsistency makes me suspicious and leads me to believe that he may be using this content to deceive or manipulate us.

[@x0b34rd4]

⁠@@raednk2170 did you watch that whole video for complete context? It’s a lot more nuanced than outright contradictory, from my perspective anyway

[@cindyy3707]

@raednk2170 what reward would he get out of deceiving us with bad advice? I’m confused

[@CommandoMaster]

Most guys don't want to be famous. They just want love, intimacy, and genuine connection with others, especially women they like.

[@bestia2.063]

Thank you for not directly telling people to do these kinds of drugs but I like the way you suggested it where no blame can come back to you

[@johnrebel544]

6:11 hit me hard … I assume that this is why music is so powerful. Some fans literally relate so much to much to an artist that they would sacrifice/die for them. I think its time for me to start dropping my music and stop being “Mysterious”. Preciate both you & this vid bro 💯

[@waterlily3522]

In the last part of the video i felt like he was talking about the thing everyone knows but never talks about. Thanks. It was jarring.

[@AdityaSingh7]

The last part of the video was so true and it is so less talked about, especially in the KZbin space. Kudos to you for speaking about that. This is why this is one of my favorite channels.

[@Loupoonug23]

I have just realized today that we are emotional creatures and even the most logical people can be the most emotional ones. I am learning to control my own emotions and realize that maybe we do need to socialize in life and that it is okay to not be perfect. It is hard though, since you also have to know your boundaries and not put them up to high and get out your comfort zone sometimes. In order to even think, your emotions also need to be align. We literally depend on them. Yes, it is true, we always remember how people made us feel at a certain moment, but I guess for me, which might sometimes be a good thing and sometimes really bad, I don’t remember, I mostly forget, until I get nostalgic or smell something that reminds me of my childhood. I literally forget the bad and might go back to toxic ways or toxic relationships, which makes it worse then actually feeling the bad. I guess that happens to most of us until we had enough. Anyways great video, hope you keep up your channel ❤

[@keeganshaffer7193]

Thanks cole for you well spoken words. It’s really helped me become the best version of myself.

[@ColeHastings]

Of course bro, thanks for watching the vids

[@istgyash]

So personally, why I want to be more memorable? Well at first glance I thought it would make me more known, more noticed and everyone will give a deeper shit about me, but after spending time with people and understanding more about myself in the process I realized that some part in me, some damn part wants to bond with people on a deeper level, have more memories, that I can remember and giggle about over in the course of years, and actually feel the fulfillment behind knowing people, knowing there's still meaning to actually go out and be with others. Anyways helpful Video Cole... Thankyou!

[@FABIOh1976]

Ok, you convinced me. I'll buy your storytelling course.

[@bazhumke4040]

man another banger. killin it cole. feel first justify second was a great concept

[@jeffjijy]

Every time I watch one of your videos it inspires me to challenge myself, thank you for keeping it real Cole!

[@ColeHastings]

That’s the best type of comment I can receive. Love hearing about you guys taking action

[@antonmuffin6214]

I have 2 things to blabber on about my self 1: towards the end of the video you said ask your self why you wish to be more likeable. the reason im trying to improve my social skills is because i havent been able to make friends after high school and im 30 now. iv tryed "being my self" and what ever other bs I can, but i have never been able to convince some one to be my friend past a short term acquaintance. 2: hate to say it but also after high school I havent had many experiences and dont quite know how to gain more. maybe that is also gimping my ability to make new friends.

[@nadourjfarcuson3487]

As someone younger than you ill tell how ive viewed this. Friends is a lot harder to make as adults because guys and girls dont really share the same space for 8 hours in the same way they do in school. I might be the few that still think dude and girl can be genuine friends althought id say 1 or 2 at best. Upon going to university i saw the difference in thought process of how people interact. You and dudes may share hobbies but will less likely hang out with you if you aint pulling chicks. Same goes where girls will wont hang around you if they dont see you get along with other girls independently of youre bros or if you are a sucker enough to buy their company with your pocket. Literally remember hearing a girl say that a party she wanted / that she would like to go to said somebody would have to sponsor her aka spend their money for her to go. The best you can do is learn an in demand skill that coensides with youre character that gives a career that allows you to make enough to fund youre interest and befriend like minded people

[@bruhlolxdanimewaifu354]

Killed it man... absolutely beautiful video... thanks for the last question as I was trying to be someone which I am naturally not... keep it up mate ! 🔥🔥

[@owenpieper8862]

loved the video. I love socializing, and have watched a few of charisma on command's videos before. I was interested to see how he would act in real life, seems like he is the real deal!

[@Menge5898]

Thank you! I truly like this video about the importance of being yourself.

[@12miles61]

Thanks always for the insightful videos keep them coming hommie.

[@hk6474]

Mind-blown. I can definitely incorporate more emotion-provoking stories into my communication.

[@kyleslavik6324]

Thank you for the video Cole it was very informative and helpful.

[@gibs40]

When meeting new people or people you think are "cool", it is the most unattractive thing trying to imitate them to get them to like you, trying to alter your character to meet their expectations. Authenticity is what gets people to admire you and have an imprint of you in their head because then you're being unique by being you

[@joress]

Then what would you recommend to someone with Aspergers like me? Mimicking others was the only way for me to actually get a group of friends.

[@gibs40]

@@joress Have you been officially diagnosed? If not, then don't make a conclusion on your own and you'll find people who are attracted to your character. Not everybody is supposed to be your friend. If yes, then I don't know much about the syndrome though so i can't give you an answer to that

[@joress]

@@gibs40Yes, I’m diagnosed.

[@bringbackdislikes3195]

Best advice is don't listen to gibs40. Sure, if you become a copy of someone else it will be bad but humans are wired to copy and get inspired by others.@@joress

[@sethostrander2004]

Hey Cole, thanks for your videos on self improvement and communication, as a guy on the Autism spectrum…..you’ve helped me out immensely.

[@Bounded42]

Man your videos are great they're so high quality not too serious relatable just good they motivate me so much thanks for making vids bro keep up the great work🙏🙏🙏

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks for watching them!

[@vespersten6039]

Its hard for everyone, but starts from self respect and value. Something a thing or animals liked respected because their have ability, value or use. Like electronic device with good screen, good chipset, good system it will be expensive, animals respected or liked because their unique traits the color, the ability and dominance, their loyality even fighting spirits. Tbh im still learning about this self respect and value, but if you dont trying to find your self value and lose the spirits to fighting you will appear to be broken. Many people dont like broken things, being broken tend to be less interesting and dumped so no matter if you ghost or not dont lost your self respect, dont lose yourself aside of superpower what makes human interesting is the personality. Thanks for read i hope its good enough im not native En

[@matepalko4806]

You dont need mdma to be with family. No storis are boring with shrooms i think. Looking at someone you're talking to is basic politeness. What you have said in the end is the important part. You don't need other people's validation is you're a full, healthy and conscious person.

[@Univrsalsuniverse]

This Is really helpful thanks cole.

[@mark.martinkovics]

This one I really liked. Especially the end where you gave advice on how to acutally apply what was learned throughout the rest of the video. And you got the retention just right. I started the video and my focus only let go of the screen when you started to thank your patrons😂

[@bestia2.063]

The fact that people have to force themselves into a particular personality is sad these people don't have a true identity they find the need to be something and someone that they are truly not

[@evmarekaj]

I want to be a memorable person becouse in my pursuit of leaving a legacy I will have helped more people than I can already count. In fact I've already achieved that, but I don't want to stop there. I want to die knowing that I did ALL that I could or at least pretty damn near it. In addition, deciding who I want to be and the type of person I want to be is a big part in achieving that goal.

[@gummy3092]

bro knows exactly what i am going through and posts a video

[@alexanderkosche4333]

U have been coming out with bangers recently keep it going

[@marcovargasramirez1576]

Cole, how can I become more memorable if I don't even have a lot of interesting stories to tell in the first place?

[@ColeHastings]

Create more stories.

[@brooksproductions9573]

I'm honestly curious: What if you don't feel like you were given a lot to work with personality wise? I'm a marketing graduate that has some great ideas, but honestly, I'm a charisma vacuum. Aside from therapy, how do you tap into your strengths more?

[@Vivi_9]

By gaining real life experience with success. I personally achieved this through long-term travel, it isn't a guarantee for everyone but it worked for me.

[@brooksproductions9573]

@@Vivi_9 I'm happy to report that I do have my second interview coming up for my first marketing job.

[@Vivi_9]

@@brooksproductions9573 good luck bud!

[@BeardedBeerMan]

I’m growing my hair out and it turns blonde when long. I’m also a grunge artist and write songs. Soon I’ll be walking into a room and people thinking I’m the second coming of Kurt Cobain. That’s got to be memorable

[@ZavieM]

This was so well done!

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@leadnsteel1428]

Im glad with it. When im gone from this life i donr want another one. Im just gonna live alone and turn into a ghost i dont care about money or material things.

[@nxtboyIII]

great video thanks

[@sterlthepearl1000]

And people don't care how much we know, until they know how much we care.

[@joephob1728]

Pretty good advice, I just need to speak to others first.

[@ninauriellenavares1528]

I want to be remembered because the idea seems to be a proof that I have lived or existed.

[@ColeHastings]

That’s actually a fire quote

[@dimcho2552]

Hey to anyone reading this. I dont want to sound self centred or anything but I need help. Recently my mental health has been taking a toll all because of the outcomes of how I talk to people and my social skills all that. For example, when im in a social situation people are talking around me but im a ghost because i cant think of anything funny or cool to say. They do all the talking while i sit there like an npc which bothers me so much and i cant live like this anymore. I wanna experience the joy of building relationships w people and want people to talk to me more. I need help guys please if anyone give me a course or website or any advice literally anything so i can fix this problem.

[@bobafett40]

Why do you wanna sound funny or cool to them, why do you need their approval to feel good bout yourself,this is how many ppl in self help are tricked, why cant you jjust express yourself for you cuz the thing is even if you watch a thousand self help vids on tricks or do the "best" courses it doesn't matter cuz some ppl are not gonna like you either way thats life, but alot of ppl in self help dont say this cuz they wont make money from ppl, just take care of yourself and hv fun ,all this stuff is common sense and simple its just sad that ppl overcomplicate it just to exploit ppl

[@organiseduser7216]

Do you believe, our universe might actually be a dynamic and interconnected web of existence, where everything is intricately woven together, and the boundaries between the self and the cosmos blur into an illusion of separation?

[@ColeHastings]

Something like that, yeah

[@justasimplehuman2099]

Wow great lesson learned but the problem with your videos are the ads within the video that disrupt "The Flow State" of the viewer is not something to be adore hope this feedback will be taken into consideration. ❤

[@disagiato9391]

Omg why Your videos are so relatable

[@jimmyross1325]

Most real guy fr

[@ColeHastings]

Real

[@Sie93]

How to say right thing at the right time? I often end up saying things that I don't mean, and then I realize later, "WTF did I just say?"😶

[@joress]

Same

[@goadventure163]

I cant connect with my friend although i was many year in school and they know that im introvert. I only can talk bravely with my family :((( i also had anxiety.. i think my life gonna end with anxiety forever

[@Krab062]

It doesn’t feel like i can improve in anything unless i have a step by step guide to doing anything…

[@FRON.]

Love you bro I wish you were my big brother

[@ColeHastings]

Love you too bro

[@nunka34ify]

All I’ve ever wanted was to be treated like an equal but instead I’m treated inferior. That’s the price of being on the spectrum 😔

[@joress]

I feel you. I don’t think I’m being treated as less, but I don’t feel as an equal sometimes.

[@caseygreyson4178]

What’s your number 1 tip for giving up pr0n? I recently relapsed severely after doing really well and have been struggling to get on track again

[@ColeHastings]

What do you consider a “severe” relapse?

[@caseygreyson4178]

@@ColeHastingswent from doing it 1-2 times a week to completely quitting for several months, and now doing it at least 3 times a day

[@lesterventura9984]

Im not cole but the most effective way for me has been convincing myself that it doesn't exist. Literally. I dont have trouble dealing with urges because you cant go to war with something non existent. Dont know if this helps.

[@ColeHastings]

@@caseygreyson4178 got it. So the first thing I would do is evaluate what changed in your life when you went from quitting to doing it 3 times a day. Did something happen at school or work? Did you start feeling more stressed/depressed? The reason I ask is that usually, fapping is a symptom of a greater problem in your life, that we use to provide relief from that problem. So instead of asking yourself, "how can i stop fapping?" Ask yourself, "what am i running away from that I need to deal with in a healthier way?". Thats where the answer really lies. Nofap wont fix your life. Fixing your life will naturally make you do nofap.

[@MyChannel-on9wc]

I can tell this video is about to be good

[@maheboobpasha8426]

love from India 🇮🇳

[@ColeHastings]

Shoutout India

[@ColeHastings]

@@janisreinis9238shoutout Russia

[@raamizeineddine8384]

@@ColeHastingslove from my house

[@SimGunther]

15:15 and yet the world is geared towards extroverts anyway because stories captivate us more than facts and reasoning. Very rich introverts like the Vincent Ingram in _Travelers_ are the exception, not the rule, but if your personality is in line with that kind of introversion, be the perfect version of that introvert instead of being an Elon Musk.

[@C-KRET]

Great video! FYI, I clicked the link for masterworks and it asked me to enter my email to skip the wait-list. I did, I applied and it said I was 20,356 in line for membership. 🤔

[@echosklee3702]

What I learned: Shrooms, MDMA, Psychedelics

[@ultimate_pleb]

Im sending this video to my old secondary school I will not give context I will not give my name I refuse to elaborate further

[@raulmorales962]

I always wanted to be a international pop icon, maybe it was just ego or something innate in me, but I never worked upon it, like a unreachable goal, or just a big hole inside me seeking validation, I don't know, I always wanted to be just like Madonna, my life has gone down the drain with bad decisions and never finding my purpose or fulfilment, maybe it's not too late for me... I just don't know how to fix this and be me, whoever he is, I want to be that guy... Maybe I'm just too afraid

[@choudharyArpitRaj]

Thanks

[@Snaaaaap]

I'll probably never be an interesting person, but that's okay.

[@pranavarora752]

Dude, what are your ambitions regarding your business in the future?

[@ColeHastings]

As for now, just keep growing the channel, and make videos with much higher production quality (I.e. short films)

[@khylerrodriguez1443]

So the list of adjectives should be said to people? Like "Hey! I've been interested in meeting you, I've seen you around but I never actually had the opportunity to talk with you, and I'm glad I finally did you don't disappoint, your adelight to talk with as you are to look at." Something like that? Or did you give me a list of emotions I can evoke out of people? If so then how do I do that?

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

Thats everyone elses own fault for treating everyone else like ghosts

[@tanL22]

As a logical- leading person, I guess that's why I can't connect with people.

[@davidfuentes2862]

Cole hastings ,do a video about deja vus

[@victorrosales7565]

Well we’ll we’ll here we are again

[@juanordonez5667]

Wait.... Did he give children MDMA? 🤣

[@ColeHastings]

No that’s just stock video

[@youngforeverlastingyfl1832]

I swear every time i think it he post it 😂

[@mattcaley8993]

Yeh

[@ColeHastings]

Yeh

[@harshal_p24]

9:22 or was it? 😂😂

[@Keonggreen]

How’s your day man

[@ColeHastings]

Feeling good so far, how about you?

[@Keonggreen]

@@ColeHastings good ok 👍🏻 thank you for taking the time to reply! I am doing revision for upcoming exams :)

[@ColeHastings]

@@Keonggreenbest of luck to you

[@Keonggreen]

@@ColeHastingsthanks bro. Take care

[@mr.e7541]

I was wondering this and then I found out I died 2 years ago

[@harfangdesneiges6680]

Alzheimers people remember songs that evoke emotions to them!

[@abujubaerrehan]

Cool ❤

[@ithielpitt7525]

Just....going for my jugular huh

[@hosboi]

i’ve never been this early before

[@ColeHastings]

Welcome

[@ogmogli4258]

wow so early but i feel attacked youtube xdd

[@ColeHastings]

Had to do it to em

[@meenal3011]

what is your opinion on andrew tate ??

[@tex6924]

*OR WAS IT*

[@giganate999]

bro what is with this channel? every single week when im having a problem, homie here literally drops a video on that problem. seriously. are you watching me or something?

[@ColeHastings]

I’m in your walls

[@giganate999]

@@ColeHastings ahhh, and I just thought it was the ac 😂

[@sorayasayeh9135]

Bro i dont even want wonen i just want a dude to talk to without ignoring me

[@GamesOfficialYouTube]

Damn, saved for later😂

[@officialbrandonclarkll]

You're a ghost because you haven't put in work in your social life. This lone wolf life ain't it lol. That's one reason.

[@thenewjord50]

Most people don't want to be social in the 2020s do to decaying social skills no one talks about that

[@cxg732]

Well my name is Casper

[@ColeHastings]

That’ll do it

[@cxg732]

​​@@ColeHastingsBoo 😂

[@r.235T20E]

I'm a ghost.

[@sv_cheats-1909]

Hi

[@ColeHastings]

Hi

[@strike2091]

heyo man

[@ColeHastings]

Ayo

[@matthewjess5488]

Do you believe in fate Cole?

[@William_D_Frog]

Bro… bro…

[@ColeHastings]

Bro…

[@William_D_Frog]

@@ColeHastings How did you know my worst fear and insecurity

[@ColeHastings]

@@William_D_FrogI’m in your walls

[@William_D_Frog]

@@ColeHastings You’re the victim in this situation

[@amateruss]

Wait, you don't want to be treated like a ghost?

[@lifestrath8621]

Yo

[@ColeHastings]

Yo

[@hayekhayek580]

why?? simple, because youre boring and are too closeted. you dont have to be charismatic to be "seeking validation", just express yourself and become more open to sharing your own feelings and people will understand you better emotionally and have more depth and see more in your personality + in the long term growth in character really makes someone memorable so my opinion is to stop watching these videos and express yourself properly. realized this 8 months ago 👌👌

[@Univrsalsuniverse]

46 th lets gooo

[@Marilyn-lr3xt]

Hey just an advice try to make your video more shorter pls ! Ty ❤

[@Ionut-lm9cj]

Abcd

[@issadda2461]

Because I did it first

[@ColeHastings]

At least you’re self aware

[@MarvinRB3]

hot take: maybe we shouldn't be looking up to psychedelic drug users for life advice? :/

[@ColeHastings]

Chris especially uses it very sparingly. I don’t condone using psychedelics

[@ColeHastings]

Psychedelics are also being used professionally now and many are seeing the positive effects of them.

[@MarvinRB3]

@@ColeHastings Give it ten years, you'll see plenty of the negative effects.

[@ColeHastings]

nah@@MarvinRB3

[@MarvinRB3]

@@ColeHastings Each to their own I guess.

[@astrprk]

I am still thinking what I had for breakfast 2 days ago.

[@DanMart_Tosoto]

Everythings a grift. Don't fall for the funnel