WHY PEOPLE ARE SECRETLY SCARED OF THE INFJ

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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: INFJs are a rare and beautiful creature, but they should be careful. They might make people nervous with their intense gaze or unfussy mannerisms; even though it may seem like nothing can touch them - deep down inside we all know that this feeling is only temporary because everybody's afraid of something...even if on some level they don't want to admit that fear exists anymore than anyone else does.
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[@Wenzes]

Do you feel like people are often scared of you and stay at a distance from you?

[@feiwaan]

I definitely do.

[@kritikagulati1777]

Yup...

[@starshine_Ultra]

I would rather distance myself from narcs and focus on myself. I gave too much to the point of abuse was done- and nothing was left for me. Yet they have the audacity & arrogance to show me attitude after using and abusing me and act like the victims. I decided to keep to myself and put myself first- that way i stay away from their crap and better myself.

[@SumanKumar-uk4qi]

Yes I witness several time the defensive body language of most of people interacting with since I started expressing myself openly and confidently.

[@riyajacob2909]

Oh yes !

[@tanyakulsum2158]

"I would have to stoop down to the level of NORMAL PEOPLE" - Is definitely something an INFJ would say 😂.

[@TyGee777]

Yes 😆

[@akeemshaibu7243]

This is me all day!

[@deborahwolff5651]

Yes!

[@vickie6662]

Makes you feel arrogant, when we're not really. But it's truth. 😜

[@user-ed4xt4yw2d]

Sounds narcissistic😂. But true.

[@HaleyMary]

I have met narcissists in my life and yes on the surface they seem like someone I want to know and be friends with, but once their mask falls off and they show their true self, that's when I see who they truly are and it's always weird to me to see them in social settings where we have mutual friends and I have a whole different viewpoint of them than most of my friend circle.

[@christypiper]

Yikes I can really relate. And Wenzes explains this phenomenon succinctly. I can get comfortable with people very quickly, and they end up telling me personal things they later regret. Then they feel bad and avoid me. These days, I try to stay more surface level at first and use more humor. I’m careful who and how quickly I deep dive with. I don’t want them to regret it later. It’s a lose lose situation. I also relate to not trying to be over concerned with others’ lives, and to lead by example instead of telling them what to do. I’ve had friends and acquaintances who told me years later that I helped inspire them to change their lives. And just because people don’t tell you right away (or ever!), doesn’t mean your positive example isn’t making a strong impact on them 💖💯🙏🏼

[@cmtm5108]

If you try to prove to them why you're steady in this manner (not going to use their story or experience as entertainment).. how DO you prove that? I don't think you can.. because it will just look like you're full of yourself.. or you will put yourself in some endless cycle.. So the best way seems to be.. to have faith that THEY will have faith, that you're steady.

[@kan0762]

Honestly I was wondering why I developed a more authentic personality much later in life, it's cos we live through other people's lenses for too long

[@catsmeow3478]

I’ve been told by several friends that I’m a mirror person and that inauthentic people don’t like seeing their reflection so they might be uncomfortable around me without knowing why. I’ve been trying to understand that and knowing my type now, this and so many other things that I’ve struggled to understand make sense.

[@DearYoungerSelf111]

I was so scared of this narcissist-co dependent dynamic that as an developing INFJs attract - I felt I had no control and it seemed that I had created this dynamic with so many people that I loved. I was afraid to let go of the power and control that comes with it. But I know better now - I have to take care of myself first and I am my #1 priority on a DAILY basis. I must admit its hard at times but my peace is worth every bit of the work it takes to keep this in check. I love you Wenzes - message was 🔥

[@GG-rk1bu]

Thank you for sharing Brittany! I'm going through the same now. It's heartbreaking. I'm choosing to distance myself at the moment for my own sanity.

[@danny-li6io]

We possess a very powerful “flashlight” that shines light on people’s egos, lies, and manipulative behavior, so of course they are threatened by that! Unfortunately or fortunately....the ones we shine that light on the most is ourselves.

[@scottkenward7358]

INFJ-A We spend so much time in our own heads that we begin to belive our own fantasy about the things we have detected in others. It isn't garenteed to be accurate no matter how good you are at sensing. Personally I find the only way to break the daydreaming is sport and self improvement via planning. This video came at a very useful time for me. Thanks!!!

[@freesoul1189]

you just give my "dont trust 1st expression" in much accurate words..yes thats it..I used to have good guess on people till my 20s..than it starts to be different so I make conclusion to not rely on my intuion..but what you wrote make a perfect sense .thank you ❤️

[@hollyhayes9640]

I would advise you to look into the cognitive functions (and also Enneagram). ☺️

[@michaelallen8597]

As I’ve gotten older I just practiced being more assertive, confident, & extroverted. Makes it harder for ppl to figure you out if you’re the pushy one. I’m nice though. On the other hand I’m still extremely helpful & yeah. My toughest things in life come from adapting to new environments. I wasn’t sure of my personality but anytime I watch a video like this the things just click at a level a true infj could actually know & connect with. And it scares me for some reason. I don’t think any true infj actually wants to be one. I’m actually my own worst enemy sometimes. I beat myself up over the smallest mistakes. “Vibes & wavelengths.” Are extremely overwhelming. And now that I’ve put myself out there I’m held to a higher esteem than others. I’m over analyzed because I over analyze(with my peripherals)(too act extra aloof)(it works) however, now I’m finding out more & more stuff. Like making body language as relaxed & chill as possible for one. For 2 catch yourself from oversharing. For 3 just be kind with others. Let your words pave the way & your actions create waves (:

[@christypiper]

Great advice! I’ve been practicing the same too with good results 🙌🏼💯

[@christianjohnson2562]

I felt that not actually wanting to be one, but man I’m starting to see that we have a seller inner power then every other type, so now I love it😂 unfair advantage here I come- even Theo I want equality for all😂

[@christianjohnson2562]

Stronger

[@daisychan8]

Yes our tendency of self depreciation always leads us into giving too much to others in return makes us even more drained. We lose our authentic self even more. We should value ourselves more and say we also deserve things that everybody does. Its only the INFJs themselves that do not consider themselves worthy enough.

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

Do I feel like people are often scared of me and stay at a distance from me? Yes. If they have been either unprofessional or unfriendly to me in the past and we have had conflict or differences as a result, then their distancing from me is actually a good thing. However, if it is a simple case of where they just simply don't understand me or the "methods to my madness" so to speak, then that is not a good thing and I work to mend fences when possible. I'm just a human. Not perfect, powerful or invincible.

[@phillipmckinnon6883]

That's one of the reasons I became a therapist. I can help others for a living😉

[@moose_tracks41]

I gave this serious consideration.

[@amandagarcia9022]

Wenzes, I really wouldn’t have understood my journey without watching your channel these past 5+ years. Thank you so much 🙏🏼

[@user-ed4xt4yw2d]

I have an ENFJ friend. I am an INFJ. It is a perfect friendship.

[@akeemshaibu7243]

Listening to this right now makes me think this isn’t just an infj thing; it’s actually a human thing. This is actually what makes us human and wenzes is a really smart lady. Great teaching!

[@slickmcsass]

Geeeeeeeee whizz....I feel naked lol😅😅😅😅. I'm so glad that I have found your channel. I've powered through quite a few of your videos, and each one makes complete sense. I'm actually like "wow, Lauren that's you." Thank you🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@its_just_marvlus]

If you're a big guy it gets caught up between size and problems. I just diss it off. But i recognize anyone who is actually genuinely kind. I had a moment like this in high school. I walked into my health class. The noise went from loud to silence. I walked in, the kindest person in there was another big guy and i could tell he was a popular type of person in a good way. He said hi, gave a handshake and i said hi and gave him a handshake. After that a girl next to him said "why did u say hi hes scary, and i looked at her and the guy said "hes actually not, dont judge on looks". Also neglecting myself is something i do deal with. But its not too an extent, i do have goals but i work on it in a slow progress.

[@charlottew1245]

I think my disappearing'friends/lovers feel very vulnerable and threatened by the intuition. No one wants their minds read, and I can understand that.

[@justtruth1788]

This is so crazy but true .. I have been accused of being able of reading someone's mind. I assured him I couldn't but he didn't believe me.

[@tachikawaaki4467]

I don't know why your videos came up on my KZbin as I was about to reach out to that person by some "mutual friends" encourage. You just saved me. Again.

[@jnl3564]

My parents trained me to do this because they liked when I focused on them and put them first. It hasn't been a choice. It causes me immense pain to not understand myself and my own needs. It's hard to start from scratch because until now I haven't had it mirrored to me that my real self is even worthy of attention. 😢

[@juice_lime5114]

You got it right about the "mirror". It's actually an irony. I can't be truly myself when completely shut off from any external influences. Always looking into the world, the only time that my head could actually rest, is when I sleep or meditate. I cannot see myself within, I could only see myself in others. That's why I just call myself a shapeshifting mirror. These shapeshifting, ghost-like and extremely sharp perceptive attributes. This mirror ability is incredibly scary for the general society, because we are so inclined to uncover anything hidden within any person. It's something I have to control all the time, and to occassionally let out in brain-twisting situations to keep my fulfillment (like here). A constructive pointer here: You can't tell the people to only focus on self. Our nature is inclined to be drawn to others, and highly neurotic souls would suffer from this because of their already diminished ego stability, denying them of fulfilling their purpose and filling themselves with self-guilt that they have little control about. It's understandable that you are an assertive variant (don't remember which video you said that), and might not know those with higher neuroticism enough. I have experienced this before, when trying to focus on self. My inner critique is vicious with very little positive emotions or memories from the past, and neurosis quickly sets it with the all-or-nothing perfectionism due to sensitivity to stress when in isolation. How I got out of it? It was by opening up to others just to let them judge. What an INFJ in an unhealthy state really wants, is a listening ear. Instead of trying to "set boundaries" with Fi which we lack and makes us guilty within, we need to practice Ti along with Ni and Fe, that gives us the extreme sharpness to pick the correct situations to dive in and fulfill our purpose. Instead of trying to hold ourselves back, we should try to pick the right situations. Don't play down to self and others, but play smart. That's the part that makes INFJs scary... A good development of Ti. Also listening more to Se these days, allowing me to act in reality (which I'm thankful for your directions supporting my initial thoughts). Sorry for the wall of text, but thanks for any appreciation @@

[@reemalzubaidy6037]

Setting boundaries is always scary at first and it has a bitter after taste of guilt it gets better it’s like any other skill u practice

[@KMR1776]

What has help me is sending the other person the message through small and consistent actions, "yes, I see you, and your secret is safe with me, and you have my ongoing discretion". People relax when they feel that they are not going to lose anything if they are a little bit vulnerable with you. People are deeply fearful of betrayal, especially nowadays. You have to show your commitment to discretion as top priority in the friendship. I think this a responsibility and duty this type must learn to function well in a 16 personality world, and be a friend everyone wants to have.

[@GG-rk1bu]

So true about ENFJs being our mirror types. My mum was one who could really do this to me. I had such an awful ego break from her not long before she passed away. It was necessary, but brutal. I'm sure i did it to her too though. Us INFJs have an uncanny ability to do this.

[@lindateuling7862]

It's interesting what you said about the INFJ and the ENFJ. I have two good friends who are ENFJs. 🙂 Fortunately, I haven't clashed with either of them - but whether or not I would have when younger - well that would be hard to say. I do remember wanting to (1) help people but learning that I had to take care of myself first and (2) sometimes intimidating people whom I sometimes suspect of projecting their own weaknesses onto me. Thankfully, I learned a lot of the ideas you've shared in the video. I also found out it's sometimes a time of absence from the people I've been dealing with was good. When I would see them again my life was fuller and grounded and it showed.

[@aquariusstar7248]

Whaaaaaaa!!!!👀👀 "Our 'vulnerability' is defending ourselves and putting ourselves first." Ie, being assertive. It is the opposite of others.

[@SelBSinging]

I like how this is teaching a lot of us, thank you 😊

[@fannylucas2250]

Hi Wenzes ! I don't really get the influence of ego on INFJs in the case "I would rather protect you than me". A video about ego would be so interesting ! Thanks for everything :)

[@martinamontorsi]

Hi, I’we watched some of your videos and I relate so much to them, I’m so glad other people feel the same way as I do. Your videos are helping me to understand a lot about myself and the people I see every day, especially in this moment of my life when I slowly understanding that I deserve much more that anyone ever gave me. It’s difficult to accept that when your best friends can’t just use you all the time they disappear and never wanted to support or help you the way you do from the beginning. I hope your words will give me the strength necessary to be more aware of the people I choose to be with. Thank you :)

[@ashleyharris-houdek8639]

I have never watched a more useful video on INFJs than this one! Thank you so much for your work I feel like I understand myself a lot better.

[@twistedsunshine4484]

I really love how articulate and straight forward your videos always are. It always does'nt fail to impress me. 🤗

[@bennyregohos1650]

Our aura is blinding. 😊

[@alanrodriguez210]

You have no idea how much this little reflection has helped me. Now I understand that I need to stop advicing others and telling them what to do. I've been working on myself and now is the time when I actually see people inspired to change, simply by changing myself. Just leading others by giving the example. Sounds like a very simple idea, but it's truly a 180 in my thought process.

[@grassfedmilkmomma]

I am manipulative. I know this. I don't do it for myself it's always for the other person. I can't help this

[@duke3229]

I love purpose.

[@alisonrichardson6630]

You got it! Thank you so much. I'm have been focusing on myself for the last 3yrs but still in a former enabled relationship and wondering why my relationship is not improving. Thank you so much!

[@natural3362]

We humans can be hurt greatly. Therefore we usually pay back through revenges as a compensation for our hury

[@mistyblue511]

This answers a lot of questions for me. Thank-you Thank-you

[@ocho8172]

Excellent. You can help others better, by helping yourself first. Be the example.

[@jessmason2112]

Another solid 👊.

[@Johnnyo1300]

So very well put in timing I can’t stop laughing sometimes ego death comes with grief forces you to change your focus and put you in a place that you just finished describing to a T thanks again young lady always very much appreciate it as you do🐶😎🐶✌️

[@Angxl96]

omg i love u so much and your videos. all my life i thought something was wrong with me but after discovering your channel i discovered myself and i feel so happy. lots of lovee

[@tytiannap]

Amen! Straight to the heart everytime, Wenzes! 🤍🤍🤍

[@CliffordRainwater]

Yeah I realized that I could not carry all of the emotions of others with out nearly killing myself off sort to speak.

[@travisbartholomay]

Thank you. Your awesome

[@collinrichards4683]

I love your eyes. Very piercing

[@Nedmar]

Still, is is easier and more comfortable to focus on others than on yourself, this tendency lies at the very core of an INFJ, it takes a great amount of mental self-control to focus on one's stuff and put aside others'. So I guess people might be scared of us because one may be seen as too zealous and even pushy in wanting to take a helping role in other's life, whereas they might not even need it so badly. They may not even understand this, whereas for us this is a matter of course. Anyway, is it normal to feel kinda guilt after not having been able to help somebody in spite of all one's effort? A recurring unpleasant feeling it is.

[@juice_lime5114]

It's definitely easier to focus on others than self. I have tried focusing on myself, only to be overwhelmed by my vicious inner critique. Focusing on self is actually NOT healthy, my argument against this life coach. Not like I dislike her, but it's just my feedback to her point. The healthy way to practice "self-preservation" is to actually balance between that and altruism. You can offer, but you always need to watch yourself first. Use your sharp senses to determine if the person is really deserving your efforts and energy, and dive in to fulfill your purpose when the timing is right. The more you align with the truth, the less fear you have about overcommitting, the better you can practice this.

[@frankbrake7689]

I was resaintly talking with this chick. An she said she wanted to get to know. An then she ghosted me. Kinda odd ,but then again after watching this. I could tell right out of the box. She didn't want to "kick it" with me. She wanted to use narcissistic behavior to break me down. An here I thought native americans was a better group. They are the same as everyone else.

[@orangejuice4425]

Humans are humans..

[@frankbrake7689]

@@orangejuice4425 although the more I watch this kinda stuff. I realize more and more I gotta be the worst boring loser on the planet. Uhh well...

[@orangejuice4425]

@@frankbrake7689 sorry if I was unclear, my comment was directed at the fact that you had expectations about the girl being 'better' due to being native. You said 'they're the same as everyone', of course they are.. humans are humans. 😅

[@frankbrake7689]

@@orangejuice4425 no I get it. But a super loser like should have expected it, because I'm a loser.

[@frankbrake7689]

@@orangejuice4425 it's more like a security things. Security for drugs, and so I'm not a drug addict or dealer. Security with a financially stable man,and so I'm not wealthy, or come from a family of wealth. Plus I have nothing to steal. So this makes me a loser. I'd like to thank God or the creator for prostitutes though. If it wasn't for the hos that everyone already knows are hos. I'd never get any. I have passions one of these years I'm bound to run into a woman that enjoys history, gardening, and making things to contribute to society.

[@starseed45]

It was a major ego deflation for me when I realized that I really can't conquer the world. I really don't have that much strength

[@johncabanban8498]

Avoid bullying them because they have strong thoughts and you dont know what they are thinking for you..

[@simondevos7005]

People in general are used to traditional conventional mindset, they are so ingrained with this mindset. By INFJ mindset is foreign to those who are not used to INFJ mindset, Others are followers ,not Leaders like the INFJ . People in general is always been guided the traditional Conventional mindset for centuries . INFJ is a different kind of breed, you cannot domestic an INFJ. And you cannot change others to accept INFJ mindset, that’s not our job, Fear comes to those who are not willing change or be helped, It’s a false fear of imagination. It has no substance , no solid foundation . People rely more on emotional reaction, then good sound reasoning or thinking abilities , Remember fake Fear prevents you from progressing .

[@tigre7739]

I'm really not sure I ever really thought about it to be honest in that way , but yes, to be honest I think there probably are certain people that have been, I'm going to say, uncertain of me, ( it's hard for me to believe that people would actually be scared of me) because I know myself to have such a mild temperament , and of course by nature, try to make others feel comfortable and good, however I think that yes, others can sometimes be unsure of what I'm thinking or feeling, simply due to the fact of processing as an infj does, which can leave people a little uneasy at times I'm sure. You are so right , we need to work on ourselves and grow and learn within ourselves and be really secure with that, which does automatically alleviate some of these potential problems in relating with others. 👍🤘

[@DanielMartinez-bh8tl]

I recently had taken the personality test and it said that I was an infj it makes more sense to me now about a lot of things but I figured most of it out are close to figuring out my own way I pretty much have lost the person I was like I cut the fat off my body because of the uncontrollable natural disasters I have survived through four presidential declare disaster in 2000 and that is just my presidential declared disasters in my area that's not including the pandemic that's a fifth presidential disaster I've never evacuated due to the fact I'm pretty much broke I had to make the decision of having the chance of dying somewhere in America or have the chance of dying at the house that I grew up in so I am survived without assistance from my state government even some of my neighbors it's like they tried to take everything from me to see how much it would take to kill me and when they like rub their face they see me in front of them talking about what's going on haven't seen you in a long time so they try to throw all kinds of crazy monkey wrenches in the thing reason why I say this is I started working again not even that far from my house good pay since it was good and it was the first time in about 2 years I jumped at the situation and allowed myself to get into a hostile situation was either a narcissist or a narcissist psychopath the reason why I say this is the guy started the job the same day I did and since I was more happier that I had a job I never once asked all the questions that I probably should have you know the ones that we need to know every single like Avenue so we can figure out how the job is going to go before we get to the end but I know that I'm capable of doing anything different so I go ahead and take a week of this job in a day I had the weekend off and on my day all my time off Monday after work I get a text message what are you doing and then another text message hate from being mad of being fired I just don't answer I wait 48 hours leave a message for the boss that's in another state and then the next morning good morning Friday is the next payday I was going to do the normal you know send a text message that was so long that the text message characters ran out but I caught myself because I'm coming out of the disasters like I was saying and I'm literally dying of hunger I barely eat one meal a day do the fact I don't have enough money to afford anymore and usually I explain all this to everybody that comes near me on the phone you know but I'm just so sick and tired of getting sympathy from people if I wanted sympathy from people I would just go and be begging on the corner but that's a whole nother thing after coming to understanding another thing in my head and that was what if this other boss is just another narcissist or sociopath all these words I'm sending to them is meaningless they won't care they'll just be happy that I'm suffering so I say nothing back I want it to but I do say nothing back due to the fact that I am 41 years old and a Mexican Latino my full name is Daniel Greg Martinez I live in Louisiana the Dirty South you can check out Calcasieu Parish that's the parish I live in to see about how many storms I actually survived but that's where I am at I'm stuck in a house for 2 years pretty much August 28th will be a 2 year mark with just two dogs two cats my family's been evacuated my wife passed away many years back when she was in her 30s I have two girls they're both evacuated I seem like 3 4 5 times a year I was doing complete restoring on the property but I ran out of money have to get a job just to make sure I have food because I'm eating one meal a day it's not like I can buy lots of food because you know my refrigerator went out last December so I've been living without a refrigerator since then haven't had a bed in 2 years normalness was me going to work finally I got so burnt from being in the sun that I didn't even realize it I was blistered even though I couldn't see it but I gave my all even brought you my own materials because they didn't even really give me any wasted my own gas and then release and still having to wait another week before I even get my check with no reason there's not yet been a reason that they're giving me I'm believing that these guys are together ones ahead Hunter to cut all the fat out of the place so I just decided to go the legal route I'm going to contact another employee that is a non-speaking English Latina he was on top of the crew before I was there the other workers treat him not so good but better than most people would get treated by them because they know he's a hard worker even though they could not talk to the guy unless they use a translator app they respected him enough to actually go for the effort he's like a 77-year-old man that was Keeping Up with the 41 year old man dead yeah I am a little bit about a shape but my little bit of outer shape is me doing work on the property for like 3 days straight completely by myself doing every single type of work Plumbing electrician carpentry and in your normal everyday routines of keeping yourself clean clothes feeding yourself but like I said I don't even get the money for the food so I was getting to the end to where I was literally just sitting down and getting on the Internet trying to find jobs because I don't have the gas to go around the places but this is my beginning I'm going to get a hold of the equal and opportunity Department of the United States and see about putting a case on them for racial discrimination harassment harassing the elderly there is a protective number of people if you are 40 years old you are in that class so if you're 40 and you are at a job and they are saying you're 40 or you're 50 and you can't do this job then they're right there harassing you stating that your age is the reason why you can't do the job whenever it's illegal to do that it's just like telling a pregnant woman that she can't be here and working and have a kid it goes with also your race your religion your significant others job partner and I believe there's a few more little ones especially with being in a state that allows for the employer to fire you for any reason and it not illegal but there are certain stipulations and I believe I got like two three of them just because of the fact that I am a caregiver a Latino a 41-year-old that just started to go back to work and has this defamation of character so there's another one soon for making my name look bad the only issue that I see that might be an issue is it states you have to have 20 employees to do that but I don't know if I can account the main guy that hired me and if I can and everybody that he worked for or works as then I'm good but I don't know all that yet I got to talk to them look at me leaving this big message I'm sorry I got to go maybe I'll talk to you soon

[@INFPJannekeNL]

Thank you Wenzes for your great insights! Greatings from the Netherlands

[@Onmytree]

I would love that you elaborate on the ENFJ/INFJ relationship because what you said, hits close to me.

[@Wenzes]

I have videos on the infj/enfj relationship. Just search : wenzes enfj and you will find them :)

[@worldmatters7384]

Hi Wenzes please make a video on the topic "Can infj be a revolutionary leader?" Please i need it.....

[@duke3229]

Very hard to break me.

[@Kookees]

Thank you for this

[@cmgcoach]

You are a genius Wenzes. ♥️

[@hannajarvenpaa5079]

Thank You💖🧡💛💚💙💜

[@terreemc]

Excellent video! Thank you for you insights. This program is very helpful.

[@bossbabi.e3084]

Thank you for the video ❤️😘

[@mlbullbooks]

Great video and reminder!

[@dorotaem6621]

Beautiful! 🙏❤️✌️

[@Daysaum]

So helpful! Thank you

[@TemperanceLibraRising]

Your eyebrows love love love

[@ultimatelovejunkie4122]

Why do people tell me things that I didn't ask for or need to know?

[@MrBusEnthusiast]

rip

[@jonathanbetsuie2753]

Good video

[@carrieshepherd1797]

Hello from Aust 🇦🇺🐨...thank you for cutting to the chase with such precise clarity ...yes CHERISH LIFE ! THRIVE not just Survive & leave the enabling behaviours behind . i appreciate your insights & feel you really do have a gift in helping me (others ) KNOW THYSELF well & provides a solid focus for improving our lives! 🙏Gracias , grateful for the reminders , learning pointers

[@verntoews6937]

As an INFJa I consider myself as potentially very dangerous with the relief of knowing my intelligent loving nature will exercise extreme and wise discernment before I act

[@chocovanille5809]

Yup my coworkers are. But I do not mean no harm.

[@matilda4406]

what is vulnerability to one person may not be at all to another person, true. Infjs saying I like you is like water, nbd, to other people it's terrifying. lol

[@GuardianAngel..]

I’m not an INFJ I’m an ABCD I got labeled with that because that was how far I got to when learning the alphabet.

[@TroyPosey]

Excellent video Wenzes! Yes, I've noticed this my whole life... Friendships, relationships, dating, etc... I always wondered why.

[@deborahwolff7034]

Haha yes! I don't know why

[@teancummgarza2239]

Cool

[@theghosttiger1446]

"he scares me." Three words that terrify a black INFJ

[@playboi.l1317]

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[@susanc.2207]

My son is an ENFJ. I'm INFJ.

[@winnietutor4759]

Hehe. My current struggle 😂

[@svendahlsten3132]

Thank you you just got mee im alweys try to help but feil soo you meen i shud not try to heel a person 🤔🤔🤔

[@FS-nq2yc]

WezZzzzzz!!!!!!!

[@GuardianAngel..]

I know this is unrelated but Young Lady how did you get your teeth so white?

[@SumFlyyyGuy]

Second this for hopeful response. 😆

[@JoeMotionVideos82]

Would this be the catalyst to people overlooking us?

[@robertogarcia3488]

you specking to much truth at minute 11 No No No No No but im good. thank you. Xo Xo Xo Xo

[@handssolo7980]

Is it real that this is even possible?

[@Tified967]

Totally ISFP, not the cognitive INFJ based on Jung's writings

[@dekuMusic]

As an ENFP you may think that my experience with INFJ have been good but that's far from truth. In the past I really felt trapped in all my friendships/relationships with INFJ. I felt that they saw me as the version that they have of me in their heads and everytime I wasn't living up that fantasy they just acted as if I was wrong for letting them down. That and also the "thought reading" thing. Everything was okay when they kinda guessed what I was thinking/feeling but when not they assumed that I was lying to myself instead of maybe accepting they can be wrong. All of that made me felt so trapped that I couldn't be myself at all around them or when I was being myself they just were annoyed at me for being unpredictable. I'm happier in my life as an ENFP with no close INFJs around (I don't hate you guys btw, you're still cool just not for me) .

[@hugmc]

Infj here yes we are hard work I am hard on me so that’s what I pass on but as I grow I am learning too self love and reflect on my self so I am getting better on my healing journey thanks for your honesty 👍yes we’re not everyone’s cup off tea 🍵 we’re sometimes not even are own cup of tea are minds run 🏃‍♀️ twenty four seven 🙏

[@dekuMusic]

@@hugmc I'm sure you'll get better in your healing journey. And just saying, no one is everyone's cup of tea, not everyone is going to like us and no everyone is going to hate us but hey! Don't be so harsh on yourself, even if you ain't your own cup of tea I'm pretty sure many peopla would apreciate a person like you.

[@qazedc3]

Its interesting you say this as me being an infj and having been 'close' with an enfp my whole life until I felt like I was way more emotionally invested in our friendship than they were. I guess the ego thing Wenzes was saying applies to the situation because I stopped feeling like we were actually compatible best friends when I saw that their values they were actually displaying were not in alignment with my own integrity; also that we only became close because i was unconsciously wanting to fix them and we trauma bonded over a lot of things but that is not sustainable. With all that being said, I do say your final message about infjs not being your cup of tea and how we make you feel like you can't be yourself is the ultimate confirmation of the similarity between what that friend made ME feel like. Maybe I was projecting but I truly felt she was being manipulative and still pretending to be my friend when she would blatantly act disinterested and distant when we were actually hanging out in person, disrespect me, stand me up on simple things like scheduled phone calls, ignore my messages, be manipulative and fake to my face versus around others etc. I have to say you're also projecting onto infjs because enfps are literally manipulative, self-absorbed and egocentric as in using other people for the attention and whatever energy you're gaining from them flocking you like you're the center of the universe. Then you whine and complain and act like you're the victim when someone actually calls you out to be accountable because you're too busy not owning up to the fact that you're living a false imagery of self where you only want to please others and get them to like you but not consider their real feelings or even bother to reciprocate a give and take equally. You only want them to see you as being caring of others when in reality it's all about your own needs and flair for inner drama. So there, you just got the REAL tea from what your ex infj friends really thought of your false ego. 🙃

[@dekuMusic]

@@qazedc3 lmao dude you're projecting hard af. My infj ex friends and I drift apart cuz I left the religion they practised and cuz I started to live lit in the other part of the country. Lmao I love when y'all made things in your minds and think that's how it was. But I have to admit :yes I'm self-absorved lmao I live by my morals and only by them, no I'm no manipulative cuz that goes against my moral, yeah I care about people cuz I love people in general, no I'm usually not interested in deep conections unless they happen naturaly. Wanting to fix someone was a you problem lmao people fix themselves when they fix themselves, you can't save someone that doesn't see a problem in themselves. Your friends sure sounds shitty tho, hope she get what she deserves but you were proyecting hard af with her too. A superficial friendship doesn't equal being manipulative and not being compatible doesn't mean being faking a friendship lmao sometimes things don't work out and that's ok. Stay healthy and just move on, she doens't deserve more thoughts-

[@serban2139]

lol, you had an altercation with an enfj as well? oh god haha

[@joshuatree929]

I really like something about this chick.

[@hollyhayes9640]

Joke's on you, I'm an INTJ. I'm not afraid of anything. 🤣 (Sorry, I'm not trying to be rude or offensive. Just making a joke.)

[@raiontheone]

Delusional :P