Why people aren't getting married in Japan

The institution of marriage has suffered a decline across the world but it is in the ageing societies of Asia where it's got governments and families are most worried. Channel NewsAsia's Wei Du travelled to Japan to find out why people are finding it hard to tie the knot there. cna.asia/2JcP7pV

[@mfriedrich2012]

No incentive for men. And no, being a sexless wage slave and disposable utility is not an incentive, Japan.

[@iceadonis6340]

Blah...Blah...Blah

[@timepickle8443]

No incentive for women you mean. Who wants to be stuck with a guy who can only communicate with animated half dressed 12 year olds😂 Japanese men are reaping what they sowed.

[@mfriedrich2012]

timepickle I do agree. Women have the state to give them resources, welfare, protection and security. They don’t need men directly anymore when they can just steal the money from other men via federal, state income taxes and property taxes. So it would behoove women not to vote for stupid fiscal policies and ineffective economic policies and programs that will lead to state collapse, rampant crime, war or revolution. But female solipsism often gets in the way of common sense and cause and effect.

[@timepickle8443]

@@alphaweeb5195 Men do that any way. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@bleepbloop7039]

@@timepickle8443 domo arigato mr roboto

[@Skippy19812]

"... four times married..." - You'd think he'd learn his lesson by now.

[@A.D.540]

His memory has been hacked like computer lol

[@rtruth550]

Nope. He's still looking for love.

[@brookswoodward7278]

I learned after one...... so far.

[@A.D.540]

@Traveling Guy religion is big player marrige seem to be connected to religion based on historical records

[@kamrudkd]

Lol

[@skylinefever]

The young men saw what happened to their fathers and swore that they suffer what they suffered. This is why marriage rates are falling in many countries.

[@leviathanrising9763]

its called progress. marriage options dont exist for most women and the new dating rule is no touch we go dutch.

[@timepickle8443]

Yup now women have a choice. The bitter fatgasses complaining now usually didnt have to account for their shit personalities. Because every guy literally got a woman no matter how shit his personality was. Women had no choice and had to marry whatever loser their parents foisted on them. Now women can choose and dudes with shit personalities are NOT GETTING CHOSEN 😂😂

[@larissaluxe4303]

Lol it’s the women not wanting the men. Not the other way around. Wow. The cognitive dissonance in these comments are amazing.

[@skylinefever]

@@larissaluxe4303 I have a difficult believing that there is a country where all men are non-select men, and zero men are select men. However, there are times when either the few select men are already taken. Other times, the men that women desire are too busy messing around to commit.

[@larissaluxe4303]

Skyline Fever ... The men that can provide for a family are often already married. The ones left aren’t desirable to them. In fact. Isn’t this the same place where the single men over there are kidnapping brides? Lol. The women aren’t desperate enough to be with the guys. It’s about the mans economic standing.

[@joeb751]

Just keep building amazing motorcycles Japan ...

[@xthesketcher610]

H2r am i right

[@leonidassparta2124]

No America needs build it's own

[@apostolosfilippos]

Which they export. You will not see a single motorcycle in Tokyo. well...maybe a single.

[@johndillermand4053]

LOL

[@zxn-hn4tv]

this video just proves that "money matters, life is expensive"

[@GameFuMaster]

pretty much the female professor summed it up. Men are earning less due to the economy, but women are still looking for the same level of income.

[@AlberTesla1024]

@Red Pillaging and #mgtow

[@whatthehell7975]

@@AlberTesla1024 ?

[@truli91]

of course money matters, if the society expects women to not earn any money after a kid and be totally dependant on a man, they are gonna look for someone who can provide. this is old's mentality fault and the idiots that expects women to drop everything to look after a kid. some of them would rather skip the kid part than give up eveything they are, and people dont seem to realize that.

[@ijustfarted3015]

No money, no honey!

[@hoodytoad9732]

In Japan it's no honey even if there's money

[@Someone111ify]

@@leviathanrising9763 YEAH!!!

[@laserhound7576]

@@leviathanrising9763 you sound like a misogynist. lol. But I agree with the "never marry" part.

[@davidbolha]

No hymen no diamond. 😎

[@legendkiller508]

@@leviathanrising9763 i like your style its great being a man i dont want a female near me

[@shubhamsingh-gl1fh]

No marriage No divorce No Alimony No child support Result happy life...😎😁😁

[@ayushsnandan]

Unfortunately it is not working out ....

[@shubhamsingh-gl1fh]

@Jihad Abduljabbar if i get divorced then again i will be alone...with these things added to my loneliness : 1 I will not get custody of my children I have to take permission from my ex wife to meet my children 2 I have to pay large sum of alimony if i don't i will be jailed 3 I have to pay child support not knowing that my children will ever support me in my loneliness 4 i will be seen as a bad man because nobody gonna see my ex wife fault.. If i don't marry i will free from all this crap .. So loneliness is a very small price for my freedom...

[@Determinator21]

@I hate my life 🤓👳🏾‍♂️💣💥

[@riproach7452]

@Jiji Speak for yourself. Being alone is the best decision I've ever made in my life. 😂

[@riproach7452]

@Jiji Then I'm dead. I can't stay here forever. 🤣

[@hadishamson393]

Men Love Story in Japan. Average Men: I want a girlfriend/Wife W0men: Laughing.. (Im sorry, i just see u only as a friend plus im earning more than you) Men: Oh wells then. The End. Women Love Story in Japan W0men: We should get Married Rich Men: Im not ready (Dont want to upset his other girlfriends) W0men: Its Over Rich Men: Oh wells then. The End.

[@GlacieraBr1de]

Some of us aren’t like that but ok.

[@hadishamson393]

@@GlacieraBr1de Didn't say all.

[@TheStapleGunKid]

Yoshie Moriki: "These young men, they are making much less money then the previous generation. So that then still the women are looking for similar level of economic capabilities. From the economic structure it's simply not possible." Allow me to translate what she just said: _"Women aren't looking for husbands. They are looking for walking ATM cards. But sadly at this time, the potential slaves for their plantation simply aren't productive enough."_ Gee, I wonder why Japan is having such a hard time with their marriage rates. I can't possibly imagine what the problem might be.

[@arlisiacoley3244]

TheStapleGunKid hate to break it to you but love alone won’t feed a family. Lots of y’all have a rude awakening it’s expensive to live in places such as Japan and to add children is another monster in itself. Children are far from cheap which is the other reason why these folks aren’t getting married they can’t afford children. But don’t we all wish we could produce resources just based off of love alone🙄 get your head out of the clouds frfr💯

[@TheStapleGunKid]

@@arlisiacoley3244 Yeah people need to get resources. But why is the expectation all on men? Women aren't barred from employment, and modern labor-saving devices mean taking care of the home is no longer a full time job. The traditional model of marriage is obsolete in the modern world, and has been for a long time. Also what does affording children have to do with marriage? You don't have to have kids in a marriage. It's totally optional.

[@rogmenkit7443]

TheStapleGunKid dude a kindergartner could have figured this out.

[@TheStapleGunKid]

@@arlisiacoley3244 So your argument is "It's not my fault I'm selfish and greedy, blame god?" That's the argument religious fanatics use. "God made me do it". I'll grant you men usually are better providers, but that's not an excuse for making them the exclusive ones. Your comparison to having children is faulty. Men are physically incapable of having kids, but women are not physically incapable of working. I think it's really women who need to step now more than men do. Women are disproportionately hurting marriage way more than men are. The vast majority of divorces are initiated by women after all. And if it's hard to find a man making lots of money, then women should be willing to work a bit harder, at least temporarily, to help make up for the difference. Another reason women are disproportionately part of the problem is because they aren't anywhere nearly as willing to date or marry men who don't make lots of money, whereas most men don't have a problem dating or marrying poor women. Women fought hard for changes to drop the barriers to employment, but now they are refusing to take part in the world they helped change by changing along with it. My point about children being optional in a marriage is just that: They are optional. If you can't afford kids, then just don't have them till you can. It's not reason not to get married if that's the only thing holding you back.

[@rogmenkit7443]

TheStapleGunKid no duh children are optional but do most married couples choose not to have them? Exactly most people who are married even those who aren’t have children. Your argument is unrealistic! And when you do have them who is going to watch them if not your wife/baby mama and figure out how much it cost for you to have a nanny or place them in daycare. Then factor in food, cloths, diapers, Medical insurance, medication, dental care etc. If both parents work one has to at least be part time or run the risk of losing their job. Which still means one person is still going to have to make more money most likely it will be the male due to statistically women take on more of the responsibilities with the children and house work. C’mon it’s simple math I swear too many people on the internet are just dumb. If you are nothing but a beta male then don’t look in the direction of a women or speak about marriage/family.

[@tweeterthemonkeyman383]

Marriage is too costly and too risky for men.

[@EyFmS]

If both are working its half half...and why wouldn't there be risks for women too?? Ever heard of single mothers? Just find a girl who isn't shallow, that's all.

[@Aakash_Goswami1]

@@EyFmS Then you would know that single mothers can't raise kids

[@purpleiw970]

@@Aakash_Goswami1 they can.

[@YhelloWish]

@@EyFmS *If*

[@pranavpillai7778]

Statistics say differently about single mothers.

[@KaranjaPk]

Another video show rise of Single parenthood in Japan ....irony

[@areudumbstoopidordumbhuh8998]

Decline in marriage not single parenthood

[@gabrielprosser7411]

MGTOW for life

[@whatthehell7975]

Yep kam

[@whatthehell7975]

Women hater.....you both need eacb other....

[@kaka-vx3ue]

💪😎 you go boy!

[@nwatson2773]

If we remove romantic love, the institution of marriage is a legal contract based on money and sharing of assets.

[@m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m]

Yes. Where assets go from men to women.

[@shihoblade]

Money aint coming in, neither are you. Asia is very straight forward about gold digging. People dont pretend like you are equal if you are broke.

[@michaelbarone7655]

If you don't have money you are not loved.But I love you means from the heart I want to be together with you.But I love you does not mean how much money you have.Rich or poor....you should love equally.

[@michaelbarone7655]

Being married is a two step dance between man and woman.Its the unity and love and support of one another that allows the relationship to grow and develop and prosper.Together as a team Money and wealth can be built even if you are coming from nothing.I met my first wife and I didn't even have a licence or a car. I had no money in the bank.And yet we dated and married and bought a house and paid it off and of course bought a car and had money in the bank.We raised 3 children and where married 12 years. Unfortunately we grew out of love and grew apart.But the morale of the story is that no matter who you are.If you are both willing to build and work together anything is not out of reach.

[@whatthehell7975]

@@michaelbarone7655 in india mostly in maharashtra women earns more than men...

[@damn798]

@@whatthehell7975 let me seethe stastics of your india coping india lol

[@scifluxaurora1806]

Women treat their bodies like Apple products. They advertise them really well and they set a high price via high standards. The problem is that men aren’t buying.

[@raizaking5289]

This will really not work if you think you're not a highly priced merchandise too...

[@jamescorbett5729]

Very true. I used to have a girlfriend like that. I often thought, “That might work if you were actually attractive”.

[@TrueInvisible]

women, women, women, women ... you did not talk about men at all, the only thing you mentioned was about a bartender that married himself 4 times already. and that is about it. women in japan demand a guy with high salary , high education, and is tall. we all know about these 3 ideals ... however after japan became a nation lead by work slavery, and money worship, both men and women are working and dying while working, life is bloody TOO EXPENSIVE to survive, and one's work became their primary home! because there is no point in "going home" when your work is never ending to begin with it! women want to marry the top 0.001% multi billionaires and that is pretty much it. 30 is NOT the new 20! and japan's focus on their elders "culture" the kite population focus tree shape is just stupid! and then they try to turn meeting up with a way to date into a business! have some shame! YES the young are rejecting to live independent, they reject to make their own families and they reject to take on too much responsibilities for a very simple reason! *EXISTING BECAME TOO BLOODY EXPENSIVE THAT EVEN FUNERALS NOW ARE A PAIN TO BE HAD, LIVING IS TOO EXPENSIVE EDUCATION IS TOO EXPENSIVE, FOOD IS TOO EXPENSIVE EVERYTHING IS TOO BLOODY EXPENSIVE AND THERE ARE NO HIGH ENOUGH SALARIES TO MEET THE BLOODY CHANGE! BECAUSE THE WORKERS ARE SIMPLY DISPOSABLE WAGE SLAVES* and you ask why the nation is dying? because the system wants it to die!

[@filipinainJapan]

You said it sooo right!

[@AlexAlex-hm3hz]

Amen.

[@whatthehell7975]

Cuz men ard behinf body and beauty and not her heart

[@TrueInvisible]

@@whatthehell7975 body makes babies, and beauty makes women desired and approachable, heart? what will you do with a woman's heart? also majority now seek jobs, aren't even interested in being housewives anymore.

[@bsanjeev9544]

You bro do you live in Japan Cause I can Honestly read your emotion.

[@tahu1349]

Long hours, high cost of living are factors, yes. But women always marry men who earn more, are more intelligent, stronger, taller, and caring, sense of humor and dont put demands on them for relations, bring up kids etc. Men are asking, well why do I want to get married? 🤔 , what's in it for them? Other than work until you drop. Consequently both sexes are for a combination of reasons, avoiding it.

[@thomascheng1397]

Very true. Women wants to marry men to earn more, taller, caring, humor, stable job, once a year travel, smart. But I ask myself what do I get from marriage? what for? because you are cute? pretty? personality? using that as a trade-off of me working all my life, risk-taking investment, less outdoor, less healthy? hmm... 🤔

[@ma111ma11]

Thomas Cheng Marriage is to have children in a natural environment no more. The couple are both exhausted by the burdens of marriage and not just men

[@Jojo_D_Northstar]

kerry Petra discrimination against women? In japan 100% of the salary man earns goes to the wife who then decides to give allowance like 10-15 bucks a day to the man. They control his life.

[@tahu1349]

@@ma111ma11 I would say burdens of modern life, lack of morals/principles/ethics/empathy , rather than 'modern' marriage. Modern marriage in the context of what was obligated in the past, to bring up balanced children, is not really followed, except in a few more 'traditional/conservative' cultures. However people forget the balanced adults of today were brought up by those same traditional values. The problems with Japan at the moment is the long hours culture, low pay, job insecurity, high cost of living. The problem wasn't really marriage or roles the husband or wife, but one of expectations. I have no issue with women or men doing what they want. Have a career, be a mother/father, look after the kids or work long hours. But regardless of what you are sold, you cannot have it all. Only the very few, very affluent, can 'do it all'. For everyone else, it's either time and money demanding and exhausting or you give up having a family. In most cases, both spouses have to work to afford a lifestyle... And they give up having a family. And people forget, once you have kids, they must come first. A father is expected to go out and earn the money (society frowns on him not doing otherwise). The mother has the choice. The people with ferengi traits that control the economic system will end modern society. There are no winners in Japan. Most women I know in their late 30s or 40s regret, in most cases, not having a family. Most men, don't. Decent, hardworking men are a slave to the family. Decent women are obligated to their children. Women in their late 40s with family are happier. Men in their 40s with family are miserable. The reverse is true with the genders when there are no children.

[@larissaluxe4303]

What’s in it for the woman? Men do not contribute to anything. The most a man does is provides and most cannot even do that. At least women contribute whether they are working or not. What are men doing?

[@leotimtom6637]

never give power to those who don`t construct physical world around you.

[@supreme_mamba]

money money money everywhere you go the women just want money

[@m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m_m]

MGTOW is peace. MGTOW is freedom. MGTOW is life.

[@ACE19930]

Agree

[@franzmuller4145]

Fax bruh!

[@cwong1229]

😂😂😂 My MGTOW brother is here!! All hail MGTOW

[@johnbaptist5488]

Life is expensive and modern girls are more expensive

[@davidbolha]

With no ROI 😄

[@dessertspring4559]

Marriage should be one’s choice not a status in order to be accepted socially....

[@claymoonrise131]

True

[@claymoonrise131]

@Odala Forcing others to marry doesn't bring happiness.

[@reynaldodimayuga8678]

@Odala No. People can have other accomplishments such as careers and personal talents. You really think a jobless dude accomplished a lot just because he married a hot girl, had 15 kids with her, and just left her? Psss!! I have more respect for the disciplined single dude that is very talented in his personal career rather than the jobless dude who ran away from his responsibilities towards his wife and kids. Frankly speaking, getting a girl is not how you prove your worth as a great individual but rather the reward you reap after you proved yourself as a very strong and talented individual. The strong, talented, and disciplined guys are the ones deserving of girls and not the others. Period.

[@reynaldodimayuga8678]

@Odala It doesn't matter. My point is that people can still have a true sense of accomplishment by basically being talented and disciplined in their respective careers. They don't really need a family. Also, the single guy has more reason to put more time and more effort in the military or his careers compared to the married guy for the simple fact that the single guy has no family waiting for him or worrying about him. The single guy can put all of his time, effort, and life into his career or the military. Simple as that.

[@reynaldodimayuga8678]

@Odala You seem to stereotype single men as shy socially awkward people who have no friends. Single men may not be married but that doesn't mean they have no social skills. They could be leaders of a group of friends or a team leader of other activities. The people they're leading are not necessarily their families. Also, you're mistaking leading a group of soldiers with leading a group of kids and a wife. The military life is very different from having a family. Soldiers have different missions and objectives from kids and wives. Period.

[@jyc9767]

Being alive is so expensive. Most companies makes millions and billions but never wanted to increase workers wage or provide incentives. There's lot of hardworking people that don't receive enough pay. 🙃🙃🙃

[@davidbolha]

Indeed. When you also add gold unbacked currencies into the mix...

[@stevewolf7480]

Absolutely right said man, holly truth.

[@marilynyoh7951]

Dying is expensive. Funeral policies are hard to maintain especially with the unstable job security

[@Iluthra]

My job paid well at first, but over the years, they cut back on extras and incentives. Then they would ask us to donate money and items for local charities. I said pay us more and we will. Now its very hard to enjoy life without money.

[@donnylimlin5348]

japan living cost re higher than normal wages. how to gets married if dont hv monthly salary of 300000 Japanese yen?

[@gailhermosilla7097]

So true

[@dc1n1001]

Then why you don't make it yourself huh? And you will see what most men has to go through especially in Japan society.

[@plzleavemealone9660]

That is actually a lot of money.

[@jamescorbett5729]

That’s not enough.

[@arnavsrivastava1158]

@@dc1n1001 Do you live there?

[@vincewhite5087]

It didn’t ask why men are not getting married. Most men are not asking anymore. It’s far too costly for them & dangerous.

[@rudy1999]

Yeah and 1 of 2 marriages always ending in divorce doesn't help either :/

[@Rahul_Lata_]

That means Women run before money not love.. #mgtow

[@ronaldfitzsimmons9902]

Ooooh yes Hepergamy ooooh yes you are right.

[@rdhfgfhghj]

whats bad about that everyone wants something good

[@anaayana2632]

men run for body not love...

[@whatthehell7975]

And men run behind beauty...and not her heart

[@whatthehell7975]

I just want her body.....huh? Whats that

[@michaelsong5555]

It's obvious why people aren't getting married as easily as before. #1 - Economical reasons. Marriage is expensive. Children are expensive. Divorce is expensive. And the living cost is going up, relative to their pay. Simply speaking, most people can't financially support a marriage. #2 - Marriage is a legal business contract that can have serious consequences. For most people, the risk is simply not worth the value of marriage.

[@Stoutaragua]

Awww, boo-hoo, women aren't getting married, what a shame. I guess MGTOW is making a difference around the world! Go MGTOW!!! Thanks, Sandman!!!

[@larissaluxe4303]

Ummm who said they were crying about it? They don’t want to marry broke boys. That’s the difference 😂😂

[@Jojo_D_Northstar]

Larissa Luxe you may not be crying but plenty are. Don’t cope for your gender plz.

[@Jojo_D_Northstar]

Larissa Luxe And men don’t wanna marry gold diggers so they are not proposing in the first place forget women rejection.

[@whatthehell7975]

Haha look at the women hater....in India we call people like you bayla....

[@kaka-vx3ue]

boys keep rejecting Karens in japan.

[@MrDeviousdom]

Leave these people alone! Marriage is good-for-nothing!

[@Redmow51]

Speak for yourself.

[@MrDeviousdom]

@@Redmow51 I do better than just speak for myself, I speak for the millions of men that have been financially ruined by the institution of marriage. There is absolutely not one good reason for a man to get married.

[@Redmow51]

@@MrDeviousdom It wasn't the institution of marriage that screwed you over. It was your choice in a woman. It was her choice in a man. What foundation was your marriage built upon? And what choices did you both make while married? There is a reason, but your anger blinds you to it.

[@Redmow51]

@Robert Raghav Of course it is. You have no idea what you are talking about. Why do you think so many are failing?

[@Redmow51]

@Robert Raghav Change into what?

[@jamesmadison7551]

The worlds becoming more wealthy over time; people my age and little younger feel marriage is a burdon, cost money frought with financial problems if it goes wrong. Not worth it.

[@Greg_Chase]

People forget the ONLY reason men would get married before. In the past, women would not 'put out' until marriage - a guy back then, if he wanted a regular sex life, thus he had to get married. With that problem gone there is no incentive to marry anyone. . . .

[@smtkumar007]

u have attain enlightenment ,my friend

[@skylinefever]

Men had regular sex lives by paying a professional. Sure, there were times where it was illegal and times when it was stigmatized, but it still happened. That may be why holy men work so hard to keep it illegal in some parts of the world.

[@lonelylovely1176]

why commit a town bike a hundred of guys rode free for a decade

[@davidbolha]

*[Telegony/Microchimerism entered chat]* 😎😆

[@funkyblanket15]

we don't ask people what they want. we just ask them when they want to get married by. That's a recipe for disaster.

[@user-ji4fx9cm6t]

All men should follow Japan men

[@Aakash_Goswami1]

Mgtow

[@skylinefever]

I remember from 1989 to about 1993, teachers telling us to study harder because Japan is 10 years in the future. I think they would be really pissed to see that I'm a single NEET who spends more money on comics than trying to get a girlfriend. That isn't what my teachers had in mind when they wanted me to copy the Japanese.

[@stobit2519]

Not all countries are like Japan tho. Not every women is gold digger. Lmao it's common sense

[@claymoonrise131]

@@skylinefever Most single Japanese men aren't NEETs. Enough said.

[@reynaldodimayuga8678]

@@skylinefever You do know that Japan has a lot of NEETs and single men, right? What about you're teachers? Do they know that Japan has a lot of NEETs and single men? You and your teachers need to get some basic education about Japan. Period.

[@themanwithnoname9578]

The real reason is "career women"

[@madeyzue]

result from workaholic (materialism)

[@lalagirl211]

mahadzir abd karim The small bedroom apartment in tokyo cost $1800 Imagine u have grocery and other bills too

[@Islandfist]

@@lalagirl211 Where in Tokyo? Cant you find cheaper mansions/apartments?

[@MrDeviousdom]

Never get married!

[@saikatpandit509]

Marriage is hell

[@doingsomething5084]

in japan women make more or equal to men. Women date up they dont date down so they can never submit to the average japaneese man. Its similar to what north america is going through. Most women graduate from college i dont have to explain the rest

[@davidbolha]

Hypergamy & Pareto rule, yes. 🤔😏🖒👌

[@boston312]

Give it a couple more generations and this irrelevant institution will go extinct just like slavery did. People are focusing more on personal happiness and development nowadays

[@jasondelrosario5523]

Personal happiness is FAR more important than giving in to social pressure.

[@smeekle2000]

We are the New Slaves.

[@frederickhoward5598]

When the mind become hijacked to point where it no longer critically thinks with logic and reason,it's no wonder there's such huge decline. People are marrying for the prestige, economics advantages and lastly for superficial convience( All The Wrong Reasons)-,Sadly the case, although a reality.

[@bharatkaushal2518]

Why should men get married, there is nothing in it for them.

[@jonice3216]

I am so worried about marriage. Maybe I will be killed by spouse for insurance money.

[@kristinesharp6286]

The question isn’t how much or little a person makes it’s is it enough. The point is people want to marry and can seem to find a person to marry. The point is people want to spend less time at work. That part is easily fixed. If most aren’t marrying until 30’s infertility will be a problem. People have less chance of having kids.

[@silverman824]

It's not only the west that has declining marriage, as more nations develop and women have more rights and freedom to work, marriage is affected and declines... Such is life in a globalised, advancing world!

[@CelestialWoodway]

So how is prostitution in Japan? LMFAO

[@AC-LING666]

This is all i do is prostitutes . who needs that marraige rubbish

[@Iluthra]

Big business I would imagine.

[@gaiadove]

I guess all the people blaming women didn’t listen until the end. Women are expected to give up their jobs after marriage. Even if she made decent money, Japanese society expects her to quit her job and have babies with very little resources in childcare. So even if she wanted to work she couldn’t. Of course she wants the guy she marries to make enough to afford a lifestyle she made for herself. No one wants to purposefully lower their standard of living. When I got married my Japanese male colleagues asked me when I was going to quit. They were seriously appalled when I told them I was the breadwinner.

[@davidbolha]

The problem consequently lies in Japan's currency which is not backed by noble metals. Hence its printing power cannot be limited. Thus we get inflation or erosion of the purchasing power of people. 😉😌

[@AnimeFan-xb7yn]

I know this is going to sound crazy but why doesn't the Japanese government lower taxes that way it won't be as EXPENSIVE to take care of children .

[@Redmow51]

Won't happen. People have accepted the continual growth of government. In fact, people want government to keep growing. It will only get worse. Every new law...every new regulation affects the poor first.

[@shomarimonroe150]

Awesome video and facts

[@mirandapillsbury7885]

those two girls were hypnotised by that guy who stated he wants a girlfriend lol. I felt bad for the friend...they were not interessted in him at all

[@donaldsanver4744]

If you have 3 kids in Japan you will struggle even with a well paid job.

[@michaelshannon9169]

Marriage means living actually LIVING WITH A WOMAN. It's not a hobby or a fanciful notion, you will find yourself sharing space with a woman at practically all times outside work. Seriously, how can I make this more simpler?

[@robertdeus4262]

There isn't just only the lack of money. There is a lack of true love on top of this too. How do you become married to somebody you don't even love despite earning good money?

[@tropik5724]

Before Japanese married without love and about 95% of adults were married. If you marry for love then it will not last.

[@zarethrongong4764]

4 times married : very successful in marriage.

[@marcellowheeler88]

This is sadly a product of education and independence. Everyone can make enough to live on their own and have freedom to do whatever they want. You take away the incentive to get married. Marriage was needed because men and women had to be together to get certain things done. Now it's not needed anymore.

[@Redmow51]

That kind of thought will only sink society to even greater depths. You misanalyse the world.

[@vishnukalainesan]

@@Redmow51 so please tell me what are the benefits of a marriage apart from regular bitching and moaning, arguments, a constant need to work your ass off forever just to fund your wife n all the unnecessary material things that nowadays women worship? And not to mention that the "spark" between the couples always seem to run out after less than a year 🤣🤣

[@systemhasfailedus841]

And this is not a bad thing in my opinion. I mean, it does make a difference if someone is with you because they need you or because they want to be with you.

[@runisuke]

"I am a Japanese man. The content of this video is entirely factual. One of the alarming systems in Japan is its unique custody arrangement. There is a significant number of men, especially those who are suffering in marriages or going through divorces, experiencing a living hell where they cannot see their children. In Japan, the majority of suicide cases are also men."

[@donnylimlin5348]

Why ppl re not tie the knots? Because society hv change . Cost of living is getting higher and ppl need to work longer hours to code with the high cost of living.

[@harpie9022]

Japan's culture has managed to screw up itself in many ways...

[@Kinnikice]

Just mind your own business and your own country.

[@relaxationstation7374]

People are literally being educated to death. I have a daughter in Japan who is going through exactly the same situation.

[@skylinefever]

I have heard that teens aren't allowed to date because it might interfere with studying. The long term result is more socially awkward men and women, leading to fewer relationships with the opposite sex.

[@OtsileM]

The four times married guy's got some nerve.

[@laurentiumanolescu]

This is a common thing in western countries nowadays, people are distant, ignorant and childish. They don’t realise in life you need to put some order in it.

[@iamt_tl]

Said it, by a female reporter interviewing a female 'expert'. It's not a lack of time from work, surely there are male co-workers, or other peers. Simply chances and opportunities are given to, and then passed by the girls. Guys are simpler, 'I just want a girlfriend'. Conclusion as quoted '... Asking women not to be choosy could be one thing too many'.

[@adamplonski309]

It is rather simple if both the woman and the man works who raises the kids? If you do not want to have kids then there is no point to marriage. If you do want to have kids, and thus want to be married you need to find a spouse. More women want to get married than men, that, coupled with gender roles, results in women generally being the one at home with the kids. Therefore when women give up their "career" to get stay at home with the kids, they want a man with better (or the worst case equal) earnings and potential. However, these men are in short supply, and unfortunately for feminist career women, income and combativeness are not the traits men look for in women. Men look for personality (will she be a good mom) and appearance (does she have good genetics). Women look for Income/social standing (Can he provide for my kids) and appearance (Though income is vastly more important, genetics also matter, women just have higher standards rating 80% of men below average). Men do not want to be a career slave chained to a family, and sex before marriage is currently now mainstream along with porn. Additionally, the current institution of marriage provides no benefits to the primary income provider and even fewer benefits to men due to biased family courts producing ridiculous divorce settlements and alimony/child support payments (which are based on how much you make not how much is needed). Basically, until the institution of marriage is changed, and there are actually benefits for men, things will just keep getting worse. The biological framework driving these decisions is not going to go away, and unless men start seeing some of the support women do (more hands-on schoolwork, less ADHD drugs, no more gender-specific scholarships or women driven hiring preferences) the amount of "datable" men available to career women will continue to tank, and so will marriage rates.

[@blah8934]

yes well put. men have not been liberated while women have been. disbalance. we also need to force women to marry down like men did since millennia and normalize it now that we are going towards equality. the laws also would force these women to stay in marriage or they lose their finances and this would keep them from resisting the marriage down. then we have true equality.

[@lonelylovely1176]

loveconomics is the issue , w0man loves money not the man

[@saranibhattacharya2849]

It's not just Japan. Even Indian women are expected to drop out of their jobs post marriage. In short, Asian marriage is a death sentence to career women. So if a country is more progressive with more career women, marriage and childbirth rates are bound to decline. And stop making marriage mandatory. It's not as good as it seems.

[@snehshah9176]

Indian Women esp. Bengalis are worst to have as a marriage partners.

[@sheshankjoshi]

You people are really diverged from the point a little. Women are not satisfied with what they get. They always go for something rare. It was the repeat of what happened to men some 25 - 30 years back. I for one can't get married because I earn less. If I marry a girl that also earn along with me then we can manage a home and a family. But the women who earns as much as I do won't be married to a guy who earns less than or equal to what she earns. Result : Low earning men don't get married. High earning women don't get married. All of them stay single and be aged. Now if we create a mix of education and employment the picture becomes more clear. Labour / low earning women are happily married to labour men. It is the middle class guys that are worried and not married, both men and women.

[@ctynwbraygalm]

@@snehshah9176 why is that.

[@vinaydhiwar8604]

You only care about your career

[@sebastianmemphis283]

No matter where you live, that could be your story.

[@valcrist7428]

As many women now experiencing the "harsh reality" of work.. yes it is ideal for them to choose richer men.. This makes sense.. they want to prepare or retire ASAP. Who doesn't want that?

[@Shogoeu]

Japan is tough place...

[@rsuriyop]

@ 1:55 Okay I'm going to have to call out some BS on this. And yes, I am directing this at the anthropologist who supposedly has done studies on this. If making less money now is the sole reason why marriages in Japan are declining, then how are foreign immigrants finding more success in finding Japanese spouses than Japanese men themselves? Or are we to assume that all foreigners coming to Japan are somehow making more money than Japanese men on average? You cannot deny the fact that the growing number of mixed children being born in Japan is revealing the higher success rates between Japanese and non-Japanese marriage unions. So going by this observation, I am lead to believe that the declining marriage unions in Japan (ethnic Japanese with ethnic Japanese) has more to do with Japanese men's own mentality and/or lack of social skills dealing with the opposite sex than it is about economic reasons.

[@namritasarkaria9255]

So goes for most men....very nicely put

[@vincewhite5087]

The foreign immigrants are not finding more Japanese women. Only foreigners of high value. There are lots of info on this on internet.

[@kaigaga488]

Your opinion is dogmatic at best

[@leviathanrising9763]

prostitution as marriage declines goes way down, this idea that women get a life line is pointless. we have women paying into wellfare today for a reason, they should support single mothers as much as men do and thats enough. men never marry. its simply put something for women who are past their sell by date who fear 70 years having to be alone and pay

[@Iluthra]

I read elders want their kids to marry so someone will be around to care for them in old age. Then I read that younger Japanese people no longer want to care for their elders. We westerners always assumed that was a required expectation, care for your parents while here we put them in homes for the elderly. What will old people do when they find out no one wants them?

[@paquitoignacio3449]

Unless japanese government provides financial assistance to single people, who wants to get married as the cost of living is expensive.

[@Rikoyasha15]

i dont really see the point in marriage if u and someone else likes/loves each other nothing is stopping u from living together and make a family sure its a nice and special event and its a nice way to get friends and family together but still cost alot of money for some too much and if things dont work out they dont have to worry about wasting more money on a divorce and splitting stuff in court if both sides are mature they can leave without any issue through its usually the guy that gets the short end of the divorce stick

[@timberlaketri111ionaire2]

Women have forgotten why they are needed and why they have been pulled from those needs and somehow drawn to the workforce; when in fact the corporations and businesses earn more for splitting the bills when singles are dominant and earn less when marriages are dominant. Marriage completes the soul and striving for money and success in women completes nothing. Billionaire wealthy women and multi-millionaire women are some of the most single demographics and we need not look any further than people like Oprah and the Kardashians as prime examples. More money for women equates sadly to more depression. This is an unfortunate reality swept under.

[@manjunathn7533]

Women and law converted marriage into business. As in any business it eventually looses it value.

[@Billy-rr7re]

people talk about marriage as if it was a necessity, an obligation, a task they must do no matter what. that is stupid.

[@antitroll98]

i dont know. but i dont wanna be alone at home when i reach 70 years old. I want kids, i want grandchildren.

[@Expatnema]

Im not choosy. My love just dont love me back

[@catfacepoetry3211]

Knowing that the Japanese culture is going to fade into nothing, I am both positive and sympathetic for the loss. Even if there were no atomic bombs, there were going to surrender anyway. They would still have committed cultural suicide by not making more Japanese at this point in time in an alternate timeline, where the atomic bombing happened in the cold war without the lesson of WWII. In a way, from the maker's POV, japanese suffered the sin of the whole world. And then choose to not play the game anymore after the baby boomer ruined for their youth. They say in buddhism, if you move on, most likely you move on into 3 realms - the demon reality, the hell where you would pay your due, and the animal kingdoms. If it's somehow truth, they probably get to swim more than they suffer. In a way, it makes sense if you think about it; the Japanese lowers its fishing with the decline in hunger, thus the sealife they fish for food climbs back up in population, and may be someday, the Japanese would make a comeback once all the debt is paid. May be when the artificial womb is commercialised. Don't know which would comes first, chicken on Mars or egg laying machine.

[@blah8934]

the west forced japan to allow women to vote and have rights as a price for their defeat. thats the reason for the slow decline into now

[@catfacepoetry3211]

@@blah8934 I don't care that much. We can have more whales and marine life, that is a plus for everyone and thing.

[@jonjonboi3701]

blah8934 allowing woman to vote is not the reason why divorces are high and some traditions are fading.

[@supremecaffeine2633]

@@jonjonboi3701 Actually, after WW2 and the implementation of gender equality by the US the birthrate took a drastic decline in Japan. The same thing jas happened in all countries that have more educated women.

[@Im-fq1mn]

Worry about yourself😉 Birth rate in Japan is higher than Singapore

[@MrKlausHeisler]

Japanese People, either Man or Women, have to stop cherry-picking bodies, personalities, and money. This is why they always ended up in the movie called "40yrs. old virgin".

[@sunset9969]

Yes in Japan the exspensive tax what The goverment take Nobody can have a proper Living and raising children The goverment yust live Happily.is is getting worse Every year.

[@willwinters4436]

Women kicking men out of the workplace, men not making enough money, women asked to marry down and refusing to... Yeah, I'd say there's a problem here.

[@claymoonrise131]

LOL! NO! That's not the situation. Japanese men are just not interested in marriage. Simple as that. Look at a lot of single Japanese men! Many of them are working! Enough said.

[@yahwehsonren]

Hmmmmm gynoysm in full effect

[@iammatrix1396]

Because they find *ME*

[@crystalmartinez9268]

A marriage or promise between two people and God is a gift, the same way having family that cares about each other is a gift. Willing to get through life with or without another human being takes a lot of courage. Life is worth living either way. Money is a just tool people use to survive. And yes taking care of two human beings is probably more expensive than one, yourself. But, it is beautiful experience when you find someone you could enjoy time with for a lifetime. It is very admirable. I don't think something so great is supposed to be really easy.

[@g33k_Tech]

wise words sir

[@Briansquirrels]

Age, money, and qualifications don't matter. As long as, just do it and marry. If either Man or woman does not want to marry their own kind. Marry a foreigners. Problem solved, or otherwise they'll digging their own grave.

[@sathiya8887]

Japanese women are best gild diggers wow

[@erickaceliz1547]

I want to marry someone who wants to live with me in a farm.. plants fruits..vegetables..produce more animals like chickens and cows.. then wont worry too much about money.. just a simple living

[@misutasutanto6312]

Your perfect for me

[@abdullahbinjahed6900]

good luck finding a woman who would be okay with that 👍 (I don't mean it in sarcastic way btw)

[@plalelal]

By when? Setting a date forces a sale. It's all about the money!

[@SaptadeepBandyopadhyay]

Best thing is not getting married....so that population remains stable.

[@BrizAU]

Sake, sake everywhere, not a drop to drink...

[@knightofanguish7399]

The bro code is strong with them.

[@bkjj13]

tips for wedding: find someone equal your wallet

[@matejkostrhoun5079]

I will

[@divyanshdwivedi9751]

Divorce is to costly to survive

[@Rensune]

Feminism. Same thing is starting to Happen in SK and Chinese cities.

[@FoxyWhispers]

Sadly. Its just too expensive any way.

[@patilabhinav7941]

Sign the prenup Stop the alimony

Ask a girl out for Date??? r u kidding that is sexual harrassment .. law says so.. Porn is better Maturbation is safer and better than sex and women- no fear of heartbreak and being ditched. Consensual sex - how does a guys proves it ? becuase you charge of RAPE and Jail , how does a common man gets out of it

[@Aakash_Goswami1]

I'm married to my right hand. And having an affair with my left

[@mrc7627]

Feminist hit Japan

[@spark300c]

if marriage more about two people working together than the man try earn enough money to support the women. it why they need allow women to work part time jobs. it industrial age after all.