Why Women Ask For Divorce

[@spar0035]

They get "bored" and want to "find themselves" aka get poked and passed around by multiple Chads.

[@quixote1965]

My SAHM ex decided, with kids 6,9,11, she deserved romance, had an affair, broke up the family. These women are raised to regard men as employees. "Feel you were truly heard and seen"-- that doesn't happen when one spouse is stressed working 60 hours a week while the other regards him as an employee, sits at home with too much time and money (yet refuses to get a job). She wanted a juvenile high of romantic love and had no inhibitions about pursuing it. KIds survived, everyone battered so she could be "happy". She remarried and hates her new husband (But he's a multimillionaire and didn't sign a prenup, sucker). He's also a bad employee. 19 years. At least I could prove her affair so she didn't take me for $400,000 in Alimony. I clawed my way back, raised my kids half time. Women, not worth it.

[@humansvd3269]

Not meeting needs usually means, "You've served your purpose, now give me your stuff so I can find better."

[@bbb8182]

There are many more divorces after the birth of the last child. Women are lying to men that it's "Till death do us part".

[@ickster23]

There are very few men in my family and many women over 3 generations. What stands out to me is that women can never truely be happy. I mean deep down contentment. Their happiness is very transient and is based on novelty, be it purchasing something new, vetting a new friend, or have a new experience such as a trip. The men I've observed are basically content regardless of the situation For them, unhappiness is transient until adjustments are made for whatever caused the upset. This is why, to me, most divorces are initiated by women. It doesn't hurt that they very rarely end up paying for the divorce.

[@jeaf7]

Mine was... Nothing i could do was good enough. So she had an affair. Almost 25 years of a waste. You get one life and mine was a waste.

[@Ed-b178]

My story is very similar. 4 years cohabitation and 25 years of marriage. It was NOT a waste. It helped mold me into a better person with a relatively clear conscience (I'm not perfect). It helped me to set boundaries with subsequent romantic interests and to better understand what I will no longer tolerate. I hope that you are able to come to a similar realization that it wasn't wasted, just difficult.

[@Dr.Drakken_]

Check out Marriage Helper. Love them

[@fearless7424]

18 years of marriage she was so disrespectful towards me all the time. For me it was not a waste because I have the best three children anybody could have. Since she has been gone it’s been peaceful.

[@ted2136]

I hear you. But make the rest count!

[@brendanriuz2864]

No marriage = no divorce. Problem solved. Only when enough 40 year old women are willing to sit down, honestly discuss the issue, and work to resolve it together, will it change. I am not holding my breath.

[@stevecleveland1914]

So the best way to meet your needs is to just bail out? 80% of divorces are filed by women because our society conditions women to believe individual happiness is the most important that actually living up to your commitments.

[@Samanyamanushya]

Yeah exactly. Women be like, I will solve my marital problems by going outside the marriage. They work on emotions and validation. Not on accountability and responsibility.

[@Strider9655]

Men will sacrifice their happiness for their family, women will sacrifice their family for their own happiness. Then you have to factor in depression and the delusions created by film/tv and romance novels (the story and plots women by women for women), and seeing other peoples fake instagrammed lifestyles on social media. A woman unhappy in herself, will turn on her partner and blame them, she'll start to pick fault with everything, always looking for something to be unhappy about.

[@EastCoastFishnHunt]

@@Strider9655 Yes exactly!! I felt like mothing was good enough for my wife, never content with most everything.. She left after 18 years of marriage and wanted to be so independent and all of that.. I was her problem but when she has ran into a bind she calls her "Problem Me" for help.. I raised her 4 year old son like my own as his dad was never around and we had 2.. 9 year old and a 16 year old.. She literally looked me in the face twice to say this divorce isn't affecting our children.. I asked what world are you living in as it definitely does affect them, forever. Romance, and the new high of someone new. I'm glad to say I met a wonderful girl from my church and she is absolutely amazing.. Very interesting story and they way the Lord works.. I still pray for my wife every day and I even with this being the case now, I'd marry her all over again! I always love her no matter what..

[@jerrybaharlias9809]

Nothing you say here isn't fixable if the parties involved truly desire to keep a family together. That I'd the problem one or both parties value something other than the family So why are 80% of divorce initiated by the woman? I sense the real answer is not a pleasant one

[@tntanto]

Listening to these videos sometimes reminds me of lines from Roberta Flack: “I heard [she] sang a good song, I heard [she] had a style, and so I came to see [her] to listen for a while… Strumming my pain with [her] fingers, singing my life with [her] words, killing me softly with [her] song.” It’s hard to visit here, but thank you for the song.

[@davidmaski8467]

It's been 4 years after my divorce.. The world feels like plastic ever since. Know the feeling?

[@danielwalvatne9732]

shake it off. I know the feeling

[@Kootenay613]

There should be two sets of marriage vows. With the traditional "for better and for worse, till death do us part" vows, you should NEVER be able to legally divorce. The second option would be vows where you say "I promise to stay with you, until I get bored with you, or come to dislike you, or you have health problems, or we have financial problems or someone better comes along". You should have to speak these words out loud at your wedding, and only then can you have the option of divorce.

[@MoFoDaRoad]

If people did that it might make the institute of marriage seem just a little too honest.

[@jerrybaharlias9809]

Btw a person's perceived needs and actual needs are often not the same

[@ΣΠΥΡΙΔΩΝΓΡΗΓΟΡΙΟΥ]

Thesenr just not legit. In my expirience the only problem is that women r not loyal by nature. The only thing in the past that kept em loyal was social fear. Now we see what helped em survive in the past. Lies and adventure

[@Samanyamanushya]

Yeah true that. The problem with women is that they don't know what they want in life. Get influenced by surroundings.

[@humansvd3269]

Exactly!

[@HeatherA-ge3wc]

Is anyone listening to what Rachel is really saying? Most comments aren’t even related to what this video is about.

[@soundjunkiea22]

All of the reasons you give!!!!!!!!! I can’t reverse the past, but if only my ex would have went to you with me, we would still be married. However like you said….it may have been too late. Thankyou for showing me what happened. All my years in therapy never showed me any good reason why she filed for divorce.

[@juliacartman8819]

What a bunch of rubbish.... women in general initiate 80% of divorces because they give up and in their mind assume a better guy will come around after divorce. If they can foresee the marriage is breaking down before men can why not do something about fixing the marriage? Girls are being taught at a young age in society that marriage is bout meting prince charming and being happy and in love for the rest of your life. Kids need to be taught the right thing from an early age about life is hard and you need to work hard to keep a marriage going. Nothing is just given to you. How many girls are taught about being a princess and everything is just handed to them as they grow up by the parents.

[@dale116dot7]

On my divorce, it happened when she went off the pill and decided she was not really attracted to me any more. We still get along very well, just not as husband and wife. The next relationship was disfunctional, I found it really hard to connect with my ex-girlfriend, she was so guarded that our mutual friends were surprised I didn’t break up with her a few years ago. She was taken completely off guard by the breakup. I was the one that noticed this, she either didn’t notice or was in denial. I need to be more selective up front and accept not being in a relationship over being in a bad one. If that means staying single, so be it.

[@christophera712]

New subscriber. 5 months in, slowly turning a corner...Rachael, you are doing great work.

[@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach]

Thank you Chris. I appreciate you watching and subscribing, and I'm really glad the videos are helpful. If there are any specific topics or questions you would like me to speak to, please let me know here: kknstq7ejjk.typeform.com/to/qQoVFgwE I'm going to be doing live sessions here on youtube throughout the holidays, and I'll be answering the questions submitted on those calls. You may also enjoy my free Masterclass. It goes into greater detail about how to regulate your nervous system and reduce that fight/flight response so you can think clearly, sleep through the night and turn that corner a little faster.

[@cousinles80]

Why not just have a reset who you are married with? Just start over, set ground rules, tell each other your needs. You might be surprised what happens.

[@soundjunkiea22]

100% agree with you! 26 years divorced, too many therapists sessions, divorce support groups, etc. all failed. Why? Because they string you along, blame the other person, tell you to get over it, get over your wife, etc. all the while making money over your misery. Not one therapist ever suggested I try to reconcile and forgive and work to rebuild my broken marraige.

[@marguskiis7711]

Women just DO NOT listen. They are deaf. They are not capable for that. You can try. But I can say I am right.

[@gsmith46]

Makes sense. In my situation I don't understand why she wouldn't talk to me if it was so bad.

[@reubenmurphy7053]

I think in many to most cases, the man covertly initiates the break up after the woman does something to make herself not desirable. Or the man just stops serving the relationship. The woman reacts by initiating the separation process because they need to show they weren't rejected. Then its denigrate and save face for either party. It's like retaliation, but in all cases, the woman transforms to all is fair in love and war and the man just wants out to cut their losses. The one who files in court knows the judge is a marginal listener who essentially wants to be duped

[@jeffcauthen6434]

Yes. Not capable of real love 100%. I was emotionally available the whole time but was cut off.

[@andrewh2u]

The number one cause of Divorce is getting Married, so guys just work on reducing that Risk to your life and goals.

[@transitengineer]

Well, everyone is entitled to their opinion as to why, more Women are filing for a divorce. As an African American male now in my early 60's, and a person of Faith who, has been married to the same women for 40-years. I think your comments are "Bull Crap". If the husbands have committed adultery or there has been physical abuse then, I fully respect the wife's choice to ask for a divorce. If not, please give me a break!! (smile ... smile)

[@suzystone244]

Why divorce ? Answer: Disconnect from the pairbonding. Marriage is a contract. An arrangement. An agreement. Legal binding by the state. That is modern marraiage. Glad I am divorced. My ex attempted my life. Survived to speak of it. Never will marry again....nope.

[@marguskiis7711]

Menopause

[@MrFastFarmer]

That’s all true, except your next relationship will be EXACTLY the same because unless you ride the rough times and keep holding each other you can never get to the end and actually enjoy the intimate relationship you talk of. The truth is that unlike your grandmother, the modern woman can NEVER be trusted to stick it out.

[@jburch1544]

Order is God, Man,Woman,Children. Once this order is disrupted, chaos will take over. This has been true since the beginning and feminism embodies this chaos

[@arnoldmaximus]

The assumptions about men in this video couldn't be further from the truth from someone who is going through this right now. Rachael's older videos had a lot of wisdom - but the more recent ones seem to completely miss the mark. Makes me wonder...

[@myeyepie]

Rachel seems to have no idea how hard it is to follow her into the next video when it's in the past.

[@bnprcy1]

I don't know how to react to this. It feels like a way to let women of the hook for initiating the divorce and convincing men that she was right once they process their feelings? The way modern society is so cavalier about divorce these days is turning marriage into something not all that attractive.

[@aerodylluk2543]

Because they have a plan B in the works.

[@johnhudelson2652]

Solution so you as a man never have to suffer from divorce: Don't get married. 1) There's Rosie Palm and her 5 sisters. 2) Get a friendly cat or dog to provide companionship.

[@davee164]

Because they can.

[@sooshiantkiafar]

Really!These are the reasons for divorce?!

[@Samanyamanushya]

Yup. U better believe it. Women are that superficial. Men are the real romantics and true family person. Women are just living for themselves.

[@jerrybaharlias9809]

Excuses

[@marguskiis7711]

No.

[@broadkast477]

Monkey-Branching & Hypergamy, Women these days have far more opportunities than before.

[@gregjones3660]

When she divorces... she gay

[@humansvd3269]

And you pay, even if she ain't gay.

[@Tsan1010]

Seems to me you want out of your marriage. You are promoting divorce and moving on but statistically that doesn’t work for the children, husband and the wife. I’m unsubscribing. Your video on excusing women cheating was the final straw.

[@Originalman360]

F ARE U TALKING ABOUT GOOFY? Her title is clearly DIVORCE COACH FOR MEN! F part of that don’t you understand? 😂😂😂😂

[@Tsan1010]

@@Originalman360 watch a few more of her videos and then get back to me. In the meantime everyone knows now why you are here. Have a great day.

[@Tsan1010]

@@Originalman360 so to clarify, I’ve watched a bunch of her videos. I would suggest you watch a few and get back to me. That’s how I came to that conclusion. In the meantime, you have clearly shown everyone why you have problems with women based on your response to me.

[@yossarianmnichols9641]

The divorce rate is about 40% for first timers. Among people with college degrees it is lower. So 80 percent of 40 percent is 32 % of married women want out. The reasons are not all the same. Substance abuse, domestic violence, and poverty are also reasons to get divorced. Some men who do not exhibit these problems also like to play around. I would guess that half of that 32% is because of the 4 behaviors I just mentioned which leaves about 16% of women in their first marriage are the problem. That is a much better assessment of the issue. The majority of married women are carrying their share of the load.

[@DVul]

No man buys that....

[@DVul]

This is rubbish...

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

1st😂